Pearl - Pearl Proves Why Female BOSSES Are An ABSOLUTE Headache

00:00:00.000 Okay so today we're talking about female bosses. Now I do have a monologue about this but I want

00:00:05.880 to talk about my personal experience with female bosses. So generally in my life I've worked for

00:00:12.240 mostly men. To be fair I haven't had a lot of jobs outside of YouTube because I started my

00:00:17.980 career fairly early but I worked in sales for a little bit. That was men. Copier sales women

00:00:24.360 aren't doing that and then I worked in at a plumbing tech company. It was also owned by a guy

00:00:30.260 but my experience is more from coaches because for 22 years of my life I had a lot of coaches and

00:00:37.020 women do are a large percentage of the coaches and I could say one thing from working with men

00:00:46.220 and women volleyball coaches I'll say. I would say I had majority women. There's a lot of challenges

00:00:52.320 that came. For one bosses that are female or coaches that are female are always involved in

00:00:58.280 the office drama. Now obviously this is the team drama but whenever there was like gossip about

00:01:04.420 one girl whoring it up my coaches would find out it's weird behavior right what are you worrying

00:01:10.160 about a kid's sex life you know. Second thing was that you know when I was in college I played

00:01:16.100 and she was a lovely lady to be honest. I played for this woman I don't want to say her name although

00:01:21.740 you guys could probably find her if you really wanted to. But I really liked her as a coach

00:01:26.240 however I experienced when I played for this team we were really competitive. We were top 20 in all

00:01:31.860 of division three. At one point we were like 14th in the country. Really really competitive team

00:01:37.500 for D3. Take it with a grain of salt. And this coach whenever we would lose a game guys I shit you not

00:01:45.280 we would sit in the locker room for sometimes up to three hours talking about everything that went

00:01:54.120 wrong. And at one point in the season I counted how many hours we spent in that locker room and it was

00:02:00.900 damn near a part-time job. The men when I had male coaches they would really just focus on

00:02:06.040 what we could improve. The women focused a lot more on the emotions they would say things like

00:02:11.920 you know if this is a mental game. And you know I played volleyball for 22 years. Yeah it's somewhat

00:02:18.660 mental but not really. It's strategy. And male coaches tended to understand that. Like one

00:02:26.060 I had one woman young woman who went to college in I think Kentucky. And her coach based all of his

00:02:32.940 decisions on numbers. It was really on stats. And this young woman she couldn't really take it. She

00:02:39.000 you know stressed her out too much. Okay so Doug says women bosses treat men better. I've never

00:02:45.940 had a bad female boss as a professional but I've seen women destroy each other. Craig says I liked

00:02:51.100 the song. Thank you guys on the website. Now we got seven people on the website chat. If you're curious

00:02:57.280 you go to Pearl Daily on the website and you join it. You guys are awesome. You guys are the best chat

00:03:03.700 on YouTube really. Okay so you know we always hear about how bad women have it in the modern day.

00:03:11.380 You know we have the pay gap. We have women aren't safe. Women are oppressed. And you know of course

00:03:16.980 they always blame these issues on the men. You know it's always the men's fault. What about the men

00:03:22.900 though? You know an example of a place I see this in even outside of work is whenever women sleep with

00:03:29.820 the boss it's always the boss's fault and not the young hot woman. Like for some reason even in that

00:03:35.840 interaction it's always the guy. I was even talking to my dad about this the other day and I'm like dad

00:03:40.540 the women are apex predators. And he's like no that the boss is in a position of power. And I'm like

00:03:45.760 really dad you buy this? I love my dad. My dad's the best. The best guy on the planet. But even him

00:03:51.220 even him. I'm like dad you're falling for this. Gosh. If you look at the mainstream misandrist

00:03:56.140 propaganda. Women really can't stand each other. You know if you ask any woman your mom your sister

00:04:02.640 your female friends you know don't. Female friends really aren't worth it. But you know maybe one or

00:04:07.700 two. They'll tell you that you know the person that has done the worst of the things to them

00:04:13.820 in their lives is another woman. And I could tell you a story about this. So I'll tell you guys a story

00:04:19.140 and maybe I hope she doesn't go off on TikTok again but I don't care anymore. God I don't care

00:04:26.180 anymore. So I had an ex I had a friend that was like friends with me for 22 years. 22 years. And

00:04:33.820 this woman this is how women use reputation destruction. I'll tell you what. And I have

00:04:41.520 notes on this. But this woman I was friends with for 22 years and I started my show and this this

00:04:49.760 woman was a liberal right. And to put it into context this is a woman that asked me during George

00:04:56.520 Floyd if I posted a black square. And you know I'd always liked her. We'd been close since we were

00:05:02.240 young. So I just I would always put politics aside or I mean I've always been a dork. I probably talked

00:05:08.000 about it a little bit. But you know you she was just the type you had to be careful what you said

00:05:12.940 around because you know she was I mean one of her friends said like her other friend couldn't see

00:05:20.540 her kid if she didn't get the COVID shot. I mean this is madness right. I don't but I liked her as a

00:05:27.020 person so much so I was in this woman's wedding. We were like best friends besties. And she texts me

00:05:33.300 one day when I'm doing my show and then gets mad at me for stuff I was saying on my show. And

00:05:39.540 essentially what it came down to she said say what I want. Don't use words that I don't like on your

00:05:47.420 show where I'm not going to be friends because my daughter my future daughter might see it one day.

00:05:51.840 And you know I refrain from talking about her because you know she's gone on TikTok and she just

00:05:56.200 goes off and I'm like there she goes. Now anyways this was really one of my first experiences where

00:06:05.040 I'm like wow women really like to control speech because she could have just shut off my show. But

00:06:10.680 22 years of friendship I guess down the drain. You know what my crime was? It was so crazy. I said

00:06:16.580 men can leave wives that get super fat. What a time. No but this was a female friend. 20 years of

00:06:23.300 friendship. And then I just said okay you know I ended it and that was it you know. But sometimes

00:06:29.000 she like spurts on the internet. Whatever. Now this this is just one example right. But I think we

00:06:35.580 can all think of you know women that have backstabbed each other. You know a common thing that I've

00:06:40.860 heard is women sleeping with each other's boyfriends sleeping with each other's husbands. It's always

00:06:46.400 another woman you know. Who is the woman? And oh my gosh women. When I got into this space women

00:06:53.200 started treating me like a man. And do you know what? Women have made up so much shit about me.

00:06:58.500 Or do you know what they do? They take a small detail and put it completely. They over exaggerate

00:07:05.260 to destroy your reputation. I mean these you know maybe I'm not going to get into all of it. I'm not

00:07:12.460 going to get into all of it today. It's always another woman you know. Who is the bad person that

00:07:17.300 makes a bad life decision that wants you to do the same so you can all be miserable together. You know

00:07:23.280 when one woman's a whore she has to get everyone to be a whore. It's always another woman. Women make

00:07:29.360 it more difficult for other women in the workplace. Queen bee syndrome is a term for when women finally

00:07:37.000 make it into management and then make life hell for every other woman under her supervision. And I've

00:07:44.380 seen this in friend groups. Whenever there's a female friend group every six months one of the

00:07:49.560 girls gets tired of the other and tries to kick the girl out of the friend group. But it rotates. Then

00:07:54.460 they get less. They bitch about that girl for three months. And then they let her back in the friend

00:07:59.060 group. And then it's a different girl's time to get kicked out. There's usually like three or four that

00:08:04.280 are consistent that maybe you're less annoying or for bitchy. I don't know for whatever reason they

00:08:10.260 don't get kicked out. But this is female friend groups. Now female dominated industries are full

00:08:16.540 of drama because 80% of workplace bullying is a woman bullying women. Catty behavior is normal

00:08:25.320 working around other women. And women supervisors are stereotyped for being more emotional,

00:08:31.320 less and less compassionate to female employees and taking out the frustrations in their personal

00:08:36.900 lives around them. That's why today we're going to talk about female bosses. Many women, 40% say they

00:08:43.620 would rather work for a male boss than a female boss. Is there really a patriarchy when almost half of

00:08:49.320 women would rather work for a man than a woman? So there's an article on LinkedIn. And I was looking

00:08:54.600 at this earlier. I was cracking up. God, it was so funny. Oh, let me let me turn on my camera switcher.

00:09:00.520 I think we have to ask ourselves, are women sometimes unintentionally keeping women down?

00:09:05.660 I'm not sure if it's the lack of advancement of opportunities, societal norms, built in

00:09:13.280 expectations or some sort of professional jealousy or something else. But certainly there are underlying

00:09:18.780 factors to contribute to these statistics and research. According to this Forbes article

00:09:24.820 authored by Matt Simmons, today women occupy just 4% of CEO at Fortune 500 companies and fewer than one in

00:09:34.840 five corporate board seats is held by women. This Daily Beast article with data and a new Gallup poll

00:09:42.820 authored by Lizzie Crocker informs us that 40% of women prefer a male in charge compared to 27% who prefer

00:09:50.740 a female boss. This article says that these numbers don't exactly show a groundswell of women adopting

00:09:57.040 Sheryl Sandberg's lean in attitude, nor have they budged much over a decade. The article authored by

00:10:04.120 Olga Kahazan and featured in the Atlantic reviews a Pew article survey that indicates in fact, more women

00:10:12.020 said they'd rather work with men than men did. The article goes on to confirm that the dilemma gets worse,

00:10:17.500 not better with younger generations. We have to do more to support professional women. We have to want to

00:10:23.640 work for them. We often have this discussion about breaking the glass ceiling and resolving pay

00:10:29.840 inequalities as if it's a male-driven phenomenon. But clearly it isn't. From what I can tell, it's very

00:10:36.520 much or at least equally a female-driven phenomenon. I pose that until women actually want to work with

00:10:45.620 and for other women, these statistics will not change until women stop viewing leadership as

00:10:50.820 mostly a masculine concept. These stats won't change. Unless women match words to deeds and develop

00:10:57.400 supportive workplace relationships in professional women, these stats will not change until women

00:11:02.860 report at least equal preference for working with and other women, nothing will change. Why? Because of

00:11:08.880 supply and demand. Women increasingly making up more and more of the professional workplace. We have the

00:11:16.780 dominant voice and our voice and actions are sending the message that men should be in charge.

00:11:22.300 So how funny is it? Women got together and they said, let's do this on our own. Girl power. And then

00:11:30.340 feminism always yeets itself because the women, they started working for the other women and they thought,

00:11:35.460 I don't know about this. Oh, this is pretty bad. Maybe the men, maybe the men had a, had, had a point.

00:11:42.140 You know, Doug says the average career life of a male CEO is seven to eight years. The average career

00:11:48.440 life of a female CEO is two to three years. Women get to the top and then quit because it's too hard.

00:11:55.680 She listed some reasons women don't like working for other women. One, get this, professional jealousy.

00:12:02.520 Women being jealous. Never, never. We're always happy, especially when other women get promoted

00:12:09.920 fast beyond us or get her work projects noticed more. Okay. So this is essentially a hotter woman

00:12:16.460 comes into the office. So there's a woman that's in the office. She's used to being the hottest woman.

00:12:21.200 And then a younger, hotter, tighter woman comes in and she makes her life a living hell. It's like the

00:12:27.480 30 year olds with the 20 year olds. Limited opportunities. Since we are competing for such

00:12:33.180 limited roles, are we intentionally or unintentionally backbiting and sabotaging one another

00:12:38.640 because there is not enough for all of us? Different standards for different women. Do women have

00:12:45.080 different standards for women with children and those without them? How about married versus single

00:12:50.900 women? How do we apply different standards? Discomfort working with smart, beautiful women.

00:12:56.660 History shows that men don't take beautiful women seriously, but is that still the case? Or

00:13:02.880 I think that ugly women have a harder time or are there more, or is now more beautiful women a

00:13:09.200 problem? Are women still viewing the workplace as a dating pool and competing for male attention?

00:13:14.280 Women can't even give it up. When a woman is beautiful, are women the ones questioning her

00:13:20.540 competence and intelligence, hence showing her less respect? The marriage and motherhood

00:13:26.060 factors. Do women look negatively on women who are not married and or mothers? Yes, of course.

00:13:34.540 Balancing politeness with assertiveness. If the woman is polite and friendly, do we view her as too

00:13:40.780 polite and too friendly? And when she is assertive and direct, do we view her as temperamental above

00:13:46.060 herself or even bitchy? I could go on, but the ultimate and final question here is, how do we overcome

00:13:52.980 gender biases that not only men have, but also women have against women? There you have it, guys.

00:14:00.320 Isn't that insane? Women don't even want to work with other women.

00:14:03.020 Okay, well, hopefully this works.

00:14:07.360 I was not prepared for in the workforce was to have older women just hate me

00:14:10.940 for existing. We'll talk about older men. That's like a different line here, but older women hated

00:14:17.560 me for no reason. We can talk about the narcissistic men on a different time. I'm going to tell you a story

00:14:23.200 about my first full-time job. So I worked for a company that sold medical equipment, and I was in sales

00:14:29.320 marketing, and we all kind of had different bosses, and we all had, it was like kind of like, I don't know,

00:14:34.480 little groups. And so my boss was under this one. My boss was an older lady, maybe in her 60s, and she had

00:14:40.200 worked at this company for 20 years. We all had different shifts. So like, I could come in at 6 a.m. and leave

00:14:44.500 at 3 p.m., and that's what I did. So I came in at 6 a.m., and then she would come in at like a normal time,

00:14:48.660 8 a.m., and every day she'd come in, she would ask only me what I was doing. So, you know, there's a whole team of like,

00:14:55.260 I don't know, 15 of us. She would say, Chrissy, what have you done? Then she would log into the back end of

00:15:00.120 my computer to see what I had been doing that day. And the thing is, I didn't really realize that I was

00:15:05.380 being like singled out. You know, she got mad at me for taking a lot of water breaks. I was also competing

00:15:10.160 in CrossFit, so like I peed a lot, you know, I get that. So I was naive, and I went to HR, and I was like, hey, I just

00:15:15.180 don't think she's treating me fairly. She's like treating me different than everyone else. Now, this company also had

00:15:19.900 someone that was on FMLA leave, and also was just like finished a lawsuit from someone not getting

00:15:26.780 their proper lunch breaks. So I'm assuming they were like really fearful of a lawsuit. I was freshly 21.

00:15:33.520 I don't even, like that didn't even come into my brain, okay? So I just went to them because that's

00:15:38.020 what I thought you were supposed to do, and I was like, hey, I just think she's like picking on me,

00:15:40.780 and I don't really understand it. And it got to a point where like she would call me out in front of

00:15:44.300 everyone. She would talk down to me, but the thing is like my accounts were happy. I was hitting goals.

00:15:48.780 I was doing okay. It's just that I could do the job in less time than everyone else.

00:15:53.920 Yeah, so women, this is a common problem with women. Women don't care about getting things done.

00:15:59.860 They care about looking like they're getting things done. So her problem was that she could work less

00:16:06.160 and get more done, and her boss would get mad at her even though she was getting her stuff done.

00:16:12.400 Okay, so next we got women bosses are less. Oh wait, hold on. Another TikTok of women talking

00:16:20.160 about how female bosses are the worst. Okay, so let me go here. We often talk about men. Okay,

00:16:26.900 so we often talk about male bosses and how they are the worst. And let me tell you, female bosses are

00:16:33.480 the fucking worst. They are nasty. They're blank cutthroat, blank degrading to other females.

00:16:42.320 They're the worst to deal with. And I'm not saying all of them, okay? But 90% of the time,

00:16:47.980 they are mean ass-ish. Okay? And for some reason, they're the most straightforward with their like

00:16:55.940 shitty ways. And I don't know, it's because they're jealous, they feel intimidated, or they just hate

00:17:03.320 females. I don't know, okay? But they always seem to be in a power trip, and they always seem to hate

00:17:10.080 the idea of other females being around and trying to like better themselves. And it's, it never makes

00:17:16.280 sense to me. It never makes sense. Like, I used to work at this place in San Antonio, and I was supposed

00:17:22.280 to learn from this lady who had been with the company since they started. She was about to

00:17:26.440 retire. You know, she was like the mom of the company because she had been there for so long.

00:17:31.260 She didn't want to fucking train me. I literally followed this woman around, and she would be like,

00:17:35.920 oh no, I'm not going to teach you that. You don't need to know. That's what I'm here for. Okay,

00:17:40.820 but you're going to retire, bitch. You old as fuck. You're going to retire. And she never wanted to

00:17:45.220 train me. So they literally removed me from that and like guided my position into something else

00:17:51.420 because she didn't want to train nobody. She was mean. She was degrading. She was cutthroat. She

00:17:56.520 was fucking nasty for no reason. All I was to her was respectful. We got eight on the website,

00:18:02.880 by the way. Can you guys hear the rain? Is that coming through? It's raining kind of hard out here.

00:18:07.680 And I was excited to learn, and I was excited for like my job. It'd be cool to get eight, 10. Let's get

00:18:13.760 10 on the website. And she did not want to have none of it. She was on this power trip that she was the

00:18:19.940 only one of the new things, and she had been with the company for whatever many years,

00:18:23.540 and she was mean. Okay? So yeah, male bosses are horrible and extremely demanding at times,

00:18:31.260 but female bosses, the wrong female bosses, whoo, the worst. The worst. And I'm sure there's women

00:18:38.780 out there who know the type of bosses I'm talking about that just hate you for no reason, and you're

00:18:44.480 just there trying to do your damn job, and they just fucking hate your guts, and they treat you

00:18:49.260 like crap. I had a couple coaches that were bullied me. Oh my gosh. Okay, we got another one.

00:18:57.680 Another woman complaining about her female boss. Learned from working for two very insecure women

00:19:04.640 bullies. I had two bullies in my life, and they were both female bosses. The other side of that,

00:19:09.100 I have had two wonderful, amazing female leaders, one of which is mine right now, and I would do

00:19:14.200 anything for her. An insecure boss is going to constantly be living in fear that you are going

00:19:18.100 to take their job, so they will withhold resources, training, anything from you just to keep you at

00:19:23.180 this level. They do not want to see you succeed, whether it's in that company or elsewhere, and they

00:19:27.360 are going to do everything in their power to keep it that way. They do not respect your time. They will

00:19:31.460 participate in company gossip and likely be the ones that start it in order to break down the team and

00:19:36.340 create some weird divide so that they can be your saving grace and also take the attention away from

00:19:40.740 the fact that they suck. They have an inability of self-awareness or gratitude. They will micromanage

00:19:45.520 to the point that you are no longer empowered to make any decision, and you start to second-guess

00:19:49.960 your confidence. You heard it from women, folks. Folks. Women got together, and they said,

00:19:59.240 let's empower each other. They said, let's fight. Let's crush the patriarchy. Let's do this awesome

00:20:07.220 thing. Let's build companies. And then women worked for other women and said, not like that.

00:20:12.100 No, thank you. They entered a man's world and said, I'm good.

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