Pearl - September 29, 2026


“Women Use ‘BOUNDARIES’ to Avoid ACCOUNTABILITY” @JustPearlyThings

Topics
therapy speak
“Women Wear REVEALING Clothes to the Gym for ATTENTION” @JustPearlyThings “Women Are Using THERAPY SPEAK to Control Men” @JustPearlyThings

Episode Stats


Length

2 minutes

Words per minute

151.38

Word count

328

Sentence count

24

Harmful content

Misogyny

1

sentences flagged

Hate speech

2

sentences flagged


Transcript

Transcript generated with Whisper (turbo).
Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .
Hate speech classifications generated with facebook/roberta-hate-speech-dynabench-r4-target .
Topics generated with Qwen2.5-3B-Instruct.
00:00:00 Here are some examples of therapy speak.
00:00:02 I'm not ghosting you.
00:00:03 I'm honoring my nervous system's need for safety.
00:00:07 Your feedback triggered my abandonment wound,
00:00:09 so I had to disengage to protect my inner child.
00:00:13 Notice what both of these do.
00:00:15 Both of these are attacks on you as a person.
00:00:19 But what do they also do?
00:00:21 They also excuse the poor, dare I say, unethical behavior of the person.
00:00:28 the actual person who's doing the gaslighting is a gas lighter the person accusing you of toxic
00:00:36 narcissistic abuse is in fact toxically no and that's the thing and that's the problem is the
00:00:42 person that the chill person that has no drama never is the one bitching so you know it's always 0.80
00:00:52 the the one complaining all the time about everyone that's the real problem abusing you 1.00
00:00:57 verbally. Every accusation is projection with a manipulator. Every insult is a confession.
00:01:07 We're turning to some examples here. I can't hold space for that conversation right now.
00:01:11 It's too heavy for my mental load to bear. Oh dear. We're not incompatible. We have different
00:01:16 attachment styles that aren't aligned. Oh, it's so good. These are weapons of mass verbal
00:01:21 destruction it's not a lie it's a trauma response i haven't processed yet i need to work on my it's
00:01:28 not a lie it's not a transit trauma response i haven't processed people pleasing before i can
00:01:34 show up authentically bonus if you say i need to do the work there's a netbook by what nicole
00:01:40 para called the work something like that that is one of the books that popularized therapy speak
00:01:45 by the way. You might recall that meme, I believe it's from The Simpsons, where the individual is
00:01:53 looking downcast, thinking, is this the problem? Could I be the problem? No, it's literally everyone
00:01:59 but me. Therapy speak results in an accountability-free zone. It's a complete ejection of
00:02:05 and therefore rejection of responsibility in any relationship.