Pearl - May 23, 2025


She’s Broke… But Spends $8 a Day on Coffee and Flies to Greece for ‘Healing


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Length

11 minutes

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164.44617

Word count

1,835

Sentence count

194

Harmful content

Misogyny

13

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Toxicity

16

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Hate speech

7

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In this episode, we're talking about expensive addictions and how to deal with them. We have a call-in from a woman who wants to stop buying $6 worth of coffee a day, and a friend who thinks cutting out coffee could help her save a little extra.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 She likes the confidence she gets from having sex with hot guys at hostels. 0.99
00:00:04.300 That's the translation. 0.97
00:00:05.300 The next thing we have is an expensive coffee addiction.
00:00:08.300 Now, I got to be honest, guys.
00:00:09.900 I got to, if I'm going to criticize this, I got to, I am guilty.
00:00:17.380 Okay, guilty as charged.
00:00:18.880 I do love expensive coffee, but I recently just found McDonald's coffee is just as good.
00:00:25.700 So I might quit Starbucks soon.
00:00:28.100 Probably not.
00:00:29.440 So I'm living in Queens, which is fabulous.
00:00:32.640 Love it.
00:00:33.520 But I go to school at the New School, which is in like lower Manhattan, in Greenwich Village,
00:00:40.080 right by Union Square.
00:00:41.980 It is like so expensive.
00:00:44.660 It's unfathomable.
00:00:46.060 Like you walk off campus, you want an iced coffee, $8.
00:00:51.680 It's insanity.
00:00:53.200 So here I will be sitting in my apartment drinking my iced coffee made with instant coffee.
00:00:59.020 I think I'm going to go for the win.
00:01:02.240 Yeah.
00:01:02.940 So some of these lattes, guys, they get expensive.
00:01:07.960 They can be like $8, your order.
00:01:11.280 And if you get that every day, it's $2.50 a month times 12.
00:01:16.700 It's $3,000 a year you're spending on coffee.
00:01:19.040 I'm not saying it's the worst addiction in the world, but especially if you're getting multiple
00:01:23.240 people, it can get expensive.
00:01:25.780 I mean, multiple times a day.
00:01:27.800 Okay, let's go.
00:01:28.460 My friend who constantly complains about money to stop buying expensive coffee every day.
00:01:33.420 I, 29 female, have a close friend, 31 female, who constantly complains about being broke
00:01:38.140 and not being able to save money.
00:01:39.580 She's always stressed about it.
00:01:40.960 We're close enough that we talk about finances often, so I know a fair amount about her situation.
00:01:45.440 I'm not judging her financial decisions, but one thing she does every single day is
00:01:49.100 buy a $6 coffee.
00:01:50.920 I suggested that maybe cutting out this habit could help her save a little extra, especially 0.94
00:01:55.160 if she's really feeling the cost of living crisis.
00:01:57.560 She got really defensive and said that her coffee is her only daily splurge and accused
00:02:01.820 me of being condescending.
00:02:03.260 It got pretty heated and now she's barely speaking to me.
00:02:07.280 Friends barely talking to her because she said to stop buying coffee.
00:02:14.000 Someone said, I deliver for Amazon and I'm at the same house as every day.
00:02:17.440 It's so funny when the husband asks if it finally is for him.
00:02:21.060 Nope, it never is.
00:02:22.480 Okay, we got this one.
00:02:26.580 Listen, I feel like I blinked and now coffee is like $8 of the United States.
00:02:31.000 I was just in France for two weeks and there I could get an espresso for like a Euro 50 and
00:02:36.540 I could get a cafe du bleu, which is like a double espresso for like $2.50.
00:02:39.440 I think the max I paid was three euros.
00:02:42.240 And here we're allowing them to charge us like $5 for a coffee or $6, which I paid more
00:02:49.760 recently for one that was fun.
00:02:50.880 And if you want really fun, you're looking at like eight bucks.
00:02:53.940 We can't accept this.
00:02:55.000 I was in Rome three years ago and my friend and I were walking around and we're shopping.
00:02:58.500 She's originally from there and I was like, I'm dying. 1.00
00:03:00.600 I'm fading.
00:03:01.020 I need some coffee.
00:03:01.740 And she's like, oh yeah, go over there. 0.89
00:03:03.040 You can get a coffee.
00:03:03.780 I literally put down a Euro, one Euro coin.
00:03:07.380 Boom.
00:03:07.660 And I got an espresso.
00:03:09.340 So I always make my coffee at home because I think that it's such like a price gouge and 0.65
00:03:14.060 I will gladly continue to be making it because it is ridiculous out here.
00:03:19.220 Yeah.
00:03:19.860 So I want you guys to think, cause I'm going to keep going through these about expensive
00:03:25.180 addictions of women that you've dated.
00:03:27.220 Cause we're going to do a call in after we go through some of these Tik TOKs. 1.00
00:03:31.600 So I want to know what addictions do you look for that you might think that woman is too 1.00
00:03:36.860 expensive for you.
00:03:38.000 The problem once you start traveling so often is that.
00:03:40.920 So we got a travel addiction.
00:03:43.080 The problem once you start traveling so often is that that becomes your baseline.
00:03:48.380 This is so true.
00:03:50.660 As someone who travels very often, I feel like I have to outdo myself for the last trip.
00:03:56.340 Example.
00:03:57.060 Last year, I went to Mykonos, Greece by myself, spent the entire week on the beach, getting
00:04:03.160 massaged, just relaxing, enjoying my time, having a fantastic time.
00:04:07.940 Right now I am in Geneva, Switzerland, and I just returned from the mountains in France
00:04:13.980 where I skied the entire week with a ski group of black people.
00:04:19.040 And I'm about to go back to France so I can chill in my favorite city ever, Paris.
00:04:25.240 It's like traveling gives me this adrenaline rush.
00:04:28.500 And even though I am somewhat sick right now and have to get to the airport very soon, I
00:04:33.560 love this feeling.
00:04:35.280 And I'm already planning the next trip.
00:04:37.420 Like, what is wrong with me?
00:04:39.520 And for those wondering, yes, I did vlog this entire week.
00:04:43.440 Yeah, who is paying for these trips?
00:04:45.400 I looked it up.
00:04:46.020 The average trip's like five grand.
00:04:49.880 Especially if it's international.
00:04:52.380 Okay, let's see.
00:04:54.820 In like 2022, I got really addicted to going on trips and like traveling.
00:04:58.900 I mean, aren't we all addicted to traveling?
00:05:01.940 But I knew it was getting out of hand.
00:05:03.680 I was getting way too comfortable booking trips all the time.
00:05:07.220 No planning.
00:05:08.680 No financial responsibility going through my head.
00:05:11.820 I knew I was getting too comfy with it when I started booking full trips.
00:05:14.980 I'm talking like flight, hotels, the whole thing on my phone.
00:05:19.080 Because that is such a computer activity.
00:05:20.980 If you're booking a trip, it's just something you do in your computer, not your phone.
00:05:24.340 That's crazy.
00:05:24.840 I knew I was getting way too comfy when I was booking full-on trips just on my phone.
00:05:29.400 While I'm like at the grocery store or whatever.
00:05:32.560 I really had to reel it back in the last few years.
00:05:36.640 Okay, let's see who's next.
00:05:38.700 How traumatized can you really be if your parents get divorced as an adult?
00:06:03.520 Now, I'm not trying to be insensitive here, but like you're raised.
00:06:08.980 Do you know what I mean?
00:06:09.560 Like you're raised.
00:06:10.660 It's not.
00:06:12.580 At that point, who cares?
00:06:13.940 Do you know what I mean?
00:06:14.520 Like only women are going to do the whole sob story thing when you get divorced. 1.00
00:06:21.960 Your parents get divorced at like 30.
00:06:25.040 It's like, eh.
00:06:26.740 You're seeing them a couple times a year anyways, most people.
00:06:29.800 I felt so stuck and frustrated, and I couldn't take it.
00:06:33.660 So I took off.
00:06:35.120 I went and traveled alone to so many new places.
00:06:37.940 Any chance to escape my life?
00:06:39.800 My anger and frustration?
00:06:41.320 Well, because who sat on vacation, right?
00:06:43.780 And so what if I had to travel alone?
00:06:45.980 I was trying to escape from everyone anyway.
00:06:47.960 So although solo travel may have started off as an escape for me,
00:06:51.440 I really love it so much now.
00:06:53.300 I mean, I've always loved traveling.
00:06:54.920 Women don't care about their safety, to be fair. 1.00
00:06:57.340 Why should men care about our safety if we don't? 0.95
00:07:01.480 We're like traveling to other countries by ourselves.
00:07:05.980 And let's be honest, we're not overly responsible as a group.
00:07:10.840 I just can't imagine we're taking proper safety precautions, really.
00:07:15.020 Since our world is...
00:07:16.140 Steve M says, what are you, 12?
00:07:18.040 Get over it.
00:07:19.340 It's such a big and beautiful place, and I want to see all of it.
00:07:22.240 I want to experience life in a new country, try new foods, try new things.
00:07:26.640 And what I love about solo travel specifically is the freedom.
00:07:29.720 I love the satisfaction and confidence that I gain from doing it on my own. 0.98
00:07:33.340 She likes the confidence she gets from having sex with hot guys at hostels. 0.98
00:07:37.920 That's the translation. 0.99
00:07:38.960 If you guys are wondering.
00:07:40.320 I love how I've been slowly healing myself on my journey. 0.99
00:07:42.680 Healing means riding some dick in different countries. 0.99
00:07:49.560 So I think that's Italy maybe there, Venice. 0.99
00:07:53.940 Or maybe Amsterdam.
00:07:55.580 I can't really see.
00:07:57.860 But she's either going for the tall blonde. 1.00
00:08:00.980 Women are going to pick a place based on their type or what they want to try. 1.00
00:08:06.280 So if she's going to Switzerland, she's going for money. 0.96
00:08:09.560 Okay, if she's going to Britain, you know, England accents, if she's going to Greece, I don't know, maybe she likes the Greek men, you know, whatever it is. 0.99
00:08:21.040 And I love how fun it is to ride dick. 0.99
00:08:23.640 That's what she she might not have said that explicitly, but that's what she meant. 0.99
00:08:27.740 And even though it's still scary to travel alone, sometimes I think it's so worth it.
00:08:31.720 Tackling solo travel showed me that I can do it.
00:08:34.340 She can do a lot of people and no one will find out. 0.99
00:08:36.820 She'll be okay, even though life is hard and sometimes it really freaking sucks. 0.99
00:08:40.940 She's sucking on vacation. 1.00
00:08:43.600 You can look back on your solo travels and say, I did that. 0.98
00:08:47.020 That's why I want to show you.
00:08:47.920 I did him.
00:08:48.940 If I can do it, you can do it too.
00:08:51.260 So hi, I'm Vanilla, your solo travel bean.
00:08:54.220 And thanks for coming along on my solo travel healing journey.
00:08:57.980 I'm so glad you're here.
00:08:59.080 Yeah, basically, I dump my boyfriend to go ride around the world if you catch my drift.
00:09:09.460 All right, let's see who's next.
00:09:13.480 Y'all, I just we got to guess their type based on where they're going.
00:09:18.580 Y'all, I just thought about it.
00:09:20.340 I cracked the code.
00:09:21.600 I need a friend or husband that's a pilot and baby, we out every week.
00:09:32.380 That's it.
00:09:33.720 That's it.
00:09:34.760 So somebody get their pilot license or somebody become a pilot or somebody knows a pilot.
00:09:41.200 Yeah, have them hit my line.
00:09:43.940 You know, when you fly a private plane, you have to pay for the gas.
00:09:47.240 It's actually pretty expensive.
00:09:48.280 You can't just I mean, I don't know if a lot of I don't know.
00:09:53.640 Can pilots freely fly people on their plane like air like flight attendant?
00:09:59.300 I don't know if they're allowed to do that because I just like I just I think too many
00:10:03.680 people would take advantage of that.
00:10:08.220 Male or female.
00:10:09.480 I'm open to both.
00:10:10.260 I don't discriminate based on gender.
00:10:13.560 But a pilot, that's the one.
00:10:16.020 If she's in corporate America, I think she's probably going for the white guys or the I 0.95
00:10:23.400 would, you know, guess she might go to because people tend to like pick industries, women, 1.00
00:10:29.220 at least based on their type.
00:10:33.320 That's what it looks like.
00:10:34.340 Or maybe it looks like it could be a classroom.
00:10:38.640 Maybe she likes teenagers.
00:10:39.960 Yeah.
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