Pearl - May 13, 2025


Who Owns the Children in Marriage？


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2 minutes

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546

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1

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Misogyny

6

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In this episode we discuss the benefits and disadvantages of single motherhood and the benefits of having a married family. We also discuss who should have custody of the kids and who should get custody and who gets custody in divorce cases.

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00:00:00.000 the thing is you're trying to divert from the question if you want marriage to increase you
00:00:04.340 have to give a good answer to the question because it's the only way that you can have
00:00:08.140 it's the only way you can have children without single motherhood what do children get out of 0.87
00:00:12.640 marriage uh well if the if mommy and daddy aren't married right then the children have very very
00:00:19.960 bad outcomes single mother homes have terrible outcomes and single father homes aren't tenable 1.00
00:00:25.220 generally speaking because they're the working parent right so the only way for me to have 0.98
00:00:30.140 families is through marriage so what do women get out of marriage uh they generally get resources 1.00
00:00:35.940 they generally get resources and they get access to status social status uh security things like
00:00:41.980 this and what do men get out of marriage they get children out of marriage okay and what do they get
00:00:49.620 out of marriage that they couldn't get from just a live-in girlfriend mothers so here's well an
00:00:56.740 intact family in other words so they can't here's the thing if you have a woman if the woman lives 1.00
00:01:01.120 with him yeah well the thing is is when we look at and the other and the other hang on hang on
00:01:07.640 well let me respond to it if we look at the social data for what you're talking about this happens
00:01:12.780 all the time that's called a single mom right the you live with the chick you impregnate the 1.00
00:01:17.800 chick you're not married to the chick crowder's in the same position so are a lot of like he 0.83
00:01:24.360 doesn't have children with some no he doesn't he doesn't have children with a with some live-in
00:01:29.280 girlfriend right right but he's not with the mother of his kids now he had a really public
00:01:33.360 divorce yeah but there's a different like i know but my point is you can say day to day to day to
00:01:38.060 all you want but when we're like people are witnessing conservative people that pushed a
00:01:43.960 lot of this stuff getting divorced like men are going to naturally do a cost benefit analysis
00:01:49.400 and realize there's no difference so here's the cost benefit here's a cost benefit analysis him
00:01:55.060 and so if you say my other question too would be who do the kids belong to do they belong to him
00:02:01.800 or do they belong to her yeah so i believe in uh patrilineal society i think that children belong 0.98
00:02:07.460 to their fathers right and always have thought so and that would be a form of reform inside of
00:02:12.620 by the way traditionally this was always the way it happened but in society today where women get 0.99
00:02:17.060 custody 90 of the time who do the kids belong to they do that's not the case anymore they don't
00:02:23.140 get it 90 of the time now do they belong to her or do they belong to him well they belong to the
00:02:28.860 court system they're the ones who make the allocation and where are the majority of the
00:02:32.580 time who gets custody yeah that's generally speaking women i agree so what do men get out
00:02:38.620 of marriage if the majority of the time the kids belong to her and not him.