Pearl - When Exes Move on Right Away

00:00:00.000 what up guys welcome to my reaction series today we're talking about women complaining when their 0.99

00:00:04.860 exes move on too quickly so women really can't take L's in dating or relationships we initiate 1.00

00:00:10.780 70 to 80 percent of divorces and breakups and we have the nerve to complain when a man moves on

00:00:16.760 too quickly there's no satisfying us ladies you know hear me out and hear me well if a man makes 1.00

00:00:24.300 good money is decent looking and has a good job and you break up with him there will be other

00:00:29.760 women that will take him let's look at some women that are upset that their exes moved on too quickly 1.00

00:00:36.700 let's talk about when your ex moves on way too quickly after a breakup story time I'm going to

00:00:43.900 tell you about when this happened to me but it wasn't just that he moved on so quickly it was

00:00:47.480 that he cheated on me and I was still willing to take him back like I was desperately in love I was

00:00:52.560 all in but she cheated on me and he left me for her and I watched their entire relationship play out on

00:00:57.960 social media and of all the defining moments in my life I think this was the most significant

00:01:02.840 because of the internal damage it did and I can't really say that he was the one that caused that

00:01:08.400 damage I kind of did it to myself because I did what so many of us do the story or the meaning I

00:01:15.400 ascribed to that event was this happened because I'm unworthy I probably did

00:01:20.960 it probably did you know men get dumped and they they think you know this probably happened because

00:01:29.220 the other guy was better and they'll improve like they'll hit the gym they'll do all this stuff

00:01:34.840 women it's like we never and I know it's hypocritical I'm kind of dressed homeless today but

00:01:42.540 she's dressed like a grandma you know it's like we never say let's let's try to improve right it's 0.96

00:01:51.440 always no that didn't happen because I'm deficient let's go to therapy there's never anything like

00:01:57.940 that I'm not good enough she's better than me she has something that I don't have and I need to figure

00:02:02.960 out how to have that thing too and I went on a quest to try to do that but I was basically chasing

00:02:08.160 shadows because all I was comparing myself to was this image on social media and of course you're

00:02:12.800 never going to measure up to an image on social media what someone's presenting of themselves and

00:02:17.360 of their relationship so the relationship with him was my relationship with him not hers she had a very

00:02:22.360 different relationship but mine was very toxic very codependent and I did everything for him

00:02:27.380 everything like everything and more usually when women say that it means they did some things

00:02:33.740 but only counted the things that she did and not the things that he did so they think it's all it's

00:02:39.440 usually like um I don't appreciate him that's really what they usually are saying and this is something I

00:02:44.100 see a lot of women do we give and we give and we give and we think that this owes us yeah so 0.56

00:02:48.340 when they say I gave I give all I do is give give give that means I'm so narcissistic that I don't

00:02:55.120 think or I have any flaws or see them and I continually give um the man was probably out of my league

00:03:03.720 a little bit so he didn't really like me that much or um I only count the things that I do in

00:03:09.160 relationships and not the stuff that he does I don't notice it or care something we think that

00:03:14.040 we're earning this something from him like all of this effort has to be for something like how could

00:03:21.740 he ever believe me I do so much for him I do everything for him but that's not what it's about

00:03:27.380 if anything like you doing so much for the guy it doesn't guarantee you anything it does not

00:03:33.000 guarantee you love or loyalty if anything it's a dynamic where yeah and it's the same thing for

00:03:37.500 men you know men understand this they understand they can take you out to dinner and they're not 0.99

00:03:41.860 entitled to your post sorry to your you got to bleep that out but they're not entitled to sex from you

00:03:49.720 um but women for some reason we just we think we're entitled to things because we give 1.00

00:03:57.560 we never could give freely we always give with expectations it makes him feel crappy about

00:04:02.920 himself and so him leaving me was really just him starting over with someone shiny and new

00:04:07.680 I helped him get to a place where he was emotionally healthy now he found someone brand another thing

00:04:12.440 women always take credit for building men so it's just a woman that likes to take credit this is what 1.00

00:04:17.740 we have here to be emotionally healthy with someone who didn't know about his dark past and his

00:04:22.240 depression and all of his issues okay so when women say that that just means I'm gonna use 1.00

00:04:27.480 anything um vulnerable that you tell me to hold over your head and tell you to go to therapy yeah

00:04:34.620 now that was the truth of what happened but that's not the way that I interpreted it I interpreted it as

00:04:40.340 I'm not good enough and I carried that with me into all my future relationships when it sabotaged me

00:04:45.180 left and right because I kept replaying the same pattern over and over again I was only drawn to guys who

00:04:50.300 made me feel like I wasn't good enough because I kind of wanted to win those guys over in order

00:04:55.880 to prove that I was good enough but the psych yeah I mean that's just normal that's just our hardwiring

00:05:00.680 we're hardwired to like guys that don't like us that much yeah so go kept repeating itself I was

00:05:06.000 completely put off by guys who were completely emotionally healthy and available and ready and

00:05:10.680 willing to give me what I wanted so I'm bringing this to your attention because most normal that's just 0.98

00:05:16.240 like our programming so if you like a girl guys treat her like shit so the coaching sessions I do 0.93

00:05:23.880 are ex back sessions and this is what I see over and over again so I want you to challenge the 0.98

00:05:30.380 narrative the pain you how it'd be so much better as an ex um get your ex back coaching because my

00:05:36.200 first question would be like let me see your picture let's see his picture let's see if you're hot 0.97

00:05:40.360 enough for him because look women that are not hot enough for a guy they do end up winning at times 1.00

00:05:49.920 but it's only after he's tried to do better it's only after if a guy views you as not hot enough if

00:05:58.060 that's how he sees you some guys do go back but they they have to go try it you know they got to go see

00:06:04.780 they got to go try someone better looking than you and see how that turns out um and then they

00:06:10.760 might come crawling back so um as most of you know I have been fighting on the front lines of the simp

00:06:19.160 epidemic for years but I need to tell you about a quiet weapon being ratcheted up against men that

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00:07:58.680 let me show you what to do now he kept you around he wasted your time now he's with somebody else

00:08:06.300 so let me show you what your next move is step one stop blaming yourself let me be clear it's him

00:08:14.680 not you don't sit there wondering what does she have a lot of times it is you i mean if guys don't

00:08:27.160 really leave so if he dumped you yeah it probably was you you know i mean i have flaws everyone's got

00:08:34.020 flaws it can't like how do you know it's how do you know it's not you you know what i mean

00:08:38.020 that i don't trust me she's just his next distraction step two cut off all access delete him block him

00:08:49.100 from every social media she'll be back if she's blocking she'll be back count that you have stop

00:08:57.460 stalking his page stop answering his phone calls stop replying to his text messages he doesn't get to

00:09:05.020 keep you as a plan b step three level up for you get back in the gym smile be confident start journaling

00:09:14.900 if you need to start writing down again your goals where you see yourself going now that you got that

00:09:20.820 baggage off of you girl it's time to level up show him nah now that is the one thing losing weight 1.00

00:09:29.100 that does peak a man's interest i won't lie to you guys losing 30 pounds

00:09:34.760 that's a way to get a guy back that's that's more effective than this bs that's on the internet

00:09:41.800 that's my answer it's always losing weight always show yourself being a different better person

00:09:47.720 because you changing all your negative flaws are the prize and number four if you were such a prize

00:09:55.300 you wouldn't have been dumped it happens you know it happens to the best of us don't take him back

00:10:00.540 when he comes crawling back they will take him back always trust me he will just remember how he 0.87

00:10:07.400 for sex at least i mean he might not be trying to wife but he'll try to hit for life 0.99

00:10:12.300 left you deserve consistency not crumbs let him go sis don't waste another minute crying over someone 1.00

00:10:23.280 who treats you like an option yeah okay all right we got one more my ex of a year just got

00:10:31.380 okay wait hold on let me make this full screen my ex of a year just got engaged he still stays in

00:10:37.800 touch with me time to time i still feel like he's my person what do i do alex i don't think i will

00:10:43.560 ever get over how quick he okay so what i would do if i were you so now again this is not moral right

00:10:51.360 i'd try to i'd try to hook up with him and sap i'm not saying this is the right thing to do but

00:10:57.960 if he's engaged your only choice is um either see if he comes back later catch him after that divorce 0.87

00:11:05.440 i mean odds are or um yeah try to i i mean men men love sex so i would just throw that at him see if

00:11:14.740 that works um see if you can get your way back in the door i'm not saying you should right i'm just

00:11:21.140 saying that's i'd say that would be your best bet or just waiting it out those are your two choices 0.94

00:11:26.900 wait it out try to throw sex at him see if he bites i that's i'd like to say that's a low chance 0.76

00:11:33.800 of success it probably won't work but hey you know i mean if you got nothing else to lose move on 0.98

00:11:40.360 sorry uh you know you could try a hail mary why not moved on okay wait there's a there's a few

00:11:50.100 things wrong with this he's engaged but he's still talking to you that feels weird to me that doesn't

00:11:56.680 feel right yeah so if he's still talking to you and he's engaged your only your only job now is to give 0.99

00:12:04.800 him the best experience with you ever it's time to kiss ass but the thing is the problem is what the 0.99

00:12:11.100 women will do instead is they'll nag and bitch and have be like a negative experience around the guy 1.00

00:12:16.020 you got to be positive you got to make him forget all your annoying flaws and be so perfect and fun to 0.99

00:12:23.160 be around don't even ask him about that give it hey hey you know cook his favorite meal etc etc

00:12:31.280 so yeah i mean it's probably not gonna work i'd like to say um usually when men make a choice

00:12:38.840 they'll stick with it but i mean hey hail mary you know i had an aunt and that's when i was younger

00:12:46.540 there was um a guy i had a like a crush on and it didn't you know um he he was like engaged to someone

00:12:56.040 else or whatever but like and my aunt um she was like hey until um until they cross the aisles keep 0.98

00:13:06.300 trying and she's like this happily married and of like 30 years it was so funny i was like i didn't

00:13:16.960 i'd like to say i never i'm getting red thinking about this but uh but um anyways the i'd say

00:13:25.800 you might as well hail mary it i don't think that's a great sign and although yeah but we don't care

00:13:33.120 we don't care if the guys cheat so yeah you might as well i mean you're miserable so just try

00:13:38.780 try to sabotage it i'm not saying it probably won't work but you hail mary it at least you know

00:13:44.500 you gave it your best shot oh you want to look at it is like well maybe he's my person and maybe

00:13:48.960 he's in love with me i still don't think that deems him as like a good reliable person and someone i

00:13:55.520 need to see your pictures are you hot enough to be with him and what's your fatal flaw what is your

00:14:02.120 fatal flaw everyone's got one everyone's got like a flaw that makes them a terrible person to be with

00:14:07.860 for certain people right so maybe try like what was the thing he complained about with you

00:14:13.160 you got to improve when you want to be with if he's like fully engaged to someone and still

00:14:18.800 talking to you i haven't gotten to the point of marriage or engagement yet um that's a little

00:14:25.500 beyond my years so i don't know too much about that but i feel like that doesn't seem great and

00:14:31.180 as for you feeling like he's your person i don't know like that's kind of between you guys but

00:14:37.380 if yeah so i would do a hail mary and if that doesn't work um it's time to start dating new

00:14:44.120 guys and find someone you like better that's it he's your person why is he engaged and why is he

00:14:50.660 engaged a year after dating you like that because he found someone better um anyways i you know

00:14:57.440 it is what it is i'm just all right let me let me know what you guys think in the comments um did

00:15:07.080 you ever move on really quickly and did your ex ever you know try to shoot her shot or whatever like

00:15:14.440 how did your ex crash out or ladies did you ever have an ex move on from you really quickly 1.00

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Pearl - July 29, 2025

When Exes Move on Right Away

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