Pearl - June 08, 2025
When Modern Women Get Dumped (Call-In Show) | Pearl Daily
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Summary
In this episode of Pearl Daily, we talk about why women are leaving their marriages, why they are leaving them, and why it s time for men to wake up to the fact that they are not getting what they need in a relationship.
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We tell them to put off family and a marriage.
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You are allowed to end a relationship with a really great boyfriend.
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I don't think there's anything else in life that we actually ever go into preparing to fail.
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Like if you have the mentality of this is going to go wrong and be pessimistic,
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naturally the outcome is going to be that it's going to fail anyway.
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That's the thing, like women are so willing to leave marriages because they're not happy.
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The most important thing is the children, and the problem is we have a modern society where it's me, me, me, my feelings, leave when I feel like it, instead of doing what's best for the kids.
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This myth that we live in an age of male privilege, where's my male privilege?
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They think, well, men have all the rights, they have all the power.
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Why doesn't our society care about men's rights?
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I have no friends, no white, and no social life.
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I've seen so many men on the brink of suicide and they didn't do anything wrong.
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How are you equal if the men are the ones that have to fight and die to defend the country?
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The men are the ones that build and maintain all the infrastructure.
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The so-called deaths of despair from suicide, overdose to alcohol, three times higher among men than among women.
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Culture is telling men you are no good. You've got to get your act together. I think men have failed themselves. What kind of a man are you?
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What kind of a woman are you going to attract if men are in trouble?
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So are women. Everybody knows this is a huge problem, but nobody wants to admit it. Every single woman at the table said they wanted a man
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$500,000. $500,000. $300,000. $200,000. Am I crazy?
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Everything is really set up against you to fail as a man. If men make less than women, women don't want to marry them.
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So you know who wants more economically and emotionally viable men?
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I don't want to be an independent woman anymore.
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I don't want to be a strong, independent woman.
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The only simp here is you, Pearl. You simp for men.
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She's a provocateur. She says stupid stuff.
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It's already happening. It's just not out in the open yet.
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Now it's just hookup culture is going to be our fairytale ending
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because men don't want a wife and women can't find a husband.
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The future, if everybody follows your path, is there is no future.
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We go into population decline and our economy goes into decline.
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This is an existential crisis failing young men.
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Welcome to another episode here of Pearl Daily.
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And today we are talking about female breakups, but if you do want to support the channel,
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Otherwise join the audacity network.com for a list of, um, our, all of our old shows and
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So anyways, guys, as you guys know, I do go to war with these trad cons.
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And there was a particular trad con that we really saw get red-pilled in front of our own eyes.
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So to start the show, I want to talk about how Crowder has actually joined us in the women ain't shit crowd.
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Do you guys don't mind making this full screen when I play this?
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Because I got to I'm going to fix the lighting thing.
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And that's how you get to the point of being because you weren't giving her enough attention.
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Exactly. Exactly. Exactly. There was no more intimacy.
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if a guy cheats no matter what he is a piece of crap societally here's the thing there are now
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people on the right who are still telling you no no young men it's not that the option's available
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to you it's not that the agenda that's been driven uh home and that has been thrust upon you is a
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problem it's actually just you young men you are still even though you make up 94 percent of
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workplace deaths even though you make up so many of the suicide yeah did you you guys see the
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contrast between that and the clip from earlier, Crowder had a very different tune a decade ago.
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Very different tune. A decade ago, he was telling men to man up, and now he's saying,
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holy shit, he got zeroed out. Besides, you are the problem, at least according to Tommy
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Laurent. It's a major problem. And you know, Speaker Johnson has been talking about those
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maybe deadbeat folks that are on Medicaid, and maybe some of those folks are the stay-at-home
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sons, we don't know. But I'll tell you this, leave it to Gen Z to rebrand laziness and
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social awkwardness as something cutesy, like a stay at home son. They did much the same
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thing with quiet quitting, where you can go to work and do less. And if you call it quiet
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quitting, it's somehow better. But Laura, I got to tell you, this is also a big problem
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when it comes to, I think, declining birth rates.
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What did the surgeon do to her nose? Oh my God.
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not getting married and having children. You know, that's a big problem. They blame it on women.
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Well, look at what young women have to choose from. The pickings are slim. Yes, we might have
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a feminism problem in America. Yeah, but what are women bringing to the table? We're fat.
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It's the feminization of. Crowder is a recovering simp. I think he's in recovery now.
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I don't think he's how he used to be. One evil woman red pills a man. Men. There are a lot of
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young women out there that want to get married. They want to have. Well, you want. They want to
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have stable families, but there are a lot of young men out there who want to live in mama's
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basement and order DoorDash. And therein lies a big part of the problem. Yeah. You know, I know
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a lot of men actually that live at home with their parents and it's not, they're all working to be
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honest. They just want to save money on rent. I know probably three different men that have money
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for a house and they just live at home and it's not because they can't buy a house, but they don't
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really have a reason to. Why pay rent when you don't have to? Yeah. And by the way, I understand
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this idea of dealing with the work ethic of young people in some ways. Sure. Tommy Loren is a master
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of the straw man. That's just not the real problem. There are no options for men. They've
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been, well, who's feminized men? And I just heard Tommy Loren list a bunch of things that she wants
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and expects from men. Okay. But maybe men have expectations too.
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So men are the ones who are living at mom's home and ordering DoorDash.
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Here's the thing you need to understand around the 20 year old,
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like Gen Z women, they're twice as likely to be obese as men.
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16% of women were obese at age 20. Jesus Christ.
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Evidently more likely to be depressed and to be on psychiatric medication.
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So young men who, by the way, are in many ways becoming more fit. Young men who are often in
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many ways, certainly young conservative men who are focusing on self-improvement. That's the
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message that you hear from people like Dr. Jordan Peterson. That's the message you hear from a lot
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of people, whether you like him or not. And I think he's wrong a lot. Andrew Tate. That's the
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message you're hearing from people like Andrew Wilson out there. It's resonating with young men.
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It's not a message. You can argue until you're blue in the face, but the message to young men
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right now, where they are checking out of the dating pool, the message is very consistent.
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Young men, get your house in order, make yourself valuable, make yourself desirable so you can select the right kind of woman for you.
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Young men are less obese, they're less depressed, they're more independent, and women still blame young men?
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Let me tell you, can anyone out there, can anyone out there name me one fat pride male model?
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Hey, can anyone name me an equivalent to OnlyFans for young men?
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I've read numbers as high as 25% of young women have an OnlyFans or have considered it.
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That doesn't include women that do sugar baby, escort, or just ran through Tinder, right?
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There are young gay men that are fat, gross, potato sex symbols.
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But as far as like the test holidays of the world,
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when they're looking at good women in their generation
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And you know how you know the dialogue reflects that?
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that's why we had him on the show on Pierce Morgan.
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He said, there are many women who would love to be feminine,
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who would love to have a man take care of them,
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would love to have a family and be able to stay home. Okay, great. Those are things that you would
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want. What are you bringing to the table aside from being fatter, more depressed?
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And having herpes and being on antidepressants. Physically inert than ever. That is young women.
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It's not the same message that young men are being bombarded with. Young men right now,
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and I have a son, I have a daughter. I'm going to have to protect her from predators.
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You'll see me on the nightly news with cuffs behind my back.
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I have to teach my daughter that she is not perfect,
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because you were born a young white male. Don't own the checking your privilege. Don't own the
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white guilt. Then I have to teach both of them. You are both imperfect. You are both fearfully
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and wonderfully created in the image of God and your actions define you. Society says,
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man at fault, woman, beautiful at any size, brave no matter what you do. All choices are as valid
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as the next choice. Men, these are your duties. And then you see it from conservative, so-called
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conservative women. These are, this is what we expect of you. Okay. What can we expect of women?
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Why are you trying to control me? Okay. Then enjoy 60% of women being single and unmarried
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by the year 2035. Yeah. I mean, what's happening is women are delaying marriage.
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So if you do like women and childbearing, it's just the age of first birth and first marriage
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is going to get older and older. Women are winning with our sexual strategy.
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We're getting to spend as much of our youth and fertility on ourselves.
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Women don't, because he's still under the idea, and I went through this too, that women
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want to be in relationships, but we really don't.
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We don't because if we wanted to, we would make choices to reflect that.
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What she just said is flat out wrong and sounds really shrill and naggy.
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there's hypocrisy in what she said, her fake, her fake little scenario that she presented.
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Yeah. A woman wants this, a woman wants that, a woman wants this, and the man just wants to sit
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at home in his mom's basement. Well, let's think about that little analogy just made up there. His
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mom's basement? Where's dad? Yeah. Did mom get tired of- And I think most of the guys are just
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doing this to save rent. Pretty much every guy I know that's living at home under 35 or even under
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40. They can afford a house, but they don't have a woman to move in with. They like their parents
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and they just think, eh, what, you know, it's easier to just live here and not pay rent.
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I don't think, men are kind of pragmatic. Like I know a lot of guys with the money for a house,
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but they just don't see the point. Her, uh, her marriage when it was convenient for her and then
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leave him, take the house. 80% chance. And now dad's in an apartment, can't afford to provide
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for his son yeah tonight he's living at home with a mom who left his dad at a convenient time and
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yeah put him out oh why what is it like women why doesn't he trust women yeah no she's she's
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making it sound like young young men just put in no effort and live at home hey honestly let me ask
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you who was it who spearheaded an entire movement to make sure that you wouldn't have to pay for
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your own birth control was was it men with condoms what was it or no it was that's right
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sandra fluke remember that where it should all be taxpayer funded on demand period same thing
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Hobby Lobby. It was a violation of your rights to not have abortion or abortificance as they
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believe it. 16 out of 21 birth control methods were paid for by Hobby Lobby health insurance,
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but it was a violation of your, so who was the one who wants free birth control? Who's the one,
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which group wants free extended maternity leave, free childcare, rearing, raising so you can out,
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I just want to be clear. Which one is that? Is it, is it, is it young men or is it young
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women how many young women are checking out and going to trade schools the trend that we see how
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many are becoming carpenters electricians working in a foundry now we're just getting jobs in human
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resources and basket study weaving programs sure there are plenty of lazy young men entitled
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matt says i'm 40 and i still live with my mom and dad pearls right there's no point in buying a
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property when i can build with my family they appreciate my resources and anytime i build with
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them yeah like some of the guys i know it's just their parents are getting older um sometimes it's
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their mother like they maybe their dad died and like their mom just needs help and it's just easier
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adult young men absolutely is tommy learning is she is she married to like a um like a former
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baseball tradesman or oh it's oh who's now a coach uh okay i mean that's cool i'm sure he's not a
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lazy guy but yeah yeah she definitely she definitely uh wealthy guy i'm sure a lot of
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boxes for herself there yeah i'm sure there were no tradesmen around who were working
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she says all these young men are lazy who do you think's putting up the freaking electric poles
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i know yeah more more construction than ever in history in this country yeah who do you think is
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doing it dumb dumb yeah it's but it's just a feminist not young men listen it's just like a
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feminist rehab fake nose makeup chicks you think that's who's doing it yeah really you think yeah
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sorry gerald no don't be fine my problem is it's just like tommy loren is sounding just like
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what she purports to hate. And that's my issue with her specifically on this is that she doesn't
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look at what caused men to be in that state. She doesn't look at that and say, hey, what are we
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telling young men right now? What are we doing to them as women, as society in general? What are we
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telling young men? Because that's what we're really talking about is young men are checking
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out. Okay, why? Not, ah, stupid, lazy young men. That's not how you solve the problem. Even if you
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disagree with what's causing it, you don't go, men are being lazy right now and living in mom's
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basement. Stupid men. We have enough men telling other men that they're stupid men. We have enough
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self kind of regulation amongst men. What we don't have enough of is looking at how are we
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training society? Are you getting what you've asked for ladies? Do you like what you have?
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Okay. Then let's change it. Don't just keep blaming men. Try to figure out what the root of
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the problem is. Then we can get somewhere. Well, there are two solutions to this. Okay.
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And they don't like the male solution. The young male solution statistically,
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and we've talked about this, they're just checking out. They're saying, I'm not going to get married.
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It's too much risk. I don't like the choices that I'm looking at before me as far as women.
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Young women like Tommy Loren, their solution is to blame men more for checking out.
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What about a young man who's just planning his life? He's like, yeah, I'm working my ass off.
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I'm working 10 hours, 12 hours a day, five to six days a week. I come home. My parents are not just
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my mom. I hate that. Because it implies that the mom just leaves and takes everything and the dad's
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a deadbeat, whatever. But he's just this young guy, he's living at home with his parents,
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saving up money so that someday he can, when he's ready to propose to a woman, when he's ready to
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start a family, when he's ready to suggest that to a woman, he has all the things behind him,
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ready to go. And he has the money, he has an investment, he has investment accounts,
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he has down payment for a house, the guy has a car that's paid off, the guy who can support
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somebody. What's wrong with that guy? Because he lived at home with his parents until he was 25,
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Took advantage of the opportunity he had because he came up kind of, you know, not rich.
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First off, let me give you a very clear example, okay?
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If you're a man and you're obese, now, you're two times as likely to be obese if you're a woman, a young woman than a young man.
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And young men don't typically like obese women.
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So, you're a young man and you're obese and you're living in your basement.
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We don't tell them that you're beautiful and brave
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who are twice as likely to be obese as young men,
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has friends going, no, Becky, you're beautiful.
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I had a scenario where I was roped in by my then lady
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to console her friend, who boyfriend broke up with her.
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And they were going, oh my God, he just doesn't deserve you.
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She only cheated because you weren't giving her enough attention.
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there was no more intimacy. There was a breakdown in communication. If a guy cheats, no matter what,
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he is a piece of crap societally. And I'm not saying that either one is okay, but I remember
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going through that going, wow, I guess there is no wrong that can be committed here that is
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impermissible. Hey, let me ask you this. You're a young man. You go through it. You go, oh, okay.
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Hey, I think she's really, I think that woman's really, you know what? I'm going to take my show.
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Oh, wait, can't cat call. Oh, wait, according to Gillette, I can't even go up and hit on a woman.
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okay um oh wait we have a problem of rape culture so if everything is consensual but she doesn't
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like me later on and i break up she could still go out and falsely accuse me of rape and i lose
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everything as we saw with aziz i'm sorry as we saw with chris hardwick as we saw with plenty of
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as we saw with trevor bauer okay there's that all right well let's say i work i do i don't
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encourage student debt and i finally find a right woman okay i want oh well if she doesn't want to
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work it okay she's going to go out and work she's not going to raise the kids oh i guess
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i have to outsource the raising of my children which is never a part of my dream all right i
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guess i'm gonna you know i'm gonna work extra and crowder knows about that he got a white woman
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white women love nannies they do not want to be moms they're like who else can do this who else
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hearts that we can get the best nanny and oh now i'm not present enough at home and she's gone
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and the law says that even if she never made as much as me she can take all of it and now i'm
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living in a junior suite so men go you know what considering the caliber of women out there in the
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young generations they're checking out and i'm not even a monk i'm 37. especially if it's a young
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man and their mom is that woman yeah in that scenario you just you just played out yeah
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their mom is that woman why won't this man get married yeah and by the way you also hear by
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the way if he loves you he'll love you just the way you are women tell other women guess what
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that's not true loves you there are things he wants to change about you just like i know
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Crowder's nanny was working 50 plus hours a week. Yup. White women and nannies.
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You with him, you know, the pet project that you treat him as, but then I've also heard women go,
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if love is never transactional, you just heard not one, two, three, but four or five
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transactional portions of that equation. Man has to be successful. Man has to be a provider.
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Man has to be masculine. Man has to lead until he starts leading in a way that you don't like,
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in which case you can leave him and take half. Love is never transactional, but she's not going
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for a carpenter who's working his ass off and making a good living, but isn't rich and is a
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good man who will treat her right. There are plenty of men like that around. Young women
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aren't interested and young women are fatter, more depressed, less mentally stable, and men
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are checking out. Here's the thing. You can scream women. And I don't want to see this.
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I want to see a return to traditional relationships because it's the most
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fulfilling thing that you can find in your life if you find a woman who is good and women if you
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find a man who is a leader and submit to him as in any other subordinate role to a leader you will
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too find what is good but here's the reality you can scream until you're blue in the face and blame
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they're checking out now they're just not they're just not getting married they don't think it's
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worth it you can scream you can you can continue to blame men and you will die alone that is a
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guarantee there is no door there's always a simp crowder i hate to say it but there's always a guy
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that'll do it there is number two until you start taking taking that lens and looking back on
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yourself let's talk about choice because i was here about women's choice all right i think we
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we got enough. That was amazing. Welcome to the Red Pill crew, Stephen Crowder. Welcome.
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We've been waiting for you. All right, but let's get into today's topic. The reason why you guys
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are all here. All right. So everybody, welcome to another episode of Pearl Daily. Today, we're
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going to talk about women getting dumped. So we all know that women end 70 to 80% of relationships
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and marriage. And there's a social infrastructure in place to encourage women leaving their men.
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They leave because they're not happy. They leave because they think they can do better. They leave
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because they get pumped and dumped by Chad, Gavis, Tyrone. And all you hear about in society is women
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breaking up with men but what happens when it's the other way around over here we recognize that
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men give a lot more in relationships than women men are expected to pay for everything they're
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expected to give up their hobbies and peace of mind just to have a woman in their lives
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men also deal with so much more than women would deal with in a relationship think about it guys
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the last girl you dated, she probably wouldn't shut up. She made you go do things she didn't
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want to do. She nagged you in your own house. She had some pet that she brought around that
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messed up all your stuff. So if a man leaves, it's usually something serious. Women cannot
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handle being broken up with. We can't handle rejection and we refuse to do the inner work to
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see how we contributed to a certain situation. That's what we are going to talk about today,
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women and how they can't handle when men break up with them. All right. So first let's talk about
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the top five reasons why men leave. He's an article. Okay. You thought you had the perfect
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guy. You couldn't imagine him cheating or walking out on you. I hear this frequently in my office.
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Why didn't he tell you how we felt? Why did he clam up or act like everything we did was okay
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when it wasn't? He was so into you that you thought he would never leave there. These are
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the things that guys keep to themselves. A majority of men I counsel are complimentary
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about their partners until I ask them how she makes him feel. And they begin revealing all
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the things that hurt them. When a guy feels hurt, he seldom uses words to express himself.
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When he may say he feels angry or he feels neglected, but for him to say what you really
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did hurt my feelings or you made me feel like less of a man is rare. Unfortunately, women
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expect words from men that they can't relate to. Therefore, they frequently overlook how their
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actions may be making a man feel. Men don't typically just walk out of a door and leave
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the love of their life. If they do, they probably won't explain why. Here are the top five reasons
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why guys leave. One, a guy cannot feel loved or build trust with someone who they feel disrespected
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by. He needs to feel like his opinion matters and that you have his back. When a man gets close to
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you, he understands you see his weakness. He needs to feel accepted even with his weakness.
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When you talk with your friends about how your partner is like another child, how much more money
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you make, or all you do for the family, his natural instinct is to feel defensive and compete against
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you. If his masculinity is threatened, you're making all the decisions. He questions why he's
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in a relationship. He feels like he's a project instead of a partner. Trying to fix your partner
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is like pushing them out the door. He questions if he can ever please you or if he'll match up
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to your expectations. Instead of trying harder, he gives up and becomes apathetic and the
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relationship falls apart. He feels sexually rejected. The majority of men I counsel feel
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unloved by their partner. Men feel as though their partner makes excuses not to be with them.
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He compares the way you dress for work or for girls' night to the way you dress around the house.
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He feels used in questions if you love him or your lifestyle more.
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Moms often become more emotionally attached to their children than their husband.
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He begins feeling rejected emotionally and sexually.
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A man will do almost anything for a woman he loves as long as he feels appreciated.
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He needs to be recognized by his partner as satisfying her the most.
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Men may seem unemotional, detached, and focused on other things, but they hear everything
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you say about them when it involves appreciation.
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It loses its significance when they're walking out the door.
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A relationship involves two different people, and that means men and women must think about
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what they say and do, how what they say and do affects their partners.
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Women have permission in society to feel pain and hurt, but men find that more difficult and
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usually only share how they feel with their significant other. If you're the person who
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holds your man's feelings, holds your man's hidden feelings, take extra care to treat him
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with respect and appreciation. All right, put a one in the chat. If you've ever dumped a woman
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for any of those reasons, make sure you like the video while you're here. There's 650 of you in
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the chat. It would be great to get 600 likes. A like is free. Okay. Why men quit relationships.
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Women says the three reasons why men leave relationships. Here are the top three reasons
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why some men leave relationships. I've done some research. Let's get into it family. Number one,
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their needs are not being met and have not been met for a period of time. And therefore they have
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given up on the idea that their needs will be met in this relationship. Number two, he feels
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unappreciated and like he's being taken for granted number three there is a lack of connection
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and intimacy this lack of connection can cause a man to disconnect completely i mean completely
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and it creates a desire within him to move on all right there we go number one crazy girl won't
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leave her ex-boyfriend alone hello oh man i keep knocking on that door okay well i need to come
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over here, wait for the door. Ma'am, step away from the door.
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I don't want her here. She's been asked to leave many, many
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I don't want her hurt. I don't want her arrested.
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I just want her out of here, please, and I want
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I've been waiting for my glass to come in and break.
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anymore, and I don't want her on my premises.
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And I don't want him coming out of here because
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i don't feel safe with her with him okay ma'am what is your name
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ma'am dang just take the l that's enough what is your name
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i don't want her in trouble i just want her to understand she's not welcome here
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what's her first name so she doesn't want to answer me sandra samantha samantha are you
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are you hearing what she's saying hello samantha i bet he had that good d that is the only way
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Okay, this is going to last for a couple more minutes
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Should I answer him, or are you going to leave?
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I can understand how relationships and stuff like that
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Not the way to act like it, because I'm assuming you're an adult, all right?
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Samantha, if you keep obstructing him, he is going to...
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Do you have your registration in your car?
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You can't logic with crazy mother. Tell her to arrest him. Tell her to arrest her.
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welcome here anymore you need to leave why would you want to go and obstruct justice and get
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yourself into trouble when you're being given the chance by three officers to leave here who are
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being very respectful and calm with you and giving you the chance to go to your home and deal with
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whatever it is that you need to deal with brutal brutal okay part two let's see what she does next
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Justice and get yourself into trouble when you're being given the chance by three officers to leave here who are being very respectful and calm with you and giving you the chance to go to your home and deal with whatever it is that you need to deal with today and not be here and get yourself in trouble.
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If you get arrested, then you got to go back to court.
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If you come back on this property and we catch you here, you go to jail.
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all right like i said if she comes back on your property you call us
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you're welcome she just blew through a stop sign
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they think they're gonna have no consequences and by the way guys we want you to call
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in later and tell us your breakup stories so get ready there's going to be a link in the chat in a
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the suspect passed seven business parking lots multiple side streets and a few turning lanes
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turn the car off turn it off turn the car off turn it off turn it off turn the car off
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that girl's gonna get shot or something okay a woman cheats on a man and also will not leave his
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doorstep open the door i'm not letting you be with nobody else i'm not playing i'm not playing
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He said, I think he should, one of the comments says, I think he should forgive her and take
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i can't live without you line all right girl gets rejected and looks like a psychopath
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wait what did it say hold on it said watch me get rejected by my crush
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oh hey i was wondering um it's sophia if you want to come grab dinner with me and i'll buy
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okay what's up do you want to go get sushi stop and i'll buy
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i'm kind of busy okay that's fine are you sure i mean i'll pay just for a second no like
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i just want to talk to you about everything and say sorry
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and like no expectations i literally i'm just like i was in the area just by riley's
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yeah i can't i can't yeah what the hell did she do to get that response
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oh okay all right yeah i'm doing something right now oh okay for sure maybe later sometime okay bye
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um which one word is i on oh here we go girl gets rejected by a doctor okay i was rejected
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so last night i went out with my doctor he was so nice such a gentleman i have nothing bad to say
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the date was fun he was easy to talk to but towards the end that's when we started getting
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into like the more serious questions i try to keep first dates like 90 to 95 fun and light-hearted
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and just like a vibe and only like five to ten percent more serious deep conversation so we got
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to like the question of like what are you looking for long term and i was honest i said you know
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i see myself being a stay-at-home mom one day i don't know how to work this oh i see trying out
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this new concealer by milk yeah she's not hot enough for a doctor unless he's kind of simpy
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and anyway the doctor was super honest with me about he sees himself with a partner who works
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full time like long term like even when they have kids and he was really honest you know he says
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that you know he's a family practice medicine or something like that and he has so many student
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debts he can't financially provide for a family for like 10 to 15 years i feel like i put on way
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too much concealer like what's the point of the ball and listen i do want to be a stay-at-home
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mom but what he said is not a deal breaker for me because you have to put it into perspective we live
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in california we live in one of the most expensive places to live so yeah him as a family doctor with
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you know hundreds of thousand dollars of debt probably for medical school yeah he can't afford
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a family here but if we were to fall in love and you know date seriously we could just move right
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that's why in my mind i'm like this this isn't a deal breaker for me i didn't say that to him but
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So we finished dinner and it's when he's dropping me off
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Remember, we met on Delight where you have to unmatch your match
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So he told me that he didn't think our ideal future lifestyles were compatible.
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And look, I could have disagreed with him, but what's the point?
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and by the time I made it back to my apartment, he had unmatched me on Delight.
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I got rematched with a guy who I had previously swiped right on before I matched with the doctor.
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And we talked a bit last night, and guess what I'm getting ready for right now?
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She took the L-O-K. This was an all right L.
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That's right. Your girl already has another dinner date for 5 p.m. tonight.
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now i just need to do my hair wish me luck yeah he probably found her tick tock
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all right crazy ex-girlfriend comes over to a boyfriend's house hey it's funny me um
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okay do you know what day it was yesterday yesterday on those monday my birthday okay
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happy birthday all right right now but i'm sure she didn't actually message me yesterday to be
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No, I haven't. I haven't blocked you on Instagram.
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You blocked me off Instagram like we've broken up like a month ago.
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Yeah, but you know, you can email me. You can wish me happy birthday.
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it's just the least that you could do even though you've just broken up not that long ago
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i still i still care about you in it well hopefully you care about me but clearly you don't
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do you wish me happy birthday okay but okay but you broke up with me like how am i supposed to
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say happy birthday i feel like this might be a scare to you how am i supposed to happy birthday
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to you if you blocked me because there's so many ways you can you've got my email you can email me
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you can even you've even bank transfer me a penny doesn't he don't even have to break the bank for
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transfer me a penny put reference happy birthday there's so many people that do that nowadays
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like why am i gonna back transfer you money or like even a penny when like you blocked me and
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you're the one who broke up with me i just still think it's a bit unfair that you're not even
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wishing me happy but if it was your birthday yeah i'd 100% wish you happy birthday oh my gosh
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okay I had four guys break oh okay now we can watch the breakups last week so guys last week
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I decided I wanted you guys to give give you guys a chance to dump me um obviously we could
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see how well I took these um breakups so I had a great breakup um guy number five or four I think
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it was um sean he calls in a lot he had a great breakup so let's react to these wait wait i can
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change i can change i'll do better you've had three months to do it i haven't seen any change
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sorry yeah can you guys can you guys um dump me on stream i want to see how you guys would do it
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I got to give us a scenario, you got to give us a scenario of how, why are we dumping?
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Okay. So the scenario is, it's just not like, um, I don't know what's the, not cheating,
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but you're just, she's just not putting out. No, no, putting out, not cheating,
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but you're just like over it. It's who I am as a person or go ahead. How about this? How about this?
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she wants she's spending too much time at your house and she's like she's putting too much time
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at your house and she doesn't like your interest so she's starting to put herself at odds with your
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with your business time and your hobbies how about that okay yeah let's do it shiv you want to go
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shiv you want to go first yeah so for me i i just don't give women reasons i just break up with them
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so i just be like hey like i found out like my grandma's really sick i might have to go to india
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for four months oh don't worry wait wait but but i'll wait for you i'll wait for you
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no you don't understand like you deserve so much better
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i don't you're the no you're the you're the one for me don't worry i'll be there for you
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you i'm gay i'm gay i'm gay i'm asexual i identify as that's okay that's okay
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oh okay then can we just be can we just be friends and still hang out it's against my
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religion i i changed so i'm a scientologist now okay all right glenn you're next tell me i'm ready
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i want to say that once again she she's she insists on coming to your house so you you
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haven't had alone time in like a month a month and a half because she wants to spend every
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waking second with you and when she comes over she doesn't like you on your computer she doesn't like
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you watching football i want to do something glenn yeah what do you want to do and then you're
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naming things off so i don't want to do that why do we have to do what you want to do if you
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okay this is how would you come here come here let me show you something i'm gonna show you
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something in the bedroom um oh wow i'm excited do you see um what's next to the bed is that one night
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stand yeah you are supposed to be just like that one night stand okay okay but it worked out i'm
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so happy yeah so one night stand you have turned into a 30 day stand and um yeah it's not gonna
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work out like it's just it's just doesn't why but why um i your sister she's 15.
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it's just like i i'm i'm going you know i think my favorite
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i think glenn he got right to the point i did enjoy that but the best oh doug your mom okay
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like your mom is the business like she makes the biscuits okay you you burnt the biscuits
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you know it was one time i'm getting dumped over one time i'm sorry could you tell me could you
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just tell me why what did I do can you tell me please your mom uses no teeth okay I told you
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the teeth thing is a problem okay well can we can I just get some closure yes the door will close
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on the way Sean you're next how are you gonna do it this was a masterpiece hey can I talk to you
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for a second yeah what's going on so you know and this is an open conversation it's a two-way street
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as we always have communication and conversations it's not only my opinions it's yours too and so
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I would like for you to say anything there'll be no consequences no negative things it's open
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in discussion i was looking on the internet and i found these clips of you being a colonizer
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and i wanted to ask you about that because you know i'm pro-black you know and i'm i'm for the
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community and uh you know what do you have to say about these things i'm gonna have to break
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up with you actually because i can't i get it i get it and that's where we just have to separate
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you know and i get it you know i still care about you and still be friend will still be
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close friends i wish you the best this is the best breakup i've ever had
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i don't want it to be negative i don't we had 80 percent of our time together was great yeah
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you know and the last guy shut the door in my face so this is great no the door closed on itself
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self-closing doors i wouldn't i wouldn't do that yeah the other guys look i'm not gonna do that
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to you probably i'm not gonna lie to you oh you're so nice i'm gonna miss you okay yeah
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i'll miss you rather you hate to see a go but you love to watch her leave already i asked him to do
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another. Well, I'm sorry my colonization was a problem. It's cool. Some people needed to be
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colonized sometimes, but it's okay, Pearl. You didn't do it. I just have to stand with the
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community. Yeah, I understand. Doug MPA, you're next. Are you going to dump me?
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so so i would set it up where so example i i'm a punctual person pearl and i work together and
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she knows how much i can't stand it when she's late to calls and stuff like that so but when
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i'm with somebody i i'll do something like if we're supposed to be somewhere at two and i know
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the person is always late i'll tell her like 1 15 right and so there are things i will do
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To mitigate the things that she does to piss me off right and what I'll do is I'll stop doing those things
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The last couple of last month or two you're always late always
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i don't think you do and and so i'll start keep you're not supposed to keep um keep tally or keep
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track but i'll change certain behaviors and start keeping tally and track of where she's deficient
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and then use that to break up with her you're always late you i i'll pay for all the dates
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and all the food and then i'll say you you never pay for a date you just want me for my money i
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that i thought that was especially funny because i know doug mpa hates when girls
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you told me you wanted to pay yeah but you know what you should at least offer
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but you hate it when people offer yeah i you know what i i would set it up like that
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where i would find reasons where she's deficient and use those to break up with her
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like you know what you you're late all the time okay but wait wait i can change i can change i'll
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do better you've had three months to do it i haven't seen any change sorry here's my question
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have you guys ever used like pointing out other chicks to make her feel like she's like you're
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like you're not even into her like she's not your type
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i did that she made she broke up yeah i don't i mean i really liked my colonizer breakup the best
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he's like the professional breakup you know like yeah that was great like h still at the end can
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we give him another business here can we give him another scenario i want another one yeah okay
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try to judge my game okay i got i got one i got one let's say she's insecure and she's accusing
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you of leaving dick imprints on the counter okay she thinks you're cheating on her
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and she thinks that she sees your dick imprint on the counter and you know you're following all
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these girls um i'm not doing that you're liking all these pictures and i'm just i'm freaking out
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and she knows your instagram dms are full of titties yeah i need you to follow uglier women
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please yeah right no i understand that one all right hey pearl can we have a conversation yeah
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yeah let's go guys always tell you you're gonna have communication with your girl that's more
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superior than her ability to communicate so you have to make time for it so pearl um i know you've
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been having issues or speaking about ig and first first of all i don't want to get it wrong so tell
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me if there are any issues or things you want to talk about. What is it? What's the, well,
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you're just, you're always like you, you're always following these girls and liking their picture.
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Like you never follow men. It's always just women on Instagram always, you know,
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and your friend, she wants to sleep with you. I can just tell, I think you're cheating on me.
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go ahead it's on the counter as far as the girl in particular right we're friends and we've been
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friends for a while and pearl i never lie i'm not gonna lie to you i'm too old to be doing that
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i went to war i've been in combat i'm not scared of you i'm gonna tell you the truth i'm gonna
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tell you what you need to hear even if you don't like it have i not done that in our relationship
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already yeah you have i guess i was over blowing it now that's okay people get
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their ideas and the number one most important part is you communicated to me and we had the
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time to talk about it if you didn't then that would be a problem right because possibly it
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would build resentment and other things like that so i appreciate you bringing that to me
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is there anything else that you had issues with no you're the best i'm so glad this is working out
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about it really working out i think it would work out if we transition this relationship
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i'm serious bro because i mean it does it was such a straight thing
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At the end of the day, I might not be the guy that you need.
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But like we're, I've never been with anyone better.
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I know. So he takes the problems he opened me up to say and uses them against me.
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I want to be your friend. I want to support you. I've always done that and I'm okay with that.
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Most of our relationship was good, Pearl. It's not a bad thing, but everything in life doesn't
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last forever there's time limits but you said you wanted to marry me someday and you said that you
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have an issue with these things and we don't want that in a marriage imagine our kids having to deal
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with this if we had kids that was such a beautiful line would you want that for your children i don't
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think you would no i wouldn't and i think you need someone who won't give you those type of issues
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that don't follow women on instagram i get it and it's not a cool thing for your perspective
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and i respect your perspective it's important i'll always be here for you pearl that's for
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sure for sure really especially at 2 a.m john man holy
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anyways guys i got a i know a standing ovation from the panel okay so i want you guys to call
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in the links in the chat and what is the worst way a woman responded to you breaking up with her
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what caused the breakup and if you divorced your ex-wife how did she handle it doug mpa
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are you on the line is he here yet no maybe he's not he's coming soon if he's not
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oh it's telling me my battery's low let me check the website really quick by the way guys you do
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have unlimited super chats on the website so the let me see let me go back you get so if you do
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have a super chat put it on the website and i will read it okay i'm charging this
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hey sorry about that okay how's it going doug mpa going good i was just reminiscing from that
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beautiful breakup yeah yeah that that breakup um show that we had and sean's beautiful two beautiful
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breakups that's a talent right there it's great because he gets the girl to open up do you have
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any other problems and then she's like yes this this this this well we can't bring that into a
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marriage awesome so um what was the worst way a woman responded to you dumping her
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hold on one second one second one second one second okay one second
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um one second okay yeah there are people in the um actually on the show already ask the question
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again um what's the worst way a woman responded to you breaking up with her
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well um so i've never been broken up with i just had women on date you know we're dating and they're
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like, yeah, you're not really my speed, but out of a relationship, I've never been broken up with.
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In dating, though, you know, I believe in ghosting. Guys, ghost these women, because women feel
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entitled to your time, to your resources, and to closure. Don't give them any of those, right?
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so i ghosted this woman and um she put me in one of those um are we dating the same guy groups
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those are brutal and so one of my friends who's a woman uh was like is this you i'm part of this
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group and i'm like what and it was a picture of me and i'm like what the heck is going on here
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So that's probably, I've never really been broken up without a relationship, but I've had some crazy stuff happen in dating where, you know, I've ghosted a woman or I just didn't want to see her anymore and she's, you know, does something like that or, you know, just the places where you would, example, you know, I like to karaoke a lot or I like to do trivia and stuff.
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they'll do the thing where you break up with them you don't want to date them anymore
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but they'll show up to the place that you brought them multiple times
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they'll just show up one day and you're like what are you doing here so i've had that happen but
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i've never really been broken up with did a girl ever crash out on you when you dumped her
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uh the crash out like get violent and stuff no like i don't know she called crying texting
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anything like that um screaming never not really no i i guess i avoid the crazy ones
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okay so so most of them took it okay and just accepted it yeah most of them took it okay
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okay so i i have had the one i've had one girl uh where i broke up with her and
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And she got my sister's phone number one time and was trying to call my sister and say,
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hey, you know, I think he's about to break up with me and blah, blah, blah.
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So that's probably the craziest thing that's happened.
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I brought her to a family function and apparently she said, hey, you know, let me get your phone
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And so after we broke up, she kept calling my sister.
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But that's probably the craziest thing that happened.
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other life just the other life are you there yes i am hey how's it going doing excellent how about
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your guys good so tell me about your lap or um tell me about your breakups have you had a woman
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most time i just ghost women uh it's like if i'm not interested in them anymore i just ghost them
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just start stop talking to them texting or whatever it just kind of goes away eventually
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but uh there was like one woman who was trying to cause issues but since i have like more than
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three years of private security experience i was able to foresee that ahead of time and when she
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started talking things that i didn't like i just pointed to my hobby which is those little guys
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the camera yep security cameras i just pointed her to one of my security cameras inside my
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apartment and she immediately changed her tune just left and that was it uh you just have to
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prepare ahead of time for this kind of stuff nowadays it's just simple as that what was the
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reason you dumped her uh she wanted to be just the only woman in my life and that's not gonna happen
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okay yeah so because i'm all about ghosting man you know ghosting is another one of those things
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where women try to women will do that to men but then when it happens to them they try to say a
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real man wouldn't ghost and blah blah blah because i okay women still try to hold men to a higher
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standard and there are a lot of men who think that they should hold themselves to a higher standard
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when when we tried to do that at one time but women call that patriarchy so i'm all about it
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so what got you into the whole ghosting thing where you just stop talking to a woman uh it's
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just uh once i get what i want from a woman and she doesn't have anything else to offer that that
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is it pretty much it's just how it goes i mean i'm in a small town most women are from like over
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100 miles away from me so it's actually easier for me got it okay cool
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well i wish you luck in your ghosting keep it up yeah i sure will and keep those cameras rolling
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man i just had two more contracts for cameras just today alone so i'm installing more and more
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around my town so i have access to over 60 cameras now that helps me great well thanks
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for calling in calling anytime okay sounds good have a good time okay jc jackson
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jc are you there yeah can you hear me hey there he is hey jc how's it going where are you calling
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out of it's going good out north carolina same as always cool so tell me have you dumped a woman
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she crashed out what happened um i had two really bad ones um one one i just straight up
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like dipped i got i got sick of her she was always we had this like we were together for
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like three years we had this arrangement where i worked to put her put her through school
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and then we got her done with school and then we were working to put me through school and uh
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yeah she didn't like the whole working full-time while i went to school thing so
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of course not yeah yeah that did yeah there was there was no there was no even backseat
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there that did that was not that was not happening but yeah i uh i did i just i left
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she came home from work one day me most of the furniture all that good stuff was gone
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just left her and uh park the apartment her name and her dogs like here you go
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so she she messaged me and she was pretty ill about that she went through our preacher and
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stuff even to get a hold of me because i wasn't i was like i was i was not talking to her but
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yeah you gotta just take the l yeah i just i told i even told a preacher i said look
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she was this way before um she started working everything was fine then she started uh i i got
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her through her emt school then she started working full-time while i went to uh you know
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went back to college to finish my degree and she was always angry always ill always had attitude
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i was like but what about the other one my ex-wife uh uh so my first marriage uh uh we were we i i
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found out she was like talking to other dudes and stuff while i was gone for like the military when
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i got back she didn't think i knew so i just kind of let it go for a time i she didn't know i knew
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but all the bills were in my name so like i took the phone and uh when i left i took the phone
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took my stuff you know and our kid i couldn't really take our kid at the moment but when i
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went through the phone she had been buying she'd been buying prescription pills from one of our
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neighbors one of our neighbors had like a pain uh pain pill uh yeah yeah yeah so i went to uh
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uh i went to my lawyer because we were you know i was getting divorced and hey look this is going
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on he went to a judge got an emergency order and so she found out i was breaking up with her
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basically when the cops showed up like hey hey uh the kid's going with him you can argue about the
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kid's going with him right now oh my god i i was i was not physically there like like like i was not
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within like but i was like across the street watching it and she was she was freaking out
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with the cops and then my phone blew up after they took the kid and you know they put the kid in the
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cop car brought her to my house i would like to say i was within 100 yards so she couldn't see
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me but i could see everything and my phone just my phone went off and that was a that was a bad
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i ended up getting full custody eventually no way hey yeah yeah i got i won a few men
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into the history that got full custody but uh i had full custody of my daughter after that from age
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five until she was about nine i think and then you know her mother went and got quote quote
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clean off drugs and remarried and she came back and now we share 50 50 custody now she's fine
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but like it was you know when our early years was really rough okay on a scale of one to ten and
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looks the mother of your child where would she rate because she got off drugs and got remarried
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again uh she um i say about a six like like we were from we were from a small town and we were
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high school sweethearts and then you know we broke up and she got a younger guy from our same high
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school and she 100 convinced that man like hey yeah go into the military like they got they got
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they got they got married three weeks after our divorce went through so oh okay it was kind of
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like completely lined up i'm so another thing i'm gonna ask the um i'll ask each person is
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why do you think it's so hard for for women to take l's when it comes to like relationships why
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is it because they've never done it before yeah i i see i see it with everyone i've seen it with
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my mother i've seen with my mother-in-law i've seen it with my sister-in-law i've seen with
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i've seen with my sister they don't they don't know how like it fundamentally messes up their
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brain if they're the ones that broken up with because it just it's just not supposed to happen
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in quote quote their their reality and they have no idea how to like you can't explain it to them
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all day but it just the wires will not connect it doesn't matter what you do you know you know
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like men will crash out over a breakup at like 18 to 20 and since it's so delayed for women
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and it doesn't happen to us till like 25 to 35 depending on when you start getting ugly
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and um i don't know i think it's kind of delayed for women would you agree yeah i think most young
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men i so i think social media is different now i don't because back then we didn't have like phones
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in our faces for everything so i think most young men my age they done cried over girls by like 12
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13 and so like by the time they got to 18 they're like oh yeah i got dumped again it is what it is
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yeah well i think um gen z is just kind of delayed with that i don't know how old your daughter is
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but like it seems i don't like my gen z relatives um it was very different than like the millennials
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because if they like went out drinking or something we would be excited because they'd be
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going out and like doing something like none of them really seemed to date or like i don't know
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they just seem like all the big life events are like delayed is that what you've seen or no
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yes um like i don't even because i have younger female cousins like no one really even dates
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anymore like like there's no like talking or dating phase it's uh it's because my cousin
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recently got a boyfriend and it was i had no idea he's this i know how this is he's at the
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family family dinner like just it goes from it goes from this person doesn't exist to they're
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coming over for every holiday like there's no really in between for some reason yeah yeah yeah
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i i agree with that and i think it's because of the social media thing where that has translated
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to like instant instant gratification uh in real life too yeah they don't have to go out
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like they can just sit at home yeah um like my i have a sister-in-law who's 16 and a or my daughter
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will be 15 later this year they don't want their licenses like they don't want to drive because
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they don't have that's a big thing that's a big thing a lot of young young people just aren't
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driving yeah so weird it's so weird yeah my my gen z relatives it's it was it was just really
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contrast because if they the two i'm thinking of if they were caught like with a boy drinking or
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anything i think our family would have been like excited because they just would never leave do
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you know what i mean like we're like oh finally they'll do it they're like doing some normal
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teenager stuff but yeah yeah okay and even even back when i was young and dating like you know
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the early 2000s like the dating the the breakup ratio was still the same meals most time the girls
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were breaking up with the guys like you you would know if you would know if a girl got broken up
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with because they be they had meltdowns in the middle class in high school they didn't care
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okay yeah now they do it on social media yeah all right thanks for calling in buddy yeah thanks for
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calling in okay next up guys hit that like button subscribe we are on our way to three million
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Good. Hey, Pearl. Good to finally see you. I was watching YouTube not too long ago, and I saw that you were at the Grove, right up the street from my fiancée's place.
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I would have said hello to you and the guy that you were with.
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I don't know where that's I don't know if that was me.
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You were doing some some interviews and you were with the Indian guy.
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I think he's Indian. I'm not too sure what his name is.
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Oh, OK. Oh, you're talking about in California.
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So dumping women, how has that gone for you?
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What's the craziest thing that a woman's done after you dumped her?
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And I was actually engaged to this religious chick. And we were together for about two, three years and everything was going great. But I started seeing all these red flags. So but after the engagement broke off and it didn't work out, she got into this religious podcast. Right.
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where she was being negative being super uh you know playing the small fiddle uh oh woe is me
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it was all his fault uh and just you're just spewing all these lies to this platform that
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she had you know on this uh religious uh uh chat that she would have on on youtube she was telling
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the female friendly version of the story you know what that is uh what is that friendly version of
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story is where they're the hero and the victim at the same time in the story right that's about right
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sounds yeah sounds about 100 go ahead so yeah so and then when i found this out obviously i didn't
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reach out to her i'm like look at this i was sharing that platform with my friends and family
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members like can you believe this broad you know she's like telling lies how you know i was a bad
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guy you know i was a bad influence and i just couldn't believe it it was just you know lies
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after lies but it was making her look good obviously but it was just one of the things
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that i couldn't believe she would you know go to that extent to you know kind of blackball me or
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you know treat me you know paint me like i was the evil person in the relationship which which i
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wasn't because i did everything for her i bent over backwards uh yeah it's a long story but i
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mean can you give me an example of one thing that she said um and tell me how you would tell the
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story and how she would tell it not like everything but just like one specific example that she told
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oh yeah definitely let's see so uh okay so i live in san diego go padres right so we had this uh
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pool party at one of the places where you know me and my my housemates were renting it was it
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it was like a five-bedroom house nice size pool hot jacuzzi and everything so we had it was
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summertime and we had this huge party and uh so i invite her and i invite some of her friends and
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my my the main housemate is a personal trainer and he has his own gym his crossfit gym so of course
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he would bring his clients and his coaches and it was just you know it wasn't as bad as girls gone
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wild but it was pretty close enough because all the the hot coaches and the clients were wearing
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you know they were super fit wearing their best bathing suits outfits and you know obviously i
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I wasn't going to hide anything from my fiance at the time. So I said, you know what, come on down,
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let's have a good time. You know, it's going to be, it's going to be a great time. So she gets
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there. She doesn't like what she sees. She looks at me like, Hey, what's going on here? So I'm like,
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okay, well, you know, just relax, you know, just have to have some drinks and enjoy the views and
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enjoy the music. So as soon as she gets home, she tells like her friends and family members,
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oh my God, you know, this, you know, he invited me to like this, like, you know, almost like a,
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like a Diddy party or something like that, you know?
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Half naked chicks, dudes, drugs, everything my mother,
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to tell her what I was up to with these guys that I'm living with.
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like when you broke up with her and dumped her,
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Was she like balling and stuff or how did she react when you actually broke up with her?
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Oh, yeah, she was just crying, you know, and, you know, I think I heard another guest mentioned something about, you know, or maybe those are the videos that you were putting on earlier, how, you know, oh, my God, you know, you're my life, you know, take me back, you know, I can change.
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i said listen you're never gonna change you know it's like i saw the red flags and i thought once
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we got engaged that she would change and knowing that this was going to be a serious thing
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and we're moving forward but she just got even worse and i'm like you know what you can't
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change a zebra stripes right i mean you're never going to change you are who you are you're super
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jealous you're super controlling it's like and i don't deserve this so i treated you nothing like
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a queen so it's time for me to move on okay well good for you and so after you said all that
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that's when she went on the podcast uh yeah maybe six months later she she got into this podcast
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religious christian podcast and just paying over here you know look women are whores women are
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mothers but the worst thing about modern women is that they can't they overshare too much
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britney renner britney renner she she could have won if she would have made a couple of different
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decisions and the worst part about a britney renner isn't the fact that she's a waste of
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pretty isn't the fact that she's a whore isn't the fact that she freaking groomed some young
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18 year old and had his kid is the fact that she can't keep her mouth shut if you get with a
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britney renner she will write a book about you you your ex any guy that gets with her
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is going to be fodder for a podcast afterwards i agree 100 although britney runners made a
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comeback this year let's see if she pulls off kevin gates you know she's she made as one of
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his wives yeah she's doing that um like the buzzer beater like the kobe at the end
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let's see if it goes in we'll see yeah all right thanks for calling in okay calling anytime
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thanks bro okay then we have a return guest we have
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detox is back on let me get him in here detox how you doing buddy what's going on buddy how
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you doing doing good how's it going detox just terrible just terrible how you doing pearl why
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what's bad it's a joke it's a joke i'm doing great how you guys doing tonight good so what's
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the worst way a woman's reacted when you've dumped her um i i got a few of them because i've done
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quite a few chicks in my days um but the most recent one we were like on again off again but
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I had brought her, and believe it or not, this is a traditional woman.
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I don't want to say, because if I say that, people know my profile and stuff.
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she was staying in my in in my apartment and then like little by little the the modern woman started
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creeping out right so um one one night we got in this argument and the argument was unresolved
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in the night time we both went to bed pissed off and then the next day the next day i was like i
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slept on the couch and she slept in the bed i went in there to wake her up and i gave her a kiss on
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the forehead and she jumped up and she's like i was sleeping i was sleeping why did you wake me up
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and she just started wigging out so i went like i left the situation i went into the living room
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and that pissed her off even more right she runs into the living room she's she's like yelling at
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me because obviously in her head she thinks she's doing the best she can do to resolve the situation
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and i just didn't like the way she was talking to me it was like she was standing over me putting
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her fingers in my face and i was like i'm not going to talk to you when you're pissed off like
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this right and she goes if you walk out that door we are finished we are done and i'm like whatever
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so i take out my phone and i start like just ignoring her and looking at youtube or whatever
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just trying to like tell her her like i'm not going to engage with you while you're all pissed
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off like this she snatches the phone out of my hand right and i'm like i got really pissed
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but i held my temper i'm like don't fucking do that i take my phone back from her she snatches
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it out of my hand again but to the point where it like hits my hand and my phone falls right
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so at that point she's like she's like cocking back like she's ready to swing on me
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and i grabbed her hands and uh like i pushed her back right so after that argument we pretty much
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broke up the next day i had to kick her out and like it it was like a super super duper dramatic
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scene right so at this point we're broken up like i kicked her out i'm like i don't want to see you
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again she she she uh took an uber all the way to the airport and flew back to our country um
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then later on like a couple weeks later i find out that she's telling my mom like oh he put his
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hands on me and he was very aggressive and violent and she's basically saying like all the stuff
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that she did to me that i did to her and that it was so messed up of so messed up of me to kick her
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out at 2 a.m in the morning like she was just something like like i just started this whole
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for no reason right it was insane all right so then we started talking again like to fix
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her like it was it was like on and off again for like two years right we started talking again to
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like fix the relationship i missed her she missed me we were like working through all of our issues
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right and so i'm getting ready to go fly down to her country to meet her
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and then me and my mom are having this conversation so whenever your girlfriend
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becomes like best friends with your mom and you don't like your mom that is a huge red flag because
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if they get along and and your mom is crazy most likely the girlfriend is going to be crazy too
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because they think alike so um she i'm getting ready to go fly down and me and my mom is like
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why are you going to go see that girl my mom had this thing where she would like play both sides
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right she would be like my girl's best friend when i wasn't around and when my when my girl
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wasn't around she'd be like my best friend and like say bad stuff about her right so my mom is
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like you shouldn't be wasting time going to go see that girl i don't know why she she basically
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starts explaining to me that um this girl told her so she was in the process of reapplying to
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get her visa to come back to the states right she told my mom that i called the the american embassy
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or whoever it does that that all that um that hands out the visas that i called them and ruined
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her visa and that's why she failed her visa test and i could not believe what i was hearing right
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so then she she um i was like that i'm not going down there right like why would you say something
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like that with zero proof and then just because you felt like i did that it was completely
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athlinem back shit backwards like you just you're just making up at this point to make me look bad
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and then saying that behind my back like people we know right so then she so we hadn't talked for
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like at that point i just stopped responding to her so then it i think it had been like maybe
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20 something days like 21 or 22 days later i just got back from a work trip she's she calls me and
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I'm like, I'm on the phone with the client. Like, let me call you back. She calls me again. I say,
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stop calling. I had to text her. Like she, she just kept calling over and over and over and
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over. And basically like, I lost a lot of money on the sales call because the client just kept
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hearing boop, boop, boop every five seconds while they're, while I'm trying to have this business,
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this business call. And like the, this was right when the economy started getting like really
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crappy so i really really needed that money right i tell her stop calling me i'll call you in a
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little bit like what is so important that you have to talk to me right now right she goes did did you
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tell these people that they did they did it and and basically she started listing off all of this
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crazy shit that never happened and i was like that's why you're blowing up my phone like you
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couldn't wait to talk about this so later so so ultimately what ended up happening what happened
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with this girl nothing i just stopped talking to her man like it it got really bad we just got in
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a few arguments and and then um so two of the client we were running this business together
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like really successfully i gave her like my worst clients but those clients um a large portion of my
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clients were also like friends that i knew for a really long time she ended up becoming like best
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friends with my clients and now they don't talk to me because of all the crazy that she's put out
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yeah basically poisoning so many women doing that actually yeah they start hanging out with all your
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your your best friends and all of your family and they just like basically manipulate them against
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you like to absorb the resources it's crazy you want to hear the old so i had a friend um he was
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20 years old 19 years old and he um he got this girl pregnant and his mom okay his mom was a
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single mom and hated his dad right so right away the mom took his baby mother's side so he had
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she had the kid and i was working a part-time job in retail at the time and this guy's baby
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mother would come to the store and follow him around yelling and screaming at him calling him
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all sorts of names saying he wasn't a man he wasn't a good dad and then his mom and his baby's
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mother were the same were friends so then his mom would say the same thing oh you you're just like
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your dad you know you're you're a piece of garbage blah blah blah right and he put up with that for
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two years, right? Well, he bought a over-the-counter DNA test. He swapped that baby's mouth. It wasn't
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his kid. That's wild. Two years of his baby mama yelling and screaming at him, and his mom
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yelling and screaming at him, shaming him, calling him names, insulting him.
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right when he found out he packed up his stuff and moved out of state yeah you know the crazy
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thing is i i wish there were some type of legal like repercussions that would happen to people
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that do that like i've heard some horror stories dude like absolute horror stories or like dudes
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end up you know that taking their own life and eating you know stuff they shouldn't be eating
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or swallowing you know chemicals that keep cars cool like just doing all kinds of stuff just to
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get out of the situations like they're that stressed out you know it like really wrecks
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their mind and people just don't care you know right i i know this um back to the um this this
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one chick that i broke up with she ended up like becoming friends with a guy that i make music with
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and then he had to deal with her shit and she did like even crazier stuff to him but
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after i broke up with her right she so i was already seeing somebody new and then like we
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were talking about fixing the relationship or whatever she comes over to me and this new chick's
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like just to talk or whatever and the the new chick was in the other room sleeping and her
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her bedroom door was right next to the front door and i'm like look keep it down she's sleeping like
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I don't want to argue with you right now. And she's like, she just started wigging out.
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She slams the door so hard that like the foundation of the house was like shaking and it cracked.
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And of course my roommate woke up. Right. Then she starts hanging out with all of all of my
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friends, like showing up to places that she did. She had zero idea that we would be. She just
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magically found out we were there. Like in the city that I live in, we do this thing called
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the drum circle where like a few hundred people go to the beach and you know we go out there and
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have a few drinks so she would just show up and find us like she had gps on us bro why would you
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want to be around someone that you like aren't together with anymore do you know what i mean
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like don't you want to find a new boyfriend yeah exactly well she did find a new she did find a
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new boyfriend which was like one of my one of my best friends and then he drove her crazy
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she did the same thing to him that she did to me you know so she dated one of your best friends
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like were you mad at him no i didn't care i wasn't like super in love with this girl it's kind of
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just banging her and like we ended up living together and like producing music together but
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i wasn't like i wasn't like super into her you know like we were just kind of like hooking up
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and i called her my girlfriend but i didn't like actually do you date a bunch of these creative
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music artist type i mean i have dated a few not a not like a ton maybe like four or five
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because you know all of them are crazy you know that right don't don't talk about us creatives
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like that no no no no no i'm talking about the women not not the men no i've dated some pretty
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awesome creative women man they're not all bad trust me there's a lot of amazing women out there
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but um to finalize that story um one of the things she would do right is so she was also my
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sister's best friend for a while up until the point where you know i broke up with her oh she
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stopped she stopped talking to my sister all of a sudden like my sister was evil and they never had
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a problem in like their 20 25 years of friendship until i like until we broke up right she started
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so i had moved in with so the same girl that i was living with well we ended up not becoming
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a thing and then but we were like still really good friends so her and her boyfriend had this
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place and they invited me to come stay or come visit or wherever i ended up moving in with them
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because they were like awesome people you know and this chick would come over to the house and
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when she found out i lived there she's like you guys need to tell him to leave and they're like
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we're not gonna kick him out this is his this is his house too what are you talking about
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she would like talk shit to all of my friends about how terrible of a guy I was and how mean
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I was to her. And he's such a bad guy and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And then, so she formed
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like this whole little online community where all they do is like, talk about me. It's insane.
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You know how I realized what the men go through is because when I started thinking, or I guess
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talking like a guy in some retrospects, they started treating me like you guys. I mean,
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I got whole coalitions of women that try to take me down.
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I mean, I had one woman probably cost me $2 million, one scorned woman.
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You know, I kind of understand when men don't fight.
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Just take whatever the fuck you want to take.
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I mean, those groups took me to some pretty dark and depressing places.
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but like over time like after 10 years i'm just like you know what whatever these people are
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gonna say whatever they want to say about me like i just don't give a shit about it anymore so
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after a while it's more amusing than anything like these people are still talking about me
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because we broke up like 10 years ago they're still in the facebook group about you
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every like every day and they and they track my location too so whenever they figure out what
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city i'm in they put it in the group are you like a dj or something i don't how do they know what
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location you're in because somebody somebody that they know will see me or like an old friend that
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i definitely don't talk to anymore will call me up and like start a conversation or say they have work
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and then they'll be like oh by the way where are you and then they just disappear and then i'll
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notice that whenever i'm in that city like at certain locations like people start treating me
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different like i've had places where people were like super friendly to me now they're like spitting
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in my coffee oh my gosh that's the worst it's the worst one when you know they're doing it
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but you can't prove it but you can just tell do you know what i mean yeah they give you the look
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they give you the i call it the look like once you see that look you know they they know they
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recognize you before you recognize them yeah it says um crx joe says 49 and tired of dealing with
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all this bs the ex-wife screwed three different guys and handed me divorce papers and she told me
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what she did women are evil like why didn't she just if you didn't know about the cheating why
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didn't why did she tell you you know what i mean like she could have she could have divorced you
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and like made up some you know sob story or said you don't appreciate that would have been better
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than like i just what's what's the purpose of saying that you know what i mean like imagine
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if a guy's gonna like dump you and he's like oh and i effed her her i've effed your friend it's
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like for why why would you do that yeah they just do that it's because i mean they don't want to
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punch you physically or fight you so they're just trying like get at you you know emotionally but
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i'm gonna run thanks for having me on guys thanks for coming i was gonna talk to you all right later
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okay we have uh one more person on this will be the last call of the night
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bucky are you there yes bucky how's it going how's it going how's it going
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where are you calling out of have you called him before that name sounds familiar i've called him
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one time before okay what part of the country were you midwest uh yeah i'm in georgia cool
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okay well that's a little south but can you hear me yeah i can hear you so okay tell me
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your breakup story what's the worst way a woman's broken or um you've broken a woman's reacted when
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you've broken up with her yes yes i can tell you i had a breakup story um i'm an older guy i'm in
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my early 50s never been married and i lived in china for about 20 years so i had a girlfriend
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there she was very nice in the beginning but later on as we started to um there were some things
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between us that you know i felt that were her character and mine were a little different she
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wasn't like cheating on me or anything like that but um we didn't like the same outside of sex we
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didn't have nothing in common so i broke um i told her you know that and um i had been with her for
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about six months after i told her that she told me in the chinese tradition that if you um break up
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with the girl you got to give them a uh what do you call it uh money because like i was in my
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late 40s late 40s at the time she was in her late 20s and um they said you wasted their youth because
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she was with me for about six months so okay that's not that much use like come on yeah yeah
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she's not that yeah i don't know why but she a lot of chinese men do that that's very common like
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if they did a younger girl if they break up they have to pay the family some sort of fee okay
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because uh you know that's what they do okay so i told her basically no i'm not paying that up
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and um so she got her family to come down harass me at at work and um her family and some other
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people she had they would come by and try to you know demand some money out of me so
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So things got a little worse after that, and I basically had to hire someone to go down
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and pay her family a visit, not violently, but to let them know things could escalate
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And they kind of backed down once they saw that I was going to do what I was going to
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But she turned into a complete monster after that, because she said, I told her.
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was this in china i'm sorry what did you say you said she was chinese was this in china okay yeah
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this was yeah because i don't know if you wouldn't have gotten away with that here in the states but
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in china there's a lot of men that do do that like if they're wealthy and they're rich and they
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you know marry or they're with a girl who's like in their 20s they got to pay for living expenses
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and all this other stuff and if they break up the family will want like a fee for that
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because they say you wasted her youth so in china it's called ching chun fei so um that was a crazy
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situation but you know that was that was the craziest one i had been through and i still
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don't know why she was like that that's insane we got another super chat uh wait hold on i want
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to read it really quick she was evil claimed to be christian thank you for the super chat guys
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wow so it's common there for like um boyfriends to get harassed for wasting women's youth
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essentially if they break up with them no i won't i don't want to give china a bad thing because a
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lot of very nice chinese women and women of all races i'm not saying that but it is common but
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here's the thing most chinese guys will pay that up if they have like if they i don't know like
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they're what i call cultural tricks so they automatically know that it's going to cost
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money just to especially she's attracted to be with this girl so if he if he's an older guy like
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myself in his 40s and the girl he had what she he had was in her 20s then yeah it's common for
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them to do that but most people are not wealthy they don't have that much money so most times
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like it's not like that it's like both people in high school how was it being a passport bro there
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did you get like a lot more female attention like going from america you have an american accent so
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i'm going to assume you're american yeah yeah i got a lot more yeah it's if you go to china there's
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not too many uh black well i'm african-american there's not too many black people there and
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although there is sort of a bad stigma um but you get a lot you get a lot more attention from
01:41:38.020
people in general yeah and i like petite skinny women so they're right up my alley yeah so um
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go ahead was it like 10x or just a little bit but like i'm just curious the difference in dating
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like american women versus chinese okay that's a good question here's the thing i think if you're
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good with women here in the states like you just you know how to talk you know how to interact
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you know some guys are just good at it they're better at it you'll get like tenfold there like
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you will you know you'll get better if you're like me i wouldn't say i was socially awkward but i
01:42:14.960
don't really go out that much and talk to a lot of women but i could i could still you know talk
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to a girl and get her interested um that's like five x but i noticed a difference like guys you
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see who normally might be losers here they'll pick up a lot of women there even if they're socially
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awkward they'll get more women but if you're already good with women it's like tempo and are
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the women of a higher quality there like are they more feminine or i mean clearly at least that one
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was more at least just as crazy as american crazy yeah yeah um but i'm just curious overall did you
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like well like pros and cons of chinese versus american i just like to get that's a unique
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experience so i think it's interesting you live there for 20 years too yeah so tell us
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yeah i went there in the late 90s um and it was completely different by the time i left which was
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like in 2021 i came back here so in the late 90s china was um was much more conservative but
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But behind closed doors, I noticed, like, people would say, like, oh, everybody, like, the Chinese movement will tell you, oh, yeah, we Chinese are conservative and you Americans are, like, open.
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And they are right, because just to a bigger degree, because Chinese are more traditional.
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But I discovered, like, behind closed doors, like, when you got to know people, so-and-so was sleeping with this person.
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there i was a teacher at the time and so-and-so was sleeping around with the with the professor
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and so you did it but they kind of kept it in wraps now things started to change like in the
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2010s like 2010 2012 and it became more like open you know to to be permissive but they're not um
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they're still not like it's here like you can't really just go out and you know with your butt
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and hang out in the strip club, or they don't have that type of thing there, no.
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The government does crack down on open displays of sexuality.
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I've heard you need a lot more money to get married there. Is that true?
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what's the word, dowry, you give the wife a dowry.
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so some people give a lot some people give a little but it's customary for the man to give
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something to the woman's family um now some oh another thing too in china if you get married
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and you're a guy you better have a home or at least an apartment and a car uh if you don't
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have that it's a little more difficult because the parents won't think you have anything for
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their daughter so a lot of guys make sure they have that before they even think about marriage
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got it um just one second crx joe says thank you for the support of men i've been watching
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your channel for a while now keep doing what you're doing thank you for the super chat guys
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it's very helpful when you guys send them um because we are monetized on youtube now so thank
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you so much i'm sorry continue um i'm sorry what else did you ask me and i think i was just um
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the pros and cons of um was there anything better about american women that you like
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missed when you went there um i like petite women but i do like not fat but i like you know okay
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like you know yeah you like step in the right places yeah that's it that's it yeah so chinese
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are a little skinny but once they take off you know once it comes off i don't get too graphic
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here but you know okay some people they just hide it better like how they dress but in terms of like
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um here's the thing when i was here in the states i really i was going to college this was a long
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time it was like in the 90s and i really didn't um i was a guy in my early 20s i didn't really
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start exploring women until i got there so i really don't know much about american women i
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know a lot about chinese and asian women so um i mean chinese and asian women from that part of
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of the country not the ones living here so so yeah there is a difference um as i said before
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they're they're more conservative but uh if you get one girl that's very honest about like her
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sexuality which that people start to come out more like in the 2010 i noticed things changed
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so that's when you started uh seeing more people be honest about their sexuality and and
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what they try to do in china is they tell foreigners that um oh yeah chinese people
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they'll still say this today like chinese are very conservative and the west is like
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you know really corrupt when in reality like behind those doors you're doing all the
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same type of stuff it's just more secret yeah women are women but yeah they like the you know
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you know i could tell you story after story of um you know when i first got there i was this woman
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she she was married she was an older woman she i was like in my late 20s she was an older woman
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and she was married and she didn't tell me but she was giving me this guy's credit card and
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i was driving around in the car that he bought her and all this crazy stuff then later i found
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out that she was married but she didn't tell me so i got pimped big time but um yeah yeah so you
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still hit though right yeah yeah you didn't die and you still hit sounds like a win for you
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it was a win but if that guy ever found out i don't know what would
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i cut i cut that off but i want to say one last thing okay there's a place in china called on
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fujian province and a lot of african people go there like a lot of for some reason a lot of
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africans do business and the women there are what they call shungyu i don't know if you've heard
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heard it before shungi leftover women yeah very good it's very popular on youtube now so there's
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a old chinese women who are like older and they are fine as hell they're not like some of these
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fat but you asked me what was different about america in america you get an older woman
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she don't really take care of herself but you got women there who are like 40 50 who look like in
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their late 20s oh my gosh they don't i i've never been to china but in japan they don't age
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yeah i know i know exact like like 20 years i i i could misinterpret their age go ahead
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yeah yeah you've noticed that you were in japan so yeah it's the same thing in china
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so you got a lot of women there who are older who have no children who are in chinese one thing
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chinese i give chinese credit for they're very um smart when it comes to business and making money
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even the average person knows they're very practical so you got a lot of these older women
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who you know who got bank who look good for their age and um who can't find the guy and there's more
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men in china than women china has more men than women slightly more so you got a lot of these
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guys who are older who are lifeless but they won't even talk to those women so if you go to
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food gym they particularly go for a lot of these african dudes who go there and they become like
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a boy toy and i didn't know that i told my friend told me yeah i got all my friends over there and
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i went there with him and um yeah they were hitting big time and some of these guys were broke
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but they go over there and a lot of chinese like them so yeah that's one difference i would yeah
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you asked me about a difference i would say the women who are older actually they're actually
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i think well it depends on what standards you have but they take care of themselves they age
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better i've seen that with like um someone in the chat says my ex is japanese and oh they age and
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get fat look i was there like a long time ago i was like 12 but i just remember that some of the
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moms i couldn't believe they were moms because they looked like 20 25 um but she was like like
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the kids were old like it wasn't like a young mom with a baby um okay well thanks so much for
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sharing doug mpa you got any other questions for him nope thanks for bringing that perspective
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man we really appreciate it yeah that was super interesting call in any time okay yeah if i have
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something useful to add i'll call in you know and just shed a little light on some subjects
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sure if i don't then you won't hear from me okay all right time maybe we'll do um see um
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doug mpa maybe we could do a passport bros show yeah and guys can share there because we just had
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two um semi passport bros call in so you can have guys um talk about how about we could get austin
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holliman to call in he's done i did a show with him like a long time ago are you there yeah uh
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i thought the sound went out for a second yeah yeah yeah i'll have to reach out to him cool
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well but yeah yeah those are all the rest of the callers cool well guys thanks so much for
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calling in it's been great getting callers the last few weeks so i really appreciate it
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um doug mpa any final thoughts on dumping women um women learning how to take an l is part of
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being a man we all remember the first time we got our hearts ripped out and men we just got
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to keep going you know you get your heart ripped out you get rejected you got to pick yourself up
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because men are the ones that approach i've met some of the most powerful women lawyers doctors
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surgeons and they will not approach a man since they can't handle rejection and like the guy the
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caller said before women they don't know how to take rejection until they smash into the wall
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a lot of times you breaking up with them is the first time that anyone has told them no in their
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lives so guys just watch out when you break up with a woman you know hopefully she's know where
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you live if you break up with her at your house protect that ps5 they always go for the ps5 man
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so watch out for that yeah but these you know but and and i just recommend ghosting guys you know
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just ghost him okay that's it all right thank you doug mpa all right guys like the video on
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your way out and subscribe to the channel um and i'm thinking about doing the amish video in the
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next like two weeks and i want to keep you guys posted so i want to go to an amish neighborhood
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and interview some amish people and i have two choices for this video i can go to this amish
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place that i went to when i was a kid it's like three hours from where i'm at now and i can just
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see i i could just see if any of the amish will talk to me i don't know i haven't been there since
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i was like eight or if somebody watching happens to know any amish people that would do an interview
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or something and ideally you're in the midwest somewhere pearly things with a z on twitter or
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email me um just pearly things at gmail.com yeah so anyways just so you know the only four percent
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of the amish are obese and the average amish person lives to be between 80 and 85. yeah i just
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think it'd be cool to go see their thoughts on like relationships and i don't know like i want
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want to see if any of the women's answers are like are women women even when they're Amish
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so I just want to see so it would kind of be a cool video I I certainly I'm totally willing to
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go to this Amish community by myself and just see I'm just a little nervous I drive all the
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way out there and no one will talk to me I don't know I don't know we'll see anyways guys um
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indiana that'd be perfect if you know any all right guys like the video on your way out please
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subscribe to the channel and bring that notification bell thank you guys so much
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for watching and i'll see you guys next time bye