276. The Skewed Balance Of High Performers
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Summary
In this episode of The Realist, I talk about the concept of "balance" and how it has been hijacked by modern society and how you can have balance and still build a great life. I also talk about how balance has become a reason for people to lean on when they don't feel like doing the shit they know they should be doing and then wonder why they're not getting the results they say they want.
Transcript
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what is up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realist say goodbye to the lies
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the fakes and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today
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guess what it's not cti it's not qnaf and it's not a full length so that means it's only one thing
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that means it's real talk i haven't done one of these in a while i'm kind of excited because i
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actually have a point that i want to make to all of you soft motherfuckers out there all right so
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get ready for that uh before i get into that um if you like the show if it made you think if it
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taught you something if it made you laugh if it brought you value i ask that you help us grow the
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show all right you guys are always saying everybody needs to hear this well i don't advertise
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for it i work entirely off word of mouth that's how i prefer to work um if it's good value you'll share
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it if it's not you won't and i'm okay with that i think that's the way everything should be but
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since it isn't i rely on you guys heavily to help me compete with some of these guys who spend all
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their money on ads so please share the show now with that being said i do have a big point that i
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want to make to you guys and and you know i talk often about how soft the world's gotten i talked
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often about uh you know how people need to harden up and how people need to get tougher and how people
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need to get mentally tough and physically tough talk a lot about those things i also talk about a lot
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of how the younger generation in the world has become softened by the politically correct
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nature the feel good do good uh you know oh everybody's a winner nature and narrative that
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has been pushed down through these young people over the course of time one of the concepts that
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really irritates the fuck out of me is the concept of balance all right i see this word everywhere
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and it used to mean like you know i get up in the morning uh you know i focus on work for this part of
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the day when i get home i focus on being there for my family i focus on my fitness and i kind of have a
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well-rounded life and i understand that that sounds really good and i understand that's you know
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probably a really healthy thing to have but this term has now been hijacked by the pussies okay that's
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the easiest way for me to say it so it's called real talk not sensitive your talk that's the truth
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okay and now what balance has become is this idea that people can lean on when they don't feel like
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doing the shit that they know they need to do and i see this everywhere online all right every time
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someone's doing something or posting something or taking it easy or eating some shit they shouldn't be
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eating because they promised the whole internet they were going to do this and this and this and this
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and this or you know not doing their job or not you know we're doing their workout or whatever
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whatever it is when they're fucking off they use this term balance all right and what it's become
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is a reason for people to do what it is they know they shouldn't be doing and then they wonder why
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they're not getting the results that they say they fucking want okay so stop doing that all right
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a lot of you guys think that balance is is something that you get to have or that you're entitled to
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and that you could have balance and you could still build this incredibly great life and i'm here to tell
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you that is fucking bullshit all right in the traditional sense what i think of balance and what i would
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consider for you to think of balance is to think of it like this you're going to work for part of your
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life really fucking hard then you're going to do other things in your life that you really want to
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do okay and stop looking at it on a day by day by day by day scale and start looking at it over the
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course of your life okay because here's what happens young people use this term balance to skate out of
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all the things they know they should be doing and what happens as a result of that is they end up in
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the hamster wheel of life they end up never really getting where they want to go and because they
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never really get where they want to go they have to keep running in the motherfucking hamster wheel
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until they're 75 years old that's the reality of what balance today for young people creates for you
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at the end of the road it creates a life that you can never fucking live so you have two choices
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you can either commit your youthful years or maybe you're not so youthful now and you've just figured
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out that you've been fucking up and doing exactly what i'm talking about here in life and you can
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commit for the next five six seven years to really building something great really becoming great
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really becoming what it is you see yourself being without balance and then you can have balance for the rest of
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your life or you can choose to have balance now and have balance tomorrow and have balance the next day
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and have balance the day after that and you can live a very stressful a very mediocre and a very
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meaningless unfulfilling life those are your options so i would like for you to think about when you use
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the word balance how you're actually using it are you using it in a way where it's hey i want to enjoy
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some things or i'm rewarding myself after i just did what i said i was going to do i went on a vacation
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after i did 75 hard that's fucking balance okay but what is not balance is you abandoning your
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motherfucking plans and your set rules and the things that you set out to do because you're weak in the
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moment and you want to hashtag balance on your fucking snaps all right there's two different
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very different ways of thinking about balance and i can tell you for sure there is not one
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motherfucker out there not a single one who is winning on a large scale who is the kind of person
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that you aspire to be like if you're a successful driven ambitious type of person there's not one out
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there that fucking puts balance on their shit whenever they're just enjoying their life because
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they don't have to okay they know they've earned it they know they've done the work they know they've
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put in the time and they feel good about enjoying it and they're not doing what you're doing which is
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advertising a cop-out to the rest of the world about why it is you're abandoning your fucking plan that
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you made for yourself let's be fucking real oh i want to have french fries today hashtag balance
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no you're gonna fucking lose okay oh i decided to go uh to the bar this weekend oh you know i knew i was
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doing 75 art hashtag balance no you're a fucking loser it's not balance okay everything i do
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is about making you motherfuckers become great not good great and even though most of you don't even
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want to become great that's still what i do because if you try to be great you're still going to end up
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pretty fucking good that's the reality but i want you to really fucking think about this do you think
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when jeff bezos was building amazon he was fucking worried about motherfucking balance do you think kobe
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bryant getting up at 3 a.m to shoot fucking free throws he was talking about balance do you think
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the right brothers when they fucking wrecked their plane 25 fucking times before they ever got to go
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100 fucking feet we're worried about fucking balance no nobody that's ever done anything motherfucking
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great has been concerned with fucking balance when they've been trying to execute on it and you need
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to understand this because a lot of you guys want to become great you tell me you want to become
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great you message me you talk about it you're you're you fucking pretend to be about it online but you
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ain't because every time the motherfucking shit gets hard you're talking about fucking balance
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balance and greatness do not fucking go together you think elon musk was worried about fucking balance
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when he was living in the fucking business that he was building sold his company for 22 million
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dollars and reinvested all of it in the rest of the companies went back to sleeping in his company
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again no nobody that changes the world talks about balance but yet you motherfuckers make it your main
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talking point every time you want to cut a corner once you're great you can have some balance but until
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you get there until you're tom brady and you've won fucking however many super bowls motherfuckers won
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and might win again you ain't gonna have balance tom brady's gonna have balance when he's done with
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fucking football great people have balance when they're done being fucking great you ain't there
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yet so understand that and i'm not judging you you get to pick and choose how you want to live your life
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nothing i do here nothing i say here nothing i live like not the cars i drive not the companies i own
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not the way i treat my friends not the way i treat myself none of it is fucking balance i'm a
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motherfucking extremist i love extremely hard i work extremely hard i give extremely hard i do everything
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with fucking passion i hate balance balance is for weak average mediocre motherfuckers and if you buy
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into the idea of balance as some sort of you know reward for you to cut corners and live your life like
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everybody else you are going to get exactly what the fuck you're asking for you're going to get a
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mediocre life like everybody else you're going to get a life filled with problems paying the bills
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you're going to get a life filled with wondering why you can't ever fucking get anywhere even though
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you get up every motherfucking day and run as hard as you can for 80 of the time but 80 of the time
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doesn't motherfucking cut it i'm not running 80 of the time i'm running 98 of the time and two percent of
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the time i get some motherfucking balance this is why i suggest to people that they build their life
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around their mission because if you want a really truly fulfilling balanced life it should all go
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together it should all roll together it should all fit together and however you see balance however you
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think of balance i can assure you of one thing because i understand that not everybody lives the way i live
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but i'm not here for everybody i'm not here for average motherfuckers nothing i do is for average
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people not the fucking content i put out not the podcast i have not the views i have about this
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country nothing nothing i do is for the average everything i do is to help motherfuckers like you
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become better everything i do is to help people like you become the best motherfucking version of
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themselves that's what i do that's what i'm here for that's what i'm about so don't fucking email me
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your average bullshit because i don't want to hear it and i don't fucking care but i am telling you this
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if you use the term balance and you think that it's an excuse for you to come off your plan
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to deviate from your your grand plan of where you want to be in life and you use that consistently
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you will never fucking get there ever ever ever you'll run you'll run and you'll run some fucking
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more and you will never get off that motherfucking wheel that's what balance will get you you could
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take my word for it or not no offense either way but i'm going to tell you this not one of my friends
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not one of the many billionaires that i know not one of the highly successful multi-millionaires i know
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not anybody who i consider an exceptional human talks about fucking balance in any sort of way
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at all they're all extremists they all work extremely hard they all give extremely hard
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they all earn extremely a whole lot they provide an extremely a large amount of jobs they're fucking
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extremists in every single fucking sense of the term but what do you hear in society oh we gotta you
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that's what that's oh you burn yourself out oh mental health let me tell you something
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motherfuckers my mental health is a hundred times better when i'm focused on my fucking mission
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the real problem with mental health here is that most of you don't have a fucking purpose
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most of you aren't committed to anything and you haven't been committed to anything your whole
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motherfucking lives that's what you have a problem with your mental health for so if you want to fix
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your mental health figure out a big purpose go at it full fucking speed give it everything you
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fucking have day in and day out and fuck everybody who talks about balance and you'll find some
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motherfucking fulfillment there but this idea of sitting on your ass eating fucking doritos and
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watching fucking tv and netflix and shit and calling that balance that ain't it bro that ain't it
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it's gonna ruin your fucking life so what's my goal here what's my take here what's my reason for
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putting this message out because i see a lot of you falling in to the soft-ass narrative that's put down
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by soft-ass people who have never accomplished a motherfucking thing and i don't want that life
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for you so think about it think about balance think about what kind of balance you want do you want
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daily balance or do you want life balance are you going to go all in on whatever it is that you want
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to be or are you going to wash it down the drain by going 80 every motherfucking day and hashtag and
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balance whenever you decide to cut a corner the choice is yours and there's only two of them
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went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a pole fuck a stove counted millions in
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the cold bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case close