38. Real Talkļ¼ Everything Is A Test
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Summary
In this episode of The Realists, Andy Frisella talks about how to overcome your taco bell demons and become a better version of yourself by changing your perspective on the things that are holding you back from being the best version of you.
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told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living
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spoke it till existence mold changed to 50 got mold cost than did it i only weigh 180 but my
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watch cost 250 what's up guys it's andy frisella and this is the show for the realists say goodbye
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to the lies the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys
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today we've got a real talk episode but before i get into that i'd like to remind you of the fee
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the fee is just very simple if you like the show if it makes you ponder if it makes you readjust if
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it makes you better which is what the point of all of this is i'd ask that you share the show
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give us a little share please leave us a review on itunes please share with your friends and uh get
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the word out because dude realists make the world better and that's the truth uh and speaking of
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realists um i have a story for you guys i want to share uh this morning i was working out with one
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of my good buddies and uh he is working real hard to get himself into shape and he's making incredible
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progress i'm super proud of him we started talking and he was explaining to me how uh he was cursing
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the taco bell gods all right let me explain to you the taco bell gods are the fast food gods
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when you are a big dude like i was a big dude i'm still a big dude but i'm talking like
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a big dude when i was like 350 it is very hard to resist the temptations of the taco bell gods
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okay this is no joke this is not a laughing matter driving past taco bell when you're a big boy
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all you big boys know what i'm talking about that shit takes power it takes resistance
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you guys have to understand that this is no joke and that the serious of this matter
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is serious okay now when i was talking to my buddy we were having this talk he said you know
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my fiance is pregnant and she asked me to go to taco bell drive through and i said babe
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i said i can't i can't do it this is hard it's hard for me which i understand because
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this was one of my biggest demons and biggest faults for years and years and years
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until i figured something out and that's what i want to share with you guys today i want to share
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with you the little shift in perspective that you can have to help conquer your taco bell devil
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whatever that may be right we all have things that control us we all have things that are hard for us
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to resist some of us those things are cookies some of us those things are taco bell some of us those
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things are other things like drugs or alcohol or other more dangerous things okay even worse than
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that okay we all have temptations but what i want to talk to you guys about today is how to see those
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temptations and overcome them effectively on a consistent basis so back to my story okay he was
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venting to me that you know this is a hard thing for him to continue to stick to a nutrition plan and
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lift and do all these things and have to you know help his fiancee with some of her pregnancy cravings
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and some of the things that she wants to do which is you know that's everybody's choice about how they
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want to feed themselves and sometimes we want a little snacky snack and that's just reality
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but i said to him something real simple i said hey bro i said let me show you how i defeated these
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things and it's very simple it's a very simple concept okay because for years and years and years
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dude i used to blame my wife right like she baked cookies she's a good chef she does all these cookbooks
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and all this amazing stuff and i used to get real mad and say wait why are you making this stuff
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why are you making all these cookies and snacks and cakes and cookbooks and all this shit when i'm sitting
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here struggling with my weight dude like i'm a food addict it is hard for me to not be a big old boy
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okay so i used to get real mad at her and i'd resent her for doing all this but then i had a perspective
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and this is where my life changed it really did it really changed in all areas when i changed this
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perspective and the way that i started to look at her cooking is i started to see her cooking
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and putting all these wonderful things to eat out in front of me as a challenge and i started to
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instead of seeing it as something that she was doing that was making it harder on me i instead chose to
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see it as something that i could pass as a test i could improve my mental toughness i could improve
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my discipline i could become mentally stronger by not putting that cookie in my mouth by not
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eating whatever it is that she has set out by not going through the taco bell drive-thru and ordering
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anything for myself which is exactly what i told my buddy i said hey man i said why don't you look at it
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like this why don't you look at it like when you drive through the taco bell and you don't order
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anything or you drive through mcdonald's and you don't eat a french fry as a mental victory and a and
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and deposit that into your mental bank of being mentally strong all right this is the key to you
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not being a slave to all these outside elements that detract from you trying to be whatever it is
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you're trying to be whatever your goal is see it's real easy for us as people to put the blame on other
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people or their decisions or how they impact you but at the end of the day this is our responsibility
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responsibility and so when you take control and take responsibility for yourself completely
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and start to understand that you don't have to eat that cookie and you don't have to get yourself
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something when you go through the drive-thru and you don't have to eat what your kids are eating and
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you don't have to do any of these things and you are actually free to make other choices and not only are
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you free to make other choices it's actually something that can help build you by resisting
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the temptation that's in front of your face okay and this is a point that a lot of people spend their
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whole lives trying to get to it's a place they try to get to i can remember what it was like to not be
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able to walk past a cooler full of beer without grabbing one i can remember what it's like to literally
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not be able to go out to eat because i felt like i had not enough discipline to not order the delicious
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food that i really wanted to order as opposed to the food that fit my program i can remember what it
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was like to feel resentful towards my friends and my family for not supporting my goals but the truth is
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is that it wasn't that they weren't supporting my goals it was that they were living their life
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and my ego expected them to all realign to support my priorities which isn't right and it's not okay
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a lot of you guys complain and complain and complain about people not supporting you and it's not that
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they don't support you it's that that you have a heightened sense of self-importance and you think
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that everybody else should live the way that you want them to live when in reality if people want
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to eat taco bell and cookies and make fucking wonderful shit and that brings them happy they
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should be able to do that so what are we actually talking about here what we're talking about is
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identifying our own lack of discipline and dealing with it so that we no longer have these problems
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where we can't go to a restaurant or we can't go to a barbecue or we can't go to a social function
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because we don't lack the discipline to stick to what our plan is and you can apply this concept
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to any area of your life and guys it's important that you realize why you need to have this shift in
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perspective because the biggest challenges and obstacles that we all face won't be won or lost
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over other people or outside influences they are won and lost amongst ourselves that's what we're
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talking about here what we're talking about isn't defeating taco bell or defeating the cookie or
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defeating the beer we're talking about defeating ourselves in a good way it's not always good to
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defeat yourself sometimes it is and when your bitch voice is starting to push you into a place
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where you are going off track on whatever it is your goal it could be financial it could be fitness it could
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be spiritual it could be relationship it could be any different area of life when you start to find
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yourself getting off track the reason you're getting off track the reason you're getting off track is
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not based around the outside circumstances that you blame it's based around your own weakness that
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you're not willing to take accountability for all right and another perspective that i want you to
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consider is this a lot of you guys train your muscles a lot of you guys will spend hours a day on
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emails you'll dedicate hours upon hours upon hours to all of these different areas of your life you'll go
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to counseling you'll go see a therapist you'll go to the gym you'll do your you know work you'll do all
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these things that you need to do but you won't put the practice in on a day-by-day basis to increase your
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ability of mental toughness to build that bank account okay so instead of looking at all these
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outside factors as something that is going to beat you start realizing that the only motherfucking
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thing that beats you is you the only thing that could stop you is you blaming you on a fucking
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taco bell run or a cookie or somebody else doing something that it is that they're doing is really
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truly weak as fuck that's the bottom line and a lot of you guys haven't figured that out yet
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it's not them it's not the commercial on tv it's not the smell when you drive past the restaurant
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it's none of that shit it's your own fucking weakness and your own unwillingness to address
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the problem that is ultimately going to make your life that much better when you build this mental
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toughness by looking at every little thing as a test of your will and your fortitude and your ability
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to do what you say you're going to do even if it's as small as resisting the donut in the conference
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room on monday morning that everybody else is happy stuffing their fucking faces with when you start to
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realize that that's an investment in your ability to make the correct choices your life is going to get
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better there is no question so instead of blaming all these other outside things instead of seeing
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them as temptations instead of seeing them as something that has power over you realize that you
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have all the power you have all the say you have all the decision making ability and that motherfucking
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cookie has no fucking power over you until you give it some that's the bottom line here and if you guys
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start to look at these mental victories as a point and a place to improve instead of a point and a place to
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whine and cry and fucking fail your life is going to start to become exactly what you wish it to be
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and that's my message for today everything is a test everything as an opportunity if you allow it to be
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if you want to be a victim you'll be a fucking victim but i'm going to tell you the difference
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between where you are right now and where you want to be is the difference between you seeing these
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little things as an opportunity to get better or as a crush and a temptation that holds you back
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it's your decision and it makes no fucking difference to me which one you choose but if you truly want it
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if you truly want what you say you want start practicing this method everything's an opportunity
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to resist everything's an opportunity to win i can tell you right now there is fucking nothing
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on this planet that fucking has power over me nothing and i'm going to tell you what on top of
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that you have not experienced one ounce of freedom in your fucking life until you get to that point i can
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go anywhere anytime any place i can travel anywhere i want to go and my shit my world is my fucking world
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and the reason it is is because i conquered this piece of me