Pearl - July 08, 2026


People On The Sidelines Aren’t the Ones Playing The Game ｜ Tune out the LOSERS


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8 minutes

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178.27

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1,530

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10

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Misogyny

4

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Toxicity

9

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Hate speech

2

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In this episode of Coffee Talks, I talk about how to deal with criticism and how to keep perspective that you are in the game. I also talk about the World Cup and how the internet has changed the way we see things.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 all right what up guys um welcome to my coffee talks today
00:00:04.560 i have a fair life protein shake 42 grams of protein 230 calories so you know
00:00:13.840 so when i was younger i achieved um in 2023 i voted oh my gosh biggest youtube shows in
00:00:22.400 the united states and when i had this show um i faced like a lot of criticism you could say and
00:00:29.600 women that's like a little bit harder than men because men uh we they don't really care what
00:00:33.920 people think we're women we do um and people would just criticize like everything about me
00:00:39.520 my looks um they'd call me fat i was a little fat but like you know uh it was just thrown in my face
00:00:46.660 right i was a little chubby i'll say i was chubby um you know they would say i was kind of awkward
00:00:51.900 and weird and a hypocrite and you know a lot of those things really are true right i am awkward 0.69
00:00:57.560 I am weird I am you know I am hypocritical in a lot of ways um and it really at the time like 0.94
00:01:04.340 it was difficult because I had friends um like my best friend turned on me um I had people that I
00:01:14.340 gave opportunities to I was raw like there's so much stuff that happened and when you're young
00:01:19.680 I think your reputation like matters so much and what I noticed is when I interview people like
00:01:25.200 the older they get, the less they care about their reputation. And you almost look back and
00:01:29.280 you're like, why was I so concerned to begin with, you know? And so I don't know if there's like the
00:01:37.540 two young women that watch me. There's probably none, but if they're watching, the one thing I'll
00:01:44.380 say is when you're in the game, like that's when people criticize you. So the World Cup is going
00:01:53.060 right now and um the last tournament or the last like uh game the united states lost to i don't
00:02:00.640 know belgium or something and the goalie let in like let a ball go past him that was like really
00:02:07.920 easy to stop or it looked easy to us anyways um and everybody's coming down on him and the one
00:02:14.620 thing to realize that when people are like criticizing you or coming after you is most of
00:02:20.480 those people aren't in the game they're not playing they're spectators um and it's kind of
00:02:28.800 the same thing like if you're genuinely trying to find um have a good career or find love or
00:02:34.480 like whatever it is if there's ups and downs um during the downs I think it's very difficult to
00:02:41.400 keep into perspective that you are in the game so many people like they're not good looking enough
00:02:46.880 to date they're not rich enough um or i don't know they're not hard working enough to really
00:02:52.060 have a real career um and they're just not in the game and so they're spectators and the issue now
00:02:59.740 is that spectators always have more time and you learn this when you interview people
00:03:03.840 um again i talk about my father one of the greatest men that ever lived
00:03:07.740 that refuses to be on the internet um he my dad I always notice is very good at tuning people out
00:03:18.180 whenever me like silly me comes with these ideas from the internet or I show him something he always
00:03:22.760 says like who's got time to do all that and what you realize is a lot of the people like giving
00:03:27.780 their opinions they just have the time and over the years like a lot of the people that um did
00:03:33.900 like were critics of me or detractors i just found out we're like these crazy people like um
00:03:42.940 that just in all aspects of life it was my fault for taking their opinion seriously like one girl
00:03:49.580 slept with like cat pee on her floor and then also as nudes on the internet another of my dogs
00:03:54.940 just woke up so i have to let her out so i better take you guys with another one um was just like 0.96
00:04:01.740 getting out like so irresponsibly getting like women pregnant and stuff and like another one
00:04:10.360 I don't know there are just all these really weird crazy internet people and a lot of times 0.89
00:04:14.740 when you're a hard-working person um you're kind of insulated from all the losers of the planet
00:04:20.500 and on the internet um and just when you go into the real like world you're not insulated from
00:04:25.860 their opinions and the smartest people give their opinion the least because they failed the most you
00:04:30.920 know um and every failure you're like learning and there's kind of a freedom i guess that comes
00:04:39.600 with um hold on sorry i'm bringing my dog wants to go outside um that comes with age a little bit
00:04:45.580 where you're just less concerned with people's opinions because half the time the people doing
00:04:51.020 them are just i don't know they're like losers in all aspects of the word so my two cents oh my
00:05:00.560 gosh Ellie my two cents to the younger people maybe under 30 is I remember older people would
00:05:09.780 say this and I would get annoyed but now I'm you know because when you're young people's opinions
00:05:15.720 kind of feel like the end of the world like if you get bullied in high school it feels like your
00:05:20.340 world is and I remember I got bullied really bad when I was in like eighth grade and it literally
00:05:24.540 felt like my world was ending and my dad told me he's like these people's opinions don't matter
00:05:30.680 like in the grand scheme of things how long do you really deal with people and I would think oh
00:05:35.940 that's easy for you to say you're good at everything you're so successful you know but
00:05:40.980 the older I get the more I'm like he's right because when you're the one in the field like
00:05:48.480 everybody criticizing that goalie none of them could make it to the um world cup all the people
00:05:55.500 that would criticize me for like my show or whatever none of them could make it to getting
00:06:00.840 on the field or getting in the game um and that's what you learn in life is that it really take
00:06:08.940 things that people say with a grain of salt because most of them can't even get in the game
00:06:14.840 and they're criticizing you from the sidelines um and if you look online like if you look at 1.00
00:06:20.020 i don't know a lot of the tiktok accounts where it's just these women like criticizing men all 0.99
00:06:26.280 day it's because they're on the sidelines and the men are in the game and women are only in 1.00
00:06:32.400 the game for a short period of time and the rest of the time all they have is criticizing
00:06:37.960 um and most white men are going to be in the game for life if they're like in shape i mean
00:06:44.420 it's not just bi and large being white but like white men created one of the greatest countries
00:06:49.700 in the planet they invented the majority of the inventions most of them are going to be doing 0.95
00:06:53.700 things and in the game for life and women and minorities are jealous and that's why they
00:06:57.620 criticize them um and so as a person one of the greatest skills you can have and i didn't have
00:07:05.220 this when i was younger and but i get it from profiling and interviewing people is the ability 0.99
00:07:10.980 to tune out people fast because arguing and i've spent a lot of time doing this arguing with stupid 0.97
00:07:16.500 people is such a waste of time because they're never going to admit they're wrong but just 0.96
00:07:20.020 walking away and tuning them out um i do debates because i mean they pay and i have to at times but
00:07:25.620 like you know and i think of you know destiny or like a lot of these liberal people their opinions 0.90
00:07:32.660 really don't matter in the grand scheme of things because they're losers and they're always going to 0.99
00:07:36.420 to be losers. Um, and yeah, so, and, and it's not necessarily about money. They might make money 0.96
00:07:47.260 for a little bit, but they're just not going to be one of the movers and shakers in society. You
00:07:52.940 know what I mean? Like they're just not, they're going to be like in their corner streaming or
00:07:57.520 like giving their opinions forever, but never doing anything impacting people's lives or in
00:08:02.760 the actual game. So the same way that everyone's going to criticize that goalie for choking or
00:08:09.160 whatever in the World Cup, people, the more that people are criticizing you, really, it's the more
00:08:18.980 that you're making waves and actually doing something. And I've noticed that the less
00:08:23.200 criticism there is, the less you're getting done, honestly. So anyways, all right, let me know if
00:08:29.920 that fits with your personal experience if you think I'm wrong that's fine too put it in the
00:08:33.180 comments like the video I'll see you next time