Pearl - April 12, 2024


Pearl Reacts To Wife CAUGHT Cheating With Pastor


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18 minutes

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3,074

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135

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Misogyny

28

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15

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A pastor catches his wife cheating on him at the Holiday Inn Express and confronts her about it. She says it was an accident. He says it wasn t an accident at all. The Pastor and his wife argue about it and the Pastor tries to defend himself.

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00:00:00.000 Now, the pimps are the men that generally led some sort of ministry.
00:00:05.820 They are often in band, leaderships, or even at times, the pastor.
00:00:11.040 Blessing.
00:00:15.200 Sorry.
00:00:16.720 These are the men that often have experience with women
00:00:20.860 and use the church because that is where all the hoes go. 1.00
00:00:25.160 these men are few these men are few but often date at least half of the single attractive women in
00:00:32.280 the congregation these men know that the women in the church are easier not harder these men are
00:00:37.880 grateful to the simps because the simps are the cleanup guys after they are done so i have a video
00:00:43.420 of just an example of what we would have going on all right pull this up all right so this guy
00:00:51.040 caught his wife cheating. You guys think I make this stuff up? And so let's see. Wife caught
00:00:57.260 cheating with a pastor at the hotel. Yes. Wait, let me double check that my audio is... Now go back.
00:01:15.340 Yeah, so basically, long story short, I'm over here at the Holiday Inn Express. I'm here because
00:01:19.980 uh my wife's been cheating on me been cheating on me with our pastor pastor leon mitchell yeah 0.94
00:01:25.420 uh only way i found out i went through a phone last night she left it on lock you know what i'm
00:01:29.260 saying and uh i seen that she had been talking to him for like last six weeks or two months or so
00:01:33.900 yeah so they've been involved heavily so she doesn't know that i went through a phone and
00:01:37.740 i seen that they were supposed to meet up today at the hollywood express so i you know i made it
00:01:41.740 over here i've been following her she's in she's in the back somewhere she didn't park the car 1.00
00:01:45.020 trying to be slick so no one would notice it notice she's at the hotel or something like that
00:01:49.100 but me i'm just waiting on her she's coming from the back so whenever she come come to the front 0.93
00:01:53.180 i'm gonna i'm confronting about it because you know that that's not you know i do everything
00:01:59.340 see there it is he does what what is the simp guys this is it is the act of submitting to women
00:02:07.980 that's what simping is it is men that defer to women's authority i do everything for this woman 0.99
00:02:13.740 women only love men that we do everything for that's it i pay all the bills and everything 0.97
00:02:22.840 and she doesn't need for anything and i she's over here sleeping around with the parents out 1.00
00:02:26.300 of all people you know what i'm saying it is there she is right there she is right there 0.97
00:02:30.960 now again the simps tend to be dorky awkward men
00:02:37.360 and the pimps tend to be charismatic charming men in churches 0.69
00:02:43.060 they're saying this is an exception don't worry guys i have more than one receipt
00:02:59.080 you think i came with one oh no the holiday express huh yeah my wife huh just my wife
00:03:07.080 what you doing here huh what are you doing you mean the pastor huh you mean pastor mitchell 1.00
00:03:13.960 yeah you come out stupid you know you're not playing with you're not stupid you've 1.00
00:03:18.600 been messing with the pastor okay you've been messing with the past you're a big 1.00
00:03:23.160 what is it like that no what is it like that
00:03:29.800 going on all right what is this going on what you got 0.97
00:03:37.080 You got a naked picture over here? 1.00
00:03:39.800 What the f*** has he sent you a naked picture for? 1.00
00:03:42.040 What did he send you a naked picture for? 1.00
00:03:43.680 What did he say?
00:03:45.180 It could have been an accident.
00:03:48.020 What does the message say?
00:03:49.420 Oh, I don't know.
00:03:50.660 I'll be there.
00:03:51.100 Can you blame me?
00:03:52.320 Yes, that's fine.
00:03:53.240 I'll be there.
00:03:53.620 That's from the day.
00:03:54.280 I'm just talking about last night.
00:03:55.960 Come on.
00:03:56.300 No, we're going over there.
00:03:57.040 How many you have to prove?
00:03:58.560 Okay, now I want to show you guys.
00:04:00.060 I don't think we got out.
00:04:01.220 They're going to fight back and forth.
00:04:03.000 I want to show you guys the pastor. 0.93
00:04:04.600 and you'll start to notice these archetypes in church again the simps tend to be dorky men
00:04:11.580 where the pimps tend to be charming charismatic men that's that's at a nutshell because pimps
00:04:18.320 think about themselves first they do not think about other people they think about themselves
00:04:22.380 maybe god some of the some of the pimps are are do submit to god in church others don't you know
00:04:29.780 All right, now let's show you guys.
00:04:45.020 there you go in decent shape charming charismatic i can't see what he looks like but i'll just
00:05:07.180 guess he's handsome what's going on with you my wife what's going on what the hell is going on 0.52
00:05:26.140 come on pastor what's going on because i'm exposing you you've been around my family
00:05:32.140 i don't know if that's the right answer in this situation i'm just being honest
00:06:02.140 What? You're a man of God.
00:06:03.340 Yes, Charles, there's nothing going on with me.
00:06:05.140 That's adultery, Pastor.
00:06:06.720 Pastor, that's adultery. 0.95
00:06:07.960 You messing around with a man or a woman. 0.91
00:06:09.440 Hold on.
00:06:10.280 I got the relationship.
00:06:11.460 What was the reason behind the naked pictures?
00:06:15.180 I saw the pictures.
00:06:15.860 Yeah, the naked pictures.
00:06:16.780 Hey, man, come on. 0.87
00:06:18.020 You see my wife.
00:06:18.980 Pissons, man, come on, man.
00:06:20.360 Come on, man.
00:06:21.000 I'm going to be following you.
00:06:21.800 The rest of the congregation, Bishop Jones, and the whole jurisdiction, there will know
00:06:25.880 about it.
00:06:26.180 We don't have to do that.
00:06:27.140 We don't have to do that.
00:06:27.920 We don't have to do that.
00:06:28.620 We don't have to do that.
00:06:29.500 We don't have to do that.
00:06:30.000 I don't want to do anything.
00:06:30.800 I just want to give you my phone.
00:06:34.360 You messed up my marriage?
00:06:35.980 How about if I messed up your marriage?
00:06:37.360 You know what?
00:06:38.360 Let me call first lady. 1.00
00:06:40.220 Let me call first lady. 1.00
00:06:41.780 Oh, hell no.
00:06:42.660 Yeah.
00:06:43.160 Let me call first lady. 1.00
00:06:44.160 You don't want to do that.
00:06:45.160 That is my phone.
00:06:46.160 I'm calling you.
00:06:47.160 Yeah, I'm calling you.
00:06:48.160 Give me my phone back.
00:06:50.100 I'm training.
00:06:51.100 Give me my phone back.
00:06:52.440 You got alcohol?
00:06:53.540 You got what the going on, man?
00:06:56.540 Give me my phone, bro.
00:06:57.340 You're not getting back to you.
00:06:58.120 You're not going to know.
00:06:59.100 Give me my phone back.
00:06:59.860 All right, you guys get the idea.
00:07:05.500 But Pearl's just making it up.
00:07:08.020 Pearl just, it's not the simps, the pimps, and the pastors.
00:07:13.100 I mean, it's not like, and you know, what I hear often, too, I hear, sometimes I hear
00:07:22.600 some stuff where they say, Pearl, that is just in the black community in the U.S. That's what I
00:07:30.440 here. It's just, just them, right? That's, that's, until, hold on. Yeah. Carl Lentz
00:07:49.820 in the secrets of hill song
00:07:54.340 was caught having an inappropriate relationship with his nanny pull this up
00:08:03.760 yeah so no same thing here i'm gonna pull up all right go back down for one second i'm gonna show
00:08:13.120 you guys who this is no not at all not at all totally happens all right so then those are the
00:08:22.760 pimps i just want to give you guys an example next we have the simps the definition of a simp
00:08:29.380 is a man who submits to a woman church is conducted generally on women's terms life
00:08:37.560 is generally lived on their women's terms he the house is decorated how she wants it they live where 0.99
00:08:47.340 she wants he works as much as she wants the simps are men that generally do not know how women work
00:08:55.240 they generally are naive men that have only been with a couple of women these men are in these men
00:09:02.220 are encouraged to buckle up and marry the born again virgins it is phrased as their duty 0.87
00:09:08.040 They must step up to the plate.
00:09:09.440 These are the men that brag that their wives made them jump through a bunch of hoops to be with them.
00:09:15.280 The pimps are aware that women who like you do not make you jump through hoops to be with you
00:09:20.000 and are laughing at these simps that are wifing them up.
00:09:24.220 These men tend to use self-deprecating humor and put their wives on a pedestal. 0.89
00:09:28.640 And the problem is you get in these churches.
00:09:31.020 they encourage young women to choose simps that they will never be attracted to 0.97
00:09:37.640 and then the second a pimp comes along the woman cheats the simps are the ones that defend the
00:09:43.660 born-again virgins to the grave because they do not know better they either do not know better 0.90
00:09:50.520 many of them married young and have no experience with women or they know that their wife is the same
00:09:58.240 as the OF models that they are defending.
00:10:02.940 So, in protection of their wife,
00:10:06.060 they have to rationalize it somehow.
00:10:10.660 These are the men that brag about their wives
00:10:14.100 being their better half,
00:10:15.360 and they attribute their purpose to women,
00:10:18.100 which is a very bad plan,
00:10:19.920 considering they tend to marry born-again virgins.
00:10:24.000 Oh, not this one.
00:10:25.200 Not this one, not this one, not this one, sorry.
00:10:26.820 all right so an example I have right here you I think were is an a perfect example pull this up
00:10:35.880 this is nine years ago Megan good what are the signs people you I think were like the first ones
00:10:46.460 to really out of Hollywood start talking about it well you were what made you decide to go there
00:10:52.060 because you didn't have to tell people what was happening in your bedroom but you did or not
00:10:55.620 happening we had to wait you know I think we just wanted to share because
00:11:06.300 relationships are so hard and truth be told there's not a lot of guidance out
00:11:11.040 there and so we wanted to share our truth and that waiting to have sex was a
00:11:15.420 critical part of the healthy foundation of our marriage and relationship and we
00:11:19.140 both were doing it independently you know I have been doing it for years
00:11:22.020 before megan and i got together uh because you know being out in the okay do you see this apex
00:11:29.220 predator do you think she had been also doing it for years blessing oh hell no let me just
00:11:39.780 all right hold on pull this down look at this chicks are we not this one oh yeah so this is 1.00
00:11:46.660 megan good's relationship history let's pull it up all right we got jonathan majors uh we got
00:11:53.860 devon franklin this guy yep we got thomas jones soja boy wow nick cannon jamie i know nick's
00:12:06.180 been everywhere he's a ladies man what can't what can he say jamie fox um tyrese gibson
00:12:12.880 oh this is a little different for her joseph gordon levied
00:12:18.060 50 cent so again predatory women or you can take this down while i figure out which tab it is 1.00
00:12:30.840 predatory women oh here it is predatory women tend to go to church to find suckers yes they 1.00
00:12:37.680 are not looking for a man where they have genuine burning desire for they are looking for a mark 0.98
00:12:44.400 and let's pull this up look he is bright eyed and bushy tailed look at him right there
00:12:51.920 that is an apex predator speaking and preaching telling one thing there was a time when i was
00:12:57.840 doing something different and i wanted to reconcile who i was in public and in person
00:13:01.760 and in private excuse me so that's why i decided to wait and i said you know what i'm going to
00:13:05.120 wait until marriage after i wasn't waiting and then megan and i got together and found out she 1.00
00:13:08.800 had been waiting yeah and megan as i understand it
00:13:15.840 and he believed it what a sip you've said in the past you knew this was your husband yeah before
00:13:24.800 he knew yeah how did that how's that possible well it's really he was a prey he was a mark
00:13:31.600 interesting because we had met four years prior to working on jumping the broom and he was the
00:13:38.320 executive on jumping the broom i was the actress on the film and i was in the tail end of kind of
00:13:42.400 um not so great relationship not because the person we just weren't right for each other but
00:13:46.480 um i really got a chance to get to know him on set and i thought man that's the kind of guy i
00:13:50.560 wish i could marry and that was it he's the guy who gives you the job that's that's all i thought
00:13:54.400 about it and then i got back from nova scotia filming typically when women say that guy is 1.00
00:14:00.000 marriage material, it means she views him as long-term security, and she doesn't have that
00:14:06.120 genuine burning desire for him, typically. And I was like, man, Lord, I'm at a really hard place,
00:14:12.980 like at a standstill in my life, and I'm really hitting a wall. What am I supposed to be doing?
00:14:16.940 And the first thing that God told me was that it was time to get out of that relationship.
00:14:20.320 The second thing that God told me was that it was time to be celibate. And the third thing that
00:14:24.520 told me it was that Devon was my husband and I was like now what is celibacy do now this is not me
00:14:31.920 talking about morality this is not me saying moral immoral this is just me looking at this
00:14:39.140 I have an economics degree okay celibacy generally for women means they're raising the price on a used 1.00
00:14:48.420 product and the only men that what that works on is men we will never be attracted to because again
00:14:56.200 the relationship is on her terms typically well i was just gonna add right there as well she said
00:15:02.460 god told me this man is my husband now god is not a liar because from what i know these people are
00:15:08.920 not together anymore so if god said it why are you leaving that's what i gotta say so you should 0.92
00:15:16.640 be struck down. She lied there. Yeah, she's hearing voices. A lot of these women are just 1.00
00:15:22.760 hearing voices. Tell me it was that Devon was my husband. And I was like, okay. And I was like,
00:15:31.240 so, and I didn't know him that well. And I was like, so what do I do, Lord? And God was just
00:15:35.640 like, nothing. Just work on yourself. So I spent the next nine months healing, working on damage
00:15:42.260 from childhood, growing up in the business, things you just go through in life. Now,
00:15:45.800 what does healing mean guys what do women typically mean when they say healing 0.99
00:15:53.480 all right red flag and about five months in I started telling friends and family that
00:16:06.380 Devon was my husband they were like oh really they're like does he know that and I'm like no
00:16:10.160 they're like so you had not even gone on a date no you didn't know anything about I didn't talk
00:16:13.520 Because this could have gone real creepy.
00:16:16.480 She's telling everybody, and somebody says, Devon, I don't know her.
00:16:19.740 I don't know what she's talking about.
00:16:21.140 Yeah, no, I was just, at the time, I was an executive for Sony working on the movie,
00:16:25.920 and she was one of the stars.
00:16:26.960 So I was like, hey, you know what?
00:16:27.980 If that's the talent, I'm the executive, like, I would never cross that line.
00:16:31.600 And also, it's Megan Good.
00:16:33.220 So I'm thinking, like, yo, like, that's just, you know, Megan Good, the stars, the moon,
00:16:37.520 you know, they're all in another stratosphere.
00:16:39.340 And so when it came to the reality that, like, wait a minute, at the Jumping the Broom premiere, nine months after-
00:16:44.840 Now, just listen to him talk.
00:16:48.260 She's been with 50 Cent Nick Cannon.
00:16:52.120 Do you think this guy can entertain her?
00:16:57.920 Again, that's why the crazy exes are a pretty bad sign in general. 1.00
00:17:03.740 Right? Ladies, if it doesn't apply, let it fly. 1.00
00:17:06.240 Please don't cry about this.
00:17:08.000 Okay?
00:17:08.900 It was done.
00:17:09.740 We started talking, and it felt like, wait, I think Megan is interested in me.
00:17:13.600 Meanwhile, I had told all my girlfriends, I was like, I'm going to meet my husband tonight.
00:17:16.380 And everyone's like, okay, so we're following him around the party like teenage schoolgirls,
00:17:20.340 like looking at him and stuff.
00:17:21.620 And then we went out two weeks later, and then literally, in the time of going out,
00:17:25.560 it was 10 months later, we were engaged, and two months later, we're married.
00:17:27.960 So over the span of, what, 13 months, you were celibate in the relationship.
00:17:32.780 You make this pledge to each other.
00:17:34.400 You make it to God, but we're all humans, and our bodies react to things.
00:17:38.000 so did you avoid kissing did you a massage was not so women that are actually in do you can't 1.00
00:17:44.860 get their hands off you red flag red flag because these things i'm just being honest okay we're all
00:17:52.820 wrong with it come on tamra i mean you know my husband yes i do right my husband like massaged
00:17:58.740 my shoulder i'm like hey you know maybe not as awful because we have a baby now but hey you know
00:18:04.500 But it's like, how did you avoid triggers?
00:18:07.880 You know, it's one of the things we talk about, you know, in the book.
00:18:10.120 We talk about the power of delayed gratification.
00:18:12.180 We live in a time where everybody wants everything now.
00:18:15.100 But there's a lot of value when we just wait and sit back and say, you know what?
00:18:18.500 I'm going to delay this because if I do, I'll get what I actually want when it's time for it.
00:18:22.520 So for us, we had to know our triggers.
00:18:24.140 Now, that means some nights we could not Netflix and chill, okay?
00:18:26.340 We couldn't do it.
00:18:27.400 Did you cuddle?
00:18:28.160 You didn't stay in the same house.
00:18:29.240 But every day was different.
00:18:29.900 No, we had separate houses.
00:18:30.820 We didn't move in until...
00:18:31.700 And you didn't have any sleepovers?
00:18:33.160 No, we had sleepovers.
00:18:34.160 BUT AGAIN, YOU GOT TO KNOW YOUR BOUNDARIES.
00:18:36.160 YOU GOT TO KNOW YOUR TRUCKER.
00:18:37.160 SO PILLOW IN THE MIDDLE?
00:18:38.160 SOMETIMES.
00:18:39.160 REALLY?
00:18:40.160 IT JUST DEPENDS.
00:18:41.160 IT DEPENDS ON HOW STRONG YOU FELT ON THAT.
00:18:43.160 YEAH, OKAY.
00:18:44.160 YOU GUYS GET THE IDEA.
00:18:47.160 SO WE HAVE THE SIMPS, THE PIMPS, AND THE BORN AGAIN VIRGINS. 0.98