386. Q&AF： Rebounding The Pandemic Losses, Staying Focused On Your Goals & Dealing With Different Personalities In Business
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In this episode of The Realists, we discuss the importance of personal excellence and how personal excellence is the ultimate rebellion. Personal excellence is how we free ourselves as individuals and free ourselves from the controlling society that we live in.
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what is up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the
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lies the fitness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today
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we have q and af that is where you submit the q's and i bring the afs and you can submit your
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questions to ask andy at andy for salad.com thank you dj now most of the time you guys are going to
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tune in you're probably going to hear one of two things you're going to hear q af or you're going
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to hear cti and cti stands for cruise the internet that is where we put up multiple topics on the
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screen we talk about what little truth may be contained in these headlines and news stories
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and then we talk about the problem at hand and then we talk about the solution on today's show
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on q and af we talk about the actual personal success personal development solutions that we all need to
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uh apply to ourselves to be part of the problem on the individual level now the reason this is
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important to explain is because a lot of you guys don't connect the dots there's macro problems the
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problems in the world there's micro problems the problems with ourselves and the big problems the
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macro problems can never be solved unless we fix the problems with ourselves first so it's kind of like
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peanut butter and jelly right like q and af is probably the peanut butter and cti is probably the jelly and
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somewhere we get the bread i don't know where um and then other times when you tune in we have real talk
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real talk is uh five to twenty minute uh rant based upon personal development or whatever issue i see
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needs to be addressed uh and then sometimes when you tune in we're going to have full length which is
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more of a traditional style interview that you see like most everybody else doing uh the overarching
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theme of this show is to fix the world's problems through personal excellence okay i say often and you'll
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probably hear me say it many times on the show personal excellence is the ultimate rebellion and
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what that means is is that if we are ever going to truly free ourselves as individuals and free ourselves
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uh from the controlling society that we live in right now we are going to have to raise our standards
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when we become more educated when we become more healthy when we become more fit when we become
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more financially successful they have less control which means you have more freedom and that's what
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we're looking for here okay uh that's the theme of the show we also have what we call the fee for the show
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if you're new the fee is very simple you'll notice i don't run ads on the show most of the time
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sometimes i talk about my energy drink and you guys say it's an ad but it's not an ad because it's my
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shit all right that's how that's how i get around that little asterisk all right um but yeah that's
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how the show works so if you find value in the show and we haven't you know filled your head with 30
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minutes of fucking ads i would appreciate if you told another human about the show if you shared the
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show if you gave us a share on your instagram or your youtube or your twitter or uh you know wherever
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it is you hang out or if you just had a conversation about what we're talking about because the reality is
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guys the messages that we put out on this show are very important for everybody to hear and they
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need to be shared and they only get shared if you share them so that's the fee so you'll hear me say
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pay the fee that's what i mean when i say pay the fee um so with that being said we do have q and af
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today and uh so let's get started with that what's happening bro hello children
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are you ready i'm ready to my bad jokes all right dj's got his bad jokes today uh guys normally we
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have dj as the co-host but today we have z sean uh who works on the podcast team every single day
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all those little graphics that you see that we put up uh most of those come from him uh he also runs
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the frisella fans uh account and z sean's got a great story and i want to tell it because i don't
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think i've ever told it on the show before um and this is a this is a really good story this is you
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were just a fan of the show yes sir and and this is many years ago and he created this account on
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his own accord i didn't ask him to create it uh called frisella fans and he started making his own
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content and he's an artist and a digital artist uh and also a regular artist too uh he's a man of
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many traits um and well read and highly cultured as well i will say accepted yes approved uh much
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better jokes than dj yes for sure absolutely um but he started making this content and i didn't i
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didn't know him from anybody he was just a guy on the internet who makes content and a lot of a lot
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of people take you know my audio and make little content with it especially with tiktok now um
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but he was one of the first guys that ever really did that and he would always send me what he was
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making i'm like man this dude's making some cool shit you know and eventually we we became friends
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through dms and and uh you know you were living in chicago right correct yeah and we called you up
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for an interview yes is that right yes and we came down and you didn't take the job did you right
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away or we didn't hire you or something yeah it was a no in the first time was it a no from us to
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you yes yeah because why because you wanted too much fucking money yeah so well i learned my lesson
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yeah yeah you know what you learned though you create the content you got the job and now you're
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making more money than the money you were asking for correct quite a bit more okay um but this is how
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this works this is how success works and now with a lot he's a major part of the team all the guys are a
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major part of the team i think we all play our parts it's not just me it's not just dj uh we all
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do things well and we work together well but i think the the lesson here is you know a lot of people
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want they want the recognition they want to pay the pay up front and then they want to work and uh i just
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want to commend you because you put in the dues before you ever got a dollar for it for a long time
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bro and uh you know now guys he's one of the he's seriously one of the smartest people i know he's
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one of the best people i know and uh i'm really fucking proud of you bro thank you so uh i mean that
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i'm not trying to have a teary moment on the podcast but i know you know i mean that absolutely
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yeah like i always say i cannot do what i do with the team here with bidad joe keith yeah and under
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your and emily supervision and other people in the team who don't get their names out as much
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and the one other thing that i want to say before we get to the questions is when you asked me to
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come work for you you had no idea if i was a 30 year old guy or if i was a 60 year old woman you had
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no idea about my name gender where i was what did i do you asked me everything afterwards yeah so that
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that's something i really respect about you well if i had known that you were indian and you were an
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immigrant i don't ever sure would have never never of course now i know bro i'm a fucking white
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supremacist racist absolutely everybody knows that everybody yeah so definitely wanted to say that
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yeah well bro uh here's your big chance dj is away on business on some other business
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and uh let's do the show black man's loss is another non-black man's win
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i don't know if we could tell race jokes without dj here all right we're fucking firing me i don't
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know but hey here we go dude question number one so this guy who's writing he says we are a very
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specialized niche business we provide some products in the aviation industry i had to stop running ads
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during the covet time but my competitor did not so now when people look for my products i don't come
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up as the number one result whereas uh the my competitor does so what can companies like me do
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to regain what was lost during that time and how can we distance themselves further from the
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competition well look you know through any difficult time uh especially when when you haven't been
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through many difficult times sometimes we make decisions um and a lot of times they're wrong uh i'm
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going to tell you that that was probably not a good decision i'll give you an example as to why
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um there's a restaurant here in st louis uh that is a sushi restaurant and it's a sushi restaurant that
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i've gone to for 14 or 15 years and we went to order sushi not too long ago and uh we ordered the
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same thing that we always want and uh they were like well the menu's changed a little bit and we're
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like oh cool like this has to be great and we we don't have what you ordered but we're going to
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suggest this and this and this and so we they suggest that we were excited we got the food
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and the food was literally not comparable in a bad way to what they were serving before what they
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were serving before i would consider a 10 this was literally a two and it was super disheartening
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and super disappointing because i knew what had happened inside that company because cost of
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goods are crazy inflation's crazy um and instead of deciding to raise their price which they would
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have to do which all companies are having to do every single company has to do it like you guys have
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to understand those same price increases that you're seeing across the board those are even magnified for
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these companies and a lot of people think oh the companies are artificially inflating their prices
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motherfucker shipping is double what it was okay every single grocery item that you go buy in the
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grocery is double what it was gas is double what it was uh inflation is at nearly 10 which means our
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money is worth way less than what it was even a year ago and all of these things affect businesses
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just like they affect your personal uh financial statement at home right your cash flow at home
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so these this company had a decision to make and their decision was okay we can either raise prices
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or we can keep prices the same lower the quality of the product and that is the wrong decision the
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second part is the wrong decision the right decision would be to raise the price keep the product
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integrity where it was understand that people will not be able to buy your shit for a minute
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but they will also know that when things correct which they will that you're still serving a great
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product but instead because the product was not great anymore i'm likely to never ever go back to
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that place again so they're going to have customers that are going to try this new you know this new
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quote-unquote menu change and they're going to understand what happened and they're not going
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to go back and this company would have been much this restaurant would have been much better off just
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being transparent and putting out a statement said guys due to the situation in the world our prices
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have gone up and people will understand because the price is going up everywhere we all understand
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yes it's fucking sucks but it's not the company's fucking fault and i i haven't reached out to this
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company yet but i'm going to because i care about these people i've been going there for a long time
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and they're very very good people they just made a poor decision and so what i'm what i'm trying to
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explain to the in regards to this question is this you made it you made a you made an amateur decision
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okay because even though you had to make cuts what you did was make cuts in your brand awareness
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which means you are starting to you're going to have to start from scratch to rebuild that brand
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awareness now don't be totally discouraged by that because there's some benefits to that as well
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let's just say that your brand maybe wasn't what it is now three years ago which is probably true
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if this person is intelligent and whatsoever they've learned a lot the last three years so this
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actually i would encourage them to look at this as an opportunity to actually rebrand in a way that
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is superior to what their competitor's brand has been so you actually have a good opportunity here
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if you choose to see it that way yeah it sucks that your cut that your brand your other company
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has got some more traction than you right now but because you've already made the wrong decision
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uh which your right decision would have been to maintain the brand awareness uh over the course of
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that tough time because now people probably think this company may not they made a close during
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covid or they went away or whatever but now because you made a decision and and it was the wrong
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decision but you can make it the right decision by rebranding your company in a superior way and then
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just starting over in terms of your ads in terms of your google search uh and all these dynamics that
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you're trying to build when you try to build awareness for your brand that's how i would approach this so
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understand it's going to take time you're going to have to make investment you're going to have to
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start running ads again and it is going to take time for people to learn about your company again
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but this time when they learn about your company they should see something that is far superior to
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what they saw three years ago you follow what i'm saying so that's how i would choose to solve this
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problem i would say okay that sucks we're definitely starting over from scratch but these guys have
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established themselves as this this this this and we can do this this this this plus you know five
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on this this this this so that's how i would look at it you're gonna have to do some work you're gonna
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have to do the gritty you know start over work earn these customers one by one by one by one over time
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the other thing i would say to this person is this is also a chance to really get good on your
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retention practice so that um these leads that you do end up accumulating from your ad you actually
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keep this time instead of having them flow through because most businesses to be honest look at the
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relationship with the customer as a transactional relationship and not a lifetime relationship
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and had you built your brand uh in a in terms of a lifetime brand before covid you you could have
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stopped those ads and your business would have stayed where it was that's right okay but you so
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so from what i can tell just by the nature of the question there's two holes in this in this game plan
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one um you made a mistake all right and two you probably weren't retaining your customers to a
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point of where they were loyal in the first place all right so take those two lessons plug them
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into your your rebrand that you're going to do become a better stronger brand become better stronger
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at creating loyalty and retention and just go dude and it's going to take you a couple years to get
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right back where you want to go but when you get back to that place where you want to go it's going
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to be much more solid much more stable and actually superior to your competitor and so people coming up
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who are now with your competitor right now they're going to look and say oh well fuck here's these guys
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where'd they come from oh that's that's these guys who used to be they act man they've really come
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around and it actually will serve you in the customer's frame of mind that does that make sense
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absolutely and i think also the past customers would be happy too that you're doing even better
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products absolutely absolutely and so you could kind of play it as hey we took some time to solve
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some of the internal problems we looked how we could better serve our customers uh we took some
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time to solve the plug these holes in our system but here we are and we're ready to kick ass for you
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give us a try and that's how i would approach it i love it all right
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next question uh this is sort of a personal question so this person is saying i've been
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dealing with my spouse's substance abuse we've been together for about 20 years now and we have
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three kids together he's getting treatment now and i'm working on improving my own mental and
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physical health i'm just having a hard time focusing on my goals and i would appreciate any advice
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to overcome this hurdle what helps you stay focused in on your goals when there's a lot of personal
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shit going on look i understand something that i think a lot of people don't understand and that's
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this if you wake up every single day and you execute regardless of what's going on okay like there's
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been on i mean bro hundreds of times where i've been working out solving a some sort of crisis on
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my headset or i've been doing my outdoor cardio uh solving some sort of whatever the crisis of the day
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i mean i'm involved in a number of different companies there's not a day that goes by there
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isn't a fucking crisis okay uh and in fact i'm going to solve this problem for this problem of anxiety
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for a lot of you guys right now uh it's going to be every day every day there's going to be a crisis
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every motherfucking day there's going to be some shit every day if you walk into the day thinking
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that it's going to be this easy day you're always going to be disappointed so as an entrepreneur
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you should wake up knowing that your role is to solve the problems and if you just accept that role
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and understand that the problems are going to come and you may not know when they're coming
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you can live with a lot more peace and a lot less anxiety that's been a perspective that has really
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helped me um deal with the constant barrage right everybody you and everybody here that is listening
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that has a uh bro even if you don't have a company even if you just work in a company because it's life
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right there's a fucking crisis every motherfucking day it's just reality dude so instead of like
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expecting it to be free and easy and then being surprised when the crisis comes maybe you should
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just understand that your role is to be a great problem solver and you should just become better
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at that and be confident in your ability to solve problems and then you won't be surprised and you
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won't be waiting for the shit coming because you know it's coming you know i'm saying so you have a
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lot less anxiety more peace that's just a little tip on this uh but here's the main answer to this question
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i i understand the the that if i execute every single fucking day no matter what the fuck is going
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on meaning i do my my weights i do my cardio i stay to my diet i i drink my water i read my my personal
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development books i do those things every single fucking day and then i do my my critical tasks that
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i have to do for business right that's a whole different list but if i execute on those it doesn't
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matter if people fucking hate me it doesn't matter if the world's crashing down it doesn't matter if
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people are talking shit it doesn't matter if some whatever the fuck's going on in the world because
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at the end of the day i'm still moving forward i'm still getting better and i still won that day and
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if you can win monday and tuesday and wednesday and thursday and you lose friday and you win saturday
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and then sunday let's just say you fuck off you're still gonna win in life that's gonna be a
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fucking cumulative win the reason most people don't win in life is because every single fucking
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crisis that comes down the road uh creates them to change their habits and it change they make
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decisions based upon what's going on in the external world i do not make decisions based upon what's going
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on in the external world i make decisions based on what i decide to do and then the external world does
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what it does and i respond but i also understand that like i can only respond to the things that
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are in my control and god has to take care of the rest and i've accepted that that's just reality dude
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like once you accept that and you understand that if you execute every single day and you get your
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shit done it really doesn't matter what happens in the world it doesn't matter if people are mad at
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you it doesn't matter if it doesn't fucking matter because you're still moving forward and that
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cumulative effort of moving forward will put you in a better place uh over the course of time than
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than than anybody else because everybody else has fallen off track every single time uh you know
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in fact i'll say i think most people look for reasons to fucking come off their program i think most
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people look for reasons to be a victim i think that's how far culture has slidden i i i think that
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we have we don't have we don't have the culture that we used to have like when people say oh proud
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gritty tough americans like that shit is over dude we have to rebuild it you know what i'm saying and
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most people would rather have the attention of a post saying about why they can't and why they're
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struggling then then they would to actually accomplish what it is they're supposed to accomplish i i because
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it's the instant gratification you want the dopamine now instead of the actual result in the real
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world and that's a losing strategy you're going to lose that one and so you know the how i deal with
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these things is this i mean bro i just went through one of the hardest fucking times in my life like the
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last fucking 10 weeks or so have been extremely difficult for me um because i was coming off of
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10 years of fucking antidepressants uh and it was really fucking hard uh i now for you guys who
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were concerned i feel really good now i feel i actually feel how i used to feel before this which
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was like a fucking savage um i'm having feelings again i'm having emotions again and at first it was
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really tough uh but i'm not having the the i'm not having the physical withdrawals i'm not having the
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dizziness i'm not having the vertigo i'm not having the brain zaps i feel really fucking good and uh the
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way i was able to push through that is the same way i'm i'm speaking about now which was i just
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executed and like dude on all through those last 10 weeks i would say 98 of those days were a win
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even though they sucked even though it was the hardest time of my life and here i am
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at the end of that 10 weeks uh coming at the end of a year of not being able to train
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and i'm probably i don't know at longest 60 days out from the best shape i've ever been in in my
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entire life at the longest it might be 40 days i don't know we're gonna find out but the point is
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had i not executed that wouldn't be the case i'd be starting over with six months of work in front of
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me you see what i'm saying absolutely so we have to train ourselves and this is why you know the live
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hard program is such an important program you can learn about the live hard program on episode 208
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but the reason it's such important program is because when you invest in developing that discipline
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muscle that that is within all of us then you you develop all the other things that allow you to do
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what i just said because everybody's listening right now and if you haven't like really invested
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into your discipline you're hearing that and you're like fuck that that's really fucking hard
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though bro but yeah it is but it also isn't what what's really hard is to just to fall off track
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and then look up a fucking massive problem that you created by being inactive and falling off your
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game plan and then having to fix it it's a downward spiral you want to avoid so you know make the
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investment in developing your discipline and when you develop your discipline a lot of other things
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that are beneficial come from that grit fortitude self-belief self-esteem self-worth confidence these
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are all things that you need to be able to push through the hard times okay so you might be
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hearing what i'm saying right now and be like fuck i can't fucking do that my life's fucking crazy
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dude my wife's fucking mad at me my husband's mad at me my kids are fucking tyrants like fucking
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biden's fucking everything up like we can say all these things but at the end of the day guys
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it that all of that shit still does not affect our personal actions absolutely yeah so if we
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if we can execute during the hard times that like if we can learn to execute during the times that
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literally fucking crush other people what can you do in the times that aren't that hard and we have a
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tremendous opportunity right now with the way the world situation is to become some of the baddest
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motherfuckers that ever lived because in my lifetime this is easily the worst situation that we've ever
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been in economically um and i kind of look at it like that i'm like all right cool well we're gonna
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go through a fucking test we're gonna find out how full of shit everybody is you know but i can tell
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you this i'm sure glad that i have been making those investments and i plan to make those investments
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still through this time that we're getting ready to go through because i want to get stronger and i want
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to get better and when that time ends and things get better i want to be running at full speed i don't
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want to be crawling or picking up the pieces of my life and trying to regather i want to be as close
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to as good as i could possibly be so that i'm running full speed and that way that allows me to create
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distance between myself and everybody else that's legitimately competing with me so yeah yeah so bro like
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you know you have to understand these outside we live in a culture that will validate your quitting
00:25:57.400
or your uh you know like a faction huh lack of action yeah your lack of action your your passive
00:26:05.520
nature your excuse making we live in the most conducive culture that's ever existed for that
00:26:12.020
because the people who are in charge of creating the culture actually do want us sick fat poor and stupid
00:26:21.600
so that they can have greater control over us and so we have a tremendous opportunity to accomplish a
00:26:27.020
whole bunch of things at once uh by just raising our own personal standards investing in our own
00:26:31.920
discipline becoming more independent becoming stronger becoming tougher becoming more gritty
00:26:37.180
because that actually will help us restore our fucking actual freedom and take the power away from
00:26:43.700
the people who are oppressing all of us because that's actually what's happening this is we're all of
00:26:48.600
humanity is being oppressed by the ruling elite class across the globe it's just the fucking way it is
00:26:54.160
and everywhere else it's worse than it is here so think about that true so um if you really want
00:27:00.460
to say hey fuck you to these people you do it by becoming a fucking machine you become fucking fit you
00:27:06.620
become rich you become mentally uh a student of the game you're learning new shit every single day
00:27:12.660
you're seeking the truth uh you become spiritually aligned all right and you move and you keep moving
00:27:18.580
and you never quit moving and that's what the fuck it takes absolutely one of the things that i would
00:27:23.340
touch on on mental toughness and discipline that everybody in the room has done 75 hard so
00:27:27.740
they would test to it but one thing that i learned from you is all my life i thought that they were
00:27:33.160
something that they you were born with yes all it took me a long time to understand especially under
00:27:39.480
the 75 hard program was these are something you can cultivate yes by day by day by day by day that's a
00:27:46.340
common assumption like that's one thing bro i was no different than that that's how i that's how i got to
00:27:54.060
people sometimes look at me and they think i have some sort of special thing that they don't have
00:28:05.260
and and then when i tell them i don't they get mad at me and they say well you're being overly humble
00:28:10.780
and i'm like no bro like if you if you guys could zoom back in time and watch how i have been my entire
00:28:19.220
life up until maybe the last five or six years um there was nothing special about it i i had bursts
00:28:26.840
of success uh but i wasn't in control of it i would just kind of catch the momentum and i was i was smart
00:28:33.620
enough to be able to ride the momentum when i had it but then it would naturally sort of like spiral
00:28:38.780
out of control and i would find myself back in a place of being fat again like bro i gained weight
00:28:44.500
and lost weight probably 30 fucking times right this last time 2015 when i started you know i lost
00:28:51.420
110 pounds that first year i haven't fucking put any of that weight back on in fact i've continually
00:28:57.440
progressed my physique year after year after year after year and now here i am at 43 years old
00:29:03.560
literally about to be in the best shape that i've ever fucking been at any age and that's because
00:29:09.240
i under i i figured something out that i didn't know before and then what i figured out was we are
00:29:14.460
actually in control of our momentum and when we don't have momentum we create the momentum by
00:29:20.040
actually stacking daily wins on top of each other okay so you start with one day you every single
00:29:27.500
person listening can win today every single person you dude if you're listening to this and it's in the
00:29:34.220
morning time and this is going to come out on friday you can win today and a lot of you won't win
00:29:40.820
because you're like already made plans to go to happy hour or go start monday yeah that's right
00:29:45.820
but if you're real serious about fucking starting today you would start right now absolutely that's
00:29:50.480
the truth one of the things that people a lot of people don't understand is i could be a 20 year
00:29:56.160
old college student or a 37 year old mom of two and i can take those principles where you said
00:30:01.640
and been in any area of life yeah those are applicable in any area that's right that's that's
00:30:07.440
the key part that's right brother so so guys when you're at your lowest like a lot of people hit me
00:30:12.380
up right now and they're like because like dude times are pretty tough right um and they say well fuck
00:30:19.340
you know and bro but by the way times are gonna get a lot tougher like a lot tougher i'm sorry to say
00:30:24.220
that i hate saying it i'm not trying to scare anybody but i think it would be a good idea for you to
00:30:30.500
start preparing yourself for some extremely fucking difficult times and that means you
00:30:36.280
start preparing your mind you start preparing your body you start preparing your mentality right now
00:30:41.460
okay and then as things progress you'll be creating momentum by stacking day after day after day after
00:30:49.260
day and what you'll find yourself doing which will feel really weird because i've done this is you will
00:30:54.960
actually become the best you've ever been in the hardest time that's ever existed
00:30:58.100
you know during covet i told everybody i said well fuck dude i'm doing this um and this is going to
00:31:04.420
be the time where i look back and i'm going to say that's when the fuck it when i that's what made me
00:31:08.140
and now i can look back over the last two or three years and i'm like fuck that is what made me like
00:31:13.280
i'm going what i'm going to do next is 10 000 times bigger than anything i've ever done in every area
00:31:18.380
of your life that's it so you you you can't look at it as holy shit the world's crumbling
00:31:25.620
what's actually happening is their world is crumbling our world is about to become fucking free
00:31:31.800
but what we have to do is control what we could control we have to put good things in our brains
00:31:39.340
we have to win you know day by day by day by day and when you do that during a challenging time i think
00:31:46.940
it actually the program actually works in a better way because you're actually more proud of yourself
00:31:53.220
because like bro i could have really fucked up my life right now and you start realizing
00:31:56.780
where you could be instead of the track you're on and and it builds even more confidence than what
00:32:03.140
you would have had uh in in like good times right because if you could win in hard times you could
00:32:08.800
fucking dominate in great times and you would never want to go back again that's it moving forward
00:32:14.980
question number three uh this one says this is a business question says you've been in a business
00:32:21.660
for a long time and have dealt with a lot of different types of personalities have you ever had
00:32:26.680
a person who has been very stubborn or a control freak with a very important role in your company
00:32:33.840
and if you had a person like that how did you handle that well look that's
00:32:41.420
you know everybody looks at the world through different perspective you know like what's
00:32:47.040
control freak to you might not be a control freak to me um i'm a detail person so i actually like
00:32:53.280
people that want to control all the variables because when you control all the variables that
00:32:57.120
you can there's less area for fucking fuck ups so um stubbornness is a difficult thing you know uh
00:33:05.740
personalities are a difficult thing i think the hardest thing about building a brand or building a
00:33:10.140
company that has employees is definitely managing the personalities and what you're going to have
00:33:16.380
to learn and one of the biggest things that you can learn is that you know not everybody's the same
00:33:21.380
as you and they're not going to be the same as you and so what i try to do is i try to really look at
00:33:26.280
people as sets of strengths and weaknesses so i all of my executives here at the company uh all of my
00:33:33.540
key people that i that i've known you know who have been here for a decade like i i could tell i could
00:33:38.620
make a list i could say okay this is where they're strong this is where they're weak and they could
00:33:43.200
make that same list about me there's no question and i think i think the more the better way to look
00:33:49.280
at this instead of saying how do i change someone's uh traits is more so which by the way you you can't
00:33:57.120
help people but you know stubbornness is a hard one because when you're trying to cure someone of
00:34:03.120
stubbornness and they're already stubborn you're fighting two battles right um so how i would
00:34:10.480
encourage someone to look at this maybe a little bit differently is to say okay this person has these
00:34:16.520
five strengths and has these two weaknesses and i understand that about them okay and then i would
00:34:22.900
work to position that person in your company in the role where those strengths will best serve the
00:34:28.840
company and the weaknesses will be the least amount of liability okay and then you place them in that
00:34:34.160
role understanding that these are like i have people like i've got people in my company um
00:34:39.540
who are very fucking awesome like they're so dude i don't know how to say this not making it bad
00:34:50.160
because it's not bad um but let's just say you had someone in your company who's just literally the
00:34:55.900
fucking best in everything they're fucking great everybody loves them but then they're disorganized
00:35:00.380
and they let things slide through the cracks right that's a problem because when things slide through
00:35:05.740
the cracks for your customers they don't see it that way they see it as your fucking company's fucked up
00:35:09.980
so like just say in that kind of a situation what i would do is i would put that person in a position
00:35:16.920
where they their strengths are amplified and then i would give them some support on the back side so that
00:35:22.080
maybe not everything fell through the cracks and i would do that support through maybe um a special
00:35:27.660
system that they have to abide by or some sort of fail safe that would keep them from allowing things
00:35:33.360
to fall through the cracks because they're disorganized maybe i would help teach them how to be more
00:35:37.920
organized um but there's all kinds of things i would do to help them supplement those weaknesses
00:35:42.500
and so you know in this situation the way to look at it could be you know this person is really
00:35:48.980
good at a b and c and they have this problem of being stubborn uh so what i'm going to do is i'm
00:35:54.720
going to coach them on how how the stubbornness is really holding them back while i while i praise
00:36:00.500
them and put them in a position for their strengths to be amplified uh because bro if if you if people
00:36:07.220
aren't aware enough to understand that we all have our own weaknesses like i know my weaknesses are
00:36:12.320
like my weakness is absolutely 100 that my heart is way too fucking big and i give motherfuckers
00:36:18.740
way too many chances and that's really a it's a liability because what ends up happening is
00:36:24.100
people that i should have maybe separated from early end up escalating into a massive fucking
00:36:32.920
problem because i gave them the benefit many times right and i have a soft spot for people who have
00:36:39.780
been through difficult times because i've been through very difficult times so i always believe in
00:36:44.980
people's goodness and their and their abilities and i see the best in people and and and sometimes
00:36:50.940
that can really come to fuck you up uh if you're not aware of it right so i've had to learn those i've
00:36:56.960
learned that lesson the hard way many times uh but i also know that my big heart has produced
00:37:01.020
much more benefit than it ever has negativity so i'm willing to accept when those things happen
00:37:07.480
um because i understand what's the good the good outweighs the bad if that makes sense so
00:37:12.880
a lot of this is perspective you're never going to have an employee or a leader in your company that
00:37:18.260
is perfect they're always going to have weaknesses and the best way to to um really address these
00:37:24.340
issues is going to be to put them in a position to succeed with their strengths and then also uh help
00:37:31.180
them see their weaknesses because dude people don't really fix shit about themselves until they decide
00:37:37.560
it's a problem truth right absolutely so it's not like you walk in and you say you're fucking
00:37:42.300
stubborn blah blah blah blah blah like that's not going to work how to make this work would be to
00:37:49.700
allow the stubbornness to sort of get them in a pickle sometimes and then come in and be like what do you
00:37:54.520
think caused this where should the decision you know what i mean and walk them through it and then
00:37:59.460
and then maybe say something like this well you you know real talk bro like you know you're kind of
00:38:08.100
stubborn right like sometimes like do you think maybe this is a product of that and usually what
00:38:12.900
will happen is they'll be like fuck i know dude like i really work and they'll start to open up and
00:38:17.840
now you have a real opportunity to fix the problem because they have identified it as a real thing
00:38:24.040
that makes sense absolutely and i think if they're receptive to change and to improve yeah they will
00:38:29.400
understand where you're coming from yeah yeah bro because look here's the reality bro business is hard
00:38:34.580
as fuck it's super fucking hard no matter how hard you try no matter how good you are no matter what
00:38:41.380
your intentions are you are still going to have mistakes to happen inside your company and the goal is
00:38:47.180
to have be perfect and have no mistakes and here's the other thing when your company operates at a very
00:38:52.060
high standard and then a mistake happens you are judged unfairly harsh for it because you're perfect
00:38:58.520
all the time i have this situation this situation happens quite frequently here at our uh at first
00:39:04.300
form um you know everybody knows that like we you know people usually get notes on their tickets right
00:39:10.560
well we do tens of thousands of orders every fucking day and our guys and our team in the back are so
00:39:17.620
good at creating the extra you know the notes and and creating the the relationship with the
00:39:23.840
customers etc etc that now when people don't get them they get upset and i'm like well dude they're
00:39:32.660
not we like that's what people don't understand it's not that we require them to do notes in every order
00:39:38.380
these fuckers are just so fucking good and they and they that they do that and when we don't hit orders
00:39:44.700
because that's just the statistical data we don't do them for every single order it appears as if we
00:39:51.400
we're losing something right so when you do an exceptional job and then you don't do it it looks
00:39:57.160
like you're failing when in reality you're still better than everybody else so be prepared for that
00:40:01.820
because people will judge you that way um when you have high standards but the payoff is still much
00:40:07.140
better by having those high standards so i think i think the reality of it is this you do the best you
00:40:12.960
fucking can you understand you're not going to be perfect when you're not perfect you fucking do
00:40:16.820
what you can to make it right and you move forward when you have employees that have weaknesses you put
00:40:21.580
them in positions where they can win where they can provide the most value for the company and then
00:40:25.800
you help them discover their own weaknesses and then help them overcome those weaknesses and become
00:40:31.960
stronger you don't point them out you don't make fun of them it's not a fucking you know it's not a
00:40:37.460
you're a piece of shit you got to fix it like that's not like bro and by the way that's how i
00:40:42.120
used to be you know if you were to go back you know pre-2015 uh i was a completely different leader
00:40:49.580
you know i i was i was a poor leader like poor not fucking okay i was poor and uh a lot of the things
00:40:57.820
i'm talking about here they come from me making all those mistakes right like nobody listens to you
00:41:04.100
when you come in and you say hey bro you fucking suck at that you know blah blah blah now now i might
00:41:09.580
say that now joking around right but i say it in a way where you kind of know i'm telling the truth
00:41:15.100
too right um so there's there's a it's just developing as a leader bro and this what what
00:41:22.260
this person's asking about is just a normal situation that you would have to deal with with
00:41:26.740
people and if you're going to run an organization with people um you're going to have to understand that
00:41:32.700
there's it's going to be a lot of personality development a lot of personal development a lot
00:41:37.420
of skill building and uh that comes with you know the responsibility for having people identify worth
00:41:43.960
areas where they need improvement and then having them decide of how to improve you know because people
00:41:49.000
always perform better when it's their idea versus when you tell them to so um and then you know as a
00:41:54.540
consumer you guys should probably understand that like uh you know nobody means to make mistakes
00:42:01.140
like nobody means to fuck up and like maybe when you maybe when you you know have a poor experience
00:42:06.980
like let's say i had with this sushi place right like i'm not canceling them on the internet i'm not
00:42:14.320
trashing them on the internet i'm going to go have a conversation with the family that owns it
00:42:19.100
and say hey guys here you know i i understand what you did because they made you know 14 years of
00:42:25.700
positive deposits into my life yeah right so like one bad decision uh you know i actually think
00:42:34.700
because they made all those good deposits i owe it to them to go give them the real feedback in a
00:42:40.320
constructive way see what i'm saying right and if we all thought like that as opposed to this cancel
00:42:45.640
culture shit where we're just like oh my god these people fucked up my owner one fucking time in five
00:42:51.000
years they're pieces of shit are you sure they're pieces of shit because you liked them for the last
00:42:57.320
five fucking years you know what i'm saying and if the tables were to turn you would want that grace
00:43:01.740
yeah exactly and you've talked about it you posted it on your story so many times yeah like we should
00:43:06.920
show grace to others like how we expect it to ourselves well isn't that in the bible oh yeah like
00:43:12.460
isn't that biblical shit absolutely like you know i think when you show grace to people people show
00:43:17.900
grace to you and i think our society lacks grace um right now in a really bad way you know there's
00:43:25.620
people on the internet that just fucking tear people down that's their you know whole fucking thing uh
00:43:33.000
everybody wants to jump on everybody the minute we find out something bad about them bro nobody's
00:43:38.060
perfect out there everybody has fucking shit everybody's struggling with shit you know like most of
00:43:44.400
these motherfuckers out there in the real world are living in complete fear because like they because
00:43:48.580
they've gone through a development process where you know they look like i was talking to one of my
00:43:53.280
guys earlier today who uh uh i'm really fucking proud of and when he first came here i thought he
00:44:02.060
would probably make it maybe three two three weeks okay um and he's become one of my favorite
00:44:08.340
fucking people in this fucking building and we were talking and you know
00:44:13.320
i i think i don't know i just think it's important to cut people slack like this dude
00:44:22.120
like he almost ran me over in his fucking car uh like the second day he was at work because as he
00:44:28.220
was leaving work he was smoking a fucking joint and i normally like 10 years ago i would have fired his
00:44:34.060
ass right there but you know what i thought i thought you know what i'm gonna give this dude a
00:44:40.160
shot and you know what for the last two fucking years three years we've been uh with this guy i
00:44:47.440
come here on saturday he's fucking here come here on sunday he's fucking here i go outside do my cardio
00:44:52.540
where's he oh he's out in the fucking parking lot on the fucking phone this guy has worked his fucking
00:44:57.640
ass off and he has earned my motherfucking respect and so like because i was able to give a little bit
00:45:03.420
of grace right in the beginning now this man has developed a true career for himself he's going
00:45:09.060
to have a totally different fucking life and and i'm proud of that right absolutely so maybe if we
00:45:15.760
just realize that not everybody is a total piece of shit because they made one mistake uh maybe the
00:45:22.280
world would be a little bit better place you know him and i were talking a little bit ago and we were
00:45:27.260
both talking about like how in the past you know there's all kinds of relationships that we regret
00:45:34.960
how we handled them you know friends uh significant others but that's everybody right like every single
00:45:41.160
fucking human listening to this show can go back five years ago and be like i can't believe i was that
00:45:46.700
person and so now you have everybody in the world living in fucking fear because they're afraid that some
00:45:54.300
person from 10 years ago is going to come around and be like oh and dude the internet holds them to
00:46:00.080
that like that's absurd shit like when you guys are fucking on twitter and you're jumping on
00:46:05.140
motherfuckers for shit they did 10 years ago and ruining them and getting them out bro that is the
00:46:11.140
first of all it's terrible fucking karma second of all it's probably about the worst fucking thing you
00:46:17.200
could ever do to someone because that person has likely just like you put in a shit ton of work
00:46:23.740
to become who the fuck they are today and you're holding them accountable for 20 fucking years ago
00:46:28.980
never in humanity has that been the case before you know when our parents grew up you know they were
00:46:35.800
able to live a very uh less stressful existence because their whole entire life wasn't recorded for the
00:46:46.160
last fucking 20 years and that's the world we live in and then people use it against people
00:46:52.240
and bro what's that create that creates depression fear anxiety paralysis of creating more growth in
00:46:59.200
their life you know a lot of people are afraid that they don't want to do anything because they're
00:47:03.820
afraid if they step out in the fucking light people are going to fucking you know ruin their lives and
00:47:09.360
like bro we're not having this is why we don't have our best and brightest in the political system you
00:47:15.560
know how many motherfuckers i know that are like legit genius business people that could fix this country
00:47:21.800
and i say to them i say why why don't you get involved they're like fucked out dude why would i do that
00:47:26.620
look what they do to these people look what they did to your buddy eric gritens you see what i'm saying
00:47:31.020
and we can't be like that and we can't be like that especially in this country if we want the best and
00:47:37.620
brightest to step forward and create for the rest of the citizens so we have to fucking stop this
00:47:45.000
cancel culture shit has to stop this fucking bullshit has to stop this hate has to stop and we have to
00:47:51.460
start understanding that just like you motherfuckers all have shit in your fucking past that you won't
00:47:57.920
want anybody knowing so does anybody else so when that shit comes out maybe you should consider
00:48:01.640
like i did with with the guy i was mentioning that's right and i'm not proud of this but have i ever
00:48:07.860
smoked a fucking joint in my car yeah i have also i was thinking of you see what i'm saying yeah so
00:48:15.060
so if i condemn that guy and say well fuck you get the fuck out of here for a mistake i also made
00:48:21.100
what does that make me that makes me a fucking hypocrite right it's not good man that's true
00:48:27.700
and also i was thinking had you not given him the second chance what about the two years or three
00:48:33.920
years of contribution he has given to your company the positive bro like yeah that i mean i totally
00:48:40.600
appreciate that but like i'm much more proud of who he's become oh yeah you know i'm saying um fuck
00:48:46.300
yeah i mean like dude look everybody at these companies that we're involved in is a fucking winner
00:48:51.560
that's the reality like if someone is repping any of the companies that we work with um or that i'm
00:48:57.420
involved in they're working hard they're fucking want to win they're doing their best that's the
00:49:02.900
reality okay we don't you can't work here if you don't have that truth like a regular person
00:49:09.340
working in a corporate job in corporate america literally could not work for me so um they would
00:49:17.000
come here and they would be like there's no way i can work here i've only been here two and a half
00:49:22.440
years and i've seen people quit the first day second day within a week oh yeah yeah with my own
00:49:27.380
right away because it's a different thing you know what i'm saying so um but you know that's
00:49:33.380
a testament to the people that are here they're they're top level all the way across the board
00:49:37.940
people that represent the brand top level all the way across the board um
00:49:41.920
anyhow i don't even know how i went there but the point is is like dude be fucking cool
00:49:47.700
like i understand everybody you look you want the world seeing all your shit and if they do see your
00:49:53.400
shit uh and you own it do you still want to fucking uh ruin your whole life like maybe you
00:49:57.980
shouldn't do that you know i wish people would fucking think about those things because everybody
00:50:01.800
thinks it's never going to be them you know what i'm saying it's fucking it's and i actually think
00:50:07.540
when you pile on to people like that you're just ensuring that the universe is going to crack back
00:50:12.040
on you 10 times harder karmic debt it's happening dude absolutely like every time you fucking pile on
00:50:17.240
someone or kick someone when they're down or even kick someone when they're up which is even
00:50:21.300
fucking worse because when you kick someone when they're up what you're really telling the universe
00:50:25.100
is i don't want that fucking life i don't want to win i don't want to succeed right you don't have
00:50:31.260
to like them but if you kick them when they're up you're ensuring that you stay where the fuck you are
00:50:36.640
and i can assure you as a man who has accomplished a few things on this planet and who has lived for 43
00:50:43.780
fucking years of life and worked enough hours that a 65 year old man would have worked i can promise
00:50:50.840
you that's the case i believe that yeah it's the truth it's the truth so anyhow is that is that
00:50:57.860
well that's three that's three so go pay the fee that's right go pay the fee baby hey guys uh i
00:51:03.780
appreciate you guys i love you guys talk to you next time pay the fee
00:51:06.820
went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a pole fuck a stole counted millions
00:51:13.920
in the cold bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case closed