Pearl - This Is How Christian Parents FAIL Their DAUGHTERS ｜ Pearl Daily

00:00:00.000 growing up in a christian household you do not have sex you stay abstinent i had a pregnancy

00:00:04.320 scare when i was 17. i was not pregnant but i thought i was and instead of telling my parents

00:00:09.600 i was like no it's probably better to just kill myself which i talk about that and i i say it out

00:00:15.760 loud because i know so many young women that go through the same thing that is incredible i mean

00:00:22.320 it's ideally in a perfect world a pregnancy is a happy moment right but sometimes things

00:00:27.840 aren't planned sometimes they're surprises and i think it's very unreasonable for a person to say

00:00:34.160 just don't have sex we are human beings it's literally in our dna to be attracted to each

00:00:39.280 other and to form bonds with each other and to express love with each other and you know the

00:00:45.280 answer to this what it should be in a conservative household is okay you might be pregnant it's not 1.00

00:00:50.080 the end of the world let's get married that's it problem solve solved lady just don't leave that's 1.00

00:00:56.880 it it's okay it's not the big of a deal you're an adult sex feels good you know go get married

00:01:02.640 okay let me keep going other and to simply put up a wall and say we don't acknowledge this we don't

00:01:08.880 talk about it it's dark it's sinful and shameful yeah can you tell we had a similar background oh yeah

00:01:14.400 it's not healthy no it develops a very high conflict relationship with your with your own biology

00:01:23.760 in a way sex ed is very important and in the household i grew up in there was no sex now is

00:01:30.400 sex ed important if she's entering modern dating it is so important if she's doing traditional dating she

00:01:37.760 doesn't have to worry about it modern holy crap and you got it like what what are actually and they

00:01:44.240 don't even tell them the useful stuff you know it's a good stat to know if your daughter enters modern 0.72

00:01:49.520 dating you know 90 percent of women will get hpv which can lead to cervical cancer 90 condoms don't

00:01:56.960 prevent this fully but they help a lot women aren't the most careful right i mean what's your experience 0.99

00:02:03.200 are women careful 90 now there is a vaccine against it but i do like there's a bunch of strands there's

00:02:09.920 new stis forming every day and pap smears don't necessarily like detect this stuff sometimes it doesn't

00:02:17.040 come till later women will literally get cancer and die from this and 90 percent of women get the 0.99

00:02:23.040 virus now that it doesn't always go to cancer they teach that in sex ed no uh the fact that like one

00:02:31.840 in three women has an active std one in four will get an abortion like these stats will affect your

00:02:37.280 daughters they will so you either go you go find her husband for her enforce it or encourage it the best

00:02:43.840 you can or yeah you are leaving your daughters up to failure you are and i'm not saying she will

00:02:49.040 fail some people and some women enter the modern dating market and they win that happens all the 1.00

00:02:53.600 time but at what cost how much debt how much how much of everything you know all right let me go

00:03:00.400 and by the way you know you can do everything right and because women we have these easy jobs so like 1.00

00:03:05.840 it's not like she has to listen and i want to take the responsibility off of you like fathers because

00:03:12.160 you can't like the world your daughter is free will and you can't stop her if she wants to go be a 0.95

00:03:17.600 whore but if you don't give her the choice like if you don't go find a husband and at least like 1.00

00:03:23.760 give her the choice you can't say you did everything that like you could have you can't like there you 0.97

00:03:29.200 guys know what goes on in college you guys all went to college i mean you can give her in better

00:03:32.880 environments like you can look for schools if i was a dad and i didn't want to find an arranged marriage or

00:03:38.640 i didn't think my daughter would listen what i would do is i would go find a school that has

00:03:43.840 like very husbandly like jobs where there's more men than women too that's what i would do and has a 1.00

00:03:51.440 lot of stem jobs there's there's different choices we have here okay next we're gonna go off of these

00:03:57.280 purity rings again like again the purity ring is like a performance it's a show it's like to save your

00:04:03.680 reputation it's signaling for everyone else you know virginity it should be a private thing for 0.99

00:04:09.600 you and your husband and not really used for clout so this is a woman talking about her mother giving 0.76

00:04:15.120 her a purity ring and this is the dads find this weird this is really pushed on by the mothers mostly

00:04:21.040 forget the absolute guilt and shame that i felt at 17 years old when my mother made me take my purity

00:04:32.000 ring off my finger and give it back to her so in the spirit of this whole you know using the creator

00:04:40.880 insights to tell you you know what people are searching for on tick tock and what you want to

00:04:47.760 hear purity ring was one of them and boy do i have a story for you okay so like many of you i was raised in

00:04:57.920 a good old christian household aka a incredibly hypocritical household where it was do as i say

00:05:06.880 not as i do so i think i started hearing about purity rings when i was 11 years old and in the church

00:05:14.000 that i grew up in it was very much like oh this is a cool thing this is very exciting you want to be a

00:05:20.240 part of this you want to stand up in front of the entire church and claim your virginity publicly

00:05:30.160 for the whole congregation god that made me so excited to be proud of to be a part of so in the

00:05:36.320 church that i grew up in which was called non-denominational but it was very much evangelical

00:05:41.440 christianity you were not allowed to be part of the purity ring ceremony that took place entire in

00:05:47.760 front of the entire congregation until you were a teenager it was 13 when you were allowed to be a

00:05:54.560 part of this what now i know is a very culty ceremony but oh the hype they created around it

00:06:01.440 like they wanted you to tell your friends and they wanted you to be proud and like the boys in the church

00:06:06.960 knew that the girls that were wearing the purity ring were the ones that they were going to try to 1.00

00:06:11.040 marry one day it was all very weird but i was in for it i was sold on this purity ring idea so in the

00:06:18.720 christian culture they put such an emphasis on virginity like so that i mean they literally talked

00:06:25.920 about it like tainted property i mean my own father would say why buy the cow when you can get milk for

00:06:32.080 free well i didn't want to be the cow i wanted to be the prize that was won because they had convinced me

00:06:39.200 that this was a good idea so i think my mom got me my purity ring when i was 40. see again why buy the

00:06:46.640 cow when you can get the milk for free what are they saying the only thing you have to offer is sex

00:06:52.160 weaponize sex to get what you want teen if i remember correctly and i wore that ring so proudly 0.82

00:07:00.000 but you weren't allowed to be a part of the actual ceremony where you like wear the white dress and you 0.94

00:07:06.320 get up there and you make this like public declaration that you're gonna save yourself

00:07:10.720 for your husband in front of the entire church body um when you're 16 when you're 16 is when

00:07:16.880 you're allowed to do that well in the meantime those couple of years i started dating for the

00:07:21.680 first time i had my first boyfriend i was so in love but he was a good christian boy too

00:07:28.080 so we were gonna wait right so we waited in fact we waited two years for the value of the story

00:07:35.520 because i thought it was important back then he was also a virgin so you know you've got two

00:07:40.720 holy children just waiting on the lord okay in all seriousness i did see value in waiting i didn't want

00:07:48.400 to you know to share those intimate personal parts of myself with just anybody but me and said boy

00:07:54.880 dated for two years before we decided to do that so me being the very honest person that i am and

00:08:05.280 always leaning into what my mother told me which was you can come talk to me about anything i will

00:08:12.640 never judge you i will always be here for you you can literally share anything with your mother i hope

00:08:17.760 you know that right i think a lot of parents have said that to their children but do they really mean it

00:08:22.160 i remember where i was standing when i told my mother that i had lost my virginity i was in the

00:08:29.200 living room of the house that i grew up in and i so she's 17 in this she's been with her boyfriend

00:08:34.720 for two years if you find out your daughter had sex with her boyfriend after two years is it that big

00:08:40.720 of a deal okay that's fine when's the wedding that's it it's not that it's normal okay said mom i need

00:08:48.480 to tell you something she could tell by the tone in my voice and the look on my face that it was

00:08:53.840 something more serious and that i was getting ready to be really vulnerable with her so i did i opened

00:08:59.440 up and i said mom this last weekend i lost my virginity to my boyfriend you know that we've been

00:09:05.360 together for almost two and a half years and i i want to be honest with you and i want to be able to

00:09:11.360 have these conversations with you because you've told me that i can talk to you about anything and she

00:09:16.080 looked at me with the most disgusted look on her face and said give it to me i said give you what 1.00

00:09:23.200 your purity ring yeah so now what's her first experience with sex shame again back in the day 0.99

00:09:30.160 they would just get married but the thing is it's the mother's wanting to control the sex drive 1.00

00:09:35.840 that's what they're trying to do apparently the chat says one blow job she's not a virgin anymore 1.00

00:09:41.760 that's how men see it ladies we try to get all these workarounds i was like wait what do you mean 0.89

00:09:49.920 she said well i guess i'll be calling the pastors and telling them that you won't be participating

00:09:56.560 in the upcoming purity ring ceremony at church so instantly guilt shame this is what religion

00:10:05.280 is so good about guilt and shame around your purity really guilt and shape around anything in that

00:10:14.160 moment i learned really quickly that i could not trust my mom with wait rollo got divorced she 0.58

00:10:22.160 apparently doesn't know rollo got divorced oh that's so sad no is that true could you guys check in the

00:10:28.000 chat that can't be true anything that she would in fact judge me if i shared any truth with her i've

00:10:36.880 heard story after story after story from women that grew up the same way that i did that were basically 0.99

00:10:43.360 taught that their body look i i understand shame can be a good thing like we should shame women that 1.00

00:10:49.920 are in public okay that's that's shameful we should shame women that are just going for to get better and 0.96

00:10:55.760 better men and just treating men like they're disposable but shaming a woman for having sex

00:11:01.920 with her boyfriend that she loves i mean like the shameful behavior you have to understand it's not

00:11:07.440 the sex the shameful behavior is leaving which is usually women dump their high school boyfriends okay 0.98

00:11:14.320 that's the general consensus i took the data of 80 almost conservative women to find their average age of 0.98

00:11:22.960 first marriage and it's pretty much the same some of these are just guessing based on what i found

00:11:29.200 online but like like for example lila rose age of first marriage 30. so she shames men for sleeping 1.00

00:11:36.080 around but she got married at 30. do you guys believe that she lost her virginity on her wedding night

00:11:41.440 three kids which really isn't okay that above average age of first child 31. you risked autism

00:11:49.440 for your children so you could around totally fine i'm not saying you should or shouldn't she did

00:11:54.240 take her husband's last name she is still married currently but it's only been six years so god only knows

00:12:02.400 which is the next clip i wanted to react to um

00:12:09.520 all right justin do you ever see yourself getting married no not on paper no so this is the player

00:12:16.720 and these are the conservatives trying to shame the player for exercising the only power he has in

00:12:24.160 society other women absolutely not i believe in love and marriage and in regards to taking care 0.99

00:12:29.120 of a woman fully and you're this spreadsheet's given a bit of autism shut the fuck up i'm sorry 1.00

00:12:34.560 responsibilities of the father and a provider and protector 100 in fact i think that's probably what's 0.94

00:12:39.200 broken about the world but in regards to letting the state get into all my businesses that took me

00:12:43.840 over a decade to build absolutely not no how do you how do you think you're gonna get to the

00:12:48.960 place of that marriage you want with that family and that lifelong love they just i didn't say i

00:12:54.960 didn't have family or children i just said i'm in your business oh i see okay so you want to keep it

00:12:59.680 private is what you're saying that's what i said do you justin has i might have multiple family oh you

00:13:06.160 never know i might like family more than you so much i have five do you think that's a good thing to

00:13:10.240 have multiple families i think it's good if there's one dad and there's not a bunch of step

00:13:13.840 parents involved and the dad can be the hero and those five families live a 10x better life than

00:13:17.760 they would have otherwise yes ma'am i do but you don't think that it will be ultimately a an opportunity

00:13:24.240 for jealousy or disharmony amongst women are always gonna be jealous so yeah so this is like she's doing a

00:13:29.200 typical female shaming tactic i mean do you guys love that passive aggressive voice of women trying to 1.00

00:13:35.200 guilt you for things you don't think it's you don't think you're putting your work above your family

00:13:41.360 by doing your job you don't think you don't think you did yeah and this is why they're the same

00:13:47.600 she's just got like a dress on you know what i mean what's changed about that women have been jealous 1.00

00:13:53.360 all the way through time i'm not jealous in my marriage i don't care about your marriage i'm talking

00:13:57.280 about mine well my life is going to be so i don't answer to you so that's my answer i'm gonna run my

00:14:03.280 my situation exactly how i want to and generally when i do that that's when i have the most happiness

00:14:10.000 let's say in my life so that's all and you would want that for your daughters yeah yeah i i live my

00:14:17.440 life unapologetically on my terms so if my daughters that are overly spoiled and and educated in every 1.00

00:14:23.600 way and have friends all over the world and world traveled in the best schools in the world if they

00:14:27.040 have a problem with me at the end of the day then they can kick rocks too i i'm not going to

00:14:30.640 scent for my daughters i'll love them fully but if they grow up and turn into a person that doesn't

00:14:35.360 want to get in line with me or at least look here's my goal as a parent teach my children how

00:14:39.920 the world works give them the skills so they can live on their own terms and give them choice if

00:14:44.320 they choose not to make me part of their life after i've given them those things i've still succeeded

00:14:47.920 as a father but i guess i'm asking if you're comfortable answering obviously but are you wanting

00:14:52.320 to be a role model for your kids is that so now she's shaming right she's like you're not a role model 1.00

00:14:57.280 bitch can we justin waller built like a giant company and he had to work 10 times as hard you 1.00

00:15:03.840 you you got caught embezzling money and you're gonna say because he likes hot women with big 1.00

00:15:09.280 tits don't all men watch you guys like hot women with big tits one in the chat you're saying because 1.00

00:15:14.400 he he doesn't he told his wife i'm not going to be monogamous and she accepted it or his girlfriend 0.99

00:15:20.320 whatever because because she accepted that she said okay i love you i'm staying i'm gonna be

00:15:26.800 monogamous too even though you're not she's the the wife that's a choice but the thing is conservatives

00:15:34.000 hate when men use sexuality for their benefit they only like it when it benefits the woman 0.95

00:15:40.000 it's why they don't shame older marriage it's why they don't shame it's why they shame porn it's why they

00:15:46.320 shame anything that gives men power a thousand percent a father should show up in every way for

00:15:50.960 his children i think i'll be better than most fathers regardless of how many children i have

00:15:54.720 i might have a hundred but you think part of being a role model it's okay for your kids not to know even

00:15:59.600 their your relationship status with their own mom they will know the relationship status with me and

00:16:04.080 their mother but you have other relationships with other women what does that have to do with

00:16:07.520 anything but i'm just wondering if you think i haven't even said that i'm just saying like if i want to i

00:16:11.840 will but you don't think that's a problem for your dog yeah do you hear it like conservatives hate

00:16:16.880 that if i want to i will because they're so used to being able to control their husbands if i want to 1.00

00:16:24.240 i will older marriages ascent well what do you think they're doing before this older marriage god you

00:16:30.400 guys are oh my god the christian simps amaze me even in my own chat i thought you were better they 0.97

00:16:38.640 also want to control how you have sex you know you're not allowed to get a gluck gluck five 0.99

00:16:42.160 thousand from your wife if the man in the jesus hat says not to can you imagine you're like honey

00:16:47.920 i want to gluck gluck and she says no the jesus man says we can't so they say they don't admit like

00:16:54.400 justin's wife obeys him lila obeys whatever priest that's the difference

Pearl - February 19, 2025

This Is How Christian Parents FAIL Their DAUGHTERS ｜ Pearl Daily

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