Pearl - The Biblethumper Circle of Cope and Gaslighting

00:00:00.000 All right. What's up, guys? Welcome to the Just Pearly Things YouTube channel. Welcome to my

00:00:05.320 coffee talks. Today, I'm actually doing this video from London. One of my good friends,

00:00:11.380 Blessing, got married. I don't know if you guys remember him on the channel. But if you want a

00:00:15.600 black pill, even the men that have helped produce the divorce documentary, they still want to get

00:00:20.600 married. So just know that somebody will do it. But actually, his wife is actually very beautiful

00:00:28.340 and nice. So it gave me a little hope. Um, I'm sure it'll be squashed later, just like all the

00:00:34.580 hope we have in this world, but you never know. You never know. Okay. So I wanted to talk a little

00:00:40.000 bit more about the church series I'm doing where I go to churches and I interview, um, religious

00:00:46.820 leaders and people at the church about what they believe, um, on obedience and submission to me

00:00:51.380 personally. Um, I think that churches are kind of full of shit. Um, in general, most of them, 1.00

00:00:57.740 not all, not all. I do respect people's beliefs and their ability to think different. However,

00:01:04.320 I think if you don't believe in obedience to your husband in all things,

00:01:08.600 it kind of devalues marriage and you're kind of promoting a partnership. And my issue with

00:01:14.400 most churches is that they circumvent male authority because the woman is not obedient 1.00

00:01:19.960 to the man. She's obedient either to the rules or to the pastor instead. So what happens is a lot of

00:01:26.600 sexually inexperienced pastors, I think that's just kind of the type. It's not usually playboys

00:01:33.620 that become priests and pastors. I think it's very difficult for men to not be manipulated

00:01:40.720 by women unless they've really slayed some pussy. I hate to say it, I'm just being honest. 1.00

00:01:45.840 So what happens is the women nag the pastors and nag their husbands. 1.00

00:01:49.980 and even in the more orthodox churches um I've noticed that when you ask the the priests or the 0.99

00:01:58.660 deacons or whatever do do should the women follow God or follow the man even if he wants to convert

00:02:06.560 or he's not following God according to you and really when you peel back the layers the answer 0.97

00:02:12.020 is no now I know when it's like on its surface you know you're thinking well you can't ask her

00:02:17.900 to commit a crime or whatever. And I was thinking yesterday, I'm like, well, what would be wrong

00:02:22.840 with that? Like, obviously it's, um, immoral, right? I mean, on paper, immoral, but isn't it

00:02:29.500 kind of romantic? Isn't that kind of every man's dream to have a woman that, you know, if you have

00:02:36.340 a body, she's helping you bury it. She's helping you bury it. But Pearl, but Pearl, that's not 1.00

00:02:43.680 realistic bonnie and clyde my ninjas that's why we love bonnie and clyde because clyde said look

00:02:50.000 you got to leave your family and ruin this whole town and she said well wherever you go i'm gonna

00:02:56.800 follow i love you where the church the orthodox women said but priest is that in the bible ninja

00:03:03.080 please you know and um i was even thinking about it a little further and that's why i'm like i need 0.83

00:03:12.860 to kill this dream. I saw the comment section. They're like, are you becoming Orthodox? I'm not.

00:03:18.460 Again, I have respect for the faith. I think they're better than some religions. But to me,

00:03:24.920 if you can't unequivocally say that if the woman disagrees with the pastor, she should listen to

00:03:34.100 her husband, that makes the most sense to me. It's his wife. He's going to take the fall for her.

00:03:40.920 When he gets to heaven, God's going to be like, my ninja, she obeyed you and you took her straight to hell.

00:03:49.260 To me, I feel like God would understand.

00:03:52.300 He'd be like, all right, ma'am, this way.

00:03:54.960 But I got to talk about the circle of cope from religious people.

00:03:59.360 Now, again, this is not to mock the faith, but I've noticed when I, as an interviewer, you kind of notice patterns of like speech.

00:04:09.280 and I've noticed that people um defend their church the same way they defend women so

00:04:15.100 people don't like to be honest about the true nature of women so there's a circle of cope it's

00:04:21.260 like not all women are like that so that that's number one they they go to me and they say Pearl

00:04:26.260 it's just the Miami girls or the London or the city girls you interview and I'm like okay let

00:04:31.400 me go to the churches then um it's okay well it's just those women oh um and then you know

00:04:40.760 a woman that got married young comes out that she's getting divorced and it's like well what

00:04:45.260 about that woman um then they get angry they start saying i'm just a doomer i'm black filled

00:04:53.060 because they can't accept the true nature of churches and or sorry of women and i think it's

00:04:57.680 the same with churches people can't accept that whenever you have a group dynamic you have sexually

00:05:04.100 experienced men sexually inexperienced men and women and women are going to run to the sexually

00:05:09.440 inex women are going to run to the sexually inexperienced men to police the sexually

00:05:13.800 experienced men and the men that are um uh like above i guess you could say or like they don't 1.00

00:05:20.860 fall to female nature. I find it very rare that a man doesn't fold if he's not sexually experienced.

00:05:29.100 It's just my opinion. So what happens is they say not all churches are like that. And all of these

00:05:36.140 points, they do the same thing for women. So you say women are like this. They say not all churches 1.00

00:05:41.860 are like that. Then I go to their church in particular, our church is similar, and the answers

00:05:48.240 are the same and they tell me well it's just the girls at the church you're interviewing they're

00:05:52.500 like you should have interviewed the other girls at my church and I'm like okay this is the biggest

00:05:56.600 cope I've ever I went to your church so and it's the same thing they say you should interview the

00:06:03.360 girls over there and I go and I interview them and they say well it's just the race if you just 0.98

00:06:07.960 got white women or the social class you got trashy women same thing with the churches if you just got 0.98

00:06:13.760 the more devout women I'm like what what age did you guys get married 18 20 oh 27 like the rest of 0.99

00:06:22.280 us but you're above female nature oh oh it could never happen to you you know and that's why you

00:06:30.900 guys I'm just I like the idea of religious people but sometimes it's almost like talking to somebody 0.77

00:06:39.460 that's so naive um I can always tell I think I can always tell when someone had a masculine father

00:06:48.080 I interviewed a guy yesterday who I could tell in his voice he did because men with masculine 0.90

00:06:53.440 fathers tend to speak with um less fear and they're more realistic because father women are

00:06:59.400 unrealistic fathers are realistic so uh there was a guy at a twitter space yesterday I don't know if

00:07:06.000 he had a dad but I can almost hear it in a man's voice because he said um he'll say things like

00:07:12.880 oh yeah I mean look I'm still married but it could happen to me feminism's in the church that's a

00:07:18.480 realistic man that's realistic it's not um the cope which is it's not real right so then you they

00:07:27.660 tell me it's the way I'm conducting the interviews Pearl it's just the way you're asking these

00:07:32.640 questions. You're so disrespectful. You came with a sign. You can't expect people to talk to you

00:07:39.760 with a sign. What? Pearl, you're being combative. I'm like, no, I'm not. Oh, okay. Well, then they

00:07:55.240 attack you as a person, right? They say, are you a believer? Now, this is just another way for

00:08:00.400 Christians to say they're better than you. I would rather just cut to the chase and say, okay, 1.00

00:08:05.160 you're better. I'm worse. I'm terrible. You're not terrible. They try to qualify their morality and

00:08:10.700 be the judge, um, as if they have the authority to judge my faith. So, um, if I don't shove my

00:08:18.240 faith in your face, uh, like a lot of them do now, I'm just not good enough. Um, or they try to

00:08:26.680 qualify your personal life are you married where's your kids um even though a lot of the people that

00:08:32.020 do that they lose their wife and kids later i've had like three influencers that did that to me 0.94

00:08:36.400 none of us have families now welcome to the club um then they call you a fornicator even though 0.60

00:08:43.680 they did the same thing um and usually the things they're calling you like when the sarah stock 0.99

00:08:51.720 Elijah Schaefer thing they both went on the show and started shitting on me and I'm like you guys 0.75

00:08:57.040 were doing the same thing that's so common um so they do that you are not moral some implication 0.97

00:09:02.660 they are better than you because of morals um it's are you a Christian or stating that they're

00:09:08.700 a Christian um then they go into the you don't have authority to judge me then they quote uh

00:09:16.160 random Bible verses like to prove they're smart so they say oh do you know this specific story 0.57

00:09:21.840 or this specific scripture and obviously the Bible's logged like no I don't um and then

00:09:28.500 this I'm just I'm letting you guys know why you're annoying you know not all of you there

00:09:34.200 there are devout ones there are great ones I'm just saying in general the reason people hate 0.99

00:09:38.120 Bible thumpers and it's like okay so if I don't know this exact scripture you're smarter than me 0.99

00:09:44.100 you're better than me. Can we just move on? Can we, if I just say that, can we move on to the 0.99

00:09:49.060 question? Demonstrate they know a lot by going on a tangent about something no one cares about

00:09:55.500 while obfuscating the question, quizzing you on your knowledge in some way, resorting to authority,

00:10:00.900 which is the police, law enforcement are kicking you out. So coping means to cope is to effectively

00:10:07.540 deal with, manage, or overcome a difficult situation, responsibility, or emotional stress.

00:10:12.420 it implies but suggests that the person is generally managing and during or adapting to

00:10:17.480 the circumstances so instead of saying hey maybe we should teach better have some standards kick 1.00

00:10:23.120 these whores out of church and admit the church has flaws right we're gonna blame the red pill 1.00

00:10:29.420 these are the two options right admit flaws blame pearl blame red pill 1.00

00:10:33.620 admit flaw you know it's kind of the same thing um it's the reason people hate e-girls right 0.99

00:10:43.080 ladies let's just say we're all whores i'm so tight you know saying that we're all whores 0.97

00:10:49.100 requires some humility but instead the e-girls say i'm not a whore i have nudes on the internet 0.98

00:10:56.760 i have nudes on the internet but i only had one long-term boyfriend 0.98

00:11:00.820 i'm not a whore i'm not a whore i married at 20 23 i'm not a whore but were you a virgin on your 0.96

00:11:12.860 wedding day well uh you do mer pearl ninja what age were you when you got married 0.91

00:11:21.060 well but that was the best one of my favorite moments in my career i had three e-girls right

00:11:30.360 and by the way this is nothing I have no I'm not judging I'm not judging but objectively

00:11:35.860 one been one had been divorced okay one had um promiscuous photos on the internet and they all

00:11:44.000 play the trap one girl got married young but went to a big college right we all know where that goes

00:11:49.900 and also um waited like a decade to have kids we all know what that means when you wait a decade 0.79

00:11:57.000 to have kids uh with a guy you met you know a guy you married you know it's not really a Christian

00:12:02.580 marriage if you're waiting until 31 like the rest of us you know what I mean um so anyways

00:12:08.420 and I and I asked were any of you virgins on your wedding night and it was like the 0.93

00:12:15.580 because here's the thing by saying look it we all hoes three oh foes not like we're all part of this 0.92

00:12:24.100 mess. Um, that's why people hate Bible thumpers and e-girls. And I totally understand it because 0.99

00:12:31.100 they are constantly moralizing that they're better than you and they're not in any way,

00:12:36.440 shape or form. Again, this is not all, if it doesn't apply to you, let it fly.

00:12:41.320 But even the fact that I have to say that, right? Even the fact that throughout this video,

00:12:46.720 I have to say it's not every single one. Like, okay, when I do a video about redheads, 0.93

00:12:52.420 like if i say redheads are crazy you know there's a lot of you know stereotypes we don't have souls

00:12:57.420 whatever nobody has to you always know you're dealing with a terrorist when everyone has to 0.88

00:13:02.420 constantly defend their reputation so like if you say um oh but my mother she's a really good woman

00:13:10.820 i know she's the worst woman oh but my mother you know i love my mom but when you always have to say

00:13:16.460 I love my wife, but that's a terrorist because they can't handle anything negative being said 0.82

00:13:22.620 about them and they can't, they try to control the universe. And that's how I know a lot of

00:13:28.160 religious people I'm dealing with terrorists because I have to say, I have to constantly say 0.99

00:13:33.980 it's not all, it's not all of you. It's not every single one. Like if you said redheads are crazy, 0.92

00:13:43.360 i don't need you guys to say it's not every single one i just know it because all these 1.00

00:13:49.660 other bitches are on antidepressants and guess who's still standing they call me crazy but hey 1.00

00:13:54.680 i'm not on drugs so yeah ladies that's why they hate us um 1.00

00:14:03.320 and they also hate right-wing e-girls because um I constantly just have to take your word 1.00

00:14:14.400 you know and and the you know I had one there's one e-girl that kind of backhandedly talks shit 0.98

00:14:22.360 about her ex-boyfriend and says like oh um I just couldn't submit to my like previous relationships

00:14:30.160 because I like and insinuating they're not masculine what if they said they what if those 1.00

00:14:34.880 guys came out and said they couldn't leave you because you were just too much of a big fat slut 0.99

00:14:38.860 you know that wouldn't feel too good but I have to take your word and not get to hear his side 0.99

00:14:43.700 of the story so anyways um that's why I don't really see myself being religious I find it 1.00

00:14:52.060 interesting I'm excited to do more interviews yesterday the gay church thing was kind of crazy 1.00

00:14:58.180 um that was like an older Methodist church so I don't really like hearing about I don't like 1.00

00:15:05.720 being gaslit so if you guys say my church isn't like that I will go to your church and find out

00:15:11.040 no I'm not going to give you a warning because that would defeat the whole purpose

00:15:14.380 Pearl go to the go to my church and interview the specific patrons I want you to interview

00:15:19.940 that'll give you the right hand ninja if I can't ask anybody in your flock then your flock isn't

00:15:25.400 that good. I mean, this is incredible. So anyways, that's the circle of cope Christians go to go

00:15:30.720 through. I love you guys. I'll be back, uh, tomorrow. So I might be back to streaming

00:15:35.880 Wednesday or Thursday. Um, thanks for watching. I love you guys and I'll see you next time.

Pearl - June 09, 2026

The Biblethumper Circle of Cope and Gaslighting

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