Pearl - Why Sex is a Need For Men Segment Clip

00:00:00.080 what's up guys welcome to an episode of the sit down um today i have jason everett coming on our

00:00:05.200 show welcome to the show he is a chastity speaker i mean he actually came to my high school yeah

00:00:10.080 way back in the day good to see you again good to see you you remember me oh yeah you were sitting

00:00:14.000 in the fourth row on the left no way no i forget my own kid's name so no i don't know i don't

00:00:19.600 remember it but i remember the high school yeah so what's the background how long have you guys

00:00:23.280 been doing that uh well i started in college kind of like helping out on youth group retreats and

00:00:28.880 the kids would come up to me and kind of just pour out all the junk that they were going through in

00:00:33.280 terms of just heartbreak and drama and i just realized they had no formation in human love

00:00:38.240 then i did three years of kind of like crisis pregnancy counseling and i just started feeling

00:00:42.400 late like okay i'm meeting a woman and she's getting an abortion in like 45 minutes like 0.94

00:00:46.480 why couldn't i met her when she was 15 instead of when she's 24 because maybe if she learned about 0.93

00:00:51.600 chastity then she never would have dated this guy and be in this tough situation so i realized if 1.00

00:00:55.600 you really want to save the most unborn babies don't do it in front of an abortion clinic you

00:00:59.440 do it in a high school classroom and so i started just talking and then it snowballed pretty quickly

00:01:04.000 from a classroom you know to a high school to a conference to a stadium and and it's been about

00:01:08.960 a hundred thousand kids a year for the last 27 years straight okay and that's so you basically

00:01:13.920 you go to the high schools and you're trying to get them before they make the poor decisions

00:01:17.520 yeah high school i mean but i'll get to the high schools and they'll say to me man i wish i heard

00:01:21.040 you when i was in sixth grade yeah so it's high school college young adults marriage prep sometimes

00:01:26.640 and so do you think it's getting worse then the good is getting better and the bad is getting

00:01:32.560 worse okay and so the rates of sexual activity are continually going down for the last 35 years

00:01:38.080 right more virgins more but the increase in abstinence is not necessarily an increase in

00:01:43.200 virtue right it's the guy saying well i've got porn why do i need a girlfriend right and the

00:01:47.040 And the girl's saying, well, you're so hooked on that stuff.

00:01:49.340 It's disgusting to me.

00:01:50.300 I'm asexual now.

00:01:51.420 And so they're not even going on dates.

00:01:53.020 Well, it's also the obesity epidemic, right?

00:01:55.260 Who wants to have sex when you're fat?

00:01:56.980 Well, I mean, in my experience, talking to high school kids, that's not what's motivating

00:02:01.680 anybody to be abstinent or promiscuous.

00:02:04.400 Okay, so the guys are coming to you and saying it's just they're watching porn?

00:02:08.760 Well, they asked the high school students, like, why?

00:02:11.600 Because they did a huge survey.

00:02:12.800 Like, are you afraid of getting AIDS?

00:02:14.780 Are you afraid of getting pregnant?

00:02:15.720 you know why are you not having sex right and what was interesting is that those reasons of fear of

00:02:20.760 pregnancy and disease was actually at the bottom of the list the number one reply nationwide was

00:02:25.400 it's against my religious and moral values and that's from the high school kids and so there's a

00:02:30.120 there's a good resurgence going there but yeah the one high school guy came he said you know he said

00:02:34.200 i get home from school on friday and i watch 12 hours of porn on saturday then i go to bed and i

00:02:38.840 wake up i watch 12 hours of porn on sunday he said i don't even like it it disgusts me but i don't

00:02:44.040 how to live without it it's like holy i mean imagine if that guy starts dating some 16 year

00:02:48.520 old girls it's going to be a dumpster fire he has no concept of the difference between love and lust

00:02:53.400 okay well what don't you say though that's sort of because i guess my thing with porn is what are

00:02:59.000 they supposed to do in the meantime when the average age of first marriage is 30. yeah yeah

00:03:03.880 no people get married later and later yeah well what they're supposed to do is actually learn

00:03:08.920 self-mastery and the reason i say that is because if i get married and i don't know how to practice

00:03:13.880 self-control i will never make love to my wife what i'll do is use her body as an outlet for

00:03:19.480 what i think of is my sexual needs and the woman's heart can tell the difference like my wife was not 1.00

00:03:25.160 created to be an outlet i got two daughters they're not supposed to be any man's outlet

00:03:29.720 and so i can't give myself to a woman if i don't have self-control well then don't you think

00:03:37.480 don't you think though like you don't think sex is a need for men

00:03:41.480 no it's it's a want okay so you would say it's a want yeah it's a great want okay and it's a

00:03:46.040 great thing i mean the sexual urge is a gift of god but it's not a need like oxygen's a need

00:03:50.600 water then why do men still watch porn if they don't get sex like wouldn't you say based on

00:03:55.400 their actions it's a need because because it's a want like what evidence do you have that it's

00:03:59.960 a want and not a need well nobody's ever died from an absence of porn like i got rid of my

00:04:04.760 porn when i was maybe like 18 years old and i've never gone back i've never been on porn hub i've

00:04:09.240 never gone on only fans never once in my entire life and i'm and and that was long before i got

00:04:14.040 married and i wasn't like getting this pent-up sexual aggression that needs to get released

00:04:18.440 somewhere that is like a repressive neurotic freudian idea of sexual you know sexuality and

00:04:24.360 it's not healthy yeah but don't you when you're not i think people kind of roll their eyes at that

00:04:30.600 because half of pastors end up having affairs so even the people that are the most dedicated to

00:04:36.200 the religion you know there's the priest scandal so it just seems like when you say you could say

00:04:41.320 that but we look at the results and they're still the same yeah where people end up cracking over

00:04:45.960 time because you know you're lucky you ended up actually getting married some guys don't

00:04:50.440 you know so what are they supposed to do in the meantime well you're not supposed to use

00:04:54.920 a woman in the meantime well maybe she's using him they're both using each other is what i would

00:04:59.240 yeah yeah well yeah i just i never understand why the language with a lot of conservative speakers 0.60

00:05:04.360 is that the women are automatically being used when a lot of times the women are predators like 0.99

00:05:08.680 the women like you go to a concert women throw themselves at the guy you're on stage you know 1.00

00:05:13.800 well it doesn't happen to me but i see yeah yeah i mean but you see how women i mean change when

00:05:19.240 the guy's on stage yeah so like why is it always assumed that the man is the predator and not the

00:05:25.000 woman no you you make a very fair point yeah and i'm not going to argue against it because so often

00:05:29.400 And it's just like, she's the victim, he's the perpetrator.

00:05:32.840 And well, wait a minute, you know, maybe she's using him just for a different reason than he's using her.

00:05:38.040 And it just gets undercover.

00:05:39.520 So I think it needs to get called out is that it's not better because she's agreeing to it.

00:05:44.320 Now we just have two people agreeing to use each other.

00:05:46.900 Yeah, well, because that's really kind of my issue with a lot of the chastity speakers is that you guys use language like the woman is broken.

00:05:54.100 and i think it gives women a get out of jail free card where they can just do whatever you want and

00:06:00.440 then be rewarded after yeah no i i don't i think female accountability is something important 1.00

00:06:06.580 needs to be addressed she can't just say well this happened to her and therefore she can just 1.00

00:06:11.160 do whatever the heck she wants i mean that's not that's not even treating her like a human being 1.00

00:06:16.160 because then you're treating her like she lacks free agency that you don't even have to make your

00:06:20.800 decisions because you've been determined by your past yeah so i would be very hesitant to speak of

00:06:25.520 a girl as broken because if i'm going to esteem and loud the goodness of virginity in the same 1.00

00:06:30.880 breath i have to also explain but ladies your value doesn't come from your virginity like your 1.00

00:06:35.680 sexuality has value because of you you're the gift and you still have yourself to give anybody 1.00

00:06:39.600 can start over you're not a chewed up piece of gum you know you're not some rose that's been plucked

00:06:43.520 dry and that's your value yeah no you can start over and even if some bad's happened to you that

00:06:48.240 doesn't need to but you understand like you go into the real world and the results will show

00:06:52.400 that you are chewed up to some degree because you are not going to get the same attention from men

00:06:56.240 that you did before after you made certain choices like that's that you could get more attention but

00:07:00.960 it's the wrong attention no but i'm saying like once men view you as a whore in a certain social

00:07:05.600 community like there will be repercussions yeah i don't think you should care what a man thinks

00:07:10.880 about you if you don't actually love and respect him in the first place yeah but they're the buyers

00:07:14.480 right you you have to sell them on marriage yeah but if a guy thinks a woman is a whore to me she's

00:07:20.080 not on sale and what i mean by that is you know i try to let the women know that you know some

00:07:25.680 girls like what good guy want a girl like me and it's like well if a guy judges you by his past

00:07:29.440 he's not that good of a guy look for a guy who can actually see your future instead of someone

00:07:32.720 who's always rubbing your nose in your past and me but it's if you've owned it and like you know

00:07:37.600 what i screwed up i messed up yeah some bad stuff happened to me but i made some stupid decisions

00:07:42.000 in the meantime and i realized that's not what i wanted in the first place and i want to start over

00:07:46.560 so i actually believe redemption is possible and if i didn't believe in it

00:07:50.320 my eight kids wouldn't exist today well i'm not against redemption necessarily but i like to be

00:07:56.160 accurate because you never want to sell false hope and there are women that are too damaged

00:08:01.280 i always say someone will do it if you're thin because if you're fat guys just are not going to 0.90

00:08:05.200 do it.

Pearl - August 22, 2026

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