01:01:12.380I'm a retired sergeant from the New York City Police Department.
01:01:14.620I retired with almost 27 years on the job.
01:01:16.900I have worked with thousands and thousands of men and I've interviewed hundreds of others for a book that I'm writing and a website I'm building.
01:01:22.360wind I hate wind so let's talk about it um so this is going to be a video for the girl whose
01:01:29.120boyfriend is always working on his car like he has like a classic car thing the girl whose
01:01:33.900boyfriend is always fishing and the girl whose boyfriend is always playing video games all three
01:01:38.620of you have similar problems and I'm sure it applies to other people so let's talk about it
01:01:42.440when you met this guy that guy that you met in the beginning that was not your boyfriend that
01:01:47.880was someone he was kind of portraying to be to kind of like woo you that was like his the wooing
01:01:54.080guy he disappears after a little while and the guy that you get you know three four six months
01:01:59.960into the relationship that is your boyfriend so please understand that guy in the beginning
01:02:04.640he's not your boyfriend the guy six seven months later four five months later that is your boyfriend
01:02:09.840so if he's not giving you the time and energy and effort that you want please understand you're
01:02:17.740not going to change this man i have worked with men for so many years like i ran a detective squad
01:02:23.900in brooklyn for 10 years before i retired like that's actually where i retired out of and i am
01:02:28.220telling you you are not going to change a guy you're not going to change him so if he's spending
01:02:33.740all of his time playing video games or working on his car likes to go fish you know that's what you
01:02:39.740have that's what he is so for you to scream and yell and bitch and complain it's kind of like
01:02:46.620you knew kind of what he was after a little while no one can keep up that you know that constant
01:02:53.580you know energy of the beginning that's the beginning that's why it's called the honeymoon
01:02:57.260period because it's the beginning it's long term it's how they are long term so if you're
01:03:03.660not happy with the fact that he's always doing whatever activity he's doing you have to ask
01:03:09.020yourself is this the relationship i want we're never going to get that to change it for you to
01:03:14.140be complaining and losing your mind over it what you really might need to do is take a step back
01:03:19.020and say is this the relationship i want because the person that you have is the person he is so
01:03:25.740if you don't want a guy who's going to play video games all the time you what do you think you're
01:03:30.380going to complain to him and he's going to stop no he's going to ignore you and he's still going
01:03:35.260to play video games this is the man he is now will they change for another woman usually not
01:03:40.460not, I'm sorry, they won't. Oh, well, the thing meets the right guard. No, men are who they are.
01:03:46.480You get what you get. So if you don't like what you get, I suggest you get something different
01:03:50.420or you accept them for the man that they are. But more than likely, when you meet a man,
01:03:55.900if that's what he does, plays video games, works on his car, fishes, hunts, whatever his thing is,
01:04:02.020that's who he is. So just try to accept him for who he is or just decide if that's not the right
01:04:06.000relationship for you so i know that's probably not what you wanted to hear i hope this helped
01:04:10.780take care and be well thank you for all the questions and comments and messages i love them
01:04:15.880keep them coming okay bye-bye yeah that's right that's correct um that's the other thing it's
01:04:25.880like what if you got him playing video games why would he change okay renal dolfo says i love how
01:04:35.920patrice o'neill simplified that if women had no pussy what would they do to keep a man all the
01:04:42.340answers were sexual but no female said tell better stories learn pool and play games crazy kyle here's
01:04:51.320a thought i don't like girl streamers because they ruin the fun t carp as a dad of girl two girls i
01:04:58.300gamed last night two hours after i got home i don't do it all the time but it's a balance
01:51:08.960Fazal says, God can't help himself with these bitches.
01:51:12.820oh you guys are cracking me up crazy men are so much funnier than women
01:51:19.060you know i think i'm funny for a woman for a woman no youtube not all not all but
01:51:26.220even the average guy will be funnier than me like by a lot you know okay
01:51:33.080pearl women are indian givers lol dane i'm old when video games games came out in the 80s they
01:51:40.640were child toys as boys grew up into manhood they took on more mature and productive hobbies so to
01:51:45.700me they're symbols of immaturity these guys are whining about women taking away their spaces sound
01:51:51.380weak because they keep running to the next place instead of standing up and telling the woman to
01:51:56.040have a seat and hush dane how okay i want to play this out i want you to think about this
01:52:01.980so if they go to the gym right and the women come in they're like let me in the gym and the men are
01:52:08.240like okay the average guy doesn't have the power to kick women out of the gym the average men don't
01:52:16.080have like i went to a gun range and there's like um a female gun sport like most men you could say
01:52:22.920the met the business owners are simping but the men don't spend money like women like do you guys
01:52:28.320know how many membership i'm gonna like pretend pander right now i'm gonna pretend do you know
01:52:32.880how much money i could have if i just said you know what let me let me just let me just tell you
01:52:37.780how I can make him I could have made a million dollars you know what women he just does not
01:52:45.720appreciate you you are a queen thank god you dumped his ass because really he didn't know
01:52:53.240what he had until you left him but you know luckily I can help you guys out have your post
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01:53:07.600women level up in their love lives or or god it's so easy or here you know what the real diet and
01:53:14.880fitness is going to be too hard for you ladies so i'm going to sell you some other like fitness
01:53:20.660class that's not too much i could sell fitness classes to help you get over your man
01:53:25.880you deserve the best here's the media with the guy that the girl that's average dating
01:53:33.240the guy out of her league boom i could be a billionaire but i chose to be honest what an l
01:53:41.800sorry guys okay okay um crazy kyle i go to the gym to be filmed being a straight
01:53:48.840asshole to these tick tock losers they have dollar bills they could join together tell the
01:53:55.400owners to stop that simp they could start their own gyms they could buy equipment for their homes
01:54:00.600but you got dane you got to think about this okay so let's say let's say the men get together and
01:54:06.760say we want our own gym it's gonna go freaking out of business because you know what would happen
01:54:11.160they would say this is the price for memberships and all the men would say f that i can work out
01:54:15.960at home then he can make it triple he can say like male gyms are like 20 bucks a month how much do
01:54:23.080you guys pay for your gym female they can charge 150 plus a pop so they say ladies 150 200 for a
01:54:33.640yoga session and then he can make you guys got to think about 80 percent of consumer buying
01:54:40.360decisions so you can make two dollars or you could make eight dollars what are they you're like
01:54:49.080Like, and then you're going to tell them, I know you have to pay a ridiculous amount for a gym
01:54:54.300because these women are driving up the prices. Sorry, Dane. I don't think the average, one,
01:55:01.540the average man doesn't have too much power. Two, the average man doesn't care that much. He's like,
01:55:05.920I don't care. I'm just going to go work out at home. That's too much work. You want him to
01:55:10.840organize a gym protest these men have jobs they're not women like they do things at work
01:55:20.440he doesn't have time to go oh let me just let me just organize a protest like we need a male
01:55:27.720only gym let me fight these gym owners the guys say you win i'm going home i'll get i'll get um
01:55:34.120I'll make a home gym I'll do some push-ups good enough Dane when these men get together crying
01:55:40.780about how these women are driving them out of their own gyms they sound like women they're not
01:55:45.100crying nobody on here was crying I didn't see anyone crying Dane can you can you let the men
01:55:52.880like talk about their problem they're not even Dane you're simping again we've talked about this
01:55:59.380problem with you we've talked about this i'm gonna have to call you again okay fazelle wants to know
01:56:06.660what my favorite gun is i've only gone shooting like twice i the one they gave me i don't shoot
01:56:12.260much i've just been because um we had a guy in town what happened to that vlog i just remembered
01:56:22.660a vlog i forgot about where did it go okay well p damian marketing is always directed to personal
01:56:32.420insecurities see y'all later work is calling i think i read all the chats i'll go to the next
01:56:38.180caller we got is it brighton it's very small in the corner are you good to be on camera
01:56:45.380yep so what is your thought on the topic um do you think that or how have video games affected
01:56:53.360your relationships um not very much honestly can you hear me yeah so it hasn't really been
01:57:01.840a problem for you no um honestly it's i just play like two hours a day after i'm done with
01:57:10.060all my crap you know and then you know she's in bed and that's about it nice yeah so it's all
01:57:22.460about balance and moderation really so you're pro video games you can have happy relationships
01:57:28.660with video if you balance it right yeah yeah what when do you think it's a problem like how many
01:57:36.080hours a day is like what would you if you had a friend and he said i played this much every day
01:57:42.340when would you say do what would you say the problem starts okay um
01:57:49.580when it interrupts what you have to do okay make sense yeah so when it's impacting your job or
01:58:01.180like taking care of your family or something yeah or even the relationship itself yes that's when it
01:58:07.820interrupts it like if you can do it in a healthy way go all out but if you can't
01:58:17.100better go back on it got it well thank you very much brighton i appreciate you calling in
01:58:26.140i appreciate you guys too doug says you don't follow the trends or per way hold on pearl
01:58:36.040calling these whiners to calling these whiners to suck it up and take care of their own lives
01:58:41.380ain't simping or white knighting i'm not protecting women or making excuses for them
01:58:47.160dane i'm talking about what happens in society the men they don't even fight it like the men
01:58:53.660are just like you want to ruin our video games keep them we'll go do something else they're like
01:58:59.700you want our gyms you can have it you want the children fine they do fight that but that's the
01:59:06.720men it's like the younger men aren't really fighting as like how do I put it the older men
01:59:12.620were sold a bill of goods right so the older men were lied to like they thought they were going to
01:59:18.460get one thing but the younger men are like no i've seen three of my aunts divorce
01:59:25.500i've seen that guy divorce the younger men are like i'm just not even going to date this is too
01:59:32.300much work or or you know they say yeah the younger men are wising up but they're not really
01:59:41.180complaining they just are like i'll go do something else all right women will set up
01:59:48.060camera all right doug says you don't follow the trends women will set cameras up in the gym
01:59:52.940they will try to record men and look at them and post the video and accuse the man of being a
01:59:56.540predator you got to go to the gym dane says one guy i worked with spent 20 hours a day playing
02:00:01.100video games online he had a wife and a child and they struggled financially that's enough time for
02:00:06.140a part-time job well he might have had a problem you know i don't think that's the norm though
02:00:13.100young men just don't let it become an obsession I think more than two to three hours a day as much
02:00:21.460Doug it's not men crying it's men acknowledging that the women are opportunists and trying to
02:00:26.720get clout on social media tell me everything you know about what I follow or don't follow
02:00:31.740stop casting men as victims and we built civilization you guys are arguing in the chat
02:00:37.760pro correct they don't even fight it we chopped down the wilderness and killed
02:00:42.460the wild beasts but the men can't even stand up to women okay but this is how it goes you have to
02:00:49.860think the guys have to look at the fight and think if they're gonna win okay let me you know my old
02:00:57.760gym in london was a perfect example of what happened my old gym so they had women they were
02:01:06.560bodybuilding gym and they had women you know um join it and it used to be an all-male gym it used
02:01:14.640to be all male they were perfectly happy and then the owner wanted to make more money so he let women
02:01:20.080in now if one guy starts fighting it there's going to be all these other guys fighting him
02:01:25.040to protect the women there it's too much work like it's just like he's not gonna win so pearl reed
02:01:33.600dane s-i-m-p-i-n-g stop simping you know dane is dane's not a normal simp but he has a little
02:01:41.440bit of synth in him i gotta sorry dane fizzle i bet my left nut that if men ended up in hell
02:01:48.400women would follow us out of jealousy oh that's so funny okay dane that's not the norm again two
02:01:58.240hours like the body counts triple that number and that'll be the real number 100 true they would
02:02:03.600follow men to hell and then try to kick them out but what's andrew tate's opinions on video games
02:02:08.480that's the opinion i'll form on them bennett you gotta think for yourself don't look at andrew or
02:02:12.960me you know don't look at anyone all right anyways next on the show we got daniel welcome to the show
02:02:20.000are you good to be on camera yeah i'm good to be on camera no problem there what's your thoughts
02:02:25.280on video games oh video games i i don't really have a huge issue with it i think the thing when
02:02:32.360women really complain about video games i think they're actually complaining about computer time
02:02:36.020and i don't think they really realize that like when a guy plays a video game he's actually just
02:02:42.100on discord or something else chatting up with his friends or he's sharing youtube videos or
02:02:47.460they're watching history channel stuff and so it's like i think they think that because you're in
02:02:52.660front of a computer you're just always playing a video game and it's like with what that other guy
02:02:58.180said earlier too like with mil sims like military sims and stuff like that yeah um that's that's a
02:03:03.560real way people bond like on on rising thunder rising storm whatever else it is or like uh
02:03:08.920arma or other things like that i don't play those as much and then there's also another comment that
02:03:14.100somebody made earlier in your stream which was like oh go play board games with your kids and
02:03:19.260it's like dude when my kids come up here they sit on my lap and i'll show them a 4x game and a 4x
02:03:24.080game is far more challenging and tactical and strategic than playing chess like and i play
02:03:30.600chess but it's like yeah it's like i can teach them that or at the same time i can show them
02:03:35.320history on on some of these maps or other things like that too historical uh events there's plenty
02:03:41.460of games that deal with that and so it's like these people think it's like uh it is an escapism
02:03:47.860Just like, you know, any hobby is, right? But it's not negative to the extent that people think it is unless you have an extreme addiction and you're neglecting specific other things.
02:04:00.760But the problem is I think women tend to believe that any attention that's not towards them is neglect, right?
02:04:10.620In extreme ways because of the social media addictions today, the self-love cults today, and a lot of other problems.
02:04:17.940And I think that really leads into a lot of the significant issues.
02:04:22.520But it's like, dude, no, my kids will come up here.
02:04:24.700I'll have them play games with me, you know.
02:04:26.620My wife, very early on when we had just gotten married, I mean, she was like, should I buy a computer to play with you?
02:04:33.640Because she was trying to, of course, spend time with me.
02:04:35.840And I was like, up to you, but I don't mind that, you know.
02:04:39.600And it's, it's, it's definitely something you can bond with and it's not just fucking, sorry, sorry for the language, but it's, it's not just mindless MMOs that people play all the time.
02:04:50.640A lot of it is strategic and tactical and, and historical and, and story driven and like things that make you have your mind think critically.
02:05:01.240And, you know, I still get up in the morning and I go to the gym and I still work out.
02:05:07.140And it's like it's just it's the solipsism today among women.
02:05:12.460And I think it goes to something you said earlier, which was that there really is nobody holding them accountable anymore for their solipsism and their kind of very egocentric mindset.
02:05:25.220And the problem is, is that children have egocentric mindsets.
02:05:28.540And so this egocentric solipsism is is childish at best.
02:05:33.020Like, that's the real childish behavior, thinking that you yourself deserve all the attention of the world and that there aren't more important things at stake, whether it's socially, whether it's culturally, or whether it's your own children.