Pearl - September 30, 2026


“Women Are Using THERAPY SPEAK to Control Men” @JustPearlyThings

Mentioned
Orion Taravan
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Episode Stats


Length

2 minutes

Words per minute

163.61

Word count

467

Sentence count

21

Harmful content

Misogyny

3

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Toxicity

2

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Hate speech

2

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Transcript

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00:00:00.000 You're not holding space for my mental load. I need boundaries around my emotional labor.
00:00:08.380 I am making a bid for emotional connection before practical correction, you toxic narcissistic 1.00
00:00:15.700 abuser. This is my truth. All of this is therapy speak. We need to have a national conversation 1.00
00:00:21.240 about this. I'm going to credit the Dr. Orion Taravan. He did a video on this a few weeks ago
00:00:27.800 where we talked about how the introduction of therapy speak into the discourse, specifically in marriage, dating and relationships, has resulted in the moralizing of amoral issues in order to turn a disagreement into a conversation about you being a bad person for not obeying, kowtowing or otherwise submitting to my will. 0.97
00:00:52.380 And it's usually women who are doing this because toxic femininity historically is the use of undermining that are a low intensity conflict tactic set that is just under the radar of violence, but has the same impact.
00:01:08.800 returning to this the only way to defeat these techniques is to deploy them in a counter strike
00:01:15.680 now this makes a lot of people uncomfortable particularly your principled conservative
00:01:21.280 types who believe in having an honest conversation and fairness and what would happen yeah because
00:01:26.880 because you can only be fair with women that are fair and women aren't fair so 1.00
00:01:31.120 now you gotta you gotta bring a gun to a gunfight reversed dish it's about to find out
00:01:37.120 it's about to find out what happens when the roles are reversed because what's happening here
00:01:42.880 there is no good faith conversation happening in the world of therapy speak you and your your your
00:01:48.880 wife your your fiance let's say have a disagreement about let's say a particular activity associated
00:01:55.360 with the children or anything that's practical that is well i think we should do it this way i
00:02:00.160 think we should do it that way who's going to be here who wants this uh what's happening here what's
00:02:04.080 what's happening there. I think it should be this way. No, I think it should be that.
00:02:06.720 And then the moralizing therapy speak makes usually the man, because a woman gets it from 0.98
00:02:12.100 her therapist. It makes the man into bad, wrong, toxic, dismissive, disrespectful,
00:02:19.760 a boundary breaker because, oh, you won't respect my boundaries. Like boundaries I have around you
00:02:25.780 obeying me at all times. And the irony, of course, is that the person deploying the therapy speak
00:02:31.280 accusatory language is the person doing all the things that they're saying. The only way to win
00:02:38.380 in this situation, win without fighting. So with the vast majority of cases, your best bet's going
00:02:44.760 to be the most expensive divorce lawyer you can find in the United States. So that's your first
00:02:48.940 thing. Second thing is to use it right back.