Pearl - The Real Work For Men Is Internal？

00:00:00.120 What is up guys? Welcome to another coffee talk. Today I'm gonna spitball about a thought I had

00:00:08.360 from a comment on the coffee thought. So if you listen to this and you have a comment,

00:00:11.960 put it in the comments because it might inspire my next coffee thought. 0.96

00:00:16.600 So I talked about taking L's as women and just how women, it's impossible for us to take L's. 0.93

00:00:23.320 And whenever we take an L, we kind of do what women do. 0.97

00:00:28.060 We gaslight about it. 1.00

00:00:29.860 We pretend it didn't happen.

00:00:32.360 I mean, it's just, it's so embarrassing at this point.

00:00:36.200 Just our inability to, like, just eat the L.

00:00:43.000 We'll do articles coping about how an L is in an L. 0.96

00:00:46.880 And one of the L's I pointed out is that women marry men they're not attracted to. 0.82

00:00:53.320 and I think it was some woman in the comments she was talking about how 0.97

00:00:58.080 she was like nagging her husband about like bullshit chore play whatever and I said well 1.00

00:01:03.860 you just got to eat that L because you married a man you're not attracted to 0.98

00:01:06.840 and the men in the comments they came up and they said but Pearl like that's so wrong for you to say

00:01:14.340 that because she's married she gets her house paid for like how ungrateful are you know how

00:01:20.100 ungrateful are you like describing that and on top of that um oh I remember what it was it was

00:01:26.340 because this woman married young and then realized that she could have did better later you know and 0.98

00:01:32.060 women just don't take that very well right um like imagine being a hot girl now and you marry a dorky 0.97

00:01:39.180 christian guy and then later you find out you could have you know you were as attractive as 1.00

00:01:45.180 like hailey bieber or something I mean that's like impossible now but you guys get that you get the

00:01:48.760 point. And everyone said, Pearl, like I'm unsubscribing. Not everyone. It was like one

00:01:54.180 comment, but so many times men, um, they put the lens of men onto women. So what they'll do is

00:02:05.160 they'll say, Oh, that girl won. She got married, right? She married young and she, you know,

00:02:10.940 she had a bunch of kids. How can you say that's an L? And I'm like, look, it doesn't make any 0.98

00:02:16.840 sense, but in the female psyche, do I have a marker? Do I have a marker? I got the whiteboard 0.87

00:02:23.300 out. Oh, I don't know where the marker is. It's fine. In the female psyche, it's done now. Women

00:02:28.780 would rather, I saw this like rapper guy that's like living out of his car and he's got this 0.98

00:02:34.220 little ling ling girlfriend, you know, and she's like, she's like, she's in, she's happy with the

00:02:39.040 rapper. Women are happier with exciting men living in a car than they are with boring men 0.80

00:02:48.780 that give us a stable life. I don't make the rules, you know. That's just how women view it.

00:02:55.520 And so many times like the cope that I see in society is telling women not to view it the way 1.00

00:03:00.540 that we view it. It's kind of like telling men not to like young women. Like it's like the saddest

00:03:05.340 cope. You're like, like there's Kate Hudson video recently where she said, uh, men like younger

00:03:11.320 women. Cause they don't realize that the sex drive is a higher and older women. And I'm like, no,

00:03:16.580 it's just older women have to put out more to get attention. Right. You got to make it easier, 1.00

00:03:20.960 you know? Um, and that's like a sad cope and making women, uh, like men they're not attracted 0.92

00:03:29.020 to um a lot of times is like that's just like the nice guy cope or like the beta bucks cope

00:03:36.980 now on one hand and I'm kind of spitballing with this idea because I don't know how to articulate

00:03:43.440 it women are not wrong for liking hot exciting assertive men and it is destroying society to be 0.92

00:03:54.120 fair. But women prefer the man that just says, look, I'm trying to hit it and quit it because 0.99

00:04:02.320 he's honest. Where the guy that sits in her friend zone for years, he's dishonest, right? He's

00:04:07.740 dishonest about how he feels and he's not like comfortable in his own skin. And I noticed this

00:04:13.380 with like rich men, like a lot of wealthier rich men, they're uncomfortable in their own skin. So

00:04:18.500 they work really, really hard to be successful and they're just not comfortable in who they are. 0.56

00:04:24.120 and it's almost like women would prefer to be with a man who wants less because he's comfortable

00:04:30.780 with who he is rather than someone becoming something for the world's validation it's kind

00:04:37.840 of spitballing um or even like the guy that cold approaches and goes up to women in public um

00:04:45.940 you know it's like women respect it more the guy who's not afraid and like I saw this guy

00:04:54.600 approach a girl in public and he just was not attractive um it was like in a video so you know

00:05:00.480 take this with a grain of salt but the girl was like um oh no thank you and he's like what is it

00:05:06.180 because I'm ugly and she started laughing because it kind of was right but

00:05:10.420 it's almost like he had the confidence to just like he's okay with the fact that he's ugly 0.53

00:05:18.520 you know and which makes him like more attractive to women

00:05:23.200 so um a lot of times when I'm describing these situations I'm really just describing it the way

00:05:30.800 it is like with if women collectively view marrying a boring man they're not attracted

00:05:36.060 to as an owl then it's an owl to women you can't tell the customer women are the customer 0.99

00:05:40.140 um you can't tell them they're wrong you know if men marry an old ugly fat hag I mean that's 0.99

00:05:46.520 an L to men and no matter how much the women shame it and say it shouldn't be this way like 0.99

00:05:51.440 you should like my money and my maturity yeah like women ever mature right uh it doesn't make

00:05:57.340 it not what it is um and I think the issue is this is a very difficult thing for me to accept too

00:06:04.000 um religion is trying to use jesus to make women be attracted to men that we don't actually like

00:06:15.640 for good reason right women when we whore out society crumbles you know i i'm not even blaming 0.64

00:06:20.740 and I'm not even blaming them. 0.66

00:06:26.260 But the real work, I think men, 0.57

00:06:33.680 like the real red pill for men is, 0.74

00:06:40.720 it's almost like inner work, it seems like,

00:06:43.000 where they have to be comfortable with who they are

00:06:45.580 and honest about what they want,

00:06:48.060 despite people screaming at them to not be and telling them that they ain't so i'm

00:06:53.500 curious if any of you in the comments have had that like uh canon event or like life

00:07:00.620 um event where you shifted from being uncomfortable with who you were to like

00:07:07.180 comfortable with who you were and if it changed your dating life because 0.99

00:07:10.780 well women i guess select for the 666s to me that's just like marketing and like women trying

00:07:20.020 to look good for other women i just walked past a homeless guy with it i know i made a joke last 0.84

00:07:27.640 time they're like pearl you dated a home i didn't but i walked past a real homeless guy with a

00:07:33.180 girlfriend. Like, have you seen the Appalachia or whatever documentary? That guy's on crystal

00:07:41.960 meth or some type of drug and he's got a girlfriend. So I don't know. I don't think it's

00:07:47.480 money. Maybe you're on like a time clock, but you get a, all women are subscriptions to some degree. 1.00

00:07:55.940 like I'm not with the guy I lost my virginity to no women are so aren't we all subscriptions to 0.96

00:08:03.820 some degree and it just seems like the guys that have no money get the longest subscription like

00:08:08.700 I always hear this quote well you're on a time clock everyone's on a time clock you know

00:08:13.780 oh but it's almost better to have like a subscription that's a higher quality

00:08:20.800 subscription like if you have a subscription and it's two years but you're in charge of the

00:08:26.460 relationship that's a better two-year period than a 30-year marriage well she's where she's running

00:08:32.320 the show that's why I don't like these like people that use the length of their marriage to say that

00:08:38.720 it's a good marriage because it's like uh um you could have had a long marriage

00:08:47.220 it doesn't mean that it you know if she's running it then who cares other thing one of our e-girls 0.99

00:08:56.600 is getting divorced who talks shit on me i just want to say all of my enemies they absolutely 0.99

00:09:03.660 take themselves out they take themselves out 1.00

00:09:09.820 and this was a girl who she would always say pearl sorry guys these stupid spam calls will not 1.00

00:09:20.240 they won't leave me alone um but this woman called me a whore and blah blah blah and she's like look 1.00

00:09:28.100 at me I did my marriage the right way I got married young I went from my dad's house to my 0.94

00:09:33.800 husband's house blah blah blah now she's divorcing over abuse you got to be careful 1.00

00:09:38.600 these trad e-girls will get you these conservative women they'll get you too so anyways all right 0.96

00:09:44.660 guys i love you thanks for watching like the video subscribe to the channel and i'll see you next time 0.93

Pearl - April 15, 2026

The Real Work For Men Is Internal？

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