REAL AF with Andy Frisella - April 15, 2022


276. The Skewed Balance Of High Performers

Topics
balance in modern society
Hosted by
Andy Frisella
Mentioned
Andy Priscilla Jeff Bezos
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In this episode of The Realist, I talk about the concept of "balance" and how it has been hijacked by modern society and how you can have balance and still build a great life. I also talk about how balance has become a reason for people to lean on when they don't feel like doing the shit they know they should be doing and then wonder why they're not getting the results they say they want.

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00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realist say goodbye to the lies 0.98
00:00:21.380 the fakes and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today 0.69
00:00:26.080 guess what it's not cti it's not qnaf and it's not a full length so that means it's only one thing 0.52
00:00:32.520 that means it's real talk i haven't done one of these in a while i'm kind of excited because i 0.95
00:00:36.620 actually have a point that i want to make to all of you soft motherfuckers out there all right so 0.99
00:00:41.060 get ready for that uh before i get into that um if you like the show if it made you think if it 0.87
00:00:47.560 taught you something if it made you laugh if it brought you value i ask that you help us grow the
00:00:52.140 show all right you guys are always saying everybody needs to hear this well i don't advertise
00:00:56.740 for it i work entirely off word of mouth that's how i prefer to work um if it's good value you'll share
00:01:03.740 it if it's not you won't and i'm okay with that i think that's the way everything should be but
00:01:09.000 since it isn't i rely on you guys heavily to help me compete with some of these guys who spend all
00:01:15.160 their money on ads so please share the show now with that being said i do have a big point that i
00:01:24.440 want to make to you guys and and you know i talk often about how soft the world's gotten i talked
00:01:30.460 often about uh you know how people need to harden up and how people need to get tougher and how people
00:01:35.600 need to get mentally tough and physically tough talk a lot about those things i also talk about a lot
00:01:41.660 of how the younger generation in the world has become softened by the politically correct
00:01:49.560 nature the feel good do good uh you know oh everybody's a winner nature and narrative that
00:01:58.520 has been pushed down through these young people over the course of time one of the concepts that
00:02:05.360 really irritates the fuck out of me is the concept of balance all right i see this word everywhere
00:02:12.460 and it used to mean like you know i get up in the morning uh you know i focus on work for this part of
00:02:21.040 the day when i get home i focus on being there for my family i focus on my fitness and i kind of have a
00:02:27.000 well-rounded life and i understand that that sounds really good and i understand that's you know 0.97
00:02:33.260 probably a really healthy thing to have but this term has now been hijacked by the pussies okay that's 1.00
00:02:43.720 the easiest way for me to say it so it's called real talk not sensitive your talk that's the truth 0.97
00:02:50.020 okay and now what balance has become is this idea that people can lean on when they don't feel like
00:02:59.540 doing the shit that they know they need to do and i see this everywhere online all right every time 0.98
00:03:06.880 someone's doing something or posting something or taking it easy or eating some shit they shouldn't be 1.00
00:03:13.060 eating because they promised the whole internet they were going to do this and this and this and this 0.97
00:03:16.680 and this or you know not doing their job or not you know we're doing their workout or whatever 0.86
00:03:22.520 whatever it is when they're fucking off they use this term balance all right and what it's become 0.93
00:03:29.320 is a reason for people to do what it is they know they shouldn't be doing and then they wonder why 0.97
00:03:37.760 they're not getting the results that they say they fucking want okay so stop doing that all right 0.90
00:03:45.720 a lot of you guys think that balance is is something that you get to have or that you're entitled to 0.93
00:03:52.740 and that you could have balance and you could still build this incredibly great life and i'm here to tell 0.95
00:03:57.980 you that is fucking bullshit all right in the traditional sense what i think of balance and what i would 0.99
00:04:06.080 consider for you to think of balance is to think of it like this you're going to work for part of your 1.00
00:04:12.160 life really fucking hard then you're going to do other things in your life that you really want to 0.90
00:04:16.700 do okay and stop looking at it on a day by day by day by day scale and start looking at it over the 0.93
00:04:25.300 course of your life okay because here's what happens young people use this term balance to skate out of
00:04:35.540 all the things they know they should be doing and what happens as a result of that is they end up in
00:04:40.820 the hamster wheel of life they end up never really getting where they want to go and because they 0.98
00:04:46.900 never really get where they want to go they have to keep running in the motherfucking hamster wheel 0.97
00:04:51.360 until they're 75 years old that's the reality of what balance today for young people creates for you 0.98
00:04:59.880 at the end of the road it creates a life that you can never fucking live so you have two choices 0.85
00:05:06.740 you can either commit your youthful years or maybe you're not so youthful now and you've just figured 0.93
00:05:13.680 out that you've been fucking up and doing exactly what i'm talking about here in life and you can 0.95
00:05:18.240 commit for the next five six seven years to really building something great really becoming great 0.94
00:05:24.820 really becoming what it is you see yourself being without balance and then you can have balance for the rest of
00:05:32.400 your life or you can choose to have balance now and have balance tomorrow and have balance the next day
00:05:42.820 and have balance the day after that and you can live a very stressful a very mediocre and a very
00:05:49.480 meaningless unfulfilling life those are your options so i would like for you to think about when you use
00:05:58.500 the word balance how you're actually using it are you using it in a way where it's hey i want to enjoy
00:06:04.840 some things or i'm rewarding myself after i just did what i said i was going to do i went on a vacation
00:06:11.080 after i did 75 hard that's fucking balance okay but what is not balance is you abandoning your 0.99
00:06:18.160 motherfucking plans and your set rules and the things that you set out to do because you're weak in the 0.99
00:06:24.400 moment and you want to hashtag balance on your fucking snaps all right there's two different 0.99
00:06:30.780 very different ways of thinking about balance and i can tell you for sure there is not one 0.99
00:06:37.040 motherfucker out there not a single one who is winning on a large scale who is the kind of person 0.96
00:06:43.360 that you aspire to be like if you're a successful driven ambitious type of person there's not one out 1.00
00:06:50.580 there that fucking puts balance on their shit whenever they're just enjoying their life because 0.99
00:06:58.340 they don't have to okay they know they've earned it they know they've done the work they know they've 1.00
00:07:03.780 put in the time and they feel good about enjoying it and they're not doing what you're doing which is 0.98
00:07:09.720 advertising a cop-out to the rest of the world about why it is you're abandoning your fucking plan that 0.97
00:07:16.200 you made for yourself let's be fucking real oh i want to have french fries today hashtag balance 0.99
00:07:22.240 no you're gonna fucking lose okay oh i decided to go uh to the bar this weekend oh you know i knew i was 1.00
00:07:32.660 doing 75 art hashtag balance no you're a fucking loser it's not balance okay everything i do 1.00
00:07:43.140 is about making you motherfuckers become great not good great and even though most of you don't even 0.99
00:07:51.840 want to become great that's still what i do because if you try to be great you're still going to end up 0.99
00:07:56.420 pretty fucking good that's the reality but i want you to really fucking think about this do you think 0.97
00:08:02.520 when jeff bezos was building amazon he was fucking worried about motherfucking balance do you think kobe 0.99
00:08:08.640 bryant getting up at 3 a.m to shoot fucking free throws he was talking about balance do you think 0.99
00:08:14.320 the right brothers when they fucking wrecked their plane 25 fucking times before they ever got to go 1.00
00:08:19.800 100 fucking feet we're worried about fucking balance no nobody that's ever done anything motherfucking 0.99
00:08:27.960 great has been concerned with fucking balance when they've been trying to execute on it and you need 0.99
00:08:34.240 to understand this because a lot of you guys want to become great you tell me you want to become 0.99
00:08:39.340 great you message me you talk about it you're you're you fucking pretend to be about it online but you 1.00
00:08:45.280 ain't because every time the motherfucking shit gets hard you're talking about fucking balance 1.00
00:08:50.740 balance and greatness do not fucking go together you think elon musk was worried about fucking balance 0.99
00:08:59.040 when he was living in the fucking business that he was building sold his company for 22 million 0.98
00:09:03.320 dollars and reinvested all of it in the rest of the companies went back to sleeping in his company 1.00
00:09:08.160 again no nobody that changes the world talks about balance but yet you motherfuckers make it your main 1.00
00:09:16.500 talking point every time you want to cut a corner once you're great you can have some balance but until 1.00
00:09:23.860 you get there until you're tom brady and you've won fucking however many super bowls motherfuckers won 0.98
00:09:30.100 and might win again you ain't gonna have balance tom brady's gonna have balance when he's done with 0.99
00:09:38.980 fucking football great people have balance when they're done being fucking great you ain't there 0.96
00:09:46.400 yet so understand that and i'm not judging you you get to pick and choose how you want to live your life 0.99
00:09:52.880 nothing i do here nothing i say here nothing i live like not the cars i drive not the companies i own 0.73
00:10:00.300 not the way i treat my friends not the way i treat myself none of it is fucking balance i'm a 0.98
00:10:06.560 motherfucking extremist i love extremely hard i work extremely hard i give extremely hard i do everything 1.00
00:10:14.700 with fucking passion i hate balance balance is for weak average mediocre motherfuckers and if you buy 1.00
00:10:24.380 into the idea of balance as some sort of you know reward for you to cut corners and live your life like 1.00
00:10:31.780 everybody else you are going to get exactly what the fuck you're asking for you're going to get a 0.98
00:10:38.600 mediocre life like everybody else you're going to get a life filled with problems paying the bills 0.99
00:10:45.000 you're going to get a life filled with wondering why you can't ever fucking get anywhere even though 0.99
00:10:50.480 you get up every motherfucking day and run as hard as you can for 80 of the time but 80 of the time 0.99
00:10:57.960 doesn't motherfucking cut it i'm not running 80 of the time i'm running 98 of the time and two percent of 0.98
00:11:07.040 the time i get some motherfucking balance this is why i suggest to people that they build their life 0.97
00:11:14.200 around their mission because if you want a really truly fulfilling balanced life it should all go 0.83
00:11:21.720 together it should all roll together it should all fit together and however you see balance however you
00:11:29.260 think of balance i can assure you of one thing because i understand that not everybody lives the way i live 0.97
00:11:34.580 but i'm not here for everybody i'm not here for average motherfuckers nothing i do is for average 0.99
00:11:40.520 people not the fucking content i put out not the podcast i have not the views i have about this 1.00
00:11:45.920 country nothing nothing i do is for the average everything i do is to help motherfuckers like you 0.99
00:11:52.160 become better everything i do is to help people like you become the best motherfucking version of 0.99
00:11:57.600 themselves that's what i do that's what i'm here for that's what i'm about so don't fucking email me 0.99
00:12:03.680 your average bullshit because i don't want to hear it and i don't fucking care but i am telling you this 0.99
00:12:10.300 if you use the term balance and you think that it's an excuse for you to come off your plan 1.00
00:12:17.020 to deviate from your your grand plan of where you want to be in life and you use that consistently 0.99
00:12:23.940 you will never fucking get there ever ever ever you'll run you'll run and you'll run some fucking 0.99
00:12:29.740 more and you will never get off that motherfucking wheel that's what balance will get you you could 1.00
00:12:35.880 take my word for it or not no offense either way but i'm going to tell you this not one of my friends 0.99
00:12:42.780 not one of the many billionaires that i know not one of the highly successful multi-millionaires i know 0.90
00:12:50.200 not anybody who i consider an exceptional human talks about fucking balance in any sort of way 0.93
00:12:56.900 at all they're all extremists they all work extremely hard they all give extremely hard 0.99
00:13:02.960 they all earn extremely a whole lot they provide an extremely a large amount of jobs they're fucking 0.99
00:13:09.500 extremists in every single fucking sense of the term but what do you hear in society oh we gotta you 0.99
00:13:16.860 that's what that's oh you burn yourself out oh mental health let me tell you something 1.00
00:13:23.720 motherfuckers my mental health is a hundred times better when i'm focused on my fucking mission 1.00
00:13:27.800 the real problem with mental health here is that most of you don't have a fucking purpose 1.00
00:13:32.040 most of you aren't committed to anything and you haven't been committed to anything your whole 0.99
00:13:35.520 motherfucking lives that's what you have a problem with your mental health for so if you want to fix 0.99
00:13:39.900 your mental health figure out a big purpose go at it full fucking speed give it everything you 1.00
00:13:45.100 fucking have day in and day out and fuck everybody who talks about balance and you'll find some 1.00
00:13:50.160 motherfucking fulfillment there but this idea of sitting on your ass eating fucking doritos and 1.00
00:13:56.580 watching fucking tv and netflix and shit and calling that balance that ain't it bro that ain't it 1.00
00:14:02.340 it's gonna ruin your fucking life so what's my goal here what's my take here what's my reason for 1.00
00:14:09.180 putting this message out because i see a lot of you falling in to the soft-ass narrative that's put down 1.00
00:14:14.960 by soft-ass people who have never accomplished a motherfucking thing and i don't want that life 0.98
00:14:19.900 for you so think about it think about balance think about what kind of balance you want do you want 0.99
00:14:25.860 daily balance or do you want life balance are you going to go all in on whatever it is that you want 0.98
00:14:30.820 to be or are you going to wash it down the drain by going 80 every motherfucking day and hashtag and 0.95
00:14:37.220 balance whenever you decide to cut a corner the choice is yours and there's only two of them 0.98
00:14:40.960 so you get to make it 1.00
00:14:42.520 went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a pole fuck a stove counted millions in 1.00
00:14:48.500 the cold bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case close 1.00
00:14:55.680 you 1.00