00:20:37.440Wholeheartedly believe that God is on the sides of all pure parties, all parties that are literally just here with the intention to spread word that this is a highly possible thing that could happen to many different workers in this industry.
00:20:58.800But to go back, basically, the man is also very, very, very aggressive.
00:21:07.180With the girl that I am speaking about, he even gripped her hair and told her in her
00:21:13.960face, looked her dead in her eyes and told her, you don't know who you're messing with.
00:43:43.120all right let me do the next video
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00:43:48.040so then this is another woman this these are women if you guys ever want to look into the
00:43:56.340psychology of women you just go on tiktok we we use it as our diary get ready for a first date
00:44:03.700as someone who has herpes i have always felt because that was my turn this up a little how
00:44:09.600i caught it that it's really important for me to always be extremely honest and upfront every
00:44:14.760single time that i get to know a person but has it always gone in my favor absolutely not i don't
00:44:20.600know how many times i was honest and i told somebody the truth and i got the line yeah i
00:44:25.740can't hear it i don't know what's going on it wasn't earlier i don't know why
00:44:33.160um can we turn it up at all or no really you're a really nice person but and after a couple years
00:44:45.100of doing that did it suck absolutely it became incredibly hard i'm really proud of who i am like
00:44:51.340as a person characteristics and how i carry myself and who i am and so to be diminished all the way
00:44:57.700down to to that to like whether you could be with me or see yourself with me or be even be
00:45:03.880okay guys I'm gonna do a different video because the audio is weird on that one so let me go to
00:45:08.700the next one if I want to have unprotected sex I have to tell them I have herpes if I want to
00:45:22.760unprotected sex i have to tell them i don't know how this is gonna affect my dating life
00:45:30.360i can't give birth vaginally if i have an outbreak i don't know how i'm supposed to
00:45:36.520tell my parents this it's also just painful and i'm gonna have these outbreaks for the
00:45:43.400rest of my life it was 1983 i was 20 years old and i had my first herpes outbreak to this day
00:45:51.720it was one of the most excruciatingly painful experiences I have ever had. All I could do
00:45:58.260was sit around in a beanbag chair with no underwear on. And when I peed, I'd have to
00:46:05.940pee through a cardboard tube and dry myself with the hairdryer. It was so painful. And I was
00:46:12.140pregnant. So I was peeing a lot. Again, this was in the 1980s. And AIDS wasn't even a twinkle in
00:46:19.580sexually transmitted diseases eye. So it was like literally the worst STD that you could get.
00:46:26.700And as you know, that shit stays with you for life. There was so much stigma around herpes
00:46:34.520back then because I had such a severe breakout. I couldn't go to work and I trusted my boss when I
00:46:41.680gave him the information about why I was staying home. And he told everybody that I worked with
00:46:47.040everybody. And I worked with some old bitties who were extremely cruel and very uninformed
00:46:54.220and didn't want to use the same bathroom as me. I was also very concerned that I would not be able
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00:47:02.300to have a vaginal birth. But when the time came and they cultured me while I was in labor,
00:47:09.360it was negative. I did end up having a c-section anyway because of other issues that were going on,
00:47:15.380but it had nothing to do with my herpes. In fact, I've never had a breakout impact any of the births
00:47:21.740of my three babies. What I can tell you is this, while it sucks, the first breakout is the worst
00:47:28.280and they will improve over time. And acyclovir is an amazing, amazing drug that we did not have
00:47:35.320back in those days. And it works that fast to clear it up. 40 years later, I rarely,
00:47:42.400and this is what i'm telling you we keep making technology this is this is the issue
00:47:50.620we make irresponsible decisions right casual sex irresponsible and they keep keep making
00:47:59.420technology because there's so much money in solving our irresponsible problems an example
00:48:06.300We all got tattoos when we were like 18, right? Women did. I think the average number of tattoos
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00:48:13.820on a woman by 25 is like three or two. And I don't know exactly, but an example of
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00:48:21.580ways that you can make money is tattoo removals, right? So now you have new diseases coming up
00:48:29.460because never in history have we been this promiscuous, right? This is the age of social
00:48:34.540media. This is technology we've never had access to before. And we're seeing us become more and
00:48:40.900more promiscuous. So then there's a lot of money if 20% of the population has herpes or 8% of the
00:48:50.540population has herpes. There is a ton of money in making a cure. There's a ton of money in inventing
00:48:57.160plastic surgery so women look younger longer. There's a ton of money in makeup. There's a ton
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00:49:03.400of money in waist trainers because we don't diet we don't go to the gym there is always money to
00:49:10.620bail us out of bad decisions that's why I don't see any of this going away anytime soon because
00:49:17.020there's there's too much money in it the whole infrastructure of society like this idea and I
00:49:23.140hate saying this because people think I'm being negative but I think I'm being realistic the
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00:49:28.720whole structure of society is being built around soft polygamy so it's over women being polygamous
00:49:37.380in their 20s and in their 30s getting married and then divorcing seven years later
00:49:43.600and you can not like this information or you can take it and move the best way that you can with
00:49:53.480it right of a breakout and when i do it's nothing it's just nothing herpes is really common it's
00:50:00.200way more common than most people think i probably know more women who do have it than don't have it
00:50:07.080you are not a bad person just because you have herpes and if you're worried about what your
00:50:11.720parents are going to think don't tell them it's not their business the physical and emotional
00:50:16.680suffering she just put it on the internet so i don't think that you're experiencing right now
00:50:21.640yeah they said a herpes only dating app they already have websites like that
00:50:25.800that are for people with those stds guys i'm telling you i i'm telling you
00:50:33.320the world's going this way i i don't see it switching anytime soon i promise
00:50:41.000i don't give an f if it's comet yeah i know guys
00:50:43.800okay i think that's the third one let me see if there's one more and then i'm gonna do a little
00:50:51.480bit of a um sex sex ad right oh my god herpes
00:51:01.120wait hold up i didn't tell my husband that i have herpes this is herpes anonymous i too have been
00:51:12.100scarred. I do not show any symptoms and I do not have outbreaks, but I have a really hard time
00:51:16.840disclosing that I have herpes. When I found out I had to put in a suppository and it broke me out,
00:51:22.220I went to the doctor and that's when I was hit with shamed. I do not know how I contracted herpes
00:51:27.900and when my past partner at the time went to go get tested for herpes, their results came back
00:51:33.020negative, which made me feel extra disgusting. I have had partners in the past I did open up to
00:51:39.440and it wasn't a problem but I've also had ones that I did confide in and they look at me differently
00:51:44.280making the decision that they did not want to date me anymore this is why they tell you that
00:51:49.600if women admit things to you to not react because if you react then they won't say anything anymore
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00:52:00.920that's why it's important to have a very like stone cold face so you can get all the information
00:52:06.960out of the women that they're dating and be as non-judgmental at least on the surface as possible
00:52:13.560you know feel how you feel but as they're admitting here if you have an adverse reaction
00:52:23.100you're not going to get as much information I felt so ashamed that I just hid my pain from the world
00:52:28.700I'm now married and I'm ashamed to say that my husband does not know I just deal with it by
00:52:34.760myself because i do not have symptoms or outbreaks it is just easier for me to keep it a secret
00:52:40.680i really want to tell my husband because it weighs on me but i'm also so very scared coach shana
00:52:48.120thank you for being the voice for us who are too afraid to speak up i didn't that is terrible
00:52:55.240that is terrible okay so last part of the show i'm gonna do a little sexual health or class i guess
00:53:06.000all right a large a large portion of the world's population has herpes with estimates ranging from
00:53:13.34062 or 64.2 percent to 67 percent of people under 50. in 2020 an estimated 64 percent of people
00:53:23.460under 50 had hsv1 which is a virus that causes oral herpes that's oral most hsv1 infections are
00:53:33.060acquired during childhood herpes infections are common 50 to 80 percent of americans have oral
00:53:39.380herpes which causes cold sores or oh sorry guys my bad okay hold on herpes infections are very
00:53:49.060comment 50 to 80 percent of american adults have oral herpes which causes cold soards or fever
00:53:55.820blisters in or around the mouth genital herpes caused by hsv1 or hsv2 affects one out of every
00:54:02.020six people in the u.s age 14 to 49 herpes is a lifelong infection so the prevalence increases
00:54:08.840with age the highest number of new infections are in adolescence oh that's so bad
00:54:16.720oh my goodness okay in the u.s 50 to 80 percent of adults have oral herpes and one in six people
00:54:26.640aged 14 to 49 have genital herpes there is no cure for herpes but medicine can help prevent
00:54:32.480outbreaks and reduce the risk of passing it from one partner to another blood blood tests can
00:54:37.840determine if someone has antibodies for hsv there are ways to reduce the risk of genital herpes
00:54:45.020including using a condom correctly and making sure it covers all infected areas during an
00:54:49.700outbreak, avoiding sex during an outbreak. If it, an outbreak seems to be approaching,
00:54:54.300like if a partner has had symptoms or itching, not sharing sex toys without condoms or watching
00:55:00.020them. We found that condoms were differentially protective against herpes transmission by sex
00:55:05.500Condom use reduced per act risk of transmission from men to women by 96%
00:55:13.760and marginally from women to men by 65%.
00:55:18.500Using condoms during sexual intercourse significantly decreases the likelihood
00:55:30.100that men infected with herpes will transmit the infection to their female partners.
00:55:34.120According to the first study to examine the effectiveness of condoms in preventing this infection, women are almost six times as likely than men to acquire herpes, increased frequency of sexual intercourse, younger age, and having a partner who is infected with both herpes increase the likelihood of acquiring HSV-2.
00:55:56.020Although using condoms more than 25% of the time offers women with a high degree of protection against HSV-1, men do not receive the same benefit.
00:56:07.620To access whether using condoms reduces the risk of transmission of HSV-2, researchers analyzed behavioral and demographic data from participants in two multi-site HSV vaccine trials conducted in the mid-1990s.
00:56:23.180The study included adults who at enrollment both tested negative for HSV-1 and AIDS and had been involved in monogamous relationships for at least six months with individuals infected with HSV-2.
00:56:36.160Susceptible partners were interviewed during the initial screening where they were instructed to keep a diary of their sexual activity during the duration of the study.
00:56:45.480The diary was to include the number of sexual acts, whether condoms were used during intercourse,
00:56:50.620and the partner's use of antiviral medication and number of new partners.
00:56:55.320The susceptible partners returned over the subsequent 18 months for routinely scheduled herpes testing.
00:57:03.360Overall, 528 couples were included in the study.
00:57:07.460Of the susceptible partners, 267 were women and 261 were men with a median age of 36 years old.
00:57:15.92092% were white and 98% were in a heterosexual relationship.
00:57:21.340Participants' median frequency of intercourse was twice weekly.
00:57:25.380Half said that they had used condoms no more than 10% of the time since becoming sexually active.
00:57:30.200Of the source partners, 62% were seropositive for HSV2, while 38% were seropositive for HSV1
00:57:39.380and HSV2. During the study's observation period, 6% of the 528 susceptible partners acquired
00:57:46.660HSV2, 26% of the women and 5, which is 2% of, oh, sorry, 10% of the women and 2% of the men.
00:57:59.680which it was 26 women and five men women acquired the virus at 8.9 times per 10,000 sexual acts
00:58:10.080almost six times the rate of men using proportional hazards analyzed stratified stratified by gender
00:58:18.360and controlling for age partners and number of acts per week the researchers investigated the
00:58:24.960influence of baseline HSV-2 acquisition. They found that the susceptible partner's likelihood
00:58:30.760of acquiring the virus increased with each additional sex act per week and each five-year
00:58:36.580reduction in age. The risk was doubled if the source partner was both HSV-1 and HSV-2 positive.
00:58:43.480Participants who reported having used condoms more than 50% of the times were less likely to
00:58:49.400acquire the virus than those who use condoms less. The participants' mean frequency of sexual
00:58:55.460activity declined from 2.3 to 1.5 sexual acts per week over the study's observation period.
00:59:02.880Condom use was low overall with 61% of couples even using condoms. The use of condoms also
00:59:09.240declined throughout the study from 27% of the time to 21% of the time. Data on condoms use
00:59:16.960were available for 22 people who acquired HSV2 during the study. Of these, 46% never used condoms,
00:59:26.88036% used condoms, and 1% to 25% of the sexual acts. 14% used condoms for 25% to 99% of sexual
00:59:39.540acts and 5% used condoms. In a multivirate analysis for HSV-2 acquisition during the
00:59:47.960study's observation period, controlling for age, condom use, and number of sexual acts per week,
00:59:54.400increased number of sex acts were again associated with an elevated risk of HSV-2 acquisition.
01:00:01.260Using condoms for more than 25% of sexual acts was associated with a decreased risk
01:00:07.040of HSV-2 acquisition. However, when analyzed by gender, condom use was highly protective for
01:00:13.260women, but had no significant effect for men. So out of everyone that caught herpes in this study,
01:00:18.980right? And this wasn't a one night stand. These are people in monogamous relationships.
01:00:23.380There was 23, let me look, it was 26 women, five men.
01:00:32.440So that's 31 people, only 5% used condoms.
01:00:40.060So we have technology that makes it very unlikely that you will catch this if you do the responsible
01:00:49.820The issue is we have both irresponsible men and women, but we have far more irresponsible women, right?
01:01:00.120When we look at this case, it's 3,000 irresponsible women for every one irresponsible guy.
01:01:08.400The research notes, the researchers note, our data indicates that condoms markably reduce the risk of acquiring HSV-2 in women but not in men.
01:01:17.000they reduce that risk for the the difference maybe when used correctly condoms fully cover
01:01:24.140the skin of the penis from which the virus is shed but do not protect men against exposure to
01:01:29.180all general sites which the virus may be shed the researchers point out that the contact with vulvar
01:01:35.760or perennial areas the most common sites of viral shedding in women may be a lower effectiveness of
01:01:42.920condoms and transmission from women to men. On the basis of their findings, the researchers
01:01:49.020estimate that more than 300,000 new cases of HSV-2 infection among women could be avoided
01:01:56.360each year if condoms were used consistently. So this was on Google. This was written
01:02:07.060in in December of 2001 so is there any excuse none zero excuse and when we look at the market
01:02:18.620are people incentivized to do the right thing or the wrong thing men and women are incentivized to
01:02:24.580lie so if you choose to be irresponsible with this then really you're opting into your own
01:02:31.760destruction really you are so let me know what you think guys in the comments um make sure you
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