115. The What, Why And How Of Self-Awareness
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Summary
Self-awareness is a critical part of taking control of your life and achieving all of your goals no matter what aspect they happen to be in. Being self-aware also allows you to understand what you're good at and what you need to improve on.
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what's up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies
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a fee so uh thank you for doing that and thank you for for you know running on the honor system you
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know today not not everybody's willing to do that so i really really appreciate it now today we're
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going to talk about self-awareness all right and the reason self-awareness is important uh well first
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off before i get into how why it's important it's it's something that confuses people you know i i see a
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lot of people out there talking about self-awareness with with literally zero self-awareness um i think a lot
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of people think it's something that it isn't i think a lot of people are confused about what it might
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be and today i want to i want to kind of give you an intro to how to become self-aware and how to
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you know understand what this concept really is and it's not going to take me long to explain it
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now this isn't going to be an in-depth uh you know course on self-awareness this is a
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fucking five or ten minute deal all right it's really simple so what is uh self-awareness well
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self-awareness guys is a critical part of taking control of your life and achieving all of your
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goals no matter what aspect they happen to be in okay you have to understand where you are who you
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are and what you are to ever get where you want to go that's the first step in the process being
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self-aware also allows you to understand what you're good at and what you need to improve on
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all right and here's the most important thing as it relates to you guys you guys are out there trying
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to be better you're trying to build businesses you're trying to get better at what it is you do
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to do so you're going to have to become a great leader now you cannot ever be a great leader if you're
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not very self-aware okay you have to recognize what you're great at and you have to recognize what
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other people are great at and you have to figure out how to make this all work in harmony like the
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conductor of a big orchestra but the problem is is that most people don't even know what self-awareness
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is or why it's important okay so how do we become more self-aware well it's very simple all right it's
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the concept of questioning your actions or decisions as they're happening all right is eating this donut
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going to help me with my weight loss goals okay being aware of what actions will allow you to get
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on track to achieving your goals and which ones will actually hold you back is a very important
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concept for you to not only understand but to practice because getting anywhere in life you first
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have to know where you are and what you're capable of and what you're good at and what you're not good
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at and so many people like to cover this with so many justifications you know oh I wasn't born
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smart or I wasn't born gifted or everybody hates me or I can't control myself or this or that or this
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you have to be aware that those are all excuses and they're just stories that you've told yourself
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that don't allow you to make progress towards where you want to go and this is also why your confidence
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is also probably low okay when you build your self-awareness you build your confidence what does that
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mean well what it means is when you have high confidence you stop doubting yourself over time
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but you know on the other side you don't overestimate yourself okay this is an important
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concept for you to understand this is why this show is called real af because it's about telling
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yourself the truth it's about reality it's not about what you think you might be it's not about what
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your friends think you are it's not about what your parents think you are it's about what you
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actually are okay so becoming self-awareness and building our confidence go hand in hand
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and you have to understand to do that you have to be able to ask yourself as things are happening
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is this serving me or is this not serving me is this moving closer to where I want to be or is this
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moving me further away from where I want to be okay this is what it looks like in real life
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as you're doing it I'm talking about as you're standing at the fucking order counter of McDonald's
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and you're looking up at the thing and you're like shit I know I shouldn't be eating this then you
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don't okay that's being self-aware and then following through on the actions that your self-awareness
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prompts into your brain okay so let me ask you something else are you even aware of how much
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confidence you have and don't have are you good at your craft are you bad at your craft are you
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mediocre at your craft are you a beginner are you an expert where can you approve what can you do to
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improve what are you doing to improve these are all questions that help you build self-awareness
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and a simple trick to building your confidence and self-awareness is asking for feedback from your
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peers okay this is something I do constantly I constantly ask my team and I and honestly I was just out in the
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gym with about fucking 2,000 people here at HQ and everybody that came up to me and said hey man I
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really love the podcast I asked them a few questions about what they liked I asked them a few questions
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about what kind of content I could give them to improve their lives now most of them said oh I love
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it just the way you do it but I'm looking for that real feedback you know in real life so that and it's
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not gonna hurt my feelings I'm gonna say okay uh they didn't like that or they love this and I'm not
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gonna put so much stock into the fact of the things they love where I overestimate that aspect I just
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understand that that's their opinion okay and so what we're talking about here really is getting
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feedback from your team and then making an objective decision about the reality of the scenario
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are they telling the truth what's their perspective do they see me the way the world sees me or are they
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just saying that because I pay them to say that um do they like me do they love me do they not want to
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hurt my feelings okay and this shit can and will drive you insane but the truth of the matter is is if
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you become the person who asks yourself the questions if you become the person who's analyzing yourself
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you become able to coach yourself because you're in such an aware place all right this is why I tell you
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guys uh that I'm going to do the live hard program every single year until I actually die all right
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and if you want to know what the live hard program is it's episode number 80 you go listen to it I'll
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explain it all 75 hard is the boot camp for that program but the the idea here guys is what happens
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is the more you go through this process of self-evaluation the more not only do you learn
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about yourself and where your strengths and where your weaknesses are you become more confident in where
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your strengths and where your weaknesses are and when you become the top level of confidence
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there's really nothing that can destroy you because you understand what you're great at you understand
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what other people are great at and you understand that for you to solve these problems over here you're
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going to need some of these people with better skills than you and it's not going to bother you
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because you're confident in your skills it does so many things for you you know if you don't do it
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I don't really care it's fucking free but I'm just telling you it helps you create awareness
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and it actually helps you fix the problems that you lack that's really what the program is for
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but in conclusion guys you know self-awareness is the most important critical trait that you can
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develop okay you cannot improve you cannot win you cannot be great unless you are extremely self-aware
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and how it's relevant to you is you won't be able to build a business because you won't be able to
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manage people effectively and to build a business you have to learn how to manage people and you have to
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learn how to sell guess where you need great self-awareness guys you need it and how to manage it
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and you need it and how to sell okay this is something you should try to do so start monitoring
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your actions in real time start asking yourself questions after you do something start breaking
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it's kind of like breaking down game film right like how did this interaction go oh I said this and
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they said this and I and then I said this and they said this and then they told me to get fucked
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well fuck where did you fuck that up okay well I shouldn't have said it like this I should have said
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in different tone I could have asked a better question and that's next time I won't get told that
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this is what self-awareness looks like in real time guys it's basically developing your ability to
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coach yourself and self-evaluate in real time and if you cannot do this you cannot win so take the time
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to do whatever it is you have to do to make sure you're committing yourself to becoming more self-aware
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be quiet pay attention break down your interactions break down your actions throughout the day did I
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have a great day did I do what I should have done did I execute here did I execute with the proper
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intent you know and all these different questions to make sure that you're passing your own standard
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when it comes time to make sure that you're passing your own test and your own set of standards
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so that you can be confident in the fact that you know what the fuck you're actually doing
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all right so that's my show for today guys I want you guys to start thinking about self-awareness I
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want you to start practicing becoming self-aware and I want you to start you know maybe noticing when
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you're not very self-aware when are things not going the way that you want why do they not go the way
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you want and I'm going to bet you that when you learn to break that down you're going to see that
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in that moment you weren't paying attention you were wrapped up in something else you were thinking
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about something else and you weren't present to the situation and that's why it got fucked up
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okay so understanding how not only what self-awareness is but also how to be self-aware is going to be the
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key to you getting where you want to get sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a bowl
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