REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 1036. Q&AF： Potential Vs Execution, Handling Rapid Growth & Becoming Mentally Tough

00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy frisella and you're listening to the show for the realist say 0.99

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00:02:59.000 and uh don't be a hoe show the show what's up man back in action dog yeah dude yep last week we had 0.96

00:03:06.700 to uh i had to take a little little break you know had summer smash and then it's trying to 0.93

00:03:12.080 caught up and you know sometimes we go through these little phases with our podcast where you

00:03:17.960 know we uh we'll take a week or two and kind of chill out and and sometimes people get upset with

00:03:23.720 that but hey it is what it is man well i think people just they don't understand like this is

00:03:28.260 not all we do yeah you know in fact definitely not all i do definitely not all you do it costs

00:03:35.080 me money to do this um you know but we enjoy doing it and uh you know it's probably not going

00:03:41.020 to be the first time this summer that there's going to be some irregularities in the schedule 0.96

00:03:45.740 because i have a lot of shit planned this summer like life shit to do um you know one of the things 0.93

00:03:52.720 i'm going to do for sure is i'm going to ride more motorcycles which means i'm going to be gone for 0.98

00:03:56.380 a couple days at a time we might miss a show here and there uh but i just want to let you

00:04:01.220 guys know that you know it's going to continue and uh if the schedule isn't on point all the time

00:04:07.340 you know

00:04:07.780 that's the way it goes

00:04:10.500 I mean if you guys have complaints you can send that to

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00:04:16.480 yeah

00:04:16.720 no man it's gonna be great

00:04:20.600 and the good thing is guys we got a great lineup this week

00:04:23.120 yeah we got a guest on the show

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00:04:27.920 super good dude coming in

00:04:29.960 dude honestly man sometimes I just need a break 0.99

00:04:32.640 from talking about the shit you know like 0.99

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00:04:36.840 that we talk about is important but it's it's also like mind-numbing you know because it's like 1.00

00:04:43.580 you're literally talking about some of the dumbest craziest stupid shit that's going on in the world 1.00

00:04:52.180 from some of the most low iq corrupt individuals and it just sort of like wears on you a little 1.00

00:04:59.300 bit sometimes just tax it mentally for sure yeah that's that's not just what the irs does

00:05:04.980 you know what i'm saying like yeah it's a lot man yeah so you know just uh understand that and

00:05:11.420 you know we're gonna do the best that we can for you guys as always yeah as always and so why not

00:05:17.120 start off with making some people better that's i think that's the plan i got three good ones for

00:05:21.400 you guys andy let's get into these questions any question number one hey andy this one had

00:05:28.440 an exclamation point. So, Hey, yeah. Uh, Andy, I think one of my biggest problems is that I love

00:05:36.520 the idea of what I could become. I love setting goals, making plans, imagining the future,

00:05:43.860 but there's a huge gap between imagining a better life and actually doing the work required to

00:05:49.340 create it. Why do you think so many people fall in love with potential, but struggle with

00:05:56.500 execution oh first of all if you're so in love with this idea of the ultimate version of yourself

00:06:07.700 you think about it you dream about it you wish you were that already

00:06:13.380 how much regret do you actually think you're going to feel if you don't go out and build it

00:06:20.300 yeah okay most people they have regret and they don't even really think about what they want to

00:06:26.400 be they don't they get to the end of their life or they get to a certain point in their life where

00:06:30.960 they're like oh man i could have done more but those people didn't even take the time to draw

00:06:37.600 the vision in their mind and you have and you spend all this time thinking about what you could

00:06:43.340 be not realizing that's just gonna be that much harder to deal with if you don't become it and

00:06:51.340 what we're talking about here is awareness dude you're aware that you could be more you're aware

00:06:56.680 that you should be more you're aware that you want to be more and for that reason if you don't go out

00:07:01.780 and create it you're going to feel much worse than the average person who never takes the time

00:07:07.100 to actually think about what they could be so there's that and on top of that is this idea of

00:07:18.660 how the internet works right now you know it's so easy to escape from reality

00:07:26.820 and paint these pictures and visions and have these dreams about this life that you want to

00:07:34.540 live and the options are endless and you end up wasting your entire life dreaming of a life

00:07:44.600 that doesn't actually even exist. And so this is a big problem in society, especially now with the

00:07:52.600 technology that we have. It used to be you pick something and then you realize that you had to

00:08:01.400 work really hard to create that in reality. And now there's so many options and we see so many

00:08:09.260 people and we watch everybody else doing all of these things and we have a hard time picking what

00:08:14.920 we actually want to do that we end up doing nothing and we end up spending years of our lives

00:08:20.060 wishing we were doing something else but failing to make a choice and to go out it here's the

00:08:26.680 reality dude you got to choose you got to make a choice what do you want to do who do you want to

00:08:32.600 be where do you want to live you can't do all the things dude okay that's the thing very rarely do

00:08:41.120 people get to have the life of all the things right like to get you get to a billionaire status

00:08:46.680 and you can fly a private jet and you can go to your ranch in montana and you go to your house

00:08:52.420 in florida and you can visit your businesses that's ultimate freedom but very very few people

00:08:59.080 get to that point. And the only way they got to that point was they made a decision earlier to

00:09:04.680 get to a certain point. They got to that point and then they made another decision to keep going

00:09:09.080 and it compounds. So the younger that you can realize this, the better because we are on

00:09:15.800 a limited timeframe. And I think the internet really damages people in this way because they

00:09:22.720 have such a hard time making a choice because we're so busy watching everybody else live their

00:09:29.040 lives that we like have a hard time choosing and by the way i do this okay like when i look at

00:09:36.900 like i look at property every single night on the internet and dude i look at houses on the water

00:09:42.100 on the beach and then i look at ranches in montana and then i look at farms in tennessee and then i 0.93

00:09:48.140 look at villas in italy and i'm like fuck dude like what am i gonna do go to all these places 0.79

00:09:55.800 and like and then you know what happens i miss that day that i'm actually living the dream 0.93

00:10:02.680 that i set for myself 20 years ago because i'm thinking of these other things and that's something

00:10:12.300 that we have to be cognizant of and all of us can fall into it including myself and um so i just

00:10:19.640 want to say that because so many of you guys are stuck where you are because you're failing to make

00:10:28.580 a decision about where to go next yeah so you got to pick a path said you blamed it on social media 0.98

00:10:33.180 knew who i think's their fault it's fucking bo jackson bro bo jackson because he did everything 0.97

00:10:38.440 and like but the game's changed now well you have kids now that are like in nine years old 0.98

00:10:44.280 and they're dedicating the rest of their life to one thing now yeah yeah well i mean look man

00:10:49.080 everybody who's ever created big big lies big success and that's a relative term okay

00:10:56.600 but like look at a guy like elon musk he just became the world's first trillionaire yeah all

00:11:02.640 right can't even comprehend no one can okay but here's the thing he didn't start out saying hey

00:11:11.200 man i want to go to fucking mars and i want to fly spaceships and that's not what he did 0.84

00:11:16.760 he started out he said here's a problem and i have a solution that doesn't exist 0.94

00:11:26.140 in reality that i can build and it can be a solution it can make money that company was

00:11:30.640 called paypal all right and you could argue how he got into paypal this that here's the reality

00:11:35.760 he gets the credit for paypal that's it no okay everybody's like well he stole the idea or he

00:11:41.660 doesn't fucking matter what matters is when people say how did elon get started he created 0.95

00:11:48.160 fucking paypal then he took the paypal money it was like 200 million bucks z look it up 0.99

00:11:54.140 it was it was it was a lot of money but it wasn't a lot of money compared to what he is now yeah 0.99

00:11:59.260 he rolled that into other shit so then he got here and then he said i want to go there 0.95

00:12:05.460 all right and then when he got there you know he started to build tesla and you know then he went 0.98

00:12:11.840 to these other things and then and that's how it goes and that's how you end up in that life

00:12:16.460 where you literally have the ultimate freedom and i know not everybody wants to win on that level

00:12:22.640 what you got 178 million okay so pretty close 200 the

00:12:29.520 it compounds okay and i know not everybody wants that big of a life you don't have to but you

00:12:39.240 should want a bigger life than the one you actually think you want because everybody's

00:12:44.940 heard that saying shoot for the moon and you'll land among the stars there's a lot of truth to

00:12:50.000 that all right you may not actually get to that big goal but you might get 80 percent there so

00:12:56.220 you need to make sure that that goal is so big that if you only get to the 80 it's awesome all

00:13:01.740 right so these are the the differences of how like the big winners think about things and how

00:13:11.380 things actually materialize and a lot of people back to this person's question they spend their

00:13:18.480 lives dreaming and dreaming and dreaming you know something i had to do that was different than like

00:13:24.120 a lot of the younger people now you know we didn't have social media dude we had magazines

00:13:30.700 so like I'd look at magazines and I'd be like dude look at this house and then I'd have to get

00:13:35.500 in my car and I'd have to like drive to the rich neighborhood and like look at it and like now

00:13:42.020 we're just so inundated with all these things that it's almost like it becomes meaningless and

00:13:48.180 it doesn't impress you the way that it would if you actually had to go seek it out so you have

00:13:53.400 to correct this line of thinking and be able to make a decision about what you really want.

00:14:00.000 But dude, to answer this person's question, why do I think there's a big difference between what

00:14:06.200 people want and how they get it? I think there's a lot of reasons why. I think those things I just

00:14:10.940 said are a big reason why. Okay. The dream is too available. It's too easy to dream. And by the way,

00:14:17.320 when you're bored that's the time that you create and so we're filling the creation time

00:14:24.560 that we used to have like when i was bored i'd sit down and draw out these business plans and

00:14:30.840 think about how i was going to do things and i had time to plan out the play and and make calls

00:14:35.800 and do do these things to actively make this happen now that time is just filled with more 0.53

00:14:41.800 fucking meaningless dreaming okay so i'm not saying you shouldn't dream but i'm saying you 0.64

00:14:47.400 should make a decision about what the dream is and then fill that time that you waste looking at all 0.99

00:14:53.480 the other dreams with a plan to create the one that you've chosen and so i think that's a big

00:14:59.180 part of it i think the biggest part of it though is that there's a massive disparity between what

00:15:05.180 people think it takes and what it actually takes and i think because the internet is so full of 0.95

00:15:13.180 shit in regards to how many people pretend to win versus actually winning that people think it's 0.99

00:15:21.660 easy and they think that like you know if they don't hit a home run their first time at bat that 0.99

00:15:26.180 it wasn't meant for them right if you're not driving a lamborghini by the time you're 25

00:15:30.540 then you don't have what it takes but you don't realize that even those people first of all most

00:15:38.040 of those people are lying they're renting their car they're strategically marketing themselves

00:15:43.960 in a way that makes them appear to be successful when they actually are and then they sell you

00:15:48.960 something which makes them a little money we all know the game at this point

00:15:53.380 what what happens is is that people think they're doing it wrong it's it's like

00:15:59.540 in the early days of fitness before the internet came around the biggest product that was sold was

00:16:07.000 like lose weight quick lose weight fast lose weight easy and that didn't exist at that time

00:16:14.140 that wasn't a real thing but you could make that promise and people would buy it and what it would

00:16:20.080 happen is, and this is actually the fundamental basis that our entire ecosystem and our fitness

00:16:26.680 companies is based upon. What would happen is people who struggle with their weight. And if

00:16:31.820 you've ever struggled with your weight, you understand what I'm about to say. They would

00:16:37.920 look for this solution and then this hack, and then that next solution. And they would try three

00:16:42.140 or four of these weight loss solutions or these programs or these pills or this powder, and they

00:16:48.200 would never lose weight and then what ends up happening is they would just give up and they

00:16:51.820 would say well it's just in my genetics and they'd start telling themselves a story about why it

00:16:57.660 wouldn't happen which actually caused them to lose all the rest of the potential for the rest of their

00:17:05.280 lives of what they could live and how they could be and that's very damaging and ethically wrong

00:17:10.780 and you know the whole fundamental basis uh and i think the i know the reason that we've been at

00:17:17.440 the top of this game for decades now is because we actually do what we're supposed to do we help 0.82

00:17:26.020 regular people get real results and that requires fucking work okay that requires effort that 0.66

00:17:33.860 requires doing certain things and i think we've lost that in society as a whole i think it's 0.99

00:17:42.120 coming back a little bit now because people are realizing how much bullshit it is but you know we 0.97

00:17:48.460 have so many of these people that appear to come out of nowhere and all of a sudden they're rich 0.98

00:17:53.280 and when you have young people who are and when I say young I mean young in entrepreneurship

00:18:00.600 they could be 30 they could be 40 they could be 50 they're just starting out when they see these

00:18:06.440 people and they and they go out and they try these things and they don't work the same thing happens 0.99

00:18:12.080 to them what happens is they say after three or four things they're like well fuck I must not have 0.84

00:18:17.140 what it takes it never occurs to them that they're being marketed to and they're being lied to and 0.81

00:18:22.420 they're being misled which actually causes them to give up on their dreams which is incredibly

00:18:28.580 damaging to culture and society because that person's success would inspire so many more

00:18:34.860 people in culture if they just understood the real path and that's why I've always been so

00:18:39.920 adamant about telling people the way that it really is, even though I probably could have

00:18:46.360 made way more money making it seem like it was way easier. Right. But dude, I don't feel good

00:18:53.260 about that. That's not the truth. The truth is it's hard as fuck. It takes everything you got.

00:18:58.360 It's not a hobby. It's not casual. It's very intense. It's very urgent. And yes, that is not

00:19:05.020 for everyone so you should know what the fuck you're signing up for so there's that too but 0.99

00:19:10.380 ultimately i think the reason that most people can't achieve their dreams throw all that shit 0.99

00:19:15.120 to the side i think these are all contributing factors is because they don't understand that 0.96

00:19:21.380 learning how to execute having discipline building grit having tenacity building resilience

00:19:29.720 perseverance the ability to endure mental toughness these are skill sets that you must acquire

00:19:38.300 and then maintain and keep sharp throughout your life okay i was just like most people for most of

00:19:45.940 my life dude i looked at other people who had the ability to do things that were really hard for me

00:19:52.420 and i thought that they were just born that way all right i remember a very specific instance

00:19:59.560 where i had to question this and it's going to sound stupid when i tell you the story but i can

00:20:05.960 remember exactly where i was dude i had a buddy of mine his name was ty he actually has passed

00:20:11.660 away now he's he he uh he something it was a bad deal but he passed away we were at a cardinals 0.60

00:20:20.080 game at bush stadium and ty was fucking always in really good shape dude he was always in great 0.85

00:20:26.520 shape and i always looked at ty and i was like dude this guy's got the freakiest genetics ever 0.88

00:20:35.480 it's so easy for him he just looks good all the time but yet every time i went to the gym guess

00:20:41.920 who was in the gym oh ty was in the gym so i knew that he worked out i knew that he worked hard but

00:20:48.340 i still told myself oh it's his genetics this is genetics but it like it wasn't registering to me

00:20:53.540 fully right like these are just things i was telling myself ignorantly thinking yeah well i

00:20:58.160 was justifying my lack of dedication to that area of my life because i felt like if i could tell

00:21:05.840 myself that story it would make me feel better about myself all right and that's what everybody

00:21:10.560 does but there was this one instance we were at a st louis cardinals baseball game and there was

00:21:17.280 like 10 of us there and ty was there and i remember he was sitting right behind me we had like

00:21:24.160 we had like five seats and then five seats like behind okay and i look i'm we're all drinking 0.89

00:21:32.520 beers and you know i got a fucking nachos and all the shit right and i'm looking to the left 0.93

00:21:38.320 or to the right and everybody's having fun i turn around i look at ty and ty's sitting there with a 0.99

00:21:42.980 big huge cup of water with ice in it and then in his nacho tray was just all turkey meat it was 0.98

00:21:50.400 just all turkey meat and i'm like why the fuck are you eating turkey meat bro like at a baseball 0.98

00:21:58.020 game and then it clicked in my head immediately i'm like damn this is why ty looks the way 0.99

00:22:05.180 fucking ty looks okay and then i then my immediate thought was man that guy's man he's got some 0.98

00:22:12.240 serious discipline i don't have that so then i started telling myself another story and the next 0.98

00:22:16.820 story i told myself was oh well he has discipline and i just don't have it he wasn't born with

00:22:22.620 genetics dude it took me another 10 years after that another 10 years to figure out that this is

00:22:30.880 a skill and not something you're born with and so i think that simple acknowledgement

00:22:37.540 from looking at people who have their shit together physically financially in their life

00:22:44.320 and saying well they just have this discipline that i don't have and if you could simply just

00:22:50.740 shift that perspective to they've invested in a skill set that i haven't learned yet just as if

00:22:57.060 you would look at our friend jamie johnson who is a tremendous guitar player tremendous singer

00:23:02.780 well he's been doing that since he was a teenager right okay so you could look at someone like that

00:23:10.100 and you could say man he's so gifted but that's really kind of an insult because he's been 0.50

00:23:15.420 practicing that his whole entire life and now he's a fucking legend okay if you did something 0.91

00:23:22.160 for 30 years you'd be pretty fucking good at it too and that's the reality that people don't 0.97

00:23:27.920 understand. They don't understand that it takes way longer than you think. It costs way more than 0.82

00:23:33.980 you think in terms of effort and life, what you think is sacrifices, which are actually investments

00:23:40.360 if you follow through, but also just acknowledging that the one skill that you actually lack

00:23:49.280 that's keeping you from being able to go from that dream to reality outside of just choosing

00:23:54.340 what you want is you haven't learned how to adhere to a plan, okay, which is called discipline,

00:24:02.620 all right? And once you fix that one skill set, the ability to draw out a plan and adhere to it

00:24:09.300 and stick to it, now you're in a position of power because most people can't do that.

00:24:14.960 most people lack the ability to stick to a plan long enough for the results to materialize 0.98

00:24:24.440 and if chefs did this we'd have some shitty motherfucking food okay just like cooking a 0.98

00:24:33.960 meal and you go get a cookbook and it has a set of directions if you lack the ability to follow 0.99

00:24:39.780 the directions how's your food going to turn out okay now if you lack the ability to follow a set

00:24:45.360 of directions over the course of your life how's your life going to turn out it's going to turn out

00:24:50.300 by circumstance and that's why so many people think that they are not in control of what they 0.93

00:24:55.920 actually do when in reality they're in control of all of the shit that matters and we tell 0.89

00:25:00.740 ourselves these stories over and over and over again about how we're not actually in control 0.92

00:25:05.700 but the truth is you're just telling yourself that a because you may not have figured it out

00:25:09.920 yet or b you don't want to actually address the problem and become the kind of person that can 0.93

00:25:14.940 follow a plan so once you once you sort through all of this shit and you say and you acknowledge 0.94

00:25:21.500 all right man i don't have the discipline i don't have the grit i don't have the mental 0.85

00:25:26.260 toughness i don't have the tenacity and the fortitude i don't have the ability to persevere 1.00

00:25:31.920 past that first punch in the fucking face. Okay. And the second and the third and the 0.99

00:25:38.100 hundredth. Once you acknowledge that you could start to become that kind of person. And once

00:25:44.280 you become the kind of person that can not just follow through, but can get literally

00:25:49.440 everything ripped away from them. You can lose your home. You can lose your arm. You

00:25:54.520 could fucking get sick. You bad things can happen. The weather can be bad. A hurricane 1.00

00:26:00.780 can come fucking a blizzard it doesn't matter and you still continue to go you cannot be fucked with 0.99

00:26:08.140 you your success becomes inevitable because you refuse to quit and you have the skill set of 0.99

00:26:14.740 following through especially when you don't feel like it and especially when everybody else quits

00:26:21.540 and when you do that over the course of time you end up being the person standing on the mountain

00:26:27.620 when everybody else went back down that's how it works and there's no magic to it dude it's not

00:26:32.940 glory it's not it's not romantic it's not fun all the time but i'll tell you what is fun what is 0.78

00:26:41.180 fun is when you can look back and you can say i saw all this shit in my head 20 years ago now i'm

00:26:46.680 living it that's fun you know so we got to be real about what it actually takes and you ask what

00:26:53.640 keeps most people, that's what keeps most people away from it, dude. They can't acknowledge or

00:26:59.240 they're ignorant to the fact that it takes a skill set that you must develop and practice and keep

00:27:07.020 sharp over the course of your life to make that dream happen once you've chosen it. And this is

00:27:13.860 why when people, this is why we built live hard. This is why 75 hard exists because it's the number

00:27:19.180 one problem that keeps people from success okay it's not just about getting your body in shape

00:27:25.900 it's about sharpening the skill set of discipline and you know people who criticize 75 hard they'll

00:27:31.620 say things like well if it worked you wouldn't have to do it twice well i mean i don't know bro 0.98

00:27:36.100 you gotta take a shower every fucking day gotta wash your nuts you know what i'm saying like 0.98

00:27:39.660 it's a perishable skill set you know you guys at the security company you got to keep your 1.00

00:27:45.340 shooting up oh yeah you got to practice shooting every week if you don't shoot for four weeks

00:27:49.660 your shooting goes down it's the same thing with musical instruments it's the same thing with

00:27:55.660 training to run a race it's this it's the same thing and for some reason society looks at these

00:28:03.740 things and they think that they are traits instead of skill sets and if you can make the mental shift

00:28:08.860 and understand that your discipline is the most important thing that you can develop and 0.99

00:28:15.220 if you develop it then keep it sharp you are once you get that dude you're fucking you're you're not 0.84

00:28:22.000 limited by anything you're not limited by anything because it doesn't matter what happens you're 0.88

00:28:26.320 going to keep going so you know that's the game dude and like all these hacks and you know everybody 0.76

00:28:35.780 likes the the story of oh man you know i i built this funnel and i fucking made ten thousand dollars 0.80

00:28:43.900 today cool man what about next week what about in the next year what do you have to sell later 0.70

00:28:50.580 like the whole idea of entrepreneurship has gotten so watered down and convoluted

00:28:59.400 that people really don't even understand what the fuck it is or what it takes or how hard it is or

00:29:05.240 how long it is and this is why some of the most successful people in the world you don't even 0.98

00:29:11.440 know who the fuck they are because they're they're understanding that they're building an actual 0.65

00:29:15.980 mechanism an actual company with enterprise value because that's how people get wealthy they they 1.00

00:29:21.660 build enterprise value and they sell or borrow against it but instead they see social media as 0.74

00:29:28.540 their their fucking business and it's like yeah that works today but what's your mechanism what's 0.93

00:29:34.460 your machine how's this what are you feeding it into okay and that's a whole nother discussion 0.99

00:29:40.420 but to answer the question man you got to make the shift you got to make a choice you got to

00:29:47.420 use the time that you would think about what it is what else you want to do make a choice

00:29:53.300 take the rest of the time build the plan get yourself in a position where you can execute the

00:29:58.720 plan and be able to keep going longer than everybody else and if you can do that i always

00:30:05.640 say it comes down to two things man it come down to one if you're intelligent enough to not make

00:30:12.780 the same mistakes over and over again you know you might make the same mistake twice but definitely 0.75

00:30:16.740 don't make it three times and also you could develop the ability to not fucking quit no matter 0.95

00:30:22.020 what fucking happens bro there's nothing that can stop you it just you can't be stopped you can't 0.97

00:30:27.120 be stopped yeah i love it dude i love it guys andy question number two andy i started a pressure 0.99

00:30:34.780 washing company three years ago as a side hustle i know you don't like the word side hustle

00:30:39.980 but now it's doing way more business than i ever expected which sounds like a good problem to have

00:30:45.800 but honestly i feel like i'm making it up as i go i'm hiring people i've never managed before

00:30:50.900 signing contracts i've never dealt with before and making decisions that affect other people's

00:30:56.480 livelihoods did you ever have a period where your business was growing faster than your confidence

00:31:02.960 this is how it works dude have you not seen the meme where like it shows the entrepreneur

00:31:09.020 standing on the cliff and he jumps off the cliff and figures out how to build the glider on the

00:31:13.840 way down like this is the problem that most people think most people think it's acquire

00:31:19.060 knowledge acquire knowledge acquire knowledge acquire knowledge then go okay but tell me a

00:31:23.980 single job that you've ever had or ever known about where you don't learn how to do the job 0.95

00:31:29.780 on the fucking job okay like you can read the manual you can watch the videos you can you know 1.00

00:31:36.360 take the training course but until you get in the fucking game you don't know what the fuck you're 1.00

00:31:41.260 doing okay so i give you massive amounts of respect because you figured out what being an 0.99

00:31:48.280 entrepreneur is about which is about going before you're ready okay most people will sit down and 0.73

00:31:54.960 they will consume podcasts and they will consume courses and they will read all this shit and they 0.98

00:32:00.280 will think about it. And then they'll constantly say, well, I'm not ready. I'm not ready. I'm not 0.98

00:32:04.240 ready. And then all of a sudden 20 years have gone by and they're an on paper expert with

00:32:09.940 fucking zero dollars in the bank account, nothing to show for it. Okay. If you're such a fucking 0.98

00:32:14.380 expert and you know so much shit, then why the fuck haven't you done anything? That's the truth. 1.00

00:32:20.160 okay you have to go first and then figure it out do you think i knew what i was doing when i 0.85

00:32:26.620 fucking hired my first employee or when i fired my first employee or when i signed my first lease 0.99

00:32:33.080 or when i i fucking didn't know shit bro the first time a dude came in to fucking buy a product back 1.00

00:32:40.320 in fucking 1999 the first real customer not the one i knew not your friends okay the dude comes in 0.99

00:32:49.420 i remember it dude the thought never occurred to me and i guess you know like we taught the 0.97

00:32:55.300 thing now is retard maxing right that's right like it's it's and what it means people think 0.88

00:33:00.280 it's funny but what they don't they don't understand it's actually a super fucking true 0.97

00:33:03.860 concept okay stop thinking about shit and just go fucking do it okay i remember this example dude 0.97

00:33:12.020 this dude comes in and i've told this story before he comes in he looks around and he's 0.99

00:33:20.840 looking at the products and he goes over to this i remember the product exactly it's a product from

00:33:25.620 a company called muscle tech and it was a product called cell tech the only reason that i knew that

00:33:34.380 to order the product in the first place is because i went to another store and i saw that they had it 0.98

00:33:40.480 so i'm like all right well we probably gotta have that too that's how much shit i didn't know 0.53

00:33:45.280 okay do you know how i came up with the first inventory list of the our first order 0.95

00:33:50.400 you you want to know i don't know you know this story z you never heard this never heard this 0.97

00:33:56.620 story no about the camera so dude so i went in to fucking uh there was a fucking something this 0.98

00:34:04.800 is so kind of fucked up but i'm gonna tell the story so i went in now back in the day we had 0.98

00:34:10.740 these those little yellow kodak cameras that were like disposable oh yeah okay and you wound them up 0.98

00:34:15.880 you clicked you wound them up you clicked so listen this this would make the point this makes 0.95

00:34:22.600 the point of what i'm trying to make i didn't even know what fucking products to order so 0.97

00:34:28.560 i went into this fucking supplement store that was in the gym i worked out in 0.98

00:34:33.700 and they had a fucking uh like a laminated price list okay so they had all the products 0.99

00:34:42.400 and then it was a ring there was a ring that connected like three pages 0.95

00:34:45.840 i took the price list i took my camera and i took pictures of it okay because i couldn't take it 0.98

00:34:52.660 home there was no cell phone shit yeah so i like sneakily fucking grabbed the shit took pictures 0.97

00:34:57.920 of it took the thing to fucking walmart got the fucking list uh developed and then those are the 0.99

00:35:04.280 products i ordered that's great that's how i started the that's how i knew what to order 0.99

00:35:08.540 okay that's incredible so so listen so this guy comes into the store and he's looking at this 0.96

00:35:15.740 product called cell tech and i'm like he fucking and bro this didn't even occur to me like i hadn't 0.99

00:35:22.500 even you want to talk about retard maxing bro i was the biggest fucking retard maxer they're 0.99

00:35:27.460 fucking ever was i was the og of it you maxed out all i knew was that i'm doing it yeah that's it 0.99

00:35:32.900 dude and that's all you gotta know by the way so this guy comes in and it never occurred to me that 0.97

00:35:39.580 like i should probably like know all these products okay dude seriously man it never even 0.85

00:35:46.900 occurred to me so this guy comes in he fucking looks at the product and i remember it was over 0.85

00:35:52.780 on the right side of the store and i was behind the counter and he had to go around the left to 0.97

00:35:56.120 get out and the guy the guy walks in and he's like he picks up the cell tag and he's looking he's 0.99

00:36:01.660 like what's this do and i'm like and it dawned on me i'm like oh fuck like i don't fucking know 0.91

00:36:08.400 so i like nonchalantly like walked around the counter and like acted like i was gonna just 0.90

00:36:13.820 come out there and talk to him and i picked it up i turned it around and i said well it says here 0.95

00:36:20.020 and i just started reading the shit that it said on the fucking label dude and one of the things 0.98

00:36:24.980 it said on the label because it had creatine in it it said gain seven pounds in seven days 0.99

00:36:30.080 and i said dude seven pounds in seven days that sounds pretty good to me like that like yes dude

00:36:37.340 that's where i started and he bought it that's okay but like this the point i'm making here 0.97

00:36:43.500 is that the difference between people who do shit and people who don't is people that have 0.91

00:36:49.720 the courage to just go or the ignorance to go without having to know everything okay 0.99

00:36:56.840 and dude you know so when you say oh you know uh like i first time i hired i didn't know what 0.95

00:37:06.080 no shit yeah like you're not going to know anything the first time you do it and by the way 0.99

00:37:10.900 that's how you learn okay you're going to hire the wrong person they're going to fuck you over 1.00

00:37:16.340 you're going to recognize why and then the next time that same kind of person comes around 0.95

00:37:20.660 you're going to be able to be like oh i remember what happened last time and you're not going to

00:37:24.280 do that uh when you sign a contract and you don't read the whole thing and then all of a sudden it 0.76

00:37:28.520 creates a big fiasco uh then the next time which by the way all this shit's happened to me the next 0.91

00:37:34.060 time it's going to come through you i'm like well i fucking better read the contract and then you're 0.98

00:37:37.420 going to see that little part that fucked you over and you're going to be like no not doing that 0.98

00:37:40.960 okay and then it's all these little lessons compounded over and over and over and over again 0.79

00:37:46.800 to give you the skill set and this is why people are have it wrong they're so afraid to make

00:37:52.600 mistakes not realizing that the mistakes are what create the wisdom that 10 15 years down the road

00:37:59.240 allow you to become a super effective operator and business owner all right so yes i've been there

00:38:07.280 yes i understand what that is and yes every single person that's ever built anything significant 0.99

00:38:12.800 did not know what the fuck they were doing when they started dude they just had balls and they 0.99

00:38:18.740 had courage and they said fucking i'm doing this and they went and figured it out and they didn't 1.00

00:38:22.940 give a shit if people made fun of them they didn't give a shit that they look stupid or they stumble 0.99

00:38:28.240 or they made mistakes they didn't care because they had made a decision about what they were 1.00

00:38:32.260 going to do. And they said, they figure it the fuck out. And right now we deal in this, in this, 0.95

00:38:37.260 in this, uh, era where there's so much fucking information and so many different opinions, 0.88

00:38:43.540 which by the way, 99% of the opinions are from people who have never done anything. 0.96

00:38:49.840 All right. This is why I'm so hard on these guru people on the internet.

00:38:54.880 You should not listen to fucking anybody who hasn't built something real that you can see. 0.99

00:39:01.620 if you can't see it you shouldn't listen to them because it's marketing bullshit 1.00

00:39:07.760 a lot of these people will say oh i built this and this and this and this and this 0.97

00:39:12.200 but you never see it how come what benefit do they get from hiding what they built from you

00:39:19.180 if they were trying to sell coaching and trying to help people and show people 0.97

00:39:22.840 wouldn't it make sense for them to show all the shit that they built and like make it open to 0.96

00:39:27.580 the public to see how could that hurt them it could only hurt them if it wasn't true and we 0.99

00:39:35.140 have to get we have to become more intelligent about who we're listening to when it comes to 0.85

00:39:42.040 these opinions about success you know ed my let and i who have both built multiple fucking companies 0.66

00:39:47.740 big ones we have this group called rt syndicate where we coach other entrepreneurs i i did my 0.56

00:39:55.340 call two nights ago and one of the questions that was in the call was this uh woman who's been in

00:40:01.460 the group for a long time she said well i'm listening to this person and they're saying do

00:40:06.840 this and then this person and they're saying to do this and then this person and they're saying

00:40:10.580 to do this and she's like i don't know who to listen to i'm like because you're listening too 1.00

00:40:14.700 many fucking people bro okay when you get on the nfl team you listen to your fucking coach 0.99

00:40:20.140 you don't call the coaches and the other team and say what the fuck do i do they're all going to 1.00

00:40:24.460 tell you some other shit okay you have to make a decision about whose information you're going to 0.99

00:40:30.140 listen to and by the way there's probably fucking five people on the internet that are actually 0.99

00:40:36.040 real entrepreneurs who have proven time and time and time and time again that they understand how 0.98

00:40:43.160 to fucking win pick one of them and fucking listen to what they say and everybody else don't listen 0.92

00:40:49.600 to it because it's just going to get you frozen with you know the paradox of choice the paradox 0.99

00:40:56.180 of choice is basically when you present someone with too much information they choose nothing

00:41:01.560 okay like it's too many options if i have product a b c d e f g and and i show them all to someone

00:41:10.880 people can't choose but if i have a and b they can make a real choice so think about that in

00:41:16.380 terms of your information that you're consuming you have person one person two person three person

00:41:21.540 four all the way to person 50 and you're trying to figure out who's telling what bro pick the most 0.92

00:41:28.260 credible motherfucker listen to what they say and your chances of a positive outcome go up 0.92

00:41:34.380 exponentially and you won't get frozen by the overwhelming amount of choices that you have 0.99

00:41:40.520 so to answer the question dude uh yeah that's how entrepreneurship works you figure it out as you go

00:41:49.120 that's how it works did you did you learn like what did you do after the cell tech situation 0.92

00:41:54.640 i fucking learned i figured out like oh well i better learn this shit so i mean dude we only 0.98

00:41:59.580 saw one customer a day if we were lucky back then so i spent the rest of my time 0.99

00:42:04.420 literally going around and reading all the labels and reading the the listen man you got

00:42:10.340 understand the internet wasn't a thing there was no like i couldn't go on the internet and like

00:42:18.240 find out shit it wasn't like that there was like email like there was email but like there was 0.99

00:42:24.860 chat forums but like you don't know who the fuck you're talking to so i went around and i fucking 0.99

00:42:30.380 i i started reading all the shit and then the shit that i didn't know i would go get books 0.99

00:42:36.040 i buy books on the topic and read about that part of it that i didn't know and i accumulated all the 0.98

00:42:42.280 knowledge you know and over the course of 10 years of doing that i became a very knowledgeable person

00:42:48.360 about these things you know i surrounded myself like dude i get on the phone with people i would

00:42:53.440 call people who were phds in these things and i would ask for an hour of their time and i would

00:43:00.740 have a discussion and they you know and back then people would just tell you yeah way more

00:43:06.200 accessible ironically way more people were made way more well now everybody's you know they want

00:43:10.420 to they want to fucking posture and they want to charge and you know but like bro you got to 0.98

00:43:17.200 remember like these guys who were running these studies and shit back then no one gave a fuck 0.99

00:43:23.000 about them these are just dudes sitting in their office running fucking studies on you know muscle 0.97

00:43:28.180 protein synthesis and you know fat loss and like all these different things so like i'd figure out 0.99

00:43:34.280 where the fuck they were and i'd call them on the phone they were probably excited yes yes and so i

00:43:40.540 just did what i had to do to talk to credible people to to increase what i knew and then you 0.99

00:43:45.680 know after a number of years you know the next day the next day i knew more next six months i knew 0.99

00:43:51.180 more the next three years i knew a lot more and after 10 years i fucking knew what the fuck i 0.83

00:43:55.620 needed to know but you went yeah i love it dude i love it guys andy our third and final question 0.95

00:44:02.920 andy uh question number three andy i'm 31 and i recently went through a rough stretch

00:44:09.660 work was stressful money was tight and there were some family stuff going on all at the same time

00:44:14.980 what bothered me wasn't the situation it was how i handled it i got short with people i stopped

00:44:21.040 taken care of myself and basically abandoned every habit I'd built. It made me realize that

00:44:27.180 when life gets hard, I become a completely different person. So how do you build the

00:44:32.020 kind of character that doesn't disappear the second things get difficult? Well, you got to

00:44:39.060 invest in building yourself into that kind of person. That's what we talk about with live hard.

00:44:43.380 Okay. If you can only operate when everything's good, um, I hate to break it to you, but you're

00:44:48.940 not going to be able to operate most of the time as an entrepreneur because most of the time as 0.98

00:44:52.920 an entrepreneur shit's burning the fuck down even whenever everybody's smiling and they're 0.99

00:44:57.800 pretending it's good there's so much bad shit happening that you're trying to solve you're 0.99

00:45:03.180 not going to be able to be effective so you have to understand and you already do you've already 0.93

00:45:08.460 learned the lesson understand this by you asking the question you already have figured out the

00:45:15.360 answer. Most people would not have the awareness to understand that I need to fix how I reacted

00:45:23.980 in this scenario. So the next time I don't react that way, that's a, that's a pretty high level

00:45:30.280 of awareness that most people do not have. So having that level of awareness is a very good

00:45:37.700 sign that you have what it takes to be successful long-term. You had a problem, you had a situation,

00:45:44.020 which by the way every entrepreneur goes through this like they have life too man like people get 0.86

00:45:50.740 sick their dogs get sick they get in car accidents bad shit happens the economy changes they you know 0.99

00:45:57.520 fuck dude i couldn't you could go on and on and on and on and on the secret to being a great 1.00

00:46:03.660 operator is that you have to be able to operate effectively at a high level when shit is not going 1.00

00:46:10.140 well. And so if you're someone who can only operate when things are going well, you're going 0.95

00:46:15.020 to get killed by everybody else that can operate no matter what. So by the way, there's very few

00:46:21.680 people like that, but it can be built. It can be trained. It can be acquired by intentionally

00:46:30.220 building yourself to be a disciplined, high functioning, high executing, diligent human being

00:46:37.920 when things are hard this is the live hard lifestyle bro this is what it's about okay

00:46:43.060 people are like well can't i just do two workouts outside or inside because it's raining 0.98

00:46:47.720 motherfucker when do you think it's going to be perfect outside you're only going to go out and 0.99

00:46:51.700 work out when it's fucking perfect you're supposed to do things when it's inconvenient the more times 1.00

00:46:56.820 you do things when it's inconvenient the better it makes you doing it when it's convenient and it 0.97

00:47:01.760 gives you an advantage because everybody else is staying inside when the fucking weather's bad too 0.72

00:47:06.740 right so every day and let's just break this into business every time life happens to a mediocre or 0.99

00:47:15.300 bad entrepreneur what happened to you happens to them and they fucking give up they quit they go 0.99

00:47:21.560 down the rails they fucking quit all their good habits they lose all their momentum a great 0.99

00:47:27.680 entrepreneur someone who consistently wins over and over and over again they do the opposite 0.99

00:47:32.860 it they see these opportunities of hardship as times to get ahead understanding that everybody

00:47:41.320 else is quitting when these times come so they actually get excited when these things start to 1.00

00:47:46.840 punch them when these bad things start to happen they say yeah fuck that bring that shit the fuck 1.00

00:47:51.940 on bro you ain't breaking me and that's the mentality difference that mentality comes from 1.00

00:47:57.660 you pushing through these things over and over and over again to the point where you trust yourself

00:48:04.520 that it doesn't really matter what's coming your way now are there exceptions that are going to 0.99

00:48:09.420 derail you in your life yeah man you're going to go through some really fucking hard shit 0.98

00:48:13.220 that's the way you're 31 right but yeah what better reason to train yourself to handle that 1.00

00:48:19.560 shit now so that when it does come and there is a lot on the line you can keep your shit together 0.99

00:48:26.920 when you know everybody else is quitting every single successful that i consider successful 0.99

00:48:34.340 entrepreneur operates at a high level no matter what's happening around them okay if they get 0.95

00:48:41.600 derailed if they get bad press if fucking something happens a natural disaster it doesn't matter 0.97

00:48:47.380 their shit still gets done at a high level and oftentimes at a higher level when things are 0.99

00:48:53.880 challenging because they understand that this is a test that they have to pass in order to keep the 1.00

00:48:59.780 space between everybody else you're not the only motherfucker that bad shit's going to happen to 0.99

00:49:04.760 you it's going to happen to all your competitors it's going to happen to everybody that you know 1.00

00:49:08.980 you're in business against and you want to be the person that when that shit happens you can push 0.98

00:49:15.900 right through it and knowing that every single time they don't you're gaining more market share 0.93

00:49:20.780 you're gaining more momentum you're gaining more ground that's the game that's how people start out

00:49:26.040 at zero with you know let's say a hundred other competitors and then at year five you know these

00:49:32.960 people have gone through hard times and there might be 50 left at year 10 there's more hard 0.99

00:49:38.560 times and then there might be 10 left and at year 20 there's two left and you're fucking winning 0.60

00:49:44.120 and everybody else is out of the game and that's how it works dude so training yourself to be one

00:49:52.060 of these people who could push through these difficult times is not a nice thing to have

00:49:57.740 it's a requirement of long-term success and all you have to do is realize that most of the things 1.00

00:50:05.540 that affect your outcomes are always in your control okay yeah people are going to fuck you 1.00

00:50:11.660 over. Yeah. Bad things are going to happen. Yeah. You're going to have a bad idea. Yeah. The market's 1.00

00:50:17.420 going to shift. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. But at the end of the day, you could control

00:50:21.800 what you drink, what you eat, the information you put in your mind, who you associate with

00:50:28.380 all of these, how you move your body. These are the things that create the most effective weapon,

00:50:35.160 which is you. You're the fucking weapon that allow you to push through. So even when there's 1.00

00:50:41.560 total chaos in your life if you can still stay in control of the things that are in your control

00:50:47.260 you will keep the momentum moving forward while everybody else falls off most people will never

00:50:53.820 understand this most people will go through a time like this person just said and they will say 1.00

00:51:01.180 ah well fuck you know what i got divorced my fucking uh house burnt down uh the economy 0.99

00:51:11.120 me shifted and they'll just fucking quit they just quit out of my control okay yeah they'll just quit 1.00

00:51:16.900 dude and like that's not how it works those are the times that it's most important to get dialed 0.99

00:51:23.560 the fuck in and make sure that you keep whatever the fuck you can and keep moving forward and that's 0.98

00:51:29.440 the difference between people who win and people who lose that's the difference between average and 1.00

00:51:33.360 great that's the difference between you know looking at the menu your whole entire fucking 0.97

00:51:38.880 life and worrying about what the fuck you can order and paying for your entire company and not 1.00

00:51:43.240 giving a fuck what it costs. Like that's the difference. Can you push through the hard shit? 0.99

00:51:48.720 Can you push through the hard shit that is so fucking hard that you know that every single 1.00

00:51:54.820 motherfucker besides you is quitting. If you become that person, you are literally fucking 1.00

00:52:01.440 unstoppable unstoppable so like that's the game dude how can you become that person well you

00:52:10.680 become that person by living a disciplined lifestyle and every single time that one of these

00:52:16.400 tests come your way you don't look at it as a tragedy you don't look at it as and it might be

00:52:22.880 it might be but you got to close that gap between that sulking and that why me and god hates me 1.00

00:52:31.180 and all this shit that we all think when things get hard you got to close that gap and say fuck 0.99

00:52:37.380 it it is what it is and i got to move forward from here and if you can close that gap and keep going 0.99

00:52:43.660 you're going to win most people can't close the gap ever most people would have got stabbed in 0.97

00:52:50.620 the face at 23 years old like i did and then told a story their whole fucking life about how they got 0.65

00:52:57.920 stabbed in the face it would be the most significant thing that ever happened to them 1.00

00:53:02.140 and their complete story and excuse for why the fuck they're sitting on a bar stool 1.00

00:53:08.680 at three o'clock in the afternoon on a fucking tuesday not doing shit with their life 1.00

00:53:12.940 that would be their entire identity oh man you know i got stabbed in the fucking fit and like bro 0.99

00:53:18.560 like i did that for a year by the way like i i made that was a year yeah it took me a year but 0.98

00:53:24.960 now now i understand how to fucking minimize that gap and you know some people will say and i've

00:53:32.980 been told this they'll say well you lack empathy no it's not that i lack empathy it's not that i 0.93

00:53:38.280 don't understand it's that i understand that if i sit in that spot it's going to ruin everything 0.78

00:53:43.020 so i have to fucking accept it and move forward immediately things that are out of your control 0.97

00:53:49.220 are fucking out of your control you can sit there and you can cry and you can whine and you can go 1.00

00:53:55.340 to therapy and you can talk about healing and all this fucking bullshit but at the end of the day 1.00

00:54:00.540 bro eventually you got to move past it and that's why i have this big problem with the fucking 1.00

00:54:06.160 therapy industry they want people to sit in this fucking shit for years and years and years and 1.00

00:54:11.700 years and years and convince people that they're fucked up because of something that happened to 1.00

00:54:16.080 them and it keeps them from moving past it like bro you can't move past something that you 0.96

00:54:21.240 constantly revisit over and over and over and over and over again and build your identity around

00:54:25.000 you can't become a non-victim if your whole identity is there's something wrong with me 0.97

00:54:30.340 or something bad happened to me something bad happens to fucking everyone the point is how do 0.97

00:54:37.700 i overcome that and how do i win in spite of that so that other people who have gone through similar 0.99

00:54:44.240 things can be inspired to get past that it's always the people too that the shit really isn't 0.92

00:54:52.340 that bad okay when you see people one of my favorite examples is a race car driver i mentioned 0.98

00:55:00.700 here on the show before alex zinardi he recently passed away he was in a fucking wreck where he 0.90

00:55:06.240 lost both his legs in a race okay he was one of the best fucking uh race car drivers in the world 0.94

00:55:12.220 this guy went on to become a champion wheelchair racer okay then he got back into into racing 0.92

00:55:21.700 cars again and he won more fucking trophies at racing cars with no legs when you the people who 0.94

00:55:28.960 face the hardest hardships they don't have a choice but to accept it there's no therapy to 1.00

00:55:35.820 regrow your motherfucking legs yet so it is what the fuck it is yeah okay like you don't have legs 0.99

00:55:41.520 now now what and if you could close that gap and dude you know this is like a real thing 1.00

00:55:48.840 the people with real shit that happens to them they don't have a choice but to accept it the 0.93

00:55:55.320 people who have false victim bullshit they can wallow in it because it's not something that they 0.99

00:56:00.840 have to fucking accept right so they get to they get to like tell a story and create identity and 1.00

00:56:06.900 like fucking you know poor me poor me poor me not realizing that they're gonna waste their whole life 1.00

00:56:13.300 stuck in that cage they created a person who gets in a car wreck and loses both their legs 1.00

00:56:19.900 they know that their legs ain't coming back yeah like they're not coming back bro i keep moving 0.99

00:56:26.100 okay so what the fuck we gonna do right so the harder the situation the bigger punch 0.97

00:56:33.120 the more likely people accept it and move on because there's no other option 0.98

00:56:38.200 you see what i'm saying so we got a big problem with this victim mentality in the world like it's 0.96

00:56:44.860 not like i'm minimizing the bad shit that's happened to you but if you're being real about 0.99

00:56:48.540 it dude there's been people that have had a million fucking times worse shit happen to them 0.98

00:56:55.320 who have gone on to do exactly what it is you want to do and more because they accepted the 0.98

00:57:02.580 reality of their situation very quickly and went forward anyway and those are the stories that 0.99

00:57:09.120 matter no one fucking wants to hear your whining bro no one wants to hear your fucking sad story 1.00

00:57:14.520 there's so many fucking bullshit sad stories no yeah you might get some claps and you might get 1.00

00:57:20.400 some likes and you might get some attention on the internet. But at the end of the day, that's 1.00

00:57:25.300 that's the bullshit that hurts other people because they see someone who might have went 0.99

00:57:32.220 through a similar situation that they went through and they see this person wallowing in it and 0.99

00:57:37.260 creating this victim identity and building this, you know, I'm a victim and this is why I can't do

00:57:43.100 this. And then they think that's how they should behave when in reality, what would serve them

00:57:47.560 better is if you were to do something like this hey all this bad shit happened to me but guess 0.92

00:57:52.960 what i still went on to do this and this and this and this and this that's inspiring those are the 0.99

00:57:57.840 important stories so which one of those stories are you going to fucking tell about yourself 0.99

00:58:02.420 because one is very selfish and the other one helps a lot of motherfuckers i love it dude 0.98

00:58:07.540 i fucking love it man guys andy that was three dog all right well we'll see you tomorrow yeah 0.99

00:58:14.620 everybody don't be a hoe share the show went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze 1.00

00:58:21.360 fuck a pole fuck a stove counted millions in the cold bad bitch booted slow got her on bankroll 1.00

00:58:27.980 can't fold that's a no headshot case closed 1.00

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - June 15, 2026

1036. Q&AF： Potential Vs Execution, Handling Rapid Growth & Becoming Mentally Tough

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