Pearl - We Asked Dallas ＂How Traditional Is Your Relationship？＂

00:00:00.160 I'm in a relationship. I would say it's more traditional. No, he protects and provides.

00:00:05.080 He protects and provides. For me. For you. I'm a lady. He's right here on my bag.

00:00:09.860 Oh, so you're into Asian guys, huh? You can say that. 0.98

00:00:12.920 All right, what's your advice for people that want to find love?

00:00:18.120 Don't. I gotta make my money. I'm just prostituting myself for money right here.

00:00:23.100 What's up, guys? Welcome to my YouTube channel. Today, we are in Deep Ellum, Texas,

00:00:27.260 and we are going to be asking the people on their street what their thoughts are on obedience

00:00:31.820 and all things relationships. Make sure you like the video and before we start

00:00:36.020 we want to do an event in your city so make sure you fill out the google form in the description

00:00:41.900 in order to apply for us to come to your city. Traditional or partnership? Yeah. What kind of

00:00:48.000 partnership? So when you're dating you're beautiful obviously so when you're dating on the marketplace

00:00:54.760 I'm sure men would want to know are you looking for more of a traditional relationship or a

00:00:58.480 partnership so equal or like submitting to a man um I'm more of a one-man gal but um I did just get

00:01:07.000 out of like a five-year relationship oh really yeah what happened five years my grandma died

00:01:12.080 that made the relationship yeah really did you not come to the funeral or what no

00:01:16.940 no he came um there's still like a lot of love and respect there between the two of us but we

00:01:24.000 just kind of realized that like we had a lot to work on on our own so kind of like that so i'm

00:01:30.620 not dating okay so who ended it him or you he broke up with me oh he broke up with you and he

00:01:35.600 said it was because your grandma there's a lot there's a lot behind it there's a lot behind it

00:01:40.780 i'm at fault too um i'm probably more at fault than he is honestly but crash out no i don't

00:01:47.100 crash out okay so you didn't then i have a lot of control over my own emotions um but no like

00:01:53.460 there's just a there's just a lot behind the scenes okay yeah so next time around are you

00:02:01.160 are you religious um I have faith you have faith but not I'm not tied down to one specific religion

00:02:08.760 I do have faith though so I guess in your next relationship are you looking for more of a

00:02:13.180 traditional relationship or a modern relationship um like do you cook clean or is it do you want to

00:02:20.260 make your own money and you know do sort of an equal type of thing i think that i don't think

00:02:25.100 there's like much like eat like equal because like you know a man should be a man a woman should

00:02:30.400 be a woman obviously but like i just we should both do our parts yeah and you know we you know

00:02:38.740 when someone is only able to give 30 and the other puts in that 70 and just kind of build each other

00:02:45.580 I believe that it's not really like you're a man go take out the trash or like you're a woman you

00:02:51.540 need to be cooking having a meal out every night like it's it's equal okay so you want more of an

00:02:58.480 equal relationship and a relationship full of effort on both sides effort okay what is your

00:03:06.040 ideal guy what's your I don't have an ideal guy no type at all so we look at your exes there's

00:03:11.760 no patterns someone i can just laugh with okay so you like the funny guys yeah like comedian

00:03:21.520 not a comedian okay personality funny caring kind yeah well great um what's your instagram

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00:03:41.920 Cool

00:03:42.940 Thank you girl 0.91

00:03:43.820 Have a good one

00:03:44.940 What's going on sir

00:03:49.020 Are you guys a couple?

00:03:50.200 No we're not

00:03:51.180 Friends?

00:03:51.980 Are you guys looking for love?

00:03:54.080 No

00:03:54.500 Maybe

00:03:56.360 Maybe you're looking for love?

00:03:58.260 Maybe

00:03:58.600 So we're asking people what kind of relationships they're looking for

00:04:02.140 more traditional relationships or modern um i'm in a relationship i would say it's more traditional

00:04:08.440 more traditional like you protect and provide or no he protects and provides and he protects

00:04:14.360 and provides for me for you i'm a lady do you cook and clean then um i do a little bit yeah we

00:04:21.080 eat out a lot yeah what about you i'm more intraditional so you cook and you clean and

00:04:26.920 then you want him to pay the bills we hire outside outsource but yeah he does pay the bills

00:04:32.500 okay do you mean so you said we currently i thought you're single no i am single but i mean

00:04:37.480 i'm dating okay cool so what is your ideal guy like do you have a certain type something you're

00:04:44.320 looking for no i mean whatever i like what i like which is tall guys short guys white latino black

00:04:53.160 like what's your character speaks volume okay so are you looking for a more religious guy

00:04:57.700 uh character okay yeah so it tells the truth is honest yeah religion isn't really synonymous

00:05:03.220 to character to me would you be obedient to a guy maybe yes maybe okay yeah okay if he if he

00:05:11.820 asks i might follow you might follow only if depends on the guy okay yeah okay cool thank

00:05:18.340 you guys so much appreciate it are you guys a couple yes how long have you been together

00:05:23.320 four months and how did you guys meet work work who made the first move uh me probably yeah really

00:05:32.120 and did you like him immediately i would say it like grew over time honestly were you guys nervous

00:05:37.420 you're gonna lose your job at all no no no it's not that kind of job no it's pretty common honestly

00:05:42.900 there's like other people that do i'm like all right well so if people want to find love what's

00:05:47.280 the industry they should join what do you think i don't know well what's the industry you guys

00:05:53.620 found it that's what i was food industry like food service oh that just seems to always happen

00:05:58.200 in the food industry someone just people just keep dating each other really like the cooks

00:06:02.980 and the servers or oh yeah yeah that's what i would say servers bar and what's the messiest

00:06:09.400 thing you've seen happen i've seen a manager get with a server yeah and then the server got fired

00:06:20.880 but the manager did it until later and i'm like oh really yeah of course she was a girl they fired

00:06:25.940 her first so kind of like same thing it's like the head chef dating a younger server or hostess

00:06:31.620 it's kind of weird and the chef was married oh he was so he was cheating at work yes

00:06:37.260 what kind of relationship do you guys have is it more modern or like equal or would you say it's

00:06:43.180 more traditional um i would say maybe modern slightly traditional he pays for a lot of things

00:06:49.160 he wants to like provide for me and different stuff and he's forcing me to pay for everything

00:06:53.500 would you like her to you know make it more 50 50 or are you happy to do it uh no i'd say i'm happy

00:07:00.060 to do it i think um as long as both parties are putting like a hundred so i make a little bit

00:07:06.620 more money than her so i'm able to buy other things and then when it's like ice cream and

00:07:11.420 tea and i'm like all right cool she's playing so are you a server then if she gets good tips are

00:07:18.180 you like yeah i mean he doesn't even know i'm like no i'm a server and then um she'll know

00:07:27.240 when i'm making i have a good night and she'll see that and she's like all right we're gonna go 1.00

00:07:31.740 while tonight and uh one time uh these two older ladies were flirting with me and it felt a little 0.99

00:07:37.680 bit weird but then they gave me a hundred and i was like yeah whatever you want and so that night 0.98

00:07:42.760 we went out for sushi and i was like thank the old ladies babe don't thank me yeah i'm always

00:07:46.320 telling her i said flirt with them you know serve you some more flirt with them oh so you're not

00:07:50.440 jealous as long as oh no i mean they're older than me they're like what is that is she no i don't

00:07:55.440 think so i don't think she is for the most part because she knows it's a job and i gotta make my

00:08:00.640 money. I'm just prostituting myself for money right here. All right. Well, thank you guys.

00:08:05.400 You were great. What, um, last, before you go, what's your advice to people that want to find

00:08:10.440 love out there? Be honest, be open. I don't know. I think, uh, being like empathetic and

00:08:19.040 kind of just like, yeah, have kindness to people, you know? I mean, everyone kind of is like,

00:08:26.440 i feel like out for themselves or think like oh yeah like it's gonna suck for men dating or it

00:08:31.180 sucks for women dating but like just kind of being like nice to each other and don't think like the

00:08:36.720 person's out to get you you know be honest and like be open about what you want really ship 0.93

00:08:41.180 instead of like saying oh you know i want like the men to pay or women to pay or whatever the

00:08:45.580 heck just be like okay like let's just try things out you know and if it doesn't work out that's

00:08:49.220 fine yeah great well and also join work in the restaurant industry no don't do that

00:08:54.780 don't do it i think it's bad i think it's crazy all right thank you guys thank you

00:09:00.600 how did you two meet in college college are you guys a couple we are a married couple yes

00:09:07.940 oh awesome how long have you guys been married since october okay yeah we met uh eight years ago

00:09:14.740 and who made the first move um i did why is she laughing what's the because because he always

00:09:22.300 says that i did no i always say you were flirting with me and you deny it and yeah proof is right

00:09:27.220 here i'm just a naturally flirtatious person it has nothing to do with flirting towards him

00:09:32.640 yeah but are we really naturally flirtatious towards ugly men that's a good question well

00:09:39.680 ugly men have hit on me and they think i'm flirting with them so apparently okay okay

00:09:44.160 but in this case it was mutual yes in this case it was mutual but i was not flirting when he says

00:09:49.600 that I was flirting because he was seeing someone then and I knew that and I wouldn't have done that

00:09:53.940 oh so he were seeing someone and then how did how did it switch to her um I stopped seeing that

00:10:00.020 person did you meet her and break was it like love at first sight no no it was I met her it was uh

00:10:05.260 her freshman year my junior year uh met her then and I was dating someone else and then my senior

00:10:10.200 year we broke up during the summer and I was available yeah and I hit her up and she didn't

00:10:15.320 want to do anything at first because a friend of hers had a crush on me yes that's true and so we

00:10:20.660 stayed up all night talking nothing happened next night she came over stayed up all night talking

00:10:26.660 again she said screw it pretty much yep i i eventually was like okay i'm going to bed

00:10:34.160 you can join me if you want and that's how this happened do you guys think college is the best

00:10:40.200 place to find a relationship just based on looking at you guys and your friends it's a good place to

00:10:45.140 find a relationship i mean you're you're exposed to a lot of people who have a lot of interests

00:10:50.280 who are in your age group who are going relatively similar direction in life and it's a great place

00:10:55.980 to find someone but you change a lot as a person like the person i was in college the person she

00:11:00.280 was in college is different than we are now so i don't know i feel like if we met each other now

00:11:05.080 we might actually be more likely to date than when we were in college in a way maybe so but i will

00:11:10.060 say this I don't think it's necessarily about meeting someone in college it's about are you

00:11:15.080 ready to meet that someone in college because like if he would have met me two years earlier

00:11:20.740 we definitely wouldn't have dated so I think I was also you didn't you didn't want a relationship

00:11:25.580 no I was my freshman year was very much my exploratory phase and I needed that to become

00:11:31.600 the person I needed to be to meet him so if I wouldn't have gone through that phase and still

00:11:36.200 met him beforehand i wouldn't have ended up with him and do you guys have more of a traditional

00:11:41.260 relationship or more of a modern like 50 50 equal type of relationship definitely more of a modern

00:11:46.920 50 50 equal type of relationship yeah and do you think that's better than traditional yeah i mean

00:11:51.920 i mean everyone has their ways of working things out you know if you have someone a woman who's

00:11:57.500 very very good at those traditional gender role stuff and a man who's very very good at his

00:12:02.060 traditional gender world stuff then they should have a traditional style marriage yeah but not

00:12:06.060 everyone is like that so it just depends on who you are are you guys religious or no no no

00:12:10.940 we're getting um we're getting emergency we're getting um non-religious people's um

00:12:21.740 view on obedience and if you think that like it should be more compromise or one person's

00:12:27.700 obedient to the other like submission def i mean submission has its spots for people who like that

00:12:35.120 sort of thing but uh no i'd say it should be 50 50 treat each other as equal partners in the

00:12:39.640 relationship and that's how you're gonna get the most out of each other awesome well thank you guys

00:12:43.900 so much appreciate it of course thank you have a good one how's it going ma'am you look beautiful

00:12:50.300 tonight oh my goodness how are you good how are you i feel like i've seen you before maybe you

00:12:55.060 have maybe you have oh my god wait a second i don't know but we're here together okay so we're

00:13:03.180 asking people about love are you looking for love or do you already have it um you know i have the

00:13:09.520 love of the lord and that okay so you're religious um i would say i am like a disciple of jesus christ

00:13:17.480 but maybe not so religious because sometimes it comes with like bad connotations but it's not a

00:13:23.600 bad thing yeah so i don't think so either i don't know if i would say i'm religious to say because

00:13:28.780 we're asking people if they prefer more traditional relationships or modern and we just like to hear

00:13:33.700 if they're from a certain denomination we like to hear where they're coming from yeah absolutely

00:13:37.840 wait that's super cool so yeah so what um are you affiliated with the religion or i would say i'm

00:13:43.280 probably more so non-denominational okay and do you believe in traditional relationships where

00:13:49.160 the man's the protector and the provider, the woman's the nurturer, more of an equal type of

00:13:54.920 relationship? Yeah, I do believe in a more traditional. I also understand that we are in 0.84

00:14:00.480 different times right now. So some people might lean towards one thing more than the other,

00:14:06.600 but I prefer a more traditional thing where we're able to give each other the best of our

00:14:11.920 capabilities and help each other out more so like partners. Okay, wait, which one? Because partners

00:14:18.360 I associate with modern you know because okay um where you know I would say husband and wife

00:14:24.620 is more traditional okay so yeah if you had to pick one I would say not everybody this isn't

00:14:31.900 for you I would definitely say for me I guess the title of husband and wife but we would treat it

00:14:37.220 like partners like we're equals yeah okay so you would not believe in like submission where the 0.79

00:14:41.760 woman has to obey the man I think submission would be different I think there's submission

00:14:47.960 in like different layers but definitely not in a way where somebody is lower than the other person 0.99

00:14:53.880 like if you were doing a group project together at school you're all submitting to the task and

00:14:58.960 you're all working together yeah I would look at submission more in that light like we're both

00:15:03.660 submitting in some type of way to each other because we're probably not going to want to do

00:15:06.880 all the things that we would like to do every time but if you truly love somebody then you

00:15:13.100 kind of do it not in like a crazy way though well it's not crazy because when you think about it we

00:15:16.580 have to submit to somebody always yeah you have to submit to your boss right yeah absolutely he

00:15:20.920 tells you what to do we have to listen yeah so is it I don't think it's super crazy some people

00:15:25.680 want to do it that way right yeah yeah absolutely yeah so have you been currently dating like

00:15:31.440 looking for love are you doing your own thing when's the last sorry I'm asking you like three

00:15:35.280 questions at once when's the last date you've been on and how did it go hmm okay so the last

00:15:41.520 date that I went on was honestly last year I was with a year I well maybe like nine nine months

00:15:48.980 and what what is it it's like yeah nine months that's a long time girl yeah it's been a hot

00:15:53.680 minute but I was with this person for a little bit things didn't work out that's all right I've

00:15:58.860 really been focused on developing myself and just being a better person for me the people around me

00:16:04.520 and my potential partner I've dabbled in a little bit of online dating but I honestly probably

00:16:10.500 haven't been taking it as seriously as I have in the past. Is the lack of dating, is that because

00:16:15.940 you're kind of sad the last relationship didn't work out? No, I honestly have other things to do.

00:16:21.780 Okay, so what's taking up your time instead? Well, right now just work, building on things that I

00:16:27.920 might have put aside because of dating. So I know because of that, that does leave a little bit of

00:16:33.680 less time to really focus and look into dating. So it's definitely a give and pull, but right now

00:16:39.340 i'm just enjoying myself just making connections making friends building my career and building my

00:16:45.160 skill set what type of job like what industry are you in i'm in marketing i'm actually working a

00:16:49.800 show right now but i market concerts okay so i guess it would kind of get in the way because

00:16:55.260 at night you're going to the concert and you're not you can't so you kind of is that what you

00:16:59.060 mean when you say you've been doing because you think about everyone gets off work like you go

00:17:02.620 on a date after work no yeah absolutely yeah so but if you have a boyfriend it's more time

00:17:08.000 yeah and that's like another thing that i have to consider like what this person want to go to

00:17:12.420 shows with me i mean i'm not going to be at shows every single day and that's where i can kind of

00:17:16.920 you know be freeing of my time as well when you have a partner boyfriend girlfriend whatever but

00:17:22.980 yeah honestly that's just kind of like just worry about right now what are things you

00:17:28.380 had to give up to be in a relationship in the past wow things I've had to give up would be

00:17:42.160 maybe sometimes my opinion on something yeah men don't ever want that no and not in a way where

00:17:49.960 I'm gonna take my opinion away but it's like you know what some things aren't worth fighting yeah

00:17:54.320 yeah you know you you take everything by a straw I cannot think of that phrase right now but it's

00:18:00.160 like you you pick your battles yeah so I think I've gotten better about that because I'm definitely 0.99

00:18:04.320 someone that's like uh no I know that's stupid and if I were to even do that to like a friend 0.91

00:18:10.180 or like a parent or somebody that I'm close to it's like uh I'm gonna want to do that so would 1.00

00:18:14.880 you say that it's easier to find love when you shut up more oh I'm oh no I wouldn't say that

00:18:20.560 No, you wouldn't say that, okay?

00:18:21.560 No, no, no, no.

00:18:22.420 And that's one thing I've never been like, I'm just going to completely, you know, throw away my whole self.

00:18:27.900 I think that's a smart way to go rock bottom because if you can't be truly you and also develop into the next stage with somebody that you're with, then you might as well not be with them.

00:18:38.920 Has there ever been a guy that was very hard for you to get over and what made him special?

00:18:43.460 um well I'll be honest I've only dated a handful of people because I don't mind being single I

00:18:51.640 I feel like I thrive in it so and none of them are hard to get over none I mean you miss any of

00:18:57.400 well I'll say there's definitely like the routine the habit like I do miss them in that way but

00:19:03.420 I probably maybe like my first boyfriend I was like dang like this like really really sucks but

00:19:08.920 other than that like I I'm appreciative for the time that we've had in that moment of course it's

00:19:15.700 ended and it's sad but I'd rather move on and like a light to see okay what can I learn to go

00:19:22.880 into my next stage and what okay what ended that relationship and what did you learn that would

00:19:28.280 make you better for your next relationship so I have my own internal timeline and there were just

00:19:33.820 a few things that i expressed to them i was like hey like what are do you guys want to go like hang

00:19:40.780 out with each other oh no girl oh okay i thought that's too bad no it was it was very short it was

00:19:45.560 like three months yeah i have a three-month time okay but basically i was like okay like we should

00:19:51.980 be at a point where we're at least hanging out with our friends so we i guess in his mind we

00:19:57.000 weren't there yet and i'm like hey that's okay oh if you're not there yet you're like 10 years

00:20:02.040 older than me though so like i'm already and this is your high school boyfriend 10 years old no no

00:20:07.800 no no no no he's he was 10 years older than me growing 28 okay yeah this was like earlier this

00:20:14.000 year oh okay so this was this year yeah this year you said your high school boyfriend i must have

00:20:18.600 no no no no no my first boyfriend was the hardest to get over and i was in my early 20s okay well

00:20:25.340 I meant, what ended that one?

00:20:26.920 Oh, what ended that one?

00:20:27.780 Yeah. 0.91

00:20:28.440 Girl.

00:20:30.580 I just, I got, I was living with my parents.

00:20:34.380 I was with him.

00:20:35.060 I think I was honestly using him as a way to escape that situation.

00:20:38.160 I love my parents.

00:20:38.880 They're great.

00:20:39.560 But I was ready to move out.

00:20:41.140 I think I was just at that stage where I'm like, I need my own space.

00:20:43.440 And then when I moved out, I realized I didn't really like him like that.

00:20:47.920 And so instead of leaving him on, I was like, yeah, let me.

00:20:50.900 You let him know.

00:20:51.520 Yeah, because I'm like, I'm ready to like kind of be outside.

00:20:54.040 Yeah.

00:20:54.320 figure out what the heck is going on with me so yeah yeah cool well thank you so much girl

00:20:59.100 appreciate it have a great night you guys are like belly on the street yeah i just i just i'm

00:21:04.600 just asking people how we can find love today i love that well i hope i gave you some love today

00:21:09.660 yeah great yeah what kind of place is this it's a pump bar do you think this is a good place to

00:21:15.600 find love uh define love yeah like you know to fall in love like if someone said i really want

00:21:23.100 to fall in love today is this the place to go this is a good place to fall in love it's a very

00:21:28.500 uh multi uh it's a mixing pot of a bar you have punk people you have rock and roll indie you have

00:21:35.440 hip-hop people you have pretty much everybody that comes in the three links so have you seen a lot of

00:21:39.560 couples meet here or no i've seen a few for sure yeah yeah whether it lasts long or whether it

00:21:45.080 doesn't the chemistry is still in there yeah what do you think is the length of the average

00:21:49.720 relationship today just based on your friends you what you're seeing it's gonna year and a half

00:21:57.560 year and a half that's longer than i'd say okay yeah year and a half solid yeah cool well i'll

00:22:04.800 tell the people to come here to find love so three links deep ellum three links deep ellum

00:22:10.460 ma'am red dress yes you are you looking for love today no you're in red do you have a man already

00:22:19.620 I don't have a man, but I'm not looking for a man.

00:22:22.180 Well, would it be nice, no?

00:22:25.460 It wouldn't be nice?

00:22:26.840 It's whatever to me.

00:22:28.260 What's your type?

00:22:29.280 Like, you know.

00:22:30.800 Successful, no kids, 40s.

00:22:33.940 Have you always dated that, or is that like a lesson?

00:22:36.840 I've always dated like that.

00:22:38.640 Okay, so you've never had a bad experience with like a guy with kids or anything?

00:22:43.280 Um, no.

00:22:45.380 I just don't want kids.

00:22:46.760 But I've never had a bad experience dating people with kids, no.

00:22:49.620 Really? So you don't want kids? Do you think for the right guy, maybe that would change?

00:22:53.700 No, ma'am.

00:22:54.460 Really?

00:22:54.960 No.

00:22:55.180 Have you always been like that?

00:22:56.420 I've always been like that. 1.00

00:22:57.360 Yeah, I think some women... 1.00

00:22:58.800 So what do you think? 1.00

00:23:00.960 Some people think that women that don't want kids are just brainwashed.

00:23:05.000 Not me, right? 1.00

00:23:06.100 Me neither.

00:23:08.280 So what do you think about that to people that say that?

00:23:12.420 Mind your business.

00:23:13.720 Mind your business.

00:23:14.600 Mind your business.

00:23:15.720 Because it just doesn't fit in my life, you know?

00:23:19.060 It just doesn't fit in my lifestyle.

00:23:20.580 Do it look like I could do this and have a kid right now?

00:23:22.920 Do what?

00:23:23.840 You look like this with a kid.

00:23:25.860 Yeah, because it would take too long to get ready?

00:23:28.200 No, no.

00:23:29.140 Like, do you see me pushing a stroller or having a car seat?

00:23:33.180 Well, I mean, you're pretty.

00:23:34.560 It would be a cute kid.

00:23:35.220 No, no, no.

00:23:35.580 It would be a cute kid.

00:23:36.360 It would be a cute kid, but that just doesn't fit.

00:23:38.360 It wouldn't fit.

00:23:39.980 Did you ever want kids at any point?

00:23:41.780 No.

00:23:42.060 No, so it's been like that.

00:23:43.420 Like, people that knew you when you were a kid would say, even then.

00:23:47.100 No.

00:23:47.620 They'll tell you no.

00:23:48.820 Where do you think is the best place to find love?

00:23:51.260 Like, where have your friends met?

00:23:52.960 Do you have any friends that are in relationships or married, and where did they meet?

00:23:58.800 I have some friends that are in relationships, but they've been in relationships for a long time.

00:24:06.120 Where did they meet? College? High school?

00:24:08.040 College.

00:24:08.580 Okay.

00:24:09.380 And high school.

00:24:11.060 So if you didn't meet in college, you're cooked?

00:24:16.040 I wouldn't say that.

00:24:17.260 I think you can find love at any point, but I think it comes when you're not looking.

00:24:22.400 And I'm just not looking right now.

00:24:24.540 When's the last date you went on?

00:24:26.600 Oh, girl.

00:24:28.860 I can't even tell you.

00:24:30.380 I don't remember.

00:24:31.820 I don't remember.

00:24:32.240 Like over a year?

00:24:33.820 Probably.

00:24:34.820 I don't remember.

00:24:36.500 Really?

00:24:37.340 Really?

00:24:37.900 So what do you do instead?

00:24:39.560 You know, because everyone gets off of work, right?

00:24:41.220 So you could go on a date.

00:24:42.380 You could download Hinge.

00:24:43.640 I'm sure there'd be a line of guys ready to take you on a date tomorrow.

00:24:47.260 i'm not on dating apps i think everybody on dating apps wants to hook up and i'm not a hook

00:24:53.440 up type of girl so i'm not on dating apps um i just go out like this if a guy tries to talk to

00:25:00.680 me or show interest i'm kind of just like no i'm okay so you dress you dress super cute red dress 0.99

00:25:07.700 you look all approachable then you just shoot them all down i shoot them down damn because 0.77

00:25:13.040 i'm just not there right now i'm not there okay so for because a lot of guys complain that they 0.99

00:25:19.200 get stood up they can't get girls to go on dates what would you rather do than go on a date because

00:25:24.780 they kind of want to know they're like why aren't these girls going on dates yeah why aren't they

00:25:28.320 saying yes to going out with me what what's the reason girl i would rather go to work and make 1.00

00:25:32.960 some money than be with a man than be with a man because at least i know when i get my check i'm

00:25:38.660 not disappointed and a man is gonna disappoint me what's the most disappointing thing a man's

00:25:43.640 done oh girl you don't want to know uh that's why i'm here you don't want to know the most

00:25:50.740 disappointing thing a man has done to me in general for a man to over promise and under

00:25:58.760 deliver that's disappointing but also like going back and forth with the eggs like oh so he was

00:26:06.120 cheating with that girl yeah and she was married so she was married and how did you find out phone

00:26:12.500 you did you get his passcode be honest he told me really oh he told you men talk a lot okay if they

00:26:19.900 you just let them talk they'll tell everything so what did he say that he just said i i caught him

00:26:24.800 with her in person and he just looked at me he didn't say anything he didn't care at all and

00:26:30.760 you want to know the crazy thing me and him was just with each other out like an hour before i

00:26:36.120 caught him with her yeah dang and he didn't say anything he came out of the place with her and

00:26:41.800 he just looked at me and that was it was a little awkward right i was just like did you break it off

00:26:48.960 with him immediately or did you did you cave no girl she was married with a kid i'm single with

00:26:54.240 no kids and i live a good life no no i let him i had to let him go be where he wanted to be i had

00:26:59.640 to let him do the things he wanted to do so when i'm in these streets right you know i'm doing

00:27:04.140 these interviews a lot of people say they're not dating but they really have um you know a

00:27:09.360 situationship or an ex that they're seeing you know from time to time is that the case for you

00:27:15.500 is there maybe exes that you you see situationships no i'm not that kind of girl um once i'm done with 0.87

00:27:23.240 you i'm done with you um you'll never go back i'm never going back you know you know women that do

00:27:28.280 right i do know women that do but once you prove like once you show me who you are i can't unsee

00:27:33.920 that so i can't go back um i'm not a situationship girl i'm not so you every every guy you've dated

00:27:43.880 it's been a serious thing every single one you never had one that you just took an l on

00:27:48.960 never um maybe uh yeah it's all right it happens to the best i can't think oh you just anybody i

00:27:58.020 wanted to be amnesia right I wanted to be with we were together if I didn't want to be with them

00:28:04.720 it's because I didn't want to be I didn't want to be with them so I can't say like oh I took an L

00:28:09.740 because this is the thing about a man if you want to be with them as a woman they're going to be

00:28:15.240 there have you ever done a man wrong yeah what did you do anything I wanted to do so did you

00:28:23.480 Did you see your married ex?

00:28:25.480 Have I seen him since?

00:28:27.680 No, no.

00:28:28.620 He's called me.

00:28:29.700 No, but I meant, like, what did you do wrong to the guy?

00:28:32.360 Oh, nothing.

00:28:33.080 I just let him do his thing.

00:28:34.780 But, like.

00:28:35.140 Like you broke it off?

00:28:36.300 I broke it off, but I have cheated before, and they really hurt my feelings.

00:28:41.720 They hurt your feelings?

00:28:42.900 It hurt my feelings that I cheated on them.

00:28:45.020 Oh, like you felt guilty because you did it to him?

00:28:47.020 Yeah, but when he asked me, I did tell him the truth.

00:28:49.120 Oh, so you didn't lie about it?

00:28:50.000 No, I'm not going to do that.

00:28:51.160 So, how did he find out?

00:28:52.900 somebody told him how did they find out because he was their boyfriend okay so let me get this

00:29:00.740 straight so you cheated with some girl's boyfriend she goes through the phone finds out

00:29:07.100 and then she snitched to your boyfriend yeah i mean that'll do it and he asked and i just 0.97

00:29:13.780 yeah i did it damn and and he was he really distraught was he hurt he was crying yeah he 0.81

00:29:19.760 was crying and that hurt my feelings so it really hurt his feelings because I didn't want to hurt 0.95

00:29:25.740 nobody like that so I've never done that again yeah because you felt so bad yeah I didn't think

00:29:30.780 he was going to find out but he did yeah I mean so yeah because the guy had a girlfriend so you

00:29:36.260 thought you were good yeah did you want to date that guy he wanted to date me oh he wanted to

00:29:42.420 leave the girlfriend for you and I was just having a great time yeah and it was cool but yeah you

00:29:48.460 miss him ever or no i just talked to him maybe like a month ago oh okay so maybe that's the

00:29:53.540 situationship huh no no that situation happened like years ago we we just stayed friends your

00:30:00.840 friend so if you got into a new relationship would you cut that off or it's nothing to cut

00:30:05.740 off because we talk every year or so oh just like once a year yeah not a big thing so it's just like

00:30:10.500 hey what you been up to all right what's your advice for people that want to find love

00:30:14.300 don't ladies ladies are you looking for love no do you have love already yes we're on we're on a

00:30:25.180 quest to figure out where people are finding love tonight where like where like where did you meet

00:30:31.600 your husband are you married yeah are you are you japanese vietnamese vietnamese okay so where did

00:30:37.920 you meet your husband? Through a college. Oh, in college? No, no, no. From a friend at work. Okay.

00:30:47.160 No, I don't want to meet you. Okay. What about you? Are you married? No. Are you dating? No. No? Are

00:30:56.120 you, are you interested in potentially dating? Oh yeah. Yeah. Okay. So where have you been married

00:31:02.140 before no okay never thank god thank god so are you on the dating apps where are you currently

00:31:08.660 looking well if you'd like to be there you gotta i'm so busy with work so okay would you rather

00:31:13.600 work than date no no so you wish yes and no uh when's the last date you went on jesus christ

00:31:25.760 Can't tell

00:31:28.580 All the women are saying it's been a while

00:31:30.320 It's been a while 0.98

00:31:31.100 Like a year, six months

00:31:33.120 It's been a while

00:31:33.840 Well, okay, so if a guy wanted to take you on a date, you know

00:31:37.460 Would you prefer, do you have a type?

00:31:41.400 I apologize, but I've got to go

00:31:44.280 Alright, no problem

00:31:45.300 Thank you

00:31:45.600 Have a good one

00:31:46.200 So we're asking the couples where they met

00:31:48.200 We met at school, yeah

00:31:50.720 Wait, you're the second couple today

00:31:52.520 So you guys met in middle school

00:31:54.140 Yeah

00:31:54.500 and you've dated ever since pretty much well not since like she went to like colorado or something

00:32:02.020 and then we met back up like in the later half of high school and we've been dating since i

00:32:07.420 since like senior high school or something and was it like were you guys interested immediately or

00:32:12.920 who made the first she was dating one of my best friends at first okay and then i was dating her

00:32:18.580 best friend also and then once we broke up this went from wholesome to messy yeah we kind of got

00:32:25.240 got to were there any hurt feelings about it when you guys no he dated we dated each other's friends

00:32:32.380 in middle school oh yeah and then years passed i hit him up on instagram senior year of high school

00:32:39.120 and that was like six years ago oh okay so this was when you guys are together for five years yeah

00:32:44.640 And out of your friends, where do you, I guess, where do you recommend people meet people?

00:32:49.620 Do you think high school is the best place?

00:32:51.240 I'd say probably college maybe, but even college, you've got some weird people, but I don't know.

00:32:56.660 You can find people anywhere.

00:32:57.960 You don't really have to search in one specific spot.

00:33:00.540 Just whatever you like, you know, find common interests.

00:33:03.240 And last question, do you guys have a more traditional relationship or modern?

00:33:08.060 So like gender roles or just equal partners?

00:33:11.140 I think we're just equal.

00:33:12.400 Equal?

00:33:12.780 Yeah, we try to keep everything as equal as possible.

00:33:14.740 Cool.

00:33:15.040 Well, thank you, guys.

00:33:16.140 What would you rather do than date?

00:33:19.300 Probably watch New Girl on my phone.

00:33:22.160 You'd prefer to do that than, like, go on a date?

00:33:24.800 Yeah, honestly.

00:33:26.300 I work too much.

00:33:27.780 Is it because of bad experiences in the past?

00:33:30.760 A little bit of both.

00:33:32.200 Yeah?

00:33:32.600 Yeah.

00:33:33.140 Because we're trying to figure out why people aren't getting together tonight.

00:33:35.780 So what's your...

00:33:36.620 Because, you know, people aren't dating as much anymore,

00:33:39.240 and we're trying to figure out why.

00:33:40.880 Oh, well, my only excuse is I work too much and just don't have time.

00:33:46.560 When's the last time you went on a date?

00:33:49.100 Date? Oh, I don't even know.

00:33:51.820 Probably like, I don't know, a week ago? I don't know.

00:33:54.760 Oh, a week ago? That's recent?

00:33:56.680 Yeah.

00:33:57.360 Did it go well?

00:33:59.200 I mean, it went fine. It wasn't terrible, but not the best.

00:34:02.980 Are you going to see him again or no?

00:34:04.600 Probably not.

00:34:05.620 No?

00:34:06.200 What about before that?

00:34:08.100 Before?

00:34:08.460 had it been a while or yeah i'd say yeah was it a hinge date no tinder no friends like a friend

00:34:17.800 of a friend just mutuals do you prefer to meet that way or do you prefer the apps um i've never

00:34:23.580 been on the app so i couldn't say so i guess like the more natural way just build up the chemistry

00:34:28.560 i guess and have you had a boyfriend before yeah and where did you meet him um just through school

00:34:34.580 and like church and stuff okay so in your like your community you think that's the best way to

00:34:39.960 meet yeah i'd say if you find something like more common ground i feel like it's easier to relate

00:34:45.760 easier to connect and what are you looking for um maybe not now but at some point in the future in

00:34:51.460 your next relationship that maybe you either learned or didn't get from your last relationship

00:34:56.100 um just make sure that as a girl you're the one being pursued don't pursue the man just kind of

00:35:03.560 did you do it the other way and then you learned that you can't do that or um honestly i'd say i

00:35:09.160 got too attached so i felt like i was like too like up in their bubble and then i learned like

00:35:14.680 hey it's probably just best to like let them come to you instead of like being too much like you

00:35:20.120 were too needy maybe yeah i'd say did he end the relationship then or did you no i did oh you did

00:35:27.160 yeah oh but you got attached to that how how does that work i realized that maybe i i need to lock

00:35:33.320 so I was like yeah and and they also cheated so okay so you wanted to pursue your work yeah

00:35:40.680 honestly yeah just focus on more like better things like you know getting that money up

00:35:47.580 and what industry are you in um industry like like influencer wise or like no I just um you

00:35:54.020 you seem most interested in your work right now so I'm just curious like right now I'm working

00:35:59.520 down the street classic football shirts um we are a pop-up so like it's not i should be done

00:36:06.040 with work after but after work it's school so like oh so you're going to school and you're

00:36:10.920 working so you don't have a ton of time yeah and then i'm also a key holder so i have to do a lot

00:36:16.880 of like managing stuff because our manager doesn't really do much so okay okay well cool well thank

00:36:24.600 you so much. Yeah, of course. It's like you're interviewing someone only. Yeah. We're asking

00:36:29.300 people where they found love. So if they're couples, we're asking where they met. Are

00:36:33.220 you guys dating any? You guys seem really young. We're best friends. How old are you

00:36:36.400 two? We're both 20. I'm almost 21. Oh, you're 20. You guys look young. You get that a lot?

00:36:42.360 Yeah, I get that a lot. Are you guys dating then? We're not dating. No. She wishes. Have

00:36:48.300 you guys had a boyfriend before? I've never had one. Yeah, I've never had a boyfriend.

00:36:51.840 are you guys like um do you do dating apps or anything or yeah i tried yeah we both tried but

00:36:59.140 it never really led anywhere for either of us really what i guess what went wrong on the date

00:37:03.740 was it something you guys did or something your experience his breath was awful okay so he had

00:37:09.660 really bad breath yeah it was really bad and he kept on talking about things that i didn't really

00:37:15.000 i really didn't care about like what um he was telling me that he was like he was like there's

00:37:21.080 a plot to kidnap men in america and i was like that's not i don't think that's a thing i was

00:37:26.200 like okay that's why i don't go on bumble anymore yeah what about you well i never really went on a

00:37:32.500 date with anyone from a dating app i was just on dating apps but like i just felt like i didn't

00:37:37.600 really have any conversations that were good enough to go on a date um when's the last time

00:37:43.460 you guys went on a date uh i've never been on one but when was your date like a year ago or something

00:37:49.320 It was, like, two months ago.

00:37:50.620 Really?

00:37:51.560 I think it was pretty recent.

00:37:53.100 Like, sense of time.

00:37:54.100 Dude, my sense of time is awful.

00:37:55.220 I don't know.

00:37:55.580 It could be anywhere from two months to a year.

00:37:57.740 It's been a second.

00:37:58.780 Yeah, yeah.

00:37:59.200 And is there usually a second date or no?

00:38:02.740 Not for her.

00:38:04.060 Nope.

00:38:04.800 He wanted to, but she didn't want to.

00:38:06.260 Yeah, he wanted to.

00:38:07.720 It was awkward.

00:38:08.940 I was like, it's not happening.

00:38:10.680 Yeah.

00:38:10.980 What do you think has gotten in the way of you guys finding a relationship?

00:38:13.840 it I mean honestly for me I just think that like I want someone that's like matches my energy but

00:38:22.600 I feel like guys sometimes try too hard to act a certain way but I just want like to be with

00:38:28.840 someone who's more naturally themselves you know and like not a try hard yeah like authentic yeah

00:38:35.400 and like a nerd or something like that do you want a nerdy guy nerdy but not like too nerdy you know

00:38:40.860 just likes the same nerdy stuff that i like do you have um a like do you have a type is there

00:38:45.620 a celebrity crush that you have i have a celebrity crush he's right here on my bag oh so you're into

00:38:51.800 asian guys huh you can say that it's a k-pop group but okay what about you do you have a type

00:38:57.860 yeah no no no no that's not my type he's not his my type is michael b jordan like have you seen him

00:39:04.980 in sinners what in sinners no the center what have you seen the movie no i haven't seen it

00:39:12.500 oh my god um michael b jordan in sinners he's really hot it's my type he's got like it's like

00:39:18.980 he's got this like classic look to him okay so you guys are a bit younger than me um do you think

00:39:25.760 dating's changed at all so like how do you guys do dating that you feel like maybe the older people

00:39:31.680 just don't understand or they don't get like if you talk to your parents yeah yeah what do they

00:39:35.860 not get like okay I think that I wish that things were more now like they were back when my parents

00:39:41.960 started dating because they met in college and like everything I've heard them talk about and

00:39:46.760 stuff seems so like wholesome together and like things like that and I feel like dating now is

00:39:52.080 so much like I want to say like drama I don't know I feel like there's too much like politics

00:39:56.440 and drama involved in dating now but i feel like it should just be the two most important things

00:40:02.020 that like two people love each other and like they get along you know so there's politics and

00:40:06.420 drama and dating what do you mean i don't know like you know what i mean though right like it's

00:40:10.020 not as like wholesome as i feel like it used to be yeah i mean for me it could be it just feels

00:40:15.660 like nowadays like there's no like my parents they never really did dating apps they don't get that

00:40:21.300 part but like i don't know i just feel like nowadays guys mostly just kind of want to hook

00:40:25.520 up and stuff like they don't want to actually go on a date and romance somebody it's just what i

00:40:30.980 feel like that's at least my experience and your friends that are in relationships how did most of

00:40:35.600 them meet their boyfriends um i feel like most people that i know are in a relationship just met

00:40:41.940 their boyfriend through like work or like a common space and i feel like it's i like the idea of

00:40:50.000 meeting someone naturally like that like through uh can you give me an example of the common space

00:40:55.280 maybe that you're thinking of um i was thinking of your sisters oh yeah like i don't know where

00:41:00.620 they met people but like i feel like my my older sister she met she met she met her boyfriend her

00:41:06.000 first boyfriend in high school and then her second boyfriend they worked together okay we got a lot

00:41:10.720 of work answers today actually yeah really um so they're saying that gen z is not dating at all

00:41:17.900 and that most of gen z would rather get a good night's sleep than hook up where i would say

00:41:24.240 10 20 years ago they were complaining about hookup culture now they're saying gen z isn't doing it

00:41:28.980 oh do you think i'm not saying that's true that's just a news article right do you think that's true

00:41:33.160 or untrue um i think it's like both it kind of depends on the person but i'd say it's like both

00:41:41.840 are true kind of can you elaborate a little more i feel like people prioritize like you said like

00:41:49.480 hookup culture more than like a relationship okay but i also do feel like maybe like people

00:41:57.000 don't want to put in the energy sometimes to go find someone to hook up with i feel like this is

00:42:03.940 like now it seems like the options are like either like a hookup or not and it's like so it's like

00:42:11.420 hookup or nothing yeah and it's like most of the time i'd rather just nothing do you think that

00:42:16.840 men are still giving relationships if you don't give them sex quickly in general i don't i've

00:42:24.080 never been in a relationship so i don't know but i would assume like i would assume that men would

00:42:30.720 like kind of back off if you didn't want to have sex with them that's just my assumption

00:42:34.680 but i don't have any personal experience with that i've been told that because i don't want to that

00:42:40.340 a guy wouldn't want to like guys like a lot of times on dating apps when i say i don't want to

00:42:44.900 do a hookup that just ghosts me so probably yeah is there anything else that you wish the older

00:42:53.120 generation would understand about dating um for you guys anyways i wish that they would understand

00:43:03.420 i'm drawing a blank it's okay yeah i don't know it's not a big deal

00:43:09.280 i don't know i guess i think a lot of times people just read those like sensationless headlines

00:43:16.700 and make a broad assumption that everybody wants a certain thing but people are very like

00:43:22.000 everybody's different and when they're once in need you know would you guys want to be in a

00:43:26.640 traditional relationship where you submit to a man uh no not at all not at all does that sound

00:43:35.140 crazy i mean yeah yeah and like i want to just view each other as like equals basically i just

00:43:42.560 want to be in a relationship where we just like feel like partners you know not no like

00:43:47.720 nothing yeah nothing controlling like none of that stuff yeah okay well thank you guys so much

00:43:54.200 this is great are you guys dating anybody no no do you want to be no thank you i'm just um i'm

00:44:02.040 getting people's perspectives on dating when they're out so we just want to know if people

00:44:05.560 are looking for relationships if they're just out having fun oh if they're dating someone we want

00:44:10.840 to know how they met them oh i don't have any dating stories but it's like if you're out here

00:44:15.980 in dallas like right here right now is that like your question like yeah yeah right now yeah oh

00:44:20.120 we're actually we're not from here but we're here for our concert okay what concert are you here

00:44:24.280 are you familiar with k-pop oh is that oh that's so funny okay there's someone else that showed

00:44:30.940 they had um the light stick yeah yeah yeah so why do you think people are getting together like they

00:44:37.440 used to they are or are not like people aren't getting married and having kids as much i think

00:44:43.320 it's because it's a society like social norm now to like try it before you buy it and now that we're

00:44:49.420 not they're not committing to anything yeah like i literally learned about this in like one of my

00:44:54.500 college courses because it's like people aren't wanting to commit and they don't want to have

00:44:58.260 traditional values anymore and with the rise of that people just think that they don't need to

00:45:02.720 go the traditional route anymore that's just what i think would you guys say you have more

00:45:07.000 traditional values or modern values probably more traditional we're both raised christian

00:45:11.640 okay so we're more conservative in that way um and just with our families and how we grew up too

00:45:18.120 it's more of a family-based like childhood so it was very are you guys sisters no we're just

00:45:25.280 best friends yeah so what type of christian are you uh non-denominational me too non-denominational

00:45:31.260 and so i go to churches a lot so i just no right or wrong answers do you guys believe in obeying

00:45:37.900 your husband uh i believe obeying him if it's for like a safety thing as well because i feel like

00:45:46.580 you have to have communication and if i want him to listen to me as well so it's just a it's a

00:45:53.340 safety thing for me um because whenever in my family as well it was usually he is protecting

00:46:01.900 all of us and that's usually yeah yeah and for me I also I'm more traditional so I believe that

00:46:07.480 you submit to your husband and that's only because of like my traditional values however

00:46:11.160 where I draw the line is like like in the bible it says adultery so you can be divorced if he's

00:46:15.740 adultery if he is domestic like if he beats on his wife or beats on the kids you know what I mean

00:46:21.300 and like there's like so the word of god says that there are the marriage you guys are one

00:46:27.460 but there are exceptions like example like i said like adultery or like domestic abuse if everything's

00:46:32.020 fine obey him if not that's just it's the vows that you take when you do get married do you

00:46:38.320 think it's okay for a woman to tell a man what to do what do you mean by that so to tell him to do 0.91

00:46:44.720 chores or to tell him what to do in his house i feel like it's you shouldn't have to it's kind 0.70

00:46:53.520 of a communion of all helping out but like having talks about that i wouldn't say like do this right

00:46:59.920 now or i'm gonna like do something because i was kind of like telling your wife to go to work like

00:47:05.400 if you're asking your husband help around the house and then you're like telling your wife to

00:47:07.800 go to work like it goes both ways you know what i mean do you guys have an instagram you want to

00:47:12.440 shout out no i don't have an instagram i think the guys i do go to a church called the cure church

00:47:17.100 um shout out to them okay well thank you guys so much thank you so much so three weeks ago you

00:47:22.220 broke up with your girlfriend yeah so tell me guys don't dump girls a lot so this is kind of

00:47:28.280 rare usually the women dump the guys what did they do what did what happened i guess it's more so

00:47:34.960 about like not just what's been done what's not being done you know okay like it's gonna be a

00:47:40.440 This could be a learning experience, you know?

00:47:42.220 You're right, but, like, she might see this or something like her business out there.

00:47:46.280 Oh, okay.

00:47:46.880 But, like, yeah, just...

00:47:48.000 What if we blurred your face?

00:47:49.400 Then could we know?

00:47:50.500 Actually, matter of fact, I don't even care for real.

00:47:54.360 This is what I'm going to say.

00:47:56.960 Make it so that your man can tell you the truth and it not be a problem and be self-aware.

00:48:05.260 I feel like that's... 1.00

00:48:06.100 A lot of ladies don't be self-aware, you know? 1.00

00:48:08.220 Can you give me a specific example? 1.00

00:48:11.060 Because that is kind of broad.

00:48:12.380 I left it broad on purpose.

00:48:16.520 I'm here to get to the bottom of this.

00:48:18.360 I hear you.

00:48:18.780 I got you.

00:48:22.240 For example, hypothetically, you feel me? 0.94

00:48:25.060 Hypothetically speaking.

00:48:25.700 Hypothetically, right?

00:48:29.600 And this is like a small example, a small hypothetical.

00:48:33.720 Hypothetical.

00:48:34.120 if you and your man are supposed to be going somewhere on a trip or something like that right

00:48:39.300 and he says hey can you get here at this time so that he can go to sleep so he can drive the whole

00:48:44.300 trip because you know that as a lady that's what you want you want him to drive you know the whole

00:48:47.920 trip or whatever and then you show up like three or four hours after that and then complain about

00:48:52.000 him asking you to drive because he didn't get any sleep the night before after he asked you to be

00:48:55.720 there at a certain time it's like a little stuff like that was like that's kind of inconsiderate

00:48:58.980 and then like you're also like not you're complaining about something that you caused like

00:49:02.560 you know cause and effect got it so it's like a lack of consideration yes exactly lack of

00:49:07.740 consideration yes do you think that's common are you guys are you look under 30 under 30 0.98

00:49:12.720 absolutely okay yeah so would you say that's common with gen z women where they're not very 0.60

00:49:17.620 considerate not um just like no it's something i've heard my aunks you know okay this has been

00:49:25.540 always big bros yeah this ain't nothing new yeah yeah so what about you what what caused you to

00:49:30.840 to dump the girl i didn't want to have a kid oh she wanted to have a kid yeah and then she also

00:49:36.680 wanted me to like basically parent her kid that she did have oh so she already had a kid yeah 1.00

00:49:41.620 yeah and i wasn't down for that because she wasn't she because she wasn't willing to discipline the 0.99

00:49:49.560 child at all uh whenever the child was obviously acting up cussing at her and actually like hitting

00:49:54.760 her in a couple occasions and i'm not okay with that uh that's not how you should raise a kid

00:49:59.280 That's not how a kid should think it's okay to do things like that at all.

00:50:03.860 That's going to cause lots of problems down the road, not just in the home,

00:50:08.080 but out in public and with social interactions with authority,

00:50:12.180 trying to be like having power over them in any situation that they're going to have in their life.

00:50:17.100 It's going to cause a lot of issues.

00:50:19.060 And so it was a combination of they didn't want to discipline the child,

00:50:24.460 and they wouldn't let me do that,

00:50:25.980 but they wanted me to try and be the stepfather, sort of,

00:50:29.820 and then they wanted to have a child.

00:50:32.360 And in addition to those things, I was like, yeah, no.

00:50:35.120 So she wanted you to have all the responsibility but no authority over the kid.

00:50:38.140 Yeah.

00:50:38.580 Yeah.

00:50:39.540 Wanting a leader but not wanting to follow the leader that she chose. 1.00

00:50:43.300 Yeah, she wanted me to bring masculinity into the home, 0.99

00:50:48.820 but she didn't like the masculinity that I brought.

00:50:52.060 Where was the dad?

00:50:53.680 The dad has been gone.

00:50:55.980 He was like five states over, and he just left is what I was told.

00:51:02.260 But I don't know.

00:51:03.140 I didn't press too hard about that.

00:51:06.340 I was told a couple of situations that had happened that were not good,

00:51:11.660 and he seemed like he was pretty bad, a couple of assaults of that kind.

00:51:16.160 But, yeah, he was gone.

00:51:19.200 But you don't really know because you didn't get his side of this.

00:51:21.880 No, no, no, no.

00:51:22.640 I don't know.

00:51:23.580 I don't know.

00:51:24.060 But, I mean, I'm not going to assume that she's lying about an assault.

00:51:27.560 But also, at the same time, I can't tell if it's true or not.

00:51:30.540 Well, have you guys ever had an ex lie about you?

00:51:33.060 Yeah.

00:51:34.060 Yeah.

00:51:34.860 Yeah.

00:51:35.880 What was the lie that she told?

00:51:39.240 Well, for one, she said that I tried to do things to her that I did not do.

00:51:43.560 And, in fact, I had a witness, thank the Lord, because she tried to pin something on me that I didn't do to her at a party.

00:51:50.480 uh but i ended up being able to position myself because i had kind of caught like a weird vibe

00:51:57.280 that day from her uh and so then i ended up staying a little bit where some people could

00:52:02.000 always see me so a couple of my friends were able to say yeah no that's not that's not what

00:52:05.880 happened at all uh and she falsely accused you of like assault or something yeah yeah and did

00:52:11.580 she get the police involved uh no she just tried to disparage me across uh my social circles and

00:52:20.460 where I was working and kind of all that so she tried to just disparage me in front of all those

00:52:26.060 people but luckily I was able to shut that all down and be able to just close contact and get

00:52:32.240 rid of that did you did that make you fear dating in the future like for that to potentially happen

00:52:36.980 again I mean yeah because if that's so easy for her to do about somebody that she supposedly cared

00:52:42.000 for then what about other people in the future because then if I am always feeling at risk of

00:52:48.380 something like that happening how am i able to actually open up why are men so quick to believe

00:52:53.820 women's stories when they know that women lie about them if we don't believe them at the front

00:53:02.540 what's going to happen to us then you get in trouble yeah and it's like you get crucified

00:53:07.400 in front of everybody socially if you don't believe somebody and so like there's been that

00:53:13.520 big hard shift i think the pendulum swung a little bit too far to one side whenever it should

00:53:18.820 be a little bit more in the middle and so i think believing men and believing women and then whenever

00:53:25.220 they're conflicting you have to have somebody neutral come in to be able to determine who's

00:53:28.820 telling the truth that's why we have a judicial system like it is but it's not always super fair

00:53:32.820 i know things don't always work out well but because of the social pressures we've been able

00:53:38.780 to just say hey we have to believe the woman because there were some cases where the woman

00:53:43.480 was not believed and she was totally telling the truth but then that created a whole wave of well

00:53:48.420 every woman has to be telling the truth now that's not true what cases like did was a woman not

00:53:52.960 believed like in this century some well i mean shoot yeah i mean like some of the epstein cases

00:53:57.700 for example uh some of them talked out about it spoke out about it and it was completely silenced

00:54:01.840 and people didn't believe them you know that all the girls on the island had permission slips from

00:54:06.000 their mothers that's wild that's absolutely wild like there's like the whole situation is beyond

00:54:11.960 just messed up so what about you has an ex ever lied about you um an ex never lied on me and it

00:54:17.520 got back to me but i have had a girl that i was like talking to um one she told like so we had a

00:54:24.080 mutual friend that i was real close to and she started to view me different because shawty told

00:54:29.100 her that like i caught her out her name it was like doing all types of stuff that like never

00:54:34.060 happened and then she didn't she forgot to tell her oh i faked a pregnancy on him and like so once 1.00

00:54:41.240 i told my friend that she was like completely flipped because she will she was over here lying 1.00

00:54:46.820 on my name for no reason you know what i'm saying and then when i told like the full story now you

00:54:51.960 want to play victim again i feel like that's a main thing that's another thing is to like why 1.00

00:54:55.660 um some ladies go unbelief because a lot of ladies like to play the victim in a situation 1.00

00:55:01.920 or not but then like a lot of ladies are but yeah like you go i feel like it goes both ways yeah 0.81

00:55:06.320 you know it goes both ways for sure but um playing the victims i might fall on it i must say

00:55:12.740 so being that you guys are gen z you guys are gen z right so um the marriage rates are going down

00:55:20.360 as well as the number of kids people are having do you guys see kids and marriage in your future

00:55:25.600 as something you're planning for or is it not something you're planning for yeah for sure it's

00:55:30.540 just not like um the options are slim options real slim like i'll be personally i'm looking

00:55:39.260 for somebody like you know got something going for themselves like you don't have to be it or

00:55:43.620 have it you know what i'm saying but just like have something going for yourself and really just

00:55:47.240 be a good person that's like the number one thing he's like you guys well me my personal experience

00:55:52.620 i didn't ask like ladies be a good person have a good character and they'd be acting like that's

00:55:56.040 like the hardest thing in the world i'm not asking you to you know make two mil a year 0.98

00:55:59.760 nothing crazy just literally just be like genuine true and honest and that'd be the issue for real

00:56:04.960 for real what about you are you planning on it yeah i definitely and that's what i want but it's

00:56:09.740 like it's hard to find somebody that i would want to be the mother to my kids you know because it's

00:56:14.940 like what traits do i find attractive and what traits do i want to be able to see in my kids

00:56:19.700 if i have them right i want to be able to find somebody who can embody those values

00:56:25.120 and be able to instill them in them and raise them up with those values.

00:56:29.060 And then also just kind of like if that's their nature,

00:56:31.320 I want to be able to complement my kind of nature, right, who I am as a person,

00:56:35.920 because then typically your kids are going to turn out similar to both of you.

00:56:39.040 They're kind of mirrors of the parents.

00:56:40.860 So then I want to find somebody who can mirror those values that I would want

00:56:44.500 before I would be able to try and say, hey, let's get married, you know,

00:56:48.240 because I'm not about to just rush into something like that.

00:56:50.340 So I'm going to hold back on that for a bit until I can find somebody,

00:56:53.300 and that's what's just become harder.

00:56:55.120 that's actually one of the things i think about like i know like you said a lot of children end

00:57:00.300 up becoming like their parents so like the first thing i think about is like if my daughter you

00:57:04.720 know ended up exactly like this person would i be okay with that the answer is no i can't be with

00:57:08.340 you you know what i'm saying what have you ever dated a girl and found out um you might have known

00:57:14.460 up front you might not have known up front that she either hooked up with somebody that you knew

00:57:18.980 or she had done some sort of sex work like only fans escort has that been a situation because the

00:57:27.340 statistics say um that you know the body counts are like women are more promiscuous um and there's 0.98

00:57:34.800 more sex work than ever so i just want to know boots on the ground is that something that you

00:57:39.120 guys have experienced um i don't know anything about the sex work part that's not my life but

00:57:43.520 you hit real close to them i just had a situation where i found out a girl that i was 0.86

00:57:47.640 plan on or whatever situation is find out she like messed with the homie at one point

00:57:53.040 so that's kind of like you know still processing that but i don't know anything about you gonna

00:57:57.280 keep talking to her now um maybe it's not it's not done it's not done because well i can't even

00:58:03.880 say that's my homie a dude i like knew in college for real but that's the only reason why that was

00:58:08.560 like one of my brothers she'd be done like yeah but you didn't know him that well yeah you know

00:58:12.320 how did you find out she told me so like like i respect you for you know keep it be honest i

00:58:17.660 respect you for keeping it a theme but like i just got to figure out how i feel about that

00:58:21.780 but at the same time like i'm gonna you know keep it fair at the same time i know that like

00:58:26.920 she got a friend or two that i might have messed with before so i ain't gonna be like i'm not trying

00:58:31.520 not to be a hypocrite you know so you know when you went to school with or went in high school

00:58:36.600 or college ended up dropping an only fans that you know absolutely oh that did happen yes okay 0.84

00:58:41.560 You just didn't date up.

00:58:42.900 Oh, no.

00:58:43.380 Oh, no.

00:58:43.700 But people you went to high school with really did do one look down.

00:58:49.000 Yeah, she, like, blew up, for real.

00:58:50.140 She was, like, sort of famous.

00:58:51.480 What's her name?

00:58:52.620 We're not doing that.

00:58:53.820 We're not doing that. 1.00

00:58:54.540 Well, she's famous anyway, you know.

00:58:57.260 I don't know.

00:58:57.960 I'm cool off that one.

00:58:58.560 Okay, that's fine.

00:58:58.980 That's fine.

00:58:59.680 But so how common was it, like, from your high school or college,

00:59:04.220 wherever it was?

00:59:05.220 It wasn't that common.

00:59:06.200 Okay.

00:59:06.520 I didn't even expect that out of her, keep it a bean. 0.99

00:59:08.280 Like, she didn't come off his age. 0.95

00:59:09.380 So, you know, people just graduate and they lost them in whatever they want to become, you know?

00:59:14.840 What about you?

00:59:15.440 Have you experienced where you're dating a girl and you find out she either hooked up with someone you knew

00:59:19.680 or had an OnlyFans or did some sort of sex work?

00:59:23.260 Yes, to the first part.

00:59:25.740 My friend had that second part happen to him.

00:59:28.580 That wasn't cool at all.

00:59:29.880 But the sex work? 0.76

00:59:30.980 The sex work, yeah, he found out about that afterwards.

00:59:33.120 And it had been apparently going on the entire time.

00:59:35.340 She kept it secret.

00:59:36.800 Escorting, OnlyFans, what was she doing?

00:59:38.340 Both.

00:59:38.800 Oh, both? 0.51

00:59:39.380 yeah so he was dating like a prostitute basically yeah and he had no idea did she did you meet her

00:59:46.180 yeah and she didn't have any signs well i met her twice i didn't get a good vibe okay

00:59:54.180 i communicated that immediately what did you notice like oh man there's a lot there's a lot

01:00:03.300 like it's it's it's kind of bad but it's also not bad it's like the sheer amount of piercings

01:00:09.040 okay okay and then the piercings that you can see through to see that you shouldn't be able to see

01:00:15.060 yeah uh all the time yeah so it was it was a little bit it was really hot is that why he just

01:00:22.540 no i wouldn't say that no uh they their personalities meshed pretty well besides

01:00:29.960 that part yeah uh and so then he just was like hey our personal lives mesh really well we can

01:00:34.900 get along really well and he just kind of stayed attached for too long afterwards too because he

01:00:39.060 felt really invested and he didn't want to give up and so then that's why he ended up staying on

01:00:44.520 that for a long time and then whenever he found that out though it was done immediately and he

01:00:50.360 was done yeah it was immediately done whenever he found out about it and then he actually like

01:00:54.100 somebody sent it to him so then he saw and he saw what all she was doing and he's like oh

01:01:00.020 Oh, no.

01:01:00.660 This is not happening.

01:01:01.080 So how long did he invest before he found out?

01:01:03.340 That's like every man's worst.

01:01:04.520 Imagine if he married.

01:01:05.780 A year, a year and almost a year and a half, I think.

01:01:09.700 It took him a year and a half to find out.

01:01:11.300 Yeah.

01:01:11.920 Dang.

01:01:12.440 Yeah.

01:01:12.820 And has anything like that happened to you?

01:01:15.260 Not like that, no.

01:01:16.680 No?

01:01:16.920 No.

01:01:17.160 I feel like I have a pretty good radar for that, personally.

01:01:20.800 Like, I mean, I picked up pretty quickly what she was doing whenever I met her, like, first

01:01:26.240 to second time.

01:01:27.140 Yeah.

01:01:27.500 So I feel like I have a pretty good radar for that.

01:01:29.040 and so I just kind of steer clear of people that I think could possibly

01:01:31.780 because I typically like a little bit more clean cut personally anyways.

01:01:37.040 So, you know, not always true, but most of the time clean cut typically doesn't do that.

01:01:44.520 But then I have had a girl cheat on me with a guy I knew

01:01:50.000 and it's kind of, he didn't know that we were dating yet because it was fresh

01:01:57.940 and so he had no idea but she knew way better than to do that because she had met him and stuff

01:02:05.320 like that at a party at my house uh and so yeah how'd you find out uh because the other friends

01:02:13.320 told me oh so yeah she didn't even try to hide no well well she kind of did but it just really

01:02:21.320 failed it yeah it really failed yeah but it was it was i wasn't very invested at all yet it'd been

01:02:27.500 like maybe two months so yeah at that point it's like well rinse repeat let's start again

01:02:33.700 try and find somebody else well well nice job guys for knowing you're worth kings

01:02:38.520 so thank you guys so much have a great night thank you too up pearl davis

Pearl - July 23, 2026

We Asked Dallas ＂How Traditional Is Your Relationship？＂

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