REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 122. How Champions Create Distance Ft. Ben Newman

00:00:00.000 What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realists, say goodbye

00:00:20.980 to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking

00:00:26.060 reality. I just wanted myself a bet with my boys. Who's paying? You said I would get it?

00:00:37.200 Never, my bad. They believe in me now. All right, guys, I'm super excited about today's

00:00:43.060 show. The bet was when I get the intro right the first try or the second try or third try

00:00:48.660 because right now I've been having a problem with the intro. True or not true? True. See,

00:00:54.420 I'm not good at everything is most things. So guys, have an awesome show for you today.

00:01:01.360 I'm super excited about it. Bringing back an old recognizable voice from the podcast of

00:01:09.380 right in the beginning, a good friend of mine. We're going to talk about 75 hard, which he

00:01:16.020 absolutely crushed, by the way. We're going to talk about the ins and outs of his journey

00:01:20.940 and what he experienced. I think you guys are going to really love the show. Thanks for

00:01:24.820 coming on, brother. Ben Newman. Andy, it is. It's awesome to be back in the studio with

00:01:29.840 you, man. We cut up and had some amazing times on the microphone, on the stages. And

00:01:35.860 you know, it's wild. People always ask, when are you guys going to get back together? When

00:01:39.140 are you? And it's not like everybody listening. It's not that we don't want to. No, it's just

00:01:43.120 like we apologize, but we both do a lot of shit. It's not as easy as it sounds. But man,

00:01:49.400 I'm so glad to be here with you. Yeah, I'm happy to have you, bro. We've been trying

00:01:53.340 to get this show together for a few weeks now because, dude, you just had, I mean, incredible,

00:02:00.480 incredible live hard results, the complete program. And I kind of wanted to go through

00:02:06.000 and just, you know, I mean, bro, you're already a high performance guy. Like that's how you

00:02:11.120 make your living. You know, for those of you guys that don't know, Ben is one of the best

00:02:15.660 mental toughness coaches in the world and one of the best speakers in the world.

00:02:20.660 He coaches, dude, I'm talking about the best of the best. The University of Alabama hires

00:02:26.520 this man to come in and teach them how to be tougher. All right. When the University of

00:02:31.340 Alabama is hiring you to come in and teach how to be a higher performing individual, you

00:02:38.620 know what the fuck you're talking about. So I am super excited to get into this journey,

00:02:42.880 bro. I mean, I'll bring some up real quick because I just got back from Tuscaloosa last

00:02:47.300 night. Yeah. So it's, you know, this year actually coach Saban is my fourth year with

00:02:51.120 the team. He's relied on me to do more this year than I've ever done. I mean, we built

00:02:54.240 a whole mental conditioning for success program. And so, I mean, I've been there throughout

00:02:57.720 the entire year. A lot of people think football is just like, oh, when the season comes around,

00:03:01.740 like no football never stops. That's right. And in that building in Tuscaloosa, it really

00:03:05.580 never stops. And you're always uncomfortable when you go in. But the reality is just like so

00:03:10.040 many people who have attempted 75 hard. You're thinking about 75 hard. What's going to hold you

00:03:14.880 back is your self-talk. It's the same thing at Alabama. What's going to hold those players

00:03:19.760 back from competing at their highest level or not? It's their self-talk. And for you listening,

00:03:24.600 it's your self-talk. For anybody in corporate America, it's your self-talk. Self-talk is what

00:03:28.640 holds us back. And so for me, what I think is kind of unique for people to hear, I had so much

00:03:33.740 self-talk around 75 hard because I have my unrequired workout that I've done forever. And I used

00:03:39.580 to tell myself, why do I need to do 75 hard? That was going to be my first question. I do my own

00:03:44.040 required work. Why do I need to do it? Right. And that was my self-talk. Yeah. And then I'm like,

00:03:48.980 well, shit. I mean, I've been friends with Andy forever. Look at the results Andy's getting. Why

00:03:53.340 would I not challenge myself? Because I'm a mental toughness coach. Like I'm, I don't need help

00:03:57.460 anymore. You know, hold on. Let's stop right there. Now I want you guys to recognize what we're

00:04:02.520 talking about here in terms of your own character and your own performance. This is a man who literally

00:04:08.480 teaches how to be mentally tough, who, who, who is able to look at it and say, no, I'm, I'm good

00:04:15.580 enough to learn here. I'm good enough to try some new shit. And that is the mark of a true champion.

00:04:20.400 It's humility. It's true humility. You know, people think humility is, um, you know, I don't brag

00:04:26.860 about my success. No, dude, you guys got it all wrong. Humility is the skill of understanding that you

00:04:33.960 can always improve. You can always get better and you're no better than the work you do.

00:04:38.240 So, I mean, dude, that's something most people just won't do. I still have two coaches, bro. I

00:04:44.440 get it. One of my coaches is 31 years old. I'm 42. Yeah. There you go. He's 31 years old. Yeah.

00:04:49.800 Drew Hanlon, another St. Louis. Yeah. I mean, this guy is one of the sharpest. He's a basketball

00:04:54.220 coach, right? Yeah. He's one of the top NBA skills trainers in the world. I coach him. He coaches

00:04:57.980 me. We bounce back and forth. Like we sharpen each other's iron because he's 31. I'm going to

00:05:02.140 say I'm 42. Well, you haven't been through life long enough. Yeah. Dude, that guy is so further

00:05:06.700 along than I am in what mental toughness. I mean, the dude stopped eating cake when he was 10 years

00:05:11.300 old. Never had birthday cake because he wanted to play college basketball. I mean, I mean, like talk

00:05:15.980 about like, you can learn so much from people if you just check your ego and say, look, like it's

00:05:21.020 okay to not know everything. And I hope I go to the grave, not knowing everything. I'll live an okay

00:05:25.640 life. If I go to the grave, still wanting to learn and get better. Dude, I think that's the whole key to

00:05:30.500 the whole thing. Like the whole key to the whole journey here is to say, Hey, you know, I'm not as

00:05:37.100 good. I'm only as good as what I do today. That's how I see it. I see it as what did I do today? And

00:05:44.500 I evaluate at the end of the day. And then tomorrow that I don't care about what I did anymore. You

00:05:50.520 know what I'm saying? Like I'm learning every day. I'm trying to improve every day. I look at every day.

00:05:56.240 Uh, I was talking to, to a guy I just met who's really cool guy and he's got a really cool story. Uh,

00:06:02.780 chef rush. I don't know if you know chef rush. So chef rush is on Instagram. He's a, he's a bodybuilder

00:06:08.180 chef, uh, has an incredible story, but we were texting back and forth just a minute ago. And, um,

00:06:14.840 we were talking about, you know, we're getting to know each other. So we were, you know, being

00:06:19.160 talking about each other's stories and stuff. And he's like, yeah, dude, he's like, you know,

00:06:23.960 every day is the first day. And I'm like, Holy shit. I say that all the time. It's fucking day

00:06:28.820 one. It's day one. Today is day one, 23 years to get here. It's day one. You know what I'm saying?

00:06:34.080 When I'm 90 years old and I'm getting ready to kick it or whatever age that happens to be,

00:06:39.140 um, that's day one, dude. I'm still going to try to learn that day, you know? And I really think

00:06:45.040 that's the whole key to everything, dude. Maybe I'm fucking wrong. Maybe I'll get to be old and

00:06:48.860 I'll say, Hey, I fucking should have quit at 40 and just live my life. But dude, that doesn't bring

00:06:55.360 me any satisfaction. Well, that's when, you know, we've all had those periods of time. We've allowed

00:06:59.220 our feelings to dictate how we live. We've had our feelings to dictate when we work out, how we

00:07:03.920 choose. I got a great workout in yesterday, man. It's going to cover me for three days. I don't need

00:07:07.760 to work. But no, you said you were working out today. So why would you skip your workout? Cause

00:07:11.340 yesterday was a good workout. Right. And so people, they choose to take results to determine

00:07:16.340 how they react and the choices that they make rather than saying tomorrow is a new day. I will,

00:07:21.280 I mean, it's, it's no secret now. I mean the win the day episode, everybody's loved it. That's why

00:07:25.180 they always like when we get on the mic together. Yeah. And the reality is like, what's changed from

00:07:29.460 years ago when we've done that? Nothing. Well, it's still an opportunity to show up and win one day at a

00:07:34.160 time. Everything has changed, but the way we approach our day has not changed. Correct. And that's what

00:07:39.260 tells the story. Now that's actually, that's actually true. You see what I'm saying? That's

00:07:42.700 why I wore this. Yeah. I specifically wore this polo. Yeah. And here's why you guys got to go find

00:07:47.100 the footage. This is the challenge for the team here. This is the polo that I wore for the first

00:07:51.320 summer smash. Yeah. And I went back and saw the picture. I was skinny as hell. Yeah. It was hanging

00:07:56.960 off you. And I was like, I could fill this thing out guys. Yeah. Right. Because you put in the

00:08:01.640 compound effect and you start surrounding yourself and you've got to, you've got to perform in the

00:08:06.660 environment that you're put in. If I walk into Alabama, right. And I'm overweight. I look like

00:08:11.880 I was eating donuts. I'm not doing my work. Those guys are not going to listen to me. And so when

00:08:16.400 practice ends, typically I'll go with the tight ends and we get a little lifting together for 10

00:08:20.500 or 15 minutes, get a little pumping. And when I'm lifting the same weight as them for them to get

00:08:24.540 their pump, there's a different connection I have with those. For sure. And so people don't realize

00:08:29.440 like the little work you do every day. When I started working out, I always worked out. But when I

00:08:34.600 started working out for that next level, I didn't know I was going to be working in Alabama. When

00:08:37.960 you and I met, I wasn't working in Alabama. No. Yeah. And so those are the little things

00:08:42.140 people. They just, they live in the, in the, just own the day rather than trying to control

00:08:47.020 the results that you have no control over. Yeah. Yeah. You have control over them. If you dominate

00:08:51.520 one day at a time, that's it. And most people lack the perspective, right? Like when you're,

00:08:58.640 when you, I promise we're going to get into 75 hearts, but like, I like these conversations.

00:09:03.280 So I think from what I've noticed, most people have a hard time committing to that concept of

00:09:11.960 day by day by day. Cause they've never actually done it. And it doesn't like see it. It's when

00:09:17.280 you're standing at the fucking foot of the mountain, bro, it seems impossible. You're like,

00:09:21.500 Oh dude, that's way too simple. That's not really how it's done. You mean you just execute today

00:09:26.780 and then you do it again tomorrow and then the next day. But, and people think like,

00:09:31.440 that sounds overly simple, but it, but it's, it might be, but it's how it works. There's not a

00:09:38.120 magical thing to it. There's no magic to it. The only fucking magic to it is the momentum that you

00:09:44.040 create that helps you push you even faster towards where you're going. And if you guys would just

00:09:49.120 commit, you know, to 75 days of intentional effort every single day to do this, you,

00:09:56.720 you will change tremendously. But my argument would be for most people. Now you already knew

00:10:03.000 this and I already knew this, but I think for most people, I think the big awakening that they

00:10:08.060 have during this program is that they, they get to look back and they say, Holy shit, it really is

00:10:13.500 that simple. So if I keep going, I'm going to get where I want to go. And so this is something that

00:10:19.800 you have to do to understand. And, you know, let's talk about that.

00:10:25.420 Before we get into it, I just want to mention, because I think it's really important to capture

00:10:28.580 this point. Why are Andy and I, and I'm just going to be direct. Why are we jerks and assholes?

00:10:34.460 Because we're challenging you to be your best. That's the part I don't understand. Right. So

00:10:39.000 people want to like, why would he create this? People come at me for this. Wait a second.

00:10:42.220 Why is it a bad thing for somebody to encourage you to experience something that may unlock the

00:10:49.720 first time in your life that you understand what it feels like to be your best. Yeah. And even if

00:10:56.460 it's not 75 hard, I talked to individuals in corporate America, right? People running billion

00:11:00.680 dollar organizations that have the blessing of coaching. And I'll say to them, your people are

00:11:05.460 getting so frustrated when all you're doing as a leader is encouraging them to live their best life.

00:11:10.620 Why is that so wrong? Well, society is dictating. You encourage somebody to be their best.

00:11:16.000 And it's like, why are you coming at me like this? So I just, I just wanted to open up by saying

00:11:19.980 when we have this conversation, say just know like Andy and I, DJ, all of us, like we want you to just

00:11:26.880 experience what it means for you to be your best. Yeah. So don't take this the wrong way. Don't take

00:11:31.340 it. We're too challenging. Take it for what it is. Like Andy created this because he wants people to feel

00:11:37.120 what it is to be your best. I mean, is that right? No, it's right. But it's like, you know, at this

00:11:43.080 point, bro, you know, I'm, you know, I'll be, I'll be real back. You know, I'm fucking, I'm not doing

00:11:48.400 this for the motherfuckers. I got to convince to do it. You know, if you don't, if you don't figure

00:11:51.740 out why you need to do it, I don't really give a shit. And if you think I'm mean for doing it or

00:11:55.320 saying it, I don't give a shit either because I see the benefits that it makes, you know, and the

00:11:59.440 benefits that it actually helps people that commit and follow through and want to improve. Those are my

00:12:04.440 tribe. You know, the people who are on the fence and they get offended by the stuff I say, or by

00:12:09.000 the idea of taking personal accountability or, or working to be better and win and all this shit.

00:12:14.700 Uh, those aren't my motherfuckers. So I don't really care. Like, dude, you know, if, if you,

00:12:20.020 if you don't want to get better, then there's two things I can say to you. One, congratulations,

00:12:26.280 because you're in a great place. You know what I'm saying? Like if you really don't want to get

00:12:31.000 better and you're happy, that's fucking great, dude, because, uh, that's the goal, right? We're

00:12:37.340 trying to get to a place of contentment of peace of where we've won. And that's different for

00:12:42.260 everybody. So, you know, if that's where you are and you could truly, honestly look in the mirror

00:12:48.640 and think about your life. And I'm not talking about justifying it. I'm not talking about telling

00:12:54.100 yourselves a story. I'm not talking about convincing yourself. I'm talking about genuinely looking in the

00:12:59.640 mirror and saying, I'm fucking proud of the life I have of who I am and what I'm about.

00:13:04.420 And you're fine with that. Congratulations, dude. You won the fucking game. I haven't figured it out

00:13:10.920 yet. All right. And that's where I'm coming from. And I've done a lot of shit, but I got a lot more

00:13:16.160 shit to do. So for people like me that, that, that identify with that and want to win and want to be

00:13:21.880 better. Uh, that's why, you know, I've put this out, you know what I'm saying? And at the first,

00:13:26.860 when I started, you know, doing the personal development, it was more like, come, come,

00:13:32.680 you know, come do this with me. And like, not just 75 hard, but like winning like you guys.

00:13:37.240 But what I realized is dude, not everybody wants to win, you know, for whatever reason. And I,

00:13:44.760 do I think it's a shame? Sure. Do I think it's a tragedy? Yeah, I do. Because there's a lot of wasted

00:13:50.060 lives out there. But at the same time, you and I both know, dude, we can't really convince anybody

00:13:56.280 to do anything. We can point you there. We can tell you what it's like. We can show you the results,

00:14:02.580 but unless you truly want it, I mean, it's a waste of breath and energy to try to convince.

00:14:09.340 That's something I've been started realizing lately. Like I, and it's brought me some peace,

00:14:13.520 bro. Like I used to get so fucking mad and people don't understand this. Like I actually want you

00:14:19.600 to win. Like it's not some fake shit. Ben actually wants you to win. If, if it was just something that

00:14:25.820 we did for a living, um, we wouldn't be passionate like we are. We wouldn't dedicate all these extra

00:14:31.840 things that we do to actually helping people win. So, uh, you know, it's a calling almost,

00:14:39.820 you know what I'm saying? And so I don't know, like if you don't like what we're saying and you

00:14:46.400 know, maybe it's the wrong time for you. Maybe you're a piece of shit. Maybe you suck and you're

00:14:51.300 going to suck. It could be a lot of those things, you know, but I'm not going to get angry at somebody

00:14:55.920 if they don't want to do it. But I could tell you this, the gap between me and you is going to get

00:15:00.580 a lot fucking wider. The gap between you and everybody else going to get a lot wider if they decide to

00:15:05.180 do it too. So, I mean, and that's what you always say, dude, right? What is it? Champions

00:15:10.960 create distance on Friday. That's fucking right, bro. And you know, you know, what's interesting

00:15:14.140 about that is I've been, I put that out for probably six, seven years in a row. I mean,

00:15:18.840 it's every Friday, every Friday. And there's people who are like, what does that mean? I'm like,

00:15:23.700 you have a problem if you got to ask me what that means. Like you may not come up with exactly how I

00:15:28.160 would say it, but it's like, give me like, you know what that means. That means you clocked out a

00:15:32.040 Thursday fucking happy hour, bro. Like 98% of the rest of the world. But it's like people like,

00:15:37.140 you know what that means, but most people, they don't, they, it's the self-talk. It's they want

00:15:43.040 to have a, what does that mean? What do you mean? What does that mean? I mean, it's a basic statement.

00:15:47.700 Like you're going to create distance on Fridays because other people don't. Yeah. That's the

00:15:52.480 biggest opportunity. That's what I've been talking about in 2020 and 2021, bro. You know that I've had

00:15:59.080 less than seven days off my program in the last, since, since the lockdown started less than seven

00:16:05.300 days, I've had six days off my program, whether I was doing it like for counting or whether people

00:16:12.700 thought I was just out living, I'm still doing this shit. You know what I'm saying? So, and I told

00:16:18.600 people at the beginning of the lockdowns, I said, look, this is a tremendous opportunity. Everybody's

00:16:22.820 going to go in their shell because remember in the recession back in 08, 9, 10, during that time,

00:16:31.240 everybody in business went in their shell. They stopped trying to be aggressive. And, and I learned

00:16:38.020 a valuable lesson at that time because we stayed aggressive because we had to, because we were on

00:16:43.700 the pivot point of making it in business or not making it in business. And so we had to stay

00:16:48.980 aggressive and by staying aggressive, when everybody else pulled back, we were able to

00:16:52.840 create a huge gap. And that's what this situation is going on right now in the world. How many of

00:16:58.640 your friends have gone backwards in terms of their health, in terms of their physique, in terms of

00:17:02.820 their mentality? You know, this is a time in history that is unprecedented for opportunity. That's how I

00:17:09.980 see it. Everybody else is slowing down. Everybody else is taking the excuses of, you know, well, I can't go to

00:17:17.060 the gym or, you know, I can't go here or I can't, I can't do this. Or, you know, they they're getting

00:17:23.720 lazy because they don't have to go into the office. There's all kinds of things. And so I saw this time

00:17:28.540 as an opportunity when everybody else is quitting, I can go through triple in and make a big gap

00:17:34.280 difference. And guys, it's fucking happening. Okay. So this is how you should be looking at it as well.

00:17:40.720 You should be looking at this, this whole situation that we have of the hardships and the, uh,

00:17:47.640 the lockdowns and all this crazy shit that everybody keeps like, dude, while the world goes

00:17:52.860 crazy, you should be getting focused and you'll create a huge gap between you and whoever else

00:17:56.900 you're competing with. And don't get it wrong, dude. You are competing with people, whether you

00:18:01.460 want to admit it or not, that's the nature of the society that we live in. So, you know,

00:18:07.080 that's your choices. Your choices is you can either be like everybody else and go backwards

00:18:11.160 or you could get focused. And while everybody else is, you know, justifying every excuse in the book,

00:18:18.160 you're at, you have the opportunity to move forward. And that, that's, that's what creating the,

00:18:22.440 the, what you're talking about, you know, champions create distance. The distance is

00:18:27.120 everybody else clocks out on Thursday night, a happy hour. You know, if you don't do that,

00:18:32.080 you're getting an extra, you're in extra two months a year, 52 days a year that you're winning.

00:18:36.760 And if you add Saturday onto that, that's an extra four months a year that you're beating

00:18:41.360 over these motherfuckers that are going out and going to happy hour on Thursday night and not

00:18:46.000 sobering up until fucking Monday afternoon. And the other part I don't understand about it is

00:18:50.460 they get the Saturday and they can't even focus on being with their families or their significant

00:18:55.200 others or the people that they love because they're like beating themselves up that they didn't

00:18:59.100 do more on Friday. It's like, well, that was your choice to be undisciplined on Friday. And it's

00:19:03.980 your choice to do that every Friday, talking about how excited you are. And then you get to

00:19:08.840 Saturday, then you get to Sunday and you're terrified for Monday as a result of your choices.

00:19:14.060 Nobody did this to you. And that's where I encourage everybody start 75 hard. Don't think

00:19:20.240 about it. Don't say, I'm going to try it. I encourage you to do it because you'll stop doing

00:19:26.020 that on Friday. Yeah. You're going to say, I now recognize that every day is an opportunity.

00:19:30.380 And especially on a day where my competition is going to slow down when I kill this day,

00:19:35.020 like I do every other day, I will create that distance. And when I get to Saturday,

00:19:39.180 I'm going to be locked in and focus with my kids. Yeah. When I'm at their game, I'm going

00:19:42.500 to be like locked in being like so happy that I'm sitting there with peace. My legs are crossed.

00:19:47.240 I'm relaxing, watching my son shoot his three-pointer. Yeah. As opposed to, I'm so terrified.

00:19:53.180 I can't even focus on my kid because of what I didn't do yesterday. Yet we choose like so many

00:19:59.320 people you choose to do this to yourself. And that's the part, like we're going to be direct

00:20:03.480 today because we care that much because it's your self-talk. It's all, it's on you and you have to

00:20:08.000 choose to change. What, what do you, so let's talk about your specific journey. Okay. I mean,

00:20:16.140 well, why, like legitimately, like why the fuck even do it if you're you? Cause you're already in

00:20:21.340 shape. You're pretty good shape. All right. Now you're fucking jacked. Okay. That's the benefit of

00:20:26.200 the program. Right. Um, well, one of the, it's actually one of the fourth or fifth benefits of

00:20:31.240 the program, but let's talk about that, dude. Like, I mean, what, what was it that you said?

00:20:36.140 You said, Hey dude, I want to, I want to do this. Well, I, I literally just asked myself the question,

00:20:41.720 why would I not do it? Yeah. And I had the self-talk, no reason for me to do it. No reason

00:20:46.540 for me to do it. And then finally I said, why would I not do this? And I really did see your results

00:20:51.240 because I remember conversations that you and I had where it was like, I'm about to make some

00:20:55.820 changes and you were like, people are going to see the changes that I make. Yeah. And at that

00:20:59.920 point in time, there was no 75 hard. This is years ago. You and I haven't launched. I remember saying,

00:21:03.800 I know I've seen it on the stage when we spoke together at, uh, Virgin islands and we were up

00:21:11.060 there on stage and I was 350 fucking pounds. And I said to everybody there, cause I was embarrassed.

00:21:16.180 I said, Hey, um, I know you guys probably won't believe what I'm about to tell you,

00:21:21.560 but I'm going to get fucking jacked. And the next time you all see me, I ain't going to look like

00:21:25.840 this. Cause I was pissed off to you. Like I was, we were there, we were in the, we were in the beach,

00:21:30.300 we were going on the boat, you know, I'm fucking fat as shit. I let myself go and it pissed me off.

00:21:37.660 And like, I knew that wasn't a representation of my knowledge set that I'm sitting there teaching

00:21:43.060 the class. Right. So I'm like, none of these motherfuckers are even going to take me serious

00:21:47.520 cause I'm fucking fat. You know, I was mad. And so I decided to address the elephant in the room,

00:21:52.120 which usually I do right away. Cause that's my nature of conversation. Like we're going to get

00:21:56.040 right to the point, dude. And I just said, I said, you know, Hey, I know you guys see this,

00:22:01.140 but this ain't what it is. It's going to get fixed. And that was one of the big things I remember

00:22:06.260 still to this day, bro was like, cause that was 2015. Yeah. And so 2016 is when the beginning,

00:22:12.020 cause that was October, 2015, I had already started, I was three 50 then. And I had started

00:22:18.260 working my way down. And I, on January 4th, when I started the actual thing with the video

00:22:23.120 on first form of shit, I was three 20. So I lost, or I'm sorry, three 30. So I lost 20 pounds during

00:22:29.640 that time. So, I mean, dude, that moment of being there, that was a pivotal moment. Cause I do,

00:22:36.740 I remember it clear as day because you had a photographer guy there and he had taken a picture of me

00:22:41.700 and I remember seeing the picture. I'm like, fuck, there's no way I'm that fucking fat,

00:22:46.620 but I was, you know what I'm saying? And, uh, and that was, that was a, that was a pivotal trip

00:22:51.880 for me to try to figure out how to really fix this for fucking good, not for up and down,

00:22:57.160 up and down, up and down and do what I've discovered, you know, obviously with the 75 hard

00:23:01.840 program, which came out a few years after that was that it does come down to what you're saying

00:23:07.020 about self-talk and winning the conversation between the two voices that we all have,

00:23:11.940 which is the boss voice, the voice that makes you believe in yourself that tells you the things

00:23:16.640 that are painful to hear that tells you the things you really don't want to hear, but know are true.

00:23:21.560 Okay. And the bitch voice, the one that says, ah, dude, it's okay. It's all right. It's not fucking

00:23:26.740 because you're living below your potential. And that, that lower potential not only hurts you,

00:23:31.940 it hurts your fucking family. It hurts your fucking neighbors. It hurts your peers.

00:23:35.980 And to be completely honest, you look at the state of this country living below our

00:23:40.440 fucking potential hurts the whole fucking country. If you want to talk about trickle down.

00:23:44.400 So that's a, that's an obligation. I believe that we all have us as humans. Now you don't

00:23:50.320 have to believe it's an obligation. You don't have to take it that serious. I just do. And I know you

00:23:54.860 do as well, you know, but that your passion behind it right there. That's why I did it. I saw your

00:24:01.680 change and I said, why, why would I not do this? I said, I'm going all in. Yeah.

00:24:05.980 You fucking did, bro. And I've never been like a huge drinker, but I enjoy drinking. I enjoy

00:24:10.680 having a glass of wine with my wife and okay, I'm not going to, I can't, I can't drink. Right.

00:24:16.220 Yeah. That's what I think that's probably, that's probably the one that most people don't start the

00:24:20.240 program because alcohol. I mean, there's probably one most common if I were to guess. Yeah. It's

00:24:24.060 probably, I can't give up alcohol. Yeah. And what I said, why can't you? Well, I, the reason most

00:24:28.820 people do that is the same reason we all do that. What happens is we get in a habit of our,

00:24:34.100 it's our social construct, right? It's our habits. It's our habitual life. What do we do for

00:24:39.100 entertainment? We go to dinner and we have drinks. Uh, what do we do on Sunday? We go watch the game

00:24:45.680 at the bar for brunch and mimosas to turn into fucking all day drink fest. You know, those are

00:24:51.620 the things that we all identify with. And sometimes, you know, we, we grow, those things come

00:24:58.100 with us from, from college all the way through our whole lives or, you know, high school. And so our

00:25:04.720 perception of how we live our lives, it's hard for people to see like, what would my life look like

00:25:10.000 without that aspect? I would have no friends. I would have no social life. I wouldn't have any fun

00:25:14.520 because most of the fun times happen when I'm drunk and dude, it's just all not true. You know,

00:25:19.860 and it goes into what you were saying about the time aspect. What actually happens is you get your

00:25:24.860 fucking shit together and you discover that you actually have way more time to do the important

00:25:30.480 things that you need to do. You, you become so efficient with your time because you have to.

00:25:37.100 And like, and I, I encourage everybody, if you're going to do it, read the book.

00:25:40.960 The workouts are three hours apart, not two, not an hour and a half, not I do my outside and I got a

00:25:46.820 busy schedule today. So I come in and get my lift in after that's my, no, no, no. It's three hours

00:25:51.360 apart. It's no little nibbles on your kid's chocolate chip cookies. It's no stealing a

00:25:56.520 chicken finger, no stealing one chicken finger, not even a bite of a chicken finger. Like if you're

00:26:02.040 going to do it, do it. You know, coach Saban in Alabama, if you guys were to come to practice with

00:26:06.540 me, he always tells us the way you do one thing is the way you do everything. So if you're going to

00:26:11.180 cheat and eat that chicken finger, because who's going to know that I ate the chicken finger,

00:26:14.860 guess what? You're a cheat and you're not cheating DJ. You're not cheating Andy. You're

00:26:19.720 cheating yourself. Not only this is your opportunity to figure out how strong can you be? And I'm not

00:26:25.760 talking physical strength. People start this cause they're like, Oh man, look at Andy. He's

00:26:30.460 jacked now. I mean, look how big he is. Or look at this guy. Look at this gal. Look how strong they

00:26:35.080 are. I wish we could get a peek inside your brain and see like the veins popping out of your brain

00:26:41.100 now. Right? Like everything going on in your brain from the strength that people develop from

00:26:45.640 going, I, there's a level of focus, awareness, intentionality that I now experience every day

00:26:52.580 as a result of going through this program. I was joking with you guys before we got rolling.

00:26:56.880 I now make pancakes for my kids in the morning to continue to test myself because unless it's a

00:27:04.000 Saturday and even like for me now, a cheat day with pancakes is protein pancakes. That's it. I don't

00:27:08.580 even eat regular pancakes. Like, and my cheat is the protein pancakes. And a lot of people would

00:27:13.060 eat protein pancakes every day. Like, Oh, that's not a cheat. Like to me, protein pancakes was a

00:27:18.380 cheat. You put the syrup on you, you know, you're going to sneak butter on. Guess what? That's a

00:27:23.040 damn cheat. Yeah. I didn't eat protein pancakes when I was on set. So everybody's looking for the

00:27:27.300 excuse, the edge. Like if you're going to do it, then do it. Stop cheating yourself. Because if you

00:27:32.280 get sloppy in one area, I promise you, you'll get sloppy in another area. That's the difference

00:27:36.700 between, okay, like let's fucking address the elephant in the room. There's a lot of motherfuckers

00:27:41.360 that have completed this program. It didn't really complete it. They talk about it, but

00:27:45.320 you and I and other motherfuckers that have actually done it true understand who we're talking

00:27:52.220 to when we talk to them. And look, it's, I can see, I don't understand the, the, the ones

00:27:58.000 who fake their way through, they don't understand that it's easy to see for the ones that didn't.

00:28:02.660 Well, here's what I'll tell you. All you have to do is look at the before and after pictures.

00:28:05.520 And I'm not saying somebody has to be ripped, but there's a significant change. There will

00:28:09.820 be a significant change in your muscle structure. You do not have to have a six pack when you're

00:28:14.120 done with the program, but your muscle structure, the way that your shoulders sit, the way that

00:28:18.780 your traps pop. I mean, you will look different. Yeah. And if you're, if you're real heavy, you

00:28:23.340 know, let's just say you're very, very heavy. You'll still see a difference. You're going

00:28:27.120 to see a big difference. You're going to look a lot. You might, you might look similar

00:28:29.680 in shape, but it's smaller. Okay. Which is the first phase for people who are like, when,

00:28:34.260 when I lost my first 50 pounds, when I was three 50, I didn't look ripped. I just looked

00:28:39.400 smaller version of three 50. But if I would have seen you, you would have been able to

00:28:42.960 look at those pictures. You'd say, what is Andy doing? Yes. And so I think you got to

00:28:46.940 stop comparing yourself to somebody else. You have to say, I'm going all in for me to finally

00:28:52.220 figure out how great can I be. And as a result of challenging myself to do that, like Andy says,

00:28:58.240 is it really going to show up in other areas of my life? I promise you that it will do. I remember

00:29:03.380 when you guys brought me in, you and Ed, it was such an honor for me to speak for the RSA syndicate.

00:29:07.680 It was awesome. And some of the relationships and people, and you, and you talk about, let me

00:29:12.760 side note, talk about abundance. I literally sent Emily, cause this is the way we operate. Right.

00:29:17.660 And I sent Emily, I'm like, will it be okay? Like some people have reached out for coaching.

00:29:21.160 Like, is it okay? Cause you guys are, it's technically like a coaching practice. Emily

00:29:25.640 goes, Oh my God, please. Like, yeah. And so like, that's abundance, right? It wasn't like,

00:29:29.680 Whoa, Whoa, Whoa. Ben, we had you speak, but stay away. No, but here's the thing, Ben. And Ed,

00:29:34.240 Ed will tell you the same. Ed and I both truly, truly believe in the mission of that, of that

00:29:40.460 group. And the mission of that group is to get fucking better. And if you can help our team get

00:29:46.700 better, they become your team. You're part of the same team. And these do, this is people have

00:29:53.160 such a hard time understanding that. Cause it's so rare. That's what it is. And I truly, I mean,

00:29:57.600 we could go on about abundance, but I really think that's the whole key to success, bro.

00:30:01.880 But the, even this, the seeds there were planted for the whole, I mean, it's just,

00:30:05.200 there was just so much that happened. Just some of the things that you said to me that day,

00:30:09.280 some of the things, cause we chopped it up and did Q and a at the end. And it's just such a great

00:30:13.360 opportunity for me to continue to learn from you, to learn from Ed. And you know,

00:30:16.540 we're just going, it was, I appreciate that. It's a culmination that just led to like,

00:30:21.340 I'm going all in, like I'm doing this, like I'm doing this. You fucking crush it.

00:30:27.900 I appreciate you saying that, but I still don't feel like I'm done. That's, that's the crazy part.

00:30:34.400 And I will never be finished. I don't even want to be finished. I have this crazy workout that I do

00:30:41.200 called the unrequired. It's 10 exercises. It takes 45 minutes. Most people, when I send it to them,

00:30:47.580 they'll be like, uh, I can't do this once this morning was the 754th straight day that I've done

00:30:54.640 this. Not like a kick it's 10 exercises. And I'm talking like you plank for almost 10 minutes,

00:31:01.380 250 straight jumping jacks, 250 straight air squats. Like it's not easy. I'm not talking about

00:31:06.640 like I went and just did 10 pushups a day for seven. Like most people can't do it one time.

00:31:11.840 And you just become obsessed with how great that you can be. And that's what I was doing.

00:31:17.440 That was the excuse for not doing 75 hard. And then you started to realize, Oh my,

00:31:22.280 you bring all this together. And then you just become obsessed. And I always like to say,

00:31:28.300 don't be seduced by success. It makes you realize and crave like, what's the next book that I can read?

00:31:34.840 Yeah. What's the, who's the next person that I can meet? What's the next challenge that I can go

00:31:38.660 through? What can I learn now? And that has nothing to do with physical appearance. No,

00:31:44.540 it's all appearance has to do with that change that you're talking about.

00:31:48.260 Just wanting to be the best that you can be. And I, I think a lot of what I've experienced,

00:31:52.720 like I knew I cannot cheat. And I think for guys like you and I, like people are going to watch,

00:32:00.340 right. And so like, I forced an environment, like you start posting that every day. People are going

00:32:05.460 to be like, Hey, uh, weren't you doing 75 hard? Like, weren't you doing it? Like, so there was

00:32:10.380 no cheating the system. And so I would encourage everybody. Number one, start don't pick the

00:32:16.080 strategic time. I had vacation with my wife. She wanted to kill me. We went to the coolest place,

00:32:21.180 Blackberry farm, right outside of Knoxville, Tennessee. This place was amazing. It's one of like the

00:32:25.840 like second biggest wine collection in the United States. I was on 75 hard. I couldn't drink wine.

00:32:32.460 She was like, why do you have to be doing this? She's like, I understand. But like how easy could

00:32:36.580 it have been for me to just cheat DJ? I could have been like, Hey babe, just you and me here. Right.

00:32:41.080 Yeah. I just, or I'll do a tasting. Yeah. I'll just do a tasting. It's not drinking. No,

00:32:45.480 I didn't drink any wine. And guess what? Yeah. I had an amazing time with my wife. You know,

00:32:49.860 what's funny dude is as easy as that would be to do, it doesn't like, I would never want

00:32:58.260 my wife to look at me like I'm a fucking weak bitch. So like, you know what I'm saying?

00:33:04.760 You got what I'm saying? Like the pressure of her watching you, even though she's upset,

00:33:08.760 probably made you hear more. I said it. I said it that when I spoke for Arte, I said,

00:33:13.080 I said when we were doing the Q and a, I said, Andy, what would happen if you would have said to me,

00:33:17.740 Hey Ben, how was your morning routine today? And I would have been like, Andy, you know,

00:33:21.380 I just, I didn't feel like waking up. I hit the snooze button 13 times, had a big fat stack of

00:33:25.520 pancakes scheduled to reschedule my first three calls. Cause I wanted to be ready for you guys.

00:33:31.360 Yeah. Yeah. Right. I'm a fake. I'm a fraud. I coach people on discipline and accountability.

00:33:36.120 And so part of it is you have to choose first challenge yourself, but then choose the environment

00:33:40.360 and build the environment that's going to cause you to do it. Yeah. And then the feeling that you get

00:33:44.580 when you win, because you push yourself to do it. I cannot go speak for Arte and be a fake who

00:33:50.900 doesn't do what he says he's going to do. That's not the way that life works. And people think they

00:33:56.340 see people who are successful. Well, how'd they get there? Cut corners, giving it to them. Most people

00:34:01.140 had to work for it. Yeah. Most, most not like there's very few that the, the, the, the rule that

00:34:07.780 people think it is, which is you got lucky or you inherit it. That's the fucking exception to the rule.

00:34:13.140 And listen, motherfuckers, not a single one of you motherfuckers. Listen, this is the exception

00:34:17.520 of that rule. It's not fucking happening. You're not winning the lottery. You're not getting an

00:34:21.980 inheritance. The fucking stars are not going to align. Now what? You got to build the skills.

00:34:28.120 You got to build the ability to persevere, to endure, to have grit, to understand that what you

00:34:34.220 put in, you will get out. And those are responsibilities of the individual. They are not the responsibilities

00:34:39.680 of society. Okay. If society left it up to the way they have it, they want you to be a consumer

00:34:46.900 of them. So they want you to sit on the couch. They want you to order the fucking pizza. They

00:34:51.960 want you to eat the Doritos. They want you to eat the Krispy Kreme because you're a better

00:34:56.540 consumer when you do so. And bro, that is not what life is. You are not meant to be born and

00:35:02.940 be a part of a fucking economy and just consume shit. You're meant to become what it is you were

00:35:08.480 meant to become. And most of us, and the reason I say us, even though me and you are killing it,

00:35:13.540 is because we all feel the effects of this nationwide. We all feel the effects right now

00:35:20.060 of mediocrity. All of us. We all feel the effects of cutting corners. All of us. We all feel the effects

00:35:27.420 of people not educating themselves. All of us. And all of those things can be corrected

00:35:32.100 by taking the personal responsibility for our own ability to move forward and our own discipline,

00:35:38.440 our own grit, our own fortitude, our own ability to do the fucking work. Okay. Those are the things

00:35:44.820 that are going to fix everything. And it starts with the individual. And this is why I'm so fucking

00:35:49.820 passionate about this program and RSA and First Form. And pretty much everything I do

00:35:55.780 is because the ripple effect comes from that. I don't know what you just said that made me think

00:36:03.080 of this. One of my other favorite comments is when people like see you're on phase one. I didn't know

00:36:08.440 there was a phase one. Tell me about phase one. I know. Wait a second. What do you mean you didn't

00:36:15.040 know? Where do I find out the information for phase one? Like the immediate thing I want to say is

00:36:19.160 there's a damn good chance you actually didn't complete 75 hard if you didn't even know there was a

00:36:23.860 phase one. Like if you follow Andy, like templates, like I always tell them like, cause I don't know

00:36:29.880 why they asked me. I didn't create the program. You and I are friends yet. They think like I created

00:36:33.520 the program. The reason they ask you, bro, is the same reason they asked Sean Whalen and they ask

00:36:38.100 other people who have just fucking crushed it. It's because they see you as the authority now that

00:36:44.120 you've went through the process. But I send them to, I say, it says templates right on his,

00:36:49.360 on his Instagram page, just go to templates there and people act like what is phase? There's a third

00:36:54.400 phase. Let me be real with you. Because people want the easy way. Dude, I gotta be real for a

00:36:59.140 second. But doesn't that, doesn't, doesn't that exact thing kind of answer some questions for you

00:37:04.060 why things are the way they are? That's my point. Like bro, I'm like looking around like this. Once

00:37:08.980 they finish the first, they're like, I pray to God there's nothing else. Yeah, dude. And if that's the

00:37:14.960 case, if you feel that way, bro, you didn't do it. That's right. I was craving. Yes. Do you know

00:37:21.220 how pissed off I was? I couldn't start phase three until the final 30 days. I'm like, let me get at

00:37:25.560 this thing. Let me get at it. And I even, you and I messaged, it was, the conversation was awesome.

00:37:31.040 And I was like, I was literally thinking to myself, does Andy walk around talking to strangers?

00:37:36.220 Like, this is crazy. Like, this is the one thing out of this whole damn program. How's this going to

00:37:40.040 work? And what did I tell you? That was one of the coolest fricking things. Yeah. I remember I was

00:37:43.800 driving down the street one day and I've got to find a stranger. And there was this old man. I

00:37:48.300 can't remember the damn name on his hat, but there's this old man and he's walking right by

00:37:52.080 the Ritz. And I pull over and I say, sir, I say, can we talk for a moment? I say, every day I like

00:37:58.640 to meet somebody new. This old guy must've been 85 years old. He walks over to the car. He starts

00:38:03.740 talking. He's got this name on his hat. I said, tell me about yourself. Well, I fought in the wars and

00:38:08.200 we did. It was one of the coolest conversations. The name on his hat, he said, Caterpillar didn't start

00:38:13.780 with hats like this. I created the hats like this. He goes, you see the name? It was one of

00:38:18.480 the coolest stories. I'm like, without the program, I would have never stopped. Yeah. To talk to a

00:38:25.560 I talk to strangers in stores and things, right? Yeah. But like to pull the car over and meet this

00:38:30.620 old man. It was hotter than hell outside and he was getting his walk in. Yeah. And he had fought for

00:38:35.180 our country, created this hat, the pride that man had for life at 85 or whatever age he was. But because

00:38:41.940 of the program, it causes you to get uncomfortable like that was uncomfortable. Those cold showers

00:38:46.720 are uncomfortable. Until they aren't. But you do it. And now there's sometimes I'm like, I'm gonna get a

00:38:53.780 little cold shower. That's it, dude. But you start to do all these things and you start to realize like

00:38:58.180 you find out when you're uncomfortable, when you experience pain, that's where your real strength

00:39:03.780 comes from. A hundred percent. And people are scared of challenge. They're scared of adversity.

00:39:08.720 Get in the fire. Go experience what the pain is because the pain is where you find your true grit,

00:39:14.560 your true conviction, your true passion, your true purpose for doing what you're doing. And once again,

00:39:20.060 back to the beginning, why are we so bad for being this direct to encourage you to go find that within

00:39:25.260 yourself? If that's what unlocks you to understand what you were truly destined to do in your life,

00:39:31.220 why would you fight trying something like this? Not only that, what's more noble in life than

00:39:37.460 helping someone discover that? So let's say you're someone like you and I and a couple of the other

00:39:43.080 guys in the room here who have finished that program and you want to talk to someone about it.

00:39:48.380 That's a good thing. You're opening their eyes and you're going to make them better. I just did a

00:39:53.500 little show, a little Andy Cam earlier talking about accountability. You know, one of the reasons that

00:40:00.640 most people can't push accountability and hold other people to the line is because they're not

00:40:04.860 holding it to their own line. You get what I'm saying? So like when you, when you fucking,

00:40:09.200 when you have to go to, you know, have a meeting or have a difficult discussion or, uh, you know,

00:40:14.960 these things that are sort of confrontational type things that people don't like, which are by the

00:40:19.380 way, required to be a great leader or run a company or run a team. Okay. Um, if you're not doing

00:40:26.260 that, the likelihood is the reason you have a hard time doing it and it hurts so much is because

00:40:30.280 you're not holding yourself to that same shit and that's it. That's why Nick Saban can fucking say,

00:40:34.500 this is how it, I need it done. Not because he's out there snapping the football perfectly or throwing

00:40:39.920 perfect spirals, but because he is living his life in other ways, the same exact way, the same

00:40:45.440 principles. I'll tell you what's crazy though. He still coaches the defensive backs. He can spin it

00:40:49.840 better than most quarterbacks. He loves getting down and dirty with the guys. Guess who sprints

00:40:54.940 in between all drills at practice? Not, not surprising. He's about to turn 70 years old

00:41:01.720 and Nick Saban sprints in between each drill. So there is a line that is drawn. If you are a player

00:41:09.080 or a coach, you better get yourself from point A to point B as fast as you possibly can, because

00:41:16.700 there's only so much time the NCAA gives us on these clocks. And so he sprints in between drills.

00:41:23.040 First practice I went to and I saw it, it was just like, I was, I've been given a doctorate in

00:41:28.240 leadership. Like I can't even believe they pay me to be there. Like I could pay them a lot of money

00:41:34.300 for the doctorate that I've earned in watching that man lead. And that, and the greatest lessons

00:41:39.620 are the most simple lessons. Him sprinting is one of the greatest lessons that you'll see.

00:41:43.940 His level of discipline is extraordinary. So are you not going to run in between drills?

00:41:50.280 Please. You better, you better, you better be running between drills, but it's expectation.

00:41:56.480 Yeah. And it's also what, what you were just referring to that led me to think of this. It's

00:42:00.340 a level of tolerance. If you're a leader and there's a lack of discipline in the people that

00:42:07.580 you lead, there's probably a level of tolerance that you have for undisciplined behavior because

00:42:14.000 you are undisciplined. And I know that's hard to hear, but that's the reality of the situation

00:42:18.880 because deep down, you know, how can I actually have a real conversation? Say that again. That is

00:42:23.940 super fucking important for people to understand. Say what you just said.

00:42:26.920 So when there's a, when there's a lack of discipline in the people that you lead, right? There's,

00:42:33.260 there's a, a level of tolerance that you allow and that's why they're undisciplined. And it

00:42:38.820 typically comes, the reason why they're tolerant is because you are undisciplined in your life.

00:42:43.720 That's what you tolerate. If you tolerate it, you would tolerate yourself slipping.

00:42:48.240 So how can I talk to DJ? If DJ, you need to do this, this, and this when DJ watches,

00:42:53.600 I've never actually done that myself. That's right. And that's one of the things like,

00:42:57.640 I remember my first experience with supplement superstores was with Sal and Sal and I have

00:43:03.500 talked about it so many times. Like I'd come into the location on eager road. I get my stuff.

00:43:08.300 Sal's behind the counter. I didn't know the family owned the damn business. I mean,

00:43:11.440 like we didn't know each other then. And I remember the experience of talking to Sal. Sal made me feel

00:43:16.040 like a million bucks. Sal made me feel like, man, I'm going to go to the gym and I'm going to kill it

00:43:19.540 today. And he made me feel great. And I look back on it. He was working the counter. So can Sal have

00:43:26.420 a conversation with somebody at supplement superstores about working the counter? Can you

00:43:30.260 and Chris have a conversation with somebody about what it means to engage with a client behind the,

00:43:35.300 yes, because we know your story. We know you being in Springfield, sleeping on a couch,

00:43:40.900 having to literally look at an empty store over and over and over again with nobody to talk to and to

00:43:46.800 keep going. You've done it. Most leaders, they haven't. And they say, why do my people act this

00:43:53.100 way? Because you tolerate undisciplined behavior because you are undisciplined. And if somebody

00:43:59.260 wants to fight us and go, okay, these guys think everybody needs to do 75 hard. You know what?

00:44:03.860 I'll pull the challenge back. You don't have to do 75 hard. Read a book, 10 pages a day for a year.

00:44:08.660 Most people won't do it. Yeah. I'm not saying you have to do my crazy workout every day. Just do

00:44:15.740 something. Most people have not done anything. Do you know most people haven't read a book outside

00:44:21.980 of high school? Most people, most fucking people have never read a fucking book after they graduate

00:44:28.480 high school, cover to cover. Most. And we wonder why the world is like, shit, fuck, man. Dude,

00:44:35.420 we have an obligation to get people better. You know what I'm saying? Like, dude, that's why you

00:44:39.140 and I are so driven to do this shit. Like, this is not, this is never, dude, you know this. Like,

00:44:45.400 I've committed to this. Like, when I, when we first started doing a show, bro, I was soft as fuck.

00:44:50.120 You know, I talked hard and I had, I had made some, a bunch of money, but like, dude,

00:44:56.880 would I not destroy that motherfucker now? Oh, I mean, come on. You're a completely different person,

00:45:02.200 but it's like, when you talk about a thousand days, like that's what, like my unrequired workout,

00:45:06.460 the goal is a thousand days. And, and the real goal is in fact, I'm never going to, I mean,

00:45:10.800 I'm probably just going to keep going, right? Cause I realized like what has happened over those

00:45:15.360 thousand days, starting the program, doing these other things. It's changed me. Yeah. It's changed

00:45:21.260 how focused I am with my kids and dude, how, how, what's that change worth? It, it, there, you cannot put a

00:45:27.680 price tag. I'll tell you what. Yeah. My marriage with my wife is better than it has ever been.

00:45:32.480 We'll be buried 15 years in November. My marriage with my wife is better than it has ever been.

00:45:38.300 Why do you think that is? It's a level of focus. It's a level of awareness. It's,

00:45:42.560 you know, like 75 hard. When you look in the mirror and you are breaking yourself down on a daily basis,

00:45:48.180 it exposes your flaws. And it's caused me to look and go, God, there were things I was doing. I

00:45:53.180 thought I was a great dad and I feel like I'm a pretty good dad, but like I got areas to improve as a dad.

00:45:58.200 I thought I was a really great husband. There's areas I got to improve as a husband. And I still

00:46:02.120 have those areas to improve, but it's like, if you're going to go all in, if you're truly doing

00:46:06.280 the program, you're going to see everything in your life. Yeah. It's not like, Oh, I just get my,

00:46:10.840 you see everything in your life. Everything looks completely different. You communicate with people

00:46:17.560 different. You talk with people different. There's a different level of love. It's a different level

00:46:21.580 of emotion. Like it is, you will be different, dude. I tell people this all the time, you know,

00:46:27.680 and this is where, this is how, like, I talk to people about doing the program, right? Like

00:46:31.500 how much money, by the way, the program is fucking free. Okay. So, so I'm going to take

00:46:36.900 your excuse away, but you can buy the book. It books like 20 bucks or something. I guarantee

00:46:41.620 you the books, if you, if you read the book, you would pay a lot more than 20 bucks for it.

00:46:45.680 But, um, my point is, okay, it's fucking free. Now, and I ask yourself, if you, if you could

00:46:54.500 develop the discipline to overcome whatever the problems are in your life, whether it be your

00:47:02.220 fitness, whether it be your career, whether it be a frustrating relationship, uh, anything. Okay.

00:47:09.300 If you could develop the grit, the fortitude, the discipline, the control, the self-esteem,

00:47:17.280 the confidence that you're lacking, that you pretend to have all the shit that you pretend

00:47:21.700 to be, if you could really be it, what would you pay to be that? Because you could be that

00:47:26.900 in 75 fucking days. It just takes a commitment. And people think, you know, people think, you know,

00:47:33.600 if you asked them like, Hey, can I sell you a product that would do all these things? What

00:47:37.460 the fuck would they pay for it? I know what I would pay and it would be every fucking single

00:47:41.920 dollar I had. If I, if I could buy, but you know why? Because you know that you will earn

00:47:48.000 more as a result of doing it, dude, look, bro, this is no bullshit. If, if, if you took

00:47:53.880 2016 Andy and you said, all right, here's what I can give you. I can give you all of these

00:48:00.340 things and you'll become this person. And this was what it will cost. I would have, and that's

00:48:05.980 really what I got. I would, I would have paid everything fucking half. That's the truth.

00:48:10.760 Every fucking thing. I would have sold my house. I would have sold my fucking cars, which

00:48:14.020 I had some good cars then too. I would have fucking, that's, that's how much I'm getting

00:48:18.760 goosebumps talking about it, dude, because like that's, I'm telling the honest truth. I would

00:48:23.520 give every fucking single cent that I had to have what I have now, if it could have been

00:48:29.120 bought, but it can't be bought. It has to be earned. And that's the beautiful thing about

00:48:34.060 this program. And that's also why I make it for free because I know that when you get

00:48:38.820 done with that program, you will feel the same way I feel about it. And it's that, you

00:48:43.800 know, it's, I, I think there's a lot, if we go like to the self-talk and like you've limited,

00:48:49.600 like when you hear Andy's passion, like you just shared, it's because you just, you've

00:48:52.560 completely gotten rid of all self-talk. Yeah. There's no fears. There's no doubts. There's

00:48:56.200 some, so they'll come in every now and again, the conversations are short, right? Most people

00:49:00.740 like society's protected people for so long now that most people have never experienced

00:49:07.420 challenge and adversity, right? You say, what's the biggest piece of challenge you've ever been

00:49:10.760 through? Oh, in third grade, the ice cream fell off the cone at Baskin Robbins. Like you're in,

00:49:16.640 like this person's in trouble. Like I always ask people, like business owners, ask that question

00:49:20.600 of people you're looking to hire. What's the biggest piece of adversity you've been through in

00:49:23.900 your life and what have you been best at in your life? I always tell leaders, ask those questions

00:49:26.960 because number one, you'll figure out of their discipline. Somebody says, I'm an award-winning piano

00:49:30.200 player. Why are you an award-winning piano player? Play piano two hours a day for four

00:49:33.700 days a week. Okay. You can work for my company. For 15 years. Right. What's the adversity and

00:49:38.100 challenge you've been through? Oh man, I watched my mom battle cancer. It was unbelievable. And

00:49:41.380 she's just persevered. And it's just incredible. The example she is for our family. And I love

00:49:45.240 her to death and I would do anything for my mom. Come work for my company. Ice cream fell

00:49:48.540 off the cone. Don't work for the company. Yeah. Most people who are probably resisting doing

00:49:52.780 75 hard. And I say this in a loving way. You probably haven't been pushed challenge and

00:49:57.700 really been uncomfortable yet in your life. Those are the motherfuckers needed most.

00:50:01.520 Yes. So this is maybe your opportunity to say, okay, here's Andy to support me. It's free.

00:50:07.580 There's other people that have done it. There's a community around it. I have to compete against

00:50:12.140 myself, but I'm not by myself. So I'm going to choose to get into the fire to finally make

00:50:17.040 myself uncomfortable in life. And if the byproduct of that is you are going to win more in all

00:50:22.200 areas of your life, why would you not try? Why would you not try? Just start, challenge

00:50:29.400 yourself, go all in and do it.

00:50:32.080 I think, I think it's also important, you know, for people to understand that

00:50:38.680 you are undersold what you're capable of on purpose. Okay. You were told your whole life

00:50:49.380 success is for other people, uh, being incredibly fit. That guy was, he's genetically blessed.

00:50:55.420 Okay. Being wealthy. Well, you know, that guy got lucky. Um, you know, you need, you need to calm

00:51:01.160 down and, and, and get realistic. Dude, we're fucking told that by fucking everybody. And what happens is

00:51:06.440 we're sold a bill of goods. It just isn't fucking true because I believe, and I do, I truly believe

00:51:11.260 this. I don't give two shits where you come from, what your race is, who you like to have sex. I don't

00:51:18.280 fucking care. All of you have greatness inside of you, every fucking one of you. And the thing is

00:51:25.600 we are sold a bill of goods by our peers, by our teachers, by the media, by society that we are meant

00:51:33.800 to be average. We are meant to be regular people. And a lot of people buy that. And what happens,

00:51:40.660 you know, we become miserable. We become fat. We become lazy. We become, uh, earning way less,

00:51:46.720 you know, we become like everybody else. And people have to come to a point where you have to,

00:51:52.380 you have to admit to yourself that you're not maximizing any of the gifts that you have.

00:51:56.780 You're not really living a true purpose of any sort, which is why you feel so empty inside.

00:52:02.260 And at least if you could control your discipline, at least if you could control

00:52:05.820 the things that are making your life difficult, you have a fucking good shot at moving past where

00:52:11.740 you are in life. And you also stop talking about how great you want to be and your action starts

00:52:17.840 to tell the real story of your life. And when your action starts to tell the story, you feel so much

00:52:22.740 better about yourself. Yeah. Yeah. It's weird, man. Cause you, you could talk a good, it's a different

00:52:26.660 vibe. You could talk a good game to yourself. I'm going to do this. So watch me. I'm going to do

00:52:31.380 this. Here's my vision. I'm going to do this. But most of the time, if you, if there's not

00:52:36.320 confidence or you're not feeling good about where you are, it's because you've been saying

00:52:39.920 these things for years, but there's no action and no discipline. Well, you don't follow the

00:52:44.480 belief. You don't really believe it. You don't believe yourself. Just like you wouldn't believe

00:52:47.380 another person that came to you every day and say, Hey, I'm going to do this. And they don't do it.

00:52:50.960 Like, would you believe, um, you know, an employee that came to you every day and said,

00:52:55.420 they're going to get a project done and never got it done. No, eventually you say, Hey,

00:52:58.860 this fucking guy ain't going to get it done. And so what happens is those words start to mean

00:53:03.860 nothing. And when you do that to yourself, that's very hard to overcome because we're not aware we

00:53:09.480 even do it to ourselves. We're not even aware that we're selling ourselves short by, you know,

00:53:14.760 opting out of the idea that we're even better than we are. You know what I'm saying? And it causes

00:53:21.220 all these things, depression, fucking, you know, unfulfilled lives, uh, divorce, you know,

00:53:29.440 financial hardships. And, and like, dude, this is something I've said since you and I were doing

00:53:34.300 the show together, I still believe is true. You get to pick which hard you want to subscribe to,

00:53:39.340 but you don't get to opt out of the hard motherfucker. Like it's going to be hard one

00:53:43.300 way or the other. You're either going to live a life of no discipline, no control at the mercy of all

00:53:47.900 your outside elements, or you're going to figure out the skills needed to control those things.

00:53:51.820 And those things are going to improve the things like confidence. Like, you know, one of the things

00:53:57.860 that I noticed about people that, that have really done it versus people who, who haven't done it,

00:54:04.180 um, is that, you know, people who haven't done it and I'm not saying they haven't tried it,

00:54:11.820 you know, I'm saying haven't done it right or haven't done it at all. Cause it's basically the

00:54:16.340 same thing in my opinion. Um, those people walk around looking for validation from external sources,

00:54:22.480 right. And people spend a lot of time valuing, uh, the external inputs, especially with social

00:54:30.520 media, right? Like we're constantly looking for the positive comments or the, or the, or the likes,

00:54:35.780 or, you know, the, the affirmations that we're doing good things and the, the, the confirmation that

00:54:42.280 we're doing good things from other people who probably aren't even qualified to give you that

00:54:45.660 compliment. Let's be real. Okay. And so when we focus on the external validation, um, we get this

00:54:51.620 very shallow feeling of, of, you know, it's almost like a dopamine hit. We're like, okay, cool. And

00:54:57.400 then we started looking for the next one, the next one, the next one. But when you truly become

00:55:01.620 confident, you truly build those skills that we're talking about and that belief in yourself,

00:55:06.300 I want to be real dude. And like, this is something that's made my life tremendously better.

00:55:10.740 And a lot of people try to fake it. Um, but faking, it doesn't count. And so when I say this,

00:55:17.960 I mean, this literally, and I appreciate the people that believe in me. I appreciate the people

00:55:23.780 that fucking support everything we do, but I'm going to tell you the truth. I don't fucking need

00:55:28.340 one single human on this planet to fucking believe in me. I'm going to make it happen regardless.

00:55:33.100 And that is what happens whenever you become truly confident. I don't give a fuck if so-and-so says

00:55:40.740 they don't like me or they don't like the way I present myself or the way I talk. I'm not sitting

00:55:46.820 at home overanalyzing all this shit. You know, Oh, did, did I offend so-and-so look dude, that's your

00:55:52.960 responsibility. If I offended you, it's not mine. I try to tell the truth. I tell the truth. And if that

00:55:59.560 bothers people, then that's fucking on them. And that's what this true confidence really creates.

00:56:04.720 And by creating that you unlock your real potential to achieve and be impactful human,

00:56:12.300 because when you are living that example and you are telling the truth to people and they are seeing

00:56:17.700 it, witnessing it and understanding what's going on, and then they join and then they become better.

00:56:23.180 You're now creating something that really fucking matters. And that's every single person listening to

00:56:28.560 this. And, and that, that's why I like to, to these points you're making, that's why we want

00:56:33.140 you to do the program the right way. Dude, it's all or nothing. Like, let me be real. Let me be

00:56:37.360 really fucking clear. All you motherfuckers out there that try to change the program, you are not

00:56:42.580 qualified to change your program. You haven't built a company worth billions of dollars. You have a

00:56:47.040 fucking, you haven't gotten in fucking great shape. You don't know shit about fucking discipline.

00:56:51.400 Let's be fucking honest. You know, nothing. And you're trying to make it easier, which is honestly

00:56:56.040 the whole fucking reason that you're having the problems in life. Every time shit gets hard,

00:57:02.480 every time shit gets, you change the rules. That's right. You try to change the situation to

00:57:06.400 fit your comfort. When in reality, you're supposed to change yourself to fit that fucking circumstance

00:57:11.980 or that situation. And there is not a circumstance or a situation on this fucking planet that can fuck

00:57:17.440 with you. When you have that level of discipline and belief and confidence, you might have hard days.

00:57:23.140 You might have hard weeks. You might have hard months. Somebody could, you could lose someone

00:57:27.640 or there's all kinds of things that can happen. But when you are in that zone of understanding

00:57:32.340 that you're in control of how you react, the decisions you make, whether or not you drink

00:57:37.720 that beer or that wine or have that, whatever your vice is, right? When you understand and you're

00:57:43.700 in control of that, you're able to navigate these hardships effectively. And they don't throw you

00:57:48.660 off track like some people get, right? Like some people have a hardship and you know, they go down

00:57:54.080 the toilet for five years. I'm no different, bro. I was the same way. I had a fucking hard year in 2012

00:58:00.460 personally, and that lasted for three fucking years and I got fat as shit. All right. So I know what the

00:58:07.500 fuck I'm talking about when I'm talking about going down the drain. I know how to come out of the

00:58:10.720 motherfucker too. So when you try to change the program, understand what you're doing by even

00:58:18.280 thinking that you're going to change your, and I don't give a fuck how many certifications you have

00:58:22.980 or whatever you're following, whatever the fuck you think. I'm telling you right now, you're fucking

00:58:29.100 yourself. Okay. Because it is an all or nothing program. You, you either ran the motherfucking Ironman

00:58:34.880 or you fucking didn't. Period. Okay. That's it. So you didn't, you didn't, you don't get to

00:58:40.620 substitute, um, tricycle for two miles for the bike for however many, like you don't get to do

00:58:47.820 that shit. You don't get to do it here, here either. And the program has been specifically designed

00:58:52.700 for certain fucking things. And if you actually do it and you read the book before or after the

00:58:57.740 program, you're going to realize that all that shit happens. All of it. Let me bring up a point.

00:59:02.660 Cause I know when we were talking about doing the show, we promised that we would address this

00:59:07.860 point. There's a lot of variance in the program, right? Diet. Yeah. The workouts that you choose.

00:59:13.740 Right. So it's like, why do you need to go cut more, like 10 pages, read, not listen, right? Like

00:59:19.020 do the program. But one of the things where I think people give too much variance and we talked about

00:59:25.540 this, people see you walking. And one of my things that I prided myself on, and we talked openly

00:59:32.300 about it and I'm not, I'm not telling anybody they didn't do the program. If you did it and you

00:59:36.480 walked. Yeah. But like I walked zero times. I did not do a single walk because I felt that in my

00:59:43.620 condition, I could do more, do more. Correct. And so like, I wanted to push myself to do more. If I

00:59:50.640 would have just walked down the street, I mean, I see people, they literally, they're walking down the

00:59:56.000 beach. They probably have their shoes off in a bathing suit saying, I'm getting after it, live hard. And I'm

01:00:01.240 like, what are you doing? And then they, they say, and this is, I think you're excited to clear this

01:00:06.280 up too. They said, well, Andy walks too. It's like, it's like, I walk and then run and then walk and

01:00:13.440 then run. And that's one of the things that like, when I walk, I wear a vest a hundred percent. But

01:00:17.880 here's the, here's the thing. And I said, and not that you need anybody to come to your defense,

01:00:22.040 but I think we want people to understand, like, if you're going to do it, challenge yourself.

01:00:25.300 Yeah. You're a big guy. Yeah. Like you putting on a vest, like there's no running for 45 straight

01:00:31.720 minutes at your weight. No. In a 30, 40 pound vest, like that's that. So you walking up hills,

01:00:37.740 sprinting, like Andy's not just walking down the street casually. It's a fucking work. You're

01:00:42.620 walking up hills. Like, so people, you have to understand, like, don't choose. Oh, I walk because

01:00:50.220 I see it. But stop. If, if you're having to rationalize, you're not doing the program.

01:00:55.740 That's it. I guarantee for you. And that should be the rule. Like if you're Andy has never

01:01:00.380 rationalized, well, this one didn't count. No, you put that vest on with 265 pounds of twisted

01:01:06.800 steel and sex appeal and you're moving at the, like, you know, that is a workout. Yeah. If you

01:01:14.000 are walking down the beach, filming yourself and you've questioned, cause I know you're doing

01:01:19.740 it 20 times during that walk. Does this really count? Guess what? It doesn't count. That's it,

01:01:25.560 dude. The rule is if you got to ask, it doesn't count. Doesn't count. That's it. Oh, that's

01:01:29.140 simple. Do I, is it okay if I eat this cream sauce on my pasta? Nope. No, you cannot have cream

01:01:34.380 sauce on your pasta. Why are you even asking that question? Dude. So, so I failed in the

01:01:40.440 beginning by not clarifying that for enough people. Um, and also at the beginning, like, so,

01:01:46.960 so I want to clarify a couple of things around that point. First off, if you're 400 pounds and

01:01:52.600 you're, you're doing 75 hard and you do a walk, that's a workout. Yeah. That is a workout.

01:01:57.620 A hundred percent. What we're talking about here is intense, an intense effort based on

01:02:02.980 who you are. Right. It's scalable. The whole, the whole program is designed for scalability.

01:02:08.640 Like, uh, one of the media channels did a fucking hit piece on me. I'm pretty sure because of my

01:02:14.300 political views, but they decided to attack 75 hard and they were like, Oh, it's fucking

01:02:20.160 dangerous. It's blah, blah. Motherfucker. It's scalable. Like you can literally, if you're

01:02:26.000 600 pounds and can't get out of bed, you can do fucking band work. Okay. But it's about

01:02:31.640 working towards what it is that is actually your potential. So I, when I started the program,

01:02:41.120 I did all walking with a weight vest. All right. And what I realized was I sort of fuck with my

01:02:46.060 heels. All right. So I, now my heels are totally fucked. So now what I do is instead of wearing

01:02:53.120 the vest, I've done this for the last year and a half is I do little intervals. I go out,

01:02:58.120 I run for a couple of minutes, then I stop. Then I walk for a couple of minutes, then I run.

01:03:03.160 And when I take, when I do a story, I never do it when I'm running. Cause guess what motherfucker,

01:03:08.920 I can't talk when I'm running. So you don't ever see it. So, you know, that's my bad. And I take

01:03:14.180 responsibility for people maybe misunderstanding that, but let's clarify it now. Uh, you should

01:03:20.320 be challenging yourself and, and it's, it's, it, none of you out there should be harassing other

01:03:27.000 people. Like I see this shit too, which annoys the fuck out of me. Everybody thinks there's a 75 hard

01:03:32.520 police. And most of the motherfuckers saying the shit didn't even do it because the true people

01:03:37.500 that did it, they don't actually give a fuck if someone else does it right or not, because they

01:03:42.420 did it right. I'm rooting for people too, but like, I don't really care. Like if you want to fuck

01:03:47.160 yourself, you've been doing it your whole life. So keep going. You know what I'm saying? That's how

01:03:51.340 I feel about it. I used to get real mad and be like, like, dude, Waylon hit me up and he's like,

01:03:56.200 bro, I'm done talking about this shit. Every fucking time I say a story about 75 hard,

01:04:01.340 I got to fucking explain 25 questions about what I could do this or that or this. I said,

01:04:06.520 Sean, just fucking tell them what they got to ask. The answer is fucking no. Cause that's

01:04:10.920 the truth. If you've got to question it, if you were wondering if it counted, guess what?

01:04:15.780 Didn't fucking count a hundred percent. So, you know, dude, and people take shit so literally,

01:04:22.060 like, I don't want you to, to like, you know, like, dude, here's what happens, right?

01:04:27.800 Because this happens too. And this is rare. This is very rare with people, but it does happen.

01:04:33.060 I have some people who are so diligent and so strict on the program that they get done. They're

01:04:38.820 like, fuck, I could have gave more. I could have gave more. We can always give more. That's,

01:04:43.160 that's just a champion mindset that you've cultivated. So it's natural to truly, this is why it's such,

01:04:48.860 you have to be so aware to really get what you need out of this program, because it's such a natural

01:04:54.500 thought for a champion mindset to look back and analyze and say, no, I could have fucking done

01:05:01.100 this. I could have done that. I could have done this. And so I've seen people say, fuck, I fucking

01:05:05.240 failed when actually they did it exactly right. They're just using their champion brain the wrong

01:05:11.080 way. Well, you look for another. Yeah. So, so be conscious of that too, but that's the rarity,

01:05:15.820 dude. Like I'm talking, those are the people that you could look at the before and after, and they don't

01:05:19.960 even look like the same motherfucker. You know what I'm saying? So they're, you know, but dude,

01:05:25.140 that's the exception. You know, most of the people are the first group where they're like,

01:05:29.340 how, and dude, and what that is, bro, is that's just conditioning of their own voice their whole

01:05:33.600 life, right? Their whole life. We're conditioned to do things easier, quicker, more efficient. What

01:05:40.040 do we hear everywhere in society? Easier, more convenient. How do I cut the corner? How do I do it

01:05:45.740 faster? You know, that's what this is all. Our whole society is built around these ideas.

01:05:52.540 And a lot of times that makes sense, right? It's a good business strategy to make your life easier

01:05:57.780 for your customers. But when it comes to personal development and it comes to becoming a motherfucking

01:06:04.480 weapon that you need to become to get where you want to go, you have to put yourself through this

01:06:09.500 hard shit because if you don't, the world fucking will. Your mind is your most powerful weapon.

01:06:13.800 Dude, there's, there's no doubt about it. Your mind is your most powerful weapon.

01:06:19.060 Yeah.

01:06:19.160 And the only way that you're going to be able to learn, to grow your mind, take control of your

01:06:23.360 mind, figure out how tough you are, is to silence your self-talk with the action that you're willing

01:06:27.840 to take consistently. And my definition of consistent is not a couple of days here, a couple of days

01:06:33.240 there. Hey, Andy, I did this three days in a row. Like it's consistency every day.

01:06:37.380 Yeah.

01:06:38.680 It's every day doing what you say you're going to do.

01:06:40.900 I wonder how many people out there in, in the, in the world, like not just, I'm not talking

01:06:46.440 about the listeners because we have some, you know, do we, we've got a lot of people that

01:06:51.100 listen to the show that are fucking winning big, um, which doesn't surprise me. Uh, but

01:06:57.180 we have people out there who aren't and who, who are, who are doubtful and who think they

01:07:03.640 really don't have what it takes. They, they really believe that, you know, and if that's you,

01:07:09.540 if you're listening to this, you're the person that I want to do this program the right way

01:07:13.760 because it will change you the most. It will, it will be. And by the way, guys, you don't

01:07:18.560 have to buy shit. Go listen to the podcast. Which episode is it, Madat? It's 14, baby.

01:07:24.580 Go listen to 14. All right. And then episode 80, and it will, it will explain the concept of

01:07:30.880 the 75 hard and then also the live hard program. And you, you guys right now who you're, you're

01:07:36.820 maybe in the beginning or you're maybe, you know, uh, real far away from where you want

01:07:42.020 to be. And you've been told your whole life, you're mediocre. You're, you're, you're a regular

01:07:45.960 person. You know, uh, you're not special. What makes you think like, dude, I heard all that

01:07:50.620 fucking shit, all of it. And, and all those motherfuckers, every single one that told me any of that

01:07:55.620 shit, you know what they're doing today? The same shit they were doing then the same

01:07:59.720 shit. And so as someone, and as another man who have, you know, maybe gotten a little

01:08:06.600 bit further down the road in age and experience and looking back and saying, fuck dude, I can

01:08:12.740 tell you this, dude, I wish I would have figured this out at fucking 20. Holy fuck. Without

01:08:17.040 question. Holy fuck. Without question. I don't know, man. You know, do it or don't do it, but

01:08:24.960 there's nothing you got to pay. You know, it's just blood, sweat and tears, man. And here's

01:08:28.960 what I'd say. I mean, like I said earlier, if you don't want to start 75 hard now, challenge

01:08:34.980 yourself in one area, challenge yourself in two areas, three areas, do something for

01:08:38.380 30 days. I bet you, I bet you, you get hungry for more. If you challenge yourself in three

01:08:43.220 areas, you'll be like, maybe I can do this program. And guess what? You can't because

01:08:47.480 what comes out of your mouth goes into your ears. That's what you believe. And that's what

01:08:50.780 determines the action that you take. So if somebody has been feeding it to you or you've

01:08:54.700 been feeding it to yourself, that's why you're not taking the action. Believe in

01:08:58.700 yourself, flip the script on what you're telling yourself. Start to say, I can do

01:09:02.560 this. So if you're not in position right now, or if your doctor says you shouldn't

01:09:06.540 be doing it and it is clear in the book, like if you feel once again, if you have to

01:09:10.980 ask the question, do you think my doctor would approve doing this? Go see your

01:09:14.920 doctor, right? Like Andy wants everybody to do this the right way with good health, taking

01:09:20.120 control of their life. Well, it's a permanent solution. It's not a trend. Exactly. That's

01:09:25.180 the thing. The reason is this will change you forever. There's no, there's no going

01:09:28.620 back. And I can't forget to say this after I finished 75 hard, I created what I call a

01:09:33.920 never do it again list. It's a list of 14 things that I read every single day ever since

01:09:41.720 I finished. So my 75th day, remember, create the environment. I started so that my 75th day

01:09:47.160 was my mother's birthday. My mother who passed away 11 days before my eighth birthday. So

01:09:51.800 many of you know the story from past episodes we've done together. She's my greatest inspiration.

01:09:56.680 So I made sure my last day was my mother's birthday. There were no cutting corners. I was

01:10:01.080 going to honor my mother with finishing this program. And so when I finished, I said, okay,

01:10:06.100 what are the things I'm never going to do again? And most people are like, I'm going to do

01:10:09.680 this. I'm going to do that. Create a never do it again list. That's powerful. What's the

01:10:13.660 stuff on that list? Oh, there's stuff about, I'm not going to let anybody take my

01:10:17.020 power. I'm not going to let anybody take my voice. I'm not going to get above this weight.

01:10:21.160 I mean, there's all, I won't eat excessively. Yeah. So it's not that some serious boundaries

01:10:26.100 for yourself. Yes. And so it's not that I'll never eat a pizza again. It's, I don't need

01:10:30.340 to eat a whole pizza. Yeah. But if I'm with the kids and it's a cheat meal and I'm off the

01:10:35.980 program, I'll eat a half a pizza, but I don't need to eat a full pizza or I don't need 18 scoops

01:10:42.280 of ice cream. I can have two scoops of ice cream. Yeah. Right. So there's things that parameters,

01:10:46.560 I will not do this again. And it has been such a powerful thing. And I read them every

01:10:51.720 morning, but that's what you have to do is you have to condition yourself to continue to

01:10:56.140 show up. Otherwise you go back to the old behavior. Yeah. Yeah. And, and, and the people

01:11:00.800 who do go back to the old behavior, those are the same people who are doing it because everybody

01:11:04.660 else is doing it or it's popular. Look, motherfuckers, it's going to stay popular. You know

01:11:08.540 why? Cause it's a real solution. It's not a trend. It's not a fucking tick tock. It's not a

01:11:13.320 fucking hashtag. This is a life changing fucking program. Dude, talk about some of the internal

01:11:19.080 things that, that, that you discovered in terms of like, you know, cause like, dude,

01:11:24.100 for me, and it sounds stupid, like, it sounds so stupid now looking back, but dude, I could

01:11:29.400 tell you, this is no bullshit. I couldn't go a fucking week without cheating on my diet.

01:11:34.320 Like I couldn't do it. I could not go more than seven days without cheating on my diet.

01:11:40.040 It was, I had never fucking done it before I started 75 home. Like ever. Now I'm going

01:11:46.180 literally, this has been fuck to what is it? Two and a half years almost now since we started

01:11:54.700 this shit. You know, it's been a year since, uh, or a year and a half since 22, since the

01:12:00.340 lockdown started to, I've had fucking six days to eat regular, like what I, what I used

01:12:05.460 to call regular food. You know what I'm saying? It's just, dude, it changes you. And, and

01:12:09.960 you know, yeah, I'm not going out and getting fucked up with my boys anymore, but you know

01:12:14.340 what? Uh, I'm having a better life, dude. I've been to baseball games, I've been to sporting

01:12:19.500 events, I've been to all these things and you tell yourself you have to do, you don't have

01:12:23.440 to do that. Dude, I went out last night and saw a Tommy Vex in concert and I didn't fucking

01:12:27.620 drink. I was out to like, for me guys, you know, I'm getting, I'm getting up there in

01:12:31.620 a, in a, in a, in the age, you know, I had, uh, I w I was home by midnight, man. It was

01:12:36.940 a wild night, but, uh, you know, dude, I didn't fucking drink. I didn't, I just went, I hung

01:12:41.480 out, had a good conversation. Like people are afraid to live without that crutch of alcohol

01:12:45.900 in social, in social situations and getting back to what the most, the biggest objection

01:12:51.000 is. I, I, people will try to hide that their objections as like, they don't have the

01:12:56.060 time or they don't have this, but what it really comes down to, dude, is it's missing

01:12:58.940 those social things. And the truth is you actually get a lot more out of the social interactions

01:13:03.280 you do have because you're going there, you're having meaningful conversations, you're present,

01:13:07.920 you're not intoxicated. And like what I do, bro, like I was never a coffee drinker before

01:13:12.180 this, you know, coffee's kind of an acquired taste, sort of like beer, right? Um, so I started

01:13:17.280 drinking decaf coffee, dude. So like when I go out with my friends to drink, I just order

01:13:21.280 decaf coffees. And like, so I have like a little something to drink on and bro, I'm having

01:13:27.400 the same fucking fun I had before without all the bullshit, you know, out all the, you

01:13:31.500 know, cause let's be real, dude, getting party drinking and then don't lead you to a lot

01:13:35.720 of good stuff. You know what I'm saying? I mean, once in a while you'll have, it's like

01:13:39.000 bat, it's like hitting a baseball three out of 10 times. You're going to have fun, but

01:13:42.320 seven out of 10 times you're going to fuck up. You know what I'm saying? Like, it's just

01:13:46.020 going to be some drama. You're going to get a fight with your girlfriend or your

01:13:48.520 fucking boyfriend or you're going to do something stupid. Yeah, dude. It's just not worth it.

01:13:53.240 Like I can't, I drank for the first time, uh, since October, I drank October 15th of 2020

01:14:02.160 and I drank for the first time again on my birthday, uh, just like a week ago. And bro,

01:14:07.840 I don't know that I'll ever drink again. Cause I drank that day and it was fucking fun, but

01:14:11.940 like, dude, it really fucked with my mentality. The next couple of days where I was down, I was

01:14:16.000 fucking pissed off. I was mean to people and dude, I don't, I don't need it. Like I just don't need

01:14:21.500 it. Like I don't need it for any reason. And, uh, I never thought I would be one of the people

01:14:26.500 that like, you know, doesn't drink at all, but I, I don't know, man. And it might happen for me

01:14:32.440 because like, I'm like, you talk about never do it again. Like I, I have to like, really like,

01:14:37.020 why the fuck am I doing this to myself? You know what I mean? And, um, you know, I know that

01:14:41.820 sounds like weird because like, dude, before that I was a heavy drinker, dude. Uh, I drink,

01:14:47.160 you know, whenever the fuck I wanted, which usually was like four nights a week. And, um,

01:14:53.440 my life's just so much better, like in every way without it. You know what I mean? I don't know,

01:14:59.620 man. I, I, uh, I'm super thankful for it. I know, I know it's my program, but I'm just super thankful.

01:15:08.360 Like I said, in the, uh, in the previous podcast, you know, that, that fucking soft

01:15:13.420 motherfucker had enough fortitude to make it through that first fucking trip at 75 hard,

01:15:17.720 man, because it, it was, it was life changing for real. But you know, you, you had to go through,

01:15:23.380 you said 12 to 15 in order to get to this point. Yeah. And so for everybody listening,

01:15:29.520 as passionate as we've been and, and, you know, encouraging, empowering, inspiring you to

01:15:34.680 choose different behavior. Like if you're in where Andy was, and I've had periods of time like that

01:15:39.660 professionally, 2010 was, I mean, it's just awful. And you go back, like I had to go through that

01:15:45.540 period of time to be who I am today. I had to go through pain with my dad to be who I am. You had

01:15:49.840 to go through that three year period of time. So anybody listening, if you're going through it,

01:15:54.420 I hope what you're hearing is, man, Andy was able to do this, to get through, to find his strongest

01:15:59.600 self. Like I've had to go through so much pain in my life. And sometimes you seek things like this

01:16:06.080 and you finally accept them because you realize like, this is going to make me realize like how

01:16:09.500 strong I can be. You are so strong. Everybody listening, who's been doubting you've been

01:16:13.840 listening to the self-talk. You are so damn strong. Everything you need is already in you.

01:16:18.800 Just choose to go take it one day at a time. Just choose to win one day at a time. Download the app,

01:16:25.600 get started, get those shots of dopamine. It feels so good. Every time you hit that little

01:16:29.380 circle, like I don't know how somebody could go to bed. Like, like you just, it's like, I got to

01:16:33.780 hit it. I got to hit it. And then the next day you will wake up. I want to get the, and just enjoy

01:16:37.740 a little game. Yeah. Enjoy the program. And what I actually did, which helped me is I had a handwritten

01:16:43.220 journal. So I've got three journals that are full for my year experience. So whether it was journaling

01:16:47.900 what my good deeds were, you know, the random acts of kindness, whether it was, you know, uh, the

01:16:52.580 conversations I had with strangers, I journaled everything. I journaled breakthroughs. I journaled

01:16:58.540 mental things. And so not only did I did the app, I did that because it got me to slow down and go,

01:17:03.980 okay, what am I learning from this? And that's, that's the beauty of this. Once again, now we

01:17:08.840 haven't talked about physical and forever because it isn't about the physical. It's about you mentally

01:17:13.360 breaking through that pain that you're experiencing right now and recognizing like you are so damn

01:17:17.880 strong. It's interesting too, bro, that everybody thinks it's physical. Like dude, guys, it's not a

01:17:24.740 physical transformation. It's just not you. Are you going to transform? Absolutely. But what it is,

01:17:31.140 is developing the skillset and the tools in your brain that actually result in a transformation.

01:17:39.040 And that was the big, that was the big, uh, aha moment. You know, when I, whenever I figured out

01:17:46.180 that it wasn't, Hey, I'm trying to do this. It was, I looked at this fucking pizza or this beer

01:17:53.260 and I said, that fucking shit don't have any power over me. Fuck that. I'm tougher than that.

01:17:59.240 And like, I kind of got my ego involved in it. You know what I'm saying? And, and dude, that's that

01:18:03.940 switch. It's, it's helped a lot of people because they have always looked at it as, you know,

01:18:12.100 cause dude, let's be real, man, food and alcohol. Like it, it's very addicting, both things. And,

01:18:17.960 you know, we have this situation in life where, um, you know, we, we don't really understand

01:18:25.920 the perspective of, of control when it comes to these substances, because we have to have

01:18:34.580 at least the food to actually survive. So it's the equivalent of like saying, Hey man,

01:18:40.300 you really should quit heroin, but you got to do it three times a day or you're going to fucking die.

01:18:44.980 Right. That's where most people struggle with the fucking food is. And that's for me. Like if the

01:18:50.800 more I eat, the more I eat. And so, you know, when we think about food and we think about how

01:18:58.920 important it is to have the right food and we start thinking about, well, this is a temptation

01:19:05.020 and fuck that. It ain't shit. I'm tougher than that. It's different. It's a different game than

01:19:11.860 looking at, um, the food and being tempted. Like, fuck, you can't fucking tempt me fucking

01:19:18.460 piece of pizza. Fuck you. You know what I'm saying? Like, that's how I look at it. And those,

01:19:22.720 those conversations, when you get on the other side of them and you win one after another,

01:19:27.700 after another, after another, after you actually understand the control that you do have over

01:19:32.240 your mind. And that's what gets you to have it. That's where the transformation is, is born.

01:19:37.860 And that's where you see it show up in other areas of your life. Cause you realize like,

01:19:42.100 okay, yeah, this fish, when I'm at the restaurant, cause people say I'm at the restaurant. So you

01:19:46.040 just, well, you ordered what I ordered, but I ordered fish. Well, if the fish says it has butter

01:19:49.680 sauce, don't order the butter sauce. And I promise you, when you walk out of the restaurant,

01:19:54.460 you'll go, I feel great because I actually honored the program. I was honest with myself. I could eat,

01:20:01.680 what'd you eat for dinner? Fish and vegetables. Yeah. Never tell anybody about the butter sauce.

01:20:05.700 But the reality is it's those little decisions where you say, I actually did it. Yeah. And

01:20:10.720 that's where the concept that we talk about zero compromise comes from. Okay. It's all or

01:20:17.940 fucking nothing, man. Like those little compromises that you make, that's the slippery slope that

01:20:23.280 leads you to being back exactly where you were. All right. So we have to be aware of the compromises

01:20:29.100 that we make in all areas. You know, where are we compromising? And most people are compromising

01:20:33.480 literally fucking everything, literally everything in their life. Uh, nothing in their life is an

01:20:38.820 absolute, nothing, nothing. It's all open for debate. It's all open for discussion. It's all

01:20:43.640 open for the circumstances or the situation to dictate the actual actions that happen in reality.

01:20:50.100 And what this program is really about is understanding that it's actually the opposite.

01:20:56.620 These things, the drink, the food, the workouts, they have zero control over me. Okay. Like I choose to

01:21:07.160 not do the alcohol or do this food because I have control over it. It doesn't control me. And when you

01:21:15.400 look at a fucking, when you, when you've been like me and you've been 350 pounds and you have zero

01:21:21.160 control. Okay. And you sit in front of a pizza while four of your buddies are fucking eating it and

01:21:27.660 they're all getting smashed. I'm sitting there drinking coffee, eating fucking some chicken and

01:21:30.840 shit, bro. There ain't nothing more powerful than that. Nothing. And, and we don't, we're not conditioned

01:21:37.220 to see it the right way. So most people will see that situation. So you kind of have to have a

01:21:41.920 fucking chip on your shoulder to really get this, you know? And so like when I'm sitting down with

01:21:46.580 my friends and they're eating shit and drinking beers, I'm drinking a fucking coffee. You know

01:21:50.480 what I'm thinking? I'm getting better than all you motherfuckers. That's my dialogue. And I don't

01:21:55.300 care if it's you or if it's Sal or if it's my fucking dad, it's just the way I see shit. So enjoy

01:22:01.380 your shit, motherfuckers. I'll be over here getting better. And that's how I look at it. And so what that

01:22:05.640 program, what this program is really about is bringing the awareness that you are in control of you

01:22:10.480 and most of the results of your actions. Do we have circumstances that happen? Fuck yeah.

01:22:16.780 Do we have unexpected tragedies that happen? Yes. Do we have challenges that come out of the blue

01:22:21.920 every day? Well, answer that for yourself. How'd your day go today? How much shit came that you

01:22:26.900 didn't expect to come? Usually a fucking lie. So if we have the skills and we have the confidence and we

01:22:33.240 have the demeanor and we have all these things that we're talking about, we become better equipped

01:22:38.220 to handle them as they come and more effective as well and more happy and all of the things that

01:22:43.760 we're all out there searching for. So, you know, look, man, if I could, you know, if I could give you

01:22:52.640 a pill and make you understand it, I would, you know what I'm saying? But you just can't. Yeah,

01:22:57.440 bro. And, and like seeing all these people, uh, like, you know, cause dude, for us saying,

01:23:03.980 you know, there's a lot of people that don't do it. There's a fuck ton to do too. And those people,

01:23:08.680 man, it's fucking awesome. It's one of the coolest things I've ever seen in my life.

01:23:13.660 It's, it's been amazing to just watch online, the stories and then, you know, people that friends of

01:23:18.860 mine, I haven't seen in years and you see it on, you know, Facebook, Instagram, they're doing 75 hard

01:23:23.440 and you see like the change in them. I mean, it's just all the stories. Think of the stories

01:23:27.820 and the impact this program has had because you were going to speak at an event and you decided I

01:23:33.260 got 75 days in order to prepare. And then all of a sudden 75 hard was created and you made a choice

01:23:39.420 and you making that choice. And I know you don't like when people, you know, put you up on a pedestal

01:23:43.760 like this, but you know, you think of the impact and the stories and you got to just keep this thing

01:23:48.860 going, you know, cause it's just, it's, it's incredible what that one decision has now done.

01:23:54.580 You know, it's, it's, it's, I don't think I'll ever go back. I mean, I, I'm afraid of going back.

01:23:59.940 Like as confident as I am, my abilities, I still have a couple of things I'm afraid of in life for

01:24:05.160 real. And then we all have those fears, doubts and uncertainties, but the program teaches you to

01:24:10.220 silence. Well, it's not, it's not only that bro, it teaches you to leverage it. So what it does

01:24:14.480 like right now. So I've always been afraid of losing my business, right? Like I'm, I'm fucking

01:24:19.580 scared of going back to 1999 and 2000 when I had to live on a fucking mattress in a shitty store.

01:24:26.580 Okay. I don't want to do that shit. I did that shit already. I'm not doing it again.

01:24:31.320 So that scares me, right? Like, like people, I, people hear that and they're like, yeah, right.

01:24:36.160 You don't really think that. No, dude, trust me. The reason I run so hard and the reason I

01:24:41.120 fucking work the way I do. And the reason I'm so into this shit is because I do not ever,

01:24:46.980 ever want to go back there. That's how you could tell somebody who's actually been there. You know

01:24:51.300 what I'm saying? Like the motherfuckers, I know that like their stories, like legit. You could tell

01:24:56.220 by the way they act now, how legit their shit was back then. Like, you know what I'm saying?

01:24:59.980 No doubt. Everybody right now is popular to have a story, but, but dude, you know, the ones that

01:25:04.440 really got it. But the other thing that makes me afraid, dude, is getting fucking fat again.

01:25:09.620 Like fat, fat, like I was, you know what I'm saying? So, so like now I've developed that same

01:25:14.700 perspective where I'm, I'm working as hard as I can every day to create as much distance between

01:25:21.760 that fat fucking lazy motherfucker and where I'm at now. You know what I'm saying? And that's how I

01:25:28.620 look at that shit. And so I don't ever want to go back. So I really, I, I really don't see myself

01:25:34.700 like stop it. Like, I'm not saying I won't go on vacation and fucking, you know, and enjoy

01:25:41.980 myself. But that's like, that's like the power of doing that never do it again list, you know,

01:25:45.940 having, having a power list, you know, there's a design to how you show up in your life.

01:25:51.300 Most of the vacations look different now. Everything looks different. The, the, the, the relaxing

01:25:57.080 looks different. Like relaxing is, is no longer sitting on the couch and ordering a fucking extra

01:26:02.360 large pizza and a bunch of fucking French fries and shit. That's not relaxing. Relaxing is going

01:26:07.200 for a fucking, uh, uh, a lift here at HQ and then doing some outdoor cardio later in the afternoon.

01:26:14.540 I got all the bugs worked out and now I can relax like you were talking about at the game, you know?

01:26:18.920 So it's just a different life, man. And, uh, I still love, you know, having a good time, but,

01:26:25.480 but what I figured out is I fucking don't need all that extra baggage that goes with it, you know?

01:26:30.300 So I don't know, man, I think we're onto something here.

01:26:35.720 I just, I applaud everybody out there who's done it and I applaud everybody who is getting ready to

01:26:42.200 do it. Yeah. Do it. And I say this all the time, whenever I get a chance to speak, just give

01:26:46.660 yourself permission. Yeah. Don't do this for Andy. Don't do this for me. Don't do it. Cause you

01:26:51.560 listen to this podcast, like give yourself permission to finally go out and figure out how

01:26:55.300 great you can be. Yeah, man. Yeah, dude. It's, it's a powerful thing. You know, I

01:27:00.160 dude, like thinking back to where I was before I did this and how fucking weak of a mind I actually

01:27:08.360 had and how successful I had become with that mind. And now where I'm at now with like, it gets

01:27:14.680 me excited. I'm like, Holy fuck. And you realize there's more, I got all, that's what you and I

01:27:18.960 talked about. It's like, it's like, you feel like you're still scratching the surface of what's

01:27:22.400 capable. There's no question. Fucking I am. I mean, I drove here today in a nice car, but

01:27:27.140 Jeff Bezos went to fucking space yesterday. So like, like I, I got some fucking going to

01:27:32.520 do, you know, like, uh, I know where exactly where the fuck I am and how much I haven't

01:27:38.860 done yet. So I don't know, man. I'm, I, we kind of did like a whole fucking 75 hard fucking

01:27:45.500 sales pitch this whole time. But dude, the truth is I can't sell something that's fucking

01:27:49.600 free. So I'm just trying to help you guys out. And I, and I'll go back to what I said

01:27:53.440 earlier. It's not, it's not selling it. It's what's wrong with encouraging somebody

01:27:57.360 to figure out how great they can be. I mean, if you're pissed off at us for that, that's

01:28:02.120 a good thing. If that causes you to give yourself permission, then that's a good thing.

01:28:06.220 What do you think that's about, bro? Like, what do you really think that's about? Like

01:28:09.300 the mediocrity that's going on?

01:28:11.960 I think people have just been protected. You know, it's like anything you, you got to 350 pounds

01:28:16.920 because you were conditioned to think like, okay, I've got a great business. Things are

01:28:21.100 going on in my life. So what does it matter if I'm that? So you just condition yourself

01:28:24.080 to think, well, it's okay. I'm good. Right? Nobody questioned it. You just kept doing what

01:28:28.180 you were doing. So there's patterns of behavior where you just, people are stuck. And if you

01:28:32.840 have somebody who's been babied their whole life, maybe they've just been conditioned to

01:28:36.040 think that way. Maybe they've had somebody never believed in them, dude. I think that's

01:28:39.440 most of it. I mean, and so really, yeah, Andy and I, we get intense, we get passionate,

01:28:44.940 but the reality is what we're really saying is we believe in you. Like we believe that you can do

01:28:51.000 this and we believe that this will unlock what it means for you to be your best. And so whether

01:28:55.440 it's self-talk, lack of belief, people haven't told them that they're good enough, like just go

01:29:00.340 live in the pain. Or that they can be good enough. Yeah. And go, whatever your pain is, go live in

01:29:05.980 that pain. I've been through so much painful, tough stuff in my life that for me, like, I just,

01:29:11.560 I know that there's a, another level and I'm willing to get inside that fire and go find that

01:29:18.380 next level. And when more pain comes, I will fight through it. And I want everybody to experience that

01:29:22.800 too. How do you think, like talk, like if we're talking to someone right now who, who's completely

01:29:29.380 this, let's just say, you know, today's the first day they ever thought that maybe they wanted to do

01:29:37.680 something like this. What would you say to that person? I would say, I want you to identify the

01:29:43.280 reason why, when you think about it tomorrow, you're still going to want to do it. And you know,

01:29:48.400 so our podcast, which you've been on is one of the best episodes we ever did at the old HQ.

01:29:52.700 It's called the burn. And I believe there are there, all the coaches, a little bit about the

01:29:57.420 show. Yeah. So all the speakers and coaches that are out there, I think they significantly miss

01:30:02.300 something very important. And they talk about why, and they talk about purpose, which is significant,

01:30:07.600 but they forget to talk about the burn. There's a fire. There's an underlying burn inside of you.

01:30:13.640 That's going to cause you to ignite that why in that purpose, which then leads to the necessary

01:30:18.520 action to figure out how great you can be. I remember the RTA event speaking with Marshall,

01:30:23.400 right? I got to warm up the stage for Marshall Falk, being a St. Louis born kid. That was one of the

01:30:26.820 coolest things ever. And so I remember asking you guys, can I stay on and listen? And then I got to

01:30:30.900 hear Jocko. I mean, it was awesome. And Marshall started talking when Ed was like, okay, tell him

01:30:35.860 what room you're in, in the hall of fame. He's like, I'm in the room, in the room. Like there's

01:30:39.360 like one of 10 guys that ever walked the face of the earth that have accomplished in the game of

01:30:42.340 football at Marshall. And Marshall goes, there was just something in my belly. It was just it. Like

01:30:46.680 it was, I don't even know what the hell you call it. And I remember looking at the screen, like

01:30:50.280 Marshall, that's the burn. And we all have it. It's like, if you right now are teeter tottering,

01:30:55.580 do I, don't I, why are you going to do it? What's the fire inside of you? Who's made a sacrifice

01:31:00.660 for you, right? So for me, everything's about honoring my mom, all the donations, the work.

01:31:05.420 It's always an honor of my mom. That's why I said September 18th will be the 75th day,

01:31:10.280 because every day I'm going to wake up and I'm going to write down my mother's name,

01:31:13.620 Janet Fishman Newman, the burn bang. There it is. I will not stop. And so everybody has that,

01:31:20.020 right? My story is not going to motivate you to do 75 hard, but there's something in you that if you

01:31:25.400 grab it and if you wake up every day and you say, I'm going to connect to that fire inside of

01:31:30.640 me, you ain't hitting that snooze button. No, I think one of the best things too about the

01:31:35.000 program, dude, is that the motivation sort of built in. Like if you can force yourself to grit

01:31:40.800 through the first 15 or 16 days, like dude, if you're someone struggling right now, I would

01:31:46.920 challenge you get through the first fucking 16 or 17 days. Okay. That's a lot easier of a thing to

01:31:52.620 digest than 75, right? Absolutely. 15, go 15, 16 days. When was the last time you did 16 days of

01:31:59.820 fucking anything? Okay. So do it because what happens is, and by the way, you will have to

01:32:07.540 fucking force yourself through that. You will have to work. You will be sore as fuck. You will be like,

01:32:14.580 holy shit. I don't know if I can do this. Your feet will hurt. Okay. But just do force yourself

01:32:22.080 through and let the momentum. Sometimes it takes 20 days. Sometimes it takes 25 days, but what eventually

01:32:27.960 happens to every single person that does this is that they create the momentum themselves. And

01:32:33.580 that's one of the most valuable skills that 75 hard teaches is that it teaches you that you can

01:32:38.860 manufacture momentum on demand. And if you can manufacture momentum on demand, you can always

01:32:46.300 be motivated. You can always be working towards your goal and you can always be in that zone of

01:32:51.860 feeling good about it. And you'll realize you have more capacity to do more in your life.

01:32:55.700 Yeah. That's, that was another by-product. I completely forgot. I had been telling myself

01:33:00.100 forever, what do I need to write another book for? I'd already written all these books. Why write

01:33:03.600 another book? And now my next book is coming out and there's a chapter dedicated to you,

01:33:08.580 the Andy for sell a chapter on leadership is not for everybody.

01:33:11.360 Did you say like one word? Like, but it's, you know, it's one of those things. Like I was telling

01:33:17.720 myself, so I wrote another book because of 75. That's why. And so you realize like,

01:33:23.500 I have more capacity because if you're watching Netflix three hours a night,

01:33:27.200 like you could go down to an hour of Netflix, still getting a couple of good episodes,

01:33:31.580 right? We want you to enjoy your life, but take the two hours back. That's all you need

01:33:35.560 to complete the program in its entirety. And then your meals. And so, you know, it's one of those

01:33:40.940 things. There's so many things that happen and it's just, people got to get out there and trust

01:33:46.060 themselves and believe in themselves and do it. What could someone from your experience,

01:33:51.240 what could someone who hasn't done it, who, who is just, let's just say they're, they're,

01:33:56.940 they're, they're a regular person. Okay. They've got a job. They've got bills to pay. They're busy.

01:34:03.220 They've had family obligations. What would you say that that person will gain from this program?

01:34:12.760 I would say it's clarity, awareness, intentionality. And there's like, there's like a

01:34:19.020 presence. Like you will be more intentional when you're eating dinner with your family

01:34:23.620 because everything has a purpose. Your actions have more purpose. And to me, you add that burn to

01:34:30.740 it. The reason why, and you really intentionally connect to why you're going to make that sacrifice

01:34:35.340 to do that. Everything kind of slows down in your life. You see things differently. I promise

01:34:39.920 you, you'll be a better wife, a better husband, a better mother, a better father. Those are all

01:34:44.680 by-products. And I think a lot of times people hear us talk about winning, right? That's winning.

01:34:50.520 Winning is believing that you can have balance in all these areas of your life. Not, well, I'm a really

01:34:54.660 busy in my business. So therefore I can't do these other things. You can. So do it. If you watch

01:35:00.720 yourself, do it. And the belief that you'll have in yourself, you'll be, you'll believe you could write a

01:35:05.440 book. If you never wanted to, if you've never even thought you could write a book, you'll slow down

01:35:09.440 and say, I'm going to write a book. I'm going to do something. I'm going to start a charity. I'm going

01:35:12.600 to do something for my kids. I'm going to coach their team. Your life will change. Yep. Dude,

01:35:17.760 what about, what about, so you mentioned there, you know, the dinner with your family and people

01:35:26.540 are confused on why, why you're going to be more present. The reason that you're going to be more

01:35:31.720 present at those things, guys, is because you're living intentionally, like literally living

01:35:35.800 intentionally because you're forced to, because there's so much shit that you got to get done

01:35:40.960 with this program. So what happens is you start scheduling out all of your, like literally every

01:35:47.280 minute of your day. And like you said, when that, when that time comes, that's what you're doing.

01:35:53.200 And you're doing, it's time management and awareness and, and living with intent. And that's

01:35:58.200 what you're truly going to learn is when you grasp these things and start putting them into effect,

01:36:03.700 bro, you're calling the shots now, not fucking, uh, you know, the bad news you got this afternoon

01:36:10.400 or the, uh, you know, the dinner that you didn't know you had to go to or the unexpected things.

01:36:16.840 Now you're in control of those things. Even when they're happening to you, you're able to work

01:36:22.420 through them and move. So, you know, guys, there's so many benefits of this program and we talk about

01:36:28.380 them all in depth in the book, um, which you could buy the book and it's going to tell you exactly

01:36:35.080 what's going to happen. All right. So some people like to buy the book ahead of time and read the

01:36:39.800 book. Some people like to read the book after they've done the program. And so if you, yeah,

01:36:44.100 because dude, it's pretty cool to read the book and be like, holy fuck, this is exactly what the

01:36:49.080 fuck happened. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. So it's neat to see people do both. So if you think

01:36:57.280 you're one of the persons that wants to be surprised, read the book at the end and then go

01:37:02.260 to the podcast, uh, and, and do it, you know, uh, what is it at what I say? 14 and 80, go listen to

01:37:08.380 those podcasts, episode 14 and number 80, and you could do it as free. It'll tell you exactly how to

01:37:13.260 do it. You could do it on a sheet of paper. I have the templates on my IG page. All right. Uh, if you

01:37:18.780 want, you can, there is a phase one, two, and three. That's right. Yeah, there is. There is a

01:37:22.440 75 hard is only the first part of the program. Um, but you know, there's tools to support it.

01:37:28.780 We have the app, we have the book, we have all kinds of different things for it, but you do not

01:37:33.300 have to buy any of it. You could just go listen to the podcast and do it. So be one of the people,

01:37:38.740 you know, if you don't want to spend the money, you think that we're kind of bullshitting you a

01:37:41.780 little bit or whatever the fuck you think, uh, fucking don't buy a shit. Go listen to the podcast and do it.

01:37:46.480 See if I'm right. I know I'm right, but it will fucking change you and it will make your life

01:37:52.540 better. And dude, I just want to say thanks for coming on and sharing what you shared today because

01:37:57.560 bro, the change that you made, like not just physically, I mean, physically, bro, you're a

01:38:05.360 different machine completely. Um, but like the mentality sharpness and the ability, like, dude,

01:38:11.780 I can see it in your content. I see it in the things you're saying, I feel in your energy and

01:38:15.620 dude, it's exciting to see that because it's like a, yeah, dude, it's like a, like, it's like a new

01:38:20.460 version, but the old version was fucking awesome. Like it's fucking cool, dude. So, um, you know,

01:38:27.420 congratulations on the work you've done, man. It's cool. And, um, I really appreciate you making

01:38:32.320 time to come on the show and talk about it. And guys, if you haven't, you know, been familiar

01:38:36.860 with Ben cause we have a lot of new listeners. You should go check them out. His Instagram is,

01:38:40.580 is it Ben Newman now? Okay. It's at continued fight. Um, and where's telling about like where

01:38:47.740 else they can get you? Well, check out the new book, uncommon leadership. It comes out August 3rd.

01:38:52.960 Okay. And, uh, Ed Milet wrote the forward. And I mean, it's, it's influenced essentially what I

01:38:58.700 wanted to do was honor people that have impacted me. This is not some biography like about my life.

01:39:03.540 This is like lessons I've been blessed to learn from 11 amazing leaders that have impacted my life.

01:39:09.420 And so you've had a huge impact on my life. This has changed my life. I will forever be a different

01:39:14.940 person. And so I had to honor you in the book and, uh, I appreciate our friendship and, uh,

01:39:20.240 I appreciate you having me on. Yeah. Likewise guys, uh, follow Ben support Ben, you know,

01:39:25.940 definitely buy his book. Um, Oh, let me mention one more thing about the book. Cause this is something,

01:39:30.060 I don't know if I've ever, uh, heard of an author doing this, but Charlie, another friend of ours,

01:39:34.680 uh, he actually, he, dude, just an inspiration. Yeah. And 100% of the proceeds from the book are

01:39:42.040 being donated to start a new facet of his charity to honor teachers. So my mother was a teacher,

01:39:46.380 so I've already sent him $30,000 from the pre-sales. Not like my profits from the book,

01:39:52.080 100%. Like if you buy it on Amazon for 25 bucks, I'm donating $25, which means I'm coming out of

01:39:58.240 pocket with you with every book. I ain't making money on these books because I wanted to pay it

01:40:02.660 forward in a significant way. Cause there's teachers who can't even buy their own school

01:40:05.660 supplies. And now I realized that's what my mother went through. And I've, I've been blessed with so

01:40:10.380 many things that have happened in my career that for me to be able to give back with all of you to

01:40:15.680 a cause like that for teachers, I don't need to make any money on books. Yeah. That's awesome,

01:40:19.780 dude. That's awesome, bro. Well guys, you know, give him a follow, give him, check out his book,

01:40:25.980 uh, check out his content, check out his podcast, the burn. It's fucking cool. It's a different

01:40:30.500 format than most of the other podcasts out there, which I really like. I loved being on it. Um,

01:40:36.120 and guys, I just want to say, thanks, man. You know, thanks for always supporting us. Thanks for,

01:40:39.800 for sharing the word. Uh, you know, we don't run ads and we don't do all that bullshit. Everybody

01:40:44.980 else does. So if you liked the show, if it was good, you know, pay the fee, man, give us a share,

01:40:50.140 uh, share us on your social, or at least tell somebody about it in a positive way. Um, but we are here to

01:40:55.640 help you guys. We're help to help you guys laugh, help you guys learn, bring you some fucking

01:41:00.280 awareness or some truth, give you some skills, uh, to make this place better, man. You know,

01:41:05.460 we're all sick of this shit going on in the world. And then the only way it's going to get better is

01:41:08.620 if we fucking get better. So, um, I love you guys. I appreciate you guys. And I'll talk to you guys

01:41:13.540 next time.

01:41:13.980 You know,

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - July 24, 2021

122. How Champions Create Distance Ft. Ben Newman

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