Pearl - March 19, 2025


Pearl Takes A LESSON In Womanese To Understand It | Pearl Daily


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In order to get a woman s love, you have to have a woman's respect, and you cannot have that respect unless you understand what she says versus what she means. In this episode, we discuss the early womanese that my wife, Debbie, would throw at me, and how I learned to handle it.

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00:00:00.000 listen Devin hit me with a lot of womanies when we first started talking she did and what's and 0.96
00:00:04.740 what shocked her what shocked her was that I would just call her out on it like I would just call her
00:00:08.880 out she's like and the funny thing is is a lot of times she didn't even get upset she just kind of
00:00:12.840 laughed that's what I knew she was right and she used to say to me all the time she's like you're
00:00:16.500 the she's like you're the only man that I have ever met who has spoken to me in this way women 0.68
00:00:21.780 respect you when you understand how to handle them they might not like you for a short period
00:00:26.940 of time but in order to get a woman's love you have to have a respect and you cannot have a
00:00:30.960 woman's respect unless you understand what she says versus what she means so why don't we start 1.00
00:00:35.880 there what was the early womanese that she would throw at you oh my god the early womanese that 0.99
00:00:42.600 Debbie would throw at me that's a good transition into the topic that is that is that is she's
00:00:47.100 what did she say oh my god she's at me with it all the time so when we first started talking right 0.83
00:00:51.780 she would what would she tell me oh she would tell me that what she actually the reason why
00:00:56.760 she reached out to me is because she was talking to a guy and the guy wasn't really the guy wasn't
00:01:02.820 really coming around so I was like okay what's the she actually reached out to me for a consultation
00:01:06.300 like okay what's the problem well he's this he's that the third and I said okay so first of all let's
00:01:10.440 go ahead and get this get this straight she's like what's that I was like you're this dude
00:01:13.740 and she's like okay she's like no I said you're talking to him that means you're this dude
00:01:17.940 a lot of girls girls don't like to say I'm a guy they like to say that I'm seeing a guy or 0.85
00:01:24.780 I'm talking to him or I'm dating him so that's the first thing that that she would say then she
00:01:29.400 would say well I want to go hang out with I want to go hang out with my guy again whatever the case
00:01:33.480 may be and at that point she would and at that point when she figured when she figured out that
00:01:38.740 I knew what she was saying like you know being able to read between the lines you know she would
00:01:42.960 be a little bit more honest and dare I say a little bit more direct because she knew that if she tried
00:01:47.680 to sort of mislead me about what her intentions were that I would just that that I would just call her out
00:01:52.560 on it here's another here's another womanese translation we gave so we went to Hawaii and this
00:01:57.640 is actually our our nine-year anniversary so we went to Hawaii and I remember we were talking while
00:02:02.360 we were on the trip and she was like okay so what are we going to do after this I was like well you
00:02:07.480 know I mean if I like you after this trip then you know maybe we'll continue to see each other
00:02:11.820 and then she says to me she's like well I kind of have to do the same thing I don't know I said
00:02:16.220 Devin stop it I said stop it I said you've already made your decision you don't have to
00:02:20.040 what she tried to do is she tried to she tried that inverse projection oh he's going to tell me
00:02:24.660 he's not sure about me that's making me more attracted more attracted to him so let me try
00:02:29.440 the same thing attraction is not symmetrical the same things that make us attractive to women are
00:02:34.140 not it's not it's not the same in reverse and so she had to learn a lot of that but you know a lot
00:02:39.560 of times when she would hit me with you know when she would hit me with like it like she told me 1.00
00:02:43.280 that she was going to go out with one of her friends she's like hey you know my friend Kim called me
00:02:47.480 and she asked me if I wanted to you know go out to the bar whatever and I told her I would see if
00:02:51.180 I could go and I was like no no you're not going she's like no I told her I would say I said Devin
00:02:55.560 you're not going she's like what are you talking I was like Devin if the answer is anything but yes
00:02:59.540 the answer is always no that's it that's all there is to it and she was like I never really thought of
00:03:04.840 it that way guess what Devin didn't go to the club with her friend Kim she had already had her mind 0.99
00:03:09.080 made up but because she wanted to be indirect even with me I'm not the person she committed to
00:03:13.020 she says well I was thinking about going I was thinking about said no no no you had already
00:03:18.220 made your mind up and that's actually one of the translation clips I'm going to show today
00:03:21.620 oh sure can you show it on screen yeah sure can let me go ahead and share does he have the ability
00:03:27.620 to share it yeah well I think you have to give me the ability yeah that's what I was I was just
00:03:32.640 talking to the producer just to make sure oh there we go perfect oh there we go okay let's see
00:03:38.340 let's go to clip number two and here we go maybe no we'll see no more than likely hell nah if nothing
00:03:49.460 comes up sure sure won't if I can finish my project of course of course not plans definitely definitely
00:03:59.980 not when it comes to meeting up with girls a general rule of thumb is that if the answer is
00:04:05.320 anything but yes the answer is always no listen if a girl wants to meet up with you she'll meet up 1.00
00:04:10.940 with you she won't put conditions on it she won't tell you about other plans she'll simply say yes
00:04:15.540 and wait for your instructions okay so pardon me this is where a lot of guys pearl end up wasting a lot
00:04:22.000 of time energy and resources on a woman who just isn't interested in them like I said in the clip if 1.00
00:04:27.960 the answer is anything but yes the answer is always no and the way this will help you is that you won't
00:04:33.900 be wasting time chasing a woman who doesn't like you like that right these are the girls these are 1.00
00:04:38.580 the girls really who almost always put you in the friend zone if they don't straight up ghost you 1.00
00:04:43.940 all together the men who understand this are the men who don't get hung up on are the men who don't
00:04:49.260 get hung up on girls you know on girls who don't want them which of course allows them to move on and
00:04:54.060 spend time you know pursuing women who's you know whose interest level is a little bit higher so again if
00:04:59.580 the answer is if the answer is anything but yes the answer is always no it's got to be an
00:05:04.300 enthusiastic yes 100 of the time what else are you the common ones that what would you say are like
00:05:09.940 the most common mistakes women or men make when interpreting what women say versus what they mean
00:05:15.800 there is only one mistake that men make when interpreting what women say versus what they mean
00:05:20.960 and that is taking what they say at face value you can never you you just can't and again this doesn't
00:05:27.620 i'm not trying to make women sound like these nefarious creatures this is just how they are 1.00
00:05:31.860 okay men are direct women are passive okay and you you just have to understand especially in the 0.96
00:05:38.300 romantic context women are women don't want to look like a slut they don't want to give you the wrong 1.00
00:05:42.220 signals and so they're always speaking indirectly so when men take what women say at face value like 0.62
00:05:48.560 for example let's say you start dating a woman and she says i want to take things slow it it it
00:05:54.400 absolutely positively means something else and i've got a clip for that as well okay this one is 0.96
00:05:59.020 actually really yeah this one is crazy listen to this we need to take a break i've been fucking 0.96
00:06:05.700 another guy but you're back we should start seeing other people i'm cheating on you let's try and open 0.99
00:06:13.080 relationship i'm having sex with another guy we need to talk i'm dumping you for the guy i'm cheating 1.00
00:06:20.080 whiz a woman will never just tell you they're someone else so to circumvent having to be honest 1.00
00:06:25.780 and having a difficult conversation which by the way means admitting she's cheating she'll use any 0.98
00:06:30.280 combination of these statements to avoid looking like a cheating slut if she says any of these things 0.83
00:06:35.140 to you she's been another dude for at least six months and now knows she can start a relationship 0.99
00:06:40.180 with him count on it okay so there it is have you need you know we go ahead oh have you ever had a
00:06:47.580 woman tell you the truth and like say that she was cheating no never never actually actually there 1.00
00:06:53.440 there was one woman one time who told me she was cheating and that's because i straight up asked 1.00
00:06:58.140 her and the reason why the reason why she told me is because she knew i had proof other than that
00:07:03.400 a woman will never ever ever volunteer to you that she is cheating on you i mean it's never happened 1.00
00:07:08.700 to me and i do not bang more women than i care to admit it's it's never happened to me okay sorry
00:07:13.200 what were you saying before i interrupted you sorry you know i was gonna say you've been you've
00:07:17.580 interviewed more than a thousand women okay and you have seen and heard the many many ways that women
00:07:23.800 characterize engaging in promiscuous behavior how many girls have you interviewed like 12 or 1300 some
00:07:29.060 crazy number like around a thousand yeah around a thousand and i don't think i have ever seen or heard
00:07:34.720 a woman say straight up the reason my boyfriend and i broke up is because i wanted to sleep around or 1.00
00:07:40.400 my boyfriend dumped me because he found out i was cheating okay the way this will help you guys when
00:07:46.140 it comes to dating is being proactive and ask her hey what happened in your last relationship now what
00:07:52.040 she'll say is we grew apart or he wasn't attentive to my needs or sometimes i'll just straight up lie to
00:07:57.140 you and say he cheated on me and by the way all these phrases are translated in the course and when she says
00:08:01.920 this to you you now clearly understand that she is recreational use only if you talk to a girl and 1.00
00:08:08.120 you ask her what happened in your last relationship oh we grew apart this means she cheated this is how
00:08:12.160 woman ease helps you guys it gives you a clear understanding of which women you should not take 0.99
00:08:16.220 seriously and which women you shouldn't got it what else what else do you have in clips oh this is a
00:08:22.200 this is a this is another good one watch and learn and listen very very carefully this is this is 0.63
00:08:27.600 actually this is a lot of this is it's kind of a sobering reminder and it sucks that this is true
00:08:32.640 but it is here we go i'm a strong woman i want a strong man i'm super competitive i want a super
00:08:40.360 competitive guy men are intimidated by me i am turned on by men who intimidate me a dating hack i discovered
00:08:48.740 a while back is if you ask her what kind of woman she is she will tell you what kind of man she wants 1.00
00:08:53.240 a woman who talks about how strong competitive and intimidating she is is telling you she's turned 0.97
00:08:58.420 on by strong competitive and intimidating men okay because this pearl this is why i've always i'm
00:09:03.340 sorry go ahead because we turn into the men we want to marry so well yeah so it's like a woman with
00:09:09.400 a sleeve wants a man with a sleeve right there you go yeah and and this this is why i've always
00:09:15.200 encouraged men to be proactive with their dealings and women as far as like vetting them are concerned
00:09:19.640 guys ask questions do not be afraid to quiz her don't be afraid to put her on the spot because if
00:09:24.960 there is one thing that we are all aware of whether you're you know whether you're good with women or 0.86
00:09:29.380 not is that they love nothing more than to talk about themselves and not a one of us in here watching
00:09:34.800 this right now are unaware of the phrase let a woman talk long enough and eventually she will tell
00:09:39.740 on themselves women and you guys got to pay attention women are always telling us who and what they are 1.00
00:09:44.680 but most of the time they're not aware that they are okay that particular translation that
00:09:49.540 i just shows you that allows you to find out what kind of woman you're dealing with as well as the 1.00
00:09:53.720 kind of man she wants to deal with again this saves you a lot of time because now you have the
00:09:58.040 information you need to make the call as to whether or not you want to continue dealing with her
00:10:01.360 okay so what questions would you say that they should ask the one that i just said hey what happened
00:10:07.500 or you mean as far as no just ask hey what kind of woman are you tell me what kind of woman you are 1.00
00:10:12.440 you know describe yourself in 30 seconds and if you ask a woman to describe herself in 15 30 seconds
00:10:18.540 she will almost always tell you what she wants in a man and the reason she does this pearl is because 1.00
00:10:24.320 if she's trying to impress you like when you ask a woman what kind of a what kind of a woman you are
00:10:29.340 she's trying to impress you right and that's that's not a bad thing she wants to impress you because she 1.00
00:10:33.180 likes you but what you also have to understand is that when women are trying to impress when women 0.98
00:10:37.780 try to impress you they're going to tell you what they think you want to hear this is why they tell you
00:10:42.000 i'm a strong independent and super and super competitive okay got it all right very good the 0.99
00:10:49.400 next one is my ex is an asshole this is actually the first one that we were talking about here we go 1.00
00:10:55.560 my ex is such an asshole i'm still in love with my ex a woman who talks about her ex is not over her 1.00
00:11:03.760 ex remember gentlemen the more she tries to convince you of something the less likely it's true 1.00
00:11:08.740 a woman who calls her ex an ass wants her ex in her ass never forget that so many men they actually 0.99
00:11:15.840 and this is where a lot of guys mess up so many men think that if a woman if that if a woman thinks 1.00
00:11:21.900 her ex is an asshole that she no longer wants her ex guys that is completely wrong yes she thinks he's 0.98
00:11:27.840 an asshole and chances are he probably is but if you're dealing with a woman who a talks about her 1.00
00:11:32.040 ex and b talks you know calls him an asshole you need to understand that she is not over him 1.00
00:11:36.400 okay the reason she's talking to you is to create a false sense of scarcity with her ex to give her 1.00
00:11:41.560 the impression that she's fucking someone else the second reason and the most important reason is 0.93
00:11:46.400 she's looking to distract herself she doesn't like you like that okay she just wants that constant 0.99
00:11:51.060 steady flow of male attention from you while she makes while she waits for her ex to make a play to 1.00
00:11:55.680 get back with her and when he does trust me she will go running back to him so understanding this 0.99
00:12:00.160 translation my ex is an asshole will again keep her from wasting time with women who don't really like you 0.99
00:12:04.540 and here's the thing pearl every woman has that one ex she can't leave alone it's that one ex that 1.00
00:12:11.400 one ex-boyfriend that one situationship that one she can't leave him alone yes eventually they do 1.00
00:12:16.500 move on to some degree but if she calls her sex an asshole her ex an asshole when she's dealing with 1.00
00:12:21.860 you understand that it's only a matter of time before she starts fucking with him again so was there 1.00
00:12:26.820 a situation that that happened to you and you found out she was cheating with the ex oh yeah 100 dude the 1.00
00:12:32.380 girl's name was victoria i actually met her at a at a five guys dude dude this girl was oh my god she 1.00
00:12:38.180 had a great ass so i hit her at five guys and she's actually looking grumpy i was like oh either you 1.00
00:12:42.720 don't like black people or you hate your job and she laughed and that kind of broke the ice well she 1.00
00:12:47.220 used to talk about how her ex was an asshole all the time and and again i had the game but i didn't 1.00
00:12:52.180 have the understanding and i was like yeah he's an ex he's an asshole she likes me blah blah blah blah blah 1.00
00:12:56.020 of course her phone is buzzing away and i'm like well who is that she's like well you know that's 0.98
00:13:00.240 my ex-boyfriend i'm like oh okay i wasn't worried about it because it's your ex-boyfriend he's an 0.97
00:13:04.860 asshole right come to find out she actually got back with him she got back with him while she was 1.00
00:13:09.940 with me and that's when i sort of discovered monkey branching so that was my introduction to when women 1.00
00:13:14.220 call their ex an asshole it still means they want to get with him that doesn't mean that she doesn't 0.99
00:13:18.340 think he's an asshole but she absolutely still wants to get with him a woman can hate a man and still 1.00
00:13:22.860 want to have sex with him absolutely oh my god yeah women can women can we can we can despise and men 1.00
00:13:29.700 don't understand understand this like we can we can hate a guy not want to spend any time around 0.99
00:13:36.380 him but still want to sleep with him that's right yeah that's right listen and men and it's funny 0.75
00:13:41.380 because and i know a lot of women who have slept around they have probably fucked a guy or two they 1.00
00:13:46.680 genuinely just did not like his people dude i fucked plenty of girls i just didn't like that much 0.99
00:13:51.460 i just like having i just liked having sex with her this is one this is one of the this is one of the 0.98
00:13:56.880 few things that men and women have in comma have in common as far as like you know sexual interactions 0.97
00:14:02.320 we will have sex with a woman even if we don't like her if a woman hates you when a woman tells 0.98
00:14:07.300 you she hates you it really means she loves you and i've said this before pearl the opposite of love 0.97
00:14:11.680 as far as a woman goes the opposite of love isn't hate the opposite of love is indifference if she 1.00
00:14:16.060 doesn't really care if she couldn't care less about you she's over you if she hates you she probably 1.00
00:14:20.480 does but she probably still loves you too there's a thin line between love and hate that's why the
00:14:23.760 scene goes that way got it okay what's what's next this this next one is extremely extremely
00:14:30.980 dangerous okay so a lot of women a lot of women like to say we have a healthy relationship take a 1.00
00:14:38.060 look okay this is a toxic relationship you're making it so hard for me to cheat on you when a 0.99
00:14:44.560 woman finds it hard to cheat on you she'll characterize your relationship as toxic to try to get you to make 1.00
00:14:49.460 it easier for her to cheat way too many men fall for this ploy do not be one of these men we have
00:14:55.580 such a healthy relationship it will be very easy to cheat on you when i decide to be aware of any woman 0.99
00:15:03.380 who brags about a healthy relationship this means she has cheated is cheating or is going to cheat
00:15:09.300 remember what i said about toxic relationships well the opposite applies when a woman says her 0.99
00:15:14.280 relationship is healthy yeah it's a guy with no standards right she can't just do whatever she 1.00
00:15:19.380 wants there you go and a lot of men we listen you guys need to understand very very clearly that
00:15:26.280 modern women always want it both ways okay they want the status and the security of being in a 1.00
00:15:31.240 relationship while also being able to engage in activities that make them look single in other
00:15:35.880 words they want you to take them off the market but still allow her to have the for rent sign in the
00:15:40.200 front yard and this is where a lot of men go wrong in their relationships when women shame you like in 0.93
00:15:44.720 the clip we just saw they are clearly telling you they don't want to be faithful to you women go to 0.99
00:15:49.040 the club for attention they're on instagram because they're looking for your replacement they travel 0.91
00:15:53.240 without you because they want to get dick down but not lose the attention you give them her as her 1.00
00:15:57.980 significant other the men who do not allow women to act single while in relationships with them 0.99
00:16:03.260 are the men that women respect they might not like it but they will respect it and as we all know
00:16:08.360 a woman cannot love you if she does not respect you yeah and the thing is it's tough because all 0.98
00:16:14.180 of society tells the women that the guy is toxic if he has any standards at all the family will
00:16:21.540 social media will the friends will so it's like it's like the guy against the world yep yeah and and
00:16:28.340 wow that's a that's a good way to put it pearl it's the guy against the world yeah and i know that
00:16:33.560 there are a lot of guys in the chat that are probably frustrated it really is it is so hard
00:16:39.060 pearl to find the right information man this is why you know this is why you know you know guys like
00:16:44.660 fresh and fit andrew tate justin waller being on the dhs watch list to me that's nefarious because if
00:16:50.660 men actually had this information i think it would make relationships better yes there's going to be a
00:16:55.840 learning curve no women don't like it when women hate it when you when you figure them out they hate 0.98
00:17:02.040 it but eventually they respect you and love you for it yeah but beta bucks providers are what keeps
00:17:07.740 society running so that's why they don't want them getting the information it would just be single 0.93
00:17:11.920 mothers everywhere like yeah it would just be single mothers and then they wouldn't know what to do with 1.00
00:17:17.900 all the single women so they may get men's problem go ahead our our dude our channels and all that being 1.00
00:17:24.920 shadow banned and taken down it is this is an economical decision okay they try to characterize oh we're
00:17:31.600 trying to protect women from men no no no this is economical because it's you said it yourself we
00:17:37.120 talked about it earlier in the episode the economy the economy relies heavily on on me on men not being 0.60
00:17:45.760 aware of what their value is compared to what women's value is every kiss begins with k get down on one knee 1.00
00:17:51.460 do all this other kind of stuff you know my wife is the boss etc etc most guys have most men in the world
00:17:57.080 have never been exposed to this kind of content and the powers that be are making sure that never happens
00:18:01.320 and now we know why yeah it's basically eight dollars or two dollars do you want to make eight
00:18:06.080 dollars or do you want to make two dollars yeah i mean all that tweet i saw that video that was
00:18:11.200 profound pearl yeah no i mean it's so simple when you think about it i mean i don't know what age you
00:18:16.780 figured it out but at some age men understand that they lose money if they tell the truth that's right 1.00
00:18:22.960 or they get kicked out of school they they lose something right and so they just learn to lie
00:18:28.520 it's not really their fault but and it's not really the women's fault either because we're born 0.91
00:18:33.920 into this it's like our grandmothers or whoever but corporations have more control over society
00:18:40.120 if they're spending the women's money that they steal from the men rather than the men making choices go 1.00
00:18:47.280 this is why this is why this is why 90 of the commercials are geared towards women yeah if you
00:18:53.060 get any commercial every commercial almost every commercial you see is designed to get you emotional
00:18:57.960 and it's funny we don't even see commercials anymore it's like we're seeing these miniature movies these
00:19:01.860 miniature romantic comedies now the the the the powers that be on madison avenue you know the
00:19:07.620 advertising capital of the world they know and listen this is a tale as old as time itself and this is
00:19:12.360 men and women alike people people buy based on emotion they rarely buy based on logic i used to
00:19:17.820 sell cars for a living and yeah you can tell them about the you know the the power steering and the
00:19:22.260 you know the engine this and this and that and a third they're not going to buy the car for 10 reasons
00:19:25.360 they're going to buy it for one reason and if that one reason is an emotional reason you have been
00:19:30.460 much higher there's a much higher probability that you're going to close that sale the guys over on
00:19:34.560 madison avenue understand that very clearly this is why they push that emotional button every single
00:19:39.240 time because women make what 80 percent of the financial buying decisions in this country so 1.00
00:19:43.900 yeah if i were them i would do the same thing