Pearl - February 24, 2024


Why Are Most TradCon Men So Afraid of Most Men Being Single？


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Length

9 minutes

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125.37248

Word count

1,150

Sentence count

57

Harmful content

Misogyny

7

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Toxicity

2

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Hate speech

7

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Tradcons are afraid of men not getting married because they think it s going to hurt their chances of getting a good deal of money in marriage. I don t think that s true. I think that it s actually going to help a lot more men than they realize.

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00:00:00.000 Why are TradCons so afraid of men not getting married?
00:00:06.520 And I've been really thinking and like trying to understand this because the TradCon argument I keep hearing is marriage is high risk, high reward.
00:00:16.880 And they equate it to starting a business.
00:00:19.920 and I don't think that equation works because if I start a business which I have and I guess
00:00:29.080 I guess I could speak to this firsthand if I lose my business
00:00:35.320 I mean it's definitely an L you lose all your money but you can come back from that
00:00:45.580 Many men are not able to come back from a very terrible divorce.
00:00:51.460 You know, they can never reconnect with their children the same way.
00:00:56.480 They can never rebuild their reputation.
00:00:59.780 Like if I have a really, you know, bad business or whatever,
00:01:06.380 it's not like everybody's going to think I'm an evil abuser because of it.
00:01:11.200 I don't think these equivalencies work.
00:01:14.160 The next thing they say is, well, if you just really work at a marriage, and if you just pray every day, if you do all this stuff, then your wife won't leave you.
00:01:29.480 And I just don't think you can pray a woman who wants to leave into staying.
00:01:36.780 I think the men that say this fundamentally misunderstand female nature.
00:01:42.400 Female nature is not logical. 1.00
00:01:44.620 We're based on our emotions.
00:01:46.920 And if we don't feel a certain way and we feel like we want to go, it's not the man's fault.
00:01:54.120 Sometimes we just feel like that.
00:01:56.240 And we make dumb decisions based on how we feel.
00:02:00.080 Why do you think one in three women's had an abortion? 1.00
00:02:02.700 One in three women have had an STD.
00:02:05.040 Up to like 10% of women under 35 have been on OF.
00:02:09.180 we're not logical we're just not that logical and you want men to logic women into staying in 0.99
00:02:17.240 marriages a man of a man there's no foolproof way to protect a man from divorce in the current
00:02:27.080 system so it's so interesting because you would think the trad con guys like the daily wire all
00:02:33.860 of them their first reaction would be change the system change the system change the system
00:02:39.360 but instead their reaction is to shame men for you know not wanting to get married
00:02:48.140 and okay I was thinking about this so I'm gonna google this right now um single
00:02:55.640 men, great accomplishments. And I've Googled this before. I can't, I don't want to say the wrong
00:03:06.120 person. Um, wait, hold on. It wasn't Isaac Newton, right? Wasn't he a virgin? I'm putting Newton
00:03:15.680 virgin. Yeah. Okay. There we go. Isaac Newton. No, I don't. Maybe he's a weird guy. I don't know.
00:03:24.940 but he's still a man that's talked about to this day he's talked about to this day
00:03:31.840 for you know his science stuff please don't ask me to go into it I can't um
00:03:40.060 but was that did he have an awful life that just was not fulfilling I mean no he's he's a great
00:03:49.120 man in history that we still talk about years after he died and he changed the world. But the
00:03:57.000 trad cons will somehow phrase this as a negative. And it's so interesting because whenever I ask
00:04:04.520 trad cons about their success in life, they always have to attribute it to their wife. And the way 0.99
00:04:10.760 they speak about their wife is akin to how I would speak about God. And it's almost like their wife
00:04:18.580 is the God. And I never understood why so many guys simp and say that women are the reason they're
00:04:27.960 successful. I mean, I know a lot of men that are married and successful. I grew up in a pretty
00:04:39.740 wealthy area. And I would not attribute those men's success to their wife. I would attribute
00:04:48.800 it to those men being smart and competent and driven. And with or without their wife,
00:04:55.040 they would have done something awesome. Their wife might have made it easier. But they certainly
00:05:01.660 wouldn't have been unsuccessful without their wife. I just think, you know, people are either
00:05:08.740 going to be successful or not. And so personally, I just wonder where the money is. There has to be
00:05:17.860 some money somewhere that people are so afraid of men not marrying women. Is it in conservatism like
00:05:30.780 you need the female vote? Is that it? Is there some funding that because I'm thinking women 1.00
00:05:38.540 make 80 percent of consumer buying decisions so if you don't pander to women a little bit 0.58
00:05:45.260 i'd assume you'd lose money maybe if i pandered a little bit more i'd still be monetized
00:05:55.100 um but i don't know could you guys tell me your thoughts like um this is gonna go on twitter so
00:06:00.140 in the comments because i i feel like there's money involved because i just think there's no
00:06:06.940 way in hell my dog's drinking sorry there's no way in hell that you could
00:06:13.740 look at the facts of marriage today and the reputation that we know marriage has
00:06:24.660 and say that overwhelmingly the majority of men get a benefit from it as in 51 percent of men
00:06:34.080 get more benefit than the cost.
00:06:38.040 I think if we say half end in divorce,
00:06:40.240 so we can't say it was a good deal for the men that got divorced.
00:06:43.520 And then out of the half that stayed together,
00:06:46.480 you know, we have phrases like it's cheaper to keep her. 1.00
00:06:51.320 Happy wife, happy life.
00:06:52.920 So let's cut those in half and say half are happy, half are unhappy.
00:06:57.680 The majority, this wasn't a good deal for.
00:07:01.700 And it's so funny because I was just on this show.
00:07:04.080 And I was telling the guy that only 5% of women were marriageable, meaning no tattoos, no debt, not being fat.
00:07:12.780 And his reaction is what percent of men are marriageable?
00:07:18.160 Why is that the gut reaction?
00:07:20.180 Like why when we mention women, do you guys have to mention men?
00:07:25.320 We're talking about women. 1.00
00:07:27.460 but the gut reaction is always like it's like everyone has this gut reaction to
00:07:33.640 just like protect women and I just I think it's the strangest thing like
00:07:40.640 you know if I say like this was a funny one I said women are more likely to kill infants 1.00
00:07:49.580 and the elderly. And you simps, you guys all say, you all say, well, it's because they're 0.71
00:08:01.100 around children more. I mean, does that mean you have to kill the kids? Am I tripped? Like 0.99
00:08:14.360 I just I'm like sometimes I just wonder it's like I look at these facts and I just wonder why
00:08:22.580 is it so hard to process these facts because we live in such a woman-centric society 1.00
00:08:29.240 or is there money involved I don't know but this is Ellie if you're wondering what do you think
00:08:35.660 you're a girl okay let me know
00:08:40.380 Thank you.