REAL AF with Andy Frisella - May 21, 2020


38. Real Talkļ¼š Everything Is A Test


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14 minutes

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2,305

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1

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Misogyny

4

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In this episode of The Realists, Andy Frisella talks about how to overcome your taco bell demons and become a better version of yourself by changing your perspective on the things that are holding you back from being the best version of you.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living 1.00
00:00:04.680 spoke it till existence mold changed to 50 got mold cost than did it i only weigh 180 but my
00:00:11.520 watch cost 250 what's up guys it's andy frisella and this is the show for the realists say goodbye
00:00:17.560 to the lies the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys
00:00:23.620 today we've got a real talk episode but before i get into that i'd like to remind you of the fee
00:00:28.560 the fee is just very simple if you like the show if it makes you ponder if it makes you readjust if
00:00:33.700 it makes you better which is what the point of all of this is i'd ask that you share the show
00:00:41.180 give us a little share please leave us a review on itunes please share with your friends and uh get
00:00:48.540 the word out because dude realists make the world better and that's the truth uh and speaking of
00:00:54.780 realists um i have a story for you guys i want to share uh this morning i was working out with one
00:01:03.680 of my good buddies and uh he is working real hard to get himself into shape and he's making incredible
00:01:10.440 progress i'm super proud of him we started talking and he was explaining to me how uh he was cursing
00:01:18.720 the taco bell gods all right let me explain to you the taco bell gods are the fast food gods
00:01:23.220 when you are a big dude like i was a big dude i'm still a big dude but i'm talking like
00:01:30.720 a big dude when i was like 350 it is very hard to resist the temptations of the taco bell gods
00:01:42.720 okay this is no joke this is not a laughing matter driving past taco bell when you're a big boy
00:01:49.660 all you big boys know what i'm talking about that shit takes power it takes resistance 0.87
00:01:56.380 you guys have to understand that this is no joke and that the serious of this matter
00:02:04.400 is serious okay now when i was talking to my buddy we were having this talk he said you know
00:02:14.480 my fiance is pregnant and she asked me to go to taco bell drive through and i said babe
00:02:20.740 i said i can't i can't do it this is hard it's hard for me which i understand because
00:02:27.960 this was one of my biggest demons and biggest faults for years and years and years
00:02:34.900 until i figured something out and that's what i want to share with you guys today i want to share
00:02:42.540 with you the little shift in perspective that you can have to help conquer your taco bell devil
00:02:52.180 whatever that may be right we all have things that control us we all have things that are hard for us
00:02:59.960 to resist some of us those things are cookies some of us those things are taco bell some of us those
00:03:08.820 things are other things like drugs or alcohol or other more dangerous things okay even worse than
00:03:15.400 that okay we all have temptations but what i want to talk to you guys about today is how to see those
00:03:25.440 temptations and overcome them effectively on a consistent basis so back to my story okay he was
00:03:34.260 venting to me that you know this is a hard thing for him to continue to stick to a nutrition plan and
00:03:40.700 lift and do all these things and have to you know help his fiancee with some of her pregnancy cravings
00:03:47.840 and some of the things that she wants to do which is you know that's everybody's choice about how they 0.89
00:03:52.800 want to feed themselves and sometimes we want a little snacky snack and that's just reality
00:03:57.180 but i said to him something real simple i said hey bro i said let me show you how i defeated these
00:04:04.060 things and it's very simple it's a very simple concept okay because for years and years and years
00:04:12.280 dude i used to blame my wife right like she baked cookies she's a good chef she does all these cookbooks 1.00
00:04:19.760 and all this amazing stuff and i used to get real mad and say wait why are you making this stuff
00:04:26.220 why are you making all these cookies and snacks and cakes and cookbooks and all this shit when i'm sitting 0.93
00:04:32.480 here struggling with my weight dude like i'm a food addict it is hard for me to not be a big old boy
00:04:38.380 okay so i used to get real mad at her and i'd resent her for doing all this but then i had a perspective
00:04:47.720 and this is where my life changed it really did it really changed in all areas when i changed this
00:04:53.060 perspective and the way that i started to look at her cooking is i started to see her cooking
00:05:02.340 and putting all these wonderful things to eat out in front of me as a challenge and i started to
00:05:09.800 instead of seeing it as something that she was doing that was making it harder on me i instead chose to
00:05:17.260 see it as something that i could pass as a test i could improve my mental toughness i could improve
00:05:25.880 my discipline i could become mentally stronger by not putting that cookie in my mouth by not
00:05:33.900 eating whatever it is that she has set out by not going through the taco bell drive-thru and ordering
00:05:41.140 anything for myself which is exactly what i told my buddy i said hey man i said why don't you look at it
00:05:46.520 like this why don't you look at it like when you drive through the taco bell and you don't order
00:05:53.520 anything or you drive through mcdonald's and you don't eat a french fry as a mental victory and a and
00:06:01.220 and deposit that into your mental bank of being mentally strong all right this is the key to you
00:06:10.080 not being a slave to all these outside elements that detract from you trying to be whatever it is
00:06:19.120 you're trying to be whatever your goal is see it's real easy for us as people to put the blame on other
00:06:25.720 people or their decisions or how they impact you but at the end of the day this is our responsibility
00:06:33.140 responsibility and so when you take control and take responsibility for yourself completely
00:06:40.340 and start to understand that you don't have to eat that cookie and you don't have to get yourself
00:06:47.320 something when you go through the drive-thru and you don't have to eat what your kids are eating and
00:06:52.640 you don't have to do any of these things and you are actually free to make other choices and not only are
00:06:59.100 you free to make other choices it's actually something that can help build you by resisting
00:07:06.980 the temptation that's in front of your face okay and this is a point that a lot of people spend their
00:07:13.060 whole lives trying to get to it's a place they try to get to i can remember what it was like to not be
00:07:21.220 able to walk past a cooler full of beer without grabbing one i can remember what it's like to literally
00:07:27.140 not be able to go out to eat because i felt like i had not enough discipline to not order the delicious
00:07:35.120 food that i really wanted to order as opposed to the food that fit my program i can remember what it
00:07:41.500 was like to feel resentful towards my friends and my family for not supporting my goals but the truth is
00:07:51.380 is that it wasn't that they weren't supporting my goals it was that they were living their life
00:07:57.320 and my ego expected them to all realign to support my priorities which isn't right and it's not okay
00:08:06.500 a lot of you guys complain and complain and complain about people not supporting you and it's not that
00:08:12.840 they don't support you it's that that you have a heightened sense of self-importance and you think
00:08:19.180 that everybody else should live the way that you want them to live when in reality if people want
00:08:25.040 to eat taco bell and cookies and make fucking wonderful shit and that brings them happy they 0.70
00:08:29.400 should be able to do that so what are we actually talking about here what we're talking about is
00:08:34.700 identifying our own lack of discipline and dealing with it so that we no longer have these problems
00:08:42.980 where we can't go to a restaurant or we can't go to a barbecue or we can't go to a social function
00:08:49.560 because we don't lack the discipline to stick to what our plan is and you can apply this concept
00:08:55.660 to any area of your life and guys it's important that you realize why you need to have this shift in
00:09:04.640 perspective because the biggest challenges and obstacles that we all face won't be won or lost
00:09:13.160 over other people or outside influences they are won and lost amongst ourselves that's what we're
00:09:22.040 talking about here what we're talking about isn't defeating taco bell or defeating the cookie or
00:09:28.840 defeating the beer we're talking about defeating ourselves in a good way it's not always good to
00:09:35.000 defeat yourself sometimes it is and when your bitch voice is starting to push you into a place 1.00
00:09:42.380 where you are going off track on whatever it is your goal it could be financial it could be fitness it could
00:09:48.680 be spiritual it could be relationship it could be any different area of life when you start to find
00:09:54.960 yourself getting off track the reason you're getting off track the reason you're getting off track is
00:09:58.340 not based around the outside circumstances that you blame it's based around your own weakness that
00:10:05.200 you're not willing to take accountability for all right and another perspective that i want you to
00:10:10.860 consider is this a lot of you guys train your muscles a lot of you guys will spend hours a day on
00:10:17.960 emails you'll dedicate hours upon hours upon hours to all of these different areas of your life you'll go
00:10:25.980 to counseling you'll go see a therapist you'll go to the gym you'll do your you know work you'll do all
00:10:33.920 these things that you need to do but you won't put the practice in on a day-by-day basis to increase your
00:10:40.460 ability of mental toughness to build that bank account okay so instead of looking at all these
00:10:47.720 outside factors as something that is going to beat you start realizing that the only motherfucking 0.80
00:10:55.400 thing that beats you is you the only thing that could stop you is you blaming you on a fucking 0.96
00:11:03.680 taco bell run or a cookie or somebody else doing something that it is that they're doing is really
00:11:09.960 truly weak as fuck that's the bottom line and a lot of you guys haven't figured that out yet
00:11:17.420 it's not them it's not the commercial on tv it's not the smell when you drive past the restaurant
00:11:25.060 it's none of that shit it's your own fucking weakness and your own unwillingness to address 0.94
00:11:30.320 the problem that is ultimately going to make your life that much better when you build this mental
00:11:37.340 toughness by looking at every little thing as a test of your will and your fortitude and your ability
00:11:45.140 to do what you say you're going to do even if it's as small as resisting the donut in the conference
00:11:53.240 room on monday morning that everybody else is happy stuffing their fucking faces with when you start to 0.98
00:12:00.360 realize that that's an investment in your ability to make the correct choices your life is going to get
00:12:07.940 better there is no question so instead of blaming all these other outside things instead of seeing
00:12:16.400 them as temptations instead of seeing them as something that has power over you realize that you
00:12:23.820 have all the power you have all the say you have all the decision making ability and that motherfucking 0.90
00:12:33.300 cookie has no fucking power over you until you give it some that's the bottom line here and if you guys 0.88
00:12:42.320 start to look at these mental victories as a point and a place to improve instead of a point and a place to
00:12:50.880 whine and cry and fucking fail your life is going to start to become exactly what you wish it to be 0.97
00:12:57.040 and that's my message for today everything is a test everything as an opportunity if you allow it to be
00:13:07.060 if you want to be a victim you'll be a fucking victim but i'm going to tell you the difference 0.99
00:13:13.740 between where you are right now and where you want to be is the difference between you seeing these
00:13:20.660 little things as an opportunity to get better or as a crush and a temptation that holds you back
00:13:27.440 it's your decision and it makes no fucking difference to me which one you choose but if you truly want it 0.83
00:13:37.260 if you truly want what you say you want start practicing this method everything's an opportunity
00:13:47.100 to resist everything's an opportunity to win i can tell you right now there is fucking nothing 0.96
00:13:53.680 on this planet that fucking has power over me nothing and i'm going to tell you what on top of 0.96
00:14:00.800 that you have not experienced one ounce of freedom in your fucking life until you get to that point i can 0.96
00:14:07.360 go anywhere anytime any place i can travel anywhere i want to go and my shit my world is my fucking world 0.99
00:14:14.480 and the reason it is is because i conquered this piece of me
00:14:18.020 and it's something i hope you all do as well