Pearl - November 07, 2026


Traditional Husband Thinks He's SAFE From Divorce

“MY WIFE OBEYS ME!”- Married Man Gets a SAVAGE Reality Check Pearl Says FATHERS Are More NURTURING Than Mothers

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00:00:00.000 you can't have a traditional marriage i would say like you're right about a lot of things that you
00:00:05.400 know the divorce and the alimony and the child support skews it so that you like it's hard
00:00:10.680 it's difficult maybe you're just talking about america right but i would say like if one person
00:00:17.880 in the world has a traditional marriage then that statement can't be true right like you just need
00:00:23.220 one exception because you said you can't right because it's only as traditional as she allows
00:00:27.840 it to be so that means she has the final say right but like you have to have you have to have
00:00:33.040 enforcement so how can a man enforce traditionalism it's really i think traditionalism nowadays is a
00:00:38.400 marketing tool it's a marketing tool um that women use when it's convenient so and you see that
00:00:43.360 because um it's used to market and then it goes away so i hear you and i do business right i have
00:00:49.760 a solar business so i'm always entering contracts i'm usually like taking advantage of right i like
00:00:55.280 try to make my contracts better next time yeah and a lot of times when i enter contracts like
00:00:59.780 someone has the upper hand yeah but um and that's kind of what a contract is it's like you're always
00:01:06.280 framing on each other you're like flexing on each other like who has more power here
00:01:10.000 right and that's one of the quotes i like about power like typically the the person who's the
00:01:14.420 most calm in the room has the most power right like who has the least to lose i think that's
00:01:19.580 chase hughes i watch him on youtube and he says that right like who has the least to lose is going
00:01:23.700 to be the most calm in that situation so my point there is if i had less to lose not calm in every
00:01:31.900 situation i'd be surprised yeah no no i'm married well i'm saying like i'm not surprised well
00:01:38.020 but i'm saying i love my wife yeah no but i'm saying like women are not called sorry i interrupted
00:01:43.020 you go ahead my point was that like you you have lots of contracts in life and sometimes the
00:01:48.800 contract someone really does have the upper hand like for example with me i can't do solar installs
00:01:54.840 without like the bank funding me so like low-key if they cut me off like my business is screwed so
00:02:00.560 i'm kind of like placating and playing their game all the time so you could argue like well if you
00:02:05.280 know the woman has less to lose then i always have to placate to her right but specifically in my 0.98
00:02:12.100 marriage i would argue that my wife has more to lose and so she has to placate to me how does she
00:02:17.560 have more to lose
00:02:18.800 well she loves me my kids love me um for now right at the moment yeah yeah like i mean it's
00:02:27.420 it's dark but it's true right but don't i mean all power dynamics shift what do you mean so like i
00:02:32.820 could have the upper hand now and then she might have it later she has it always why because it's
00:02:38.960 based on her feelings you just said it's based on her love well you're saying based it's based
00:02:44.200 on the facts that she always has the upper hand always if she wants to leave tomorrow you're
00:02:48.720 cooked right i think if she left tomorrow i think she'd have more to lose than i would have to lose
00:02:52.960 really you don't think that losing your kids would be like the ultimate you know what are the chances 0.85
00:02:58.860 she takes my kids pretty high if she wants to cooked what state are you in california oh yeah 1.00
00:03:04.900 mega cooked sound like 50 50 uh is she a housewife yeah oh no i'd put her to work immediately 1.00
00:03:11.660 What if she has like a nanny? 1.00
00:03:14.500 Does she have a job? 1.00
00:03:15.760 No.
00:03:16.380 Correct.
00:03:17.060 What if on paper she has a job? 0.94
00:03:18.560 That would be a smart idea.
00:03:20.300 She works for my company. 1.00
00:03:21.840 I'd pay her more. 1.00
00:03:23.080 I think she gets paid more than me.
00:03:25.600 That's smart. 0.97
00:03:26.260 So I could position it.
00:03:27.940 You see what I'm saying?
00:03:28.460 This man's planning ahead of time.
00:03:30.060 He's like, look, right now she makes more than me already. 0.87
00:03:33.160 She already gets more time with the kids.
00:03:34.860 I'm adding that. 0.98
00:03:35.900 Look, if she... 0.99
00:03:37.060 So you take your money out of your bank account. 0.94
00:03:39.180 you put it in the life insurance drop my salary down to 60 rise hers up to 150 yeah which would 0.95
00:03:45.340 be good until she plays this in court shit then you're gonna have zero i'm not worried about it 0.94
00:03:50.000 man i'm not worried babe yeah but that's you just i mean how old are you 29 yeah i mean you can't 0.98
00:03:55.400 foresee how it's gonna go i mean there's i've met couples that are super in love and like i thought
00:04:00.900 their wife was perfect and i'm sure you have too you know uh or you if you haven't you will soon
00:04:07.140 just wait and then you see them get divorced and you see the woman take their kids like i i literally
00:04:12.900 there's one i'm thinking of now i was looking through our old messages with the guy and he's
00:04:18.260 saying my wife would know i i have a word for my wife would never do that hasn't seen his kids in
00:04:22.420 nine months so you just don't know you just don't yeah like what about like if she wants to she can
00:04:28.580 and she will i hear you and you're talking about like the legal system in america well because in
00:04:34.020 in california um i mean you can be put on child support for a kid that's not even yours so if you
00:04:39.020 found out your kid wasn't yours if it's over the age of two you have to pay child support for 18
00:04:42.860 years that's a lot of leverage that's fraud it's not illegal no problem if you find out he's not
00:04:47.060 yours you still gotta pay so if you yep over the why because you didn't it's the best interest of
00:04:52.280 that yeah it's the best interest of the child doctrine so it's like because it's in the best
00:04:56.000 interest of the child and that convenient that's kind of weird it's pretty sure i'm positive so
00:05:01.660 Like, if it's not my kid, you can make me pay for it?
00:05:03.740 Yes.
00:05:04.360 That happens all the time.
00:05:06.100 Why?
00:05:06.360 And it's because it's in the best interest of the child?
00:05:07.840 Yes.
00:05:08.360 Can't, like, anyone pay his child support because it's in the best interest of the child?
00:05:10.980 No, it's who's on the – I could pull up on my laptop the legal doctrine,
00:05:14.460 but it's something with whoever signs the birth certificate.
00:05:18.720 So, I mean, nowadays, men – I mean, have you paternity tested your kid?
00:05:21.820 You know what?
00:05:22.140 That's probably too personal.
00:05:22.600 My kids are definitely mine.
00:05:23.560 Pearl, we don't do personal attacks here.
00:05:26.100 I'm sorry.
00:05:26.360 I didn't mean to –
00:05:26.920 We got rid of our friend, and I'm not – I'm going to call him Malcolm X.
00:05:30.120 I won't do it again. 1.00
00:05:30.900 i show you a picture of my kids yeah but women have types that doesn't mean they're definitely 0.99
00:05:34.420 mine it doesn't mean the davenport blood is strong women but women have types so like you never know
00:05:39.460 but that's it but what i what i the reason i'm the reason i'm saying it looks just like me i
00:05:43.140 i doesn't matter women have types they date the same type of guys no like no one looks like like 0.61
00:05:47.860 exactly like me yeah i meet guys that look like you all the time i'm special what the hell are 0.55
00:05:53.860 you doing to me no but i'm saying like like my point is just to show especially white guys are 0.58
00:05:58.500 they're very good nature they would believe the best my wife would never it's just like you guys
00:06:02.220 are like that so they never paternity test their kids even though nowadays like there's no reason
00:06:06.860 to not but they just won't do it so that's that's leverage she has um putting you on alimony and 1.00
00:06:11.920 especially a stay-at-home the like longer she waits to divorce the bigger the alimony the more
00:06:16.940 she can take like imagine if you're married for like because they one debate i did they said the
00:06:22.060 average marriage was 20 years not 10 or something i'm like that's worse can you imagine being like
00:06:26.640 40 or 50 and getting divorced and now you have to start over i'd much rather get divorced at like 30.
00:06:32.320 you get you lose more money you're more fat yeah and so the older you get like you're gonna be
00:06:37.760 richer right you're gonna you're gonna have more social status you're gonna have more like as you
00:06:42.720 go through life i'm sure you're competent intelligent i'm sure you're gonna be better
00:06:45.920 in every way and that means you have more to lose and i think it's pretty reasonable to kind of
00:06:51.600 placate if, you know, if she starts acting different, uh, to her, I think it's reasonable.
00:06:57.380 I don't even blame guys for doing it, but it's just, you can't be traditional because it's just
00:07:02.860 as long as she feels like it, because like, let's say you want to tell her, um, like maybe let's
00:07:08.700 pretend you're religious. If you're not, this is just for the, yeah. So, and she wants to not go
00:07:14.120 to church anymore. And you say, we're going to church that can be construed in court as religious
00:07:17.980 abuse because of the Duluth model. They expand the definition of abuse. So abuse used to mean
00:07:22.740 one party was hitting the other. When people want to confuse you, they change the definition of
00:07:26.220 things. So what feminists did is the Duluth model is based on the man having more power and control 1.00
00:07:34.360 and automatically is the abuser. So if a man requires his wife to go to church, that can be 1.00
00:07:40.020 construed as abuse in court and you could be a religious abuser. And now she can tell all your
00:07:44.360 friends she could definitely say that yeah it wouldn't make it true to go to church too right
00:07:49.040 now for now so i guess my question for you would be i mean fundamentally i agree because i mean
00:07:54.640 we've seen who the the epstein files are out right who runs america who runs the world who
00:07:59.960 runs the banks right so like if you want to argue that like society is fundamentally flawed
00:08:04.520 and it's going to be you know against me that's pretty reasonable but what about like can i create
00:08:09.660 my own society what if i go to a different country and i drop my citizenship or i create a micro
00:08:13.780 community or you know what if religion's more important and more impactful than the legal 0.93
00:08:18.920 process you can try but i mean even the amish women run away like i forgot what percent of 0.91
00:08:26.440 amish because the trads i'm so tired of these selling dreams i just hate i i think it's mean 0.82
00:08:31.320 so that like the trad say oh the amish community's growing and i can't remember what they always do
00:08:37.760 this they say some statistic and there's always a catch i'm like there's no way and it's
00:08:43.780 they don't they include the people that leave in that statistic so like when they go on rump
00:08:48.180 scrum springer they'll come back right what half and a half come back like half leave i don't 0.87
00:08:53.460 remember what it is but i'm like she's nodding maybe that's right but i'm saying like women are
00:08:59.620 they an exception to this rule who someone who is participating in amish who chooses to stay 0.99
00:09:06.100 uh no because she can still leave and then join society and then get a bunch of power so it's a 0.80
00:09:11.460 a traditional it's a traditional marriage we're going for right it's it's illegal today you can't 0.99
00:09:16.860 do it right so for you like if the woman can leave it's not traditional or if there's not
00:09:21.160 significant consequences to that if the woman has leverage it's not traditional right but can you
00:09:26.720 have a lot of the other things that are nice about traditional you can cosplay but it doesn't make 0.94
00:09:31.280 it real like for example in in california i had a contract with one of my buddies that he was going
00:09:37.020 to come to california he was going to work full-time for me i was going to give him fifty thousand
00:09:40.140 dollars salary now it's like our our agreement as gentlemen i'm doing a startup so like that's
00:09:45.360 fair enough that's all i can afford then later he finds out and i find out that the legal minimum
00:09:49.880 for salaries in california is seventy thousand dollars like if we could choose to stick to our
00:09:55.620 original agreement like as men and be like you know california is not going to arbitrate morality
00:10:00.300 for us and we can arbitrate morality for ourselves so you have two choices when society is not going
00:10:04.700 your way one is you reform it which you've kind of said you can't and you're giving up the other
00:10:09.940 as you leave right you get on your boat and you go to the promised land and you start a new society
00:10:14.500 so like we could do that we could is it probable yeah i'm i'm looking at it like indonesia vietnam
00:10:21.700 good luck yeah and so then then there'd be an exception to your rule so it might just be an
00:10:26.020 american problem are there traditional marriages in other countries not really nowhere because 1.00
00:10:31.140 feminism is too strong social media cooked it now now you can download you can be anywhere about 1.00
00:10:37.460 North Korea man I don't know enough about North Korea so we don't know maybe it's there and is 1.00
00:10:46.040 that factor that the woman like the no-fault divorce thing and they they can it's to their 1.00
00:10:50.800 advantage to leave like is that really what undermines traditional marriages marriage 0.96
00:10:55.580 therefore not worth it there's like 10 things it was worth it for who right like Travis Kelsey
00:11:02.180 kind of made sense to marry Taylor Swift gave him a way bigger brand that kind of I kind of
00:11:06.800 i'm maybe i'm a little she's got to find a woman that's kind of like a man well there's pros and
00:11:12.000 cons because you know there's problems with that too so there's there's no like you as a man have
00:11:17.040 to decide what works for you like you but there's no guarantee right there's no and it's actually
00:11:24.480 unlikely you'll succeed because if you factor into if you take 50 year marriages and factor in
00:11:30.480 obesity like you don't want your wife to get super fat right that's probably cooked um if she's not
00:11:35.200 sleeping with you that's probably cooked if she you know if she leaves you that's cooked obviously
00:11:41.040 i mean the success of marriage is 20 at best about it's probably closer to 10 if you include 0.99
00:11:47.200 all of the like you know right but i was talking to my this lady next to me on the airplane this
00:11:52.000 morning it's like having kids is awful it's probably like the worst thing that could happen
00:11:55.920 to you like no no human being wants to not sleep let me finish sorry like it's it's awful like the
00:12:01.920 consequences the cost the not sleeping at night your wife's postpartum then she's like got her
00:12:07.100 hormones messed up for a year then you get her pregnant again my wife's had three kids in like
00:12:10.820 four or five years she's either pregnant or postpartum like the consequences are huge and
00:12:15.480 yet i still would do it more because the blessings were worth it you know what i'm saying like yes
00:12:20.580 literally bringing a child into the world is the only thing that could possibly be worth the
00:12:24.820 consequences so i'd argue that marriage is still worth it and it's still traditional in our sense
00:12:29.500 because we're religious and that supersedes our the the legal laws well what do you get out of
00:12:34.380 marriage that you can't get out of a girlfriend that lives with you what's the difference um for
00:12:39.600 for one simple one is like keeping god's commandments like that's pretty easy yeah but
00:12:45.140 when does god say you have to be married with the state that's valid and all and there's actually
00:12:50.540 laws on the books that say um in certain states if it's illegal for the pastor or the preacher
00:12:57.400 or the priest to not um tell illegal what not do a legal marriage no yet to not tell the state
00:13:03.240 i could look it up it's on my lap right you can't do like yeah really you have to report it to the
00:13:07.520 state that's probably the answer is the i felt the same thing about gay marriage right it's like 0.93
00:13:12.340 the government just shouldn't be participating in but it is so therefore right but i think that's 0.98
00:13:16.800 a better answer than like let's not i hear you but you i'm saying it doesn't exist like you can
00:13:21.080 cosplay but it's not real well so let's go to a state where marriage is is a religious thing it's
00:13:25.000 not but they keep you can't predict how the laws will go in the future but if there are states 0.95
00:13:29.360 right now like women are yeah but women are getting more power and it's only going to get 0.94
00:13:33.300 worse there's no indication this is getting better it's getting every year i look around 1.00
00:13:37.680 everyone's fatter everyone's dumber everyone's like it's just there's more hookers like it's 1.00
00:13:42.140 just getting worse like there's more indians living in our neighborhoods you know it's just 1.00
00:13:46.780 everything's getting my life's getting better individually right but that's what there's kind 1.00
00:13:52.440 of like a wheat's first terror shifting thing here and you can choose which one you want to be on
00:13:56.280 what i mean i'm sure it's good for you no i like i look at my hometown it's completely different
00:14:01.400 i'm gonna be you yeah what are you talking about is your life good are you okay man you're trying
00:14:06.060 to derail me but all these questions that don't matter like my point is i'm not trying to sell a
00:14:12.040 dream here i'm trying to be honest and if we're being honest like you can cosplay but it's not
00:14:16.480 traditional because of the laws and if you go to a different state a lot of times the laws change
00:14:21.240 because you know all the legislators have to cater to the women so they'll say my husband's not
00:14:26.520 marrying me i can't put him on alimony and child support could you make could you make a law so i
00:14:32.380 can in case we get and you're starting to see that you're seeing more lawsuits happen right
00:14:35.980 men'll date women for a while and now they're suing them they're like we're not getting married
00:14:40.480 now these women come in and these high status men get sued and the other thing too is you really 0.55
00:14:45.680 can't tell if you have a traditional woman until after she has the last kid because it's not till
00:14:49.980 as many kids as she wants they usually don't switch up till after the kids like two to five
00:14:54.060 so if she wants one kid it's like two years after that so you just want yeah i guess we have
00:14:59.020 different roles like yours yours is to be authentic and real and accurate accurate and my 0.98
00:15:03.560 role is to be happy and have and like get my own little world and figure out how to make this shit
00:15:08.280 work right yeah and i i hope you can but i you know i won't predict it i'm not a statistic yeah 0.56
00:15:15.060 Well, a lot, I've had a lot of people, you know, the last guy that told me that was around
00:15:20.380 your age and look just like you.
00:15:22.580 So I hope it's, I hope it's not you though.
00:15:25.700 I hope it's not.
00:15:26.700 That's the thing.
00:15:27.140 I don't wish this to be, but like, I just can't lie about it.
00:15:30.600 So I have to be honest.
00:15:32.100 You can't today.
00:15:33.060 It's impossible.
00:15:33.940 You can't have it.
00:15:35.000 Okay.
00:15:35.720 Well, there we have it.
00:15:36.800 Any final thoughts, my good friend?
00:15:38.980 Um, yeah, like I have a traditional marriage.
00:15:41.500 My wife obeys me. 1.00
00:15:42.980 She's really hot. 0.99
00:15:43.940 I love her.
00:15:44.640 My kids are beautiful.
00:15:46.020 I'll continue to document it.
00:15:47.800 If America gets too weird, I will do it in another country, and we'll make our marriage simply religious, and I'll keep you updated. 0.52
00:15:56.240 Yeah, well, I would caution men against praising women too much, even their wives, because they might believe it, and then you're cooked. 0.69
00:16:03.900 All right. 0.82