REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 105. What One Man Can Do, Another Man Can Do Ft. Darren Woodson & Crew

00:00:00.000 told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living

00:00:04.680 spoke it till existence mo changed to 50 got mo cost than did i only weigh 180 but my watch

00:00:11.720 cost 250 what's up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realest say goodbye to

00:00:17.260 the lies the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality

00:00:22.640 guys today we have a full full crew show we actually have a three uh very very good buddies

00:00:33.040 of mine who i've been on their podcast darren woodson show uh darren ty and ben what's up

00:00:39.140 fellas what's going on man it's good to see you guys no it's really good to see you we had a hell

00:00:44.480 of a time look was it reggie it's reggie i didn't want to mess your name up

00:00:48.640 we also got reggie

00:01:13.640 excuse my friend

00:01:17.940 okay well i'm sorry dj dj showed us around today man and let me tell you

00:01:24.380 all right well sal's here too

00:01:28.360 oh that was gold

00:01:35.060 reggie i don't want to mess up your name

00:01:36.840 you know you sit there like you you want to correct somebody but you don't

00:01:43.560 no you should man don't let me call you that

00:01:45.940 how you feeling there big reg

00:01:48.080 hey man i'm good man you good i'm good big reggie good

00:01:51.000 all right man so dude if you guys don't aren't familiar with the darren woodson show you should

00:01:58.040 be it's an awesome podcast i've been on it myself uh it's these three gentlemen as you guys may or may

00:02:03.280 not know darren woodson is uh a fucking legendary dallas cowboy uh i grew up watching watching you

00:02:11.420 whoop everybody's ass yeah um and these other two gentlemen uh ties former nfl fullback as well

00:02:17.860 and uh and ben i'm not real sure what what you do just average dude yeah just average dude okay

00:02:24.380 you do that well ben i'm just being real hey but i'll tell you this let me tell you this ben's

00:02:29.040 probably the best athlete on the damn set yeah hands down yeah best athlete does everything

00:02:33.340 baseball basketball football whatever best athlete yeah all right all right all right i can feel that

00:02:38.420 i i'm definitely not yeah but i'll i'll claim it so can you catch you know i did catch what

00:02:46.520 i did catch today i fucking caught it and you know who didn't oh

00:02:50.820 that actually makes sense that's why i play fucking defense that's right we saw why he's

00:02:55.940 on the other side of the football today it wasn't like you were throwing me the damn water

00:02:59.100 yeah you fucking bubbled it on your own it was in my hand i was just trying to what's the old rule

00:03:03.860 if it touches your fingers you gotta catch it touch your hand dude he threw it up to himself

00:03:07.180 i looked it over 20 times on one on two or three fingers and i was just doing a little trick with

00:03:11.640 it that's all yeah that's what she said so so so now now we understand how you became a safety so

00:03:18.580 that's right that's right but you know uh guys for real man um i love being on your show that's

00:03:28.140 why you guys are here because we had such a good time and uh i'm super thankful you guys made a trip

00:03:33.400 up here man i know you guys are all busy so thank you for coming up in case i forget to say so at the

00:03:37.440 end of the show because i know we're gonna get way the fuck out there yeah yeah so darren man uh

00:03:43.420 you know for those for those of people that are you know we got a lot of young listeners that you

00:03:48.100 know they don't know that you played back in the 1700s you know before helmets oh you like that

00:03:53.640 one reg i like how you laughed about i'm sorry calling you right now

00:03:59.000 yeah but uh but man you know uh darren dude you guys that don't know this dude's a legend when it

00:04:08.000 comes to nfl uh most tackles in franchise history for the cowboys uh three super bowl rings i mean

00:04:14.480 dude i'm just it's it's it's surreal to have you guys in here you know what i'm saying it's cool

00:04:20.760 as fuck i literally was just thinking that i mean yeah we enter and i grew up watching the cowboys yeah

00:04:24.560 we we when you were playing at the cowboys we we were we were like the we were we were playing

00:04:29.640 cowboys yeah and so it wasn't the cardinals no no no the cardinals had exited you're right yeah

00:04:35.300 we didn't have a team and you know like any other kid right you choose the best team that's kind

00:04:39.500 of going and it was the young you know the young team at the time you had ervin and aikman and

00:04:43.660 emmett smith team to watch yeah and they're winning and fuck who doesn't like winning except reggie

00:04:48.100 and then you know understanding that you know like we grew up watching cowboys football and the fact

00:04:54.440 you're here it's an honor i think it's fucking badass for sure to see you guys walk through today

00:04:58.060 the other two guys are all right too yeah

00:05:00.000 no but i mean to have you guys to have you here today and and uh you know we were busting

00:05:09.120 balls earlier and having some fun it it is an honor and i really do appreciate you know for my

00:05:13.020 yeah man and for for us man look the facility that we just walked through there's not a facility in

00:05:20.500 the nfl that matches this damn facility no freaking believable it's i said it earlier like look man this

00:05:26.760 is we didn't play you know at that level and play the sport but we got our own thing and there's and

00:05:32.260 i'm telling you i don't know who wouldn't want to train or be here and be a part of the culture

00:05:36.400 you know what the best part is too our contracts don't run out yeah that's right true so dude the

00:05:43.820 thing is is like you know sal and i both play sports and and uh we understand sports culture in

00:05:49.600 fact it's really weird because when we were designing this place it's actually bizarre that you're sitting

00:05:53.760 here right now but we would fucking say a hundred did you tell them this no so like literally the

00:05:58.800 conversation was we're gonna be the dallas cowboys of fucking business yeah when we were designing

00:06:03.160 this building we'd walk through you know i always admired how uh the cowboy i i think the raiders do

00:06:08.000 a good job of this too like everything is raiders right you know right but with the cowboys it's it's

00:06:12.840 fucking everything is the it's understanding your brand right fully and that's what jerry has done

00:06:17.580 the jones family has done and it doesn't just start with jerry yeah it's their entire family down to the

00:06:23.100 kids they understand and love truly love the brand yeah and we're walking around here today and we

00:06:28.600 walk into the weight room which is i can't even tell you how crazy that is we walk into this weight

00:06:33.480 room all the weights are aligned the right way and it's not like you're telling or having to have

00:06:38.920 someone that's they're policing everyone they just understand yeah well you think that

00:06:43.420 you're on yeah it's a standard that's set yeah but it's a standard it's a culture right it's an

00:06:49.920 understanding of it's more than just i'm working here it's a part of who i am it's part of i'm a

00:06:55.960 part of the fabric here and that's how it was as a player and tyler can speak on this playing with the

00:07:00.540 cowboys and then playing with someone else it's a totally different deal when you put that star on

00:07:04.540 your helmet yeah it's like you're representing something it's a pride fact yeah yeah there's a

00:07:08.460 reason the cleveland browns have been the cleveland browns for so long right i played in both

00:07:12.360 organizations that's a totally different standard yeah expectation and it just elevates it elevates the

00:07:17.640 product that you put out on the field or the products that you put you know in their mailbox

00:07:21.660 once you step up that standard too i think whether it be you know with the cowboys or our company or

00:07:28.420 any company or organization that holds themselves to that level of standard it really makes you notice

00:07:33.840 when people don't yes you know what i mean like you know going somewhere else and like right now

00:07:38.040 like when i go to another gym i'm like fuck yeah like shit i never noticed before you know what i mean

00:07:43.820 but i mean i think that's you know whether it's a i mean that's the pride aspect that makes you feel

00:07:49.300 as if you are part of the culture yeah you know you do the little things right and you're never

00:07:53.180 going to do a big dude if you want a high standard for your fucking brand you got to hold it and set

00:07:56.560 it and that's it man you know that shit doesn't a lot of people think you know uh that that stuff

00:08:00.860 kind of there's like a magic to it or a magic materialization or they think that you know there's

00:08:06.280 certain people that understand how to create brand and there is but it's not that hard it's just really

00:08:10.840 setting the standard and then and then holding it there regardless of what it is right but you

00:08:16.560 guys are a perfect perfect example though is there like you said there's a standard and you hold

00:08:21.120 people accountable like too many companies are scared to hold people accountable because they're

00:08:25.780 scared of the repercussions on the other side oh we don't offend them we don't want to do this

00:08:29.400 but no like look at the proof is in the pudding like the standards that we set there's a there's a

00:08:33.920 class that we we we have to be at or you can't be a part of the team that's it right that's it

00:08:39.460 you're not see you but guess what they love being here like you just walk around right like there's

00:08:44.280 an energy you feel the culture that's here and i know you guys brought in a bunch of people in the

00:08:49.020 last you know 12 18 months a ton of growth right but you feel that they get it right and they want

00:08:53.760 to be here and they're excited you brought in a whole bunch of fucking meanderthals who's a

00:08:56.720 i'm 265 fucking pounds and i walk around here feeling like a fucking bitch yes like it really

00:09:11.640 does feel like a fucking nfl team i mean dude like some of these dudes are oh yeah fuckers man

00:09:17.460 bro and and the girls here are fucking strong yes you know i'm saying like dude you'll go out there

00:09:21.820 in the afternoon and there'll be girls in that squat rack squatting three plates ass to the fucking

00:09:25.800 floor yes it's fucking awesome dude it's fucking awesome you know you talk about that pride aspect

00:09:31.880 you know and people loving it i i think there's a you know when you look at these individuals and

00:09:37.840 you you you start to teach them the finer details of life or what's important the small things do

00:09:43.060 matter and then what happens is they they carry that over into their home life they carry that into

00:09:46.340 their house into their car and then they carry it into all aspects of life and they realize that

00:09:49.960 they're elevating their standard in their life and that's the appropriation that happens inside being

00:09:54.540 a part of a cool culture like the cowboys is it's not just when you show up and go through the doors

00:09:59.700 it's who you are yeah you know you are a cowboy you are a dallas cowboy but you know what i always

00:10:03.820 think about when when having this conversation you think about the people that actually set those

00:10:08.920 standards like i i can remember my entire life of playing football and you play even you know coming in

00:10:15.600 with the dallas cowboys or at arizona state or whatnot you you're around coaches who set a

00:10:20.660 standard but you're around coaches who don't and those ones that that don't set a standard you're

00:10:25.340 going five and eleven you're below average you're mediocre but then you have a coach like a jimmy

00:10:30.240 johnson or bill belichick and i in my in my experience jimmy johnson and then it was bill

00:10:35.440 parcells bill parcells takes a team that goes five and eleven mediocre no standard no no culture or anything

00:10:43.400 nobody guys showed up late left early every single day bill parcells comes in and this is how the

00:10:50.020 standard step he comes in and he tells you exactly what you're going to do no bullshit you don't like

00:10:56.160 it fuck out the door there's an exit sign right yeah and then when you have that and then first

00:11:00.100 thing i've told these two guys to ben and tyler all the time when i met bill parcells the first thing

00:11:04.720 he said to me is you ever heard of the scorched dirt process and i was like no but what does that mean

00:11:10.520 and he says i'm going to kill everything all the diseases all the rats the snakes yeah that have

00:11:17.900 been here since all those five and eleven seasons they're gone yeah and that's how you set a stand

00:11:22.800 that is it man who says yeah bro what was the first thing i said to you when i walked up just a

00:11:30.640 minute ago what'd i do today oh you you redlined everybody what would you what'd you call it you

00:11:35.760 you reduced everybody yeah so that's a scorched earth shit like dude i am on a mission in life

00:11:41.840 yeah true to to fucking destroy like dude and i don't care what the fuck y'all think about this

00:11:47.180 i am going to literally fucking destroy every negative fucking person in my life if you bring

00:11:54.480 me fucking peace you're gonna get andy you're i'm gonna help you i'm gonna bend over backwards i'm

00:11:59.840 gonna fucking do everything i can to help you if you bring me any one percent annoyance at this

00:12:05.040 point in my life i am going to fucking nuclear bomb your motherfucking face and you are never

00:12:11.420 going to talk to me ever again and i'm on a mission to do it dude because i what i realized

00:12:15.640 and this is the dude i've talked about on the last show with ed bro and covid you know i didn't do

00:12:22.440 anything for a year right like i i didn't travel i didn't speak i didn't uh have any live events

00:12:27.560 i i literally and dj know reggie knows this fucking big reg over there big reg knows this

00:12:35.600 all right i didn't go anywhere but i went uh from my house to my office for one year i went out to

00:12:44.480 eat two times twice okay once for my wife's birthday once uh for brian's birthday and that was it

00:12:51.580 outside of that i did not go anywhere else i didn't go i didn't go to the fucking store because

00:12:56.640 dude i can't do look dude you motherfuckers telling me to do i can't breathe the air i will

00:13:02.200 fucking choke you you know like i can't so i removed myself from the situation but anyhow

00:13:07.420 i had so much peace bro like i had so much fucking peace and our business grew everything grew

00:13:15.520 everything did good i got in better shape everything in my life improved and then

00:13:19.700 and then i started realizing well what's different well what's different is i'm not listening to all

00:13:25.500 these other people i'm not having to deal with the shit right and so dude now i'm just not going to

00:13:30.520 tolerate it anymore it's just not going to happen is it about your time what is it about it dude is it

00:13:34.600 is it i think it's about yeah i think it is about time it's about people not respecting the time

00:13:40.480 right you know what i'm saying and that and dude you you guys all understand this you know

00:13:45.320 when you're doing a lot of different shit it requires you to fraction off your energy into

00:13:52.620 different areas right and when you're good at what you do which all all of you guys are

00:13:58.220 you know what happens when you get a little bit of something good what's your natural reaction

00:14:03.040 fuck you want more i want more right right so the problem is is that at home you know you want more

00:14:10.000 they want more at home and then they want more at at work and then and then these motherfuckers

00:14:14.580 online want more of that right and then so all of a sudden you can't keep anybody fucking happy

00:14:18.520 because because they always want more right the asshole whatever yeah then you're the fucking

00:14:23.160 asshole and dude so now i'm just saying i'm going to productively proactively be the fucking asshole

00:14:28.480 right and get you the fuck out so that i can not be an asshole of the people that matter exactly

00:14:33.560 let's just prioritize being an asshole first yes i'm going to take it i'm taking the fuck i'm going

00:14:37.560 offense baby it's funny go ahead i'll say it's funny you say that because i got a coach and and

00:14:45.280 that's literally the last three months is that's the conversation yeah because you're too nice you

00:14:49.220 say yes to too many people yeah you have to be an asshole if you're going to be successful in

00:14:52.940 whatever it is you got to be an asshole with your family you got to be i mean not being an asshole to

00:14:56.840 them no but to protect you're going to be perceived as that that's right yes and and that's what

00:15:00.860 everyone thinks you are is you're an asshole but what what are they doing to bring any joy

00:15:04.980 that's it or or any benefit to your life they're not so that's it dude i'm trying to at this point

00:15:09.500 in my life i'm trying to weed out all of those motherfuckers well i made this little meme last

00:15:14.780 time on my social you know about being a low maintenance friend yeah like hey man like the

00:15:18.420 best friend you have the motherfucker you can call in six months you ain't talk to him you ain't done

00:15:22.080 nothing you ain't seen nothing you pick up right where you're at the motherfucker i'm eliminating

00:15:25.520 from my life to andrew's point is the guy you don't call me anymore listen i ain't got time for

00:15:29.580 that shit right but to your point you know establishing the word no is probably the hardest

00:15:33.720 thing for me as well you know setting that boundary between what you want in life and what

00:15:37.880 they want out of you in life it's a hard it is a it's as a people pleaser or helper which is what

00:15:44.060 the nature of our business is it's hard to say no so what happens is the person asks you for help

00:15:48.380 well by nature because you want to fucking help them you go help them but then you start helping

00:15:52.060 everybody in your life and you realize that i'm out of fucking whack right you know what i mean

00:15:55.280 the only person that fucking wins is everybody else but you and it's your fucking life they don't win

00:15:59.460 either because they're depending on you to do the whole fucking thing for them

00:16:02.700 and so they're constantly waiting we were just talking about this andy the other day like we

00:16:06.700 see a lot with like professional athletes right like one day they're they have zero then they

00:16:10.880 get signed they're making a lot of money but then who's in the back pockets the family

00:16:14.420 yeah yeah so it's like and then they lose everything because they got 30 people on the

00:16:19.060 payroll and like i mean let's be honest like yeah there's some big contracts but there's not

00:16:22.400 right so like i mean no matter how big the contract is there's enough hands to take from it

00:16:26.640 yo i signed a practice squad contract i had 37 facebook inbox messages asking me to invest

00:16:32.920 into that company i was like yeah i make 50 grand a year what are you talking about i'm not investing

00:16:39.040 in your company but it doesn't matter what the contract is the other thing too is i think everybody

00:16:42.520 here we like people you mentioned it right like if i like i want to help you but the problem is when

00:16:47.020 you say yes to everything yeah you start resenting saying yes and then you resent them so now i'm going

00:16:52.500 against my nature of liking people i don't like people because i'm saying yes all the time and i'm

00:16:56.820 and i'm literally pouring my glass out to everybody and it's never getting filled up and so now i just

00:17:01.440 like stop liking people because i say yes yeah bro that's so that's fucking solid right there that's

00:17:06.720 real shit i mean dude ed ed my let taught me a lot about this because like because i i had this bad

00:17:12.480 habit of saying i hate people it's not fucking true i actually really like quality people i really

00:17:18.800 fucking like people that make little deposits as much as they take you know like dude don't like

00:17:24.380 what you said sell like that's those people what they bring you back in time right like like you're

00:17:31.200 progressing and you're growing and you're getting better and you're focusing in and things are

00:17:34.960 happening and then you have that friend who's like well you really hurt my feelings you didn't call

00:17:39.800 me for the last four months i'm like well fuck dude you're kind of a pussy like be fucking real

00:17:44.480 like if you're that fucking worried about it you don't have enough shit going on but like dude

00:17:49.680 and then what but dude like all those little things that people do to you the little guilt

00:17:53.760 jabs or the you know like dude i'm just over it yeah fucking over you know what whatever happened

00:17:58.860 to the days when like someone has some sex success right like sal has some success

00:18:02.640 like that's that's been the biggest one of the biggest issues for me is like that people have

00:18:21.420 success and we want a motherfucker yeah like if i have some success i've had friends family members

00:18:37.100 who like just turn like ah whatever man you know you've changed you've changed you're too good for

00:18:41.340 you're too good bro i say i mean my mom thinks i'm a drug dealer like i like that's a legit thing

00:18:46.280 like people they they don't they confuse that i exactly and that's been you know and i'll speak

00:18:52.120 direct here my culture has been that and the black culture has always been that if one person makes

00:18:58.600 it you're hating on him right or he's changed he's moved out of the projects he's moved out of the

00:19:03.060 inner city he's gotten money now he's not the same you're damn right i'm not the same bro i'm trying

00:19:09.180 to grow it's called growth right yeah so i i think we we all man i mean even as us as leaders in the

00:19:15.980 community man we got to continue to cheer people on and continue to motivate them to excel i don't

00:19:21.840 know that that's i think i see that in every culture i think dude like i i think i think you

00:19:26.600 know i think people express it differently you know what i'm saying we do we deal with this in our

00:19:31.440 business yeah weight loss standpoint in fact we did a live so in our app we have a live every day

00:19:35.960 and you know we get live q a's we usually topic driven whatever we talk about weight loss and

00:19:40.240 and somebody had written in today's topic salving a question you know i've lost 25 pounds 135 i'm

00:19:46.480 trying to get to 125 and my friends are asking me why i'm doing it i'm too skinny why do i keep

00:19:51.300 wanting to go and it's the lesson here for for the audience is like understanding that

00:19:55.940 your quote-unquote friends they're going to get uncomfortable whenever you get uncomfortable and

00:20:01.400 they see you having a little success because it makes them realize that they're not as

00:20:04.660 driven as you are they're not willing to make the sacrifices that you are and they're not

00:20:08.520 progressing like you do and unfortunately like an entrepreneurial space like they don't like that

00:20:13.120 because you're pushing on in life and it's important to recognize the difference between

00:20:16.700 and it's not that they don't like you and it's not that they really don't maybe want you to

00:20:20.280 succeed it's that it scares the fuck out of them yeah you know and it makes them feel average

00:20:24.320 it makes them feel less than and so it's a very important you know lesson to learn

00:20:30.060 when your friends start to say these things to you because as you have success it's gonna happen

00:20:35.120 and i told the story unavoidable it's unavoidable when i when i left my job that i had prior to this

00:20:39.600 to come to first form we get this thing going i had five people support me five outside of that

00:20:45.680 everybody else was are you sure you're doing the right thing are you sure you made the right

00:20:48.900 decision because all your friends thought i was fucking stupid well they still think that

00:20:52.480 it's just the five know you they know that you are so no i might be stupid but i just won't quit

00:21:01.600 yeah that's hey that's a good quality right no but but you know then you go five years down the road

00:21:06.420 and then it's well you know maybe kind of the we in fact on my monday morning meeting this week i

00:21:11.060 talked about you know the person that talks shit about the person in your friendship group that's not

00:21:14.920 there they talk shit about you when you're not there you know what i mean so you gotta be real

00:21:18.280 clear about these people and understanding like all right man who's really in my corner

00:21:22.360 who's not and an understanding like you can listen to them but you can't hear and digest what they

00:21:27.020 say what they say and that's a huge that's a huge differentiating factor in the words that you're

00:21:31.220 getting down the pipe you know like they're gonna say it whether you listen or not and digest it's a

00:21:34.940 totally different conversation my new thing on that is my new thing that i've been telling people

00:21:40.100 because i get that question that's a molt that is the biggest fucking question i get out of any

00:21:44.360 anybody like how do you deal with friends family people you've known people who you thought were your

00:21:49.520 friends that don't support you or don't you know uh or and i'll say this too you know the thing about

00:21:56.640 success that you guys have to understand bro is like you you guys don't understand that there is a god

00:22:04.780 and there is universal powers that you have no fucking understanding of there's quantum physics

00:22:09.680 there's metaphysics these are real fucking things that are scientifically proven and when you look at

00:22:15.500 someone who's doing good someone who signed a contract or someone who's had a good career or

00:22:20.300 done something good and you hate on that in any way even if you don't vocalize it even in your heart if

00:22:27.780 you fucking get a little bit jealous you have to train yourself not to do that because what you're doing

00:22:32.820 is you are telling the higher powers out there that you don't like that and when you say you don't

00:22:38.840 like that guess what you never get so you better be damn sure that you that karma that's right that

00:22:45.060 car bro i'm telling you right now i truly think the biggest reason that we consistently do well and

00:22:51.720 literally everything has nothing to do with smarts or work ethic or anything i truly think the cards get

00:22:59.020 aligned for us because i fucking genuinely want people to win and i and i don't get jealous like that

00:23:05.540 like when i see like when my friend ed who bought i just bought a brand new fucking global jet like

00:23:10.720 it's fucking amazing i don't get jealous i'm like let's go see that motherfucker because dude what it

00:23:15.900 does is it sets a standard in my mind i'm like all right well i know this dude if he can do it i

00:23:19.680 can fucking do it right you know what i'm saying and and i'm happy for him but there's no envy there

00:23:23.880 no not at all well that's the difference right there you just said it i can do it too yeah it's that

00:23:29.240 change in mindset instead of looking down on him you're saying well if they can do it then

00:23:32.760 what's you know i can do it too you guys ever seen that movie the edge with anthony hopkins

00:23:36.520 and they crashed a plane and uh and they're trapped in the woods and a bear chases them and shit

00:23:41.440 you ever seen that never that's fun you guys have never seen that

00:23:46.240 how are you yeah all right look

00:23:49.400 hey woods

00:23:52.460 all right i'll explain the whole movie

00:23:56.940 go ahead please please do one dollar one thousand dollars dude you guys have fucking

00:24:01.900 seen it if i threw it up there you go oh yeah i focus all that look dude here's the deal of the

00:24:06.240 movie all right they fucking the guy's super rich they go on this expedition he crashes a plane he's

00:24:11.760 got to survive this billionaire guy with these two other guys and they got to survive and so the

00:24:16.620 whole story is they go through the they go through the woods and the fucking bear is trying to eat

00:24:20.740 them all right and and anthony hopkins has a line in that movie that has always stuck with me dude

00:24:26.600 always always always what one man can do another can do and he's trying to convince his friends

00:24:32.300 that they can survive this ordeal and this guy's old he's in his 60s probably in the movie these guys

00:24:38.980 are young and they're being total fucking pussies and he's trying to convince them that they can make

00:24:45.320 it and he's like look dude other people have survived this what one man could do another can

00:24:50.180 do and i heard that on that movie that movie came out in 1997 i think and uh it stuck with me dude

00:24:59.520 and i've always thought that like i've always looked at you know obviously there's exceptions

00:25:02.960 right like i'm not gonna dunk the basketball like lebron james right right it's not no matter what i do

00:25:09.200 in my life it's not fucking happening right so we got to work within our skill set but most people

00:25:14.740 have a skill set good enough to do pretty fucking good in life and if we could just change the idea

00:25:21.360 from man fuck that guy you know he thinks he's too big or he thinks he's that or he's and because

00:25:26.580 you guys have to realize when you see someone and it causes even a tinge of jealousy what that is on

00:25:33.620 your inside is that you don't feel good enough okay well that's cool i don't feel good enough you

00:25:38.820 know what you know what you do now instead of hating you get better you work you know what i'm saying

00:25:43.580 like dude the reason you aren't where that guy is is because you didn't do the shit that he did

00:25:47.480 and that's such an easy thing to understand if you just remove the emotion of feeling and i'm not

00:25:52.820 saying we never feel jealous like dude this is a part of it yeah bro like i don't want this to

00:25:58.500 sound like i've never feel jealous bro i used to be the most jealous fucking spiteful motherfucker

00:26:03.520 there was and when i figured this out my life changed so like i'm not saying like oh yeah i got it

00:26:08.600 all figured out i figured it out because i did it wrong for so long you know what i'm saying and and so

00:26:12.500 you guys listening out there when you see someone doing something good whether it be losing 30 pounds

00:26:19.360 or 100 pounds or they they they became successful in business or they they accomplished something like

00:26:25.500 they they you know they they an athlete they signed a contract or whatever you guys should be fucking

00:26:30.740 clapping as loud as you can because when you clap for that guess what the universe god and all these

00:26:36.260 other things sees that and they say well that's what he wants right that's what she wants all right

00:26:40.460 let me line this up for them to get start going yeah but yeah but they line it up for you the

00:26:44.440 universe lines it up for you and you gotta go yeah here it is once you get to that point and and i've

00:26:49.980 seen it i've seen so many guys my throughout my career who've gotten paid big contracts yeah and i've

00:26:54.700 sat there and going that's some god damn how the hell did he make that kind of money right

00:26:59.320 he's not yeah exactly his name is reggie

00:27:04.440 but i'm sitting there watching that but then you know i my mind has always been okay well he's got

00:27:11.520 that contract okay that's good one good for him but then it goes back to me right now i have to look

00:27:18.000 at me and say what the what do i need to do not what everybody else yeah it's not outside of that it

00:27:23.260 comes back to me and a lot of these conversations come back to who it comes back to us always and how

00:27:28.880 we how we look at ourselves yeah right so look at yourself and see where i'm deficient if this is what

00:27:35.520 i want then i might ask better get up early in the morning get on that tape make sure i'm doing a

00:27:40.200 little thing staying healthy being available to play or being available at work look at yourself

00:27:45.480 yeah yeah here's a real life story and i'll keep this as short as i can is a lot like you right

00:27:51.260 starting in a small little supplement store and you're looking at all these other chains or you're

00:27:55.340 looking at supplement brands and you're like these are these aren't that special why do they have it

00:27:59.280 and i know you just kept working you just kept working so for me well at first i did think they

00:28:03.780 had shit that i didn't i thought i'm like yeah in the beginning i was like oh man these guys got magic

00:28:09.400 like i want to be you know when i was coming up and starting there was a guy named bill phillips who ran

00:28:13.680 a company called eas which is no longer around anymore i remember that bill was a fucking rock star

00:28:18.500 and i'm like well this guy must have the special magic and do all these things and in reality he

00:28:23.820 didn't have any fucking magic all he did was he helped people fucking win you know what i mean

00:28:28.020 but you kept working right and it wasn't it wasn't like i'll pour me i'm gonna quit i mean so many

00:28:32.920 people these days oh i can't get that yeah but for my journey it was i i didn't get drafted and i'm

00:28:38.200 watching the draft like you like oh guys are getting paid i'm watching this board go and all these dns

00:28:42.860 are going you know third round fourth round fifth round i'm like this dude like this dude like there's

00:28:49.340 no way yeah and yeah like the jealousy depression hit but we just i just kept working yeah played in

00:28:53.840 canada i was out for two years i was working three jobs all these things it took me three years to get

00:28:58.400 to the league but if it wasn't for the fact that like i watched these guys into your point like i can

00:29:02.780 achieve that like i can be there i i do need to keep working and not quitting i mean look at where

00:29:08.020 you're at now i mean for me to have played in the nfl for six years and not even getting into i was

00:29:14.060 27 years old yeah like it's crazy it's crazy but but again like i didn't have that spite right and

00:29:21.280 you're talking about like these people that bring you down all that is is baggage that's just that

00:29:25.900 that's a weight tied around your ankle that is going to slow you down from being what you

00:29:30.040 potentially can be well i'm like you or andy that that's my biggest struggle is stuff like that

00:29:34.880 doesn't happen to me to guys like me i can't have that so it's the internal battle of well if

00:29:39.380 they can do it i can or versus no that's just not for me right and so that's the internal struggle

00:29:44.500 that i face right now yeah is working over that well dude i i think that you know the biggest thing

00:29:49.900 that people have to realize like guys you you have to take

00:29:53.800 okay so here's why people think that you have to start with why people think this shit

00:29:59.940 so the reason people think that all these motherfuckers are magical out there

00:30:04.140 is because these people once they get to a certain level they start thinking they are magical

00:30:10.120 and they tell everybody they're magical and they talk about how fucking good they are and how you

00:30:14.760 know their ego starts to get huge right and they talk like dude look man like some of these

00:30:20.160 entrepreneurs out there that we all know i'm not gonna name any names but they like to talk as if

00:30:24.980 i got this thing i was born with it you fucking you don't have it and if you don't have it you

00:30:29.780 don't have it and that's bullshit okay self-preservation is what it is that's them building themselves up

00:30:37.300 so that they can build and dude i don't see i don't see that as the right thing to do right

00:30:41.580 i see the right thing to do as to show people the truth like dude i could very easily be like fuck

00:30:46.600 yeah dude i was born with this shit i'm fucking god you know and you want a little piece of me here's

00:30:51.640 you know i'm not no the thing is is is that dude we're all the fucking same bro we all fucking bleed

00:30:57.240 red we all have the same insecurities we all have and dude i try to show people that so that they

00:31:03.980 understand there really isn't anything else besides just doing it like you make a list and you do the

00:31:09.300 list when do you do the list now who taught you that dad when i was fucking three years old make a

00:31:15.540 list do the list when now and that's it and like dude i don't really know i don't really know

00:31:21.540 anything else i've i've learned and i mean we were very two things that i think we were very

00:31:28.320 fortunate to to learn a young age and one of them is education our dad was really good at pounding

00:31:32.300 in the simple things and understanding that compounding interest happens out of being consistent

00:31:36.220 with the small things right and then you know the ability to be competitive like there's not two

00:31:42.240 more i mean this would be a pretty interesting competitive fucking conversation we met dad yeah

00:31:46.980 yes but i think you know what i've learned the way he grabbed your arm that was trying to get back

00:31:53.700 i'm just focusing looking under this table

00:31:57.000 but my point being is is you know what i've learned in with young culture you know and it's

00:32:09.120 kind of goes against the grain right winning you know and everybody's winner now i've learned that

00:32:13.240 most people most people don't understand what it takes to win and they've never really won

00:32:17.820 and winning is really fucking contagious man and so getting these young guys and girls into a point

00:32:24.080 where we create a little bit of momentum and teach them and let them taste the win and let them smell

00:32:27.700 the win you realize like once they taste it it's on you know then they go get it you know what i mean

00:32:32.140 give them a little it's kind of like uh what's the movie a real movie that with denzel the drug dealer

00:32:36.680 oh one in california training day no no i watched training day last night no when he's american

00:32:41.720 american gangster you know when you let him sample the blue match oh yeah you gotta let him taste yeah

00:32:45.920 you know what i'm saying give him a taste and let him come get it i've learned that winning most

00:32:49.880 people never really understood what a win is and then you show it to them you let them have it

00:32:54.280 and going back to your weight loss journey instead of fucking poking fun at the person that lost 30

00:32:59.180 pounds maybe you should go ask them how they can help you or how they did it and then you can

00:33:03.060 create a little good juju going in your direction to create that momentum same thing with

00:33:06.300 success right same thing in business check your motherfucking ego at the door and say hey man

00:33:09.980 what are you doing yeah it seems to be working and how can i that's right yeah can you help me out

00:33:14.100 but but then they're acknowledging that they've got to put the work in oh yeah that's the problem

00:33:18.560 right there's just too many people out there that are just lazy that's like well you're working too

00:33:22.220 hard like you're you're suffering and you know you're not healthy you need to do this it's like no

00:33:26.420 i'm just working my ass off who's that come from though the people that don't want to do it that's

00:33:29.720 right so so dude my new thing for that i tell people with that question you know people say well how do i deal

00:33:35.540 with this shit my new thing is always tell them say hey what's their life gonna look like in 10

00:33:38.560 years what's their life gonna look like in 15 years do you want that life do you want the life

00:33:42.020 they have now and if you don't and if the answer is fucking shit to all those guess what their opinion

00:33:46.680 is shit right and you should just keep moving and dude if we could stop and do that instead of like

00:33:52.140 thinking like oh my god you know my i wonder what they're saying about me fuck dude who cares

00:33:57.900 right who really fucking cares man who really fucking cares if people are not talking about you you're doing

00:34:03.100 something fucking wrong or at least insignificant that's the truth like so you're never dude you

00:34:09.320 know how many motherfuckers talk shit on my 75 hard program a lot of them you know what it does for

00:34:14.160 the program every time they do it gets more people to go look at it yeah so like dude good good morning

00:34:21.380 america ran a shit story on it with some fucking bozo doctor doesn't know goddamn thing and guess what

00:34:26.720 happened i had fucking it went spiked yeah go thank you send him a letter best paid advertising

00:34:33.080 you guys these dude but the best thing about this is that you know people and this is what irritates

00:34:39.680 me the reason most people haven't fucking tasted a win is because society is geared now to keep that

00:34:45.220 away from people they don't want motherfuck bro when you grew up did you get a trophy for fourth place

00:34:49.900 hell no fuck no they didn't have that first of all got that blue ribbon the project league i was in

00:34:54.940 dude you might get a ribbon yeah you know second place like dude you sure as shit didn't get one

00:35:00.820 for seventh or eighth or 14th like dude you don't get one for showing the fuck up and dude we've raised

00:35:05.300 an entire generation of kids that don't know what the fuck it is to win you know and not only do they

00:35:09.960 not know what it is to win they've learned from teachers who tell them hey you know what dude i got

00:35:16.240 told this shit my guidance counselor in fucking high school and i went to a top 25 academic high

00:35:21.740 school okay a blue ribbon school where you would think that they would never fucking say something

00:35:25.960 like this and the motherfucking guidance counselor i had looked at me right in the fucking face

00:35:29.660 and he said well andy what do you want to be or where do you want to go school dude i play football

00:35:33.900 you know i'm like fuck dude i want to go i want to go to notre dame or i want to go to duke i didn't

00:35:37.560 know shit you know right he's like andy look dude those schools are for cream of the crop and that's

00:35:43.080 what he said to me i will never fucking forget it he goes those schools are for cream of the

00:35:46.540 crap and i'm like yeah and he's like and that ain't you and i'm like i you know i'm looking at him

00:35:55.060 like well fuck you man right you know and like that like i didn't know how to respond to that but

00:36:02.980 my response naturally wasn't to like i this guy's in his 40s or 50s how old were you fucking 16 17 you

00:36:10.100 know bro you shouldn't be telling you you shouldn't be telling motherfuckers that kind of shit yeah like

00:36:15.640 okay maybe hey you want to go to duke you want to go to notre dame all right this is what we got to do

00:36:19.800 you got to fuck get your grades up you got to do this i would have responded to that right you know

00:36:24.080 i'm just glad i had enough uh enough like piss and vinegar in me to think like yeah who the fuck

00:36:30.240 are you because a lot of kids don't yeah you know and it's not right dude and that's what i think a

00:36:34.320 leader a good leader can see right i had a coach that told me and i had just killed myself all

00:36:38.880 through college i was team captain three like killed myself for him i would have died literally

00:36:42.820 for him yeah and come pro day he's like yeah probably uh maybe get some arena ball something

00:36:48.760 like that but i'm glad you got your degree good job man i'm like four years old all i wanted to do is

00:36:53.840 play football now you're telling me nah i'm not going to back you at all just probably go play arena

00:36:58.080 league for a little bit shut it down and get into business glad you got your degree but he knew

00:37:02.480 though here's the thing and i didn't see it at the time he knew how you respond how i'd respond

00:37:06.440 hey fuck you yeah come see me three and a half years but i'm gonna make it yeah i'm gonna make

00:37:13.100 it but but i think that's what a leader is but yeah i mean that's the problem and you talked about

00:37:17.000 being winning being contagious you know what's even more contagious now is losing oh man yeah

00:37:22.120 i heard you talk about it right it's like we're celebrating the victim and all we're doing is like

00:37:29.180 no like that's not it because you're setting your kids our kids the next generation up

00:37:34.500 to do shit well we're seeing nothing we're fucking seeing it we're seeing it right now

00:37:39.320 we're seeing so dude when i started the mfceo project 2015 my whole reason for starting that

00:37:45.300 podcast was i i felt obligated to share the things that i know that have helped me win because i'm

00:37:53.160 winning and i fucking think okay well if it's really this if this is what it is i'm gonna share it

00:37:57.740 you know and and that's the right thing to do and and i saw the culture shifting then like i saw

00:38:04.600 all these trophies and what was and these these kids now that was what 15 what eight seven years

00:38:11.220 ago six years ago so now with those kids that were 14 now they're fucking 20 and they're 21 okay

00:38:18.000 and that's who we see on tv burning the fucking shit down and arguing for all this ridiculous shit

00:38:24.120 that doesn't make any fucking sense whatsoever and that now and you know you can't hold them

00:38:29.960 accountable or it hurts their fucking feelings man fuck y'all yeah that's how i think about it you guys

00:38:35.260 are gonna fucking lose your whole fucking lives you're never gonna fucking win you're never gonna

00:38:40.020 beat that drum of being a victim loud enough to make a difference for your fucking life it'll never

00:38:44.960 happen and you guys dude if that's you right now you better wake the fuck up because you'll spend your

00:38:50.320 whole life beating that fucking drum and you will get nothing for you know what like look and the

00:38:56.100 only way you're gonna battle that if you're that person that's still like a self-motivate you're

00:38:59.700 self-motivated you can continue to move forward if you listen to that bullshit yeah if you're

00:39:05.280 listening to that victim drum it'll affect you oh yeah seriously you have to you have to kick that

00:39:10.820 shit in the face man and move on and continue to do you and those that are acting like victims look

00:39:15.340 i've been around that mindset for a long damn time yeah we can't get a job i can't do this so

00:39:22.880 and so can do this but i can't bullshit yeah bullshit if you start to believe that is that

00:39:28.040 so can another and not only that man what what happened to the time where like i always say we

00:39:35.540 always say on our podcast like that soft mentality yeah will get you fucking nowhere it'll get you beat

00:39:42.740 right to win winning is freaking hard man i mean winning is hard playing football we play 16 regular

00:39:50.160 season games right 16 regular season games in the nfl it's fucking hard to win on sunday yeah and if

00:39:57.580 you're gonna win on sunday monday your ass better be ready tuesday you better there are no days off no

00:40:02.840 and it's the same thing for the victims that are out there take it off stop looking at everyone else

00:40:07.000 saying that it's their fault and point that fucking finger back at you and say what can i do dude and

00:40:13.380 how about this how about on top of that name me a great a great story like everybody likes a great

00:40:21.100 story yeah name me a great fucking story where the motherfucking subject of the story didn't have to

00:40:27.400 overcome a whole bunch absolutely yeah a whole bunch and dude here's how i look at it i look at it like

00:40:33.560 this all the things that have happened to me all the things that have fucking got me off track you

00:40:38.220 know uh i could name a million of them motherfucker every one of those you know what i thought dude

00:40:44.380 the day i got stabbed in the fucking face and i think i talked about your shit yeah yeah and and

00:40:49.760 dude i remember i remember the next fucking day what i thought i remember i remember exactly what i

00:40:54.820 thought and i should have stuck with this thought because i didn't i let the fucking victim shit take over

00:40:59.300 for like two years but i remember the next day like i was all bummed out right because like i'm

00:41:05.460 laying i'm laying in the hospital and the fucking doctor he's all pissed off because he thinks i'm

00:41:09.660 some kind of fucking thug that just got fucking stabbed and and i said to him i said well how bad is

00:41:16.280 it he goes well you sure as fuck ain't gonna be a model or movie star that's exactly what the fuck he

00:41:21.320 said to me and so like i was bummed right because like i was i was you know i'm thinking about i'm 20

00:41:26.840 fucking i'm thinking about girls and all this shit i'm like fuck i'm never getting any i'm never

00:41:30.820 getting a girl again pouring up for you baby yeah that's right yeah you know what hey it ain't that

00:41:37.280 bad all right so but anyhow dude uh i'm thinking all this shit i remember thinking this the fucking

00:41:44.280 one thought that i thought for like a minute is i thought well nobody's ever gonna fuck with you

00:41:49.940 again and i should have kept that fucking thought oh yeah you know what i'm saying i thought about it i'm

00:41:54.400 like i'm like i got some street cred now like for like one minute i was kind of like oh this ain't

00:41:58.780 that bad but then i let it all come come in you know what i'm saying and so dude we have to look

00:42:03.480 for those even if they're fucking stupid like that we have to look at those positive things that we can

00:42:08.340 derive and and see all these little mountains that we have uh that we have to climb as part of our

00:42:15.400 fucking story dude it's part of our story and like dude you might be a black kid from the inner

00:42:22.000 city right now and everybody around you saying america sucks and you'll never fucking make it

00:42:26.340 and you motherfucker there are so many motherfucking people just like you that are fucking killing it

00:42:30.820 absolutely killing it yeah and dude you can take that same example and argue for anybody because

00:42:36.080 we everybody has their own things like you know if you're if you're a 14 year old kid and you happen

00:42:40.920 to be listening to this shit and your mom and dad are alcoholics i don't care what fucking color you

00:42:44.800 are where you come from and you get beat and you get picked on that doesn't mean that you cannot

00:42:48.700 not fucking make it that doesn't you could be living in a fucking trailer park out in jefferson

00:42:53.900 county missouri which is like the meth capital of the united states and you might fresno huh behind

00:42:59.840 fresno yeah okay but you could be fucking sitting out there right now thinking fuck i'm never gonna

00:43:04.440 make it i'm never gonna make it look where i was born look god god screwed me yeah motherfucker i'm

00:43:10.060 talking to you you can make it you know and dude that's the we don't have that anymore when i when you

00:43:17.100 and i were coming up everybody out there was telling us hey you could do it you could do it

00:43:23.060 even the teachers you know you might have some shitty teachers like the one i had but most people

00:43:27.580 were like hey with hard work you can accomplish it yeah yeah that's put the time dude yeah and

00:43:33.520 these kids now they don't have that shit yeah and you know what it's a lot to do with fucking us

00:43:38.220 yeah parents i agree is that the kids are our generation oh we fucking failed yeah we did man

00:43:43.800 yeah but but here's the thing though here's and whether you're that 14 year old kid from

00:43:48.000 jefferson city or you're a parent right now that has kids yeah here's the thing though is there's

00:43:53.020 all those and and look i'm i try to stay positive but there's all those losers out there that have

00:43:57.880 that victim mentality yeah think about it as the opportunity that you have either you can change

00:44:02.560 your kid's future by raising him the right way giving him the right tools to succeed encouraging

00:44:07.040 in the right way because guess what that competition out there isn't what it was 20 years ago

00:44:10.980 and if you're a kid that competition like if you're an entrepreneur right now like a 22 23 year old

00:44:16.640 kid dude there is gold out there because there are so many lazy people out there that don't want to

00:44:21.860 put in the work that don't want to go through the things that that the successful people have gone

00:44:26.440 through the the valleys the peaks the valleys i mean the war that it takes to be what you want to be

00:44:32.520 on a constant basis people don't want to go through that there is a freaking gap a truck could

00:44:38.580 drive through for people to you know we're fullback right yeah oh that hole was so big a truck could

00:44:42.220 drive through yeah guess what opportunity is just like that right a hundred percent dude a hundred

00:44:46.540 million percent dude that i i would trade places with any fucking 20 year old right now

00:44:52.200 i don't tell you i don't care what race i don't care where you're from yeah i don't give a fuck what

00:44:57.620 you got what your i would trade place with any of them because i could be where i'm at in seven

00:45:02.280 years exactly 20 years yeah that's the opportunity yeah that's right i mean unless you played for the

00:45:07.000 cowboys in the 90s it's actually a solid point yeah yeah no social media back there no no thank

00:45:13.600 god we didn't have social what was that like bro that had to be fucking cool he just said hit it on

00:45:17.440 the head tyler just said it right now if we would have had social media yeah at that time we would

00:45:21.580 there's no way we have i have a brain there's no way we couldn't fill the team if we had social

00:45:26.360 media yeah but all this net the garbage yeah nasty yeah vile shit that was taking place yeah on those

00:45:33.280 teams yeah yeah yeah you mean classy classy elegant amazing about the brand you know what our team you

00:45:39.980 think about jimmy johnson so jimmy johnson in the 90s he came from early 80s late 80s miami yeah so

00:45:46.080 what were they doing after you yeah you seen everything you need to do that was all jimmy

00:45:51.180 to win games right give it dance on the field and you know what yeah what are your bright color it was

00:45:57.320 the same mentality it was the same mentality with the cowboys but he he he figured out this is what

00:46:03.460 great leaders do he figured out the type of guys he wanted he wanted alpha dogs right he figured i'll

00:46:10.460 get in i'll bring in all these different personalities all these alpha dogs and i'll be the one who will

00:46:16.400 push the bright buttons yeah and that sumbitch push the right buttons he know how to move motivate us

00:46:21.120 yeah he knew how to you know get on us after a win we'd win games by 20 some points the next day

00:46:26.060 he was like hey look you didn't do this right you didn't do that right blah blah we're running all

00:46:29.820 day no practice we're just going it was like punishment after a win so he just knew how to

00:46:35.140 mold that team and there's and that's not that's no different from what you guys are doing here yeah

00:46:39.480 there's a paradox to that man yeah you know the pair that's why saving such a good coach too

00:46:44.340 absolutely you know like he if you if you pay attention to what he coaches on you know he when

00:46:50.640 things are good he locks it down when things are bad he gives you a little grace brings you back up

00:46:55.220 the paradox to leadership is really simple it's just people always fuck it up when things are good

00:46:59.960 the leaders fucking celebrate with the team and when things are bad they complain with the team

00:47:04.480 yeah and a leader's job is not to do that your your job is to direct traffic and get the fucking

00:47:08.520 momentum back so when you win by 27 points but you guys fucking jumped off side 16 times yeah just

00:47:14.560 because you were good talent you beat some shitty team i'm not rewarding you for that either

00:47:18.280 fuck you guys you guys could have won by 70 that's what a good coach does they bring out the

00:47:23.420 you know i got a question for you while we're on right now i mean you guys are around it every

00:47:28.460 day how do you assess your personnel as far as leadership is concerned as far as pushing their

00:47:36.860 but do you treat every employee the same exact way yeah i don't think you can i don't think you

00:47:42.400 can treat them all the same because they all respond to different stimulus you know you have

00:47:45.760 some guys that you have some guys and girls that that they come in and they want to fucking win

00:47:50.580 they have it in them you have some guys and girls that have to be challenged to win you have some

00:47:55.240 guys and girls that have to be built up to win you know i think everybody i think if you try to

00:47:59.420 you know i mean yeah dude you know at the highest level man ideally you would you would say everybody's

00:48:05.020 a killer right but but that's really not true right the truth is you got to bring the killer out of

00:48:09.440 them and so how do you do that you know and sal you do this all the time with your with your

00:48:13.760 meetings you know what i'm saying you're meeting with these guys uh you know how to respond to

00:48:17.900 you know let's say uh this person versus person a versus person b if you go in and try to to to

00:48:24.740 communicate the same way to all of them you're going to get half the people get their feelings hurt

00:48:29.720 half the people are going to get demotivated right so you know i i think you have to you know like you

00:48:35.880 you said like you have to know what buttons to push right to get people to see what you want them to

00:48:41.260 see right i think what i think i mean andrew's dead on you know but for what i what has worked best for

00:48:47.440 i mean and it's i think every leaders andrew and i work really well together because we're yin and

00:48:51.080 yang we're two totally different people same mission never fucking gets lost in the clouds

00:48:55.920 and we're here to fucking win i don't give a fuck what we got to do to get it done he knows what he's

00:48:59.660 got up he knows the role he's offense i'm defense right we play really well hey you're yeah i need you

00:49:03.760 to go play today right today i'm gonna fucking sit back here right but i think you know where i've had

00:49:08.760 the most success in developing young leadership is you know i deal with firm truth like i never back down

00:49:15.920 from the truth never you can't lose with the truth and the facts bro that's right and and i deliver it

00:49:22.080 in a firm manner so that it's and i and i teach them so i've learned to teach and help try to coach

00:49:27.480 them through life so that i can build loyalty or trust so that when i deliver the firm truth it comes

00:49:33.100 with a little bit of dad to it you know what i mean but with the same mission understanding it's

00:49:36.860 like when i got to get that fucking red ass i'm gonna get the best out of them because they know

00:49:40.180 like it's coming like i'm gonna fuck with you until i can't until i get the best out of you

00:49:43.620 and i think i do uh slow medium fast from the standpoint of like slow as i always deliver the

00:49:51.580 truth i'm always talking to him about life i'm always trying to help him you know through personal

00:49:55.140 situations medium is like hey motherfucker we need we've talked about this before like we shouldn't

00:50:01.660 have to revisit this twice you know what i mean like we should not have to constantly your insecurity

00:50:06.280 because you you the the guy you're leading has been here longer than you have like i'm either

00:50:10.640 going to give him your job or you're going to get he's going to take your job what happened like

00:50:13.440 which one you want you want to take it or not and then the fucking firm the fast truth is all right

00:50:17.980 fuckhead it's time to get the fucking busy and i'm either going to fucking put somebody in your

00:50:22.300 motherfucking job today or you're going to fucking respond that's it like and there's no in between

00:50:26.720 and i understood like how to how to tolerate not everybody responds to fast not everybody responds

00:50:31.720 to medium but they all respond to the truth right well and i think the goal ultimately too

00:50:36.320 is is i know our goal is ultimately to get them to self-assess and coach themselves that's what i'm

00:50:41.660 ultimately after like what i'm ultimately after is really developing them i was just having a

00:50:46.340 conversation uh with one of my buddies this morning and he was talking about employee issues that he was

00:50:52.120 having and uh you know the thing is when it comes to employees and it comes to the truth and the facts

00:50:58.800 and how they take it um is is really simple uh my goal is to get you to coach your fucking self as

00:51:05.740 it's coming you know what i mean like the the reason people really screw up in life is because

00:51:11.640 what we talked about this morning they stopped showing up paying attention so you know they get

00:51:15.360 a little bit of a win and wins either do one of two things you guys all know this it either makes

00:51:19.860 you lazy or makes you more hungry that's right and so um the guys who it makes lazy you guys ain't

00:51:25.040 never gonna make it like you just not so what what i try to do is to get people to pay attention

00:51:30.720 to the little bitty things that they do that make up the big things you know and and nobody here and

00:51:37.040 there's not one person here who's weak they're just different right you know and so and i think i see a

00:51:42.820 lot of people yeah bro everybody here everybody here fucking works yeah and i think but wait hold on

00:51:48.820 so i think the biggest thing that that that business owners really mess up in their or let's

00:51:55.860 just say organization leaders whether it's a sports team or a church or a business or anything

00:52:00.500 is you guys think that once things are good they're going to stay good and that ends up screwing it up

00:52:08.260 like you think because you talk to your team and you guys went out and won a game that they're going

00:52:13.600 to remember that the next week no bro this is this is like taking a fucking shower

00:52:18.340 you know like you got to do it every day otherwise you're going to stink like a 24 hour rule yeah

00:52:22.920 that's it it's over with you got the win now move on to the next one yeah that's it placing talent's

00:52:27.500 another thing too you know square putt ground hole yeah not everybody has the same talent or the same

00:52:31.980 upside or the same potential not everybody's really good at building team they're really good at

00:52:35.980 executing on single task and so i think you know learning to identify that not everybody has the same

00:52:41.700 skill set you have and that you don't need to develop the same skill set for everyone you know somebody's

00:52:46.680 got that was a huge lesson for me yeah as a leader well and i think you know everybody wants to throw

00:52:51.100 the fucking football right right somebody's got to hike it somebody's got to be the left tackle

00:52:54.700 somebody has to clean the jersey and somebody's got to bring the water and understanding that in order

00:52:58.360 to win you have to develop a team and not everybody's going to throw the motherfucking

00:53:02.580 football not everybody's going to catch football somebody's got to run the video yeah but a lot of

00:53:06.140 businesses run like that i used to run our business like that everybody's early in the early days

00:53:10.920 i used to have it structured so like to get to here you had to go through here here and here

00:53:15.420 well fuck dude that's not a really good idea because when you when you have to go through here

00:53:20.580 here and here this is sometimes totally out of line with these people and i understand certain people

00:53:26.700 like okay like i have a guy here who's been with me for 16 years and i used to try to make him be a

00:53:34.340 great salesman well this motherfucker ain't a great salesman right that's just what it is but he is

00:53:38.440 great at getting shit done okay and once i recognize that i'm like oh and we take him out

00:53:42.980 of here we put him over here and this fucking guy took off and i my biggest regret in business

00:53:48.340 is that i i i didn't recognize that early enough that then you know like it makes perfect sense

00:53:54.340 right like you got you got this guy who could throw the fucking football right well we're gonna

00:53:58.480 try and see what he could do throwing the football right we're not gonna put him up on the

00:54:01.320 fucking left tackle and make him you know right like but it's getting to know your personnel right

00:54:05.660 so that's that's the key it's not as easy as it would be in the nfl like you can physically look

00:54:09.680 at someone and say that's what this guy's for so so you're talking to three people three guys right

00:54:14.200 here that are on this set right now who come from that world of the nfl where well you you've you've

00:54:19.680 pretty pretty much determined who the fuck you are yeah no this is who you are yeah you you're a

00:54:24.360 long snapper yeah you're not a tied in yeah you may do scout work on as a tied in but you're a freaking

00:54:29.160 long snapper right so we understand those roles that one of the transitions that we've had to make

00:54:34.120 and why our podcast and why i always say our podcast is so therapeutic and what we

00:54:38.740 gone through because it's a transition of of being in the nfl now we're in the business world right

00:54:43.740 is having those conversations because some of what we've learned in the nfl applies yeah and some of

00:54:50.400 what we've learned in nfl does not apply right and we have to change our mindset and have conversations

00:54:56.620 with you andy and do your story sal you're next you're doing your story and learning off those

00:55:02.300 story am i right that's right i mean isn't that that's why like i always talk about our podcast

00:55:07.860 when we first got started i was like i don't know about you know yeah yeah but as we got as we've

00:55:12.240 gotten going man it's taught me so much about just life yeah and business and talking through some

00:55:19.560 shit yeah talking through shit like we are talking through it with some of the best that's ever done

00:55:25.120 it you know and that's and that applies to what we're doing so that's that's the message and i

00:55:29.260 always like i always say our show is the most we are it's therapeutic it's amazing show it's

00:55:34.240 amazing i love the show it's one it's probably the best show i've ever done or that i've ever

00:55:38.500 had fun on you know i appreciate it was great you know what i learned today is why you're on defense

00:55:43.700 baby i dropped one ball man i dropped one damn

00:55:48.600 hey you know what and dj i'm sorry

00:55:53.140 oh you mean big red

00:55:58.820 one thing i do want to ask it and you touched on a bit earlier because we spend a lot of time talking

00:56:06.660 about how to win and how to get to that point of winning i think for me the most fascinating thing

00:56:11.500 now is all right once you're there how do you continue that i think that's i do we talked about

00:56:16.520 this out in the gym this morning dude um you know there's a big difference man you know if you show

00:56:23.000 up every day and you know you're look man if you want to fucking be ultra successful in life you have

00:56:29.700 to fucking buy into this idea right now it's going to be a battle every fucking day period just accept

00:56:35.040 it it's never gonna i have so many of these people that hit me up in the business world or the

00:56:39.580 entrepreneur world and they're like when's it gonna get easier i'm like never motherfucker if you

00:56:42.560 want to win it never gets easier it just gets different and and so what you're worried about

00:56:49.000 in the beginning which would be like paying the rent on your space or you know you're looking at the

00:56:53.560 sales numbers every three fucking hours like dude i've did that for fucking years and years

00:56:57.380 and years and years i probably in the last year just got to the point where i don't check the

00:57:02.800 sales numbers multiple times a day like you know so now i'm worried about other shit now i'm now

00:57:08.560 i'm looking over here or that but i think if you just buy into the fact that like dude okay i'm gonna

00:57:12.360 go to battle every fucking day and you your chances of success just go up a million fold when you just

00:57:18.840 accept that just accept it i'm gonna have to work hard until i fucking die and you know what

00:57:24.920 it's not that bad and guess what at least you know you're in for yeah you don't go to bed surprised

00:57:29.660 every night that's true what the hell yeah you can go to all right let's go that's right and so it

00:57:33.720 takes a lot of anxiety and a lot of like shit that i would used to worry about off the table like

00:57:39.180 all right fuck it man i'm in and once you're just bought in now it becomes a lot easier to continue

00:57:45.480 to win because what happens is you avoid what most people do which is um they win a little bit and

00:57:52.420 then they think that they're gonna keep winning and they take their eye off the ball and all of a sudden

00:57:56.920 you know we we've all had these friends they're making millions of dollars and then you call

00:58:02.000 them a year from now and they're fucked and you're like bro what happened and he's like oh well and

00:58:07.700 you know damn well what happened because you saw on his instagram he's fucking here he's with this

00:58:11.720 dude he's part he's out at 4 a.m with a fucking bunch of strippers and you're like yep i see you

00:58:17.600 coming here it comes yeah fat cat yeah well it's that football analogy i mean it's the little details

00:58:22.780 right it's taking that six inch step it's putting your hands in the right place you forget the details

00:58:26.960 that got you to that yeah championship caliber team then you can't stay there i mean how hard

00:58:32.040 was it in 94 to get back to the super bowl third consecutive time yeah it's harder i mean when

00:58:37.420 my 49ers slapped you and it's a championship oh you just heard this but it's hard but it's really

00:58:46.200 hard

00:58:46.500 i'll tell you this though and anders anders missing a part that he teaches really really well

00:59:05.960 and you know um the sex sex there you go there you go i didn't even touch you

00:59:14.240 hands high a little bit man hands high

00:59:18.920 that's right come on over here big boy yeah no you're next

00:59:23.460 andrew talks about the success mirage we're gonna put this motherfucker on only calves

00:59:27.680 i got nice calves oh dude the success mirage and what you realize you're dead you're dead

00:59:35.960 on is you know you you what you realize it takes to win is it's back to the one through

00:59:40.200 ten you know the things that that got you to the top will get you back to the top but you

00:59:45.420 got to consistently stay on top of doing them what happens you become lazy you become complacent

00:59:49.420 you become you know like yeah you know what maybe i don't need to go to the gym at 5 a.m

00:59:53.640 maybe i'll skip the gym and that's understanding and expressing discipline of the things that got

01:00:00.800 you here will get you here again but if you stop doing that it won't get you there it won't get

01:00:05.740 you there and so it's a bell curve when you get to the top you got two ways you can either restart

01:00:10.080 the bell curve or you can fall the fuck off and understanding that it's your creature of habit of

01:00:14.420 winning through small little steps your six inch steps right and so understanding we we create that

01:00:19.780 in a work environment those same things still exist you know making sure hey you're sending your

01:00:25.020 your 25 offensive emails you're making sure you're doing your 25 customer touches you're making sure

01:00:29.420 you're writing your five thank you cards like these small steps now if you take the five thank you cards

01:00:33.580 off the plate what happens is then you fill it with bullshit no you're fucking around on instagram

01:00:37.420 really what happens is it's the compromise that kills you because once you start compromising on that

01:00:42.980 one thing to make room for the other thing what's going to happen is the next thing you're

01:00:46.440 going to do is compromise on the other thing and then all of a sudden your whole life becomes a

01:00:49.800 compromise that's why i talk about zero compromise all the fucking time people that oh you're too

01:00:54.520 rigid well am i i don't know right you know they seem to be going okay so like the other thing too i

01:01:02.800 want to touch on about continuing to win which is a huge deal and i see a lot of you know in rta uh with

01:01:09.240 ed it gives me a privilege to really see a lot of companies and what's going on and one of the things i

01:01:14.760 see that really crushes people from winning is is because dude our business environment changes so

01:01:21.120 quickly now like there's new technology there's new trends there's new things happening literally

01:01:26.120 every week that you have to be paying attention to so what happened so it the the fall off happens so

01:01:33.020 much quicker now when you take your eye off of things so like the minute you think like you know

01:01:37.600 you make your first 100 grand or you know your first million dollars or your first 10 million

01:01:41.660 whatever's relative to you and you think fuck i got i got it and you you go over here and you go

01:01:47.660 to cabo for two weeks and fuck off what happens when that new trend you just missed or you just

01:01:52.280 notice your competitors doing this or that or this and what happens is companies look over here and the

01:01:57.420 shit changes so fast when they look back they're behind and they don't know what to do and so dude to

01:02:03.360 win in business especially now you have to anticipate the market you can't just react to the market

01:02:09.240 you have to anticipate the market so whatever whatever wherever you are if you're just reacting

01:02:14.840 to what everybody else does you're always going to be behind and if you can't pay attention okay so

01:02:20.020 my point is long-winded here is if you don't show up to fucking win every day you're going to end up

01:02:24.140 losing because it's going to change on you and you're not going to know what to do and and that's

01:02:29.060 that's the problem i think as companies now if you if you don't have the ability to evolve you die

01:02:33.640 oh that's it simply put adaptation is the name of the game yeah well and doing it dynamically like

01:02:38.360 you got to be fast man you know what i'm saying like we're in a in a very much of an ebb and flow

01:02:43.020 economy and understanding like okay what happened in coven if you don't have a ddc opportunity or

01:02:48.100 every what we learned is everybody's got a ddc opportunity how fast you evolve to it is how

01:02:52.220 well you can stay on top of the water you get fucking eaten up by the waves restaurants included

01:02:56.500 can you do curbside are you available to do it can you make it happen like can you adapt

01:03:00.300 and make this thing fucking work yes or no because if you sit back and you just expect everything

01:03:05.080 to go back to normal you're going to get your fucking ass beat i saw covid i saw 2020 is a huge

01:03:10.020 test to show who the fuck because dude entrepreneurship has become a popular thing

01:03:14.260 so what i saw happen was a lot of the people that really shouldn't been entrepreneurs

01:03:18.100 are now out and a lot of the people who are willing to adapt they're in and they're doing great

01:03:23.440 and so what really happened here is and dude a lot of people you're gonna fucking email me i don't

01:03:28.520 give a fuck don't at me about it this is the truth it's the truth the fucking the business

01:03:33.240 returned to its rightful owners period that's what happened people the people with skills got

01:03:38.500 their business back the people who don't they lost and that's natural selection we don't know

01:03:43.220 what the fuck's gonna happen we don't know what we we don't how the fuck do we know unless we just

01:03:47.900 show up every day and pay attention i can tell you this when they started talking about the fucking

01:03:51.660 economy locking down in january him and i were making a fucking plan instead everybody else waited

01:03:58.360 until they actually closed it right and so when it happened you know that's when the discussion

01:04:03.180 just for an example that's when the discussion of putting the zoom rooms came in we they started

01:04:08.380 talking about covid and they're talking about shutting down this and that and we're like fuck

01:04:11.820 dude if we can't because we were heavily built around in-person events absolutely in-person

01:04:16.460 coaching we'd have 10 15 people come in we teach them in person well fuck you can't do that

01:04:22.640 so what do we do and so right at that point we made a pivot we said every motherfucking

01:04:26.860 room here is going to be a zoom room we're going to fucking go virtual blah blah blah blah blah

01:04:30.780 and we opened a new headquarters hired almost 200 people and had the fucking greatest year we ever

01:04:35.900 had in business because we were able to pivot quick and i to your point one of the things i'm

01:04:41.400 most proud about our companies all of them is that yes we might be a bigger company or a mid-sized

01:04:46.920 company but we fucking operate like a little company well and i think that's i mean it's a super

01:04:51.980 valid point i think to be dynamic you have to have a small business mindset with a fucking big

01:04:55.840 business attitude you know what i mean like making sure you attack like hey man every customer matters

01:04:59.740 it's one customer at a time it's not 10 it's not 1 000 it's not 100 000 it's one and trying to take

01:05:06.000 that to scale and that's what i you know i i think we do that very well yeah i'll say this to back that

01:05:12.720 up because you know you can say it and it sounds good but here's the actual testimony of that right

01:05:18.100 we walked in today right and it was a little creepy because of the background background uh digging that

01:05:23.180 y'all did on us yeah it was a little scary so there's like the duck hunting caller i'm like these

01:05:28.660 guys went three years back on my social media google all over again but you treat each customer

01:05:34.840 like one person after you came on the show you sent and then chris wrote a handwritten letter to

01:05:39.080 me sent sent like for every single person that that receives a first form product or goes to your

01:05:45.160 stores they feel like the most important person that's that small bro you know what it's because

01:05:49.160 they are because those people those people are we we at this level still cannot afford to lose a

01:05:57.120 single person we just can't it's not what we do like we want we want to get you and we want you to

01:06:03.520 stay here for as long for forever we want to be your friend we want to know about you we want to help

01:06:08.820 you get whatever it is that you're trying to get and dude that shit goes you know where that comes from

01:06:13.520 that comes from the fucking 10 years that i have any motherfucking customers right and that's that's

01:06:19.320 something that these kids too nowadays they won't have because it's so much easier to get it going

01:06:23.700 you guys have to realize the reason that first form pays the attention to detail is because dude

01:06:29.780 i fuck you man people think this is bullshit story the first day we were in business we sold seven

01:06:36.740 dollars the second day we had zero customers the third day we sold 23 dollars it took us eight months

01:06:42.200 to have a day over 200 it took me six years to get the second store open it took me 10 years to make

01:06:48.740 more than 600 a month or 700 a month i'm sorry 10 fucking years do you know how many days i had where

01:06:55.480 i didn't see anybody do you know how many days i sat in that motherfucking store with chris talking about

01:07:00.540 what how the fuck we're gonna pay our bills and and dude you know what it did though it taught me to

01:07:05.640 value a fucking customer so like dude you would you would come in my store and i'd try to keep you

01:07:11.340 there because i was fucking bored right for real because i'm tired of looking at this motherfucker

01:07:16.520 talking the same shit and and and dude i'm cursing it right i'm like fuck this we're we fucking suck

01:07:22.760 like we don't know what we're doing and the truth is that what it really taught me was the most fucking

01:07:28.260 valuable thing i know today which is that every single customer fucking matters every one and if

01:07:33.300 you're in the business right now and you think that they don't i'm going to fucking destroy you

01:07:37.580 i promise you because dude to me i'll take them all and i'll treat them all like that because i

01:07:42.780 fucking value it and i don't ever i talked about this on the last show i don't ever want to go back

01:07:47.560 there so i'm going to run as fast as i can this way to create as much distance possible and the

01:07:51.660 only way to create that distance is to truly value every single customer that's right what i love about

01:07:56.760 your story man and i'm a man of faith and and you you mentioned it is is that look there's a higher

01:08:01.980 power and there's a journey on it right yes then you didn't see the story you didn't know what it was

01:08:06.300 supposed to look like but he was preparing you the whole time he was preparing you when you're

01:08:09.640 playing ball right that the leaders that you came around and informed you to be the leader of the

01:08:14.020 team out there right there's reasons that you'd go through all the bullshit to get where you need

01:08:19.440 to be because those little lessons along the way had you not been through all that we talked about

01:08:23.160 on the show yeah had you not been through all that there's no way that the the customer awareness

01:08:28.720 would be what it is today bro bro i i i can't even tell you how much i believe that to be true

01:08:35.400 like there's no to me like you know people hear the the cursing and they see the intensity and shit

01:08:42.020 but like dude i am also a man of extreme faith because i've seen it fucking work dude i've seen

01:08:48.160 in my own life i've seen it work in other people's lives it's real shit and that's why i'm so that's

01:08:53.900 why i'm so confident when i tell you that dude when you hate on other people you will not be rewarded

01:08:59.220 for that you will be punished for that the i think the lesson though when times are tough

01:09:05.660 because there's there's a listener right now and even if it's just one it's understanding like when

01:09:10.000 the times are tough you have to find the positive things to keep you moving in the right direction

01:09:13.480 because it's easy to get wrapped up in that negative connotation or the pity party or the

01:09:18.360 the victim mentality but understand there's just a lesson right now what is it sometimes you won't

01:09:22.940 understand it it's not going to make sense to you but you're never going to do you're never going to

01:09:27.360 do wrong by doing the right thing by treating somebody with respect saying hello yeah you know

01:09:31.500 yes ma'am yes sir please thank you being a good human you know helping out when somebody needs

01:09:36.140 something a one-way to a one-way transaction meaning you're not expecting something in return

01:09:41.040 and if you're in that negative spot understand like you might not understand what that lesson is it

01:09:46.200 might not be clear to you but you will whenever you're sitting down in 10 years 20 years 12 years from

01:09:52.960 now it'll make sense to you then and that's an important piece that's fucking facts that is

01:09:58.580 fucking facts you you will not understand why this shit's happening to you for 10 more years yeah for

01:10:05.000 20 more years you just won't and now it makes sense yeah well to that point i'm sitting the

01:10:10.580 interesting thing about winning is i always thought like the money i make the house i live in the cars i

01:10:17.740 drive i always thought that was the cool part about winning and it's cool it is cool but i look

01:10:23.580 back to your point sal i look back and i think about the 4 30 a.m wake up and i think about the

01:10:27.840 extra reps that i did those are the parts of winning and the process of winning that i actually

01:10:32.120 appreciate more than anything like the house and stuff that's cool but you get over that pretty quick

01:10:36.460 oh yeah yeah process though it's no different than a pair of shoes yeah exactly and the part about

01:10:41.100 winning right is you get used to the good stuff and you forget about the bad stuff and and for me

01:10:46.440 i struggled this last last year year two year and a half or so like times were hard i just made a

01:10:52.220 transition into real estate commercial real estate and times were hard it's a grind and right and in

01:10:57.100 the last few months you know with the help of some mentors it's been like no look at those look at

01:11:01.940 those shitty times it's good because you know what you're learning running through that financial

01:11:05.460 analysis for your client you know what you're learning putting that survey together in miami

01:11:08.900 understanding the market there all the things that you're learning like you're being prepared for

01:11:13.780 something right something so much bigger than going and doing you know a 10 000 square foot

01:11:18.760 office deal or whatever it is right that there's and now when i'm in those when i'm in those really

01:11:24.180 like hard crappy times my wife's pissed because i'm working till 11 o'clock at night and she's having

01:11:30.380 to run the kids and all it's like you know what though like we're gonna be so much better because of

01:11:35.300 this because of all of these times there's practicality to that too though so so while

01:11:40.780 i appreciate that you guys who are listening you have to understand there's practicality to this

01:11:48.300 okay because a lot of you what you want is you want a mentor or a coach or someone like you know

01:11:56.260 i get this a lot sometimes in art not a lot but sometimes in our day where people get overly

01:12:01.020 dependent on what i'm telling them to do all right so you guys have to understand that a great coach

01:12:08.500 they're going to tell you what to do but then they're going to shut the fuck up okay and you

01:12:14.420 have to go do it and i was talking to one of my guys in arate this morning and great fucking dude

01:12:20.500 and the reason i love this motherfucker so much is because he fucking executes like you know it's not

01:12:26.340 like he's we're not like grabbing each other like you guys are and shit all right like don't

01:12:32.320 don't be hating bro i'm a little jealous

01:12:34.480 but dude for real like i'm i'm fucking sitting here and and i was talking to him and i said hey

01:12:46.180 i said he goes well you just told me to do this and this and this and i had to go figure it the

01:12:52.660 fuck out and i said yeah that's right i said how much do you know now and he's like fuck i didn't

01:12:58.700 even think of that and i'm like he goes but i know fucking everything and i'm like that's what a coach

01:13:03.860 is supposed to do that's right a coach doesn't run your motherfucking play a coach tells you this is the

01:13:08.900 direction i think you should go yeah yeah that means fucking go dude right like and when you go on

01:13:16.200 that journey you will fucking learn the skills you need and so this is this is where the practical

01:13:21.180 comes in because a lot of you guys out there you want the money you want the house you want the car

01:13:25.860 you want this you want that but without the skills that you're going to have to learn to get there you

01:13:30.980 will lose that shit immediately okay and that's what you don't understand so a good coach is not

01:13:36.700 going to fucking coddle your ass and say oh you know do this and that and this and this and i think

01:13:42.940 you got it no motherfucker go that way if you get caught if you get stuck call me right you know

01:13:48.600 i'm saying and you learn the rest of the shit and then at the end they're going to say holy fuck

01:13:53.100 look at all the shit i know and guess what you won't lose all your money and this is what we're

01:13:57.140 talking about and but dude people don't want to go through the fucking gauntlet and going through the

01:14:01.860 fucking gauntlet is the most valuable part of your life and so when you guys are sitting there

01:14:06.000 listening right now and you're dude and look this is definitely way easier when you're surrounded by

01:14:11.620 great people like i'm surrounded by fucking great people now i can walk through this office and

01:14:17.160 literally talk to any single human that works here and i'm going to get some positive shit in

01:14:22.060 my life it wasn't always that way there was a time where i was fucking alone there was a time where i

01:14:29.060 fucking felt like a piece of shit there was a time where i didn't have friends like that and i call that

01:14:34.180 time no man's land all right i talk about it a lot internally but not a lot on the podcast

01:14:39.260 a lot what's the saying it's what at the top it's lonely at the top motherfucker it ain't lonely at

01:14:45.300 the top it's fucking awesome it's fucking awesome because all your friends that at the fucking

01:14:51.480 quote-unquote top and i'm not at the top but i'm on my fucking way i can fucking see up there they all

01:14:56.800 want you to win they're all cool they all want to have great experiences with you and there's the

01:15:02.000 quality of the relationships that you have when you get to a certain level is so much fucking better

01:15:06.580 than what you guys have down here and what you don't understand is you're going to have to get rid of

01:15:11.980 this and you're going to go through a period of time where you feel lonely yep okay because you

01:15:16.900 haven't developed these new relationships yet and that's what people think success is about but what

01:15:22.440 you motherfuckers don't get is that they don't even know one motherfucking person that's pushed

01:15:26.480 through this thing called no man's land where you're going to be alone and feel alone for a while

01:15:30.820 and then what's going to happen is you're going to cross over you're going to meet one person or two

01:15:34.740 people or you're going to join a group like arte you're going to be a whole bunch of people

01:15:38.160 that are aligned with your fucking where you want to go dude how much easier and i'm talking to you

01:15:43.800 guys right now who are lonely you're frustrated your friends are hating on your ambitions your mom

01:15:48.420 and dad told you you're a fucking loser bro i get it here's the thing there's people out there that

01:15:56.120 will support you how much easier would your life be if every single person you know you like i said hey

01:16:02.800 i'm going to be the next fucking nike and every single person said all right well how the fuck can

01:16:06.360 i help your life will be a lot easier that's what we've built and that's what happens when you get

01:16:12.120 to a certain point but you have to be willing to go through this fucking gauntlet the gauntlet from

01:16:17.240 regular dude to fucking successful person is hard you're going to learn a lot of shit but dude when you

01:16:25.040 learn that shit guess what they could take your fucking money they could take your house they could take

01:16:30.160 your fucking car because you made a bad decision but guess what you get to do you get to get it

01:16:34.500 back and that's the thing that skills will do for you and dude you can only get the skills by doing

01:16:39.580 the hard shit and i think there's so so that's the practicality right like if you don't have the

01:16:44.800 skills you're gonna lose your shit you're not gonna be able to get it back yep because bad shit's

01:16:50.080 gonna happen motherfuckers absolutely yeah yeah it's coming yeah but i think we live in a great time

01:16:54.240 like i think i think how much access you have to great shit right now education you know direct access

01:16:59.500 visualization have that growing up no so i mean like instead of like focusing on negative say

01:17:03.860 hey man i might be able to go through that process a little bit more efficiently because i don't have

01:17:06.740 to fucking i don't have to lose as many times as those guys did yeah but see dude they don't the

01:17:11.520 kids now bro they don't understand the perspective they don't they don't see what it used to be they

01:17:17.120 don't see that bro dude right now i can name 10 motherfuckers off top of my head that are worth

01:17:22.460 literally hundreds of millions of dollars that dedicate all kinds of their time to help people win

01:17:26.960 back when i was fucking coming up there was one motherfucker that did that one his name was tony

01:17:31.400 robbins yeah and he's that man is responsible for more motherfucking success on this fucking planet

01:17:36.560 than any other human period you can think what you want about him but that's a fucking fact

01:17:40.900 that guy inspired the whole fucking group of people like me and all these other dudes that are giving all

01:17:45.960 their shit okay i did not have that bro i had tony robbins one dude okay i could like and i'm thankful

01:17:54.280 for you tony by the way because i wouldn't fucking be here without you right i've never met him in

01:17:58.320 person we know of each other we talked on the phone but i'm just saying like thank you because

01:18:03.180 like dude it and that's what i look at like i look at like people who who inspired me and and but

01:18:09.140 i i just feel like dude i just feel like they don't understand how little of that shit there used to

01:18:16.980 be yeah you know like if we wanted to learn about success we had to read books and we never saw

01:18:21.980 these motherfuckers we don't even know if they were fucking real exactly yeah exactly like dude

01:18:26.040 i remember think you grow rich by napoleon hill i read it a long time ago and i'm like fuck this

01:18:30.380 guy like even a real human he's napoleon he died a long time ago now you have all these dudes like

01:18:35.540 the ed my let's and the manny koshpins and you know myself and these other guys who are fucking

01:18:39.780 showing you how to fucking win you have access what success looks like and you can see that it's real

01:18:44.700 you can see it's real shit bro how how do you know you can achieve something if you can't even

01:18:51.140 see it as real and like that's where we all came from you know what i'm saying we had to fucking like

01:18:56.700 we had to like really believe right now it's like you have the fucking proof and you still don't

01:19:01.560 believe right what the fuck guys fuck my whole life darren was just on a poster on the wall you

01:19:06.220 know what i'm saying like he's real he's fucking real now i'm rubbing his leg now he's here you guys

01:19:10.860 get the flirt fuck man did i have clothes i'm just saying no family anderson's next to you

01:19:15.520 oh well that makes sense so you basically had the better booty i was like yeah man you know

01:19:22.080 there was like a poster hell five of you i think you were looking at the wrong time

01:19:27.720 he's over there you know what i'm saying pamela was down there no but there there's and i think

01:19:33.920 because a lot of times and this is maybe not victim mentality but this is a process that happens in

01:19:38.740 human nature you think well it's different for you and here i'm gonna give you an example it's

01:19:42.440 not different and it's not different for us even now like when you walk through this building and

01:19:45.900 you see all these things andrew said something and i think you know my friends and our friends

01:19:50.820 respond maybe a little bit differently now but they certainly still think we're fucking crazy right

01:19:54.860 andrew's like oh we're gonna go after nike i tell my friends that i would tell people in our

01:19:58.480 environment that and like now they'll like believe in you kind of but you know deep rooted in the back of

01:20:03.540 their fucking head they're like there ain't no motherfucking way these guys are fucking crazy i'm

01:20:07.400 comfortable with that but nobody's always thought that but you have to think that to just at scale

01:20:11.900 it's the same fucking process it's the same doubt you deal with the same bullshit so it's not

01:20:16.820 different it's the same we're gonna go after fucking nike and i challenge you this you walk

01:20:20.120 around this building and andrew says oh were we like if you really ask andrew we're winning like

01:20:24.360 earlier he said no no we're not even close we're just getting started like this we in fact if you

01:20:28.040 look at our timeline out there it's day one like we went through the whole timeline when the day

01:20:31.680 we moved in here is day one it's just the the rebalancing of where we're at now we got to go

01:20:35.720 attack where we're going and you think about that goal you know we're gonna beat nike in our minds

01:20:41.760 we haven't even been in business one year yet yeah that's right coming up on june yeah and your goal

01:20:46.740 you want to be a millionaire you want to make your first hundred thousand or two hundred fucking

01:20:49.560 thousand that might seem absurd to you we're going after nike that's certainly absurd it's certainly

01:20:54.260 and i'm going to tell you our friends don't think we're fucking any fucking less crazy and your

01:20:58.180 friends think you're fucking crazy so chase your motherfucking dreams take the access to the

01:21:02.180 shit around you and go fuck yeah and that's how that walk was today that's the walk that we had

01:21:07.840 today when we came in and not reggie but dj dj showed us around like did that not hit you guys

01:21:15.500 i'm sitting here looking around this room so i'm thinking the same thing i mean in totally inspired

01:21:19.880 not jealous but totally inspired because we have a new podcast right our new podcast is we're just

01:21:25.600 hey we're a startup but you know we're dreaming big man so i'm looking around hell i've done it i'm

01:21:31.260 51 years old guys i've i've had some success don't i've done don't crack i've done shit i've had

01:21:38.300 tremendous success in so many ways but there's so much just seven minutes ago yeah there's so much

01:21:48.320 more man you don't stop dreaming no no you know the boy never leaves that little boy never leaves

01:21:53.320 i'm looking around i'm like man looking at ben like and i'm seeing ben shake his head like yeah

01:21:58.360 we need to step up our game but that's the inspiration yeah dude look man that's good to

01:22:03.640 hear i love that but like you guys ain't lacking anything you guys if you guys aren't listening to

01:22:07.700 their show you should it's really fucking good it's i've done a million shows it's my favorite show i've

01:22:12.020 done for real i'm just saying that shit because you're here well i am a little bit

01:22:15.800 no dude for real we had a good fucking time yeah i was i will say this he came out and he's like

01:22:28.760 man i just did darren remember darren what i just did darren how many fucking guys do i do their show

01:22:33.480 and invite to come out and do their show i can only think of one other one that's it one yeah and i'm

01:22:39.180 talking about like when he walked out he was like literally that was good he was like dude you

01:22:43.360 remember and he was fucking pumped so well this is this is surreal for me personally you would be

01:22:47.720 real happy yeah i was i was happy for you i can't wait to hold his hand i wrote in his face a little

01:22:53.100 bit i didn't ask you on oh that's me i'll be next don't worry that's right we'll have you in person

01:22:59.080 i was just saying this is surreal for me personally i remember listening to mfceo in 2017 is when i don't

01:23:03.660 remember how i discovered you guys but vaughn the the pastor disaster yeah and and sitting in my

01:23:08.900 garage you know working out listening to the mfceo yeah for me to sit here today is crazy to think

01:23:14.140 about just how much fun was here bro vaughn vaughn is uh going to be way more involved with the show

01:23:19.960 moving forward again um but what a good fucking dude you know i'm saying at time no he's the best

01:23:27.140 bro one time he told me to fuck off listen man listen vaughn brings something to the show that we

01:23:32.960 that is super awesome i love having a long fucking show i wish we had time to tell the story

01:23:38.280 because it's a great it's a great story we got a lot of vaughn stories yeah vaughn you're glad i

01:23:42.320 don't fucking tell them all yeah the good thing about vaughn is eventually you know he'll the

01:23:47.580 humility comes out and he tells a great version of it it's fucking hilarious it's fucking awesome

01:23:51.640 yeah i'll say this though andy when you came on the show we appreciated that so much because

01:23:56.860 your story is i think it like materialized the idea of what we were trying to accomplish everything

01:24:03.180 we do is because of the mfceo project right well dude i you guys got the magic there's there's a lot

01:24:07.940 dude look man there's a lot of people that are i try to only do podcasts that have been around for

01:24:14.020 a few episodes right like i tell emily i'm like look dude unless it's like somebody we know

01:24:17.960 or that i know of they gotta do at least like 100 episodes for me to do it because dude within that

01:24:23.440 first 100 most people quit right you know and and i don't want to be the guy that they're trying

01:24:27.760 to build the show off of you know what i mean so the thing is is you know i sucked you guys go

01:24:33.040 listen to the fucking first episode of my podcast it was fucking horrible like i don't know that

01:24:36.740 anybody could even do a worse podcast but but you guys got that you got the flow down you got the

01:24:42.560 magic down and it's gonna go good it's gonna go good for you guys i can already tell you appreciate

01:24:46.620 that yeah appreciate that so man thanks for having us yeah bro this is i mean look man i want you guys

01:24:52.440 to come back this is fucking great we're moving up here yeah i fucking get you guys in office

01:24:57.840 darren you can stay at sal's office

01:24:59.740 move over sal you ain't get my fucking locker though that's my motherfucking locker

01:25:06.080 but uh you ain't let's closing thoughts man let's start with you no i mean i think i mean you know

01:25:13.320 you look at anything you want in life is attainable and if you're willing to work for it yeah i think

01:25:19.880 that's an important piece to understand that you know the hard work is going to come far before you

01:25:23.440 believe in the fact that that you can actually do this and and developing a great game plan is awesome

01:25:29.440 but it's only fucking awesome if you execute it yeah and understanding that consistency plus time

01:25:34.740 plus a great game plan can get you anywhere you want to fucking go yeah but you got to be willing

01:25:40.600 to work for it and i think a lot of people a lot of times people they don't give it time they don't

01:25:45.180 let the cake bake and they don't apply enough consistency over that time to to allow the cake to be good

01:25:50.380 and then they fucking quit you know i was thinking when you were talking about that earlier you were

01:25:54.520 saying about how you know it's it's real simple you know it's not hard to do the right thing be a

01:25:58.720 good person do all these things yeah but the the thing that you didn't say is it's got to be done

01:26:02.920 for a long fucking time of course not one day you can't go out one day and think oh man i was really

01:26:07.280 good to people today i still had a shitty day first of all if you actually go out and you

01:26:11.200 fucking make pleasant conversation with five people you don't know in a day you are going to have a

01:26:15.500 good fucking day yes you will yeah it's coming back yeah bro because it reminds you of how good

01:26:19.440 people are like dude when i feel bad about people the best thing i can do is go talk to somebody i

01:26:24.280 don't know in a pleasant way and like maybe even give them a compliment like hey nice shoes or this

01:26:28.560 or that nice car and they're dude just that little fucking 30 second exchange will bring you back

01:26:33.860 that's right to feeling good here's your million dollar here's your million dollar uh differential

01:26:38.620 right for the listener i tell our guys every monday at the end of the meeting i always say go be the

01:26:43.340 best hour of somebody's day today yeah probably the best fucking hour like the one hour that they

01:26:47.920 fucking say hey man they go home they put their head on the pillow like when you have a conversation

01:26:51.540 you know what's funny though about that is that that would be your best hour too of course no you

01:26:55.860 enjoy it man and you and you love what you do and you're making somebody's day and you're making

01:26:59.100 them smile like i don't give a fuck what you do if you do that you'll win that's the joy that is so

01:27:04.560 that is so factual yeah that's joy man yeah because you're bringing joy to someone else's life man

01:27:09.760 back into you look man i would say me like i start off everything with what can i do so it has to

01:27:17.700 start whatever it is you want to be a young entrepreneur you want to be a young athlete

01:27:20.620 whatever it is it starts with me doesn't start stop looking outside it starts with me one of the

01:27:25.620 best successes i've had is starting this podcast and the reason why is that i understand my weaknesses

01:27:31.380 and i know the guys who are going to lift me up every day when i have a fucked up day or things

01:27:36.480 aren't going right well my confidence is down i'm looking at tyler i'm looking at ben they're

01:27:40.620 sharpening me up right that's what you need to surround yourself around don't surround yourself

01:27:45.740 with yes man dude i love that so much man you know what i love about you what you just said was that

01:27:51.200 dude you got three super bowl rings you lead you lead to dallas cowboys and fucking tackles bro

01:27:55.560 that's legendary shit legendary shit like truly legendary shit doesn't get any bigger than that

01:28:01.420 and you're sitting here talking about how you have your off days with confidence yeah that's what people

01:28:05.960 don't understand like dude you anybody me you guys fucking everybody i've ever been on this show

01:28:11.660 every motherfucker we're all gonna have those days and that's why it's important to have that bro

01:28:16.540 you know and like dude if you're if you're sitting out there right now and you're a young guy or young

01:28:20.220 girl and you're like man i don't have anybody like that well that's that's a that's something

01:28:24.760 that you should pay attention to yeah because that will fuck your life up yeah that's right

01:28:28.160 true man yeah yeah i'll just echo uh i'll start with echoing what sal said is work it's got you

01:28:35.080 got to put in the work but here's the other thing and we talked about it a little bit was

01:28:38.580 there's really no excuse anymore there are so many people out there that want to be resources for you

01:28:44.520 the people that have are at a level above you want to be a mentor want to help you give you the tools

01:28:49.780 to be successful if you if you don't ask then you're never ever going to get those tools accessible

01:28:55.380 to you so one there's no excuses but to put in the work i mean it's really simple that's it yeah

01:29:02.340 yeah no i just sit here you know like i said i started listening in 2017 so i've heard a lot

01:29:06.240 of your content i've heard a lot of you guys but what you said a minute ago might be the best thing

01:29:10.460 i've ever heard you say which was get comfortable with the work yeah because it never stops no get

01:29:15.320 comfortable bro it's just accept it it's accepted bro it's it's part of the deal hey man i'm gonna get

01:29:20.360 up every day i'm gonna fucking do the work i'm gonna go home i'm gonna think about it and i'm gonna

01:29:24.700 get up next day and fucking do it and i'm gonna dude if you just buy into the process as being a

01:29:29.520 lifelong process i don't really to me as i'm a strategic thinker like what i bring to the table

01:29:34.900 in our companies is always strategy and and and that's my biggest vision and strategy i can't see

01:29:41.620 how the fuck you can lose in life if you just accept that every day is going to be hard as fuck and

01:29:45.820 you're going to work through it i don't see how you can lose it's just you know own own own it what

01:29:52.180 do you think reg hey man i've been sitting back here just listening and got a lot of good points

01:29:59.000 and i think one thing that that kind of stuck with me is when we talk about the victimhood stuff the

01:30:03.420 only person that can really tell you no is yourself right like like gas on the right like south says

01:30:08.900 right and just get get the stuff done and so no goal is really too big i'm sure you know you know

01:30:13.780 sit next to a three-time pro bowler i mean like super bowl champ super bowl champ five-time pro bowl i

01:30:19.620 mean like nothing's really impossible right so the only person that you have a lot of negativity

01:30:23.400 in your life the only person that can really tell you no is you yeah he ain't that cool man

01:30:27.880 hey darren he's just trying to check you with three-time pro bowl

01:30:32.020 i'm sorry i'm sorry hey fuck you man you said basketball right

01:30:41.140 this guy played a michigan that motherfucker definitely did that on purpose

01:30:49.320 fuck yeah he did don't think you're even yet either

01:30:52.940 well hey guys i just want to say thank you so much for supporting the show uh please support

01:30:59.440 these guys they're doing good stuff and they stand for the things that we all stand for here

01:31:03.320 um i just want to say you know in turbulent times of the world right now i i truly can't tell you how

01:31:12.460 much i i appreciate everything that you guys do for us uh supporting the companies supporting the show

01:31:18.160 um as you guys know we don't run ads on the show and i don't run ads to market the show it's all organic

01:31:24.060 growth uh i think we were we were number one show today in business um and that fucking speaks that

01:31:30.380 speaks a ton to you guys and uh i just want to say thank you so much um you know we might not do

01:31:36.520 everything right but we do the best that we can and i love you guys for supporting us thank you so much

01:31:40.180 told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living down spoke it till

01:31:46.040 existed while i i'm from where you can't trust so welcome

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - March 27, 2021

105. What One Man Can Do, Another Man Can Do Ft. Darren Woodson & Crew

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