REAL AF with Andy Frisella - August 03, 2022


349. Q&AF： Overcoming Procrastination, Struggling Employee & Transitioning From Manager To Owner


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Q and AAF is a podcast about the ridiculousness of the headlines and how we can fix them. It s a cultural leveling up for all of us, and the only way to do that is to get better.

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00:00:00.000 What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realists, say goodbye
00:00:20.860 to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking
00:00:25.680 reality guys. Today we have Q and AF, that's where you submit the Q's and I give you the
00:00:31.460 AF's. If you don't know, if you're not familiar with the show, if it's your first time listening,
00:00:36.660 we have many different formats on the show. Like I said, today is Q and AF. Sometimes you
00:00:42.320 will tune in and it will be CTI. That stands for cruise the internet. That's where we put
00:00:47.600 up the headlines of the day and we talk about how ridiculous they are. We make fun of them
00:00:53.220 and then we deduce any truth that may be contained in said headline. And then we talk about what
00:01:00.660 the problem is and how we're going to fix it. And that's how Q and AF and CTI are sort of
00:01:05.600 the peanut butter and jelly of the show. Okay. Because whatever problems there are in the
00:01:10.080 world, the only solution is a cultural leveling up for all of us. Okay. That means we have
00:01:18.540 to get better, which means you have to get better. It means I have to get better. It means personal
00:01:22.320 excellence is the only cure. So we tie those together. Then sometimes we're going to have
00:01:26.880 real talk and real talk is where I come in and I give you five to 20 minutes or so of
00:01:31.720 a little speech, usually designed to kick myself in the ass or it's something that I realized 0.75
00:01:37.700 along this path that I've been on for a long time that helped me a lot that I see you guys
00:01:42.900 missing on. All right. I cut straight to the shit. I don't fuck around. Sometimes you like
00:01:48.040 it. Sometimes you don't, but you have to remember I'm doing it to help you. I'm trying to make
00:01:53.200 you better. If you can't understand that, go listen to someone else. Then we have full
00:01:57.020 length guest. That's where I bring on a successful, interesting people. Sometimes they have different
00:02:03.060 viewpoints of me. We have conversations. Most of the time we talk about how they got to be
00:02:08.160 who it is. They are that you feel compelled to listen to them. And we break down how you can
00:02:14.260 become the same as them. All right. Because we all live in this great lie, which is, uh,
00:02:20.840 there's some sort of success fairy that comes around and picks and chooses who gets to be
00:02:25.580 successful and who doesn't. When in reality, it's all a result of our actions that we take
00:02:32.280 over long periods of time. You do the right actions and you do it long enough. Good things
00:02:37.720 fucking happen. That's really the whole show. That's really the whole entire library of everything
00:02:43.220 I've ever done. If you do good shit and you do it long enough, good things happen.
00:02:49.420 Learn along the way, fuck up, make mistakes, correct those mistakes and keep fucking moving.
00:02:54.760 If you do what I just said in the last 15 seconds, you cannot fucking lose. But if you're someone
00:03:01.200 that is a glutton for punishment and you want to learn as much as you can, and you want to laugh
00:03:06.100 and hear me make fun of all kinds of different people for all kinds of different things and, uh,
00:03:11.080 be entertained. You can continue to listen to the show, but at the end that 15 seconds is really it.
00:03:16.580 All right. So with that being said, there is a fee for the show. The fee is very simple. Tell
00:03:22.820 someone, okay, we don't run ads on this show. I can make eight figures running ads on this show.
00:03:27.600 I don't run ads on the show. All right. I don't run ads for the show. The show is an experiment to show
00:03:34.440 you that when you do good, good things happen. This show has been a top ranked podcast for literally
00:03:41.940 almost a decade straight. I don't know of any other show outside Rogan that's done that.
00:03:47.880 Okay. The way we've done it, we've never run an ad. We never run, we never took ad dollars.
00:03:53.620 The way we did it was we came in here, we tried to help people and enough people honored the fee
00:03:59.520 and the show grows. So that's what the fee's about. Okay. It's about helping us get the message out
00:04:04.340 there. I'm comfortable operating on that system because I feel like I give you guys the real
00:04:10.200 shit. So if you think so too, please share the show. With that being said, what's up? Hey,
00:04:16.840 how's it going? Good, man. How was the weekend? Good, good, good. Hello children. Yeah. I saw you
00:04:21.440 went to a wedding. How was that? Yeah. I went to a wedding, man. It was cool. Looked good. We have
00:04:25.660 good weather for it. Yeah. No, it was great. Not 4,000 degrees like it has been the rest of the
00:04:31.480 summer. Yeah. No, it was good, man. It's interesting because we're planning for our
00:04:36.600 wedding. And so we've been to two or three of them now so far recently. And it's always,
00:04:43.540 it's been interesting because I kind of see what's going on. I'm like, all right, yeah,
00:04:47.200 we ain't doing that shit. You know what I'm saying? I'm like, we're not doing that shit. Oh,
00:04:51.040 that's pretty cool. Yeah. We're not doing that. You know what I'm saying? It's interesting,
00:04:54.120 but it's hard to like actually enjoy it because I'm being so like critical, I guess. I don't know.
00:04:58.520 I don't know. I guess it's weird. No, you're analyzing, trying to figure out, but see, dude,
00:05:02.440 that's the whole thing with weddings anyway. Like people spend their whole time trying to plan this
00:05:06.740 fucking perfect shit. First of all, it never goes perfect. Yeah. Okay. It's a highly stressful,
00:05:11.840 super expensive fucking scam. If you ask me, okay. What really matters is the, the, the actual
00:05:18.500 marriage. Yeah. Okay. And, uh, picking someone that you can live with and all these other things
00:05:24.720 that they tell you it's about, it's really about that shit. Yeah. You know what I mean? Like,
00:05:27.900 no, that's real. You know, not enough people, not enough people really, uh, think about that
00:05:34.200 beforehand. You know, they're in such a hurry. They want that big day to happen for them. I feel
00:05:38.840 like a lot of people, you know, get married for the sake of getting married because it's like
00:05:43.740 the time in their life where they're supposed to get married expected. Yeah. Yeah. And then I also
00:05:48.620 feel like, you know, there's this different cultural change that has happened in society where
00:05:53.320 like people who, you know, like when I was growing up, man, like you were taught to find someone you
00:06:01.780 could build with, like to find someone you could build a life with. Yeah. You know what I'm saying?
00:06:06.240 Not already be established. Yeah. And it's, it's dude. I feel like the culture, especially with,
00:06:11.940 uh, with women. Yeah. And this is why they, this is why there seems to be such a shortage of men
00:06:17.120 because there is a, there's a low percentage of financially successful, well-off men. Right.
00:06:22.740 Yeah. Um, that's the nature of it. Uh, which it shouldn't be, by the way, that's a product of
00:06:29.460 the fucking tyranny that we live in. If we lived in an actual free society, there'd be a lot more
00:06:33.500 success, but that's a story for another time. But my point is actually it's a story for all the
00:06:39.560 other times. Uh, but my point is, is that, you know, it used to be build a, marry someone,
00:06:46.140 build a life. And now it's like, marry someone, you know, who's got their shit going on. Right.
00:06:52.400 And it's like, bro, that's like, you're kind of missing out on a lot of like the real important
00:06:58.080 shit that bonds people, bro. Like, like, I must say, cause then you wonder why your grandparents
00:07:01.900 should have been married for 50 years. Cause they've been through some fucking difficult shit together.
00:07:05.820 You know? And like, it's just, I think culture would do itself a favor by getting back to that
00:07:11.560 idea of like, Hey, uh, you know, find someone you can bill with, not find someone who's, who's
00:07:18.120 where you want to be. And you're just going to latch on. That's going to make you feel that's
00:07:22.120 going to make you feel unfulfilled. And, and, uh, you know, people aren't going to be, you're not
00:07:26.400 going to be happy with that long-term because you didn't, that wasn't your, you have nothing
00:07:31.220 invested. Yeah. And, and like, bro, you have to like, this is a, this is a, the older I get,
00:07:36.280 the more I realized that this is a self actualization journey. And if you never really
00:07:41.540 extract the good shit that we all have inside of us, this is aside from the relationship marriage
00:07:47.800 conversation. But if you never like explore your own true potential and like, try to like
00:07:54.300 see where you, where you could contribute and pour into something worthy and all of these things,
00:08:00.580 you're going to feel very empty all the time, you know? And it's hard to know that. Like,
00:08:04.900 I couldn't know that when I was 30 years old, like, fuck dude. Like I, I, I mean, this is just
00:08:10.660 something I'm starting to realize. And I've had a lot of experience, bro. Like I'm kind of like
00:08:15.420 a 70 year old dude and like a, and a 40 year old dude body, you know what I'm saying? Well,
00:08:19.040 I got like a 25, but let's be real. Like in my, my, I've lived a lot longer of life in the amount
00:08:26.540 of time I've been alive. And, you know, so I don't know if this realization, maybe it doesn't
00:08:32.120 happen for people until they're already like in their 50s, 60s or 70s for other people. But I know
00:08:38.280 for me, man, the more and more I push through this life and the more struggles that I face and the more
00:08:44.020 I overcome, the more I realize is that all that good shit that like you really draw upon and what
00:08:50.800 you're proud of, that happens from overcoming the hard shit that, that happens from, you know,
00:08:57.160 being willing to explore your own true potential and squeeze the juice out and, and, and not being
00:09:03.700 afraid that there's no juice. You know what I'm saying? Most people never even fucking squeeze
00:09:07.260 because they don't think there's any juice in there. And in reality, bro, you don't know what
00:09:11.820 the fuck you got in there until you squeeze on it. You know what I'm saying? And like, people don't
00:09:15.740 think about it like that anymore. And I wish, you know, the young people that listen to this show,
00:09:20.140 you guys hear us joke and you hear us fuck around and make fun of shit. But at the end of the day, 0.63
00:09:25.600 man, you know, I hope you take the, I hope you could delineate the shit that I say that I'm
00:09:30.400 being sarcastic and the things I'm saying serious. Like what I'm telling you right now
00:09:35.240 is very serious. Like if you're 22 years old, you're listening to this show, bro, you, you must
00:09:41.640 get on the path of becoming and discovering what your skills are, building skills, building something
00:09:47.580 that you're proud of, committing to something like trying things. Like you have to go do those things
00:09:53.440 and you have to like, see what the fuck is in there because dude, every single one of us has
00:09:58.000 something in there, but most people just never squeeze it out because they don't want to fall on
00:10:02.400 their face and look stupid in front of their friends. On top of the fact that our true potential
00:10:06.540 is always being suppressed. Well, it's not, it's yeah, bro. And not only that you can't, but see,
00:10:11.860 the problem is people don't realize that you could never actually get to your true potential
00:10:16.180 because your true potential is always expanding because if you're fucking going along the line, 0.93
00:10:21.400 right. And you're working hard and you fall on your fucking face, like something bad happens. 0.84
00:10:26.460 You learn a really hard lesson. Well, when you get back up and you choose to keep moving,
00:10:30.860 you take the lesson that you just learned and you put that in your tool belt. Right. Okay. And by just
00:10:35.980 having that lesson in your tool belt that you could fall back on and learn now, now your potential
00:10:41.440 has expanded on the back end. Right. So like, as you get skills, your potential will expand.
00:10:48.140 So that's why I say it's about pursuing your own true potential because no matter how good you
00:10:53.540 fucking get, there's still more that you could do. Like Jeff Bezos, bro, that guy could accomplish
00:10:58.680 so much more, uh, and truly solving the world because of the journey that he's been on. Yeah. You
00:11:05.680 understand now, whether or not he chooses to continue to do that, some people get tired along the way.
00:11:10.880 Like, you know, that man is, you know, whether you love him or hate him, I, no different to me,
00:11:15.580 I guarantee you worked his fucking ass off. And he might just say, fuck it. I'm going to
00:11:19.500 fucking live some life. And that's okay too. But the point is, is that you have to be aware
00:11:24.640 that you will never actually get there. All right. And that's where people get frustrated and hung up
00:11:31.380 at. They want to get there. You're never going to get there. If you just decide that you're going to
00:11:39.220 enjoy the journey and you're going to appreciate the good times and the bad times because they both
00:11:45.380 teach you things and that, you know, tomorrow when the sun comes up, you're going to get the
00:11:49.480 fuck up and keep going. That's a place where you can find true fulfillment because you, you understand
00:11:56.000 the expectations of what's reality. If you, if you're constantly living and you're constantly
00:12:00.880 thinking, I'm going to get there, I'm going to get there, I'm going to get there, I'm going to get,
00:12:03.840 you're never going to get there. Yeah. Never going to get there, bro. I mean, think about
00:12:07.080 how demoralizing that issue. That's right. At the time of death, it's like, damn, I never even
00:12:10.800 fucking. Yeah. And it refuses to allow us to appreciate what we have learned and what we
00:12:16.380 have been through. And it's, you know, a lot of people confuse, bro, listen, I've won every
00:12:20.800 material fucking prize you can win. Like there's not a motherfucking thing on this earth. I couldn't
00:12:25.460 do financially, not a fucking thing. Yeah. Okay. That ain't where it is now. Is that cool? Yeah.
00:12:32.460 Because I get to have a lot of fun and I love, I love to, I mean, bro, it's a lot better than
00:12:36.480 being fucking broke. Okay. Uh, I get to do good things for other people that I wouldn't normally
00:12:40.820 do. I don't have to worry about the same shit, but now I worry about like even more important
00:12:45.240 shit because like now it's not about me, it's about everybody else. And think about that moral
00:12:49.540 burden that you start to think about. You know what I'm saying? So the point is, is that there's
00:12:55.080 going to be resistance, whatever path you take. If you take the path of just being a loser
00:12:59.600 and not doing shit with your life, your life is going to fucking suck. And that's going 0.96
00:13:03.180 to be the price that you pay. But if you take the path of, you know, self-actualization
00:13:07.780 and understanding what your purpose is and moving towards that every day, that's going
00:13:11.560 to be hard on the front end because you've got to do a lot of work and you know, you're
00:13:15.120 going to trip and fall. You're going to get embarrassed. Sometimes you're going to get
00:13:17.980 hurt. Sometimes you're going to go through dark times. But the point is, is that your life
00:13:22.600 will actually become, um, easier by the terms that other people look at easy, hard by just
00:13:29.020 accepting that it's going to be this path. Yeah. So, you know, cause they're both fucking
00:13:34.120 hard. Yeah. It's choose your heart, bro. I've been like you, that's a common meme, right?
00:13:38.460 I'm the fucking first motherfucker to say that back in 2000 fucking 12. I have, I got still
00:13:43.460 got the fucking graphic I made of it. Yeah. Okay. It says being broke is hard. Being successful
00:13:48.700 is hard. Being broke is hard. Choose your heart. I thought it up in like three fucking
00:13:52.880 seconds. Now it's like out there, like, you know, whatever, dude. And that's fine. Cause
00:13:57.180 the message usually gets out. I'm just saying, I said it first, motherfucker. So the point
00:14:02.420 is, is that dude, you young guys, and even you guys who are 30 or 35, you're still so fucking 0.99
00:14:08.420 young, bro. I'm young. Okay. You, and you can stay young, take care of your shit. All right.
00:14:16.160 It's just like a new car, bro. Take care of that motherfucker. It looked good 50 years
00:14:19.520 from now. Um, and that's coming from someone who abused the fuck out of their body, dude
00:14:24.320 for a long time, bro. I was 350 fucking pounds. Like there's redemption to be had if you're
00:14:29.340 willing to do the work. But my point is, is for you guys who are, who are out there and
00:14:33.620 you're like, you know, you're at the beginning of your journey, fucking bro, fucking go. 0.99
00:14:39.600 Don't fucking hide. Don't fucking, you know, don't be, uh, be a person that does good shit.
00:14:46.680 Be a person that builds people up, be a person that makes people better and, and fucking go
00:14:51.920 after whatever that juice might be inside. Because dude, that shit, like you, you struggling
00:14:56.520 to find that will be being, that will be the shit you're most proud of in life. Most people
00:15:02.080 aren't willing to do that work. I love it. I love it. Well, it is Q and a though. We got
00:15:08.440 some questions. Uh, and guys, remember these are your questions. Okay. Uh, you guys, uh,
00:15:12.880 can email your questions into ask Andy at Andy for seller.com. They can be about anything. Um,
00:15:17.880 Andy gets no heads up on these questions. It's straight, raw, authentic. Yeah.
00:15:21.800 Raw dog, raw dog, raw dog is some questions just like I raw dog headlines too. Right, right,
00:15:27.680 right. Uh, so let's get into it, man. Andy question number one. It's like I raw dog that air
00:15:32.420 when everybody else wouldn't. Yeah. No shit. Raw dog and air, bro.
00:15:38.440 That's the next thing to be, be coined 10 years. They're about to bring this shit back
00:15:42.720 again. I'm going to try. Holy shit. I'm still going to be raw dog in the air.
00:15:48.440 Raw dog for life. Oh man. Uh, Andy question number one. Here's the truth. Here's a, here's
00:15:55.640 a rule about real AF. Take 50% of what I say and throw it out the fucking window. 0.83
00:15:59.880 Oh fuck. Raw dog in the air. Yeah. It's a good one. All right, let's go. All right. So, uh,
00:16:10.680 put your game face on. Yeah. Fucking around DJ. Yeah. Come on. Fuck. Yes. I had the fuckers.
00:16:16.660 Um, so question number one, Andy, what have you found to be the best way to attack and overcome
00:16:23.660 procrastination specifically coming from the waiting for the right time, waiting for perfection
00:16:29.100 versus just being lazy? Like what have you learned the best way to attack procrastination?
00:16:33.460 Look, dude. Uh, well, first of all, there's two answers there. One, I, I call this a production
00:16:40.500 pivot. This is a hack I use to get me to move. All right. And he's talking about the, this is
00:16:45.520 about the lazy part of it. Cause most people suffer from the lazy part of it. Um, they lie
00:16:49.580 and tell themselves as the other part. Yeah, for sure. I just don't know how I want to attack
00:16:54.180 it. Yeah. All right. First of all, motherfucker go after that path, whatever the fuck that is,
00:16:59.460 just go because what you're going to learn, even if it doesn't work out is going to help
00:17:03.480 you get where you want to go. So don't the waiting for the right time. That's a fucking
00:17:07.640 bullshit thing. Okay. Uh, you went, once you get into a higher level of business, you know,
00:17:12.560 you're doing hundreds of millions of dollars. Uh, there's some strategy like a chessboard,
00:17:17.800 how you're going to want to move. You're probably not there yet. And you will understand that when
00:17:22.980 you get there. Okay. But right now what you have to understand is you have a lot of skills that you
00:17:30.360 need to learn and the way you're going to learn and the way you're going to get better is you're
00:17:34.440 going to go after these crazy fucking ideas that you think need to be happening within whatever it 0.93
00:17:38.900 is you're working on. Okay. So that's the first thing. So for, for the sake of the fucking lesson
00:17:44.180 and the tool that you're going to gain from doing it, I would go down that path as hard as possible.
00:17:48.600 And now, because your competitors competition is a real thing, bro. It is real. Like people want to
00:17:55.700 say, Oh, there's enough for everybody. There is enough for everybody. But if you want to like
00:17:59.640 get ahead on an innovative idea or things like that, what I'm thinking about, you have to move fast.
00:18:05.780 You have to be fucking quick. Um, so I would go for those reasons alone. Now the tool I use for
00:18:13.320 this, and I use this in small actions and large actions. So, you know, small actions being, I came
00:18:20.580 home from work and I sat on the couch and I wanted to be a fat piece of shit. Right. Um, and I thought
00:18:26.820 to myself, uh, and big actions being like what we just talked about. I want to move, uh, down this
00:18:33.520 concept or down this project. I'm not sure when the right time is the fucking time is now. Okay.
00:18:39.480 In both those scenarios, this hack will work. Um, and what I do is the second I catch myself and
00:18:45.940 become aware, cause really what this is, is a game of awareness. Soon as I come aware of that thought
00:18:51.360 that I'm being lazy as fuck, like laying on the couch or whatever. And I'm like, I've that internal,
00:18:57.020 the, the internal dialogue kicks in. Right. Uh, the, the boss voice that we all have in us. Um,
00:19:04.840 so man, you're being fucking lazy. All right. That I get up right then and I put my shoes on.
00:19:09.380 I take action immediately. Like I don't wait for three or four more things. Uh, I don't wait for,
00:19:15.980 you know, I don't have a conversation. I don't negotiate with that. Right. I fucking obey that.
00:19:20.980 All right. And that's a huge thing. It's called a production pivot. So you take the fucking
00:19:25.360 negative thought and then you, it comes in your head, you process it and it comes out of your
00:19:29.460 body into a productive action. This can be used when, when, uh, like people hate on you shit like
00:19:35.580 that. Like one of the best things for me is for people to fucking hate on me because I'm able to
00:19:40.860 absorb the negativity and it makes me better. I just go out the other end fucking sprinting. So,
00:19:46.440 you know, um, and, and, you know, those kinds of little tricks will, will make you extremely
00:19:54.820 powerful in terms of what you produce. Okay. Cause the bad times and the negativity,
00:19:59.740 it's always going to fucking be there. If you, especially if you look for it and especially
00:20:03.440 if you get down the road, if you're going to be in business for fucking 25, 30, fucking 40 years, 0.92
00:20:08.640 bro, there's going to be some situations where you fucked up. There's going to be some situations 0.93
00:20:12.940 where people don't like you. There's going to be, those things are going to be part of it.
00:20:16.280 And you're going to have to get used to people for no other reason. Sometimes attacking you just
00:20:20.520 because you're fucking you. Okay. And what you do in those scenarios, you got to take that energy 0.78
00:20:26.000 and you have to make it work. And you can use that in the beginning of your business too.
00:20:30.140 But the point is, is that the production pivot is a negative thought in positive action out
00:20:35.660 medium, immediately negative thought in positive action out. Okay. That tool, that tool will make
00:20:45.180 your fucking life. If you just learn one motherfucking thing from this entire fucking
00:20:50.000 library of episodes, which is over 600, the MFCO project and real AF, if you fucking take that tool 0.91
00:20:57.720 and use it, you'll, you'll, you'll, this would be the greatest thing you ever fucking list to your 0.95
00:21:01.700 life. That's a fact. So that's how to do that. That's real. Uh, moving on, Andy, question number two,
00:21:08.960 uh, I have an employee who has been struggling in her duties, uh, duties that she was once great
00:21:15.320 at. She's a good worker, but her consistency is all over the place. We have sat her down and
00:21:20.340 discussed several times how we need her to turn things around. It doesn't seem to get better.
00:21:24.980 Um, or if it does, it isn't for long. How would you deal with this situation?
00:21:30.140 Well, I mean, you know, how I would deal with it, it, it depends. It also depends on who it is.
00:21:38.060 Like if this is some dude, there's so much nuance in this question because you know, if you're
00:21:43.740 working with someone who's 15 years in your company and this is just like an odd time,
00:21:49.300 that's clear. You clearly know something else is going on. Some external variables. Yeah. So like
00:21:53.600 you were going to be friends with this person, you know, I, in that scenario, I would have an
00:21:57.980 honest, Hey, what's going on, dude? Like I could tell something's going on real conversations, bro.
00:22:03.080 Real, real fucking conversations fix everything. Yeah. Um, you know, uh, if it's someone newer,
00:22:10.540 you know, you might not know that person. You might want to make them understand like,
00:22:15.120 this is not the fucking standard that we operate at. And you know, sometimes you're going to lose
00:22:19.120 some of those people. They're not going to like you very much. Right. But you can't accept standard
00:22:23.340 less than that. And if you don't know them, that might be a, this might be a chance where
00:22:27.340 you get to know them. But I personally look at life as sort of like, uh, deposits and
00:22:35.040 withdrawals. Okay. And a lot of people don't see it this way. Like this is why cancel culture
00:22:40.380 is such a fucking thing. Like people wait for somebody to make one or two or five fuck
00:22:45.520 ups out of the what gazillion fucking at bats that they've had. Right. Right. And then they
00:22:50.760 want to ruin their lives. Yeah, dude. And that's just not a way that I don't think that's
00:22:55.460 good. And I don't believe in cancel culture from the left or the right or in any which
00:22:59.280 way. I think it's wrong. I think people make mistakes. I think people fuck up. Um, and I
00:23:05.340 think if they make enough mistakes and enough fuck up, people won't buy from them. And that's
00:23:08.580 the reality of what happens. So, you know, I think it, you know, I look at, and maybe this
00:23:14.320 will help you with, with like somebody you're dealing with. And this is how I, I like to explain
00:23:19.300 how I think, not just like what I think. Yeah. Um, so I, I tend to look at someone's
00:23:25.460 deposits and then someone's withdrawals. And if someone's made 15 years of fucking great
00:23:31.320 deposits and they make one withdrawal, that's something that should be taken into consideration
00:23:36.400 in my opinion. Um, if they've only been here three months and they've only made the deposit
00:23:42.220 of working here, then they don't get to make as many withdrawals from that account because
00:23:46.280 they're in enough balance. Right. So I try to think of like, you know, forgiveness and grace
00:23:51.560 and second chances that there's no set rule for me. It's, I sort of examine it in that
00:23:57.960 mindset. And that's something that, uh, I learned from Ed Milet actually. He's the one that kind
00:24:02.580 of taught me how to see people like that. And once someone starts making more withdrawals
00:24:07.620 and they do deposits, you know, that's when you go start to move somewhere else.
00:24:10.720 You know, you got to close that account.
00:24:11.680 Yeah, for sure. It's going to cost you too much. So I just thought that was a, such a
00:24:16.020 powerful way to look at things. And instead of like trying to provide this person with,
00:24:21.620 cause I don't know the details that I would need to know to answer that. Um, maybe, maybe
00:24:25.800 that's just how they should maybe think about it like that. See what you come up with.
00:24:29.320 Yeah. I like to look at someone. I like to look at someone's good things. Uh, when they
00:24:34.580 fuck up, I like to consider all the good things they did before I have some sort of response
00:24:39.120 to the fuck up. Yeah. You see what I'm saying? And, and dude, you know, that's something
00:24:43.500 I've learned. This is not like, I'm, I'm fucking, uh, you know, I've been in business 23 fucking
00:24:49.780 years, bro. I wasn't always that way. You know what I'm saying? Like I used to see things
00:24:53.920 black and white. Uh, I used to see things a lot harder, you know, like there's, there's
00:24:59.260 it's an evolution in thinking, you know what I mean? And, and so like, that's how I try to
00:25:04.440 look at it now. And I think if everybody did that with everybody in society, this cancel
00:25:09.840 culture shit would stop. You know what I mean? Like businesses, everything. Yeah. Yeah.
00:25:14.040 It's, it's, it's fucking bullshit. And this is why, you know, so many great people like,
00:25:20.340 bro, there's only like, you think of, think of like the amount of entrepreneur, real fucking 0.92
00:25:29.160 entrepreneur. I'm talking about motherfuckers that have built real shit. Okay. I'm not
00:25:34.600 talking about professional fucking entrepreneurship coaches. I'm not fucking talking about that.
00:25:38.760 I'm talking about motherfuckers that when you drive down the road and you see the companies
00:25:42.980 that were built, do you, you understand none of those people are on the internet. None of
00:25:48.760 those people are on social media. Hold on. I'm a fucking rarity. Like I'm willing to show
00:25:55.560 people and teach and share these motherfuckers don't because society is so unforgiving towards
00:26:02.720 things like that, that they're just like, you know what? Fuck y'all. And they take their money
00:26:06.380 and go fucking live their life. And that's why we don't have more of those people stepping
00:26:10.660 in and helping in this scenario is going on right now. So if people really want a better
00:26:14.880 society, we need to like be more graceful with each other in terms of, is this person contributing
00:26:21.380 more good or, or how is this looking instead of just this fucking shit that we've had for 0.93
00:26:27.860 the last 15 years, you know? And most, and like, dude, a lot of people are happy now because
00:26:32.200 the cancel culture has switched over to the right. The opposite way. Yeah. But like, bro,
00:26:36.240 that's no good either. Like, just because you have the numbers now, you should think about
00:26:41.000 the behavior of that kind of things. Like, that's not like, I'm not a big believer in just
00:26:46.040 because that guy does it makes it okay for me to do too. If I don't think it's right.
00:26:50.000 Right. And like, bro, like where the fuck is that in America? Yeah. I mean, there's a universal
00:26:54.060 karmic response in that as well. Fuck yeah. I mean, look, man, people are asking people to
00:26:58.880 understand quantum physics when they can't understand how to fucking, you know, be kind 0.85
00:27:03.100 to each other. That's real. So like start with just being cool, dude. Like maybe understanding
00:27:08.280 that like that person that you're piling on or that fucking company that you're piling 0.99
00:27:12.900 on or whatever it is, you know, what have they done good? You know what I'm saying?
00:27:18.040 Or, or like when you're in a personal situation like this person, yeah, she's had a bad three
00:27:23.920 months, but she had a fucking amazing 10 years before that. So what's going on? You know what
00:27:30.480 I'm saying? Now, if it was bad three months and she only had fucking three months on the 1.00
00:27:33.980 front, that's a different way to look at it. Right. Right. But I think just the overall
00:27:38.640 adoption of a mentality of, of, of deposits versus withdrawals, I think it's a healthy
00:27:44.160 way to really like, you know, to, to a fair way. I mean, I think it's fair. Yeah. I don't
00:27:50.640 know, man. I wish I look in a big scheme of things, the podcast, you know, how many people
00:27:57.440 are going to change the way that they, I don't fucking know, but it starts with one. That's
00:28:00.620 the truth. That's how I look at it. So when you guys see me, like when, when one of my
00:28:06.540 friends does something silly or they make a mistake and I don't fucking pile on, first 0.94
00:28:10.660 of all, they're my fucking friend. Second of all, uh, I know they're going to learn and
00:28:14.700 they're going to press forward and fucking make way more deposits off of that withdrawal
00:28:19.540 that they, you know what I'm saying? Yeah. Yeah. I don't know. But for this woman's case,
00:28:24.520 you know, I, I, that's how I would look at it. And, and, and for all of you guys who are
00:28:27.960 managers, that's how I would look at it.
00:28:31.720 Uh, moving on to question number three, uh, kind of flows right from that actually. So question
00:28:36.160 number three is, uh, Andy, what should I watch out for and be considerate of when moving
00:28:42.660 from running the business and doing all the work myself to being more of the owner leader
00:28:47.040 and bringing people in to do the jobs? Right. So in that managerial role, like what things
00:28:51.000 did you have to take away that you had to let go? Maybe it wasn't, it wasn't about letting
00:28:56.380 go. It's, it's not about that. People think it's like this egotistical, I don't want to
00:29:02.540 let go. No motherfucker. I would love to let go. I would fucking love to let go. Okay.
00:29:07.860 But the problem is, and this is for most CEOs, uh, or owners who are at this place in time
00:29:14.480 is that that you have to become an, you have to become so fucking detail oriented and so 0.96
00:29:22.980 particular about how things have to be done perfectly. And that has to be like embedded
00:29:29.260 into your culture because the natural, uh, diminishing return, you know, at your level,
00:29:35.720 let's say you, and this is something about, this is really a leadership lesson. This is
00:29:39.500 why you motherfuckers that don't fucking actually lead and you pretend to lead don't get anywhere. 0.99
00:29:45.220 Okay. Because what you are, your next level people will be 95% of that. Okay. But the next
00:29:52.100 level people after that, they'll only be like 80% of that. Okay. And then the next level,
00:29:57.280 they're like 50. So you have to understand that like your attention and your skillset and your
00:30:03.020 standards and your things will naturally be diluted like a game of telephone, no matter how
00:30:08.380 fucking good you are. So the thing that you have to do is you have to become a great educator
00:30:14.640 and a great inspire of high standards. All right. Meaning if you think that you're going to pull off
00:30:22.540 of the fucking company and you're going to go out and play golf, your company is going to get
00:30:27.220 fucking beat, bro. Just the way it is. If you become a tremendous educator and you can get people
00:30:33.620 to see an inspirer because like, dude, motivation is like reward from the external inspiring is like
00:30:41.040 convincing someone to do it, you know? And so you, you teach them how, I think this is the biggest
00:30:48.580 thing that people miss people, CEOs, leaders, managers, anybody who's trying to get people to
00:30:55.080 do something, they forget to explain why it matters to the person. Okay. So they're like,
00:31:02.560 if you can't tie together why they need to do X into their own personal development and success,
00:31:11.520 you're never going to be able to create any kind of standard that matters. Okay. So you have to,
00:31:18.000 it's becoming aware of all sorts of different little, um, indicators. Like is this person purpose
00:31:27.240 driven? Are they monetarily driven? Are they both like, you have to understand what they need? Are
00:31:32.500 they fulfillment driven or they, you know, what, why are they here? What do they show up to work to do?
00:31:37.700 What are they passionate about? And you have to figure those things out and you have to invest
00:31:42.100 in the actual systems of the company that reward, because dude, the truth is very few people at a
00:31:50.440 young age right now are money motivated. Okay. So you have to build purpose around that to get people
00:31:57.700 to row the fucking boat. Okay. And that's shit. And the best kind of purpose is a real purpose.
00:32:03.660 One that's genuine that everyone knows is genuine. Okay. So like, bro, the, the, the way everything
00:32:10.940 is built is built towards the proper intent of your customer. If you build a system inside your
00:32:18.600 company that it's intent is to serve the customer the best way possible, you're going to hit way more
00:32:24.120 than you miss. All right. And you're going to have people inspired to do so because they can clearly
00:32:28.980 see that we, that whatever it is you do is genuinely there to solve a certain problem and whatever that
00:32:36.220 fucking problem is, uh, you need to make it real for your employees. Yeah. Right. So, um,
00:32:43.560 basically man, like the bottom line is, is you have to become an excellent educator. You have to become
00:32:49.820 a good inspirer of mission. All right. And, uh, you know, the operation part, you know, your,
00:32:57.940 your systems be solid and all those things. That's all part of it. Do we go into depth in this shit
00:33:02.740 and Arte syndicate? This is what the fuck we do in there. Okay. We start and it goes way deeper than
00:33:07.060 this, but you have to build your systems in a way that when your employees behave with the proper
00:33:14.220 intent, they get rewarded for the proper, in the proper way. Yeah. According to what they want to
00:33:20.920 the intent. Yeah. Yeah. Yes. And like, bro, this is like, we're talking, this is like, you know,
00:33:25.660 this is not day one shit I'm talking about, but the point of the matter is, is that what you have to do
00:33:34.460 is you have to get people who are willing to solve whatever the fuck it is that you do in your
00:33:40.460 business. Cause that's what your business does. It solves problems because they want to solve
00:33:44.140 these problems the best way possible. And if you get that, you won't have any problems about
00:33:48.700 stepping away and fucking going over here. It's not about trust. It's not about like, 0.59
00:33:52.740 will people steal? Yeah. Motherfuckers are going to steal. Okay. There's going to be people that come 1.00
00:33:56.820 in your company that are going to fucking do fucked up shit. You cannot stop that. You know what I'm
00:34:01.900 saying? But what you can do is define the intent of your entire operation and inspire people and teach
00:34:09.120 them why operating with that proper intent actually helps build their lives too, which is
00:34:14.080 exactly how it fucking works. Yeah. So man, this was a fucking loaded episode, man. I loved it.
00:34:20.060 Yeah. Well, I mean, we're pretty good. Look, man, I've been doing this a long time. You know what I'm
00:34:27.680 saying? Like, dude, I try to that diminishing of standards of leadership, but I've never heard
00:34:33.840 it explained like that. Well, that's how it works. Like that's how it works. Yeah. I mean, that's the
00:34:39.460 reality of how it works. So you have to be the top two levels of leadership have to be so fucking
00:34:47.320 spot on all the time that it sets the entire standard for the rest of the company all the
00:34:51.960 fucking time. Yeah. You know, and, and, and dude, it's real simple. If you're in that third tier and
00:34:57.040 you want to get in that second tier fucking operate, live like that, you'll get noticed 0.94
00:35:02.940 and then you'll get sucked up into it. That's how it fucking works, man. So, you know, people
00:35:08.440 are like, why, why are you out here in the fucking rain doing cardio, bro? I'm like, because
00:35:13.280 I got a fucking standard to set, dude. You know what I'm saying? Like I would much rather
00:35:17.560 be sitting at home and my fucking historic compound, you know what I'm saying? Chilling 0.91
00:35:23.700 like I would much rather be doing that. Well, actually I wouldn't, I actually like doing
00:35:28.580 it because I know no one else is willing to do it, but that's my own ego. But the truth
00:35:33.280 of the matter is like, fuck dude, I don't have to be doing any of this shit. It's, it's, it's
00:35:38.460 about pride, dude. I realized that my, my voice carries power. My fucking eyeballs on me
00:35:45.040 carry power. I do the best that I fucking can because I know that it fucking matters.
00:35:49.980 You see what I'm saying? Like, do I make every fucking right move? No. Do I make mistakes?
00:35:55.720 Yes, absolutely. But when I make them, I try to fucking learn right away and adjust and
00:35:59.500 get better immediately. And you know why I do that? Because other people are fucking
00:36:04.680 watching me, dude. You know how many young fucking entrepreneurs watch everything I fucking
00:36:09.140 do? And like, like even the ones that don't follow me because they think I'm competitor
00:36:13.520 or whatever, like, bro, I get it. You know, I'm just trying to operate at a standard that
00:36:18.820 I think is appropriate for the next generations coming down the pipe. That's real. You know, 0.51
00:36:24.020 and winning and having all the other cool shit and letting them know it's okay with that
00:36:28.200 too. Cause that shit is pretty fun. Does that make sense? So 100% I've just never heard
00:36:34.520 it. I just felt like, I feel like if other, I feel like if other people took that responsibility
00:36:38.120 serious, like that's when we talk about personal excellence is the ultimate rebellion. I feel
00:36:43.240 like if men, like if all men just said, fuck it, dude, I'm going to go all in on my own
00:36:48.760 life and live the best fucking shit that I can. The world of America will flip around
00:36:52.860 immediately. Yeah. It would just, it would, it would take a fucking year, bro. I think
00:36:57.260 it's just an awareness thing, man. You know what I'm saying? Like I don't know. We've, we've,
00:37:00.700 we've lost the idea of living to honor our previous generations that have gifted us with
00:37:06.520 this opportunity, dude. Like I haven't dude, I come from a generation where I feel obligated
00:37:12.000 to that still. Yeah. Like I'm not saying that I'm fucking the best fucking example of American,
00:37:17.920 but I do my best at the most that I can do it. I try really fucking hard. Yeah. I take
00:37:24.920 it serious. Like, I, I mean, dude, if we, if we could all just get on that page a little
00:37:29.600 bit, the world would be a much better place, man. You know, that's, that's all I'm trying
00:37:34.500 to do, dude. Yeah. I'm not trying to be a guy who just comes on the show and fucking
00:37:38.080 runs his fucking mouth. I mean, I'm good at that, but I would like to be someone that,
00:37:42.960 you know, lives what the fuck he says. I try to do that. Yeah. You know? And if one person
00:37:49.540 fucking can learn from that and take it. Cool. That's it. Yeah. That dude could be the dude
00:37:53.980 to change the world. That could be the girl to change the world. That's it, man. That's real.
00:37:59.600 Well, guys, Andy, that is three. Go pay the fee. Guys, I appreciate you. Love you. Talk
00:38:04.840 to you next time.