REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 37. The Hidden Coach That Lies Within All Of Us

00:00:00.000 told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living 1.00

00:00:04.700 spoke it till existence mo changed to 50 got mo cost than did i only weigh 180 but my watch 0.99

00:00:11.760 cost 250 what's up guys it's andy frisella and this is the show for the realists say goodbye 0.98

00:00:17.840 to the lies the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys 0.81

00:00:24.460 today we have a real talk um i gotta give my team some props here all right because this is how this 0.92

00:00:31.280 goes down i wake up and i say hey we need a podcast and my man madot and my man joe they show up here

00:00:43.660 on a saturday at one o'clock in the afternoon to rip off a podcast and dude these guys are hungry

00:00:49.860 they're ready to kick ass and win and dude i gotta tell you i gotta give you guys some props man they're 0.78

00:00:54.200 both sitting here shaking their heads at me you can't see them or hear them but man i appreciate 0.68

00:00:58.380 you guys you guys uh it's fun to be a part of a team that wants to win and uh and anyway that's

00:01:04.640 that dude it was just on my mind i want to give you guys some public props so thank you guys and

00:01:08.740 you guys asking what the difference in the show is and why it sounds so much better it's because we got

00:01:13.600 my man joe who knows exactly what the fuck's up making it sound right for you guys so uh show him 0.83

00:01:20.760 some love on his social media which is joseph young stl all right and follow my man and we're 0.98

00:01:27.240 going to do some great shit and also follow madot which is uh what's your what's your social bro 0.92

00:01:33.120 long live madot you change it we had something else for a while what was that groovy scarface all right 0.99

00:01:41.080 but it's long live madot all right and that's m-i-d-m-i-d-h-a-t okay just like mid hat all right

00:01:48.720 so anyway uh with that being said give these dudes a follow you know check out what they're doing

00:01:55.260 they're doing some fun stuff joe does some really cool stuff on uh on his beats and his sounds that

00:02:00.600 he's getting you guys showing you guys kind of the process and madot is showing you guys all kinds

00:02:05.700 of you know graphics and cool stuff that we're doing there plus you know he's got a decent sense

00:02:11.140 of humor sometimes so he's all right but anyway guys uh with that being said look we do have the

00:02:17.300 fee you know the fee the fee is if we do a good job if we if we help you learn if we make you think

00:02:24.500 if we make you laugh if we make you feel better if we give you a new perspective that helps you out

00:02:28.680 with certain problem you might be having give us a share give us a like get write us a review on itunes

00:02:35.280 uh share with your friends all right we don't do this for money in fact we invest a whole lot of

00:02:40.520 money to do this and we do this to give back to you guys and i do have a awesome tip slash nugget slash

00:02:48.760 idea that absolutely is going to change how you do things today all right so this morning i was working

00:02:58.280 out and i was i've had a shoulder injury that has been really nagging and uh you know all you guys out

00:03:04.460 there who are going to message me and say hey this this this this look i'm on top of it man i've been

00:03:08.440 training for a long time i appreciate all your help but uh but that's not the point the point is is

00:03:13.220 i'm in there training and usually lately i've been training with dj and today i train on my own

00:03:18.700 and when i train on my own i notice something that i do that is not fucking normal and that is like 0.94

00:03:27.060 i literally scream at myself while i'm working out and so what i i want to do is is kind of explain

00:03:35.340 this process mentally for you guys so you guys could understand how to put it into play for you

00:03:40.540 in any area of your life all right and that's called self-coaching all right a lot of people

00:03:45.720 and a lot of you guys are always constantly looking for a coach or a mentor or a guide and

00:03:52.660 that's great that is great because dude coaches help especially if they are experienced coaches 0.93

00:03:59.620 dude i have guys i would call quote unquote coaches about all kinds of shit now i don't we you know 0.88

00:04:06.580 they're not my quote unquote paid coach but they're friends of mine and you know like when it comes to 0.94

00:04:13.800 business they might ask me some shit and i kind of coach them and when it comes to things that they 0.79

00:04:18.600 are more experienced in uh i ask them and so everybody's got people and there's nothing there's 0.92

00:04:25.020 no shame in having guides and coaches and mentors but the one that's going to make the biggest difference

00:04:31.120 for you is your self-coaching all right because you can't have your coach there 24 hours a day

00:04:37.600 it's not realistic for anybody even the most elite athletes in the world don't have access to someone 0.97

00:04:44.880 just following them around saying hey do your shit all right that has to be us that's our 0.91

00:04:50.340 responsibility now how i do this like in the weight room is for example and i'm not going to sit here 0.99

00:04:58.900 like some of these dudes online they like to make you think that they're bulletproof and they like to

00:05:02.920 make you think that uh that you know they never have weak thoughts but the truth is everybody has weak

00:05:09.240 thoughts and everybody wants to quit everybody you guys probably have this perception that there's 0.98

00:05:16.620 certain people out there that are just fucking animals and never even have the urge to quit 0.96

00:05:22.200 and i feel like that's quite the opposite if we're being totally honest totally honest i think the people 0.99

00:05:31.620 who you think are the biggest fucking animals are actually the ones that want to quit the most 0.96

00:05:36.000 and i think the reason that they don't quit is because they finally tuned their self-coaching 0.99

00:05:42.080 i know that's the case for me now there might be some motherfucking savages out there that just never 0.98

00:05:48.020 ever feel the inkling and maybe they're further down the road than me i don't know but i can only talk 0.94

00:05:54.320 for me and i think my life speaks a pretty good story for winning all right just i'm not trying to say

00:06:01.580 that to brag i'm saying that just to be honest i think i set a good example for a lot of you guys

00:06:07.020 who are younger who are trying to build something and uh wanting to build something real and whether

00:06:13.080 that be your business or your body or your relationship or your friendships i feel very solid

00:06:18.940 in all of those areas of my life uh and i'm proud of that but i want to tell you how that this happened

00:06:25.360 for me and how i kind of put it all together and and it really comes down to me finally tuning my

00:06:32.320 internal voice and my self-coaching now if you follow 75 hard and you listen to my content regarding 0.85

00:06:39.280 that you know i talk a lot about the bitch voice and the boss voice all right all of us no matter how 0.99

00:06:46.280 badass you are have this inside of us we all have the bitch voice that's the voice that tells us hey man 1.00

00:06:54.880 you're fucking tired hey man you're hurt a little bit you should rest hey man you're worn down you 1.00

00:07:01.900 need a break hey man you know what those emails can wait for tomorrow hey man you know what that 1.00

00:07:08.120 meeting you're in charge you could you could cancel that meeting hey man you've got five more calls left

00:07:13.960 today and really what you want to do is go drink a beer you know what it's okay to drink a beer and 0.98

00:07:18.820 reward yourself that's the bitch voice all right we've all we all have it and and it usually kicks in 1.00

00:07:24.860 when we're working out about three quarters of the way through the set or the workout right we get 0.97

00:07:31.320 that urge where we're like ah i'm getting tired i don't feel it and dude i'm using the workout because

00:07:36.680 that was the example today that made me realize that i do this so much in all areas but guys this

00:07:42.920 is a voice that's present in all areas of life okay and it and it and it affects how we respond and what

00:07:50.040 we do in all areas of life so you have to first of all you know decide what it is you really want

00:07:57.500 what do you want what do you really want like there's there's a difference between you know i 0.93

00:08:03.500 kind of this would be nice it would be nice to lose 50 pounds and look pretty good or i'm fucking losing 0.95

00:08:11.360 50 pounds and i'm going to look like a fucking etched sculpture out of marble okay those are two 0.95

00:08:17.940 different things and a lot of people confuse the first part with an actual goal that is never going 0.96

00:08:24.160 to work if you're thinking in yourself in your mind right now you know what it'd be nice if i made

00:08:29.840 twice as much money or it'd be nice if i lost 100 pounds or it'd be nice to be you know in good shape

00:08:35.380 you're not going to make it that's just the truth and i'm not saying that to be rude i'm not saying

00:08:40.900 that to be ignorant i'm not saying that to be an elitist or any kind of those things i'm saying that

00:08:45.680 because it's reality success in all these areas is really fucking hard guys and it takes a lot of 0.87

00:08:51.280 discipline and a lot of work and a constant awareness of if you are doing the work or not

00:08:57.320 that's going to get you there and a lot of people never really delineate between

00:09:01.800 what they really want and what would be nice for them most people think what they really want

00:09:08.760 is what they tell themselves that would be really nice if i had that no that's not what i'm talking 0.95

00:09:13.600 about i'm talking about setting a fucking goal for yourself that you are extremely extremely serious 0.99

00:09:19.900 about achieving all right so you have to do that first and that might sound like common sense to some 0.92

00:09:24.800 of you guys but i promise you to most people that is not those two things are the same thing when you

00:09:30.280 when i say hey you need to have a goal they will respond back to me and they will say well

00:09:34.600 you know if i could really like do anything you know i'd like to be i don't know 30 pounds lighter

00:09:43.600 right that's what people say you've heard it you've probably said it all right that is not setting a 1.00

00:09:50.480 goal setting a goal is motherfucker i am going to do whatever the fuck it takes to get down 30 pounds 0.99

00:09:55.820 all right i'm doing it whatever it takes all day long with everything i do i'm going to get focused 1.00

00:10:01.200 i'm going to make that happen all right so what do you really want because dude it's you don't have

00:10:06.320 to want what everybody else wants you know a lot of people think well you know i should have a six 0.61

00:10:12.740 pack you don't have to fucking have a six pack that's just what some people want and what some people 0.91

00:10:18.040 are willing to pursue you don't have to be rich that's just what some people want so you have to 0.98

00:10:23.680 decide what it is you want and get serious about it otherwise you're going to be real disappointed

00:10:27.360 but moving on from that because that's the obvious thing right you have to start to train your inner

00:10:33.480 voice to catch you when you're slipping so you have to become aware of what actions you're taking

00:10:38.080 am i taking this action and is it supporting what i said i'm going to do okay and guys this is why the

00:10:48.040 power list is such a huge deal i talk to you guys about it all the time and you don't need to buy our

00:10:54.020 power list journals that's not a sales pitch my power list that i use is a fucking notebook i've used 0.99

00:10:59.460 it since 2004 or i still have it and i have all my pages that i tore out from it from 2000 i can 0.89

00:11:06.520 literally go back and look at what i was doing in june 2007 and see what i did on fucking may 15 2007 0.93

00:11:13.500 that's pretty cool okay i have the literal blueprint for what we've built here based upon

00:11:20.060 writing my goals down and paying attention to what the power list process is so if you want to if you

00:11:26.360 want to learn more about that process you can go listen to episode 107 uh of the mfco in this feed or

00:11:32.720 we reposted that episode uh recently at episode 16 all right in this feed so if you go to the real af

00:11:40.220 episode 16 you're going to find that exact same podcast that is at episode 107 on the mfceo project

00:11:46.380 and it's going to guide you through how to do this process i don't want to spend all kinds of time on

00:11:50.980 this because i have a whole podcast dedicated to it and you need to listen to the whole podcast because 0.96

00:11:55.840 it's a lot more involved than just writing your shit down but if you use that process and you execute 0.94

00:12:01.040 against it with what we're going to talk about here and what we're talking about here you cannot 0.98

00:12:05.720 fail it is impossible it's impossible to fail and i mean that you have to constantly have that

00:12:12.900 awareness in your brain about all the little things that you do and so it has to get to a point where

00:12:19.240 it's so specific that when you catch yourself skipping out on the tiniest little details one or two or

00:12:25.180 three reps in your workout uh one or two or three emails skipping a meeting etc etc etc those things are

00:12:33.100 cumulative just like they would be cumulative if you were to do them and you have to understand that

00:12:39.180 so when you catch yourself slipping that's the cue for your your boss voice your strong winner voice 1.00

00:12:48.740 to stop your weak voice your bitch voice and say uh-uh motherfucker you got three more to do 1.00

00:12:55.680 and i literally do this like in the gym and if you follow me around all day you would see that i 1.00

00:13:04.620 talk to myself constantly verbally all right usually when no one's around but sometimes when people are

00:13:11.100 around too i actually verbally say it now you don't have to do this i find that more more effective

00:13:17.180 for me all right and i actually kind of like it um but you have to learn to obey that voice when it 1.00

00:13:25.120 catches you slipping when that voice kicks in your head and says ah motherfucker you ain't supposed to 0.99

00:13:30.140 be eating that cupcake don't eat the cupcake when when when i text dj this morning and i said hey i'm 1.00

00:13:37.740 not going to lift today because my my shoulder hurts and i need rest you know i thought about it for about 0.85

00:13:42.700 30 minutes and you know what i did i got my fucking car and i went and worked out and i would lift it 0.98

00:13:47.220 and i said you know what i'm not going to take the easy road i'm going to take the hard road 0.98

00:13:52.460 this is the key guys you have to learn to obey this inner voice all the time your boss voice

00:14:00.140 is the voice of your maximum potential your boss voice is going to be the voice that if you obey

00:14:07.300 and if you listen to is going to help you produce the result that will be accumulation of all of your

00:14:15.980 potential put together and this is what you want because you don't want to be the person that when your

00:14:21.520 day comes and your day could be coming today you don't want to be that person that says man i wish 0.58

00:14:27.140 i would have fucking gave a little bit more i wish i would have done a little bit more i wish i would 0.96

00:14:31.560 have seen a little bit more of what the fuck i was made of all right you don't want that and some of 0.99

00:14:36.520 you guys this might not resonate with you because you're you're you're not as high strung and you're 0.95

00:14:41.360 not as driven and guys that is not that is i'm not giving you pressure i'm just telling you that if

00:14:47.520 you want to fucking win this is a great way to train yourself how to win in all areas you want 0.96

00:14:54.320 to be like everybody else i'm not judging you all right the world needs people to cook fucking french 0.99

00:14:59.240 fries i get it but what i am telling you is if you want to fucking win you are going to have to start 0.97

00:15:06.760 obeying the voice that catches you slip and when you slip and you have to obey it a hundred percent of 0.94

00:15:12.040 time all right so you can do this silently right we all do this silently sometimes i think but most

00:15:22.000 of the time it gets ignored and this is and i'm not sitting here trying to pump you on 75 hard but

00:15:27.000 this is the power of 75 hard 75 hard will train you to listen to that boss voice exclusively and your

00:15:34.940 life will greatly accelerate and if you ask anybody who has legitimately the right way finished 75 hard

00:15:41.340 they will tell you the same it's a mental retraining all right but you can start to help this process

00:15:47.720 every day when you catch yourself not wanting to do the things that you know you need to do 0.99

00:15:53.760 it's very simple concept of self-coaching would you ignore your coach if he said oh motherfucker three 1.00

00:16:00.180 more reps and he's standing right there ready to put his foot in your ass if you don't do it 0.99

00:16:04.540 no i don't think you would i wouldn't all right some people might but those people probably aren't 1.00

00:16:10.200 listening to this podcast you guys are fucking winners you guys want to win that's why you're 0.90

00:16:14.680 here so this is a huge tool that you can use consistently on a daily basis and every kind 0.97

00:16:21.640 of scenario that can help you guys get where you want to go all right when that voice kicks in and 1.00

00:16:27.140 says oh man i'm tired saying oh fuck you bro now you're going to do extra shit because you're 1.00

00:16:33.480 bitching that's what i do i do that with everything when i catch myself missing three reps guess what i do 1.00

00:16:40.140 i do five reps i put the weights down i did this today put the weights down i said oh motherfucker 1.00

00:16:47.980 you got three more guess what i did i did five as punishment for me being a fucking bitch all right 1.00

00:16:53.780 this is something that you guys have to start doing this is something that i've done for a long time but 0.98

00:17:01.160 i never put my finger on it that a lot of people don't and so i wanted to share this with you guys

00:17:06.160 because i think it's a very powerful skill that a lot of people kind of look past because they don't

00:17:11.160 want to feel bad right like right now all we're hearing in the in the media and you know i've 0.61

00:17:15.880 talked a lot of shit on this too you know the self-love self-love is listening to your boss voice 0.96

00:17:22.000 guys that's self-love because you're loving yourself to do what the fuck is right and what you really want 0.99

00:17:27.080 and what's right for you and your family and the people that look up to you you're getting better 0.74

00:17:31.800 and anything that gets you better is better for everybody else that looks at you as well

00:17:35.680 and you guys have to step up and start taking responsibility as humans to be the best that you

00:17:42.720 can because other people's existence depends on it whether you have kids whether you have neighbors 0.97

00:17:48.260 is if you're not living in a fucking igloo where no one else in the world ever going to see you 0.97

00:17:53.960 you're affecting the outcome for other people by the way that you live and that should fucking really 0.99

00:17:59.000 make you think i think about that all the time and i take that responsibility serious

00:18:03.320 all right so you don't have to have a million something followers or a big podcast or any of 0.99

00:18:09.460 this shit or a company or anything start with leading yourself start with leading your fucking 0.99

00:18:14.240 family and start by leading yourself by coaching yourself and listening to the great coach that lies 1.00

00:18:21.800 inside all of us 0.99

00:18:23.540 told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living down spoke it till 1.00

00:18:29.280 existed i'm from where you can't trust so welcome 1.00

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - May 18, 2020

37. The Hidden Coach That Lies Within All Of Us

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