Pearl - Who Owns the Children in Marriage？

00:00:00.000 the thing is you're trying to divert from the question if you want marriage to increase you

00:00:04.340 have to give a good answer to the question because it's the only way that you can have

00:00:08.140 it's the only way you can have children without single motherhood what do children get out of 0.87

00:00:12.640 marriage uh well if the if mommy and daddy aren't married right then the children have very very

00:00:19.960 bad outcomes single mother homes have terrible outcomes and single father homes aren't tenable 1.00

00:00:25.220 generally speaking because they're the working parent right so the only way for me to have 0.98

00:00:30.140 families is through marriage so what do women get out of marriage uh they generally get resources 1.00

00:00:35.940 they generally get resources and they get access to status social status uh security things like

00:00:41.980 this and what do men get out of marriage they get children out of marriage okay and what do they get

00:00:49.620 out of marriage that they couldn't get from just a live-in girlfriend mothers so here's well an

00:00:56.740 intact family in other words so they can't here's the thing if you have a woman if the woman lives 1.00

00:01:01.120 with him yeah well the thing is is when we look at and the other and the other hang on hang on

00:01:07.640 well let me respond to it if we look at the social data for what you're talking about this happens

00:01:12.780 all the time that's called a single mom right the you live with the chick you impregnate the 1.00

00:01:17.800 chick you're not married to the chick crowder's in the same position so are a lot of like he 0.83

00:01:24.360 doesn't have children with some no he doesn't he doesn't have children with a with some live-in

00:01:29.280 girlfriend right right but he's not with the mother of his kids now he had a really public

00:01:33.360 divorce yeah but there's a different like i know but my point is you can say day to day to day to

00:01:38.060 all you want but when we're like people are witnessing conservative people that pushed a

00:01:43.960 lot of this stuff getting divorced like men are going to naturally do a cost benefit analysis

00:01:49.400 and realize there's no difference so here's the cost benefit here's a cost benefit analysis him

00:01:55.060 and so if you say my other question too would be who do the kids belong to do they belong to him

00:02:01.800 or do they belong to her yeah so i believe in uh patrilineal society i think that children belong 0.98

00:02:07.460 to their fathers right and always have thought so and that would be a form of reform inside of

00:02:12.620 by the way traditionally this was always the way it happened but in society today where women get 0.99

00:02:17.060 custody 90 of the time who do the kids belong to they do that's not the case anymore they don't

00:02:23.140 get it 90 of the time now do they belong to her or do they belong to him well they belong to the

00:02:28.860 court system they're the ones who make the allocation and where are the majority of the

00:02:32.580 time who gets custody yeah that's generally speaking women i agree so what do men get out

00:02:38.620 of marriage if the majority of the time the kids belong to her and not him.

Pearl - May 13, 2025