331. Q&AF： Battling Depression, Building Systems Inside Your Business & Handling Inherited Money
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Summary
In this episode of Ask the Realist, DJ Johnson joins us to talk about his new podcast, CTEI, and the backlash of cooking a whole fish in front of a hot oven. DJ is a chef, entrepreneur, and podcaster. He's been cooking fish for over 20 years and is one of the funniest people I know.
Transcript
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What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realists, say goodbye
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to the lies, the fakes and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality.
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Guys, today we have Q and AF, that's where you submit questions and I give you the answers.
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Guys, email those questions into askandy at andyfriscilla.com.
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That's where we will select the intelligent questions and answer them, the stupid ones
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CTI is another format of a show that you may or may not have heard before and what that
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And what we do is we throw three headlines up on the screen and then we dissect them
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and we make fun of them and then we make fun of the people who believe them and then we
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And we talk about the fundamental problem, which happens to be always us.
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Then we have real talk and real talk is where I get on and I kind of yell and then, you know,
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people post clips of it and then like 19 and 20 year old kids don't know fucking shit.
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And and then they go on to lose their entire life.
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I'm here for the fucking winners, not the losers.
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So if you think I'm yelling at you and you don't like it, turn a fucking channel.
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Then we have full length, which is I interview badass, successful, kickass, interesting people,
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sometimes people with different perspectives than me.
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And we talk about how they did these badass, crazy things and also how they are just regular
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people like me and you who have worked extremely hard to do really cool shit.
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And then we talk about how you could do it, too.
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OK, guys, if you're new, you get lots of new people every week, every show.
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And the reason that we get lots of new people every show is because of the fee.
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We work entirely off word of mouth because I believe in the value exchange.
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So if I give you value, I ask in return that you share the show.
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OK, and the fee, our little deal that we have going on for eight years now is that that means
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Not if you like don't be one of these people that listens to 400 episodes and be like, yeah,
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I could make literally eight figures on the show easy based off the downloads.
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And I don't do that because I think it's fucking annoying to tune into someone's show and hear
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a third of the show be fucking bullshit ads about shit they probably don't even fucking use.
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OK, so I'm not even going to insult people's intelligence, nor do I want my message to be
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I don't want people fucking telling me what to say or not to say because I don't deal with
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that and I generally tell people to eat shit, which is why I'm fucking entrepreneur, because
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And like all these people around the office been freaking out about the head, bro.
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The backlash of cooking the fish with the whole head or the heat yesterday when we were working
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The sun was definitely oppressing me yesterday.
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They got that harp shit running full blast right now.
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I like the heat, though, because at least we're both oppressed.
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I know that it's still better than the fucking two feet of snow we had to do cardio.
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The truth is, on that workout, I bitched out a little bit.
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We got halfway through, and I'm like, you know what?
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This is going to be 45 minutes, because we already are at halfway of 45 minutes.
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Every time we're out there in that oppressive heat, for real, dude.
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No, it's fucking like that heat is fucking robbing me.
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Because it's like, we now use that, no matter what the fuck's going on outside, we use that
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Every time it sucks, we're like, at least it ain't that one day.
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Bro, that's why it's important for you to push yourself, like real talk, like no joke.
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That's why I talk about and tell you guys why it's so important to put yourself in difficult
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But you got to know that you can do hard shit to do hard shit.
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So how are you going to learn that you can do hard shit if you don't intentionally put
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And it's no different than training in the gym.
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It's no different than learning how to be a good runner or fucking good at anything.
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So like being mentally tough and being able to, those are skills that you develop by putting
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yourself in difficult situations so that when things get difficult, you can look back on
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those things and be like, no, dude, this ain't shit.
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And you push through because, dude, those moments of weakness, they're fucking less than
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They're fucking tiny little conversations that you have that say, like, oh, dude, you know,
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And if we could just get through that five seconds, say, no, shut the fuck up.
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There's literally nothing that we can't do in life.
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That's why I get so fucking pissed off at these fucking people who don't understand the program.
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I think when I reflect on that day, bro, you know, what was the most like what I got the
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Is it because you guys got to understand, right?
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Like I'm with Andy every day and like I, I still see, I see Andy just how you guys see
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He's a badass, the fucking most mentally tough motherfucker.
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Well, half of the people listening think it's bullshit.
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And I think the coolest thing about it was, it's like, I remember as soon as we fucking
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got outside and we're looking around and like, there's nobody fucking out here.
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And we're going and about five minutes in, I start having these thoughts in my head.
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Now, I'm not saying nothing because, again, I'm walking with one of the baddest motherfucker.
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What it was was we were 22 minutes away from here.
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It would have been 45 minutes had we turned around there.
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And then you suggested that we just do the regular thing.
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Because there was a literal foot of snow on the ground.
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But like the coolest thing was just like knowing that like these, these doubts and these thoughts,
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Like that I have is like a person, average Joe, whatever you want to call it.
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But like they're the same thoughts that everybody has.
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I'm just fucking 16 years older than you, whatever the fuck it is.
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Like, bro, you're so much further ahead than I was at fucking 26 in that way.
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So like what you when you just become aware of being able to conquer.
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Now, I'm not talking about having the discipline to press through because that does take a lot of work because these conversations when you're mentally weak are frequent.
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OK, and the stronger you get, they become less and less frequent.
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But you have much less of a chance to fail when those conversations are less frequent.
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This is part of the reason I do intermittent fasting, because my my ability to fuck it up is less.
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So we want to minimize the contact points that we have the opportunity to fuck our lives up to bitch out.
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So when you become mentally tough, like by doing hard things and putting yourself through a program like live hard, which takes a fucking full year commitment.
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OK, but when you do that and you raise the level of your ability to not bitch to fuck out to that bitch voice, now you are actually lessening the chance that you could fail by default because there's less of these conversations because you're conditioned not to talk to yourself that way.
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So, like, it totally changes the trajectory of everything that you do and everything you're capable of once you can just learn this mental toughness.
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And that is the whole point of 75 hard and live hard episode 208.
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But these fucking idiots that look at the fucking thing and they get jealous because it's the most popular program ever fucking made ever.
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And they want to make money and they want to sell their shit.
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You could buy any trainer's fucking program and put it in there.
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So all you stupid motherfuckers that don't know what you're talking about and make yourselves look stupid.
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I just remember all the shit we talked and as soon as we got done, though, we finished the conversation, but I'm glad we did it.
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Man, I'm glad we did that fucking snow workout because it was hot as fuck yesterday, dude.
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But, I mean, like, dude, that's the point, guys, is like you have to invest in your mental toughness and have it at the forefront of your mind all the time because, dude, life is hard.
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Unexpected circumstances arise every day, multiple times a day.
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Tell me one fucking day that goes the way you fucking plan.
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So, you have to learn how to operate within that.
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And, like, dude, to me, it's fucking hilarious how many people, like, these little fucking trainers say, say this shit online.
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And then they get fucking blasted by every single person who's like, no, it fucking changed my life.
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Like, would you get online and say, hey, all you motherfuckers did Iron Man, you're a bunch of pussies.
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This actually kind of ties in with the conversation we just had.
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But question number one says, several times over the years, you've talked about your long struggle with depression.
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You say that you still have difficult days, but you seem to have a stronghold on your depression.
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I've been to counseling, and I'm currently taking medication, which helps, but it's still a constant struggle for me.
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Do you have any advice or insight as to how to manage and overcome this?
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I can't give you advice on that because it's an issue.
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I'm going to tell you what the fuck worked for me, and you can decide if you want to go that route.
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First off, yeah, bro, I do still struggle with it, but it's personal struggle, bro.
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And what I mean by personal is not it's private.
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What I mean is I take it fucking personal, and it pisses me off, and I fucking look at it as the fucking enemy, and I don't let enemies defeat me ever.
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So I take it personal, I get fucking pissed about it, and when I have those days, I make those motherfucking days the days I am the most fucking effective possible.
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It's like me sticking my two middle fingers up to it and be like, fuck you, you can't fuck with me.
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And that comes from the conversation that we had before the first question, when I went on that little spiel about fucking 75 hard.
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Once I started becoming awake to the reality of the pharmaceutical industry,
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I tried to remove as much shit from my life as possible, and I was able to wean myself off.
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But the reason I feel better isn't just because I...
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Because dude, that's a very dangerous thing to do.
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So you need to talk through with the actual doctor to move off if that's where you choose to do.
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I'm not recommending that because there's a lot of problems with that if you just fucking quit and shit.
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So that's why I don't talk about this much because I don't want to give anybody the wrong advice.
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And I manage it now with the things that I talk about in the podcast, which is discipline, purpose, and gratitude.
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And when I'm depressed or I'm in a bad mood, and then also another thing is I quit alcohol completely.
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I never realized it because alcohol was a part of our family's culture.
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Like we come from a fucking family of socializers, right?
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Like in my family, Italian family, you know, it's food and alcohol and good times.
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Like my whole family, that's still how they live.
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I just can't do it because it makes me crazy, okay?
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So what I noticed when I started pulling alcohol out of my life, how much better I felt.
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But then as I would try to go back to alcohol, like let's say like on my birthday, I get fucking hammered or something, right?
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The next three or four days, bro, I was so fucking mentally fucked that it made me like remember why I fucking stopped in the first place and how much better.
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And so now like I've come to a mental understanding of how good it is and how much better I am without that in my life.
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So that is, so it makes it easy to keep out of my life.
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Like I've recognized and learned the lesson because I've tried to go back a few times and then I was aware enough because I had put the time in to earn that awareness.
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That, you know, I could tell, I'm like, dude, this is fucking poison for me.
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I see a lot of people who struggle with depression, dude.
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And dude, the depressive hangover after alcohol is not like the day you're hungover when you have a headache.
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And so like you may drink, you know, Friday, Saturday, Sunday, and then by Tuesday or Wednesday, you feel a normal again, except you feel really low.
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And then Thursday you feel really low and then you're using alcohol again to get back.
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And it's the same thing with any of these recreational drugs with the exception of cannabis that I found, you know, that people do.
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And some people are effectively, are still effective and they're happy and all that.
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Because I still fucking, you know, every once in a while, and this is another thing, even though I know it's bad.
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But the point is like sometimes, but I choose to do it.
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And now I get the value from choosing to do it, from remembering why I don't do it.
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But those times are maybe like, dude, it's, I, I just had my first two beers in over a year.
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So that, if that gives, and I had two beers and I stopped.
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So that was, if that gives you an idea of how frequent that is now.
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And then what I was saying before is the discipline, purpose, and gratitude formula.
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I run, my goal is to complete live hard every single year until I die.
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Uh, the first two years I fucking completed it third year.
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Um, this year I'm going to fucking complete it.
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Um, and, and that's, that's, I run that program at all times in my life.
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Um, and that's why it's called live hard, not fucking two weeks hard, whatever.
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You know, then the other thing is like, if I still feel bad,
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and I'm still having a rough time, I, I, I know now I've learned, I've taught my brain
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to look at those two areas of, of gratitude and purpose.
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If my giving what I can to first form, am I giving what I can on the show?
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I'm, I'm looking, uh, on my other companies, you know, am I giving what I can to supplement
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Am I giving what I can to the guys I invest in, uh, at these other places that they, all
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And the purpose for me, um, is that we serve our customers the best way possible.
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We, we serve our employees the best way possible.
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And then we also, uh, innovate in a way that we do things originally, you know, so that
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I'm here to fucking change lives and other people's lives suffer when I don't show the
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Like, and when I went, you know, so that when I get overwhelmed, it's one of those two things
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that's fucking me up and I can usually fix that.
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So like, there's a lot of work that goes into this to, to, and a lot of awareness that comes
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But unfortunately for those people that do suffer with these things, I really think the
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solution can be found in the formula I just gave if you commit to it, but I can't recommend
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that as some sort of solution, but that's how I manage it.
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So those are all the things I do, uh, to really keep my mind where it needs to be.
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That's where, and you, you, you touched on something real quick, because I think, I think
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The power to turn negativity into like fucking amazing production.
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Like, can you, can you just touch a little bit more on that?
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Like, I mean, yeah, that's tapping into the dark side, bro.
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Like, look, we're all going to have fucking negativity.
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We're all going to have people that fucking have shit to say about us.
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We're all going to have, and by the way, fuck those people.
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And, and, and, um, we're all going to have, you know, difficult fucking relationships
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We're all bro getting humans coordinated together to live in a civilized way, especially
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You're dealing with all different kinds of backgrounds, all different kinds of life perspectives,
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all different kinds of personalities, all different kinds of beliefs that come from
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literal, you know, and I don't use this word as a negative way.
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I'm just telling the truth, indoctrination of generations of thinking in a certain way.
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Like, okay, that's what I'm dealing with when I fucking try to coordinate 400 motherfuckers
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So, um, you're going to have negativity all the time, right?
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And if you don't use negativity, however it's presented, whether it's just things are hard
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or whether someone's attacking you or whether things aren't going your way, um, you know,
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and a lot of times when you think things aren't going your way, you're just being a bitch.
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Uh, but let's just say, um, fucking sometimes, bro, you kind of got to make up stories about
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If you operate this way, like, like for me, I fucking, the worst thing you could do to
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me is fucking attack me, bro, because I'm like the fucking black hole of negative energy
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I focus the beam where it needs to be focused, which is on my own shit.
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And then I just beat you by getting so far ahead.
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So you have to take the negative energy wherever the fuck it comes.
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And then you have to let that click you into a mode of action.
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And you have to then focus the action on the right place and the right, like a lot of
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Amateur motherfuckers getting these little pissing contests.
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The professional fucking dark side operators like myself, they take all that shit and they
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take it in and they get, they take it in little by little by little by little by little by little
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And they get fucking so fucking infuriated and so hungry to fucking show you and shove
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it down your motherfucking throat that they folk.
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They focus it on their own projects and they focus it on their own success and they fucking
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It's I personally, the way I'm wired, that's the most powerful fucking thing I have.
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I've learned over the last decade, maybe five years to a decade to really switch from that
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over to the purpose side of it, because the purpose side of it is definitely I feel healthier
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It's it's more enjoyable because it's positive.
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Uh, but I definitely don't run as hard for that as I do when motherfuckers come at me
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like it's just me and some people love to win and some people hate to lose and I'm a
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And I'm not saying bro, not everybody's like that, but everybody has negativity and you
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have to take a little bit of that from the dark side and say, you know what, motherfucker,
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And that's what, like, when I was saying I get take a personal about depression, that's
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Like you like the depression is creating the negativity.
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And in that case, I'm pointing it right at that.
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I'm going to fucking accomplish every motherfucking thing that I was supposed to do today.
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You are going to have zero fucking effect on my life at all.
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Guys, you won't fucking hear that on the motherfucking talk shows my life.
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I'm starting a business and I was curious about building systems.
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I heard you say in the past that eventually you should work on your business instead of
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What tips or advice do you have for me to get my employees to a point where the company
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can operate at a high level, allowing me to work more on the business instead of being
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That fucking question I could talk about for a week.
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Um, the best thing you could do right now is to, uh, is to apply it to that fucking
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group and get in it because there's tons of motherfuckers in it that can fucking answer
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But my practical advice for right now is, uh, to create the systems that you need to create
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is only part of the problem that you need to solve.
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The other part is you need to define your mission.
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You need to have a set of core values and you put it.
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There's all kinds of these things that have to go in to creating the, the, the answer
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Um, we started our systems on fucking literal pieces of paper that had no lines on it.
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And the reason we use legal pad is so we could go back and see the days before.
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That's how fucking sophisticated our company was on the first day we opened.
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We were so sophisticated on the first day that we opened that we literally used an actual
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And I'm not talking about these fucking POS systems where they fucking have the chip reader
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I'm talking about you fucking put your fingers on the motherfucker and type the price in.
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And you say fucking seven 99 ding and the fucking drawer opens like a place.
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So we were living, this is a, listen, this is why I'm good at what I do because I built
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successful shit in that era and I built real successful shit in this era.
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Um, the systems, most business owners really feel like imposters when it comes to developing
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the systems because there's not really anybody out there that shows you how to do it.
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Um, there's companies that you can pay to consult you to do it, but they're too expensive
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Um, and the truth is you don't want those people anyway, because by hiring this shit
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out, you steal a major lesson that you need to know in business, which is how to identify
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And the only way that you can identify holes in the system is if you build them from fucking
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And so what you need to do is you need to evaluate whatever the fuck you do.
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Whether you're selling something or servicing something or whatever the process is, start
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with what a successful transaction would look like.
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Step to step by step by step by step and write out the conversation exactly how it would happen
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So you could start with with literally having these fake conversations like sales scripts
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And then, you know, as you get better, you'll you'll add little parts off of this.
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So if the person says this, say this, right, says that, say this and you start to learn.
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But here's what you can do better than the sales script and better than anything else to
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bring this process as fast as possible is you can beat it into your motherfucking employee's
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head because it's the fucking truth that if they just solve these motherfuckers problems
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the best way possible, the business will grow and we'll have more transactions.
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If you can get everybody on your team to buy into the idea that the more they help people,
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the more money the business will bring in, that will speed up the process tremendously because
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When you solve people's fucking problems, they tell people about it.
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When you go above and beyond, they tell people about it.
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And really, it's the only way they continue to grow after the fucking new has worn off
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OK, so you have to be the real motherfucking deal.
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And the only way to get to become the real motherfucking deal is by starting from writing
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out what you think ideal is and then teaching your people to simultaneously just do the right
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If you teach them those two things from the start, now you're off and running and you
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We're to the point now where, you know, bro, our systems are pretty fucking custom built.
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You know, we got, but dude, some of our shit is still in Excel.
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Um, so there's no right or wrong way to build these systems out, but you have to have them
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if you're going to scale and you should start now and you should do it yourself because it'll
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teach you the process, which then makes you better at standing in front of people and
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teaching the fucking process, which you're going to have to do a gazillion times if you're
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All right, guys, our third and final question, Andy, question number three, uh, within the
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next year, I will inherit a little over a million dollars worth of real estate.
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I'm 34 currently, uh, have a normal job and I'm not the best when it comes to money.
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What steps can I take to make sure I don't fuck this up and squander it all?
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When you don't know what to do, do nothing until you know what to do.
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Don't change fucking anything until you understand clearly what you want to do.
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The best thing to do when you don't know what to do is to not do anything until you know
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It sounds so fucking simple, but it is that simple.
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People think that because big changes come or certain situations happen that they must react
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Uh, sometimes you need to give yourself however long it takes.
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Um, real estate, they're only making so much of it.
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Uh, there's always going to be a limited supply.
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So it's a safe way just to fucking let it sit there until you know what the fuck to do
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Like we're fucking like the, the, the, the athletes, the pro athletes, right?
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I'm not going to sit here and tell, yeah, I'm not going to tell someone, you know, where
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Like, I don't fucking know anything about you, bro.
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Like, I don't know if this is the best thing that's ever going to happen to you, or I don't
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know if this is the seed that's going to turn you into the next fucking Elon Musk.
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You got a million dollars worth of real estate and they only make so much fucking real estate.
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And if you don't know what to fucking do with that real estate, don't change shit
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Where, when you, when you started like, like when your finances really started going up
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Andy, like, did you, did it change how you had to handle the people around you?
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Like, I think there was a, there's a quote in the song I like.
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It says, you know, the money changed the people around me faster than it changed me.
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Do you have any like, like words of advice on that?
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I mean, dude, look, people look at you completely different.
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Um, you know, I, I don't have high expectations of people.
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Um, I've been taking care of myself essentially since I was fucking probably 10 years old.
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Do my own laundry fucking, you know, do like, I don't know, maybe 12.
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I don't know, but like pretty early on I was doing my own shit and, um, I'm cool, like
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So like, you know, I don't expect a lot from other people.
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Um, so like, I'm still cool with like people that I was cool with 20 years ago or fucking
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Um, but like, because I'm low maintenance, I don't put a lot into other relationships,
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which makes people think that I'm a dick and it's, that's not the truth.
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And that's a, that's a thing I've tried to work on as like a friend that I've not been
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Um, but yeah, dude, I mean, that probably has more to do with it than like me becoming
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But you know, that, so that's kind of a me problem.
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Um, but you know, yeah, people look at you different, but I mean, I mean, it's not fucking
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Like it's better to be that way than it is before.
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Um, you know, like these motherfuckers make these rap songs about how everybody's fucking,
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Like, so like, you know, I think people generally have too high of expectations of other people
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And when really it's, you're going to get what the fuck you get.
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So like, you know, um, if you're an over giver and you're above the line of what most people
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give, you're going to constantly feel disappointed.
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I mean, so like, dude, I don't put like, I don't expect like, dude, bro, like you have
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Like, like, like out there in the fucking real world, bro, people fucking like be mean
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Like, I, it's just like, dude, you guys don't have enough to worry about or something enough
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Like the shit that normal people get mad about.
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I don't give a fuck about, you know what I'm saying?
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Like, bro, if you guys all got together tonight and fucking drank beer and didn't call me,
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But my point is, is that fucking, you know, I, I just feel like people let shit bother
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And it causes a tremendous amount of anxiety and frustration in their lives.
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Um, and I just think that's because the expectations are too high.
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I'm cool with whoever like, bro, Hawk Newsome come on the show.
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That's just, that's just, no, dude, we're cool.
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Um, the, uh, but the point is, is that, you know, I just feel like everybody, I think
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that could solve a lot of problems for people if they would just realize the reality again,
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Like you can't get mad about every little fucking thing.
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Like not every little fucking thing is some sort of personal insult to you, you know,
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like, Oh, my feelings got, this is why I don't get offended.
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You're that fucking ignorant to say this or that.
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And, and so like, I just see things for what the fuck they are, bro.
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Um, but yeah, you're going to have people that try to like take from you or leverage you or
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fucking threaten you, you know, and, and treat like there's those kinds of things too, but
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still, again, um, those things are easy to handle when you're intelligent and you have
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to be intelligent to get the money in the first place.
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And like, it's hard for like dumb motherfuckers to try and fucking hurt you.
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I just, I think a lot of people make too big of a deal out of it.
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You know, like, Oh, these dudes are used to like me, but now they hate on me because
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Like what you talk, did they really, are you making it up?
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Because the truth of the matter is, bro, is that most of the fucking hater shit is ourselves.
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It's ourselves making up fucking dialogue or stories about what people might say that
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we don't know if they ever actually really said.
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And then we tell ourselves that they feel a way that we don't know they feel.
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So like, if you become aware of that, you know, I, I, I don't know.
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I, I think it's awesome to be a wealthy dude versus not being a wealthy dude.
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So that's at the end of the day, that's how I feel.
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Like, so like these people are like, Oh, I don't.
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And not only that, the fucking friends that you had back then are still going to be cool
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Because it thins the herd and you've got a fucking smaller circle.
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Dude, a smaller, better, higher quality friend circle beats a fucking Mr. Popularity all fucking
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So I think it's, you know, and then the cool thing is though, is when you get to a certain
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place, you make these newer friends, um, they have more in common with you.
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You're able to work together and build together.
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So this idea of like, you know, oh, it's success is such a lonely place.
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That's always people who are either not successful and they're just saying the shit, right.
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As an excuse, or it's people who are in the middle of those two spots and they haven't
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figured out yet that they're in what I call no man's land.
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And that's the place between where you were and where you're going to go.
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And you will go through those periods two or three times in your life.
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If you keep going, because you'll outgrow your circle, um, because your interests will
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It is just, it's just a different fucking way of life.
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Um, once you go through that a little bit, they have the same mission and drive and goals
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that you have, and they become your new circle.
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And then your new circle helps you build and you go on from there.
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So the only people that ever really say, Oh, it's fucking lonely at the top are motherfuckers
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Or motherfuckers who are in between the first phase from where they started to the next
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Because what everybody realizes eventually is that it's not lonely at the top.
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The people, when, when I hear that shit, I'm like, I look at them and I'm like, all right,
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And if, if he's built some, some stuff already, you know, I, I assume he's just in that place
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Um, but if it's someone who hasn't done shit, it's always an excuse.