443. Q&AF： Resisting Cravings, Maintaining Relationships With Customers & Personal Development For Your Employees
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In this episode of Q&A, we have a special guest on the show, and we talk about how to win at business, entrepreneurship, and anything else going on in the world. If you want to know how to fucking win, write your questions in on Q&AF and let me answer them.
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What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to
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the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality
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guys today we have Q and AF that's where you submit your questions and I answer them they
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can be about anything can be about life be about business be about entrepreneurship be
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about winning be about anything going on in the world whatever whatever you want to ask that's
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what this shows about okay you could submit your questions two different ways the first
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way is you can email those questions into guys email those questions to ask Andy at
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andy for seller.com or if you go on YouTube and just as a reminder we are posting the
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other podcasts that are out there in the world so for all of those things there is a fee the fee is
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very simple if you got value out of the show if you were entertained by the show if the show taught
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you something now remember this show is primarily an entrepreneurship success show I had a podcast
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for a long time that was at the top of the charts for a long time called the MFCEO project I'm
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actually starting that podcast again but it's going to be on a private platform so the basis of
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this is personal development so if you want to know how to fucking win I would suggest you write
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your questions in on Q&A F and let me answer them because this is the only place that I do live Q&A
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ever so that's the show man I don't take money from people I don't let people advertise on my show I
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can make eight figures a year based on the traffic of this show I don't do it because I don't want to
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answer to people so all I ask in return is that if you get something from the show if it helps you
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win if it changes your perspective if it makes you laugh whatever just tell some people man okay and
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especially about YouTube we just started on YouTube it's going real good for just getting started
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this is going to be a long-term play for us we're going to post this show on YouTube for the rest of
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time until they kick us off which may be soon but until they do follow us on YouTube as well
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man go hit subscribe I know most of you guys listen on audio we've been audio exclusive for
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eight and a half years and now we're moving over to video as well so if you like to watch podcasts
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go watch it a lot of people are giving me good feedback I'm watching the podcast too like a lot
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of people like the uh they like the animation that I speak with what's that what's that subcategory
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voyagers what what's it when they here's the thing about podcasts like when you don't have good shit to
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say you shut the fuck up so what were you trying to say the voyage like what is it called when they
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like to watch lawyer yeah from now on just cut the motherfuckers mic off until I get done with my shit
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okay all right now now what were you what were you trying to say what is it called voyeurs voyeur
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yeah well I thought you were talking about you said voyager I didn't know what like the actual
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word because I'm like you know well voyeur is like watching someone when they don't know you're
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watching yeah like that's what our people like yeah but I would know they were watching because I
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could see the view count oh yeah that makes sense anything else nope that's it okay what's up man
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what's going on nothing oh shit I don't know a lot's going on in the world yeah what day what
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day you on in uh on 75 day 23 yeah how's it going bro it's crazy um I'm glad you brought that up
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because uh I love to talk about myself and so I just so uh no I'm glad you brought it up for real
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dude because you know there's a lot of people right now who are kind of deciding what it is
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they want to do at the beginning of the year right they're like all right my year is kind of fucked uh
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I'm going to continue to get fatter for the next fucking two weeks right even though that's the bad
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decision they're going to do it and they're thinking about what to do and I got to be honest
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with you guys um you know this past year from when I had my shoulder surgery I had my entire
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right shoulder reconstructed uh I wasn't able to train I I was I got through 75 hard a couple times
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and through the phases but it was like it was very much like me having to do it in a half-ass way
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because I couldn't fucking train the way I like to train that's just the truth I did what I could
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and it helped keep me within striking distance and everything and I'm very proud of the of what I did
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over the last year uh but it was a mental struggle dude and I was mentally fucked up and
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in the middle of that year I also got off Lexapro and you know this this just just this past year has
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been an entirely different kind of mental struggle for me and it started at 75 hard 70 or 23 days ago
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because I was at a place where I could train again and uh I was at a place where um I needed it
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mentally and I told Emily I said well because like you got to remember when I started this
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back in 2019 or 18 or whatever it was I've been on the program ever since so my mental capacity was
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finally tuned that entire time I never let it go back right and because of the injury and the
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circumstances of this year I mean bro like 23 days ago when I started I was at my mental now now you
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guys don't really know this because I don't fucking bitch and cry and moan I'm not a fucking victim
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but I mean real talk dude like I was mentally fucking struggling like bad yeah you had depleted
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that that bank account yeah 100% and and uh I told Emily I said well we're gonna find the fuck out how
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well this program really works you know because like dude even as much as I know about the program
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and the book I wrote and the success I mean bro it's the most popular fitness mental toughness training
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program fucking ever like ever ever ever in history of earth there's a reason for it too it's not
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because I go promote it you guys don't see me promoting this shit everywhere running ads all
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over the fucking planet it's because it works that's why I give it away for fucking free and if
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you're interested in it you can go to episode 208 and listen to the whole program get it for free
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there's also a book available on my website it's not necessary but if you want to know the inner
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workings of the entire program if you're that kind of person needs to know everything like I am
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uh it's a it's a great book to read but like I remember I told her I said dude we're gonna find
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out how well this works and here we are 23 days bro like 23 fucking days later okay and I I am easily
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easily in the best mental state that I've been in since I was injured in September of 21
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like not even questionable in 23 days in 23 fucking days and that's what that's that's what you can do
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when you actually fucking just go all in on something you know what I mean like bro I've
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been perfect on this program I've read every bit of the reading I've drank every ounce of the water
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I've hit every fucking workout I've I've hit every workout with intensity I've hit every cardio session
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I I've got every picture like bro it is I'm talking about and there's only one way to do it which is
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that way that way yeah but I was able to do it with the proper intent because I'm not injured anymore
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the way I was now am I 100% no I'm not but I'm to a place where I can hit it pretty hard
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and just the mental improvement that I've made in the last 23 days in terms of how I felt then and
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how I feel now it blows my fucking mind because it's so drastic like it's so fucking drastic and
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like for those of you guys who are out there struggling who are like you can't find your groove
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you can't figure out what the fuck is missing you can't figure out how to get your life back on track
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I cannot recommend this program enough and it is fucking free I'm not asking you to buy anything
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but listen to episode 208 if you're in this place of despair if you're in this place of frustration if
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you're in this place of anger low self-esteem low belief low confidence okay and you're frustrated
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with everything that you got going on this is the shit that will get you on track I fucking promise
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you yeah I fucking promise you if you do the things the way they are dictated out I'm not
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talking about making your own program I'm not talking about your 75 hard I'm not talking about
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making a version of 75 hard it's funny how so many people think they can edit the program up
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and can't draw the conclusion in their brain that the reason their entire life fucking sucks is because
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they take every single thing that is exceptionally hard and try to adjust it to them they believe
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that they can adjust the circumstances of the world to suit them which is ultimately and this is a bigger
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discussion the problem with the entire culture especially in this country right now some things
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are just going to be fucking hard some things you're going to have to push through you don't get to
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change all the things that you want to change and make all the stars align in this place where
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you know everything is going to be perfect before you get to achieve that is not how the fuck it
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works and so if you are one of these people who is like just looking for a fucking out from where
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you feel in that place of misery and hopelessness and low self-esteem low confidence and you're looking
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to figure out what the fuck you are and who you are do this fucking program do the entire fucking
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live hard program for one fucking year and then tell me about how much it changed your life bro right
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don't go fucking half-ass it i'm saying go all the fucking you motherfuckers could change your whole
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life the whole trajectory of your life the whole trajectory of your fucking families and your
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friends life by just committing to one year and i'm not asking you to do one year continuously right
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i'm asking you to do 75 days and then three 30-day phases it isn't even half the fucking year
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okay go all in and look at what your life looks like a year from now i promise you it will be
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unrecognizable so we were just talking about it this morning actually like because we were talking
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about we have this guy that we you know you and i know and every time we see him he just looks
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fucking miserable right we were talking about that i said dude could you imagine waking up having that
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type of outlook on life and then you you added in you was like yeah but imagine waking up having that
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mentality and not doing anything about it that's what most people do and i think like for me so you
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know i just finished uh phase one yesterday was my last day and i think for me personally the craziest
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thing about live hard is just how it changes your outlook on life like just how you look at fucking
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everything right and quick example i know we gotta get into q a no we don't but whatever the fuck we
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want that's true yeah uh this was maybe what like two weeks ago maybe two weeks ago um we had uh we had
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to record right and i was getting my workout in because here's here's a beautiful thing you learn
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that there is so much more in your fucking control right it's how you choose to look at right and so
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i was getting my workout in i was hitting legs and i think we like i will record at 12 or at one o'clock
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or something like that right we had to set and then uh i was like 30 minutes into my workout okay yeah
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and we had got the text like all right you know autobots roll out we got to record right and i'm like
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fuck got 10 minutes i had 10 minutes left right and there was like like literally maybe two seconds
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in my mind i started like to fucking bitch and complain i'm like fuck i'm gonna have to do this
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workout all over but then but then it fucking clicked like no dj this is a fucking great opportunity for
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you to fucking kick ass again so you're gonna go fucking record have the best fucking show gonna
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get your outdoor workout in and you're gonna do another fucking workout like it's just how you
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choose to look at this shit that like without this program bro i would have fucking probably just
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quit there you know i'm saying yeah i think one of the biggest benefits of the program anybody who's
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actually done it the right way will tell you this i mean it's universal and you've heard them anybody
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who's come on the show tells you this it makes you completely aware of those two voices that we talk
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about in the book your bitch voice and your boss voice and like bro i had a moment last night
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that actually fucking like this is just a small example of how it start you start to become so hyper
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aware of the the conversation that's happening yes like last night so i was getting in bed and
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like normally when i get in bed like i take all my clothes off right and i throw them on over on the
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side of the bed and like like that's what i do this off every little bit no and then i when i wake
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up in the morning to go to the fucking shower i scoop them up take them in okay but last night
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and this is this is just a small example last night i did that and i saw the clothes on the floor
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and i'm like fuck i got the fuck back up out of bed i scooped the shit up i took it in at that night
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okay and all it was was me recognizing an opportunity for me to get better yeah okay just that small little
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opportunity but it actually when you get into the depths of 75 heart and the mental conversation and
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you become so aware of of it to the point where you you can't look at things that are fucked up and
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not do something about it now you start to realize how it impacts everything that you do right absolutely
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so like you know it's just good it's just i don't know i feel good because you know sometimes dude like
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in business and life especially as an entrepreneur creator you know you create things that you know are
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like pretty good but you're not sure how good they are and i guess because of the hard year that i had
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i had a you know i had gotten so far out of the realm of where i was before that i actually started to
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like question my own shit and just like it just feels good that i'm 23 days in and i'm literally like
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i you know i just went through the fucking most horrific withdrawals ever from coming off lexa pro
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i've been on for 11 years uh over you know august september part of october basically still a
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little bit now but just to like see how quickly i've come back online in 23 fucking days bro like
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it gets me fucking excited and that's not even talking about like the changes i've made in my body
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like i'm down right like i'm i'm gonna be fucking zeus at the end of this motherfucker you know what i'm
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saying yeah so like it's just such a good feeling to know that like this program really fucking works
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and it really fucking changes people and um i'm just kind of riding the momentum of that you know
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what i mean like it's exciting like when i get up in the morning like i'm getting up earlier because
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i'm excited to go fucking get my shit done you know um and that's the other thing too bro like
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people don't realize how much time yeah they actually have like bro listen and this is not a
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dig any of you guys like there might be some busy people that listen but none of you are busier than
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me okay now i'm not saying i'm busier than you but i'm that busy i'm at max level fucking handle
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shit and and if i'm being honest and i'm being fair most people out there listening if you came and
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worked me for one day you'd fucking go home the next day you wouldn't come back okay it's it's
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fucking high pressure it's high stress it's high responsibility all the fucking time and just your
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ability to handle the day-to-day stresses of like being a winner and going out and trying to do shit
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you know because if you're sitting on the couch watch fucking netflix and you go through 75 hard
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it's it's it's easier because you don't have all the rest of the shit and what ends up happening is
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people realize holy shit i've been wasting all my life and they become more productive but if you're
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already a high producing individual and you do it it's it's almost counterintuitive because those
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people would be like i don't got time for that but the reality is you don't have time not to do it
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because it makes you so much fucking better at everything that you do yeah and you consistently
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move forward in all your personal development day by day by day that you catch this momentum
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and this power and a lot of it too comes from reading the reading part is just as important as
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people don't realize how much energy and how much drive and how much brain power
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is cultivated by simply being a diligent dedicated reader yeah like when i'm reading and i'm reading
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books on personal development and getting better dude my my creativity is 1000 times better my ability to
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come in and find solutions to tough problems is way better like everything's better so i don't know
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man like i'm just i'm just fucking happy that i'm here i'm happy that i'm that i've gotten back to this
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place where i need to be mentally i feel about as good as i felt in the last couple years and i'm only
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23 days in and i'm i'm fucking excited to like be rocking it out fuck yeah bro you know what i'm saying
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i just told somebody that in my dms i was just having this conversation because they're like man i want to
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be 75 hard but i got kids i said you don't do your kids you have more time with your kids i said do
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your kids not deserve the best version of you like do they not are they not worth that you know
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i'm saying like ryan's gonna like bro ryan don't even know what the fuck is coming to her yeah you
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know what i'm saying like i'm not even there yet yeah like like i don't know i think i think it's
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awesome and like and here's the thing i like if you if you think your life looks like shit right now
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it's okay yeah it's fine yeah it's a fucking work yeah that's it that is it so and it can be it can
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be turned around in a very short relative amount of time shorter than you think bro i'm a hundred
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percent convinced and obviously this is my program that i wrote and all that shit uh might be a little
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biased listen i'm not biased though because the results speak for itself bro yeah the motherfuckers
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got billions of fucking hashtags across the fucking internet okay so you have people of all over the
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fucking world doing this yeah all right and the reason that it hasn't burned out as some sort of
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fad is because it fucking works and you can always go back to it yeah and that's what's so exciting to
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me about it like bro it really is it really fucking is a true solution to getting yourself out of a
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fucking bad space and back on track and and showing you what you're actually capable of i don't know man
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i'm i'm excited yeah i'm excited for you bro yeah yeah well i got i got some good ones for you i know
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you do yeah let's get into these questions uh andy question number one uh let's coming right off of
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that conversation actually so you you have grown leaps and bounds right with your health transformation
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over the years um and you always talk about how you are by tradition a fat kid um and how you used to
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love to eat all the bad food uh and choices like many of us struggle with my question is how do you
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approach uh or what strategies specifically do you use to resist the cravings for the uh your junk your
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favorite junk food uh fries pizza whatever it is um do you still crave those types of food um or
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you know has you know live hard 75 hard has that stuff just been afterthoughts for you now
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100 afterthoughts i don't have like dude look i was actually just having this conversation the other
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day it's fucking insane so for me to look back and think about how i used to approach food
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like what used to happen to me would be like i'd be on a program right i'd be on a diet i said i'm
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gonna fucking start and be monday right yeah by wednesday i'm justifying why i deserve some sort of
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cheat meal okay and then what i end up doing is you know i would have a craving or i would have a
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um like bro you gotta understand i couldn't go fucking a full week without cheating up until
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started 75 hard there was only one time ever that i went more than six days ever without cheating
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without some type of cheat yeah i never i think the cheat day cheat meal shit is the biggest fucking
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bullshit fucking thing that anybody has ever fucking done to dieting because and people will
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argue that they get really pissed off because they love their fucking cheat meals but the truth is
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is that if you're a if you're addicted to fucking food five or six days is not a long enough time for
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you to get over that addiction so what happens is people go five or six days they have a fucking cheat
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meal and all of a sudden they're back in the zone and the next day and any of you that fucking cheat on
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your diets you all know that the very next day after the cheat meal is the hardest fucking day to stick
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your diet okay so i used to have these agonizing like hours long battles in my mind about whether
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or not i should cheat or not cheat or what i should get to eat or not and most of the time i lost those
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battles most of the time i ended up ordering a pizza and i figured out how to justify it because the truth
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is we all know the shit that we need to hear to get us to make the wrong decision yeah we are the best
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bad influence to ourselves yep say the right words yeah correct so like i i would all and always and
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by the way every time i gave in what happened i felt like shit about myself afterwards it drove my
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self-esteem my confidence my belief all of those things that are important into the shitter because
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i knew even though i justified it that it was wrong okay but i couldn't help it i couldn't fucking help
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it and what really got me over it was the long-term abstinence from the program of live hard 75 hard
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program uh that it makes you go through and so the first time i did 75 hard like and i got to like
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eight days without a cheat meal i can remember because we had a text group going with a bunch of
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guys at work that were doing it as well and i was like fuck dude i feel good i can't believe like it was
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like this big mental block of getting past that that first weekend right but once i got past it i
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gained the confidence that it was no big deal right and i kept going and i forced myself through that
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first program the first time i ever did it and the truth of the matter is is we as humans have a hard
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time understanding what we're capable of until we actually do it right so a lot of people who look
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at 75 hard like i fucking can't go 75 days without drinking i can't go 75 days without a fucking
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cheat meal or candy or whatever to whatever it is they like yeah and the truth of the matter is you
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can't because you're telling yourself you can't and you've been doing this habitual behavior your whole
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entire life and the purpose of that 75 day stretch is to actually rewire your brain to a point where
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it's no longer thinking the same way as it did before so when you talk about cravings like yeah
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i still like fucking french fries yeah i still like pizza yeah i still like those things but i also have
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removed myself from those things having control over me and created a scenario where now i have control
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over that yeah okay and that's powerful shit because most of the things that you fail at in life are
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things that you give your power to uh as opposed to reserving the power for yourself and making a
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decision so like i was the person who could not go more than a week without cheating i really couldn't
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go three days i would have to have a cheat meal on wednesday night is what i always how i always
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fucking justified and then i would have only one meal on sunday and that was kind of like that was
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kind of like a full day of cheating so it was actually the same thing right right all right so like
00:24:44.640
that's the story i would tell myself well i'll work extra hard tomorrow correct so like i would
00:24:49.480
justify all these things but the reality is dude how weak of a person are you that an inanimate object
00:24:58.540
a beer a fucking meal a fucking pizza that this thing that some other person made or manufactured has
00:25:07.040
power over me i'm not willing to accept that i'm not willing to believe that that's true and so
00:25:14.340
what happened for me and what happens for people that actually do the program the proper way
00:25:18.880
is they start to see it that way too you almost take an adversarial relationship towards these things
00:25:25.500
and people say well that's not healthy blah blah blah oh well it's a hell of a lot healthier than
00:25:30.020
consuming shit that makes you fucking addicted to it uh 24 hours a day and being a fat fuck all right
00:25:36.200
so i don't want to hear about healthy relationships with food an unhealthy relationship with food is
00:25:42.280
someone who has no power or no ability to say no to whatever the fuck is put in front of their face
00:25:48.480
yeah that's how i was okay so now once i switch my mentality and i practice the first time i went
00:25:55.900
through it was the big time that was the time where a lot of shit really got rewired and the way that i
00:26:01.040
forced myself through it was by like i have to finish this no matter what and i tied tremendous value
00:26:07.180
like i i said dude because i was doing in the public the first time i did it like the first time 75 hard
00:26:12.440
was accomplished i did it in front of the whole fucking world so like i didn't like i wasn't doing
00:26:16.320
it quietly right so i knew that if i fucking failed that was it that was it for me bro so there was no
00:26:21.740
fucking option like there was no i was fucking finishing no matter what and by going through that
00:26:26.840
program i was able to separate my feelings and my understanding about these outside circumstances
00:26:33.860
the alcohol the food the pizza the french fries the shit that i fucking love and i start and then
00:26:39.660
like you know i it became easy to say no like now i look at it and i'm like fuck you like i don't have
00:26:45.420
fucking i'm fucking doing that yeah and honestly it's gotten so far for me like because i understand
00:26:50.880
you also have to understand in the last four years i've gotten immensely more successful in all areas
00:26:57.020
of my life there's a direct correlation yes yeah so so now when i look at fuck when i look at a bucket of
00:27:02.980
beer in 2000 fucking 18 i'm like bro fucking ice bucket of beer let's fucking get it right and we're
00:27:08.760
sitting at a table drinking beer i'm fucking justifying now when i when i like and this is
00:27:12.700
going to sound ignorant but it is what the fuck it is now when i go to a restaurant and i order my
00:27:17.480
healthy food and i look at motherfuckers that are fat as shit over there drinking a beer i'm like those
00:27:21.100
are fucking peasants they're weak motherfuckers that's how i look at it and i do judge them and that's
00:27:26.640
reality yeah okay so i look at these things now i understand they're in a different place than me and i
00:27:32.660
understand that they're no i'm no better than them because i used to be the same way for you
00:27:36.580
but what i how i look at it is that that's what peasants fucking do that's what fucking losers do
00:27:43.420
that's what weak people do and i've told myself that story in my head so much that like bro while
00:27:49.220
i still may enjoy a couple drinks a year they're drinks that i enjoy on my terms right i'm making
00:27:54.520
the you've been around me when i drink i fucking say i'm drinking today yeah there's no guilt there's
00:27:59.300
no fucking feeling bad it just is what the fuck it is because i've earned that and i've now positioned
00:28:04.620
myself properly to where i'm in control and not these things and this is what the program will
00:28:09.760
really help you sort through so um i don't i hope that answers the question 100 it is a war is how
00:28:17.160
you're looking at it yeah it's it's a fucking war you gotta be conscious of yeah and i and like dude
00:28:21.360
when you start to recognize like for me bro like i struggle with alcohol okay like like dude i i was a
00:28:28.320
guy who i like if you go back and listen to msco project the original you'll hear me talk about
00:28:34.020
drinking whiskey and you'll fucking hear me talk like real loose like bro shit and like but i was
00:28:39.020
the guy that fucking when i i got drinks with me bro i wasn't the same dude you know i'm saying i'm
00:28:43.540
doing fucked up shit i'm not being a good dude i'm fucking being i'm i'm being fucking too wild
00:28:47.960
i'm getting too out there and that was the alcohol bro and you know when i started to recognize
00:28:53.720
this shit bro i'm like no fuck that that makes me fucking weak it makes me somebody i don't want
00:28:58.040
to be i'm not going to be that fucking person and that's why i fucking haven't had whiskey since
00:29:02.120
fucking 2018 yeah when when if you go back and listen to my old shows i fucking love whiskey
00:29:08.200
i fucking still love whiskey but i don't drink whiskey because i know what the fuck it's about
00:29:12.860
makes me weak yeah okay superman don't fucking have kryptonite cocktail right you know i'm saying
00:29:18.120
so like i've recognized these things that are damaging to me food social situations whiskey
00:29:26.380
okay now now when i drink you i drink beer right right i could drink 30 fucking beers and be a
00:29:31.740
normal human it's just reality yeah it's weird how that works man it is yeah but that's still only
00:29:38.420
what three four times a year maybe it may be yeah so i you know it's a process and i don't expect
00:29:46.560
everybody who's in that first place where i was where like that all that shit i couldn't say no to
00:29:53.540
to understand what i'm saying but what i will tell you is that there is a fucking way out there is a
00:29:58.820
solution to this and you can become that the that motherfucker that you look at and admire for their
00:30:04.900
ability to not do these things like bro because i've been in the fitness space forever and i always i
00:30:10.540
always admired these people um and was sometimes very jealous of these people who had the ability to
00:30:16.420
stay on a program or a diet like people who would be able to go out to eat at a restaurant and they'd
00:30:21.560
order healthy food like i never fucking made sense to me right like i couldn't fucking get it because
00:30:25.840
like dude i had zero control bro like if i went like like if you and i went to twisted tree fucking
00:30:31.060
four years ago bro i'm ordering four different appetizers fucking all the bad ones you know what i'm
00:30:36.920
saying like i can't help it i couldn't help it that's how i fucking grew up dude yeah and that's what
00:30:41.600
i was accustomed to and so um the overall mental change that happens and anybody who's been following
00:30:48.880
me for the last four years can fucking see it yeah right um i even saw some people on youtube
00:30:55.020
comment like i guess who hadn't seen me in a few years and they're like oh it looks like andy finally
00:31:00.020
got in shape good for him yeah i started in 2015 i lost i lost 110 pounds in 2016 yeah so i don't know
00:31:07.400
where the fuck you been but i've been fucking jacked for a while now motherfucker but anyway
00:31:13.620
oh that's real man yeah and by the way there's nothing cooler than walking around looking like
00:31:17.940
a fucking physical specimen bro and feeling fucking good about yourself and knowing that nobody can
00:31:22.680
fuck with you yeah there's not a fucking person in this world who fucking come set something in
00:31:26.380
front of me that is tempting that i'll fuck that i can't easily say no that's not what i'm doing
00:31:30.420
yeah and that's ultimate confidence that's the goal of this program so um so yeah man love it yeah
00:31:38.140
uh that was question number one i think that's an important that last question bro super important
00:31:44.140
to people who struggle with food like you guys who struck because like dude it used to drive my
00:31:48.820
self-worth into the shitter yeah that i could not control my fucking i i couldn't control what i put
00:31:55.000
my mouth bro you know i'm saying like like imagine imagine how shitty you feel when all you want is to
00:32:03.280
not be a fat fuck but you cannot control putting the shit in your fucking mouth like bro it's a it's a
00:32:10.300
hopeless feeling and it's very important to me you know and we joke around a lot on this show but it's
00:32:15.380
very important for me for you guys who feel that way because i know there's a lot of you out there
00:32:19.800
to realize that that is not something that you can't work yourself out of you're not just genetics
00:32:25.840
it's not just you grow up in a fat family like that's not what this is this is that you have
00:32:31.860
been taught your whole entire life that discipline grit fortitude confidence are are traits that people
00:32:40.300
have or do not have and you've never considered the fact that maybe you just haven't developed these
00:32:44.860
things because they're actually skills not traits so if you're out there and you're hopeless and
00:32:50.120
you're struggling like i was understand that these are skills that you just haven't built yet
00:32:54.940
and you you can build them so it's very it's very close to my heart for people to understand 100
00:33:00.680
uh any question number two andy i started my business a little over four years ago uh and went days
00:33:10.920
without seeing customers for the first three years so naturally i developed the make a friend
00:33:16.280
make a sale strategy uh the business has grown but now i'm spending so much time working on the
00:33:23.120
business that i don't have time to chat with 20 people a day like i used to i care about these
00:33:27.960
people and i want to chat with them but my mind is always in a different place when i do and i'm
00:33:32.520
struggling to really connect with these people have you struggled with this and if so how do you
00:33:36.580
overcome it well yeah dude i mean of course it's only going to get harder the bigger you get
00:33:42.360
you know like you're going to get to a point in your business where you don't even know everybody
00:33:46.220
that works in your building so like it's very very difficult uh especially as you get bigger and i
00:33:52.280
could totally understand what you're saying but also here's what i will remind you of how did you go
00:33:58.160
from that business you struggle for the first three years to the business that now you're so busy
00:34:02.600
you don't have time to do this shit how'd you do that yeah oh well you said it in your question
00:34:07.480
right you said you adopted the make a friend make a sale mentality so how you should think about this
00:34:13.300
is um now it's not that you don't have time it's that you don't have time for the other shit okay if
00:34:18.760
you want your business to continue to grow so you're going to have to do the best that you can
00:34:22.640
and you're also going to have to teach the people around you to do the best that they can
00:34:26.880
that way when someone can't get immediate access to you they can now deal with someone in
00:34:32.560
your organization that makes them feel the same way value yeah and you should value them
00:34:37.120
yeah because they are your fucking business okay and as you get bigger i'll just tell you
00:34:41.820
this is human nature i run into this quite often
00:34:44.520
i can't give the same energy that i was able to give 10 years ago or five years ago it's not
00:34:51.140
realistic and you're going to have people that think that you're a literal piece of shit and they're
00:34:57.640
going to say to you uh they're going to say about you oh you know he's gotten too big or he's got now
00:35:03.820
he thinks he's too cool or this or that or this when in reality bro it's a very selfish thing for
00:35:08.640
them to be like because i've given them everything i could fucking give them and now they're not
00:35:12.860
recognizing that look like i'm actually just doing the best that i can it's like drinking from a
00:35:17.000
fucking fire hose right you know and what's funny is i'm the kind of person where like you don't i don't
00:35:21.780
have to talk to people every day i actually think this is a trait of actual winners versus losers i
00:35:27.980
think busy people understand busy people and people who are actually doing things in real life
00:35:33.140
on a on an ambitious they are low maintenance friends they are people that you don't have to have
00:35:39.360
a conversation with every fucking day or every week or every six months and you can call them
00:35:44.520
and pick up right where the fuck you left off every big winner that i know operates that way
00:35:49.720
and every person i know that operates the other way where when you don't talk to them for 30 days
00:35:55.000
they get their fucking feelings hurt they start saying passive aggressive bullshit pussy shit yeah
00:35:59.780
okay and then you know if it goes six months now they just hate you and they unfollow you and you're a
00:36:04.400
fucking piece of shit those are the fucking losers that aren't doing shit okay so recognize like when
00:36:10.300
these people come at you when you've given them your best that there there's nothing that you can do for
00:36:15.560
them because you've given them your best so continue to give your best to every single person
00:36:20.760
you can even if it's not the same amount that you were able to give five years ago or four years ago
00:36:25.880
or 10 years ago um and continue to run the play the right people will understand that yeah my friends
00:36:33.200
all my friends that i want to be friends with the people that i want to surround myself with i might not
00:36:39.660
talk to them for i might talk bro i don't i don't i might not talk to ed my let for fucking weeks yeah
00:36:44.800
i might not talk to ed my let and only see him on our fucking rt calls like but like there's we're not
00:36:50.320
like mad at each other like i'm not questioning my friendship with them i understand ed has his life
00:36:56.140
he understands that i have my life same thing with honey honey's one of my best friends in the world i
00:37:01.340
don't fucking talk to honey every single day right now i talk to honey a lot but you know it's not
00:37:07.160
there's not if it goes two weeks or it goes a month it's not hey you know what the fuck right
00:37:13.360
you know what i'm saying like that it's just a there's a there's a distinct difference between
00:37:18.720
how winners can handle that and how losers can't handle that and so like my advice to you as you
00:37:25.900
grow and you start to have people that are going to like say you're too good for them or this or that
00:37:30.500
when you've actually given them everything you fucking give for them and you've done everything you
00:37:34.580
can for them is just to understand that those people are going to be that way with every single
00:37:38.680
person in their life and their their existence is miserable they take everything personal there's
00:37:43.340
actually a book about this called the four agreements you can read it and it talks about
00:37:46.960
not taking shit personal yeah so like if you listen to my show and we used to talk on the phone and you
00:37:52.360
think i feel some sort of way because we don't talk anymore if you fucking call me and got me on the
00:37:56.500
phone it would be the same shit right like i'm i'm still the same dude i'm just running my
00:38:01.240
fucking life and winners understand that and people who don't have shit going on don't yeah
00:38:05.960
it's like what what's understood doesn't need to be explained not with people who are doing stuff
00:38:10.120
yeah that's because they're all fucking busy yeah you know busy people understand busy people and like
00:38:15.080
they don't take it personal but to get back to the question that this person's asking you got to do the
00:38:20.440
best you can bro because if you start thinking that you you can just delegate that magic of you
00:38:26.300
being present and talking to people and making friends you're fucking wrong my whole part but
00:38:31.580
most valuable part of what i do these days is that it's networking with the with the right people
00:38:39.820
it's making sure that i give people attention that i need to give people that need my attention
00:38:44.940
uh it's pouring into these people here and all of that is energy that you have to figure out a way to
00:38:50.960
put out the best that you can and you can't be thinking about your phone or what's going on at home
00:38:55.620
or what's going on uh over here when you're actually present and so like being able to
00:39:01.220
mentally focus and be present for people uh will actually make you feel like you have a lot more
00:39:08.180
time than you do because you'll be able to with high focus put a lot more into somebody or into a
00:39:14.340
relationship in a shorter amount of time when you're not distracted yeah so by not being distracted
00:39:19.380
and actually focusing you can actually spend less time and get the same value with people and and
00:39:25.140
that's important because you're going to have less and less time i'll argue more value yeah
00:39:29.060
that's probably the reason we stopped doing doing pictures you know for for big events and stuff
00:39:33.140
like you'd rather go talk to these people whether it's yeah like that's the thing yeah like i won't
00:39:37.780
do selfies with people so like when i go to like like if you guys come to summer smash or i go to an
00:39:43.460
event or i go to like arte event or i'm speaking somewhere or whatever and you come up and ask
00:39:48.340
me for a selfie the answer is no yeah and it's not because i want to be rude it's because i will
00:39:53.540
talk to you right but i'm not your like i'm not here for clout bro right like i'm here to change
00:39:58.900
motherfuckers lives and so like i would rather spend two minutes shaking your hand hearing your
00:40:05.140
story than you coming up and saying hey man could i get a selfie and then bolt knock yeah right
00:40:10.340
never see you again didn't get your name yeah and and dude that's you know that was a decision i
00:40:15.380
made a couple years ago and at first people get offended by it they're like what do you mean no
00:40:20.420
but like the reality is is i don't believe in that i believe that that's totally eroded our culture
00:40:25.540
i think that the selfie culture of like fame and clout is is is totally has totally ruined
00:40:33.300
actual connection and short story sharing human experience yeah and it's important yeah like it's
00:40:38.100
important for me to hear your story when when i get to meet you and shake your hand i want to hear
00:40:42.180
your fucking story i want to know why the fuck you're here you know you have a chance to ask me
00:40:46.100
something ask me something that's a lot more valuable than a fucking selfie bro yeah that's
00:40:50.420
real just one more follow-up on this because you talk about you know making sure that your team
00:40:54.340
understands that people around you understand how to take that serious now you've also talked about
00:40:58.660
too there's a diminishing return when it comes to handing off the skills to the people you know
00:41:04.340
directly right right below you right so how how do you how would you recommend handling that that
00:41:08.020
diminishing return is that something you're driving home how often do you need to remind
00:41:11.220
them well okay it's not reminding it's listen when you can make a person understand why they are
00:41:19.620
supposed to do things this way they're much more likely to do the thing that you're wanting them to
00:41:24.900
do so when you're trying to like like for example a lot of people like to talk about how clean our gym
00:41:31.940
is and how clean our facility is here and like how all the details like if you come in our bathroom here
00:41:36.980
their first form there will not the bathroom will look like it's never been used right like there
00:41:42.420
won't even be water in the fucking sink there will be water droplets in the sink like you there's there's
00:41:48.020
i am very very confident there's not a cleaner more well-organized facility on the fucking planet
00:41:53.140
anywhere of any sort and you guys have heard this on the show every single guest that comes in here for
00:41:57.860
the first time it's what they say that when they first start talking about it people don't understand how we
00:42:02.900
do that they think we have like a crew that runs around and just cleans everything because that's
00:42:08.020
what they would do the overnight cleanup crew yeah but see how this started it started at our old
00:42:12.740
building because we did have a clean crew and i fired them and everybody in the office got pissed off
00:42:18.660
when i fired them and the reason i fired them was because i realized that because everybody thought
00:42:25.300
that these people were going to handle it they were not taking care of our
00:42:29.060
shit so i fired them and i said no motherfucker we're going to fucking do it and i started working
00:42:34.420
on standards and the way that i got these people to hold standards and the way that i get people to
00:42:39.060
do the logos in the gym straight up and line everything and do all this shit isn't by like saying
00:42:44.900
you better fucking do that yeah the way it's done is i help people understand that when they practice
00:42:54.180
discipline it makes a deposit into their account in their own standards so when they take the time
00:43:00.580
to wipe the water out of the sink or straighten the logo on the weight to make it perfect they're
00:43:04.820
actually making an investment in their own discipline much like you would see in a video game
00:43:09.620
uh speech 99 strength 99 discipline 80 okay we got to get that discipline up well how do we get the
00:43:16.580
discipline up we got to get the discipline up by doing things that require discipline and so i've
00:43:21.620
made it our culture that most of the people especially the ones that have been here for a
00:43:27.700
minute they all understand this yeah they all understand that when they see something on the
00:43:32.020
floor a little speck of paper they don't pick it up because they're going to yell that right they
00:43:37.460
pick it up because it's an opportunity for them to improve okay so when you teach people the why behind
00:43:45.620
the idea of how to communicate with you know the make a friend make a sale mentality that this man's
00:43:51.060
talking about they're much more likely to do it so you have to teach them how that's going to benefit
00:43:57.460
them how that's going to benefit the company and how that's going to benefit their career moving
00:44:02.500
forward but most important part is how it's going to benefit the actual recipient of the effort that
00:44:09.300
you put in because when you make their lives better they return that with spending money with you
00:44:16.500
in many different ways right recommending you telling stories about you okay so you just have
00:44:22.660
to make them understand why on at scale and once you get you know buy-in from a certain percentage of
00:44:27.700
your team and they do this everybody else will start to to follow suit guys andy our third and final
00:44:34.020
question um kind of building off of that man um as as a business owner it is my duty uh or even my place
00:44:41.860
to help my team develop their own mental toughness this is building right off that last question uh
00:44:46.180
personal excellence etc um is it my place to do that or is this something that should be done on
00:44:51.700
their own um i know i could teach them all the skills that i've learned from listening to you and
00:44:55.940
others but i'm not sure if that's something that they should discover themselves or that i should be
00:45:00.980
requiring as a condition of employment how do you how do you look at that requiring what that you be
00:45:05.380
mentally tough and personal accidents discipline all those things i i would i would require that as a
00:45:10.420
standard of your company okay first of all second of all any employee out there should understand
00:45:17.140
that your development is going to become much stronger and much better when you are actually
00:45:24.900
you are going to have to invest your own personal time i'm not paying you to get better bro
00:45:29.700
that's on you i'm paying you to do a job right now if you want to go from this job to the next job
00:45:34.580
to the next job and advance your career that means that you are going to have to take your
00:45:40.100
personal time and improve your skill set and so one of the best ways that you can do this in your
00:45:45.860
organization is by promoting and talking about and pointing to the people who actually have these
00:45:52.580
qualities and when everybody else sees them moving up the chain and you make it a point to make them
00:45:58.340
understand why they will start to emulate that they will realize okay well i have to put in the same work
00:46:04.180
i have to put in the same effort i have to get myself mentally conditioned i have to build
00:46:08.820
discipline in myself i have to do these things because if you're recognizing this person over
00:46:13.700
here for doing those things and they're moving up and they're making more money and they're making
00:46:18.180
a better life and they're doing all these amazing things the other people are going to see that as
00:46:23.300
okay well that's what i need to do and so you're showing them through who you're rewarding how to
00:46:28.260
follow suit and and get in line with that yeah does that make sense 100 it's like dude my coach
00:46:34.180
used to tell me like man if you think you're going to come to practice which is let's say you know
00:46:38.020
two hours a day right you're new that five days a week and you'll be a fucking champion that's 10
00:46:42.500
hours of fucking work in one week you think it'll be the best on friday it's not happening
00:46:46.660
right so it's the same like i like it's off the field mentality so how do you listen man if you're not
00:46:51.780
willing to put in the work at your home on your own bro you're you're fucking done yeah you're already
00:46:56.900
done yeah like you just and this is the thing you can argue with me all you want i don't give a
00:47:02.340
fuck i'm just telling you the way it is like you will not win and what will happen is and you should
00:47:08.260
listen to me okay is that you're going to get to a certain point in your life and you're going to say
00:47:12.900
fuck andy was right and you're not going to get that time back bro okay i ain't missed on
00:47:18.740
fucking anything i haven't missed on a motherfucking thing i'm just telling you the way that it is
00:47:23.300
is you have to make it a priority of personal development in your own time you have to become
00:47:30.500
a student of winning you have to understand winning you have to become obsessed with winning because
00:47:35.220
there's other people out there that you are competing with in your field that are and if
00:47:40.180
you're not you will fucking lose and this is the difference between people who are
00:47:46.420
you know lifetime winners and people who just have jobs yeah that's the difference and not
00:47:52.340
everybody's going to be a lifetime winner that's not the reality but you can be anybody listening
00:47:57.220
here can be you see what i'm saying absolutely absolutely it's a it's a requirement dude it's
00:48:02.740
not a fucking option yeah like if you're not reading you're not putting good shit in your brain
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you're not improving your skill set you're not practicing what it is you do to get better
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there are other people out there that are that are going to get the place that you think you're
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entitled to by just breathing the motherfucking air so it's a requirement bro i love it it's not
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optional love it well guys hey that's three don't pay the fee yeah don't be a hoe
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want a bow bump for sleepin on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a pole fuck a stove counted
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millions in the coat bad bitch booty swore got her own bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case closed