Pearl - Women at 40 Trying To Restart At Life (They'll Fail)

00:00:00.080 oh my gosh you're so you're talking about leaving your husband and then begging for money on social

00:00:05.280 women are incredible read the room girl what's up guys welcome to my reaction series thanks

00:00:11.040 for watching today we're gonna react to a woman who's 40 and starting over and i guess it's a full 0.99

00:00:16.800 series documenting um and the issue we have with this woman in particular is that she's just not 0.99

00:00:22.800 that attractive um now again i'm not here to be a doomer right there are 40 year old women that 1.00

00:00:29.520 Like, I know a woman that had two kids from her ex-husband who was a crackhead and then got remarried to a guy better in every single way. 1.00

00:00:40.460 There are mothers that shoot for the stars and they catch it, right? 0.99

00:00:46.800 But they have to be hot, right? 1.00

00:00:48.760 That was a good-looking woman. 1.00

00:00:51.220 You are not a good-looking woman. 1.00

00:00:52.880 So I can't imagine this is going to go well for you, but I hope it does. 1.00

00:00:56.840 Let's tag along.

00:00:59.520 41 and i'm starting over get ready with me while i talk about my life my name is cass

00:01:10.800 and my life has completely blown up oh good makeup you need it you need it that's fine i

00:01:17.600 mean know where you're at right i need makeup too i don't have any on today but i could use some

00:01:22.960 you know so men say they like a natural look and i know working in media i know they don't

00:01:28.320 because like i i have direct like thumbnail click-through rates and like i have direct

00:01:36.020 evidence that they prefer light makeup um especially when you get older men like young

00:01:41.800 women they like the natural look when you're 20 but not when you're 40 you know what i mean so

00:01:46.080 old ladies you put that stuff on don't let these men gaslight you you cake that on you cake it

00:01:52.040 I have two children, one daughter in college and another in elementary school.

00:01:59.240 I am getting ready to divorce my second husband.

00:02:04.500 Yeah, I know.

00:02:06.160 The marriage has been on life support for a very long time.

00:02:10.600 Not one baby daddy, but two.

00:02:12.500 Oof. 1.00

00:02:13.780 Oof.

00:02:14.420 Long time, like six years.

00:02:18.240 We had five very happy years.

00:02:22.040 i thought they were happy years prior to that so we have crossed beyond the point that we've had

00:02:30.840 more bad years than good i have been the only one who has actively tried to keep the marriage

00:02:41.740 together yeah what does that mean i'm the only one who has actively tried to keep the marriage 0.98

00:02:46.920 together that means i dragged him to stupid stuff that doesn't work and wouldn't work like therapy

00:02:55.320 if you have a different translation put in the comments i'm sure you guys 0.96

00:02:58.600 i know you guys have an ex-wife that talks like this and to grow and to move forward from

00:03:05.640 um very bad toxic and just really upsetting mistakes that we both made

00:03:12.360 so unfortunately despite all my attempts it's not meant to be we are both miserable and incredibly

00:03:24.000 unhappy I've been crying about this for years and I run out of tears so now what I have a job that

00:03:36.640 I absolutely love, but I don't make a whole lot of money. So here I am putting it all

00:03:48.260 out there for everyone to see. Because while I'm ready to move on in life, I don't have

00:03:58.720 enough money to move out of our marital home. Yep, we still live together. It's not for not

00:04:08.740 wanting to leave. I just can't afford to go anywhere. So through this process of like

00:04:15.620 trying to figure out like what's wrong? Why does this keep happening to me? Why can't I

00:04:23.540 be in a healthy relationship I just realized that a lot has happened to me in life from childhood

00:04:33.040 on that really needed some care and evaluation oh girl when I said cake on the makeup oh my god

00:04:43.400 that is not I mean we'll see where she's going with it um but again if you're 40 and you haven't

00:04:48.420 gotten over your childhood stuff yeah i've known this for many years and have been working

00:04:57.820 tirelessly on my mental health what does working tirelessly on your mental health mean

00:05:04.440 okay i would say a practical thing is to meditate

00:05:09.060 but i i you know that's like i don't know working on your mental health

00:05:15.200 what how would you tell her to work on her mental health to me it just seems learn therapy language

00:05:21.420 to manipulate people you know that's what it seems like and now i've been in a big to-do of

00:05:31.320 working on my physical health as well oh god not well enough girl i can see you are above 0.94

00:05:37.460 like 30 body fat with the help of a glp i've started oh my gosh so she got on a glp and

00:05:46.040 divorced her husband how are you on a glp and still overweight i mean that's oh my gosh losing

00:05:52.580 some weight exercising paying attention to my diet and everything that i put inside my body

00:05:59.960 I've also furthered my education in the field that I'm in to help better my financial standing

00:06:09.720 I went back to school for this on top of quitting a toxic relationship that I couldn't let go

00:06:19.200 I have quit drinking and vaping

00:06:23.200 vaping was really hard I commute every single day for work about an hour and 20 minutes each way

00:06:34.740 I spend a lot of time on the road so I have a dream

00:06:40.160 to get a little place close to my work

00:06:45.600 and get my wife back and this is where social media comes in i need money 0.77

00:06:55.720 i need to earn more oh my gosh you're so you're talking about leaving your husband and then 0.97

00:07:02.080 begging for money on social women are incredible read the room girl there's people um you just 0.94

00:07:08.340 gotta read the room money i live in southern california in one of the most expensive places

00:07:17.000 in the country and i'm trying to get to san diego one of the most expensive cities in the country

00:07:25.980 so why am i telling you this well i'm sharing my life in hopes that this can bring me to

00:07:38.340 earning more money. I would love to make enough. I don't need much. I need like

00:07:46.320 $3,000 a month to make it on my own without any help from my ex, without any. I don't.

00:07:54.580 She does need help and she will be putting him on child support.

00:07:57.720 Want any money from him. I really just want a disconnect as much as possible. Living together

00:08:02.940 has been she will take money from him when it comes down to it very difficult on very hard on

00:08:11.500 me and it's really um affecting my healing process i am not scared and i am not

00:08:22.380 discouraged from moving forward so i plan to use this channel to show you all my

00:08:31.660 journey progress yeah and my over 40. okay let's see let's see the weight loss all right that's 1.00

00:08:37.900 from may 11th it's been about a month oh my god girl how are you on a glp all right women are so 0.74

00:08:49.500 full of it okay let's see this next lady starting over at 40. men in their 40s having to rebuild

00:08:55.740 their lives is astounding i'm 41 and i'm starting over since my last video went viral i've 0.86

00:09:09.020 discovered some really heartbreaking things the amount of women

00:09:14.620 that are going through the exact same thing that i'm going through

00:09:17.900 is devastating so we are all just quietly living our lives 1.00

00:09:25.500 alone in our bedrooms wow it's like self-inflicted like women i think like trauma i think women enjoy 0.98

00:09:34.860 being traumatized so they can just like cry about it i think women like crying and so we like 0.99

00:09:39.720 inflict trauma upon ourselves so we can cry about it and that like makes us happy and in this case 0.80

00:09:46.540 cry on the internet just trying to get by we are just quietly rebuilding our lives

00:09:56.860 trying to figure out money some of us just can't even get out of bed because the weight of the 0.91

00:10:05.260 weight of it all is just too heavy it's just everyday women still going to work every day 1.00

00:10:14.300 raising their kids 0.88

00:10:17.500 and just suffering in silence we shouldn't have to live with our exes because rent is just too

00:10:28.560 damn expensive i mean like what is happening you guys okay well the reason all the prices

00:10:36.060 of everything are going up they say it's inflation right but i think it's really just um people can 0.98

00:10:41.280 keep charging more money because women will still buy it no matter what um and so businesses kind

00:10:47.200 of have to make the choice should we charge absurd prices and do less work provide a worse product

00:10:52.340 and get more money and obviously they say yes yeah so that's where we're going with this it's

00:11:00.240 just it's it's an epidemic it's like hundreds of women okay you're not going to be able to put

00:11:05.760 makeup over um the fat like lose the fat and then come back just on my video just mine such a small

00:11:15.680 sampling of women that have seen my video are all going through this how many of us are actually

00:11:22.420 doing this and then legit like what is going on with men they just they see this i know i know

00:11:32.660 they know that we're having a hard time i know that they see us suffering they know 0.91

00:11:37.840 they're not as dumb as they come off to be i don't get how somebody can just watch another

00:11:45.920 person suffer translation i left my husband ruined my family and i still want him to deal 0.89

00:11:52.560 with my problems all right next most difficult things about starting over in midlife is actually

00:11:56.580 just taking that very first step to do something different for your life and i believe i just

00:12:00.460 would think that if you're gonna break up your whole family that you would be hot before it just

00:12:07.420 kind of surprises me they don't lose the weight before they leave like if your girl's like going

00:12:11.920 really hard in the gym it's a wrap you know she's never gone to the gym before it's a wrap i get it

00:12:18.880 because at 44 years old my life completely fell apart after i went through a divorce i hit rock

00:12:23.120 bottom literally my life completely fell apart and i had no idea what the heck i was going to do with

00:12:28.080 my life and taking that first step towards the unknown or towards the uncertain or towards this 0.77

00:12:33.100 life that I had no idea what was going to be on the other side of was so fucking scary and

00:12:37.700 overwhelming. But I tell you, as soon as I took that first step and then took another step, 0.57

00:12:42.100 I started getting clarity and I started getting really in tune and in alignment with who I was

00:12:46.960 and who I was meant to be. So I see you. I totally understand. And if you are scared and you don't

00:12:52.040 know what direction you're going to go, I promise you, if you just... It's going to be a divorce

00:12:55.940 coach i bet that's what they do they fuck up their life and then that's not enough so they become a 0.96

00:13:00.780 coach on bad decisions i mean that's what you see on tiktok it's like herpes coach it's divorce 0.98

00:13:06.140 coach it's um what do you got like food disorder coach money co it's just like coaching women

00:13:16.800 coaching women into making horrible choices take that first step baby steps even just a little bit

00:13:22.680 every single day you will start to get clarity and so much more confidence in yourself it's just

00:13:27.040 going to take time but believe in yourself because i believe in you too one of the most difficult

00:13:31.620 things about starting over in midlife is actually just taking that all right guys all right um i

00:13:36.300 wish these ladies well i don't predict it'll work out for any of you with the face cards and the

00:13:41.280 body cards we have but don't fear there's always a man who will do it oh but pearl they're gonna

00:13:48.080 learn their lesson nope there's always somebody who'll do it uh get yourself a glp1 why work hard

00:13:53.520 when you can work smart and starve yourself and uh some simple do it and then you can get fat after

00:13:59.520 like the video guys subscribe to the channel and i'll see you next time

Pearl - June 03, 2026

Women at 40 Trying To Restart At Life (They'll Fail)

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