Pearl - July 21, 2026


Women Act SHOCKED Over...Consent!?


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Length

13 minutes

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201.19

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2,744

Sentence count

15

Harmful content

Misogyny

18

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Toxicity

15

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Hate speech

12

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00:00:00.000 So for them, it's like, why would I waste my time speaking to a woman if she's not going to pull out for me?
00:00:03.600 That is a very, that is a very scary mentality.
00:00:06.120 Yeah, so a lot of women aren't told how men think, and men do think like that.
00:00:09.440 They think about what's the cost per nut.
00:00:11.600 All right, what's up, guys?
00:00:12.680 Welcome to my reaction series.
00:00:14.120 So there's a man that is going viral on TikTok, okay?
00:00:18.280 And he's going viral because I guess he sent a girl a voice note that has TikTok talking.
00:00:24.100 Now, here's the thing.
00:00:25.020 imagine if a woman sent a voice note and a man aired her out online or like a new put a nude on 0.54
00:00:30.780 the internet or something like that it would be world war three it would not be um it would be 1.00
00:00:36.700 in bad faith or a bad taste to air out private messages um but now women are just doing that 0.85
00:00:44.060 willy-nilly so let's see uh what this girl is to say also before i start there's a google forum 1.00
00:00:52.300 in the description we want to come to your city but you have to apply and we have to get a thousand
00:00:56.140 emails we're at about 600 and i'd love to meet you guys in person so fill out the google form
00:01:01.020 all right i figured i'd send you a voice note because it's like easier than like texting all
00:01:04.140 this but um anyway um had a good time tonight definitely think you are lovely um however i
00:01:10.380 would love to if we're gonna go to your place on thursday i mean i am looking to have that um
00:01:17.580 physical intimacy um to see if like i am sexually compatible with you um so like if i'm gonna come
00:01:24.220 over okay so this is um a guy that's not really reading the room and like social cues um
00:01:36.380 this is women don't like men that have to directly say it like and it's unfortunate because
00:01:43.020 now we're adding in consent and stuff but do you know what i mean it's kind of like imagine if um
00:01:52.220 if i say at a first or second date that i want to get married and have kids and a lot of guys
00:01:57.100 that's gonna turn off because they're like i don't know you and if this doesn't go well i
00:02:02.220 still want to i want to i want to have plausible deniability to say no in case you're awkward or 0.54
00:02:08.460 this is weird yeah so this is like i would be hoping to like hook up have sex have a good time
00:02:15.740 have like that romantic spark and that physical spark there um for my own sake um because it's
00:02:23.740 hard for me to continue dating if dating someone and seeing them if i don't know if i'm sexually
00:02:28.620 compatible so um what he's saying is reasonable it's just very awkward that's that's what i would
00:02:34.540 say it's it's totally reasonable for him to expect that um but if i was him i would just do the second
00:02:40.780 date and if she doesn't let you hit then she didn't like you i know you said i don't know about that
00:02:45.820 so like i guess my thing is is like what would be the point of me coming over then if we're not gonna 0.93
00:02:52.140 like hook up and like a dude dude okay because women it's women don't want to be told this
00:03:02.460 directly they want to say oh do you want to come meet my dog and then oh we're here to meet the
00:03:07.420 dog and then he just kisses you and then it's so romantic and dang he's kind of fumbling this
00:03:13.500 cuddle and like be intimate with each other um and if that's what you don't want that's fine
00:03:19.340 but like i think we should just like end it here then respectfully just because i first date that's
00:03:25.500 fine like you want to get to know each other i'm all about that but like i am looking to
00:03:29.740 have that physical aspect there and i don't want to continue seeing someone if i don't know
00:03:35.900 if that's good if that's not there or not so up to you let me know i'm happy to um if you do want 0.89
00:03:43.600 me to come over i'm happy to do so i would love to fuck have a good time and you know we can have 0.70
00:03:49.040 some wine hang out and chill but if you're not trying to hook up then like i think oh my gosh 0.92
00:03:55.320 um yeah you guys got to be careful you do that's the jumbotron rule you should not send anything
00:04:02.800 you don't want blasted on a jumbotron that's my mail i don't know if this is something that i've
00:04:07.000 just fallen down a rabbit hole in or if this is something that is actually gaining a lot of
00:04:10.380 traction online but i have an opinion and i'd like to share so i don't think he's fundamentally
00:04:14.940 wrong in what he's saying he's setting a clear boundary he's making is very clear that he's only
00:04:20.000 dating casually um the problem comes in when he says what would be the point of me coming over
00:04:26.280 if i'm not going to have physical intimacy with you that's where the problem comes in in this rise
00:04:32.080 of the manosphere the red pill ideology all of these things that young men are being fed
00:04:36.040 is very common for the men that fall into these mindsets that they the problem is they don't
00:04:43.040 have the game to communicate that because you can't it's you can't communicate boundaries you
00:04:50.640 have to show her the boundary so if you go over there and you don't hook up then you block her
00:04:55.120 and never talk to her again there's the boundary not value the time or they're not interested in
00:05:00.880 a woman that doesn't give them doesn't give them the chance that they might be successful in gaining
00:05:08.080 that physical intimacy if that makes sense so like they would not have like girlfriends because they
00:05:12.320 they don't see the value of having a woman as a friend if she isn't that's a difficult thing for 0.99
00:05:18.140 women is that most men just want to bang you they don't like you going to satisfy him in that way
00:05:24.660 right and that can be very scary and that is why this whole discourse online is happening because
00:05:33.120 he essentially by saying that made women feel like if someone said that to me i would feel like a
00:05:41.200 piece of me there's a lot more to me like literature and films and my hobbies and instruments
00:05:48.600 and music and like what i've done with my life and everything like that like you you're not
00:05:52.880 interested you seriously don't want to know anything that's that's the problem that men
00:05:57.940 just aren't interested in women enough mentally they're interested physically they're just not
00:06:04.820 interested mentally so for them it's like why would i waste my time speaking to a woman if
00:06:08.440 she's not gonna put out for me that is a very that is a very scary mentality yeah so a lot of
00:06:13.000 women aren't told how men think and men do think like that they think about what's the cost per
00:06:17.400 nut and it's a mentality that a lot of young men are gaining and that's why we see things like them
00:06:23.160 all right let's keep going see what this lady says definitely think you are lovely um however
00:06:29.420 i would love to if we're gonna go to your place on thursday i mean i am looking to 1.00
00:06:34.700 i don't know about that so like one if i don't know if that's yeah look at the face this girl's
00:06:42.540 not it's just thanks there's something eerily familiar about that man i definitely don't know
00:06:57.720 him but there are many of his kind who look about the conversation is oh he's being so polite he's
00:07:07.740 asking for consent rather than just this is the thing women messed around and found out because
00:07:13.480 we said we want we need you to get consent um and romance doesn't really have consent like it's
00:07:19.820 it's romantic right are we are we not i mean that's what kind of makes it fun um is the guy
00:07:26.420 gonna get the girl you know um where now yeah now you you there's no written rules so when men try
00:07:37.560 to spell it out for the women we get mad so going to her house i think i'm kind of fenced sitting on 0.70
00:07:43.040 this and trying to physically pressure her by making moves women just hate awkward men
00:07:50.000 that she did not anticipate he would try to make and then she's he's like already in her house how
00:07:57.680 can she say no that's the conversation about this freaking voice memo why is there any conversation 0.97
00:08:07.160 it's just block delete next move on he's begging the whole voicemail he's begging for sex he's not 0.99
00:08:19.040 interested in her clearly he can't even stand to have a conversation with her unless there is sex 0.97
00:08:27.460 potentially yeah women are men on a biological level believe we're meant to be seen not heard 0.89
00:08:33.760 for him on the table he doesn't even see sex as a two participant activity that you need two people
00:08:44.080 to enjoy it to have a good time it's clear oh i will give you charity okay this feels weird 0.56
00:08:52.380 let's keep going he's innocent and the women complaining about him are picknees hear me out
00:08:56.540 this guy left this girl a voice memo after their first date letting her know that if he's coming
00:09:00.640 over to her place for their second date he would like to sleep together he said hey just so you
00:09:04.440 know at this point i would like for us to establish some type of sexual chemistry and if not that's
00:09:10.180 perfectly fine we just probably won't need to see each other in that intimate setting basically if
00:09:14.800 he ain't cracking he ain't coming so what's up and although it is a strange way to ask for consent
00:09:19.200 i mean at least he asked he didn't wait until they were in person and pressure her he said these are
00:09:23.920 my intentions if these are not your intentions we probably shouldn't do this now the bird brain
00:09:28.420 pick me is they're calling this an ultimatum which reminds me that you all don't understand
00:09:32.420 what multi-syllable words mean it's actually a choice see an ultimatum requires some type of
00:09:36.740 negative consequence what is the negative consequence here she doesn't get picked by this
00:09:40.760 man they don't go on a second date oh no are you serious y'all remind me of those girls from high
00:09:45.740 school that were like i felt pressured to sleep with my boyfriend because if i didn't i knew he
00:09:49.200 was gonna find someone else so they slept with him and then what happened he still cheated on
00:09:53.380 you with someone else and i'm sure some of your friends and family who consoled you afterwards 0.99
00:09:56.960 told you all babe it's not your fault he was a douchebag is a black woman making sense and some 0.99
00:10:03.240 of that is true but as your brutally honest bestie i will tell you the other part that's true 0.99
00:10:06.960 you didn't have to sleep with him you didn't have to do that the option was sleep with him
00:10:11.700 or let him go y'all be so afraid to let a man go let him go sis if you are dating someone and
00:10:17.800 they clearly state that they want intimacy on a timeline that does not work for you
00:10:21.380 leave that man y'all two do not need to be together you're not on the same timeline
00:10:25.560 you're not compatible it's that simple some of the girls are so afraid to be alone that they
00:10:30.220 end up saying yes to things that they should have said no to pushing their boundaries in a way that
00:10:34.600 makes them uncomfortable and then afterwards when it still doesn't work out because y'all were never
00:10:38.840 compatible to begin with you want to blame the men it's not the man's fault that you went past
00:10:44.140 your own boundaries you should have said something and stopped it ended it right there and so i hope
00:10:48.800 that if she's that uncomfortable they're just not going to see each other again and everything will
00:10:52.820 be fine i genuinely think this man did the right thing by stating his intentions before he came 1.00
00:10:56.820 over now she has to put her big girl panties on and decide if she wants to sleep with that man or
00:11:01.400 not yeah all right let's see this one so it's completely fine honestly if a guy texted me on 0.96
00:11:06.800 the second date i don't want to go to your crib because i know we're not gonna fuck and if i'm at 0.98
00:11:10.500 your crib i'm gonna want to fuck that's fine dog that's letting you know he didn't pressure her 0.99
00:11:15.900 while he was already home being like this is our second date you're on my crib like let's go like 1.00
00:11:20.980 see i think the girl would have respected it more if he said it like that that's the worst part the 0.99
00:11:25.380 guy was too polite a lot of women are willing to sleep with you on the first or the second date but 0.92
00:11:31.880 they will only do it if they feel like when they go back to your place it's not being framed as a 0.99
00:11:36.640 guarantee oftentimes what you want to say is something closer to like hey i got to go back
00:11:41.760 to my place to take my dog out but i'm really enjoying talking to you why don't you come back
00:11:46.020 so we can continue chatting or hey i got to go back to my place because i left my stuff in the
00:11:50.860 laundry machine i don't want it to get moldy or stinky or whatever but like let's keep chatting
00:11:54.920 Let's keep hanging out. The beauty of something like that is the girl kind of knows what you're
00:11:58.780 doing. She also kind of knows that it's likely that once you guys go back, something's going
00:12:03.300 to happen, or at least I think that. But because of the way that you framed it, you've kind of
00:12:07.060 given her an out in her head. She has plausible deniability and she has a literal out. She feels
00:12:12.000 like, okay, we can go back to his place. We can take the dog out, whatever. And then we can see
00:12:16.380 what happens. That ironically makes her more comfortable to end up sleeping with you compared 0.95
00:12:21.100 to if you were just to say hey you want to go back to my place now that is way too insinuating
00:12:25.980 there's actually this guy who went viral recently it's called the voice memo guy or whatever the
00:12:30.200 voice note guy basically what he did is he sent this voice memo to this girl after like the first
00:12:35.120 or the second date and he's like i'm really hoping that we will sleep together on the next date
00:12:39.480 because i'm trying to find out if we have physical compatibility and it's going viral because
00:12:44.000 everyone's kind of like yeah this is a rational thing to think but you should never say it because
00:12:48.920 imagine what it's like for that girl now imagine she actually went on the next date with a guy
00:12:54.100 imagine how weird that would be for her to to show up knowing that you're like guaranteed to 0.80
00:12:58.500 go back to his place and then sleep together that's such an icky feeling for her yeah the 0.99
00:13:03.560 women always she was more than women always want to out because we want to feel you out make sure 1.00
00:13:07.640 we like you so willing to sleep with you on that date but now because you've collapsed it and 0.57
00:13:12.480 turned it into a certainty it's so much pressure and it's so deeply unromantic a shocking amount
00:13:18.340 yeah so all right guys um let me know what you think of the comments i yeah i think he just did 0.85
00:13:24.240 in an awkward way unfortunately this is the sad thing for zoomers is they can't take l's um just 0.87
00:13:29.960 amongst their friend group now it can be broadcast to the entire world so anyways like the video if 0.97
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