Pearl - You’re Not Out of His League, You’re Just Out of Shape

00:00:00.000 got a gluck gluck 9 000 like 45 bajillion because that is her only shot well they say they give the 0.62

00:00:07.600 best yeah yeah i guess because they're hungry all right what up guys uh welcome to the extended pearl

00:00:14.560 daily where today we're going to be reacting i'm going to show you some girls on tick tock 0.99

00:00:20.000 okay so you got this lady right here 1.00

00:00:23.040 and then we're gonna i want to get your thoughts do you spend a lot of time on tick tock no because

00:00:31.680 they study sorry go ahead no my new study that page but they would always take my videos down

00:00:38.560 yeah i know that's why i thought they they kick off the conservative women it's like 1.00

00:00:43.840 so all the liberal women just get to go now says one in three women have a backup guy yeah a whole 1.00

00:00:51.120 man just sitting on standby in case her current relationship doesn't work out and it's usually

00:00:57.680 not some random dude either it's an ex she still talks to a friend who flirts a little too much or

00:01:05.120 a guy who's always made it clear if she's ever single he'll be first in line meanwhile her man 0.82

00:01:12.320 thinks they are solid he's showing up staying faithful trying to build something real and she's

00:01:19.520 got a safety net just in case he stumbles that's not harmless that's not smart that's not love it's

00:01:27.840 emotional insurance and someone always ends up paying for it let's be honest if roles were reversed

00:01:36.160 and he had someone waiting in the background wouldn't that feel like betrayal even if nothing physical

00:01:43.360 ever happened because the truth is if you are halfway out the door when telling someone you are

00:01:49.760 all in you are not loving them you're just keeping them close until something better comes along let's

00:01:57.440 do better be the kind of person who doesn't need a backup because they know how to show up for the one

00:02:05.040 they chose what do you think about so i think there's some truth to what she was saying there are

00:02:11.840 some things that i feel like may be a little bit off um and i would just say for myself personally i do

00:02:19.840 think that there are men that they don't have to say anything we don't have to keep in touch i just feel

00:02:26.720 like whether i'm i could be 65 they'll they'll say hey you're single yeah yeah you can come and be with

00:02:34.880 me um so i don't know i feel like she presented it as if there's some constant communication and it

00:02:41.120 doesn't always have to be that way though i do understand that's that way for someone i think a

00:02:45.680 lot of women would go crazy though if men constantly had female i know some men do but it's not common where 1.00

00:02:51.760 they can have female friends that are just ready to go yeah um women would go crazy and so i don't 1.00

00:02:58.720 think it's good to have people in your life that are just sitting waiting yeah yeah i don't have

00:03:04.320 those type of male friends but i do know that there are men even in my past that would say oh i heard

00:03:12.480 you were single you know if that was the case yeah yeah okay let's go in the corner 0.94

00:03:21.760 uh-oh 45 soon to be 46 year old single mom by choice had a baby with a donor different story 0.67

00:03:29.440 video um who's also recently lost this is my white woman fatigue okay i know there's black women 0.98

00:03:36.800 fatigue but i do have white woman fatigue because i don't really see black you know if black women 1.00

00:03:42.400 want to be single mothers they go for it they go find they go find that they go find the irresponsible 0.99

00:03:51.040 guy that doesn't want to be a dad right and they go find him they go get pregnant yeah we can't just 0.99

00:03:56.480 do it with our chest we got to go to a sperm donor spend all this money just let him shoot up okay you

00:04:02.880 can find one yeah sorry but yeah so i just i i know a woman that did this and she had like twit single 1.00

00:04:12.560 mother by choice twins yeah and i'm like yeah i never think it's really by choice though i feel like

00:04:18.400 maybe somebody just didn't want her who she wanted didn't want her yeah yeah well now out of the

00:04:24.720 choices she has she's choosing single motherhood 86 pounds in the last two years with olympic different

00:04:31.680 story different video um and is out there really trying to find a great partner um because let me tell

00:04:40.400 you the struggle is real and it is not easy and it's probably not why you think i mean it's a

00:04:48.320 combination of things certainly i don't think it's because i'm a single mom i mean i would certainly say

00:04:53.440 that most men in my age group their children are older so i can see how starting to date someone who

00:05:00.720 is a two and a half year old might not be the most appealing thing actually i have a question on that so

00:05:06.160 how old were your kids when you started dating again um let's see my youngest was seven when i got

00:05:17.280 divorced um so yeah did you notice a difference when your kids were older like indeed yeah because

00:05:26.080 my thought is once the kids are like 16 men don't care as much about about you having kids did you find

00:05:32.080 that to be true yeah i definitely think there's a difference and then also again i was telling you

00:05:38.400 earlier how he was just so present in our lives i could never really get to a serious relationship

00:05:45.440 because no man wants the old man sitting at the house eating dinner yeah so yeah because she's saying

00:05:55.920 it's not because of the kids but but young kids are so like from what i've spoken to men it's like

00:06:03.520 one thing when they're teenagers and they're kind of out of the house they're not and they're good kids

00:06:08.320 they're not as they're not around as much but like a two-year-old a two-year-old you know and if he has

00:06:15.440 older kids he doesn't really want to deal with it you know again it's the right guy it's all gonna work

00:06:22.320 out it's fine um you know but i think with all these apps and everything what happens is i get

00:06:28.720 aged out you know for me personally this is just how i feel i want to date someone my age so i want

00:06:35.200 to date someone within five years of me ideally between 45 and 50. i could go a little younger oh no

00:06:43.440 you want a 45 no 45 and 50 they're done with i'm thinking of my dad babies and my dad's my dad we had

00:06:50.640 10 kids obviously he likes kids but he's married but i was thinking if he were to ever be single

00:06:56.480 again he would oh no and a woman had a little kid he's done with kids yeah at that age they're

00:07:04.960 no they're done yeah it's time for grandparent when you got to you get to love them and send

00:07:09.840 them home yeah not when they're under the same roof no i'm not really in too much older men and i know

00:07:16.800 you could say well you're gonna have to go younger and find a guy that doesn't know better that's what

00:07:20.560 i tell her i tell her it's time to go for those 25 year old men that don't really i i would recommend

00:07:27.280 just being alone and raising your kids that's but if we're gonna go strategy here i don't think the

00:07:34.080 older men are gonna fall for that baby's too young yeah and she's gonna have to have someone who also has 1.00

00:07:40.320 a child that young yeah yeah oh that's a good that's a good option yeah you know someone who's

00:07:46.400 52 55 that's not really that much older and that's true but i don't know they a lot of these men that

00:07:52.640 got so drunk to me they look like my dad and i don't really want to be dating my dad you look like 0.99

00:07:57.120 they're okay come on i don't think she's looked in the mirror lately yeah you don't yeah and because i am

00:08:06.320 a confident and secure woman i can say that i think i'm aging and i think i look really good

00:08:13.680 but i feel yeah that's i don't think she looks bad yeah she just looks her age there's this idea

00:08:20.400 that's why i always say okay i'm fine being my age yeah yeah but some women are their choices to die 1.00

00:08:30.560 so yeah what else are you gonna do i'm compelled to have to like lie on these acts and say that i'm 40

00:08:37.120 so that i fit into you know the the search criteria of men my age and yes i do disclose that i am

00:08:44.320 actually 45 but for a long time i resisted doing that because i didn't want to lie and i didn't want

00:08:51.680 any introduction or entry point into a relationship with somebody to be based on a lie and then i decided

00:08:58.880 to get over it because i just wasn't being served up men that i felt i would be willing to go out with

00:09:05.920 so the minute i tweaked that i will say the men and the apps that were served up to me have certainly

00:09:11.440 changed yeah but then you get pumped and dumped because you know that's and you have to do a video

00:09:17.120 begging yeah because she's saying that she's confident if you were that confident i just feel

00:09:22.400 like you could go to the grocery store and you don't have to be on the app i had a friend that i would

00:09:28.000 say she was a nine back back in the day people have no idea how if you were a nine you would know

00:09:36.080 because she would get free concerts celebrities or messages i'm like she didn't have to work she 1.00

00:09:43.840 literally did not have to work donor and this is what nobody tells you it can feel incredibly

00:09:50.240 impactful i had my second child this is single mom by choice using a donor and this is what nobody

00:09:55.360 tells you it can feel incredibly empowering to embark on this journey independently much more

00:10:00.320 so than people sometimes realize it's also possible that you might feel grief and overjoyed all

00:10:06.160 simultaneously grief for the life that you imagined that you were going to be living and joy for what

00:10:11.280 you're actually creating just go find a guy out of your league and be a single mother i mean 1.00

00:10:18.000 look i'm not i don't want to advocate for that because obviously that's the wrong thing to do

00:10:22.240 but i i just think ivf you might as well just go be a single mom like i just say go go for what you 1.00

00:10:29.440 want obviously like don't do that does that make sense it's the wrong thing to do but i would i just

00:10:36.080 i think it's i'd rather her go and just be a single mom to some dude out of her league and be a side piece 1.00

00:10:42.400 forever right then you're opening me to a league league i didn't know existed what just these women 1.00

00:10:48.800 voluntarily oh yeah this is wanting to be a single mom this is yeah this is uh now i'm gonna have

00:10:56.800 yeah yeah this is there's like white people things and black people things and this is just the white

00:11:02.960 i see white women sometimes asian women this is the route we go i think it's it's a lot of marketing

00:11:09.440 women what i've noticed because it's very expensive to do it right so it's a lot of the women that go 1.00

00:11:13.920 the corporate america route yes yes just and last and most importantly your child can thrive in a

00:11:20.960 single mom environment they can feel loved and secured you've got this lead with your heart 1.00

00:11:31.440 so they're all stupid it is just a woman thing yeah he's right i mean because men don't get 0.99

00:11:38.240 surrogates oh god let me put us in the corner let's see what she is point i haven't been on a date 1.00

00:11:46.800 i'm so ready to find my husband being single now for like over two years even more actually at this

00:11:54.800 point i haven't been on a date i haven't had a hook up like any interaction with a man for like over two

00:12:00.480 years apart from the work that i do but that doesn't count because that's not like personal i might go to

00:12:06.000 download oh she's a hooker she's a only fan look i'm like what kind of work does she do i'm guessing 0.99

00:12:13.520 there's a link yeah okay we'll keep going the dating apps i get very overwhelmed like after a day and end 0.97

00:12:22.720 up like just deleting the app again i'm gonna treat it like a job and literally going through the apps is

00:12:30.240 like having a part-time job it does consume did you meet your boyfriend on the apps no i think that

00:12:37.680 i'm pro apps actually i think just because that's um it's the age thing it's the generation yeah yeah

00:12:48.720 a lot of like energy and time i'm not worried about my future husband seeing this because my future

00:12:55.360 husband is definitely not on this app he is like working hard on his business he is not

00:13:08.400 there's such a big power in shutting up okay on social media at all my man to be very down to earth

00:13:17.520 completely obsessed with only me most likely a tradie like a mechanic a plumber an electrician

00:13:24.560 something like that and he runs his own business and yeah he works really hard to provide for the

00:13:30.800 family we're gonna have very happy and he's gonna like balance out my neuroses a little bit so he's

00:13:37.040 gonna be like a diffuser whereas i am an escalator sometimes like greek or italian i don't know

00:13:43.440 probably greek italians are like you know too high strung gonna let me have my silly little business 0.94

00:13:48.720 that doesn't make much money but feels like i'm doing something and i'm gonna give him a really 0.97

00:13:54.800 nice home the biggest problem over the years is i keep going for aussie white guys who just won't

00:14:00.720 commit this is like the longest i've ever been single well because she is in her age so i think

00:14:06.000 she's in her 20s and when you're in your 20s as a woman you're kind of automatically a six it just

00:14:12.160 you but she looks overweight so in her age bracket she's gonna probably be a four for her age i would 1.00

00:14:19.200 tell her to go older and you got an only fans you got to get a divorced guy who just doesn't care 1.00

00:14:26.160 anymore and just want someone young and fresh and yeah who would you tell her to go for what race would 1.00

00:14:33.600 you tell her what you tell her to go to get black and i really had to evaluate like what i actually

00:14:48.800 want instead of like what i was attracted to i know what some of you are like a black divorced guy

00:14:55.120 i think would be good unless she wants kids then yeah then maybe not but no they'll still do it 1.00

00:15:02.880 let's say about me like leaving it very late because i'm 38 years old and also for what i do

00:15:08.960 oh okay i thought she was super 38. am i crazy i thought she was in her 20s did you think i could 0.96

00:15:14.560 have thought well i thought she was like you know why i thought she was in her 20s because sometimes 0.97

00:15:20.160 no offense white women look older yeah yeah no we do so yeah it was a job but seriously my new husband

00:15:28.240 is not gonna care i've also never had trouble getting a man it's just more that the last two

00:15:33.920 years i have literally done everything i can to avoid looking for a relationship i'm gonna download

00:15:39.920 all the apps i'm gonna download bumble hinge and tinder and try them all and i'm gonna treat it like a job

00:15:46.480 i don't believe that that she'll treat it like a job no i don't believe that um she's been doing 0.99

00:15:55.360 everything to avoid a relationship you've still been getting banged i'm sure yeah you know like

00:16:01.600 like yeah she's been getting passed yeah oh no don't

00:16:10.880 don't you're gonna make me be mean oh man oh god

00:16:19.120 i'm getting ready but yeah i'm gonna go find a husband ready with me to go find a husband i'm gonna

00:16:23.680 play a little music while i'm getting ready but yeah i'm gonna go find a husband today i might not be

00:16:28.160 successful but we're gonna try i'm also trying to figure out where i'm gonna find a husband where

00:16:33.360 would you tell her to go

00:16:40.320 all right do you think an unemployed black guy would he do it 0.87

00:16:44.800 unemployed yes if she has her own place and he um he needs a place to stay he's homeless 0.97

00:16:52.480 he needs a car he needs food yes a successful black man she's not gonna get that yeah i'm thinking 1.00

00:17:00.880 if she goes white you gotta go for the destiny looking white guys 0.99

00:17:06.800 you don't know who destiny is okay is that like a crack a meth head he actually gets hot women um 1.00

00:17:12.400 because he's a streamer but his look i think would be pretty wait destiny streamer pretty good for her to

00:17:19.600 go for because there's some that are just like this kind of look like the liberal like there's some

00:17:25.920 you ever seen the like um theater relationships yeah like this guy ah yes yes

00:17:38.080 yeah like if you ever see my 600 pound life um let's see sometimes those guys i think let's see

00:17:44.480 let's see what type of guy she could get i'm never gonna say she won't find anybody because there's 0.95

00:17:50.000 always a man who will yeah there's somebody for everybody for sure i don't think that per se but

00:17:56.160 there's always a guy that'll put up with it um yeah life couples let's see the couples back in 2023

00:18:06.240 i was put on a government watch list for speaking out about men's issues the government spent who knows

00:18:11.600 how much money trying to shut me up and honestly to some extent it worked i was demonetized on youtube

00:18:17.600 i had three instagram accounts that deleted seven tick tocks accounts wiped out and i was forced to

00:18:22.800 delete three years worth of work videos interviews everything the more honest i was the harder i was

00:18:28.400 punished and eventually i had to shut down my show move back home and completely start over but i'm not

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00:19:01.600 picture why don't we have true free speech in america anymore welcome to the female economy where women 1.00

00:19:07.920 make 80 percent of consumer buying decisions have you ever wondered why women always seem to get 1.00

00:19:13.040 their way well here's the truth men tend to care about the free flow of ideas men can separate an

00:19:20.320 idea from the person who said it but women on the other hand have learned that they can control 1.00

00:19:25.200 what gets said by controlling what gets funded platforms like youtube have one goal they want to make

00:19:30.560 money and if that means catering to the majority female audience they will that's why being a conservative

00:19:36.320 creator today feels impossible this isn't just about me it's about the future of online speech

00:19:41.760 with the audacity network me and my community will never have to worry about being silenced again

00:19:47.440 or maybe someone as fat as she is oh here we go yeah there this type of guy yeah as bad as she is yeah 1.00

00:19:55.520 this guy um

00:19:56.880 this guy won't do it i think he wouldn't go that route like this guy he's actually decent looking

00:20:06.720 is the sad part he looks a little feminine though yeah but just comparison you know all right let's

00:20:12.960 let's go back to our our lady over here i would go to like a home depot or something but i don't

00:20:19.520 want to go to home depot and i don't need anything all right we're going to use this primer it's the smashbox photo finish primer

00:20:26.320 every time i use this primer or every time i see it i'm reminded you used to be eating like 4 000

00:20:31.040 calories a day absolutely yeah that is absolutely and she's wearing a wig i don't know if you can 1.00

00:20:36.160 tell that i can't yeah she's wearing a wig that's not i mean she's like bald or like possibly possibly 1.00

00:20:42.320 yeah when i was in college i obviously didn't have any money like i was a broke college student me and

00:20:48.640 my friend jasmine would walk to the mall and i would get i don't think you're walking okay nowhere

00:20:54.320 she's not walking anywhere now every single time and i think if i remember correctly one time they

00:21:01.840 like denied me they denied me a sample and so i stopped going to the sephora and i started going

00:21:09.280 like to the macy's department counter because those people didn't know me and i would get samples from them

00:21:14.800 all right i'm gonna do my eyebrows the same way i always do i use this nasty jaclyn hill palette i

00:21:19.680 saw a couple comments on some videos asking where like my dating content is y'all these men i don't

00:21:28.560 know what's happening i don't know how you can let me just say this point out that she spends money on 1.00

00:21:37.360 her wig she spends money on her nails but clearly she does not spend any money on a gym membership 1.00

00:21:43.680 yeah yeah that's that always aggravates me and i when i was heavier i actually didn't work out at

00:21:53.120 all to lose weight because i wanted to spend more time focusing on you don't even need to work out

00:21:57.840 yeah you just right 10 000 steps you don't even need a gym membership you don't have to think about

00:22:02.800 all that you can 10 000 steps 1200 calories a day when you're cutting yeah 15 16 if you're a little

00:22:10.960 taller and say no to somebody baking bread that's true i like bread

00:22:20.240 do you know what i found it was more the sugar drinks than anything like

00:22:25.200 because those can be three four hundred calories yeah those can be bad yeah

00:22:28.720 so i'm trying to think other than home depot or like lowe's i'm thinking maybe dick sporting goods

00:22:36.640 it's like at least in there i could probably find something to buy or like pretend to buy

00:22:41.760 i think we know what foundation i'm about to use today and like i've also been talking to a new guy

00:22:46.480 but he doesn't live here he lives all the way in illinois again i'm always meeting men who don't

00:22:51.360 live in atlanta so i be getting lonely yeah they don't have to look at you just send them money

00:22:59.520 i know that i know fat women that do that um one fat woman in particular she had this relationship 1.00

00:23:06.800 and she was always taking care of the man and they they planned a wedding and everything

00:23:11.920 he didn't show up i'm tell like the place was decorated nicely family there friends there he did

00:23:22.880 not show up all right a little juvia's place for blush okay then i'm gonna go in with this little

00:23:30.960 bitty two-faced fruitcake palette i'm gonna add a little bit of like white you saw she put those 0.98

00:23:36.880 lashes on and everything this is like sorcery holy on the inner parts just to open the eye up a little

00:23:46.640 bit i'm gonna go in with this one from julia's place it's a nice brown she almost looks asian though

00:23:53.840 yeah make those eyes very slanted i feel like i need a gloss i look good for my husband y'all when

00:24:03.200 he sees me he's gonna be like she's got to be trolling she's serious she is loud okay y'all i

00:24:12.400 i stopped at chick-fil-a because i need like a little sweet little treat a little drink and i know they 0.85

00:24:17.200 have that new of course you got the drink i swear most of the time when women are fat it's because of 1.00

00:24:25.440 the sugary drinks like that's i wouldn't if i would see this is what i'm saying you cannot correct and

00:24:32.960 redirect uh women because why would you even at that size put out there that you stopped at chick-fil-a

00:24:39.920 like you could have left that part out of the video little flavored drink i want to see if i can get it

00:24:45.200 like frosted i got my little drink which i've drunk most of this by now it ended up being a cherry berry

00:24:52.720 frosted lemonade we're gonna go in i think my goal is to like if i see a guy that i think is cute to

00:25:00.880 like maybe say something i don't know what i would say but like if they're looking at something they're

00:25:06.560 like oh is that a good one hey where are your fishing poles

00:25:27.280 they don't sell fishing poles in here there's like no one in here she's going for white guys 1.00

00:25:36.160 she's going for the fishing poles she's going for black guys they'd be like the basketball shoes 1.00

00:25:41.040 department yeah you got a asian guy where would i go to meet an asian guy starbucks i don't know 0.99

00:25:50.720 i don't know barnes and barnes and noble if they read hey dick's sporting goods was low-key a bust

00:26:04.000 yeah this is why i think in the future like people just aren't out the way they used to be 0.90

00:26:10.720 i would i mean i would tell her to lose weight but you got a dating app route especially being that fat 1.00

00:26:16.880 your pool is going to be so small men have fetishes though don't they do they say i'm looking for a 0.99

00:26:23.200 fat girl i'm sure she'll get past a little bit but one will bound to stick around it's just you know 1.00

00:26:29.840 yeah for her she's if she can be pleasant enough um someone will do it yeah so that's 0.97

00:26:37.360 don't try that waiting thing though no guys waiting for sex okay

00:26:40.640 okay 90 days she's gonna wait no no no she's got to give that out for free 0.66

00:26:48.160 and she's got a gluck gluck 9 000 like 45 bajillion because that is her only shot 0.98

00:26:54.720 well they say they give the best yeah yeah i guess because they're hungry

00:27:03.520 oh that's funny okay let's see the next one all right the next woman ready to find her husband 0.97

00:27:09.920 share this tab instead five with the help of my vision board and chat gpt starting with my vision

00:27:15.280 board i did put a man on my vision board in 2024 though i plan to find okay so she looks around i

00:27:21.920 would put 30 to 35 age bracket i'm guessing what do you think yeah yeah yeah i'm gonna go 39. oh you

00:27:33.360 think 39 okay i would say 40. do you know what these filters throw me off yeah yeah because that's

00:27:39.040 the yeah let's say let's say 35 um she looks overweight so she's gonna be a four i would say 1.00

00:27:46.640 yeah she's definitely not that attractive yeah um i would put her at a four and but the problem

00:27:53.440 with four is is they're going to get to sleep with sixes to sevens and men and that just keeps

00:27:58.320 some perpetually single single because then they start to think they deserve that but you're just

00:28:04.320 like a slow tuesday you know like because guys most guys would do this on a slow tuesday all right gpt

00:28:10.080 starting with my vision board i did put a man on my vision board in 2024 but i didn't find it but it's

00:28:14.960 okay particularly i put a man on here again a few times i'm actually going to show you my vision board

00:28:20.000 in another video do black women have vision boards you guys do that yeah i'll just tell you how chat gpt

00:28:27.840 is going to help me find my husband basically for years i've had a list of all of the things

00:28:33.360 all of the traits characteristics the everything that i want i hope it's a short list because you

00:28:39.920 can't ask for a lot what do you think what's it's gonna be long because she's been she's banging his 1.00

00:28:45.520 friends yeah his friends got a lot going on for on for themselves you know realistic i think it's

00:28:53.840 going to be unrealistic in my ideal man it's good to do that even if you don't do what i'm about to

00:28:58.720 say next i took my list and i said to chat gpt i said if i want a man who has all of the qualities

00:29:04.080 below what type of woman do you think he would want so i put them all in and then chat gpt says

00:29:09.920 all of these traits that this man's ideal woman would have okay some of them i'm good some of them

00:29:16.240 i'm good some of them i could probably work on and then i said okay period based on these qualities

00:29:20.880 what would the daily activities or schedule be of this woman i get a whole schedule 1.00

00:29:26.480 yep i got a whole schedule girl go to the gym download hinge yeah that's it she definitely needs 1.00

00:29:33.360 to get in the gym yeah i kind of feel bad this makes me feel a little bit sad um would i recommend

00:29:42.160 any plastic surgery to this woman yeah i'm not i know a bang the bangs would be good oh some long 1.00

00:29:49.920 bangs and maybe like pull her hair towards her face so that she can't see her fat her cheeks yeah 1.00

00:29:55.520 well she's fat that's um she should just lose weight between the wake up the workouts the breakfast 1.00

00:30:03.040 the work everything so this is what i'm gonna do i'm gonna follow this schedule until i find my

00:30:09.280 husband and i'm gonna refer this is the most um this one actually isn't isn't how i put it

00:30:17.680 this is better than the other ones we watched i think she's at least trying to do something yeah

00:30:22.640 she didn't tell us what that list was so i want to know what type of man so we could just say girl

00:30:29.840 that's not happening yeah back to my list often to make sure that i'm not veering from the list i will

00:30:37.760 let you know how it goes i mean i don't know though she has this vision board she might manifest this

00:30:44.320 you know maybe i met my husband in three days believe it or no no she's got a she's got a here's

00:30:52.400 one she met him in three days we can watch that one actually that was up next year

00:30:58.960 no i went on muz a marriage app which i did not ever imagine my i can always tell when women are

00:31:05.120 are serious about finding someone it's when the ego is gone yeah they're like i will go on a date

00:31:11.920 every single day i do you know what i mean it's just a different when women think they're above dating 1.00

00:31:17.120 apps i think generally um if they're especially if they're not overly attractive it's like they're

00:31:24.880 not going to approach you are you going to approach them no okay what are you going to do right yeah

00:31:31.280 i was like no way i would ever do it my friend convinced me she said it's a really good app i

00:31:34.400 was like okay fine i got on day one i was like oh my god i'm not doing this day two my husband had

00:31:38.960 messaged me day three i got off the app alhamdulillah my family knew fast forward four years we are

00:31:43.360 married we have a kid together the app has really good features for you to find the right person

00:31:48.640 don't get discouraged if you don't find somebody right away i know i got lucky not everyone had

00:31:52.800 dating coaches on here they say it takes 15 dates usually on average for people to find really on a

00:31:58.160 dating app yeah because they they work with people and they said on average it's 15 dates

00:32:03.840 15 days yeah that's a lot yeah i know yeah you got to really put yourself out there because dating

00:32:09.360 apps are a numbers game i think if it's in person or you meet through social circle it's probably less

00:32:15.120 right but like for what i've seen like people go on a lot of first dates off the dating apps not a lot

00:32:21.040 of second or third uh i do know two people that met on match.com and they've been married like over 20

00:32:28.000 years yeah well it usually allows women to date a little bit more out of their league 1.00

00:32:33.040 because there's just not that many women on the apps so it's and it gives them access to men 1.00

00:32:40.560 like out of the area too so if a guy's in a place with ugly women but he's good looking no it's good 1.00

00:32:47.360 that is good though it opens up your choices yeah yeah for i think it favors for women that's why 1.00

00:32:54.240 the the downside is you do run a higher risk of getting pumped and dumped obviously yeah because

00:33:01.280 uh the guys that are running through the apps they're running i have a friend he goes through

00:33:06.320 100 women a year yeah and i've seen his messages yeah he said he's a pua so it's like they they do 0.97

00:33:12.160 this they they basically yeah so pua is like they study dating women pretty much so he's just like a

00:33:21.280 professional womanizer and he teaches men that are kind of awkward how to do it so that's how he makes money

00:33:28.320 so for 10 years he approached women in person he did the act like this guy it's very interesting

00:33:33.840 talking to these guys because they've just been like through so a guy like that he's going through

00:33:39.360 100 women a year you know if you get on a date with him you're gonna fall for everything so there 0.99

00:33:47.280 are more like predators and stuff on the apps um not that i think he's a predator because a lot of the

00:33:53.040 women want the casual sex too but you know what i mean yeah a lot of guys that'll have like a leg up 1.00

00:33:58.720 on you but there's also nice guys there so she might be the best looking one we've seen okay let's see 0.95

00:34:07.040 actually had like a couple hours i graduated with approximately 500 000 worth of student loan

00:34:12.480 debt what in the world did she major in i don't know debt these are my thoughts pre-med pre-med maybe

00:34:22.800 on the skyrocketing monthly payments i was in school we actually had like a couple hour seminar

00:34:28.480 on student loan debt the challenge you get with women is we don't like doing the job but we like 1.00

00:34:33.680 the title and the prestige so most of the doc i'm assuming she's a doctor or something like that

00:34:39.680 she kind of looks like a dermatologist or something that's my guess um they quit within 10 years 0.98

00:34:47.120 usually yeah where men will stick it out and pay off the debt and make a lot of money but 1.00

00:34:52.560 how you can go around repaying it could either be through working for a non-profit where you make way

00:34:59.760 less money but at the time they had promised that the loans would be forgiven after 10 years the other

00:35:05.840 way was to do income based repayment and during the seminar at my school i raised a lot of concern

00:35:13.040 i told people around me and i also asked the professors like hey the administration changes

00:35:18.960 every four years how are you guaranteeing that this works for people in the future and honestly 0.91

00:35:24.880 i did not believe you were aware of how stupid the decision was you can't say you didn't know 0.91

00:35:29.840 i really knew leave it at all i was very lucky that i was one of the few that was not duped 0.98

00:35:35.920 but with that much student loan i knew i needed an action plan i decided to just do my own plan and so

00:35:42.960 i decided to move to a state that had no state income tax and i worked my butt off so i would work

00:35:50.000 around 12 to 16 hours five days a week and then on the weekends i would go and substitute into other

00:35:57.040 clinics and work there yeah i guess doctor so essentially i was working six to seven days a

00:36:04.080 week most weeks the first couple years that i graduated and this is not ideal for everybody

00:36:10.240 but notice she's complaining about it she's clearly had botox done like you can tell her forehead doesn't 1.00

00:36:15.520 it doesn't move at all no wrinkle when she raises her eyebrows it's just yeah yeah but in my mind i had a 0.83

00:36:23.360 hair is colored a burdensome amount of debt that i knew i had to repay nails and so i worked my butt

00:36:33.920 off to get a lot of that paid down in the first two years alone i had no work-life balance it was

00:36:40.640 actually very stressful and very horrible but in my mind she paid it off i think and i had taken out

00:36:47.200 these student loans and so i needed to repay them and i didn't feel comfortable or confident relying

00:36:53.520 on the government or anybody else to like save me from my own student loans a lot of people are

00:37:01.120 coerced into taking out high student loans without really understanding the implications of it

00:37:06.720 and that's something that needs to be addressed okay i i was about to say she sounded so responsible

00:37:13.360 until she said you're coerced into it right women are too like we're too lazy to do the work of 1.00

00:37:19.680 understanding the contract and so then we get mad that we take a bad contract but we're too lazy to

00:37:25.200 like think it now grok will do it for you you can use chat gpt thank goodness institutions also need to

00:37:32.720 be held no yeah i know because it's women want to go to college they want to party we want to like you 0.99

00:37:39.440 know have fun so more accountable like there is no reason why a school should be charging hundreds

00:37:45.600 of thousands of dollars to get through and start your career well they keep charging it because we

00:37:52.080 pay it so when i want to see if she's a dermatologist stay at home mom oh yeah i did see a ring when we saw 0.99

00:38:01.280 the um nails she's attractive enough to be yeah she's pretty i'd put her at uh and she's staying in 1.00

00:38:09.040 shape after having a child yeah she seems like a former eight plus now like strong six seven but 0.81

00:38:15.760 i bet back in the day she's really attractive yeah marrying wealthy oh okay so she got a guy that paid 1.00

00:38:22.160 off right smart the best way to do it so what did you think of the modern people on the internet what

00:38:29.520 did you think gosh i think you have your work cut out for you yeah yeah i'll be employed forever so will

00:38:36.640 you yeah i mean goodness it made me though feel like i'm just a little bit out of touch because

00:38:44.400 seeing those videos i'm like oh it's women across the board oh yeah everyone yeah i feel a bit out of

00:38:52.640 touch um but that's why i have you yeah i'm the whole connoisseur right well thanks for coming on i

00:39:01.920 appreciate it thank you for having can you can you tell them where they can find you um if they go to

00:39:09.280 shanikamichelle.com find me there they can find me anywhere all right yeah cool all right thanks for

00:39:15.040 watching guys and we'll see you next time bye bye

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Pearl - October 18, 2025

You’re Not Out of His League, You’re Just Out of Shape

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