00:19:07.760it is what it is and now i'm reacting to these videos so let me let me keep going let me keep
00:19:14.180going somebody asked like should i be dating if i'm not ready for marriage and you were like
00:19:18.520if you're not many ready for marriage like why would you date that doesn't even make sense and
00:19:22.460you're basically saying that people should not be in these like four or five year long relationships
00:19:27.760not getting married okay so she says she said people should not so again this is the example
00:19:34.140of the Christian woman becoming a Christian and telling men how to date. We look so stupid. I mean,
00:19:41.880you've been looking at this for years, right? You're a church guy. Him and Blessing, they're
00:19:46.240like in the church. They're like loving God. And they see women do this. So again, we went through
00:19:51.300this last time. And I wish I knew this in my early 20s, okay? In my early 20s, I would look at women
00:19:59.580that spent four or five years with a guy without a ring and think they were dumb. I really would.
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00:20:04.660I would think that's stupid because why would he buy you if you're getting the cow for free?
00:20:10.100Whatever, the milk for free. That is a fundamental misunderstanding of men.
00:20:15.320And that did not hold up to what I saw to be true in the world. Every person I know that's married,
00:20:21.220it took them a couple of years to get the ring because men are good people.
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00:20:25.440that's what I was missing women we don't treat men that give us everything well but men I mean
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00:20:33.260they treat us pretty I mean not not all not all but a lot more men if you give men what they want
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00:20:42.120will treat you well so again step one talking phase and I'm gonna get rid of the dating because
00:20:48.440We know that's like a month, but talking phase, this is normal, six months, ballpark, step two, relationship, one to two years, let's say, living together.
00:21:08.200let's say one year kevin samuels would say it takes a guy six months
00:21:20.080it takes a guy six months to determine if you qualify but i think kevin samuels was a little
00:21:28.500bit he was with the old school guys this just isn't how young people do it i'm sorry it's just
00:21:34.080not I mean the men that tend to get married in a year are men that don't tend to have a lot of
00:21:40.580options nor do they really understand women okay all right then step four is ring or a baby some
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00:21:51.660people yeah that's it this is like a four or five year process so you know my thing with these chicks
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00:21:58.840it's not really up to the women it's up to the men you don't get men get to determine the timeline
00:22:03.940not women either get married or don't date and ari and i obviously come from like very worldly
00:22:11.260dating and like we weren't you know dating the way that god intended us to thank you shale for
00:22:17.040the ten dollars and i have been in four-year relationships three-year relationships five
00:22:22.980years since i was like 15 years old and now i'm literally like i don't so i want to i want to tell
00:22:29.380you guys something this is just from talking to the men why do men date us for such a long time
00:22:37.460now part of the reason they date us for such a long time without marrying us is because marriage
00:22:45.240is dead and doesn't mean anything anymore and they saw their friends get married and divorced
00:22:49.680but let's just say a guy marriage is on the table why would he wait longer
00:22:54.900so many times you know we got the man we got the woman
00:23:04.100and they're in love now normally it's actually the woman's commitment issues it's not the man's
00:23:16.780it's the woman's but let's let's say it's a case where it's his there's a couple issues you have
00:23:22.040sometimes she met him too young he wants to commit at 45 she met him at 25 it's just timing
00:23:28.460you know you know I mean she just met him wrong time that that's option one okay now reason number
00:23:35.680two is that sometimes the woman is a little bit loony and he's trying to give her a chance to
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00:23:45.520stop being batshit insane. So he loves her, right? He's like, well, she's not the worst, but
00:23:52.780I don't know if I'd trust her with a kid. I don't know. I see these batshit crazy.
00:23:59.420I see she's a little insane and I'm going to give her some time to work it out.
00:24:07.160So I would say those are in my expertise, which you guys could say is none. Fine. I don't know
00:24:14.900why the fuck you're here then? I mean, they get the fuck out of here. Um, it's yeah, it's,
00:24:23.920they're waiting for you to not be insane or you just met him at the wrong time. Or he's just a
00:24:30.560guy that some guys never want to get married and have kids. That's getting more common.
00:24:35.200Ladies, we're so bad. We've driven men out of the marriage marketplace.
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00:24:38.920did i miss anything why else would there be a long you got anything
00:24:46.540nothing i covered it let me know in the chat
00:24:49.300so this idea that men know within six months they sort of do i mean men men understand within six
00:25:01.580months if you qualify. But every guy, the problem is every guy knows some guy that had a chick
00:25:09.860that qualified by every possible metric that went batshit insane. They'll look at their friends and
00:25:17.840say, oh, she had two parents. She wasn't insane. She did. She did everything she was supposed to
00:25:23.880do and even she went fucking crazy even she left so then that makes you know this guy here
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00:25:31.920say you know what you know what sorry chica you're now you're gonna have to wait even longer
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00:25:39.720remember guys the average is three years it's only rising I just I think the younger women
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00:25:45.820should should actually know like I wish I knew this at 22 right I wish I knew at 22
00:25:51.700too. It's going to take some time. You got to put in the work, bitches. You know,
00:25:56.920I was told by many church people that if he wanted to, he would. And if he doesn't want to marry you,
00:26:07.060that. And don't get me wrong, sometimes it's the wrong timing, but I was told that
00:26:14.040he should marry you within a year. And I love rest in peace, Kevin Samuels.
00:26:19.360i come from an upper class community pretty much everybody i know that's married dated three years
00:26:26.560i i seriously don't know a single person that didn't so yeah okay wouldn't even consider
00:26:33.720dating someone for i i won't even date somebody unless i think we might get married you know
00:26:37.860what i mean now that i'm actually walking with jesus there's just not a chance that i'm just
00:26:42.160in this relationship and possibly i doubt it i don't believe you being married so this is going
00:26:50.400to be really radical to some of your viewers uh dating as we know and understand it is a very new
00:26:57.040phenomenon now look he's right dating is a new phenomenon it's either arranged marriages or
00:27:02.400modern dating pick one because the church is confusing everything by trying to do both
00:27:07.600if you're going to go traditional fine go get an arranged marriage from your parents
00:27:12.840and eat and marry the guy even if you don't find him attractive if you don't want to do that then
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00:27:17.680buckle up chicas you got three dates to put out and you got to put in five years
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00:27:21.740look at these are the these are the choices very modern about 120 years old and that was right
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00:27:31.020that's right word was ever used yeah so again these these church women what they want to do
00:27:37.500is they want to do the best of both worlds. And you can't, you really can't.
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00:27:46.420So I'm going to skip this one. I'm going to do the third one. We're going to do one more
00:27:49.260TikTok and then I'm going to get into the topic. I thought this was funny. This chick
00:27:54.720is obviously very toxic and she tells you to go for men you don't want for money,
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00:28:00.280but I found her very funny. This was hilarious. Okay.
00:34:14.880And the one thing that I regretted when I got older was I regretted moving around so much.
00:34:21.540So when I was in high school, my dad, he told me to go overseas, and I wouldn't say I necessarily regret going overseas, but I did regret not prioritizing time with my parents.
00:34:47.060In my early 20s, you know, I was really about volleyball.
00:34:50.080I really wanted to get a pro contract, and that was super important.
00:34:53.800But looking back in hindsight, there was family vacations I missed.
00:34:58.000And even living overseas for such an extended period of time,
00:35:01.560you come back and you realize you missed the most important things.
00:35:07.300And I think sometimes because we don't have a visualization
00:35:12.440of what the second half of life looks like,
00:35:15.360we forget. Um, and I think that's, what's happening with us women. You know, we have
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00:35:24.660so much opportunity in our twenties that it's, it's difficult to turn down. It's difficult to
00:35:29.380turn down a super high paying job. It's difficult to turn down attention from high status men. You
00:35:36.240know, I've never been really invited on a yacht like that, but I know shocking. I know, I know
00:35:44.000you would have thought. But you can imagine that it's tough. I mean, guys, go in our shoes for a
00:35:52.240second. You're 22 and you get invited on a yacht. Are you really turning it down? Are you really
00:35:59.280going to turn down that easy, high-paying job? Are you really going to turn down dates with,
00:36:05.080let's just say, the hottest women in the city? Now, don't get me wrong. Men are better people,
00:36:10.300so i'm sure they would do much better things with the power and be much more realistic than
00:36:14.100i'm sure i would bet but you know i'm trying to humanize us a little bit but what i did on
00:36:21.100reddit yesterday was i saw a thread that said all ask old people advice
00:36:27.280older women 65 and up do you feel invisible and i'm going to read to you guys some of the
00:36:37.760the responses oh i'm fat and old super invisible there's the new matlock with time daily who says
00:36:46.800something i've been saying for years being invisible is a superpower this is very true
00:36:54.020a neighbor once stole something from another neighbor's garage and i watched the whole thing
00:37:01.100and i'm thinking to myself i'm sitting here on the front porch i can see you picked him out
00:37:05.520of a digital lineup and away he went okay I want to read some of the other ones
00:37:13.080um yes I was a young beauty it takes getting used to and the senior complex where I live the old
00:37:23.840guys say wow you're probably pretty good looking when you were young go f yourself I saw a picture
00:37:30.620of my younger self in my locker at work because someone asked if I had another co-worker saw and
00:37:36.960asked if who it was I said it was me and he said what happened I hate that guy now
00:37:43.400if we're lucky we get until 50 and remember we live to be 80 30 years is a long time
00:37:54.760the second half of life we become men we become just like the men and we are invisible
00:38:05.480I feel it is this is answering the question do you feel invisible I feel it is I was considered
00:38:16.380very attractive in my youth to go from a person that people stared at for my beauty to being
00:38:21.340invisible is hard and what's worse is when you are pretty that becomes a huge part of your identity
00:38:26.780I could be all of those other things smart funny etc but what most people saw and noticed was my
00:38:32.760looks so it felt defining in a way now without that I'm quite I'm not quite sure who I am when
00:38:39.500I look in the mirror it's like a knife every time now because I remember my old face and I remember
00:38:46.060what I should see. And guys, this is why I really don't envy. I would consider myself an average
00:38:52.940looking chick, right? Average normal chick. I don't envy overly beautiful women because
00:39:00.480if a chick's lucky, she'll be beautiful till 45. No guy is lining up to fuck a 50 year old woman.
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00:39:10.520they'll do it I mean the men will do anything but no guy is is lining up so
00:39:17.080at 45 that really we're done look I'm not gonna lie to you you know I say the wall is 30 and it
00:39:25.920is but I mean men are marrying 30 to 40 year old women all the time maybe not if they want kids
00:39:32.080but it's not I see 30 plus year old women getting married all the time
00:39:35.420about 40 plus you're basic you're done
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00:39:40.580and um when you have kids how much time do you get to spend with them
00:39:49.660and that's why you know we make jokes about these buzzer beater babies you know
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00:39:53.540but really these women did not plan their lives out very well because
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00:39:58.120they're going to be 60 at a kid's high school graduation
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