REAL AF with Andy Frisella - April 08, 2021


106. No Sacrifices Necessary

Hosted by
Andy Frisella
Mentioned
Andy Priscilla
105. What One Man Can Do, Another Man Can Do Ft. Darren Woodson & Crew 107. The Winners Gauntlet

Episode Stats


Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

186.12

Word count

1,740

Sentence count

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Harmful content

Misogyny

2

sentences flagged

Toxicity

33

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Hate speech

14

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Summary

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In this episode, we re talking about a super valuable success hack and how to stop thinking of things in terms of sacrifice and start thinking of them as an investment in the future. This is a super powerful hack that will change your perspective on how you think about success and how you speak to yourself.

Transcript

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Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .
Toxicity classifications generated with s-nlp/roberta_toxicity_classifier .
Hate speech classifications generated with facebook/roberta-hate-speech-dynabench-r4-target .
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00:00:00.000 told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living down spoke it 1.00
00:00:05.580 till existence mo changed to 50 got more cars than did i only weigh 180 but my watch cost 250 0.99
00:00:12.440 what's up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the 0.96
00:00:17.580 lies the fitness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality today we're
00:00:24.980 going to talk about a super valuable success hack but before i get into that um i want to say thank
00:00:31.700 you i appreciate you guys sharing the show i appreciate all the love that i'm seeing especially
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00:00:42.460 it man you know we're getting lots of good feedback uh i think people seeing my expression helps bring
00:00:47.200 context to uh i hear that a lot right like people are saying man i thought you're just an angry dude 0.99
00:00:52.200 you're actually just passionate well yeah motherfucker i've been trying to tell you that 0.98
00:00:55.280 for fucking seven years thanks for finally getting it now with that being said we do grow the show 0.99
00:01:01.540 organically and we have a fee and the fee is very simple if you enjoy the show if you learn something 0.92
00:01:08.060 from the show if it made you think if it gave you a new perspective if it did anything good for you
00:01:13.260 all we ask is that you share it good old-fashioned word of mouth if i do a good job you help me out
00:01:20.200 if i don't do a good job don't help me sometimes i don't do good that's the reality all right most
00:01:26.440 time i do though so guys i want to give you a little little success hack and if you've been
00:01:32.520 listening to me uh for a long time or a short time you probably realize that i don't believe in hacks
00:01:38.720 but this is a super powerful hack and i touched on it a little bit uh on our last episode with ed
00:01:44.960 my let not our last episode but the last episode with ed um i talked about this a little bit now
00:01:50.320 it's really just a language trick it's really just something that you need to to understand
00:01:56.080 that how you speak to yourself determines how you act and a lot of you guys make things harder
00:02:04.440 on yourselves than what it really has to be for example when we talk about building a company
00:02:11.420 and we talk about sacrificing the weekends and the nights out and the um you know the times with
00:02:19.240 friends the vacations we talk about we talk about it in terms of like it's this painful thing right
00:02:25.360 sacrifice uh or we talk about building a body and we talk about building your mind through you know
00:02:30.460 maybe 75 hard um we talk about sacrifice and we talk about how hard it is and we talk about how painful
00:02:38.320 it is and we almost like hang our hats on that and and i get that i do that as well like i like to 0.98
00:02:43.800 think i'm a bad motherfucker i like to think i'm putting in the fucking work nobody else will do 0.99
00:02:48.720 and that makes me feel good but the problem with that guys is that sometimes that language can 0.98
00:02:53.940 actually make shit um artificially harder than what it has to be and so i want you to do this 0.73
00:02:59.360 i want you to stop thinking of things in terms of sacrifice and i want you to start thinking 0.93
00:03:08.440 in terms of investment all right one of the biggest mistakes that you will make as a human
00:03:15.180 on a path to success whether that success be financially physically spiritually in interpersonal
00:03:22.860 relationships whatever it is there's success in all areas when you think of it as a sacrifice you're
00:03:30.500 making it extra hard on yourself and so what i want you to do is i want you to start thinking about
00:03:36.320 investment and i want you to understand that when you miss the weekends with the guys or miss the
00:03:44.440 night out with the girls or you pass on the trip or you do this you're not sacrificing anything
00:03:51.320 you're actually making an investment because the investment is delayed gratification and you just
00:03:56.960 haven't seen the payoff yet all right so when you miss a night out to work out you're not sacrificing
00:04:04.120 a night out you're making an investment in the future and that investment in the future is going
00:04:09.560 to create a better life it's going to create more money it's going to create better relationships it's
00:04:13.700 going to create a better body it's going to create more confidence when you're getting something in
00:04:18.640 return for what you're giving up it's not really a sacrifice it's an investment and this is something
00:04:23.820 that all of you guys need to get really clear on because as men especially and some women we like to
00:04:32.680 feel tough we like to feel badass and i'm guilty of pushing that a little bit you know sometimes too
00:04:38.600 because i like to feel badass but the truth of the matter is is that when i skip something fun
00:04:44.500 for to do something that's hard i know that there's a payoff coming later and what this really comes
00:04:51.080 down to is understanding delay gratification and if you guys can understand and make the decisions
00:04:57.840 that delay the gratification you're making an investment a sacrifice is really just you giving 0.97
00:05:06.400 something up and it sounds like shit it's what sounds better i'm making investment in my future 0.99
00:05:12.140 or i'm sacrificing the night out with the guys you're not fucking missing anything you're not 1.00
00:05:18.000 losing anything you're not giving anything up that's some bullshit that everybody does their 0.99
00:05:21.860 whole fucking life it's no different than what every other human does and it's what everybody does 0.95
00:05:27.280 it's not something that you're missing you're choosing to make an investment in yourself you're 0.99
00:05:32.540 choosing to make an investment in your money you're choosing to make an investment in your body you're
00:05:37.440 choosing to make an investment in your relationships and you need to remember that when you talk to
00:05:42.320 yourself because if we constantly tell ourselves that we're sacrificing everything we're always going
00:05:48.780 to feel empty we're always going to feel like we're not having anything paid back we always going
00:05:53.640 to feel like we're doing all of these things for nothing which is not the truth the truth is is that
00:05:59.300 we're doing these things for something and that means it's an investment so that's my hack for you guys
00:06:05.280 we don't have this long drawn out process here just start replacing the idea of sacrifice and instead
00:06:14.400 think of it as an investment that will make your days much easier much more fulfilling much more 0.98
00:06:22.260 pleasurable if you know that you're going to get up and do this fucking work because it's going to get 0.97
00:06:27.980 you this later and you understand and believe that and you're making an investment it becomes that much 0.98
00:06:33.760 easier to do but when you tell yourself oh man i'm going to miss you know this dinner or this wedding
00:06:41.320 or this trip or this that so that i can stay on my program or i can uh you know focus on my business
00:06:48.140 or i can do these things all you ever focus on is what you missed all you ever focus on is what you're
00:06:54.220 giving up and if you focus on what you're giving up you're going to become obsessed with what you're
00:06:57.940 giving up and eventually that's going to break you because you're going to be focused on the wrong 0.81
00:07:02.740 shit so this is really about tricking yourself with using different language so that you focus 0.96
00:07:09.320 on the right thing so that you're focused on the outcome you're focused on what you're going to get 0.97
00:07:13.580 you're focused on the work you're doing you're excited about the work you're doing because you know
00:07:18.420 that the payoff is going to come all right and the reason that you guys struggle with this mentality
00:07:24.280 is because most of you haven't ever really accomplished anything yet to believe that the
00:07:30.240 payoff is coming this is where using a role model or listening to someone who has actually done the
00:07:36.820 things that you want to do is valuable because these people can show you if you do x you will get y
00:07:44.820 in return and in the beginning when you haven't experienced this for yourself you got to have a little
00:07:50.120 faith you got to believe in the other guy that you're watching and you got to be smart enough 0.99
00:07:54.540 to know and believe that if it works for that motherfucker it's going to work for me too most of 0.99
00:07:59.140 the time now you might have to make a little adjustment here or there but the truth is we live in an 0.98
00:08:04.580 environment where if you put x in you get y out most of the time all right so find someone who has done
00:08:11.880 what you want to do pay attention to what they do make the investments that they're making and trust
00:08:17.620 that the result is coming your way and if you do that it will be much easier for you to move forward 0.93
00:08:23.760 than it is right now when you're telling yourself constantly about all the shit that you're missing and 0.94
00:08:30.620 giving up and and you know sacrificing for the future you're not sacrificing shit you've already done that 0.98
00:08:38.020 shit you know what it's like you know what it's about and you know where it's going start making the 0.99
00:08:43.520 investment make the investment in you build a better life be excited about that investment
00:08:49.260 know that it's going to produce a result and things are going to get much more clear much more simple
00:08:55.480 and what you'll find is you're going to develop positive momentum at a much quicker rate all right
00:09:01.600 so it's just a little language hack it's not a sacrifice it's an investment that's the show guys
00:09:06.760 i love you guys i appreciate you guys make the investments stop thinking about the sacrifice 0.95
00:09:12.300 told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living down spoke it till 1.00
00:09:18.060 existed i'm from where you can't trust so welcome 1.00