REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 1031. Q&AF Ft. Tim Grover： Avoiding Discomfort, Staying Motivated After Big Wins & Becoming Your Best Self

00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy priscilla and you are listening to the show for the realist say goodbye 0.98

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00:02:50.920 all right what's up dude good morgan yeah what's going on good morgan huh yes get something somebody

00:02:59.440 morgan's good yeah cool what's going on bro nothing dude yeah i'm um you're looking a little

00:03:04.840 beat over there dude i'm exhausted yeah yeah did the murph today you did dude i was literally 0.92

00:03:11.360 writing up a caption for uh my ig post i that is something that i've avoided for six fucking years 0.94

00:03:16.780 yeah and they got done today yeah you know and now are you going to do it again next year oh 0.87

00:03:22.900 yeah it's one it's a once a year i mean listen we're gonna prep for it you know i'm gonna beat

00:03:26.880 my my time that's my standard and it will get beat next year well speaking of the book on mental

00:03:31.580 toughness we have mr tim grover here with us who uh wrote the forward for the book i couldn't think

00:03:36.780 of anybody better to write it i got some good ones for both of you oh you got some really really 0.99

00:03:41.440 good ones get ahead of yourself yeah let's get back to you looking like you just got your ass 1.00

00:03:49.420 beat yeah yeah i did yeah i did i beat my own ass yeah yeah it's better than beating your own 0.99

00:03:54.700 meat huh well i don't know about i mean it feels good though man you know i'm sore uh feels good 0.99

00:04:02.840 you're already sore bro listen i was sore when i had to run that second mile like i was already

00:04:07.840 i'm like all right you know but uh but no dude i'm you want to explain to the audience what

00:04:12.900 actually you did that they know what the murph is yeah what the murph is yeah it's a memorial day

00:04:17.640 uh challenge uh in honor of michael murphy murphy lieutenant michael murphy uh you start off with a

00:04:24.200 mile run uh then it's 100 pull-ups 200 push-ups and then 300 air squats and then another one mile

00:04:33.240 run um and you can do it weighted i think that's like what's recommended i did a i think i use

00:04:38.600 wheels so i think it's like a 20 pound did you do it in that succession or did you do little

00:04:44.080 rotations no i did rotations i broke it up so i did my mile first and then i did 20 rounds basically

00:04:49.820 of five pull-ups uh 10 push-ups and then 15 air squats yeah i did 20 of those right now i know

00:04:55.400 you didn't do clean pull-ups no absolutely not no i mean it was assisted scaled it out yeah just

00:04:59.780 No, that's all right.

00:05:01.120 But, you know.

00:05:01.600 I was just curious.

00:05:02.420 Pull-ups are hard.

00:05:03.020 Listen, dude.

00:05:04.460 That's like, I mean, that's a goal.

00:05:06.340 Listen, bro.

00:05:07.200 I'm a fellow fat dude.

00:05:08.320 I know what pull-ups are all about.

00:05:09.780 It's like when you're in grade school and they put you up on the pull-up bar and you

00:05:12.580 just hang there.

00:05:13.240 That's right.

00:05:13.780 That's right.

00:05:14.200 That's right.

00:05:14.620 Like, that's what it's like.

00:05:15.600 And then you're like, all right.

00:05:16.620 You kind of like, and then you get off.

00:05:18.520 Yeah.

00:05:18.920 No, but the stage has been set.

00:05:20.580 Then your shirt is off and everybody can see the stuff.

00:05:22.700 Oh, yeah.

00:05:23.020 It's the worst.

00:05:23.060 We've all been there, all three of us.

00:05:24.440 Yeah.

00:05:24.620 it's the worst bro yeah man it feels good though man i'm uh you know you got it down the standard

00:05:30.180 has been set good so good feels good though man um yeah how you doing you good yeah i'm good man

00:05:35.580 yeah you look good man doing a thing i like you with the glasses oh yeah yeah i do well like it's

00:05:41.320 just it's giving something man it's giving it's just something i think that's what the youngsters

00:05:45.000 say it's you guys got to be careful you're talking about beating me tonight you're talking about

00:05:47.960 I'm wiping them with the glasses.

00:05:49.500 Where are we going here?

00:05:50.460 I'm getting ready to step out, man.

00:05:52.860 You're going to ruin it for us, DJ.

00:05:54.540 Tim, how are you doing, man?

00:05:56.960 How are you doing, Tim?

00:05:57.860 What's new with you?

00:05:58.360 I'm excellent.

00:06:00.100 I am excellent.

00:06:01.240 I'm sitting here with individuals I truly admire.

00:06:05.160 You know, DJ, we've been on you for a long time,

00:06:07.860 and I come in here, and just the results that you have,

00:06:10.940 the transformation has been exceptional, man.

00:06:13.740 I know we pissed you off a lot of times,

00:06:16.140 But you saw the result

00:06:18.540 And until

00:06:19.580 Like Andrew said

00:06:21.080 When you made the decision

00:06:22.780 That's when everything

00:06:23.460 That's when everything happened

00:06:24.500 And we're both

00:06:25.720 Extremely proud of you

00:06:27.040 And

00:06:27.680 Just keep

00:06:28.880 Just keep going

00:06:29.660 Yeah what he's saying is 1.00

00:06:30.540 Don't get fucking fat 1.00

00:06:31.400 Yeah 1.00

00:06:31.780 Yeah that's right

00:06:32.740 Just keep going

00:06:33.720 Because listen

00:06:34.400 That fat

00:06:35.400 When you go home 0.99

00:06:36.340 That fat person 0.99

00:06:38.600 Is waiting for you 1.00

00:06:39.380 Oh yeah

00:06:39.800 He's standing right outside

00:06:40.700 The pocket

00:06:41.120 He's in there bro

00:06:43.180 He sits in

00:06:43.900 He sits in the car

00:06:45.880 they go to sleep every every every single every single day he's just waiting they're just they're

00:06:51.080 just they're just whispering in your ear yeah chinese buffet that's right you know pizza

00:06:58.200 tapping tapping you on her tapping you on the shoulder yeah that goes for all of us oh bro

00:07:03.960 listen all the reason i know that is because he's still in there talking to me every day

00:07:07.560 mine hasn't paid rent so long but he's been living there yeah yeah yeah man no man it's awesome it's

00:07:13.880 it's a great day to get better today it is um and in honor of having tim on i got some really

00:07:18.800 really good questions for uh for everybody here so let's make some people better shall we let's

00:07:23.360 do it guys andy tim question number one andy i'm 24 and i honestly think comfort has become my

00:07:32.840 biggest enemy anytime life gets hard i instantly look for distractions like food or my phone or

00:07:40.040 sleep anything to avoid discomfort i know discipline matters but how do you train yourself

00:07:46.500 to stop running from hard things when your brain is wired to avoid them well i don't know how do 0.85

00:07:53.200 you get muscles you lift heavy shit okay like how do you how do you be able to run 20 miles 0.86

00:08:01.580 you start trying to run all right you got to understand that your discipline is a skill set 0.97

00:08:08.340 that has to be cultivated and trained in order for it to work so when you say 0.86

00:08:15.440 well i know discipline is important no discipline is fucking everything it will decide whether or 0.84

00:08:24.940 not you actually become what you want to become or not it will dictate your physique it will 0.87

00:08:30.800 dictate your income it will dictate your spouse it will dictate your family it will dictate every

00:08:36.240 single thing in your life the problem isn't that people don't know what to do it's that they lack

00:08:44.060 the ability to do it it's the ability to adhere to a plan and you could get any recipe for anything

00:08:52.000 out of a book and literally read it and make the best possible version of that if you follow the 0.98

00:08:59.500 directions it's not that the plan is not out there it's that you can't follow the fucking plan 0.57

00:09:04.140 all right and that's what you have to understand and instead of looking at discipline as if it's 0.76

00:09:09.220 some sort of mystical force like all of us did at some point in our life you have the opportunity

00:09:16.300 as a very young person to figure out that this is a perishable skill set that needs to be trained

00:09:20.960 on a regular basis so that would be my first thing to say to you is that you have to understand

00:09:27.580 that you have to invest in this, you have to train it and you have to train it by making the hard

00:09:35.380 decisions that feel very hard for you right now over and over and over again. And as you make

00:09:42.460 those decisions and as you do the thing that is required instead of the thing that makes you more

00:09:49.120 comfortable, you gain strength. That muscle, that disciplined muscle begins to develop. It gets

00:09:55.920 stronger. It gets bigger. It gets more capable of making the right decisions. And that's going to

00:10:03.120 require you with a very weak discipline muscle to do and make decisions around things that seem to

00:10:11.320 be very hard. But once you develop that muscle and once you develop that ability, the decisions that

00:10:18.140 you're struggling with now become almost automatic down the road. All right. No different than when

00:10:23.760 you first go into a gym and you start to lift some weights and those weights feel very heavy 1.00

00:10:29.780 you have to continue to lift those little weights and look stupid and feel stupid before you can 0.95

00:10:36.420 get to the big weights and then once you get to the big weights you go back to lift the little 0.97

00:10:41.020 weights and it's very easy so these decisions that you're struggling with while they seem very hard

00:10:47.940 to you they're only hard because you lack the skill set of discipline that you haven't built

00:10:54.620 yet yeah yeah and you you described this before too you know because i know we talk about this

00:11:00.300 on cti but like i mean these young kids now with social media their phones like all of these things

00:11:06.280 they are inundated with it right like it's a trillion dollar industry that's being pumped

00:11:10.260 to them and you've described discipline before it was like the pizza or the food is this like

00:11:16.220 inanimate object not having power over you yeah can you dive into because maybe like this is very 0.80

00:11:22.260 simple are you literally going to give up your entire fucking life because something sits in 0.84

00:11:27.360 front of you that has no no not a single thing in it has control over anything yeah and you're 0.97

00:11:35.520 going to look at that thing whether it be alcohol or food or whatever it may be and you're going to 0.97

00:11:42.520 allow this inanimate object to fucking beat you what is fucking weaker than that yeah that is the 1.00

00:11:50.440 weakest shit when you say it like that that is the weakest fucking shit you are literally losing to 1.00

00:11:57.440 something that that has no fucking power it's like it's not even alive it's not even a real thing 1.00

00:12:04.160 you're losing to yourself and that's what you have to understand dj read the first part of the 0.89

00:12:10.840 question again i'm 24 and i'm on and i honestly think comfort has become my biggest enemy okay

00:12:16.360 keep going anytime life gets hard all right stop right there 24 and life is hard

00:12:23.060 i mean uncle tim's here baby yeah bro that's the that okay you know i get that

00:12:31.820 but you know you don't know what you don't know right like you don't know that it keeps 0.97

00:12:36.800 getting fucking hard 0.93

00:12:37.720 I'm like 0.99

00:12:40.240 dude you can't even rent a car yet

00:12:42.880 and literally

00:12:47.880 look

00:12:50.380 you have to go

00:12:52.120 this person has to go back

00:12:54.060 to the way he was brought up

00:12:56.600 and somewhere down the line

00:13:00.180 you'll know exactly why

00:13:02.460 you are the way you are

00:13:03.680 and when you recognize that

00:13:06.100 and you're willing to deal with that, this will start to change.

00:13:09.740 Otherwise, you're going to be sitting here,

00:13:12.100 you're going to be asking the same question at 30, 35, 40, 45.

00:13:17.220 You're just going to keep doing the same thing over and over and over again.

00:13:22.880 All right?

00:13:23.500 Deal with what made you this way.

00:13:27.140 Whether it was your upbringing, whether it was something that happened

00:13:30.840 or everything was just handed to you,

00:13:34.900 You never had to work for anything.

00:13:36.760 You're addicted.

00:13:37.720 You have an addiction you don't want to deal with.

00:13:40.720 It starts and ends with you.

00:13:43.880 And then when Andrew talks about the discipline stuff,

00:13:48.320 everyone tries to discipline themselves into multiple things.

00:13:53.620 Discipline yourself in one thing, master it.

00:13:57.100 Then discipline yourself in the other thing, master it.

00:14:00.980 Everybody wants to go from one thing to the other,

00:14:03.080 to the other, to the other. 0.99

00:14:04.360 And the other thing, listen, dude, you stop making fucking excuses, all right? 0.99

00:14:08.060 This is like, you know, it's everybody. 0.98

00:14:10.760 Yeah, you know what?

00:14:11.360 The brain is designed for comfort.

00:14:12.960 The brain is designed for relaxation.

00:14:14.820 But everything you want and everything you look at on your phone all day,

00:14:19.320 you say, man, how are they doing?

00:14:21.060 It's not a secret.

00:14:22.860 It's not a secret.

00:14:23.760 He just gave you the solution in five minutes, literally in five minutes.

00:14:30.100 And like he said, the recipe is out there.

00:14:32.480 He's looking, he's looking, here, you know what?

00:14:39.500 Start the 75 hard.

00:14:40.980 That's why we built the program.

00:14:42.800 It's not a physical program.

00:14:44.420 Start the, start the, are you going to fail?

00:14:46.940 Absolutely. 1.00

00:14:47.520 You're going to fucking fail. 1.00

00:14:49.020 Absolutely. 1.00

00:14:49.540 You're going to fail, but you're going to fail at something. 0.99

00:14:51.760 You actually put some fucking effort into it. 0.99

00:14:53.900 Dude. 0.99

00:14:54.160 The thing is with 75 hard is the, you know, people are like, Oh, I got to get to day 50 0.97

00:14:59.300 and start the fuck over. 0.95

00:15:00.480 Yeah. 1.00

00:15:00.640 That's how fucking life works. 1.00

00:15:02.420 yes okay you don't fail and then get to take a fucking vacation and be who you used to be 0.99

00:15:07.800 if you really want to fucking change it like you really want to change it and at 24 years old i 0.99

00:15:13.860 dude i would be exactly where you are right now being exactly where i am right now i don't have 0.99

00:15:20.540 to know shit about you i would fucking trade places with you in one second because you are 0.99

00:15:27.240 aware enough to understand that you lack the discipline. I was not until I was 36 years old. 1.00

00:15:35.080 Okay. That's 12 years that I fucked off from the time where you are to the time where I finally 0.94

00:15:41.100 figured it out. You have an opportunity right now to figure this out to the point where you could 0.95

00:15:47.800 develop this skillset, which will allow you to execute in a way that nobody else your age is

00:15:55.640 going to. And by the way, it's not just your age. It's almost everybody. Everybody quits when it

00:16:01.520 gets hard. Everybody seeks comfort when it gets hard. Oh, I deserve this. Everybody lies to

00:16:08.220 themselves about what they've done to deserve these things. Dude, it's all a lie. It's all

00:16:13.320 bullshit. Do you really want it or do you fucking not want it? If you really want it, do the fucking 1.00

00:16:19.200 program because that will help you understand and consistently invest in this skill set. 0.99

00:16:26.820 That's why 75 hard is not a one and done thing. Okay. It is a program. The live hard program is

00:16:33.120 a program that is done literally every year. You know why it's done every year? The same reason

00:16:40.300 you take a fucking shower every day, because if you don't practice discipline, you become less 1.00

00:16:46.540 discipline it is a perishable skill and if you can learn that at 24 fucking years old dude you 1.00

00:16:54.120 have no idea the advantage you have over everybody else because everybody else is going to do exactly 0.94

00:17:01.280 what tim said they're going to go to next year they're going to start with next monday right

00:17:05.280 this is how it goes because i did this you know what i need to get in shape i need to do this i

00:17:11.440 need to do that well fresh start on monday and then by wednesday they're already giving in to 0.99

00:17:17.580 all this comfort bullshit and they're like fuck it i'll fucking start again on monday fresh and 0.99

00:17:23.000 because i'm going to start again on monday from now until monday i'm going to do all of the shit 0.99

00:17:28.420 that i know i won't be able to do for the next you know however long because i'm starting monday 0.65

00:17:32.200 right and then what that does is that starts to compound and it's just math you're spending four

00:17:37.900 or five days of the week trying to do all the stuff you know you're not supposed to do which

00:17:42.900 then creates a bigger mountain and a bigger mountain and a bigger mountain and a bigger 0.99

00:17:46.200 mountain and eventually that mountain is so big that people look at it and they're like fuck it 0.99

00:17:50.040 I can't fucking do it okay and this all comes from your inability to overcome the very small 0.98

00:17:56.980 decisions on a daily basis which challenge you and so instead of looking at these things like 0.99

00:18:02.580 oh they're hard you need to develop a little bit of fuck you okay and what I mean by that is oh 0.99

00:18:09.280 that's a test that's a test this isn't gonna fucking break me this fucking beer doesn't have 1.00

00:18:15.180 any power over me this fucking pizza doesn't have any power over me fuck that shit I'm stronger than 1.00

00:18:21.240 that that's what I mean by fuck you and you are stronger than that but you have to understand 1.00

00:18:26.420 that it's by overcoming these little things in the day-to-day that allow you to have the 0.99

00:18:31.740 discipline to do the big things that create the big outcomes that you're after. And to be real

00:18:36.420 with you, dude, you are in a great spot because you're 20 fucking four years old. People will, 0.99

00:18:43.700 99% of people will never fucking figure this out. They'll go their whole lives and they'll say, 0.98

00:18:51.080 man, I wonder why that guy's got all these, why is he so disciplined? Why is he so good?

00:18:55.860 How can this guy do this? How can that person do that? I wish I had that. The reason they have

00:19:01.000 that is because they made a conscious decision at some point in time to not let external 0.99

00:19:06.580 circumstances dictate the outcome of their fucking life. And you have to make that decision. 0.99

00:19:12.180 Am I going to live like everybody else? Am I going to do what everybody else does? Am I going to

00:19:17.580 have what everybody else has? Or am I going to become the best that I can fucking be? And that's 0.99

00:19:23.560 your fucking choice. And there is no other choice, by the way. You don't get to be in the middle. 1.00

00:19:27.540 it's either you did or you fucking didn't and that's it so i would make the decision right now 0.96

00:19:33.580 to come to an understanding that discipline is something that you can build create and use to 0.99

00:19:42.500 create the life that you want but you sure as fuck aren't going to create the life that you want if 0.99

00:19:47.700 you can't conquer a motherfucking beer yeah okay one thing that everybody in this room every 0.99

00:19:56.140 individual that's done something extraordinary i'm talking about from writing books to poetry 0.97

00:20:01.380 to businesses to sport they all had one thing in common at some point they all wanted to quit

00:20:07.780 and they didn't that is it man and they and and and they and they didn't the other thing is

00:20:14.480 i do give him i'm assuming it's a uh it's a guy i'm assuming okay the courage you took the step

00:20:22.020 to write this out.

00:20:24.120 So now you have recognition.

00:20:25.740 You're recognizing I have an issue.

00:20:27.900 I need to figure this out.

00:20:30.300 Understand, think about discipline.

00:20:32.400 All right?

00:20:32.900 Not being disciplined is a discipline.

00:20:36.300 That's just like when people say,

00:20:38.700 oh, the key to success is consistency. 1.00

00:20:40.800 Motherfucker, you're consistent. 1.00

00:20:42.300 You're just consistent in the wrong things. 1.00

00:20:43.920 Yeah.

00:20:44.820 So you have it.

00:20:46.380 Don't tell me you're not.

00:20:47.680 You're just disciplined in the wrong things.

00:20:49.640 Yeah.

00:20:50.080 so you are you're disciplined you're just disciplined in the wrong in the wrong things

00:20:54.600 not being disciplined is a decision it's a it's a decision all right yeah dude this is not this

00:21:02.760 look and i agree with you man like number one this we're talking about greatness here okay

00:21:10.720 we're talking about extracting what god has put in you this is why you have this feeling

00:21:17.420 the reason you have this feeling of being behind and not being good enough and you know not doing 0.99

00:21:24.660 I need to do this and this and this that's because that was put in you for a fucking reason 0.86

00:21:30.040 and your purpose is to pull that out and share it because it's going to create greatness not 0.97

00:21:37.260 just in you in your life but in in society and when you think about like where most people are

00:21:44.600 they think about this in terms of making money but this isn't just about money bro this is about

00:21:50.660 like tim said contribution it could be art it could be music it could be uh it could be anything

00:21:57.920 whatever you want to be great at and i do give this young man credit not just for asking the

00:22:03.860 question but for being aware enough to acknowledge your own shortcomings because it starts with a 1.00

00:22:11.200 really hard look in the mirror we are our biggest liars we will lie to ourself about fucking 0.98

00:22:16.860 everything and if you will not stand in front of the mirror and take a real true honest unbiased 0.99

00:22:24.600 accountable assessment of your own life you cannot win you cannot win there is going to

00:22:32.280 become a time if you want to create what it is that you want to do that you're going to have

00:22:38.240 to look at yourself, dude, and you're going to have to realize it's nobody's fault. It's fucking 0.99

00:22:42.560 not your parents' fault. It's not your friend's fault. It's not your coach's fault. It's not your 1.00

00:22:47.760 boss's fault. It's not your girlfriend. It's not your boyfriend. It's fucking you. It is you. And 0.94

00:22:53.640 until you have that conversation, you can't even develop the awareness that this young man has

00:22:59.160 already developed and say, hey, this is where I'm weak. How do I fix this? Okay. So yeah, I give him

00:23:05.040 a ton of credit and honestly it excites me of someone being 24 years old and coming to that

00:23:11.500 realization early yes having that recognition and don't tell us you don't have time because

00:23:16.260 this generation you have more time available to you than anything it's it's unbelievable you you

00:23:23.540 don't know it talks to somebody who's a little bit older than what we had to do to try to create

00:23:27.980 this create this time that's that's not an issue bro and and also when you're young dude you want

00:23:34.340 this is when you want to develop this skill because and by the way if you are 40 or you are 50 it's not

00:23:40.180 too late all right that's not what i'm saying but what i am saying is typically when you're younger

00:23:45.280 you have less obligations okay you have you probably don't have a big mortgage you probably

00:23:49.800 don't have four kids you probably don't you know have all these things the more of those things

00:23:55.320 that you put onto your life the harder it is to climb that mountain it's no different than a sherpa

00:23:59.740 climbing up Everest, dude. 1.00

00:24:01.620 The more shit you put on his back, 1.00

00:24:03.320 the harder it is going to be for him. 1.00

00:24:04.940 It doesn't matter how good he is.

00:24:06.140 You should still do it.

00:24:07.160 Yeah, but it's going to be harder.

00:24:10.080 So, you know, this whole idea

00:24:12.120 that we hear about so often

00:24:14.260 about young people going out

00:24:16.840 and finding themselves.

00:24:18.980 Bro, listen, man. 0.99

00:24:20.160 There is no fucking finding yourself. 0.97

00:24:22.440 That's not a real thing. 1.00

00:24:23.700 You make a fucking decision 1.00

00:24:25.400 about who you're going to be 1.00

00:24:27.720 and what you're going to be

00:24:28.980 and what kind of life you're going to live. 1.00

00:24:30.980 And you go out there and you fucking build it. 1.00

00:24:33.940 Shit doesn't just fall into you. 1.00

00:24:35.780 Nobody just discovered themselves, you know, successful or great 1.00

00:24:40.900 or an amazing athlete or a wealthy entrepreneur. 0.97

00:24:44.740 That's not how the fuck it works, man. 1.00

00:24:46.360 And you guys have been lied to with this idealistic bullshit 1.00

00:24:49.380 about finding yourself. 0.99

00:24:51.720 You know what you're going to find? 0.99

00:24:53.000 You're going to find yourself fucking broke. 1.00

00:24:55.280 That's the fuck you're going to find at the end of that journey. 1.00

00:24:57.440 I don't know about 1.00

00:25:00.020 DJ I don't know about

00:25:01.720 alright Andy I know about you know your father

00:25:04.340 my father you go up to them

00:25:05.380 wait hold on wait

00:25:06.880 DJ dad's still out there

00:25:12.600 looking for that milk

00:25:13.440 hey listen I gotta

00:25:15.920 you know I need some time to find myself

00:25:18.560 your dad will look at you

00:25:19.380 I found you 0.94

00:25:20.660 that wasn't even a real

00:25:24.680 conversation

00:25:25.480 I got to go, what are you looking for?

00:25:29.860 Now, taking an honest assessment about what you're into

00:25:33.440 and who you want to be, that's okay, right?

00:25:37.080 You should do that.

00:25:37.940 Like, what do you want to do?

00:25:38.980 And you may not have the right answer,

00:25:41.040 but you probably have a general idea.

00:25:43.480 You probably understand, like, I don't want to be poor.

00:25:46.680 You probably understand that you like certain things, okay?

00:25:50.680 You just kind of have to start going in that direction.

00:25:53.320 And then as you do and you're developing these skill sets of being able to adhere to a plan, a.k.a. discipline, grit, fortitude, perseverance, the ability to overcome, endurance, you know, mental resiliency, physical resiliency.

00:26:07.840 As you develop these things, you become skilled at following the path.

00:26:13.780 okay and then that way when you start to narrow it down and the path starts to become a little

00:26:19.300 more clear you have the skills to go down that path and create and like dude this is it's it's

00:26:25.580 completely opposite as to the narrative of what's told of these young people which is try a little

00:26:31.940 bit of this for three years try a little bit of that for three years try you do it take a gap year 0.99

00:26:36.300 don't do shit bro you gotta understand motherfucker there is you are running out of time that's a real 1.00

00:26:41.800 thing you know oh i don't like hustle culture because of urgency okay well then fucking don't 1.00

00:26:46.920 listen to it and just go live your life this ain't for everybody it's not for everybody winning and 1.00

00:26:51.560 greatness and building shit and becoming who the fuck you're supposed to be it's rare winning is 0.99

00:26:56.660 not the expectation for everybody okay building and creating and becoming that's abnormal that's 0.99

00:27:03.240 not greatness is abnormal it's not a normal thing okay like we have this idea that like everybody's 0.77

00:27:10.540 going to end up in the same spot that's total bullshit man okay and if you want to be great 0.99

00:27:17.540 or whatever it is that you do you're gonna have to fucking start now that's it man yeah i fucking 0.98

00:27:22.540 love it dude i love it man guys let's get to uh question number two andy tim uh what keeps you 0.96

00:27:30.080 motivated after achieving big goals i am roughly two weeks out from getting the fruits of my labor

00:27:36.740 for the last 14 months.

00:27:38.720 I can smell it.

00:27:40.140 But one of my friends asked me the other day,

00:27:42.520 what's next?

00:27:43.640 And at first I felt a little disrespected

00:27:45.620 because I guess I wanted the acknowledgement

00:27:47.600 of the achievement.

00:27:49.180 But then thinking on it more,

00:27:50.560 I think I understand what he meant.

00:27:52.740 I'm just not sure what to do next.

00:27:54.960 So what keeps you motivated after achieving big goals?

00:27:57.720 Well, first of all, he hasn't achieved this.

00:27:59.740 He's still two weeks away. 0.99

00:28:00.740 A lot of shit happens in two fucking weeks now. 1.00

00:28:03.880 You celebrating already? 1.00

00:28:06.180 You celebrating already?

00:28:07.480 You counting the confetti?

00:28:08.840 You doing all that? 1.00

00:28:09.380 What the fuck are you doing? 0.99

00:28:10.440 Job's not finished. 1.00

00:28:11.940 The hell are you talking about?

00:28:12.940 There's been tons of deals at the last minute.

00:28:15.800 Like, yeah, this ain't happening.

00:28:18.380 There could be a shift in the world that something happens.

00:28:21.780 This ain't done yet.

00:28:23.160 What fruits are your labor?

00:28:24.480 14 months?

00:28:26.540 You know how you guarantee you get those fruits?

00:28:30.740 You set the bar even higher and go after that right now,

00:28:33.520 and those things will automatically come.

00:28:34.940 you'll close that gap immediately exactly yeah listen if you there always has to be a next

00:28:41.780 there always has to be a next always especially for people that have high drive and high ambition

00:28:50.120 you know it we're told all the time man that like it's unhealthy to to not celebrate in these things

00:28:57.820 but the problem is it's it's no different than 75 hard day when people get done with 75 days and

00:29:03.460 and they literally celebrate with the things that made them dissatisfied 0.95

00:29:08.360 with who they were in the fucking first place. 0.99

00:29:10.460 You know how you fucking celebrate? 0.99

00:29:13.220 You celebrate by saying, okay, cool. 0.99

00:29:16.740 Now I'm going to do this because now I have the opportunity.

00:29:19.980 I climbed up those first four stairs.

00:29:22.120 Now I have the opportunity to go the next four. 1.00

00:29:24.640 That's a fucking celebration. 0.99

00:29:26.100 That's worth celebrating. 1.00

00:29:27.620 Hey, here's what I created.

00:29:30.060 Now we can take it to this level and this level and this level.

00:29:32.540 that's where the excitement comes from okay so like when you talk about motivation like what

00:29:37.280 keeps you motivated it's it's it's it's the idea of constant progression all right you're you got

00:29:43.880 to understand dude that most people we've always heard these stories right like about oh you know

00:29:51.140 uh the guy went out and built a business and you know he got all this money sold his business and 0.99

00:29:56.320 then he fucking killed himself well he didn't kill himself because he had all the fucking money bro 0.99

00:30:01.140 That's like what people want to believe. 1.00

00:30:02.740 They want to believe that, oh, the dude got the money and the money fucking made. 0.80

00:30:06.380 No, that's not it. 0.94

00:30:08.300 What happened was he lost his purpose.

00:30:11.560 He lost his drive.

00:30:12.380 He lost the next.

00:30:13.400 That's right.

00:30:13.920 There was no next. 0.99

00:30:14.360 So instead of raising the bar and realizing who the fuck you are, and this is true for 1.00

00:30:20.000 most people, you just don't know it. 0.99

00:30:21.840 Most of us are built for achievement.

00:30:25.860 Most of us are built for winning.

00:30:28.040 we're just brainwashed and thinking that that's not us okay and the reason that these dudes go 0.99

00:30:34.900 out and kill themselves and become miserable fucks is because they have not done what we're 0.98

00:30:40.880 telling you to do they they cross the finish line miraculously they get a big check that gets 1.00

00:30:46.740 celebrated you know it gets recognized and then that becomes the thing right like oh i won the 0.94

00:30:53.220 fucking uh i won the mvp in the homecoming game and when i was in high school nobody cares man 0.98

00:30:59.080 nobody gives a shit okay oh i i did that nobody cares what you did nobody cares what you did and 0.98

00:31:05.680 they probably don't care about what you're doing either so the reality is is you have to learn 0.98

00:31:12.500 to set the bar past like right now you're 80 of the way there okay like let's just say you are

00:31:20.640 I don't know if you are.

00:31:21.420 You say you are.

00:31:22.280 I don't know. 0.99

00:31:25.220 Championship people, people who become fucking great. 0.51

00:31:31.020 Those people are not looking at that first goal anymore at 80%. 0.99

00:31:35.820 They're already fucking, they've set a new one. 0.96

00:31:38.540 The finish line's already moved. 0.99

00:31:39.560 Yeah.

00:31:40.300 And that's the thing, dude.

00:31:42.560 That's why celebration is such a dangerous thing, man.

00:31:45.740 because it can become something that lasts way too long.

00:31:51.300 And that's why I have a rule, man,

00:31:53.440 and it's a 24-hour celebration rule, all right?

00:31:56.240 Like when you see the greatest coaches of all time,

00:31:59.680 I'm not talking about players, I'm talking about coaches.

00:32:02.940 Well, some players are like this too.

00:32:04.480 You could probably vouch for this.

00:32:05.660 Celebrate hard, don't celebrate long.

00:32:07.400 Yeah, that's it, man.

00:32:08.580 That's it. 0.97

00:32:09.100 And dude, but like the psychopaths,

00:32:12.420 bro, there is times when Nick Saban has,

00:32:14.500 has bill belichick okay when bill belichick was a great video of that one yeah when when nick these 0.94

00:32:20.440 guys literally walk off the fucking field from winning the biggest thing that you could win in 1.00

00:32:28.040 that sport and you know what they're looking at they're looking at all the shit they fucked up 1.00

00:32:32.520 during the game hey we got a lot of work to do we got to do this i'm you know tonight you know 0.99

00:32:37.020 the guys are going to go but we're going to be back in don't do nick sabo go back in the office 0.90

00:32:40.680 the next day of fucking 4 a.m yeah okay like it's already it's already done he i remember this and 0.92

00:32:47.840 like you said it's in a video they had won the they had won the national championship and that 0.95

00:32:52.020 they were he was doing the interview and he goes what he goes what's next he goes i'm six weeks

00:32:55.680 behind of next season already because the recruiting's already started oh yeah because

00:33:00.560 i'm six he goes i'm six weeks behind he goes i'm six i'm six weeks behind and coach aren't you

00:33:06.020 going to celebrate he goes i just did yeah i i i just i just i just i just did all right and people

00:33:12.920 are just looking at him like they don't get it they can't comprehend because you know what everybody

00:33:16.400 has the same idea of what a celebration is it's supposed to be this month-long or two-month thing

00:33:23.560 or a whole off season with all this partying and all this thing and people filling you up with all 0.94

00:33:28.620 all this bullshit over and over over again and you get so you get sucked into that and then 0.97

00:33:33.640 And if you go on and tell us, listen, I'm here already. 1.00

00:33:37.880 I'm over here.

00:33:38.440 And then they look at you because what you're doing is they feel like

00:33:42.900 they want to celebrate your achievement for doing nothing.

00:33:49.320 So it's not about you.

00:33:51.940 It's about them.

00:33:53.320 It's about how they were celebrating.

00:33:54.540 Yes.

00:33:54.900 It's how they want to celebrate.

00:33:56.560 It's like they want to celebrate.

00:33:58.180 It's just like, all right, when you go, if you just talked about, you know,

00:34:02.260 alcohol and drinking all right if you're a regular consistent drinker all right and then one day you

00:34:07.620 go out with your friend say i'm not drinking today what's wrong yeah you know yeah it was like i'm 0.97

00:34:14.140 not i'm not telling you guys not to drink drink whatever fuck you want yeah i just decide not 0.94

00:34:18.700 they look at you like you're you know and it's it's a reflection it's a reflection on them it's 0.98

00:34:24.080 got nothing to do and it goes back to that discipline from answer first question that you 0.99

00:34:28.160 said holy fuck he he's got the discipline or she has a discipline to sit here with all of us well 0.98

00:34:34.440 we're drinking we're doing all this stuff and they're not yeah man i'm like man i wish i i wish 0.99

00:34:40.200 i wish i i wish i had that so what instead of saying they wish they had that they start to

00:34:46.440 attack you and it's they're not attacking you they're attacking themselves they're attacking

00:34:50.280 what they lack in themselves because you have something or develop something as andrew would

00:34:55.520 say that they haven't developed well dude think about this too man okay let's just say hypothetically

00:35:04.060 let's say bill belichick won one super bowl let's say nick saban won one national title

00:35:10.700 for most people that's what they hang their hat on for their entire life and while that is 0.96

00:35:17.820 a pinnacle achievement there will come a time where people stop fucking talking about it and 0.95

00:35:24.800 what we're talking about on this show always is greatness. We're not talking about winning once. 0.97

00:35:31.080 We're talking about greatness. And if you want people to care about your greatness, winning one

00:35:38.660 time is not enough for that. You have to cross the line from good to great to iconic. And the

00:35:45.380 way that you get there is by winning so undeniably consistently long that eventually when you do 0.98

00:35:53.800 like Nick Saban now as a commentator when Nick Saban walks in the motherfucking room 0.96

00:35:58.620 there is no there it's not oh Nick won this championship and that championship they just 1.00

00:36:04.540 look at him and say that's the fucking greatest motherfucker ever it's fucking Nick Saban okay 0.99

00:36:08.080 that's fucking Nick Saban and that's the recognition that y'all want from winning once 1.00

00:36:12.920 but it doesn't come from winning once it comes from a lifetime of winning and that's what you 0.99

00:36:18.140 have to understand so if you truly want to because like dude that's it that's a real thing okay some 0.97

00:36:23.700 people the the recognition is very important to them some people don't give a shit some people 0.91

00:36:28.860 just play for the game that's how i am i don't give a fuck about who i don't care i don't care 0.91

00:36:34.080 i don't care i don't care i don't care and it's hard for people to understand that that's real 0.69

00:36:37.840 because they they care but there is people one of the six human needs is significance

00:36:43.440 they want the recognition they want those things that's a big driver for a lot of people well if

00:36:48.300 that's really a driver for you,

00:36:50.200 you have to understand that what you're seeking

00:36:53.940 will not come from winning one time.

00:36:57.440 It will not come from that.

00:36:58.780 It will come from a lifetime of winning

00:37:00.860 to the point where Nick Saban is 70 years old

00:37:04.520 and Nick Saban could disappear

00:37:09.520 and never say another word in public

00:37:11.860 and he's going to be considered one of the greatest

00:37:14.700 that ever did it.

00:37:15.880 Hold on now.

00:37:16.900 Period.

00:37:17.260 okay john wooden same thing the guy wins you know what is it nine out of 11 years in a row he wins

00:37:23.640 a national title um that's the level of winning it takes decades bro to create the level of

00:37:31.560 recognition that significant seeking people are actually looking for from winning once and that's

00:37:38.940 that's a that's a big disparity you have to commit yourself and the only way to get to that

00:37:43.340 because you know this this guy said oh well i was a little bit offended but i kind of understand

00:37:48.380 what he was trying to say well that tells me that you recognition is important to you okay

00:37:53.140 it's probably also your first win okay okay but dude but dude that's where most people

00:37:58.120 fuck it up he hasn't gotten his first win yet that's right that's what i'm trying to he's

00:38:01.900 looking for recognition and look for and he hasn't even he hasn't even gotten it yet he hasn't even 0.99

00:38:07.300 We got, yeah, you know, comment back in two weeks

00:38:10.820 and show us proof that this actually happened. 1.00

00:38:15.280 Don't crave something with fucking AI. 1.00

00:38:18.820 Show us that this actually happened 1.00

00:38:20.900 because there's somebody in this office

00:38:23.020 that's going to call and find out

00:38:25.740 if we can actually verify this thing or not.

00:38:28.920 I mean, dude, how many times we've seen this in sports, bro?

00:38:31.560 The guy, he's wide open, he's running in the field.

00:38:35.240 he starts to celebrate and he's throwing the ball he's got the ball hanging out and some dude 0.98

00:38:39.320 whacks it away okay like that can happen that that happens all the fucking time okay in life 0.82

00:38:47.460 it happens way more than it does in sports especially in business my recommendation is for 0.98

00:38:53.600 you to be real with yourself about what it is you're doing this for and why you're doing it

00:38:59.480 i'm not here to judge why you're doing it okay certain people do things for impact certain people

00:39:04.280 do things for their own benefit certain people do things for recognition whatever it is the

00:39:08.660 ultimate reality of all of that is that a lot of good comes from winning so we're not here to judge 0.91

00:39:14.000 the moral uh positioning of why you're trying to win i don't give a fuck okay i know why i want to 0.54

00:39:21.540 win and why you want to win might be different winning winning runs the world bro okay like 0.70

00:39:27.660 winning runs the world that's the thing that you have to understand and for you

00:39:33.460 as someone who is seeking significance and recognition to get the level of recognition 0.90

00:39:40.060 that you are seeking you are going to have to win for a long fucking time yeah okay a long time a 0.70

00:39:46.800 long time we're not talking one win we're not talking two wins okay i had a quote go viral 0.97

00:39:52.800 the other day it's like

00:39:54.860 like

00:39:56.520 nobody gets 0.99

00:39:59.100 lucky for 27 fucking years in a row 0.99

00:40:01.000 bro okay like I win 1.00

00:40:02.840 motherfucker like I'm a fucking winner like if you 1.00

00:40:05.000 had me as an enemy you should probably pick 1.00

00:40:07.060 a different one just quit

00:40:07.940 just go pick someone else

00:40:10.820 okay learn from me

00:40:13.240 model me

00:40:15.240 this that the other you try to

00:40:17.040 compete with me I'm gonna 0.98

00:40:19.100 run you the fuck over dude and they want to know listen 0.99

00:40:21.080 what people can look at what he just says as arrogance oh yeah it's confidence all right 0.99

00:40:28.720 and then you know how you know what it's only arrogance when you haven't proven it right and

00:40:33.320 here's the thing here's the thing you know what you know what winning is a drug dealer for

00:40:39.320 confidence the more you win the more confident you are dude and not only that see i understand

00:40:43.200 what i'm prepared to do yeah like i know like okay if i'm gonna take a big l let's just say 0.98

00:40:49.040 I take a big fucking L. 0.99

00:40:50.680 Let's say all my companies implode and fucking, 1.00

00:40:53.700 it doesn't matter because I'm going to fucking go back 0.99

00:40:57.260 to where I was with the knowledge that I have 0.98

00:41:00.480 and I'm going to keep going.

00:41:02.300 And so while you may think in your mind

00:41:05.640 that you're beating me today,

00:41:07.300 I can promise you that unless you are fully committed

00:41:10.880 to go your entire life, 0.99

00:41:12.680 I'm going to fucking end up ahead of you. 0.99

00:41:15.300 And that's just reality, dude. 0.97

00:41:17.700 And that's not for everybody.

00:41:19.040 Not everybody's like that.

00:41:20.200 It's perfectly okay to build something

00:41:22.600 and go through a different season of life

00:41:25.000 and this and that.

00:41:25.720 But like, you have to understand, dude, 1.00

00:41:27.880 the fucking psychopaths that get the recognition 1.00

00:41:30.160 that you're fucking after, 1.00

00:41:32.200 these motherfuckers are wired for one thing, okay? 1.00

00:41:34.840 They might not be the best dad. 1.00

00:41:36.680 They may not be the best fucking family guy. 0.99

00:41:39.280 They may not be the nicest person. 0.99

00:41:42.820 I don't fucking know. 0.98

00:41:43.680 It could be all kinds of different things. 0.99

00:41:44.840 but that level of recognition comes from a psychopathic commitment to doing whatever 0.99

00:41:52.740 the fuck you've got to do and yes you should do it with class you should do it with a set 0.96

00:41:57.600 of moral standards you should do it the right way you should treat people good all of these 1.00

00:42:02.240 things matter but my point is is that true recognition for being great does not come

00:42:10.700 from one win and if you're driven by recognition you should be the kind of person that you have

00:42:17.220 to be the kind of person that is consistently setting the bar higher and higher and higher

00:42:21.460 let me ask you guys this real quick on this we were talking about this the other day in the

00:42:25.720 locker room is winning relative is it relative what do you mean like is it like you know a win

00:42:32.280 for me is a win for me it may not be oh no dude yeah you know you were just talking about yeah

00:42:36.460 sometimes like dude like like i forget that sometimes yeah like sometimes like people will 0.97

00:42:44.080 tell me their wins and i'm like the fuck you talking about like that's that's easy for me 0.81

00:42:49.400 yeah and we have to understand that that probably wasn't easy for me when i first started yeah okay 0.99

00:42:55.660 so you do lose sight of that sometimes as you go down the path i'm guilty of that yeah for sure

00:43:01.900 Like I, sometimes I have people tell me things that were a big win to them.

00:43:06.260 And I'm like, I have to remind myself like, bro, this is, this is you 20 years ago. 0.98

00:43:12.380 This is you fucking 25 years ago. 0.96

00:43:15.440 So yes, the wins are relative and they teach you, like Tim said, the confidence a little 0.99

00:43:21.260 bit at a time. 0.84

00:43:22.200 What was a win for me fucking 20 years ago is something that now like I, it's like, I 0.65

00:43:29.800 don't even it like doesn't even yeah it might even be considered a loss at this point well no i'm 0.88

00:43:34.540 just saying like look man i'm talking about the mental overcoming okay like like dude i'll just

00:43:41.920 give you an example like like i used to have no control over my food none none okay none like when 0.99

00:43:49.340 i look at like when i say hey man fuck that shit that's the attitude that i had to develop to get 0.99

00:43:53.820 past it okay if i walked by like if people invited me to dinner like dude you know me you've been to 1.00

00:44:02.740 dinner with me 4 000 times i order the same fucking thing everywhere i go okay i order clean 0.77

00:44:08.120 food it's i don't even think about it like i don't look at the rest of the menu back when i first 0.98

00:44:14.060 started that you know i'd open up the menu and then i automatically start like justifying oh i

00:44:20.680 want the I wanted the the nachos and I want this you know what I'll start tomorrow and like the

00:44:25.460 brain automatically started the lie now it doesn't even it's not even a thought so this is the benefit

00:44:36.160 of developing this discipline muscle that we're talking about and so yeah dude the first time that 0.94

00:44:41.860 I went into a restaurant and I ordered what the fuck I was supposed to order versus what I wanted 0.98

00:44:46.680 to i walked out of that restaurant being like fuck dude i can't believe i did that it's a 0.99

00:44:51.780 win yeah that's a huge win yeah it's a huge win so sometimes reality these things that seem like 0.99

00:44:58.220 they're not a big deal are really setting the foundation for you to be able to make the

00:45:04.360 decisions that are a big deal and so you can't discount someone else's small wins against you

00:45:10.380 know your scale of winning like i said and sometimes i forget that yeah right because

00:45:15.340 like dude i know what it's like bro like i know what it's like i know what it's like and i know

00:45:22.260 what people are capable of i know who i am i know how regular i am i know how not gifted i am

00:45:30.280 and and when i look at someone like i understand because i'm seeing myself yeah right so like

00:45:39.380 when people hear me and they're like man he's really fucking hard on people and this and that

00:45:43.880 no dude i'm just telling you the truth about yourself because i've been there and i understand 0.86

00:45:49.280 like and and you could sit there and say but andy no dude there's no buts you are capable you are

00:45:56.560 far more capable of what you think you are you just haven't been able to overcome the small

00:46:03.240 little decisions that start to build this up and again this is i'm not trying to make this a pitch

00:46:08.240 for 75 hard but this is why the program exists because it teaches you how to do these things 0.74

00:46:13.980 in 75 fucking days okay and then once you like there's no program that's ever been developed or 0.81

00:46:21.700 will ever be developed that can create that kind of progress in that short of amount of time 0.99

00:46:27.200 mentally you can't learn that shit any other way so you know what we're talking about here is

00:46:34.860 a few different things the recognition that this is something that you can build 0.99

00:46:40.360 the understanding of who you are and what honestly motivates you okay like what are you

00:46:49.520 actually after and it can't be what you it can't be what you think everybody wants you to say 0.97

00:46:56.400 like it's got to be the real shit what do you really want i know some very successful people 0.99

00:47:02.100 that are they are highly driven by recognition i think the shit's stupid i'm like i like i but 0.99

00:47:12.260 that's what drives them and because that drives them they make the right decisions and then those 0.99

00:47:17.300 right decisions compound and that creates a life that ultimately inspires people to go after the

00:47:24.420 same thing so like if we're being real you know this moral posturing about why why did you do this

00:47:30.880 It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter. What matters is, is that the outcome happens because the outcome is what inspires other people to understand that it's possible, which is ultimately what I believe our duty is as humans.

00:47:46.200 We are writing a story of inspiration with our own existence.

00:47:52.140 And you can preach it.

00:47:53.640 You can talk it.

00:47:54.820 You can go on stage.

00:47:56.260 You can show slides. 1.00

00:47:57.360 You can do all this shit. 0.99

00:47:58.660 But at the end of the day, none of that shit matters if the outcome's not real. 0.99

00:48:04.120 So like, you know, like a lot of people are like, I want to be a professional speaker. 0.98

00:48:08.320 Okay. 1.00

00:48:09.460 Well, you understand that you can talk all that shit you want, bro. 0.99

00:48:14.000 but that's a temporary thing that you say oh I really want to help people well unless you've 1.00

00:48:20.200 created the outcome for them to see in that life of yours that they want that fucking little blurb 0.89

00:48:26.400 that you don't care how good you are at saying it that's temporary it's temporary so you have to be 0.98

00:48:31.660 able to understand that like dude we're the artists and we have this canvas and our job is to paint 0.86

00:48:37.600 with the fuck we can in a certain amount of time and time is running out so are you going to draw 0.95

00:48:45.380 what everybody else drew just because it's easy and it's comfortable are you going to be honest 0.99

00:48:50.020 with yourself and say this is what i actually want this is who i actually want to be this is

00:48:55.300 the outcome i actually want to create and this is what drives me to create that outcome and then

00:49:01.380 understand what's going to do that for you and then be able to go do it yeah i love it man i think

00:49:06.220 where he gets frustrated and when you talk about the wins is you're you're not frustrated with

00:49:13.360 the win you want to know what's next yeah that that's the that's a frustrating that's the

00:49:18.300 great you had this right i'm but if you talk about man i just got this win and now i'm about to

00:49:24.580 you'd be like yeah yes it's just when they stop right you're like okay you just stop it's like

00:49:29.180 when people tell you it's because i know they're gonna go backwards right yeah so you know it's

00:49:32.520 like people always talk about their hopes and dreams i was like dude i want to hear about your

00:49:36.000 hopes, and dreams. I want to hear about your decisions

00:49:37.980 and actions. That's the next

00:49:39.960 conversation.

00:49:41.960 My hope is not a strategy.

00:49:44.420 My dream, listen,

00:49:46.180 first of all,

00:49:47.680 for your dream to become a reality, it's

00:49:49.980 got to be a nightmare first. You got to go

00:49:51.940 through the nightmare. Fuck yeah. 1.00

00:49:53.520 You got to go through the 1.00

00:49:55.860 nightmare. In the book Winning, I talk

00:49:58.060 about, hey, listen,

00:50:00.160 you know,

00:50:00.800 your nightmares, they're the ones

00:50:04.060 that come visit you on a regular basis they're the ones that keep you up late at night they're

00:50:09.480 the ones that you know take away from time for from from your family and all this other thing

00:50:14.620 because you have this you have this you have this vision you have this nightmare going on in your

00:50:18.940 in your head and i said i got i gotta i gotta figure i gotta figure figure this figure this 0.99

00:50:24.020 out and most people they turn around and put the fucking pillow over their head or take something 0.99

00:50:29.020 to like make it go when you wake up you're in this you're not in i won't even say you're in 0.98

00:50:33.320 the same position you're actually in a worse position because that day is not gone and the

00:50:38.060 next day is going to be gone and the next day is going to be gone and the next day is going to be

00:50:41.380 gone and like you said a monday turns into a monday and turns into a monday and you have fit

00:50:45.800 you have what you have 52 mondays in a year all right that's not a lot no man it's all it's it's

00:50:52.440 literally going to be we're already this year is already almost half done yeah it's literally it's

00:50:58.520 Literally all, all, all, all half done.

00:51:00.640 Look at, you look at, how old are your brother's kids now?

00:51:04.600 Uh, nine, oldest nine.

00:51:06.640 Nine, six, nine, seven.

00:51:09.140 I remember, like, and you look, and people are like,

00:51:12.060 you look at me like, what happened?

00:51:14.560 That's how quick this goes by.

00:51:16.160 Like, what happened?

00:51:17.440 Yeah.

00:51:18.580 And that's a perspective that you can't have

00:51:21.060 until enough times pass.

00:51:22.740 Right.

00:51:22.960 And so, like, it's very important.

00:51:25.600 I think one of the biggest lies when it comes to winning 0.94

00:51:27.800 is that like there's a finish line there's not a fucking finish line bro there's things along 0.92

00:51:34.980 the way that happen that are great but the minute you get to the finish line remember it doesn't 0.96

00:51:42.000 matter you sold your business you you won the trophy you won the championship whatever it is

00:51:47.960 man the minute that the finish line is crossed and you decide that that's the finish line

00:51:53.280 you're going to have to deal with a couple different things one are you okay with that

00:52:02.440 is that are you are you good with what you accomplish because if you're not then it's 0.74

00:52:07.660 going to eat you forever okay and it'll be shit you can do about it no without start you got to

00:52:12.140 start again and it's really hard to get started again once you've stopped all right if you get 0.98

00:52:19.100 to a point and like i said there's seasons in life right there's times where you know like i know guys

00:52:24.300 who have built companies and then they've sold them and then they've turned their focus into

00:52:29.840 something else but that something else is also a new thing to master right like i've got a buddy of

00:52:38.480 mine who well mj does this the the okay he retires as the greatest player of all time well now he's

00:52:47.600 figured out i'm going to compete in fishing i'm going to compete in nascar okay and those that

00:52:54.280 so like now he's working to do this other thing right and if we don't have that next thing you

00:53:00.960 have to understand that your story is over and you have to be okay with that that part is closed

00:53:06.580 and i think a lot of people they mistakenly think that they're going to get to a number or they're

00:53:12.380 going to get to a it's usually a number but a point where that itch is scratched but if you're 0.74

00:53:20.260 truly built for the game that itch that hitch is never fucking scratched dude and the minute you 0.60

00:53:24.800 try to fit into the boundary of everybody else just kind of cruising you're going to self-destruct 0.79

00:53:29.920 whether you like them or not look at elon yeah whether you like them or not yeah it's

00:53:37.740 it's not a political thing

00:53:39.320 alright

00:53:40.040 Banda doesn't have to do anything

00:53:44.080 ever again and he's constantly 0.79

00:53:45.960 still going

00:53:46.740 but you gotta know yourself dude

00:53:50.360 like that's the thing

00:53:51.360 you gotta know yourself man

00:53:53.400 there's a number of days

00:53:55.840 like this happens to me

00:53:58.200 all the time man 0.97

00:53:59.000 I go home and I'm like what the fuck am I doing all this for 0.90

00:54:02.440 like especially on the hard days 0.99

00:54:03.720 I'm like why am I fucking doing it 0.98

00:54:06.100 I don't have to fucking do this 0.98

00:54:07.060 everybody has doubt everybody at some point has has that has that doubt at all points at all levels 0.99

00:54:15.000 at all all levels exactly that you question yourself why in the fuck but you know what when 0.98

00:54:19.520 you question yourself you have the fucking answer yeah you have the answer from everything that 0.99

00:54:24.620 you've built all all the way you look at you look at what would it be like if i didn't do it and what 0.99

00:54:31.120 if i looks like if i keep going and you're like yeah this is not even an option but that conversation

00:54:35.140 is short but we've all had that conversation on a regular basis and you and people think we don't 0.86

00:54:41.100 we don't we don't have we have those conversations all the fucking time dude and the answer the 0.86

00:54:48.480 answer is it goes like this okay i understand this is frustrating this is hard let's say you 0.93

00:54:56.880 did stop what are you going to do and if you can't answer that question about what are you

00:55:02.740 going to do you shouldn't stop because that's where you self-destruct yeah you know i've seen 0.98

00:55:06.640 so many entrepreneurs you know fuck athletes too dude like get to a point where they feel like okay 0.98

00:55:17.300 i've done what i can do but again the the recognition that they're after and what they're 0.99

00:55:23.780 after or the impact they're after hasn't truly materialized yet and then they stop they take a

00:55:29.400 break and then if you want to start again it's like just as hard as starting from the beginning

00:55:33.980 so you have to like know yourself and you have to know what it is you want if you are going to

00:55:41.940 pivot into that next thing for a lot of people you know the the pivoting into that next thing

00:55:49.120 comes too early okay you haven't really won yet you haven't you did a couple things good okay you 0.98

00:55:56.380 made a couple bucks you did a couple things you sell your shit you get out whatever and you think 0.85

00:56:02.320 that you're gonna go like sit on a beach bro and i'm gonna tell you you're gonna like that for 0.99

00:56:07.020 about three fucking days and actually you're probably gonna like it for about one day because 0.97

00:56:11.480 the second day you're gonna be like oh okay what am i gonna do next you know and like and then the 0.98

00:56:17.580 third day you're like i'm not doing anything this sucks like and you know this if you're already in 0.64

00:56:25.220 a point and it doesn't matter what level you're at dude if you're already at a point where you're 0.57

00:56:31.260 thinking about your life as what can i achieve what can i do what can i build what can i create

00:56:39.640 you've got the bug bro you're built different than everybody else most people that thought

00:56:44.760 never even goes into their mind they live like everybody else they do what everybody else does

00:56:49.860 they measure their standards of success the same way that everybody else does and they never reel

00:56:54.880 with themselves about what they really want and because that happens they end up living a life

00:56:58.800 that at the end of it they're like well i didn't do anything well the guy who's unaware and this

00:57:04.460 is why awareness is a really it's a it's a it's a plus and a minus sometimes but when you have the

00:57:11.760 awareness and you don't exercise your capabilities it will destroy you when you don't have the

00:57:20.260 awareness and you live in ignorance and which is fucking okay that's why the saying exists 0.60

00:57:25.280 ignorance is bliss those people can live their whole lives and at the end of it they they don't 0.96

00:57:31.260 even like question they say oh my life was great he lived a great life that's right that's right

00:57:35.540 but if you're not wired for that dude you're going to be the guy at the end of your life saying 0.99

00:57:39.940 fuck i fucking didn't do anything i wanted to do so like you got to really be honest with 0.99

00:57:46.420 yourself man and if you're already asking the question that means you got it right because 0.99

00:57:51.280 most people never ask it everything's impossible till somebody does it first yeah man it's real

00:57:56.680 i love it so guys we got one more yeah third and final question guys question number three

00:58:01.940 andy i had this realization recently that i spend a lot of time talking about the person i want to

00:58:08.680 become but my daily habits still look a lot like the old version of me and that gap between who i

00:58:15.360 say I want to be and how I actually live is starting to bother me was there a moment for you

00:58:22.460 where you realized you had to completely change your identity and not just your habits

00:58:27.000 yeah it's what I just said it's when you become aware of it yeah the minute you become aware

00:58:35.960 that you aren't living and you aren't becoming and you aren't creating who you want to be and

00:58:41.460 what you want to do and you do nothing about it that is the first day of the rest of your life

00:58:47.340 of a miserable bitter unfulfilling frustrating hell that you will try to escape or convince

00:58:56.160 yourself that you you know should be this other way so like the the minute that you become aware 0.99

00:59:05.100 of this you have to go dude you have to go because you're now you now you could see shit you couldn't 0.82

00:59:11.260 see so for me you know there's been a couple different moments i could tell you the most 0.99

00:59:20.200 pivotal moment for me um you know when i grew up i always wanted to be successful i i didn't want

00:59:26.360 to depend on anybody i i knew inherently i felt it my whole life that i was supposed to do something

00:59:35.560 different i could feel it even when i was a little kid

00:59:38.780 when i got to be 36 years old i i was already worth you know nine figures um i had built what

00:59:50.340 most people would say like we talked about earlier i had a one you did pretty good okay right

00:59:56.220 Right. Except I was looking in the mirror and I was 350 pounds and I realized that if I did not

01:00:06.840 change who I was, the best thing that I would have ever achieved in my life was making a few

01:00:12.740 dollars. And I was 36 years old and I started seeing myself, okay, well, where am I going to

01:00:19.220 be at 46? Well, I'm going to be 450 pounds. And then I was like, well, where am I going to be

01:00:24.380 at 50 and i'm like oh fuck i'm gonna be dead yeah those people don't last long right so so for me 0.82

01:00:32.020 i i realized that and then i also realized that it wasn't fair to all the people that had helped 0.98

01:00:41.860 me believed in me who had bet on me with their careers that this was just about me and i knew 0.94

01:00:49.720 that i had to fix my shit i knew i had to transform and become the best i could because 0.93

01:00:57.000 dude i was honest with myself i i knew that i wasn't good i'm not good enough to compete 0.98

01:01:03.240 i'm not good enough to compete that's what you guys got to understand i'm not good enough to

01:01:08.620 compete unless i'm the best that i can be there's other people that are smarter than me there's

01:01:13.660 other people that are more gifted than me there's other people that have better relationships than

01:01:17.140 me there's all these things these i'm aware of this okay but the one thing that i could control

01:01:24.240 is how fucking hard i go and how well i control the things that are within my control and i am 0.97

01:01:30.880 willing to bet that there are very few people on this motherfucking planet that are more in control 0.98

01:01:36.240 of those things than i am and that's when i say like hey you might be beating me today but this 0.97

01:01:42.480 is temporary. You should enjoy it today because eventually I'm going to pass you because I

01:01:47.500 understand who I am now. And I understand that I can control all of the controllables in my life

01:01:56.020 at this point in time without really even thinking about it. And that's what happens

01:02:00.740 when you create tremendous discipline muscle. Okay. It gives you a superpower because every

01:02:07.420 single time it gets hard or even somebody who's conditioned for hard things there will be a point 0.96

01:02:13.320 that fucking breaks them and i am unbreakable bro i'm un-fucking-breakable at this point in my life 0.92

01:02:19.480 so i know i'm gonna stop you right there the key point and what he just said at this point in his 0.99

01:02:24.040 life because in order to be uh unbreakable you have to be broken so many fucking times that's 0.97

01:02:31.020 broken so many times 0.98

01:02:33.300 where they cannot break you

01:02:35.060 anymore yeah dude and that's 0.99

01:02:37.060 that's just real shit and there's gonna be more 0.98

01:02:39.100 hard times that come my way there's 1.00

01:02:41.080 gonna be dude I could get sick

01:02:42.860 I could get injured I'm gonna have 0.99

01:02:45.200 people close to me that are probably gonna fucking 0.99

01:02:47.140 die I understand these 0.99

01:02:49.060 things I understand that that's gonna happen

01:02:51.200 but and I'm at that age

01:02:53.120 where

01:02:53.740 people I know contacts I have

01:02:57.040 in my phone people I know personally

01:02:59.140 people I've done business with

01:03:01.020 are starting to pass yeah and and dude and but you're a realist about it yeah okay like

01:03:09.240 you have if you can build yourself into that which you can all of you can there's nothing

01:03:17.840 that can stop you dude like there's nothing that can stop someone who has built themselves into

01:03:23.920 somebody that cannot be broken you can't stop them you can't stop them it doesn't matter what

01:03:30.540 storm comes their way. It doesn't matter what tragedy comes their way. It doesn't matter what

01:03:35.040 hardship comes their way. They will continue to wake up and they will do what they can. They will

01:03:40.340 control what they can and eventually they will overcome. And that should be the goal for every

01:03:45.640 single person listening. You have to become the kind of person that it does not fucking matter 0.98

01:03:51.480 what is happening in your life. It doesn't matter. You are still going to keep pushing. You are still 0.99

01:03:58.500 going to wake up and when you become that that person is unbeatable because everybody else

01:04:06.900 and this is especially relevant to to these like a lot of times when you're young you look around 0.99

01:04:14.320 i did this too you look around and you're like man that guy's fucking parents invested in his 0.96

01:04:21.420 business you know that guy got lucky here he had this happen or that happened you know what the 0.99

01:04:26.100 biggest blessing for me has been in my entire life nothing came easy nothing not having any

01:04:32.660 of that nothing came easy okay and that taught me more than anything else so if you're out there

01:04:39.300 and you're struggling and you're looking around you're like but that guy has this and that 0.99

01:04:43.020 that's temporary because that motherfucker that had that good thing happen to him that you didn't 0.99

01:04:48.440 when that first storm comes in his life it's gonna fucking wreck him you're learning how to overcome 1.00

01:04:54.440 these things now and when you can become this kind of person that is mentally prepared to handle 0.99

01:05:03.360 whatever the fuck is thrown their way i'm not saying you're going to do it with a smile i'm 0.92

01:05:08.080 not saying that you're not going to go home and cry i'm not saying that you're you're not going 0.99

01:05:12.380 to have a breakdown but when you're done you're going to get the fuck up and you're going to keep 0.91

01:05:18.020 moving if you can become that kind of person dude you can't beat that kind of person you just can't

01:05:22.100 do it yeah so this person here it goes back to what you you had said earlier and i say this all

01:05:29.280 the time too we lie to ourselves more than anybody else would ever lie yeah so when the talk that

01:05:34.460 he's he's literally he's literally lying to himself and when he when he talks about the

01:05:39.680 self-talk it's not a self-talk it's negotiations he's losing the negotiations with himself

01:05:44.560 every single day or most of the time and we all and you just have to be like i'm not i'm not

01:05:51.720 no more negotiations no more negotiations with myself with myself they're they still gonna be

01:05:58.200 chirping yeah they're still gonna be chirping they're still gonna they're still gonna be

01:06:01.580 talking and said it ain't happening see dude i give that i give that person a name okay i identify 0.96

01:06:08.460 that voice i i use it for you guys i call it the bitch voice and the boss voice if you've read my 0.99

01:06:13.980 book and you've listened to the podcast when it comes to 75 hard we talk about the bitch voice 1.00

01:06:18.600 and the boss voice i name that person i know who that is that's fat andy okay fucking fat andy 0.99

01:06:25.880 that's that's that who's fucking talking to me and when i can name that person then i can look 1.00

01:06:31.420 at that person and be like fuck you you fat piece of shit i'm talking to myself yeah that's right 1.00

01:06:36.180 that's right but when i can like name it and i know who's talking to me it's real easy for me 1.00

01:06:43.740 to be like no fuck you dude like i'm not fucking doing that it's when we don't when we have trouble 0.97

01:06:50.340 identifying this weak person inside of us give it a name dude who is it what's that person's name 1.00

01:06:57.180 oh that's fat dj oh fat dj is telling me to fucking skip my workout i say fuck you 1.00

01:07:02.460 right okay fat dj's tried he tried today i'm telling you yeah but he didn't he fucking did 1.00

01:07:08.400 And that's what the fuck matters. 0.99

01:07:09.740 Yeah, man. 0.99

01:07:10.220 Okay?

01:07:11.300 Give it a name.

01:07:12.720 What is that? 1.00

01:07:13.400 Oh, that's weak Susie. 1.00

01:07:15.420 Oh, well, fuck you, weak Susie. 1.00

01:07:17.140 That's right. 1.00

01:07:17.480 Oh, that's Pussy Peter. 1.00

01:07:19.020 You know what I'm saying? 1.00

01:07:20.460 Well, fuck you, pussy. 1.00

01:07:22.360 Like, whatever you got to do. 1.00

01:07:23.920 But, like, dude, it's eat. 1.00

01:07:25.840 Like, you got to learn some fuck you, man. 1.00

01:07:28.220 Yeah, man. 1.00

01:07:28.700 And, like, dude, you know, maybe there's another way to do it. 0.98

01:07:33.280 That's how I fucking do it. 0.98

01:07:34.440 You know, but like, I, I know that that fat Andy is in me. 1.00

01:07:40.060 He's fucking in me, dude. 1.00

01:07:41.720 And he's whispering all the fuck all the time. 1.00

01:07:43.960 All right. 0.99

01:07:44.160 Listen, when you roll out of bed, there's all those, listen, there's,

01:07:47.860 there's everything that's way there's comfort waiting for you.

01:07:51.700 There's negotiations way.

01:07:53.140 There's negotiations as lazy.

01:07:55.100 There's all, all, all this victim.

01:07:57.000 There's all that stuff.

01:07:57.700 They're literally waiting at the bed bedside for you.

01:08:02.400 And I get up every morning, acknowledge them.

01:08:04.440 Hello, hello, hello. 0.99

01:08:05.460 Just fucking keep going. 0.98

01:08:06.480 Yeah, dude. 0.99

01:08:07.780 How'd you guys sleep?

01:08:08.620 That's something great.

01:08:09.400 All right.

01:08:09.720 I think it's important to understand that never goes away.

01:08:13.180 It never goes away.

01:08:13.780 It's what you feed. 1.00

01:08:14.800 It's like that saying, there's the fucking white wolf and there's the dark wolf and whichever 1.00

01:08:22.320 one you feed more, whatever the fuck the saying goes. 1.00

01:08:24.500 But there's truth to that, okay? 0.99

01:08:25.840 Like, dude, there is fucking Fat Andy and then there is Unbreakable Andy. 0.99

01:08:32.880 i answer to unbreakable i don't answer to fucking fat andy anymore fat andy fucking 0.99

01:08:39.660 cost me decades of my fucking life fat andy cost me tons of pain and tons of frustration 1.00

01:08:45.600 and tons of years that i can't get back i fucking hate that motherfucker i fucking hate him and the 1.00

01:08:52.180 minute he starts talking to me i automatically go to fuck you dude fuck you and fat andy's gonna 1.00

01:08:58.500 keep talking keep talking what do you got the strong what do you call the unbreakable unbreakable 1.00

01:09:04.000 and he's just just waiting yeah we doing this or not yeah yeah i'm not having a conversation with

01:09:09.220 you already know you already you already know we doing this or not all right and if you're not

01:09:14.700 i'm still gonna go do this and then you're gonna feel so you're gonna feel so guilty because you 0.92

01:09:19.540 because you fucking didn't and it's gonna hurt you over and over and over again you don't win 0.95

01:09:24.500 you don't win them all bro no no no no if i'm if i was sitting here because this is it this is a 1.00

01:09:31.880 game of averages okay you want to win that you want unbreakable andy to win 99 of the time yes 0.97

01:09:40.180 there are going to be times where that weak version of you does fucking win and like you're 0.58

01:09:46.100 talking about tim it's going to create so much shame and so much regret that that even creates 1.00

01:09:53.520 more fuck you like oh you fucking got me motherfucker yeah that's never happened again 1.00

01:09:58.180 right like and you you that to me has been the biggest difference for me is to be able to become 1.00

01:10:07.900 aware of these two versions of myself and learn to obey one and to ignore the other and it's not 0.94

01:10:16.480 simply ignoring it it's like an anger towards it it's a fucking it's a fury towards it it's it's 1.00

01:10:24.200 people oh why are you so intense because dude i hate that motherfucker because of what it's cost 1.00

01:10:30.860 me okay and oh will you hate yourself yeah that part of myself i do fucking hate and that's okay 0.99

01:10:36.300 because the result of that is so fucking good that it's worth having a little bit of that and 0.99

01:10:44.180 honestly i don't think i think that if you don't have a little bit of that you're kind of fucked 0.97

01:10:48.460 that's my or you're lying to yourself now listen i've lived my whole life being me okay now maybe 0.96

01:10:54.040 there's other people that don't have that but i actually think that most of the people that come

01:10:57.720 out and they put on a pretty smile and they act like everything's positive and you know you know 0.99

01:11:03.860 this too bro you get them in fucking private and you get them to tell the truth they fucking have 0.98

01:11:10.140 it too they just don't fucking show it in the public they have it okay and i would i would 0.99

01:11:15.820 cultivate that and i would lean into that and i would identify that because then it helps you 0.99

01:11:20.220 not just be aware of your bitch voice and your boss voice but it's an actual person living inside 1.00

01:11:26.920 you that is trying to fuck your life up what would you do to someone who was coming in front of you 1.00

01:11:34.560 every day and was trying to get you to do all the wrong shit all the time you'd be like dude get the 1.00

01:11:40.020 fuck away from me yeah fuck off right like that's how i treat that version of myself and that version 1.00

01:11:45.820 of myself has gotten quieter and quieter and quieter and weaker and weaker weaker as i obey 1.00

01:11:51.880 the unbreakable part of myself but it's never going away no it doesn't and if i start to 0.92

01:11:56.560 fucking give into it you know one day and then two days and then three days that weak version 0.91

01:12:02.340 of yourself gets much stronger much quicker yes than the strong version of yourself so you got 1.00

01:12:08.640 understand it's not equal playing field okay you give that weak motherfucker a few decisions all 1.00

01:12:14.040 of a sudden bro he's got some fucking strength back he doesn't need a lot you know this guy over 1.00

01:12:18.660 here he needs a lot he needs a lot the the strong guy needs a lot of investment the weak guy he only 1.00

01:12:27.500 needs two or three days bro to fucking grip your ass right out of it man okay it is bro it's like 1.00

01:12:33.640 come on andy man i like dude you've been we've been working for you bro we've been on one year 1.00

01:12:37.100 fucking straight we take one night off bro come on man and you know what sometimes i do yeah 0.95

01:12:42.240 but that's your choice i'm gonna say i was that's you that i've seen that's your it's your choice 0.97

01:12:48.960 it becomes it becomes a choice as opposed to yeah and an order that you're obeying yeah and even

01:12:55.840 that one day it is not it's not over the top it's just it's just i've been with this man six year

01:13:02.280 i've seen it yeah i've seen it yeah it used to be over the top oh bro it's no longer this all

01:13:06.940 right i'm cool like you said a beer or whatever it is uh i'm good you start to recognize the

01:13:12.620 slippage really quick yeah you know what i'm saying like i think i think one of the biggest

01:13:16.640 things to recognize here is that when you're kind of just starting to identify these things and build

01:13:21.420 them up it's hard for you to recognize the the backward slips you're not understanding how fast

01:13:27.400 it can get out of control. 0.87

01:13:28.540 Well, if you look at a place,

01:13:29.640 you look at,

01:13:31.180 the one thing I always marvel

01:13:32.660 every time I come here to headquarters

01:13:35.280 is how spotless this place is.

01:13:38.440 Just every single room,

01:13:41.600 every single corner,

01:13:42.580 it is spotless.

01:13:43.900 So you see some dirt on the floor.

01:13:46.480 It's easy to identify.

01:13:48.540 It's easy to identify, all right?

01:13:52.780 If your place inside of you,

01:13:55.640 your mindset whatever is totally dirty all the time it's very hard play to find what you're

01:14:04.720 looking what you're looking for and that's what it just takes a little bit a little bit a little

01:14:09.780 bit a little bit you let one thing so you left one thing slip here you let one thing slip here

01:14:14.660 then another thing slips it's there's no negotiation this is what we do this is how

01:14:19.320 places are going to be run i was looking at the sign in your in your weight room first day 30 day

01:14:24.220 suspension second you're terminated that's it yeah that's it man that's it those are the standards

01:14:30.420 so that's it and there's no negotiations there's no nothing here here the here are the 10 steps

01:14:35.720 this is what i want you to do there's don't there's no exceptions here here here it is and if

01:14:41.580 you don't do this these are the consequences if you continue to do it these are the these are the

01:14:46.480 rewards that's it dude and also i think it's important to recognize that the more you obey

01:14:53.180 the boss version of you okay when you talk about changing your identity all right that first little

01:15:00.780 victory is not going to change your identity all right the identity changes after you've overcome

01:15:07.180 test after test after test after test over a period of time and then it becomes your identity

01:15:14.540 which becomes the standard okay and when your standard resets you are far less likely to move

01:15:21.040 back to who you used to be so when you say when did you have to or did you have to you know

01:15:28.220 completely change your identity i made the decision that i was going to change my identity

01:15:34.240 but my identity didn't actually change until i had created a track record to where i could be like 0.63

01:15:41.600 all right i am who the fuck i think i am with the caveat of understanding that i could very

01:15:49.480 easily be that person that i used to hate very quickly all right so yes you can change who the 0.99

01:15:57.840 fuck you are today in your brain but it's going to be a fragile decision okay what you live in 0.99

01:16:07.140 currently no matter if it's good or bad was created by a past version of you all right 1.00

01:16:13.560 that version of you literally created the outcome that you live in today and that is why your

01:16:20.720 identity if you are not doing well feels like well my identity is like losing all right

01:16:26.660 when you make that decision and you say this is enough yes you are technically no longer who the 0.82

01:16:37.900 fuck you were but that hasn't cemented yet that hasn't become like as permanent as we want it to 0.98

01:16:44.440 be it's never fully permanent okay the strongest foundation can still be fucking cracked 1.00

01:16:50.080 but as you go down the path it becomes stronger and stronger and stronger and 0.87

01:16:56.120 eventually you say something like i just said we're like i'm fucking unbreakable dude i'm 0.99

01:17:02.600 fucking unbreakable i don't give a shit what the fuck happens and i'm sure there's going to be 0.98

01:17:08.280 tests that come my way that are going to challenge that i know there are because that's what life is 0.99

01:17:12.120 i've had it happen to me over and over and over again but i've done enough and i've pushed through

01:17:17.760 enough of those to know who the fuck i really am okay and you have to be able to invest in that

01:17:27.080 identity not just say this is who i am okay that's the biggest difference but i'm going to tell you 0.96

01:17:33.700 something dude you're aware of this now this person is you're aware of this if you don't go 0.99

01:17:42.100 the rest of your life is going to fucking suck the minute that light bulb turns on and you're 0.97

01:17:46.660 like oh man i'm not living to what i should be i'm not who i should be i'm not this i oh i like 0.99

01:17:51.680 to have this or that that's awareness creeping into you and that's a great thing but it's a 0.93

01:17:57.780 terrible thing if you're not willing to fucking lay into it and build something around it because 0.97

01:18:01.640 you will fucking suffer your entire life and that is very important for you to understand 0.99

01:18:07.820 once you become aware of what it is you're supposed to be and you do not pursue that 1.00

01:18:13.940 you are at the beginning of however many years you have left on this planet of living hell 0.98

01:18:20.100 for real and that's a very important thing for you to understand you don't have a fucking choice 0.94

01:18:24.760 dude for whatever reason god shined a light on you and said this is what you could be even if 0.67

01:18:31.480 it was a fleeting thought even if it was something that just like and there's nothing you can do

01:18:37.820 about it bro you already seen it so now you can't unsee it that's right you know that's right dj

01:18:42.260 how much weight have you lost uh in total i'm at uh i'm at like 105 right now 105 all right you

01:18:48.740 lost 105 pounds you basically lost a person all right everything now that the weight is off

01:19:00.820 is better for you to do oh 100 everything everything well yeah everything everything 0.90

01:19:06.660 shopping fucking nighttime you know i'm saying everything everything everything yeah yeah bro 0.90

01:19:14.600 it's it's it's it's worth it that's all but it's it's about some new clothes that's about it you 0.99

01:19:20.920 know i'm saying shit's falling off on you but what tim's saying is like there's it's not like

01:19:25.900 there's not a reward here right right like right the progress that you make is the reward it's not 0.99

01:19:35.220 a it's not a finish line it's not it's not a fucking number it's not a check it's not a trophy 1.00

01:19:40.240 it's who the fuck you are bro that's the reward the reward is knowing who the fuck you are and 1.00

01:19:46.820 being proud of who you are because you have the awareness of what you could become and you chose 1.00

01:19:51.280 to become it that's the fucking reward man and eventually you know what you're gonna make money 0.98

01:19:56.540 you know what's gonna happen to you're gonna lose money okay you know what i mean like you're gonna 0.98

01:20:02.980 you're going to go through the ups and downs and this and that that's not that's not the dictation

01:20:06.920 of of of your greatness dude your personal greatness comes from your ability to get the

01:20:13.800 fuck up and keep moving and in the real world when we talk about competing that's why it makes

01:20:19.300 you such a formidable competitor because while other people stop and celebrate or other people 0.99

01:20:24.340 break down when the storm comes you don't and when you're that person you cannot be beat you

01:20:31.180 cannot be caught people can't make up ground on you and once you get ahead and you will because

01:20:36.160 everybody else will naturally quit or fall off or stop moving you get so far ahead to where it

01:20:41.560 becomes the ground cannot be made up yeah you know if you just if you're just aware of your

01:20:48.180 surroundings and where the people you're around everybody looks for individuals who are really 0.97

01:20:53.200 successful to inspire them and so forth sometimes you just need to look at somebody said i'm fucking

01:20:59.680 losing to that like seriously i'm losing to that i you look at literally i'm literally losing that's 0.97

01:21:09.400 what i'm that's what i'm fucking losing i'm losing to a fucking bucket of beers yeah i'm losing to a 0.99

01:21:15.600 pizza i'm losing to that fucking shitty version of myself that i see in the mirror i'm losing to 0.99

01:21:22.720 that dude yeah i'm losing to that are you fucking keep bro come on we're all better than that yes 1.00

01:21:31.160 every single one of you listening we're all better than that you just have to look at it the right way 0.98

01:21:36.420 man and like what you're describing and this is why i resonate so well with like with relentless

01:21:43.220 and winning and everything that you're about tim is because ultimately that's the message 0.97

01:21:49.700 you are losing to your fucking self you're not losing to other people are you in a competition 0.98

01:21:56.840 with other people yeah probably if you're in a business yeah absolutely if you're an athlete 1.00

01:22:00.820 absolutely you're losing them too yes but the reason that you are losing to them is because

01:22:06.400 you're losing to yourself first yep and that's the responsibility part that's the accountability

01:22:11.500 part and you ask when i change i changed when i made my wife take a picture of me 0.99

01:22:16.800 and actually i can tell you exactly when i change i can tell you fucking exactly i was on a fucking 0.98

01:22:25.380 private jet and the dude asked me if i need a seat belt extender oh man yeah it's fucking i got 0.99

01:22:34.280 so fucking pissed off dude like i wanted to fucking kill the did you need one no i didn't 0.99

01:22:41.160 the fact that he thought i did right dude it made me so angry and for like 10 minutes 0.99

01:22:50.340 this was at the beginning of the flight right oh yeah of course so for like the first 10 minutes 1.00

01:22:55.180 of the fucking flight i was like i'm gonna fucking choke this motherfucker the next time he walks by 0.99

01:23:00.780 yeah and and i and then you know he went up in the cockpit you know and and it was a private flight 1.00

01:23:05.780 and i'm looking at emily and i'm like i can't fucking believe that motherfucker and i started 0.98

01:23:10.480 to get embarrassed about what i was saying i started to get like dude it's not his fault 0.99

01:23:15.620 you're fucking fast he knew you he knew i knew he was right right i knew he was right and and by the 0.90

01:23:21.900 time i had landed on that flight i had made up my mind yeah and it was no fucking option so we were 0.99

01:23:29.080 i don't know we were doing um we had to we had uh an engagement at some island i can't remember 0.90

01:23:35.740 I can't remember where it was

01:23:37.200 it wasn't Epstein's

01:23:37.860 I was about to say

01:23:38.240 you got to be very careful

01:23:39.020 with that Tim

01:23:39.620 as soon as you guys

01:23:40.600 be careful with that Tim

01:23:41.780 one island Tim

01:23:43.600 no

01:23:45.360 it was one of the

01:23:46.500 it was one of the

01:23:47.440 it was a prop

01:23:48.180 it was a prop plane

01:23:49.040 and they were taking everybody

01:23:50.120 they asked everybody

01:23:51.060 how much you weigh

01:23:51.800 and they had everybody

01:23:52.340 step on a scale

01:23:53.140 and so forth

01:23:53.780 cause

01:23:54.520 there was a lot of

01:23:56.320 big people

01:23:57.420 and they had to distribute

01:23:59.000 like you can't sit

01:24:00.020 like if you were traveling

01:24:00.860 with somebody

01:24:01.240 you can't sit here

01:24:01.980 you gotta

01:24:02.200 oh my god

01:24:03.280 trying to even out the plane

01:24:04.160 they're trying to even

01:24:05.220 they're trying to even out they're trying to even out the plane oh man and and they and they

01:24:09.640 looked at share myself they said you know you guys just come on we don't we'll fit we'll fit 0.96

01:24:13.800 you guys in where i'm sure you were embarrassed as fuck for those other people that weren't you

01:24:17.260 i'm just like yeah and but i'm just the situations is like you got to look at something man i'm 0.95

01:24:24.040 literally that's that's what that's what i'm losing to there's so many people out listen

01:24:30.160 there's so many people that inspire me every single day not to be like them no man everyone

01:24:39.000 is you you know there's a few people you want to be like but if you literally look at it he said

01:24:43.540 there's so many there's more people that will inspire you just look at i i don't want that

01:24:48.620 it's not the life i want i don't want to look like that i don't want to feel like that i don't 0.61

01:24:52.100 want to do it that should be if that ain't enough i don't know what the hell what the hell is and 0.60

01:24:58.040 Exactly what you said.

01:24:59.020 You're losing to, you know, a glass of beer.

01:25:04.040 You're losing to a pizza.

01:25:05.200 You're losing to a hot dog.

01:25:07.300 And there are going to be times that you lose.

01:25:09.560 I talk about this all the time. 1.00

01:25:11.340 Fuck it. 1.00

01:25:11.780 Every time I go to Costco and I'm checking out, 1.00

01:25:14.600 that fucking menu is calling me. 0.99

01:25:16.820 Come on over here. 1.00

01:25:17.840 $1.50 hot dog.

01:25:18.840 No, bro.

01:25:19.360 Pizza.

01:25:19.980 That's good prices.

01:25:20.400 Yeah.

01:25:21.000 Great.

01:25:22.260 And sometimes it wins.

01:25:26.320 I'm not going to lie to you.

01:25:27.100 sometimes it wins

01:25:28.080 and then

01:25:30.140 and then I just look at myself 0.99

01:25:33.200 I'm like what the fuck 0.99

01:25:33.860 did I just do 0.98

01:25:34.540 sometimes when you get

01:25:36.360 really good

01:25:36.940 what'll happen is

01:25:38.260 you'll take a bite of that

01:25:39.980 first bite of that pizza 1.00

01:25:40.900 no fuck that 1.00

01:25:41.960 no more 1.00

01:25:42.180 yeah

01:25:42.540 that happened to me

01:25:44.120 with that

01:25:44.400 with a beer

01:25:44.980 I was about to have a beer

01:25:47.100 it was probably

01:25:47.580 four or five months ago

01:25:48.620 I was up at Billy G's

01:25:50.600 I ordered a beer

01:25:51.200 I took one drink of it

01:25:53.740 and I'm like 1.00

01:25:54.560 no fuck that 0.99

01:25:55.160 I don't want that 0.99

01:25:56.100 so it's listen we're we're no different than anybody else who's listening to this show we

01:26:03.240 go through the same trials and tribulations we probably have gone through more well that's what

01:26:07.900 makes you more powerful yeah all right you should lean into those storms all the time yeah all the

01:26:14.220 time all right dude i think the thing that is most powerful though when you say i don't want 0.99

01:26:20.820 to be anything like that motherfucker is when it's a past version of you yeah like when i look 0.99

01:26:27.580 at pictures of myself when i was big and fat like bro i know it sounds harsh i fucking hate 1.00

01:26:36.960 that motherfucker like if that were a physical being i would literally physically fucking murder 1.00

01:26:44.280 them right you know what i'm saying but the problem is that person always lives inside of 1.00

01:26:49.300 and you can't you can't completely kill it you can't completely kill yeah it's always there it's

01:26:53.860 always there and i think one of the biggest mistakes that people make is they do think

01:26:57.780 that they've conquered that they think it's they think it's already been beat i'm not that person 0.99

01:27:03.220 no motherfucker you are that person still that this is why people who drink alcohol and they 0.99

01:27:08.740 get addicted to alcohol they have to never drink it again because the minute they feed that version 1.00

01:27:14.980 of themselves that version gets

01:27:16.480 like a lot of its power back and

01:27:18.680 the minute they do it two or three days in a

01:27:21.020 row that person's back to full

01:27:22.860 strength yeah and

01:27:24.560 dude that's real 0.99

01:27:26.800 shit man you don't have to give 1.00

01:27:28.860 that weak version of yourself a whole lot for some 1.00

01:27:30.960 reason that version gets a lot

01:27:32.980 stronger off a little bit than

01:27:34.900 the unbreakable version

01:27:36.540 that's real man yeah bro

01:27:38.280 guys Andy Tim my man

01:27:40.800 that's a hell of a way to

01:27:42.380 I guess keep people moving

01:27:44.280 This is a little mid-week special here, man.

01:27:47.380 Yeah, yeah.

01:27:47.940 This was amazing, though, man.

01:27:49.220 Guys, really appreciate it.

01:27:51.080 We got anything else?

01:27:52.140 No, that was it.

01:27:52.740 I got a question for you guys.

01:27:54.040 Yeah.

01:27:54.460 All right, this is, and I've been waiting to ask about this.

01:27:57.620 You know, people put out, and this has got nothing to do with the questions.

01:28:00.640 So people have bucket lists.

01:28:02.780 You know, they always do bucket lists.

01:28:04.780 All right.

01:28:07.460 Andy, I think you had a bucket list that you might be the only person

01:28:11.260 that ever had this on the list in the world.

01:28:17.140 And I want to make sure I got this right. 0.99

01:28:18.400 Did you two drive a fucking tank to a gas station? 0.99

01:28:24.620 Yeah, we did. 1.00

01:28:25.660 Yeah, we did.

01:28:26.300 Yeah, we did.

01:28:27.180 Yeah.

01:28:28.200 Yeah.

01:28:29.060 Who has a kid who makes a bucket list and says,

01:28:32.080 I'm going to own a tank and I'm going to drive it to the local gas station

01:28:35.860 and fill it up and drive it?

01:28:38.440 I might be.

01:28:39.460 i mean we might be the the only people that ever did that yeah i'm like like there's certain

01:28:45.460 there's certain like like i always think about this this is like the weirdest thing ever but

01:28:49.300 like i think of like sentences that have never been said like you know like no one ever said

01:28:56.640 ever like well fuck maybe i'm wrong about this now but like no one ever said i'm gonna take 0.99

01:29:04.000 this hatchet and i'm going to cut off my own dick like but apparently someone caught on 0.99

01:29:11.620 that has definitely been said like like but i always think about like i always think about 0.99

01:29:16.700 weird shit like that like i'm like okay has and i know for like adventure people like they're like

01:29:22.300 has a human being ever stepped on this piece of soil right right um and i think about that in 0.99

01:29:29.420 terms of like things that have been said which like creates like all these wild ass things like

01:29:34.260 like what are sentences that have never been said like this combination of words has never come out

01:29:39.360 of somebody's mouth ever and uh it's funny because like i i never thought about that tank thing but

01:29:45.320 you know that's got to be i mean if somebody has done that it's i i mean i'm sure they did it in

01:29:50.980 like wars right like they go in the gas station and they fill up their tank but i don't think

01:29:54.700 anybody just like did it casually yeah so the next thing is next time you and your wife go out

01:29:59.560 to eat valet it yeah pull it up that's something no one's done put it up at the valet listen it 0.99

01:30:07.240 can hit the road yeah i'm just like this is like i'm like these two motherfuckers 0.95

01:30:12.040 and filled up i had to watch it again i'm like our next trick 0.95

01:30:16.780 it's going to be an apache helicopter right on the roof yeah man i i think about weird stuff

01:30:24.960 like that all the time like i i just think like where like i don't know you know i mean

01:30:31.960 athletes do this right all the time like how like look at the four minute mile no one ever ran a

01:30:38.340 four minute mile now it's like if you're if you want to compete you have to yeah you're not even

01:30:44.960 in the class anymore you're like yeah it's just but but that's that's what you know people say

01:30:50.940 think outside the box there is no box yeah just you just figure i'm gonna you know what let's go

01:30:58.300 do this yeah yeah let's go and that's why those things are so admirable right like you know you

01:31:04.660 like you look at like guys who have uh you know ridden their bicycle around the world or done like

01:31:10.740 um greg anderson right now is doing that row from from washington to hawaii and while that you know

01:31:18.160 other people have done that i mean very very few people have done that yeah man like it's like

01:31:24.320 something you see in a movie like people be stopping i could just be like oh we got people

01:31:28.440 stop yeah you know that's the kind where you're drinking something you seem to them a guy you 0.61

01:31:32.760 got to look at it and i fucking see what i just saw what i just saw do you know what's funny is 0.66

01:31:38.060 like normally when i go up there and i'm driving one of the cars like people will come over and 0.97

01:31:45.080 they'll look at the car and shit that day we took the tank up there nobody came around us 0.96

01:31:48.580 everybody was like like i think they were totally like what the fuck you know that was like one of 0.99

01:31:57.200 my most viewed instagram stories ever that was a good one yeah the mrap gets it too yeah the mrap's 0.98

01:32:01.760 cool yeah but yeah man you know it's uh there is no box you can do whatever you want you can

01:32:10.720 become whatever you want you can create whatever you want but i can tell you this it isn't going 0.99

01:32:16.160 to happen if you keep talking and listening to that bitch voice nothing great comes with that 0.99

01:32:20.600 nothing great and your only hope you have you have two hopes okay one actually something does 1.00

01:32:28.580 come out of that a great you become a great bitch yeah that's true yeah yeah and there's a lot of 0.99

01:32:34.300 those but you know if you're listening to this show you're already kind of fucked okay because 1.00

01:32:42.800 you already have the awareness that you want to be better you already have the awareness that you 0.80

01:32:47.600 want to become more you already have the awareness that you want to create something and you can't go

01:32:55.180 back okay so there's ignorance and then there's awareness and once you're aware unless you pursue 0.99

01:33:02.640 it you're fucked and that's it 1.00

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - May 27, 2026

1031. Q&AF Ft. Tim Grover： Avoiding Discomfort, Staying Motivated After Big Wins & Becoming Your Best Self

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