00:00:00.000I have dated single mothers in the past and there's something that you are1.00
00:00:03.700absolutely correct about that we're going to write we're going to write down we're going to
00:00:08.400I I love our internet our late internet dad Scott Adams I think we can see that right can you see
00:00:13.400the you yeah all right so we're going to do the Scott Adams usual frame versus reframe
00:00:20.500on the SMQ the single mother question let me write it out here all right and having been
00:00:29.020have having dated single mothers in the past not not not marry not marrying not marrying them as
00:00:35.340i think that's some of the things that you talked about that maybe they're a hot and heavy type of0.99
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00:00:49.400you tend to see the single and divorced parents when they both have that situation that that1.00
00:00:55.640that sort of experience they tend to lock in together better they tend to have compatibility
00:00:59.600i like i like teal swan a lot of people don't like teal swan i understand that i like to quote
00:01:04.820her a lot she she points out that love is not enough attraction is not enough you must have
00:01:11.640compatibility and given the seriousness that both the mother and father having had children
00:01:18.720previously maybe separately they they tend to click better because they just they just get it
00:01:23.960They know what that's like, especially if you've got like she feels like she finally has the kind of man in her life that she's always wanted.
00:01:33.940And like the person I talked to here previously in the interview, she said that after having the one relationship with her son's father, getting back out of the market, kind of being self-aware, self-awareness in a woman is very attractive.
00:01:46.800having that self-awareness of like i i have to beat women that are 15 years younger than me
00:01:53.340if i'm going to get and keep a great man that i want having that self-awareness and then making0.75
00:01:58.460herself into that controlling what she can to to become that is just frankly impressive and she and
00:02:05.720the husband they they both have the experience of experiencing heartbreak loss being divorced
00:02:12.860survivors both of them themselves like they just they just get it they're kind of like0.98
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00:02:22.600yeah and and they click they say you know pair bond like because okay the one thing the more0.97
00:02:28.540partners that we've had or whatever the pair bonding goes away and i'd imagine with the kid
00:02:33.200it's worse however maybe pair bonding you know the harder if she can't fall as deep for you
00:02:39.240the fall out won't be as bad you know what i mean so like if she can't love you on a 10 you know
00:02:45.800because when you're 18 you fall in love with the first guy that talks to you it's like crazy1.00
00:02:50.480but you know maybe a little bit of numbness that a woman is good
00:02:54.680to let that dream die prince charming is not coming