REAL AF with Andy Frisella


415. Q&AF： Company Doesn't Align With Your Values, Can Bosses And Employees Be Friends & Providing Co-Workers With Feedback


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In this episode of The Realists, Andy talks about the new deal he is working on and how he's excited about it and why he's building a brand new deal. He also talks about his new deal with his new business partner and what he's going to do with it.

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00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to lies
00:00:21.740 the fakeness and delusions of modern society welcome to motherfucking reality guys it's monday
00:00:27.420 and uh we're gonna start the week off with some q and af that is uh where you submit your actual
00:00:33.020 questions and i give you the af answers um you could submit those questions as always to guys
00:00:40.500 email those questions in to ask andy andy for seller.com sometimes when you tune in it won't
00:00:46.500 be q and af sometimes it'll be cti cti stands for cruise the internet it's self-explanatory we
00:00:52.120 cruise the internet we put topics up on the screen usually three or four uh we talk about what truth
00:00:57.320 may be there we make fun of these people and the people that write them and the people who believe
00:01:01.060 them uh heavily and then we talk about what truth there may be and how this represents a problem that
00:01:07.700 we the common sense hard-working badass high-achieving kick-ass motherfuckers need to solve okay then we 1.00
00:01:16.000 have real talk sometimes real talk is five to 20 minutes of uh real talk that's where i deliver um
00:01:22.460 some you know heat or fire whatever the fuck you guys would like to call it drop some fucking bombs 0.97
00:01:28.160 on your head and uh you know half the people love it and half the people don't love it but it's what
00:01:33.140 needs to be said from my perspective then sometimes we have full length and full length is sort of like
00:01:39.640 all the other podcasts uh but i'm just not as good of an interviewer as some of these guys but we do have
00:01:45.240 good conversations and normally i want to bring on my successful kick-ass uh wealthy high-achieving
00:01:51.380 interesting uh interesting people who have done real things in real life and expose how fucking 0.96
00:01:56.260 ordinary they actually are so that you will understand that nobody has things that you don't
00:02:02.860 already have okay because that's the biggest lie people talk all the media the the democrats got their
00:02:08.800 big lie the republicans got their big lie but the biggest lie of all is that the successful people
00:02:15.600 that you look up to have some sort of qualities that you don't okay because they do not and that's the
00:02:20.420 basis of the show the basis of the show is to become great so that we can make the world a
00:02:25.840 better place it's that simple and i do that in a very unique way uh it's not for everybody but it you
00:02:31.820 know if it's for you pinky's up yeah you know what i'm saying uh we do have a fee on the show and the
00:02:37.100 fee is very simple um please share the show okay i get a lot of comments i talked about this a couple
00:02:43.640 episodes ago but i get a lot of comments from you guys like why is the show not bigger like first of all
00:02:49.700 we run a massive show okay we're doing very well but second of all if you want the show to grow
00:02:54.480 there's only one way to grow it and that's by you sharing it so if you think that we should be bigger
00:03:00.600 and we should have more of a voice and and better things could happen if people heard what we're
00:03:04.340 talking about which is the feedback that i get from most of you all maybe help us out okay uh maybe
00:03:11.700 not listen to 30 shows and then give us one share maybe when there's a good point on a show that gives
00:03:16.680 you value that makes you think that makes you laugh that gives you a tool that you can use
00:03:21.000 maybe you take that as a value exchange and share the show and exchange i think that's a pretty fair
00:03:28.500 trait maybe don't be a hoe yeah and share the show the show uh yeah so that's it man um 0.99
00:03:36.140 anyway q and a f so what's going on man i just got uh today we're recording this on friday i just got
00:03:43.760 kicked off instagram yeah i was about to say hopefully by this time monday you guys uh
00:03:48.240 will have made up yeah yeah maybe you're free free my boy andy i don't really care though bill because
00:03:53.080 like the truth is is we're building this new deal and i'm more excited about that than anything else
00:03:57.820 i'm excited to put all my content to it uh and i'm going to talk about it more on the show coming up
00:04:02.340 as we get ready to launch so i'm not too worried about even if they don't give me my shit back i 0.87
00:04:05.880 don't fucking care you know the truth is you know the censorship in this country is insane you know 0.75
00:04:12.840 the fact that a certain side of the belief system needs to suppress the other side of the belief system
00:04:21.360 really should tell you everything that you need to know because in a real world situation the best
00:04:28.140 ideas are the ones that should win and all of us regardless of how you lean politically or what
00:04:33.180 you believe or what you think should understand that the best ideas actually benefit all of us the
00:04:39.420 most and if we suppress half or three quarters of the people out there which is what's been happening
00:04:45.720 um the best ideas never see the light of day and what we're left with is a situation that doesn't
00:04:52.040 benefit any of us and so you know i'm excited to do what we're getting ready to do because there will
00:04:58.280 be far less censorship i could be far more open with actual beliefs um i don't have to worry about
00:05:04.620 you know these people on the internet who have the power of you know fucking instagram right deleting my 0.98
00:05:12.520 shit or locking me out because they don't like what i was what i said you know what i said this morning 0.82
00:05:16.320 is not unreasonable talk okay and i get labeled a lot as some sort of far right person i am not far
00:05:23.060 right at all i am fucking right down the middle i understand the need for philosophies on the left 0.88
00:05:30.580 and i understand the need for philosophies on the right and i understand the idea of compromise
00:05:35.320 and working together and i am extreme about that okay i'm extreme about freedom but to label me as far
00:05:42.840 right because i'm loud and i have a strong voice and a presence and strong opinions is an accurate
00:05:49.120 label okay so when we really think about what we have going on in this country we need to be really
00:05:56.640 careful who we think is what we think they are uh in terms of you know what we label people because
00:06:04.440 dude the truth of the matter is is that most of these people that are democrats they have they are
00:06:10.680 reasonable people most of the people that are republicans are also reasonable and we are being
00:06:15.920 divided by people who are very rich very powerful and very established in our systems of government
00:06:22.700 and all i talked about this morning was the need for free and fair elections truly free i'm talking about
00:06:30.120 voting in person the same day i'm talking about no mail-in ballot bullshit i'm talking about no ballot 0.71
00:06:36.200 harvesting i'm talking about no electronic machines i'm talking about reasonable things voter id okay
00:06:41.900 you must be an american citizen and if i had it my way you would have to pay taxes too okay because if
00:06:46.960 you're not putting in you shouldn't have a say in what's going on all right however that's what i said
00:06:53.120 this morning and i actually can't believe that the call a call for election integrity is somehow
00:07:00.960 offensive to any single citizen no matter where they lie politically now i definitely did say
00:07:07.860 that i don't know the people cheating in these elections are your neighbors they're people that
00:07:13.940 live down the street from you these are individuals these are people with names and addresses and these
00:07:19.760 are the people who have punished you for stepping out of line some of us for over a decade okay
00:07:25.980 definitely strongly for the last three years and what damage have they caused with that
00:07:30.960 so when is it going to be understood that these people who are willing to cheat lie steal and
00:07:37.520 defraud us of our actual constitutional rights when is it going to be understood that they understand
00:07:44.300 that they're cheating and they don't give a fuck okay the problem with the right in the middle right now 0.83
00:07:50.860 is that these people on the right in the middle somehow believe that the other side who these individuals
00:07:58.280 and i'm not even saying the whole party because it's not all democrats that are cheating and by
00:08:03.060 the way there's a lot of democrats who are pissed off about election integrity as well because they
00:08:08.020 understand how this should be and they understand what it what result is and the result eventually is
00:08:12.840 war civil war okay because if you keep suppressing people who believe they have a right to their opinion
00:08:19.920 and a right to have their vote count eventually they will fucking kill the people who are fucking with 0.94
00:08:25.440 that's what's going to happen and we're in a situation now where like for example in phoenix
00:08:32.320 and i don't know what's going to happen between now and monday this might resolve itself i don't
00:08:36.640 fucking know however elections don't take longer than one fucking day they never have in the history 0.96
00:08:42.420 of this country now because of covid they've written in all this mail-in bullshit they do all this ballot
00:08:48.800 harvesting that obama was fucking famous for putting into play and now we have a scenario where 0.89
00:08:54.100 they try to extend the election so that they can fudge it any which way they can and and and what's
00:09:00.420 what i was saying in my story that got me kicked off the fucking instagram was that you know what 0.96
00:09:06.400 maybe and this is true and this is not extreme talk do you not believe that criminals should be
00:09:14.860 intimidated and scared to fucking do criminal activity should they not be afraid of the law should 0.93
00:09:21.920 they not be afraid of the repercussions what keeps criminals in check in reality the fear of getting
00:09:29.460 caught the fear of the repercussions and these people for many years now have used language have used
00:09:37.760 intimidation and have used name calling and fucking titles and all kinds of fake lists to intimidate 0.98
00:09:45.140 and manipulate the people of this country into silence so all i was stating was a very simple
00:09:53.340 thing they don't operate by the same rules they don't have integrity they don't care if they're
00:10:00.020 cheating and what i see is a bunch of conservative people pointing at them and being like oh man what
00:10:06.820 do you mean look it's so obvious you're yeah no shit dude they understand they're cheating they're
00:10:12.280 doing it on purpose they are not going to validate you by saying oh you know what you're right we're
00:10:17.360 cheating this is fucking war they don't care how they win they aren't fighting with integrity there 0.91
00:10:24.740 aren't fucking rules they're not going to take the high road and these happen to be the weakest
00:10:30.680 laziest non-contributing members of society that continue to fuck with the legitimate process
00:10:38.120 that this country was founded upon now why is it that people in these neighborhoods are not taking
00:10:46.120 it upon themselves to do the same shit that these people have done to everybody else for the last
00:10:52.700 fucking however many years and make them afraid to commit the very fucking crimes that they're committing 0.95
00:11:00.400 what's extreme about that these people have names these people have addresses these people can be
00:11:11.120 publicly shamed and put on blast and fucking they do the exact same shit they do to everybody else 0.53
00:11:16.880 it's done to us in our country it's done to us in our country what happens when someone steps out of
00:11:25.620 mind what happens when someone bucks the narrative what happened to kanye what happened to kairi what's
00:11:32.600 happening to elon musk what's happened to millions and millions of other americans who have tried to
00:11:37.240 stand up for what they believe is fucking right to expose the corruption and expose the power and
00:11:43.820 expose what the fuck is happening in this country what's happened to them but we can't even say hey
00:11:50.380 there's steve from down the street who's down at the election office and he's fucking us all 0.99
00:11:55.080 because of his own selfish wants and beliefs and desires what he thinks bro i'll say that now i'll
00:12:04.920 say that in public i'll say that in front of everybody any election that is fucked with is treason 0.88
00:12:11.140 okay and if you're gonna kick me off the fucking internet for saying that then so be it that's why 0.95
00:12:16.480 i built my own fucking platform that's why i started building it three fucking years ago that's why i'm 0.96
00:12:21.400 excited to jump on it because i don't have to fuck with any of these people anymore 0.94
00:12:24.420 we dude what what do we what do we not understand about this dj no i don't get it man and i know one
00:12:34.680 of the things that really pisses me off with like just coming down to the censorship shit right like 0.86
00:12:40.040 you could tell these people are evil fucks not by what they censor but by what they don't
00:12:45.000 you know i'm saying like there's free rampant porn there's child pornography there's
00:12:48.580 like all the shit that's going over but let's censor you know free speech let's censor somebody 0.86
00:12:53.320 who just thinks differently it makes sense completely violating the fucking constitution 0.97
00:12:58.200 the fundamental document this country was fucking built on these people dox people on the internet 0.94
00:13:03.460 yeah they openly they post people's names phone numbers and addresses and they've done this for 12
00:13:10.080 years yeah maybe maybe that's the problem though bro because what we see consistently is like you know
00:13:14.460 people on the right right leaning you know we we do our best to try to take that high route
00:13:19.140 you know what i'm saying we don't we try to lose every time that stoop to their fucking level you 0.96
00:13:22.860 cannot fight an enemy who is who is playing a different set of rules okay this would be like
00:13:29.360 going out on the fucking battle you're showing up to a street fight with fucking boxing gloves bro 0.99
00:13:33.540 and then saying well what do you mean you got a gun exactly that's not fucking fair and they're 0.92
00:13:38.020 gonna say yeah we don't care boom exactly this is the misunderstanding in this country there's too
00:13:45.760 many passive people there's too many people who know exactly what the fuck is going on and who are 0.62
00:13:50.900 unwilling to say or do anything about it and because there's no fear about doing these things that these
00:13:59.420 people do they continue to do it anyway so yeah so i got kicked off the internet
00:14:08.660 i mean it's a fucking joke dude and you know what's cool though every time they fucking censor 0.87
00:14:18.640 someone like me or someone else who's saying some shit it just exposes more truth to everybody else
00:14:24.820 more people see what's going on oh there isn't an organization that controls the the free speech
00:14:29.840 of americans through social media boom block banned oh okay all i said was maybe they should have to
00:14:38.020 take the same medicine that we've had to take for the last 10 years maybe if we gave them the same
00:14:42.600 medicine they gave us they would fucking be afraid to cheat i didn't say go fucking do anything 0.97
00:14:48.080 right i said what are you gonna do
00:14:49.880 i'm just asking
00:14:54.040 you see what i'm saying yeah because dude these are these are communities like nobody's cheating in
00:15:00.440 my community no nobody's cheating in st louis here it's not fucking happening it's not fucking 0.95
00:15:05.800 happening you know why it's not fucking happening because we make sure it doesn't fucking happen 0.95
00:15:09.360 yeah i work the polls yeah and now you have these these cities atlanta fucking uh philadelphia 0.96
00:15:15.180 uh detroit maricopa county philadelphia phoenix all of california new york
00:15:23.320 okay that consistently do the same thing in our election and fucking in fucking 2020 there was a 0.94
00:15:31.240 water main break right right fucking last night at uh in nevada there's a camera power outage for 0.90
00:15:38.100 eight hours and they and all of a sudden you you you turn the cameras back on and the other candidate
00:15:43.160 is caught the one they want has caught the one that they didn't want okay makes sense to me now
00:15:50.020 now why are the people in that neighborhood not raising hell to keep that from happening that's
00:15:55.600 the problem we have people who won't regulate their own communities okay and it's costing america
00:16:01.220 everything it's fucking frustrating dude because they're not doing it everywhere they're doing it 0.97
00:16:07.760 in key strategic places that allow them to maintain some sort of power yep they got that shit down to a
00:16:15.120 science yeah i know but people will not say or do anything about it and to be completely honest dude
00:16:21.260 i'm being real talk here i'm fucking sick of doing this show talking about this shit and having all 0.98
00:16:28.800 you motherfuckers that listen not do a goddamn thing i you dm me and you fucking say oh that's a 0.99
00:16:34.740 great show but you won't share it because you're fucking cowardly you're afraid what your fucking 0.98
00:16:39.840 friends are going to say you're afraid what your fucking cousin's going to say you're afraid what 0.95
00:16:43.760 your fucking parents are going to say maybe if you grew a little bit of courage and actually
00:16:49.520 stood by what you actually believed things could begin to change i won't be here to do this for very
00:16:55.800 much longer i'm gonna tell you that right now i'm fucking tired of it i'm excited about pouring 0.93
00:17:02.720 back into the next generation about how to win though very exciting about that
00:17:06.320 anyway what we got i got some good ones for you cool let's uh let's get into these uh any
00:17:15.960 question number one i got into a startup franchise uh very naive and not knowing anything i take
00:17:22.960 responsibility for my decision but i'm learning that the way they do business does not align with
00:17:27.860 my values and or even your teachings which i value uh i'm in a contract with them and i have a lease
00:17:33.820 on top of that would you suggest moving on from this situation and if so what steps would you take
00:17:38.900 to do it you know there's a lot of unknowns there i don't know how much i don't know i don't know how
00:17:46.700 much you're going to lose i don't know how i don't know what kind of deal this is i don't know what kind
00:17:51.700 of influence you could have there's a lot of unknowns but here here's what i think i think
00:17:57.860 that when an organization does as a whole doesn't share the same values that you share
00:18:05.560 uh it's probably not the best fit and and that's okay because to have values that means that there's
00:18:14.100 going to be people that do not fit inside those values that's the purpose of the values you know
00:18:18.880 nowadays everybody thinks that everything should be compatible for everybody that's not just the way
00:18:24.440 it is and if you think that way you're going to be disappointed most of the time so and this is why
00:18:28.900 this is actually why most people can never really get a personal brand going because they try to be
00:18:33.420 everything to everybody with no step value system they try to please everybody they try to make
00:18:38.940 everybody happy they try to try to be every personality they can to every single person and none of that
00:18:46.240 sticks it never sticks because when you behave that way you're vanilla to everybody right you're not
00:18:54.420 you're you're far better off trying to make the 50 percent that are are have the inclination to like
00:19:04.040 you love you than you are to try to make the whole 100 which is made up of 50 of people that have the
00:19:12.220 inclination to love you or like you and then 50 that just won't and so when you try to appease all those
00:19:18.760 people you lose them all so you have to understand that automatically you know your value system is going to
00:19:24.340 eliminate 50 of the people uh and that's not on the topic but i think it's important for people to
00:19:29.200 understand but when in this situation man you know if you if you if you've already identified this and
00:19:35.480 you're that early in it i would do everything i can to get out of that you know because the real
00:19:40.680 currency that you're going to lose is going to be the time it's not going to be the money it's not
00:19:45.100 going to be the investment you know you could lose another five six years trying to fucking 0.96
00:19:49.020 you know make this work and and and still be like fuck this isn't what i want it to be because it's 0.89
00:19:54.660 already such an established thing yeah you see what i'm saying so um my my advice in this scenario
00:20:02.200 would be to learn the lesson that you seem to have already learned which was you need to do your
00:20:09.100 homework uh before you get involved with things yeah and then move on how many times have you seen
00:20:13.640 that happen like people oh it's happened to me before yeah you see this nice shiny everything looks
00:20:17.920 great i'm all in yeah bro that's happened to me before i can remember uh you know back in the day
00:20:22.780 uh when i was i don't know 16 there was the internet was kind of new and there was this thing and i know
00:20:31.600 it sounds stupid now but you got to remember google didn't exist okay so there was this thing called
00:20:36.700 internet yellow pages and i bought a franchise from the internet yellow pages for my local area uh and
00:20:43.340 it was eight thousand dollars and i didn't have eight thousand dollars i financed that shit on a credit 0.82
00:20:47.280 card and um i started i started working it and i realized that it was fucking bullshit like it was 0.97
00:20:54.460 not something that first of all is not something that would the concept was fundamentally flawed and
00:20:59.940 how they were doing it i learned that because i actually did everything i was supposed to do i you
00:21:04.960 know i i made a pitch book i went around and made appointments i met with businesses and the way that
00:21:10.040 they had their situation set up it was it was not something that would ever have worked and so it was a
00:21:15.640 flawed model and i learned that right away and i had to eat that eight thousand dollars bro when i
00:21:20.320 didn't have it you know imagine eight grand at 16 yeah fuck you know i'm saying like it was a big deal 0.82
00:21:25.840 so i but but but but i cut them right away and i moved on to the next thing and uh and i learned the
00:21:32.080 lesson that this person is learning which is make sure you do your fucking homework top to bottom before 0.96
00:21:36.640 you get into something no that's wrong question number two andy can bosses and co-workers ever be
00:21:44.060 friends with each other uh after work i'm afraid that i as a ceo uh if i befriend these employees
00:21:51.280 they'll take advantage of the friendship and won't contribute as much is there a line that needs
00:21:56.140 to be drawn when befriending employees i actually think that the better friends you are with your
00:22:03.140 employees the easier it is to manage them
00:22:06.640 and the reason is is because most people have the wrong idea of leadership they believe that
00:22:11.440 leadership is authority when leadership is actually service so your job as a leader is not to be the
00:22:18.680 strong front person that leads and like everybody else is just you know behind you or under you
00:22:24.700 your job is to be the person who looks out for them and serves them and gives them all the opportunity
00:22:32.360 tools to do their fucking job the proper way and the reason that i say it's easier is because 0.93
00:22:40.060 when you actually give a fuck about the people that you're leading and they give a fuck about you 0.71
00:22:46.100 and you're leading them properly not in an authority way but in a fucking service way 0.97
00:22:50.560 genuinely yeah now you're in a situation where they're it's not driven by authority or fear
00:22:56.100 it's driven by service and love and so that's a stronger foundation for your culture and your
00:23:02.180 company than you know anger and fear right so um so the you know and this is a common question i
00:23:12.140 actually got this question yesterday and i was doing it live q a and it was it was a question i had
00:23:16.480 to answer but uh you know this comes from the flaw of thinking about a ceo or a manager's role you
00:23:23.340 know this person like most ceos or most fucking authority figures think that it's about maintaining 0.93
00:23:29.560 authority and control and it's not that it's about servicing and making them better and so um
00:23:35.600 you know when you have people who and by the way that means what that also means is that when you're
00:23:43.180 at their house or you're out to eat at a restaurant you're no longer the leader you're you're you're
00:23:49.920 you're one of them okay you gotta be able to flip that switch that's right yeah like like bro you
00:23:55.120 know you have to be when it's friends it's friends when it's business it's business and if everybody
00:23:59.880 understands that because everybody's friends and has respect for each other then there really is
00:24:04.900 never an issue the issue becomes when leaders who are inexperienced believe that it's about
00:24:10.440 maintaining some sort of power over the person which dude it goes without saying that if you're
00:24:16.040 ahead of someone in a power structure of a corporation or a company or a fucking military 0.93
00:24:21.360 or anything you have authority over them that's understood it's there yeah yeah nobody likes that
00:24:27.060 jam down their throat or constantly reminded right like that's not the most effective way to lead it's
00:24:33.540 just not but that's how most people lead and that's why most people suck leading so if you think about
00:24:39.420 it as you know service leadership and that your job as a leader you know is to fucking make them 0.90
00:24:44.780 better and they understand that and they feel that intent then they will respect the boundaries
00:24:49.540 inside when it's time to go to fucking battle does that make sense yeah absolutely absolutely yeah 0.90
00:24:55.740 most people just have the wrong idea of what it means to be a leader and by the way i did for a long
00:24:59.680 time too yeah i i led that way for a long time for a long time dude long time i led that way and it was
00:25:05.720 bad never worked yeah i constantly turned people over i constantly had fucking friction i constantly 0.99
00:25:11.240 lost friends because what would happen is what happens to most people what he just described or
00:25:16.320 she just described what is what happens you become friends and they start trying to take advantage of
00:25:20.960 that but that's because you're not really friends it's pretend friends when you're really friends
00:25:25.380 they don't fucking do that to you it's a simple perspective change stop thinking that you're 0.89
00:25:31.520 you're the fucking boss and start thinking of yourself as like you are the support for them
00:25:38.640 you work you work for them yes yeah that's what great leaders do yeah they and by the way when you
00:25:47.340 do that for people do you think that they do you think that they push you down or do you think that
00:25:54.600 they lift you up yeah okay because if when you lift other people up they will lift you up that's just
00:26:01.280 the way it works and most people will never figure this out because they're so insecure and they're so
00:26:06.460 scared of losing some sort of authority if you're scared of a losing authority you never had it in the
00:26:11.020 first place see what i'm saying absolutely so so start look and this is a perspective switch
00:26:17.340 so instead of thinking i'm their boss start thinking i'm here to fucking make them better 0.88
00:26:23.320 and if you think about it like that and you do it with the true intent they're going to feel that
00:26:27.680 they will respond to that and it will change your whole entire fucking organization yeah 0.93
00:26:31.860 i'm just i'm thinking because like dude i mean it makes perfect sense man because like you know
00:26:37.480 these employees they invest a lot into you or into the business that's correct like like there's
00:26:43.300 yeah i mean it's never been talked like that i don't people don't talk about like that
00:26:47.180 well that's because most people don't know yeah that's because that's because what this comes
00:26:52.240 down to the same stuff we talk about on cti all the time what are we shown that a typical ceo looks
00:26:58.300 like what are we shown that a typical leader looks like they're they're like these and by the way my
00:27:05.000 presence doesn't serve me in this regard because i actually have the presence of a stereotypical
00:27:09.880 like leader type person and it hurts me sometimes because i can't the perception is off so if you
00:27:18.700 don't even have that like loud heavy presence as a leader it actually serves you to lead the proper
00:27:24.400 way easier if that makes sense but we're shown this in every single movie in every single fucking 0.68
00:27:31.800 advertisement in every single magazine in every single online article what are we shown about ceos
00:27:37.580 and quote unquote leaders they're they're loud badass you know intense people and you know they
00:27:45.360 don't care about anybody they step on everybody and they're you know what i'm saying like bro you
00:27:50.300 know it's real shit yeah but yeah on the on the access part though like right like with employees 0.73
00:27:56.160 having access to you is that correlating with this friendship it does it wean off the bigger you got
00:28:01.260 to get i mean what how do you like bezos is not best friends with the guy packing boxes in the
00:28:06.840 warehouse right like well i mean look dude that changes as the company changes when you're when
00:28:12.120 you're a small company this is a much harder topic because when you're a small company you spend so
00:28:18.340 much time with the people in your company that it's it you know it's all the time and so that that
00:28:25.740 that quote unquote like boundary does get watered down if you operate the wrong way like i described
00:28:32.140 yeah so but as the company gets bigger and this is why it is important this is a great question
00:28:37.840 this is why it is important for you to become great friends with the people who you have now
00:28:45.360 when your company is a little smaller because those people one day you won't be able to talk to all the
00:28:51.500 time like i won't i i can't see cody every day you know what i'm saying but i'm such good friends
00:28:58.520 with cody that it's like i don't need to see him for 50 years bro and it's still going to be the same
00:29:03.420 you see what i'm saying well now those guys are leading their correct and they have so you have to
00:29:08.020 build those bonds when your company is small so like this even makes my case even stronger it's a
00:29:14.160 good point that i didn't hit on um you have to build those relationships because one day those
00:29:19.560 fucking four or five or six of those people that you are with now are going to be the people that
00:29:25.960 are running your whole entire operation and so if you don't have that that rapport and that love and
00:29:31.300 that relationship and you've led them through fear and blah blah blah it's not gonna work yeah
00:29:36.700 absolutely man i love it uh guys our third and final question any question number three hitting on
00:29:44.780 leadership a little bit more uh question says andy i'm transitioning more into a leadership role
00:29:50.240 uh at work and i'm gaining more responsibilities one of those responsibilities is giving feedback to my
00:29:57.080 co-workers i tend to be straightforward and blunt in doing so i don't want to come off in a way of
00:30:03.300 like breaking them down but instead giving them feedback that will help build them up i'm struggling
00:30:08.600 on phrasing and communicating that effectively have you ever dealt with something like this
00:30:13.580 and how were you able to adjust and uh adjust your delivery and help them improve instead of
00:30:18.820 trying to soften the blow i think it's more important to be honest and direct and i think
00:30:26.360 that just takes repetition and it takes uh practice and and i understand because the first time i ever had
00:30:32.620 to fire someone i fucking cried no shit oh fuck yeah it was horrible dude it was horrible and i like 0.99
00:30:39.060 gave the dude like two weeks worth of pay in cash because i didn't have any fucking money like it was 0.96
00:30:45.700 fuck i just had to fire him though bro he was he was a good guy yeah but he just wasn't i couldn't do 0.96
00:30:50.780 anything with him and um so it's very very difficult in the beginning to be direct um but what i've learned
00:30:59.200 is that it's easier to just get it out on the table and then sort it out than it is to try and like
00:31:05.320 hint around at what the point is and so a good technique that i think young leaders can really
00:31:12.500 use to help with this is to yeah dude just say it just say what the problem is and then watch how they
00:31:19.280 react and then have a conversation and let them get up and walk away or you get up and walk away after
00:31:24.980 you've had the conversation and then come back 10 20 30 minutes later and be like hey look dude
00:31:29.700 that's not fun for me either i don't like having that conversation you know i'm saying but i want
00:31:35.700 you to get better we got we have to get better we have to win this is a team effort here and my job
00:31:40.940 is to point you in the direction where you could be better and so that this is not me like trying to
00:31:46.100 beat you down it's actually me trying to build you up and have that conversation after a little bit
00:31:51.400 of time has passed because then you're you're kind of reinforcing what was said in the first
00:31:56.880 conversation and that's the time where you could like you know fucking hug it out right right right 0.76
00:32:01.500 you know i'm saying right and uh and i found that to be a pretty effective strategy especially for
00:32:06.460 people who are inexperienced like for me i don't usually have to do that anymore like i can solve
00:32:13.520 it right there like we can we have one conversation it's all good um but when i was younger and i
00:32:19.520 wasn't as good with that kind of thing the way i got around it was using that technique i just
00:32:23.900 described you know what i'm saying yeah do you do you think it's easier to have these conversations
00:32:28.160 like the truth conversations was it easier to have those back then or is it you know like versus
00:32:33.560 because i mean dude there's a lot of like nah the younger crowd the younger generation the gen z
00:32:38.080 workers right now right like they're a little bit more emotional yeah so this is fucking real world 0.53
00:32:43.260 you know you gotta you you gotta get them aligned to the real world dude like i don't think you're
00:32:47.920 doing anybody any favors by fucking doing what people have done to those people their whole lives
00:32:51.460 which is fucking lie to them about what it's like to actually be in the real world sugarcoat the shit 0.73
00:32:56.920 yeah part of the problem we have in society and i talk about this a lot but it's that we have so many
00:33:03.120 people that were told one thing all the way through school only to be put out in the real i've actually
00:33:08.200 been talking about this since 2015 when i first started the podcast they you you guys have to really
00:33:15.680 think about this big picture like when people are taught from a young age that it doesn't matter
00:33:22.140 what the score of the game is okay uh that everybody gets a trophy all right that that everybody you know
00:33:30.760 is special and unique and and deserves this the real world doesn't give a fuck about what you deserve
00:33:37.240 it cares what you earn okay so you have to perform this is real shit and so like when you take 0.82
00:33:44.840 someone who's been told this for 20 fucking years and then you put them out in the real world 0.97
00:33:49.740 of course they're going to have some massive issues adjusting over 50 of gen z is on antidepressant
00:33:58.700 fucking medication that's insane yes i know dude it's like 60 something percent say they have they 0.61
00:34:06.860 have depression okay these kids have been indoctrinated to fucking lose so you don't do 0.85
00:34:16.320 them any favors by when they come into your organization pacifying them more because they
00:34:22.980 might not understand bro if they can't fucking understand it and you can't explain it then they 0.95
00:34:28.500 don't belong in your organization and that's just that and eventually they'll get fucking fired from 0.97
00:34:33.600 company after company after company and they'll keep voting democrat socialist shit and they'll
00:34:38.900 never have anything and eventually they'll figure out that holy shit this is not the way the world
00:34:43.600 works the world works on meritocracy okay you could say communism you could say socialism you could say
00:34:49.600 fucking any ism you could have fucking straight up chaos it doesn't matter the peep the natural order 0.97
00:34:56.120 will always win and natural order in business is you have to be great natural order inside of a company
00:35:04.340 is you have to be great and we have been told over many many many years now that if you're you know
00:35:11.940 this certain race you automatically get promoted or you get special treatment or if you throw a temper
00:35:16.960 tantrum or if you go to hr or if you do these things you're going to somehow get that has to stop
00:35:23.580 you guys have to stop pacifying these people because every time you pacify them you're enabling
00:35:30.300 them and you're actually creating a bigger problem for them down the road so like dude i don't really
00:35:36.580 put stock into someone's fucking feelings i understand very clearly how the fucking world works 0.98
00:35:41.800 and here's how i understand it if you're good you got to be great if you're great you got to become
00:35:47.740 undeniable and when you get undeniable that's the only time that nobody can stand in your way
00:35:52.440 so my my advice to any of you out there is to work to become that because there are shitty people
00:36:01.200 there are unfair circumstances there are bad situations there are bad times but at the end of
00:36:08.680 the day if all of those things happen at once you are still worth a ton in terms of financial gain
00:36:17.960 okay which matters a lot whether people want to admit it or not your whole life is built upon your
00:36:23.820 finances everything if you want to be someone who can always be valuable and earn a living
00:36:29.980 your goal should be to become undeniable in all areas that means you should be fit that means you
00:36:37.300 should be educated that means you should be uh you know the hardest worker that means you should be
00:36:43.140 you know as smart as your brain could possibly be and i know that you can do it guys because guess
00:36:48.280 what i'm not the smartest motherfucker there's things that basic humans know that i don't even 0.95
00:36:53.820 i don't know how to long divide bro i i can't even spell shit if it wasn't for spell check bro i'd be 0.77
00:36:59.940 fucked okay like there you don't have to be highly intelligent you just have to be highly disciplined
00:37:07.100 and that's why i talk about discipline so much because everything about becoming undeniable is
00:37:13.400 built on discipline as the foundation this is why i built the live hard program which you can go listen
00:37:19.040 to at episode 208 it's fucking free that's where i would start if you want to become undeniable 0.96
00:37:24.260 if you want to become great if you want to become someone who's always a value can always find a job
00:37:29.880 even the hardest motherfucking circumstances or can always find a way to earn income in the hardest
00:37:35.280 circumstances you have to become undeniable and that that is that's just the way it is that's how
00:37:41.420 it works and there's nothing that any of you out there could could fucking could say to convince me 0.83
00:37:48.380 otherwise it's a meritocracy system become fucking great if you if you operate in a communist country
00:37:54.120 the the most undeniable people still fucking win okay if you operate in chaos like we have anarchy
00:38:02.520 the most undeniable people still fucking win so it's the only insurance against what's going on 0.84
00:38:08.480 in the world to become undeniably fucking great whatever it is you do yeah that should be the goal for
00:38:12.740 everybody and that's the way it works so i don't fucking i don't pacify these people if someone comes in 0.97
00:38:20.600 and they have like you know i don't have to do this anymore because we built such a strong culture that
00:38:26.260 weeds those people out before i even know who their fucking names are okay but 0.99
00:38:30.820 that's you know if i have someone who doesn't who hasn't ever understood that and i could sit down
00:38:38.480 and i could say okay
00:38:39.660 you like do you like sports usually these people don't and they'll say no and i'll say i'll say okay
00:38:49.120 well but do you know what sports are yeah okay well who are some of the highest paid people in
00:38:55.760 the world they're going to say well fucking athletes and they'll usually say well that's 0.88
00:38:58.640 bullshit too blah blah blah right and i'll say okay well if these people are paid at 50 million
00:39:07.040 dollars a year to play this sport how are they judged what determines their paycheck and i start
00:39:13.720 getting them to tell me yeah of this very un basic easy understand understandable concept of
00:39:21.140 meritocracy you don't get a 50 million dollar contract in fucking baseball without fucking 0.95
00:39:26.620 being great 50 million dollars worth of work baby that's it oh yeah that's just playing a game that's
00:39:32.880 what yeah you know what though they've been practicing that game for tens of thousands of hours since they
00:39:39.180 were fucking four when was the last time a hundred thousand people showed up to watch you do your 0.93
00:39:46.540 fucking job you see what i'm saying so a lot of these people have a very fucking skewed sense of 0.71
00:39:53.160 what reality is this is why i started the show all right and what we have to do as people who
00:39:59.440 understand reality is to live it and then let them ask us why why are we why is everything working out
00:40:07.100 for us well because we're playing on a different board than you're playing on and the one that
00:40:11.340 these motherfuckers taught you for the last fucking 20 years of your life was a lie and that's very
00:40:17.360 hard for people to wrap their brain around it's very hard it's wrong but it's true yeah it's true man
00:40:27.880 kids don't keep score in fucking sports dude think about that scoreboards off 0.97
00:40:34.140 it's a complete 180 degree opposite of how the world actually works
00:40:42.500 so why are we teaching our kids that well we're teaching our kids that because when they come out
00:40:51.780 of school and they get their fucking faces smashed in in a meritocracy environment whatever ism you want 0.85
00:40:57.500 to say it is they hate that environment and they do everything they can to do what against that
00:41:03.420 break that shit down yeah and what and which way do they vote do they vote for more communist policies
00:41:09.480 more socialist policies more free shit for them of course they vote for free shit for them because
00:41:14.860 they're not competitive to fucking earn it this is the goal this creates a power base for these people
00:41:20.680 in power this has always been the goal and people still refuse to fucking acknowledge it or 0.87
00:41:25.720 understand it people will never ever ever ever ever vote their way to prosperity it will not fucking 0.97
00:41:34.520 happen and that's the biggest fucking lie that's told these kids and anybody to be quite honest so
00:41:41.020 yeah anyway stop pacifying these people tell the truth um get comfortable having the conversation
00:41:47.900 because it's a skill that you're going to need and you're going to you're going to need it more and
00:41:51.280 more as things get bigger and bigger and uh you know use my technique of laying it out sorting it
00:41:57.080 out letting it kind of be a shit show for a minute say what you got to say let them say what they're 0.64
00:42:01.120 going to say then say what you got to say again you understand yeah i got it you know let them be
00:42:05.540 upset come back 30 minutes later and say hey look i love you dude i'm trying to make you better that's
00:42:11.940 my job here i want you to win i want you to have a career i want you to be as successful as possible
00:42:16.620 it's not fun for me to do those things or say those things either but it's the truth and we need
00:42:22.920 to get better and hug it the fuck out it's real it's it works i've never had it not work i say that 0.73
00:42:29.720 so love it man well guys andy that's three look at that wait we got should we take a break 44 minutes
00:42:39.980 and 28 seconds yeah just about 32 yeah whatever 36 right on that 45
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