Pearl - June 13, 2024


Paul Elam on WOMEN RED FLAGS, STEVEN CROWDER AND TRAD CONSERVATIVES

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Steven Crowder
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Length

8 minutes

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169.06

Word count

1,465

Sentence count

48

Harmful content

Misogyny

14

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Toxicity

5

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Hate speech

5

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On this episode of the podcast, we have a special guest on the show to talk about how to deal with a woman who doesn't pay her fair share of the bills. We talk about why this is a problem, how to fix it, and what to do about it.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 You said you think that men can spot out red flags pretty easily in women.
00:00:06.960 If they'll own the responsibility to do it. 1.00
00:00:12.040 Women's bullshit is so open and on display. 1.00
00:00:17.400 You can't not see it if you're looking for it. 1.00
00:00:21.200 I tell men all the time, you have to test women. 1.00
00:00:25.300 See if she's even this vindictive. 0.95
00:00:27.360 Just the tiniest amount of vindictiveness early on tells you that vindictiveness will be multiplied by a million down the road once the infatuation's over and you're in a real relationship and it goes south, you're going to see vindictiveness out of that person.
00:00:44.660 But men look at women and figure out, is she attracted to me or not?
00:00:50.120 And if she is and I'm attracted to her, that's all I need to know.
00:00:53.580 and then down the road they're writing me or booking with me saying i don't know what happened
00:00:59.880 it's a terrible problem but you have to look you have to look how does she handle money what's her 1.00
00:01:09.800 debt like um yes i want to know her credit score i want to know how much debt she has i want to
00:01:19.980 know her spending habits, her interests. I want to know how she handles pressure. I want to know
00:01:25.880 how she handles no. And here's the problem, as we've been discussing, gynocentrism means there
00:01:34.460 is no no. Right. And so men have to actually rebel against all their life's programming
00:01:41.920 to do one simple thing, to tell her no to something. So how would a guy test early on
00:01:47.660 for vindictiveness? Because one thing I hear from men is that after the marriage, after the kids,
00:01:53.580 the women change. I think they do after kids some, but again, I never did buy the, she was an angel 1.00
00:02:02.700 and then one day she was a demon spawn. I don't buy that. It's there. They didn't test her.
00:02:11.780 they didn't push look at ask her or tell her no to something if she wants to go see a movie just
00:02:19.160 say no i'm not into it tonight and then you watch very carefully what she does does she get
00:02:23.880 huffy about it can she handle a no can she handle a no to not spending money 0.95
00:02:30.860 does she want something i want a three carat diamond whatever no that's not going to happen
00:02:39.900 what what does she behave like then she'll tell you who she is she'll show you does she feed into 1.00
00:02:48.520 the idea of a relationship where a guy's running around trying to make her happy all the time like
00:02:54.060 a trained seal clapping his slippers trying to get a piece of fish is that the setup she wants 0.91
00:02:59.400 because if she if that's what she wants and that's what you're providing there's two problems
00:03:04.700 there's her and there's you but i just don't buy these guys that say oh she perfect just everything
00:03:11.580 and then we got married and all of a sudden she was a different person even though he's not a real
00:03:17.020 man if he doesn't pay for the date or like plan the date it's like well is it that big of a deal
00:03:22.700 like starbucks it's like 10 bucks no and and gosh i think there's enough uh even traditionalists
00:03:32.140 left in me that I would spring for Starbucks or something like that. But once it's established
00:03:37.940 that you're not just two ships passing in the night, men need to sit down with women and have
00:03:43.040 a talk about money, how we're going to approach this. Because if it means you think I'm here to
00:03:48.400 treat you like a four-year-old and to take you to the candy store every day, that's not going to
00:03:52.880 happen. And guys need to be able to say that. 99.9% of them never will. And then they say they
00:04:01.260 don't know what happened i'm not buying it well that's one thing i disagreed with with trad cons
00:04:06.140 is the women working they think women should just never work and i i um try that with nine 0.55
00:04:12.000 percent inflation sure well the reason i i came to this conclusion was i saw two job postings one
00:04:18.680 was a fireman for 22 an hour and one was a it was like a diversity and inclusion officer for 22 an
00:04:24.180 hour and i thought like if that's so if you're as a family one of you has to work it would kind of
00:04:29.480 make sense for her to because i mean what he's gonna risk his life every day or you get to go
00:04:34.620 sit in an air-conditioned office doing nothing for eight hours you can't do that it's not like
00:04:40.260 working at a farm a hundred years ago now how i'm i mean i think you make perfect sense yeah
00:04:46.040 how far would that go with the average woman oh no no they would get so mad it would end right 1.00
00:04:51.420 then and there yeah well and i think it's different if women if we came to the table with at least 1.00
00:04:56.540 youth and maybe six kids like back in the it would make sense for us to stay home but it's like
00:05:01.480 we're offering one to two kids they're in public school we're getting married around 30 so
00:05:06.220 why is there no compromise it doesn't make sense to me and i think this goes back to tradcon men
00:05:12.840 really getting things confused they they want children not women they want somebody to take
00:05:22.340 care of and to and i think in their mind somebody they can control um they're they're put off by
00:05:30.720 women who really are independent i mean every feminist is a strong independent woman yeah until 1.00
00:05:36.480 the check arrives but there are actually strong independent women out there who make perfectly 1.00
00:05:43.160 suitable partners for a guy that's screening out all the garbage but i'm just uh i i don't buy that
00:05:51.540 don't work yeah this is not a world in which one financially it's really hard especially these days
00:06:00.180 to not have two salaries for most people i mean if the guy's making a million dollars a month it
00:06:05.780 doesn't matter whether she works but for the most part it's needed only these guys these
00:06:12.860 trad cons are just holding on to something that disappeared like 40 years ago yeah well and then
00:06:19.300 they want you to get on their team but they lost yeah what have they preserved and those guys guess
00:06:25.200 what happens to another part of this that has to be considered you take on somebody and you become
00:06:29.820 their financial benefactor and you're taking care of their life when the relationship ends and you
00:06:35.320 end up in court guess what the court sees she's used to being provided for the very thing that 0.99
00:06:44.380 they set up is exactly what the family courts are going to perpetuate and of course a lot of these 1.00
00:06:49.220 idiots that tell you, well, if you're a real man, she won't go to family court. I mean, and I don't 1.00
00:06:54.940 know what to do with that level of delusional thinking, except say, fine, just go ahead and
00:07:00.880 do it, dude. Marry her, take care of her. And then when taking care of her is not enough, 1.00
00:07:06.880 and average woman will file for divorce at seven or eight years, which happens to magically coincide
00:07:12.540 with guys' max income potential. Right when they're at peak salary, that's when the divorce is filed.
00:07:19.220 You want to set that up?
00:07:20.540 Go for it.
00:07:21.700 I could use the business.
00:07:25.040 Well, and even if you look at conservatives, like the older generation and the younger,
00:07:31.520 half of them are still divorced.
00:07:33.540 Like, I think it's mean the way they sell their religion as an anecdote and to like
00:07:40.760 family court.
00:07:41.680 I just think it's mean and it's not correct.
00:07:43.860 Look at Steven Crowder.
00:07:45.560 He had a very different tune like 10 years ago.
00:07:48.200 And I like Crowder.
00:07:49.220 Like, I have a lot of empathy for what happened to him, but it's like 10 years ago.
00:07:54.040 I think what happened to him gave him a little bit of empathy, too, because he ended up apologizing to the men's rights guys for the bad-mouthing them over the years.
00:08:05.400 And sadly, this is what it takes.
00:08:08.100 And with all respect, I like Crowder, too, like his work.
00:08:13.280 But look at it.
00:08:14.580 Until it happened to him, he didn't give a damn.
00:08:17.720 Yeah.
00:08:18.020 and that's what i see in all of these trad cons oh it's not happening to me it's not my problem
00:08:26.260 most selfish self-absorbed people and this is why i think those guys are really more inclined to
00:08:32.740 want the the little traditional housewife that will take care of everything for them 1.00
00:08:37.940 and doesn't think or talk too much.