Pearl - September 25, 2026


“Why More Women Are Going NO CONTACT With Their Mothers” @JustPearlyThings

The Life of a Real Ninja “Single Moms Keep Bringing ABUSIVE Men Around Their Children” @JustPearlyThings

Episode Stats


Length

2 minutes

Words per minute

225.77

Word count

584

Sentence count

12

Harmful content

Misogyny

2

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Hate speech

1

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Transcript

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Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .
Hate speech classifications generated with facebook/roberta-hate-speech-dynabench-r4-target .
00:00:00.000 We can fathom that a mother could be so cold or wicked to her own child.
00:00:04.480 I haven't spoken to my mom since 2023, but Mother's Day has always been weird for me.
00:00:08.360 To celebrate someone who forced me to eat soap as a kid and told me I deserved to be hit by my dad
00:00:13.460 and called me a brat and told me to stop crying, it always felt like a weird holiday.
00:00:17.800 As an adult, to spend money on flowers and a gift for someone.
00:00:21.460 And remember, mothers get a whole day celebrated.
00:00:26.080 When do we celebrate fathers? 0.60
00:00:27.120 when fathers are the ones who care about the best interest of the child mothers don't mothers care
00:00:32.920 about the best interest of themselves who would regularly abandon me when i wasn't measuring up
00:00:37.360 who would betray my trust and talk about me behind my back to my siblings while i was in survival
00:00:42.480 mode raising my own kids it just always felt like a very fake day to pretend like everything was
00:00:47.680 fine when it absolutely was not i have so much peace after going no contact i don't see her i
00:00:53.500 don't send her a card. And now that I have my own kids and I see how easy it is to love my own
00:00:57.880 children, I have a lot of peace around my decision. So no matter where you're at in your relationship
00:01:01.940 with your mom, you are not obligated to perform any emotional labor, offer any gifts, or meet
00:01:07.380 expectations that feel forced, manipulative, or deny the reality of your current relationship.
00:01:13.160 Go ahead and prioritize your own self-care. Honor your own feelings. And if you need to,
00:01:17.060 just treat it like it's any other Sunday. But if you do go see her, make sure you set some clear
00:01:21.360 boundaries or set a time limit for a call or be clear about when you'll be leaving if you go see
00:01:27.120 her a five minute phone call is perfectly respectable you don't owe her a full day i want
00:01:31.520 you to release any guilt you are not responsible for making her happy or meeting her demands yeah
00:01:36.880 and that's the thing you are allowed to not talk to your mother your whole family will guilt you
00:01:40.640 about it but you're allowed to do it they will emotionally torture you forever and manipulate
00:01:45.280 you and your family in the future she gets upset and says that she was crying in bed all day that
00:01:49.840 she was devastated or angry or hurt that you wouldn't come see her after everything she's done
00:01:55.840 for you bruh that's that's the one thing oh i did so much you bet you that you were supposed to do
00:02:02.000 it was crazy my mom would always say say that and i'm like we had nannies what are you talking about
00:02:08.720 she's put you in a lot of therapy hasn't she she's manipulating you that's all manipulation 1.00
00:02:13.040 she should have worked harder for a relationship with her kids so they'd actually want to be around 0.97
00:02:16.960 her as adults this is just a mirror into how she's made you feel if you're no contact or
00:02:21.840 recently no contact and you're feeling a little guilty or ashamed but you know it was the right
00:02:26.080 decision it's okay to feel your own feelings and acknowledge your own pain it does suck to let go
00:02:31.200 of the fantasy that your mom could ever change i know i had to do it too