Pearl - Why Women Don’t Respect Men Who WORSHIP Them

00:00:00.000 recently launched a group called Dad Chat.

00:00:02.600 We have almost 250 members, divorcing fathers,

00:00:06.580 single dads, fresh, starting their life anew.

00:00:10.320 And in addition to this support group that I run,

00:00:12.540 I've been offering premium hypnosis hypnotherapy sessions

00:00:16.220 to men who are really struggling with some aspect of transition out of it,

00:00:20.280 the shock of it, the strain, the misery.

00:00:23.620 And as you know, men who are going through separation, divorce,

00:00:27.400 the likelihood, the odds of them self-offing increases. It explodes. It's terrible. Of course,

00:00:37.000 we also know amongst those who are married and remain married, 45 to 55 percent on the median

00:00:44.300 are going to be divorcing. We also know that half of all marriages, the husband and wife,

00:00:50.740 enjoy intimacy once a year or less. Wow, it's that bad. Once a year. Half of all marriages.

00:00:59.500 Scott Adams mused that modern marriage only works for about 20% of people. So pick five couples that

00:01:08.700 you know. It probably is only working for one of them. Most of them are staying for the kids.

00:01:15.380 Modern marriage is designed as a way I'm about to show you.

00:01:19.420 And I learned this concept from Michael Gimarin.

00:01:23.120 He's a great follow on X.

00:01:24.420 At Gimarin. 1.00

00:01:25.300 G-U-I-M-A-R-I-N. 0.98

00:01:27.980 Modern marriage is as follows. 0.86

00:01:29.700 And I was inspired to do this particular video. 1.00

00:01:32.220 Maybe that was coming.

00:01:33.200 What I'm describing, what I'm showing here is a celestial body with a smaller one in orbit around it.

00:01:38.980 And of course, everyone has seen the following dynamic.

00:01:42.640 you have the husband who is in orbit around his wife she is his mental point of origin i was on

00:01:52.480 the golf course yesterday with a friend and we had a third in our group and he introduced himself

00:01:57.800 and he joked that he picked up golf this year in order to get away from his wife who is constantly

00:02:02.900 hounding him and nagging him and demanding things and will not let him have a quiet moment he says

00:02:07.780 I can't even just sit down. Can't even just sit down. He is in orbit around his wife in any,

00:02:14.180 because modern marriage is a default C co-CEO type situation where it's 50, 50 founders.

00:02:19.620 It's like a group project. The co-CEO dynamic is only ever deployed in a company that's failing

00:02:25.220 and they want to spread the blame, right? Group project. There's always one person that cares

00:02:30.440 more. What I tend to see across the marriages that collapse, sometimes it's a decline and fall

00:02:36.640 that's slow. It's a glacier. Other times it's more like an avalanche. I tend to see patterns.

00:02:42.000 I've been talking about this and hypothesizing about this for a number of years. I've been

00:02:45.340 ghostwriting divorce books for my lawyer author clients for more than six years now. And there's

00:02:51.240 a constant dynamic where good men tend not to find their counterparts and vice versa with good

00:02:58.240 women. They tend not to. They tend not to. Usually men end up with who feel like they got the short

00:03:06.140 end of the marital stick, so to speak. They end up with someone who was raised by a girl dad. So 0.91

00:03:10.380 the girl dad phenomenon is where he had an inappropriate emotional codependence with his

00:03:15.580 daughters and was not able to appropriately discipline them, hold them to standards,

00:03:19.320 have accountability, rule, discipline, any of that. And he raised perpetual brats who always

00:03:24.060 feel like they should always get what they want no matter what. And no is a four letter word to

00:03:27.580 them. Telling a girl dad's daughter no is the worst thing. She cannot handle no. She destroys

00:03:32.320 you. She has to wipe you out. In this dynamic, her husband is married to usually the daughter 1.00

00:03:38.060 of a girl dad. This is the typical dynamic in a marriage that fails. The other situation is where 0.91

00:03:44.080 a good woman is married to the mama's boy. Mama's boy, similarly, an unnecessary emotional 0.95

00:03:49.400 codependent relationship, something closer to an emotional incestuousness between mother-in-law 1.00

00:03:56.280 and her son and often she has way too much power over the wife and over the relationship and in 0.96

00:04:02.440 that case there's sort of both of them a couple are revolving their life around what uh the mama's

00:04:07.160 boy mother is demanding no that's really true that's right wow this is really insightful so

00:04:12.500 basically yeah because girl dads a lot of times men treat daughters like princesses when they

00:04:17.820 should treat daughters like brats um and they should treat sons like competent young men but

00:04:24.700 they don't not a good time for anyone involved in general not all the time but in general you tend

00:04:31.320 to see that teal swan who mixed opinions on her most of you she regularly points out love is not

00:04:39.180 enough love is not enough an attraction well not a choice is also not enough in fact they pale in

00:04:47.420 comparison they don't even matter think about this they don't even matter in relation to

00:04:52.240 compatibility. Compatibility. Now, this dynamic can work for effeminate men married to a boss

00:05:01.140 babe, but I don't think that's what most people want. See, this person, this woman, she says,

00:05:06.700 I want an equal partner. What she means by that is I want a partner who sees me as equally as

00:05:14.060 important as I see myself. Because women don't care about being as important. Women care about 1.00

00:05:20.080 looking as important self that's what that means the mental point of origin and this concept has

00:05:25.840 come up regularly in dad chat where what these men are doing is they are reclaiming themselves

00:05:30.920 and they are they are leaving orbit and for the first time they have their own minds again

00:05:37.720 they don't have to be afraid there was this video that recently went viral called i think it's

00:05:42.560 called the wife effect where a man was about to sit down in a chair his wife walks by and he

00:05:46.540 sits up and then lays a towel down he tosses a sock onto the onto the ground his wife has to

00:05:51.820 walk by and he quickly picks it up you know or he's about to drink orange juice right out of

00:05:55.400 the container he double takes his wife's coming by he quickly grabs the glass and pours the orange

00:06:00.520 juice in there that's this concept of the mental point of origin of of the wife she's not married

00:06:06.880 to a man's man she's married yeah she's married to a weak man right because he he's too much of 1.00

00:06:13.900 a pussy, you know, to a man servant, to her butler. And this is the problem with all conservative 1.00

00:06:19.900 Christian advice. And there are a couple of particular fellows who advise something like

00:06:25.400 this. Giflosta and Will Nolan, I'm going to pick on you two, because this is what their dynamic

00:06:30.720 recommends. They say that the Bible states that the marriage is a dynamic where the husband has

00:06:38.040 the headship and the leader and the wife is subservient. Okay. That's biblical marriage.

00:06:41.620 here's the problem gif and will that's illegal that's illegal so the solution then becomes

00:06:48.360 the husband has to revolve himself yeah because basically any male assertiveness is illegal in

00:06:56.500 this country because of the duluth model around his wife's needs and desires and it becomes an

00:07:01.840 if-then type of relationship where he has to treat her like his mental point of origin his emotional

00:07:07.640 point of origin, his social, his financial, his sexual mental point of origin, where if I do all

00:07:16.320 these things and be super manly and successful and get to six, six, six, you know, six packs,

00:07:20.780 six inches, six, whatever. Okay. Well, you know what I mean? Six figures. If I do all these things,

00:07:25.700 then she will give me the nookie. Then she will finally respect me. But you are simping. 1.00

00:07:32.100 You are white knighting. 0.55

00:07:34.180 You are being a manservant butler to a wife who probably had a girl dad.

00:07:38.440 Obviously, he did as a father.

00:07:39.700 You know what I mean? 1.00

00:07:40.820 But the girl dad is a stereotypical phenomenon.

00:07:43.300 So what you're saying is, if you disagree with this, Joshua, you're a feminist.

00:07:47.440 Okay, call me a feminist.

00:07:48.920 I don't care. 1.00

00:07:49.760 The solution to feminism is more feminism. 1.00

00:07:51.500 We'll talk about that in another video. 1.00

00:07:53.160 Pearl Davis has said that.

00:07:54.320 And I think...

00:07:55.280 I did say that.

00:07:56.820 Because here's the thing. 1.00

00:07:57.620 in a way a woman working and giving you the paycheck is more feminine than you working

00:08:02.260 and giving her the money because then she's serving you i feel like people have pointed

00:08:06.960 that out also i think pat said something though they're just happier worshiping women they're

00:08:11.040 just happier being reactive to women they just are looking for a woman to worship and they're

00:08:16.600 happy in marriage i said that that's got great content i think he's he understands this dynamic

00:08:20.560 he understands the problem uh noble brown also an ex has also figured out this problem here

00:08:25.760 by the way, if you flip it, you fix it. You flip it, you fix it. If it's the husband in here and

00:08:31.880 the wife around here, the entire thing is fixed. That's how to fix marriage. Problem is that's not 1.00

00:08:35.980 legal. You cannot legally enforce that dynamic. This is legally enforceable. This is the dynamic

00:08:41.420 where otherwise she can just divorce you, just divorce you, right? Generally, men don't want 1.00

00:08:45.820 to be divorced. Generally, men don't want to divorce. The great irony is that men fare far

00:08:49.820 better after divorce than women do. And it's not even particularly close, not even particularly 0.68

00:08:54.020 way close one of the reasons why is social proof a woman who now has let's say two kids 0.95

00:08:59.080 she's 45 46 years old going out into the dating market again you know my kids the most important 1.00

00:09:04.940 thing in my life she's just unfortunately she's probably said it'd be a pump and dump type 0.99

00:09:10.020 situation right because you know we're a package deal there's nothing more important so she's 0.86

00:09:16.000 fishing for the next man to be in orbit around her and her two kids is that attractive or is

00:09:20.980 not attractive now maybe if she goes like 20 years older he's in the 60s doesn't doesn't really mind

00:09:26.580 he's got someone that's younger a little bit more vibrant youthful than him okay so usual frame gold

00:09:32.260 digger reframe grave digger that could work for that single mother at 45 with two kids 46 year

00:09:38.580 old two kids but but but a father gets out of the marriage social proof kicks in he was worth

00:09:45.780 marrying oh he was where he was married to you how how long so he can commit yeah because men

00:09:52.020 get more after marriage that's why women can't take it what do you think crowder is crowder

00:09:57.460 has a hot new girlfriend and i don't think it's a coincidence that his wife crashed out when he

00:10:03.620 started dating he can stay he's dutiful oh these are these are husband inequalities this is at

00:10:07.860 least she started going on x and saying that she was um unemployed while getting 30 000 a month

00:10:13.780 material. He's got kids too. They're so cute. He can reproduce successfully. Oh, he's such a good

00:10:20.260 father. And the ovaries begin aching worldwide for him. And I think that this, she has seen him

00:10:28.240 as the moon to her planet for so long. She hasn't seen him as a planet. I once wrote a book about

00:10:35.460 this for a lawyer in which the dynamic that we realized was you hear about all these Christians

00:10:41.700 like gif and will and others and not just them but this is kind of collective advice of if this

00:10:45.460 then that if you become more respectable and become more chadly more masculine alpha and 0.81

00:10:50.500 patriarchal and all these you know all this bs if you do all these things then she will this

00:10:54.980 incorrect you are orbiting yourself she'll get jealous because you're going to get more attention 1.00

00:11:00.920 like a good little christian husband bitch like that you are what's going to happen you decide 1.00

00:11:06.820 you're going to be a planet yourself now you start attracting other women because you become 1.00

00:11:10.480 attractive yourself and someone shared with me in the dad chat today that that is catastrophic

00:11:16.320 she has to now destroy you she has to destroy you emotionally she has to destroy you financially 0.97

00:11:21.040 she has to destroy you sexually why because you're her moon you're not a planet so you decided that 0.99

00:11:28.240 you're going to become a planet and try to put her in orbit around you that's topping from the bottom 1.00

00:11:33.360 that is the submissive trying to be the dominant moons aren't planets get back in your place 1.00

00:11:40.760 get back in orbit around me you little that's the effect so she has to sabotage your efforts 1.00

00:11:49.420 to become a planet and you think you're doing it to be a better husband the solution the more to 1.00

00:11:54.060 feminism is more feminism as pearl and pat both say they're both have incredible content 0.99

00:11:59.120 so the fix thank you marriage is you have to set the proper dynamic from the beginning or you are

00:12:05.260 hosed you i don't think yeah you can't fix it possible to fix this michael gimmern might disagree

00:12:11.220 with me he's a bit more of an optimist than i am he will laugh and he'll say f you joshua maybe 0.70

00:12:16.120 because i don't think he would agree with that but i don't think that it's fixable he might say

00:12:20.820 it's a 30 chance yeah i'm debating with michael not even here now that's incredible content the

00:12:26.420 way to fix this is very simply the wife is in orbit around the husband this works because it

00:12:35.020 worked for approximately 2.3 million years until five minutes ago and we decided that women are 1.00

00:12:42.420 legally men am i complaining i am not i am saying embrace and amplify the solution to feminism is

00:12:50.160 more feminism okay the solution to feminism is more feminism so i'm a feminist in that regard

00:12:56.500 the dynamic that creates this is probably something like a dom sub contract type of

00:13:04.440 relationship with the caller oh my god josh are you going there yes i absolutely am because that

00:13:10.080 is a socio-sexual hierarchy that works that creates this dynamic do you have to be married

00:13:17.280 to do this? No, you don't. Does this work in a marriage? Absolutely, it does. Think about this. 0.87

00:13:22.800 If you're going to be my dom, she says to herself, you have to actually be worth that role in my life

00:13:29.920 or I'm not doing it. Otherwise, you're topping from the bottom. See, what a lot of you fellows

00:13:34.600 are trying to do, you're in orbit around your wife and you do these behaviors, you're jester maxing

00:13:39.400 and she's the queen, you're the jester. You declare that you're going to become a king?

00:13:42.820 She's like, no, you're a jester. Get back into my entertainment hole. And then she'll use 0.99

00:13:49.480 therapy speak. I need to feel safe with you. I have boundaries. I want someone who is an equal

00:13:59.960 partner and actively listens. I'm just, I'm really concerned about these toxic masculine behaviors,

00:14:06.620 this emotional abuse I'm feeling coming from you. That's all just telling you to go and be a jester

00:14:11.000 again the problem with with with modern marriage is that it sets up the dynamic where in order for

00:14:17.260 it to work only and you kind of start off as a jester in a way because even like the dates and

00:14:23.560 all the stuff men have to do in the beginning it's what you want to do not what he wants to do

00:14:27.620 you know what i mean because you know it's not him her coming into his world it's him going into 0.99

00:14:35.580 hers and taking her to these stupid restaurants and all this stuff problem is if men don't 0.99

00:14:40.800 offer that then they don't get laid and men want to get laid and then if they don't someone 0.99

00:14:44.300 else will and then they just compete for who can jester max the most and then it just never

00:14:49.260 ends so good luck fellas i i didn't make this world i didn't make the rules i just tell

00:14:54.800 you what they are one person can be in charge there is no such thing as a co-ceo 50 50 founder

00:14:59.340 type situation those never work period whatsoever at all there's no situation when it works long

00:15:03.800 term to create anything like harmony or balance there's always one person who wants it more

00:15:08.540 it's a group dynamic group project dynamic of college you ever been one of the next absolutely 1.00

00:15:13.480 it's always how it goes there has to be a hierarchy and women cannot respect and appreciate 0.68

00:15:18.680 and love men orbiting around them you're a jester you're not a king that's how she sees you in her

00:15:25.600 mind this is the collective wisdom of the dad chat six years of ghost writing uh divorce lawyer books

00:15:31.680 it's not possible to fix this. This is general enough that it now, while it's not legal and

00:15:37.080 financial advice, maybe it should be, maybe it should be. But the type of dynamic where she

00:15:42.840 sees you as the alpha, the man in charge, and she is devoted to you as the submissive and that type 0.98

00:15:49.540 of a model, that's how to fix marriage. I've recently posted this picture of what she says

00:15:56.120 she wants versus what she really wants. What she says she wants is the engagement ring,

00:16:00.960 what she really wants is slavery a different kind of a band different piece of jewelry let's say 0.93

00:16:07.920 i think that's how to fix marriage in the united states and in the western world 0.89

00:16:11.060 it sets the proper dynamic because if i'm not doing that with you that's weird that's that's

00:16:16.740 patriarchal that's that's that's chauvinistic oh okay so you see yourself as a planet you want a

00:16:22.820 moon okay bye peace we covered a lot of territory today and it's obviously correct and i don't think

00:16:29.400 it's possible to assail this. But we can't go back, folks. We cannot go back to the traditional

00:16:34.400 social. Yeah, it doesn't serve a viewpoint. You can only go forwards. You see me embracing and

00:16:40.120 amplifying like praising single moms. There is a reason I am doing that. There is a reason I am 0.99

00:16:46.100 doing that. It's called embrace and amplify. The solution to feminism and its excesses is even more

00:16:51.740 of them is even more of that feminism and what do feminists love to read and watch what's the

00:17:00.080 best-selling novel of all time again what do they want more than anything else case closed okay this

00:17:07.500 guy's funny all right guys um make sure you go check out his twitter it's uh joshua lysac the

00:17:14.980 ghostwriter on twitter joshua lysac funny guy um he reminds me of scott adams a bit so make sure you

00:17:21.400 like the video guys and subscribe to the channel I really appreciate you watching

00:17:24.900 go to my event and I'll see you next time

Pearl - September 22, 2026

Why Women Don’t Respect Men Who WORSHIP Them

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