REAL AF with Andy Frisella - December 21, 2022


442. Are Your Friends Holding You Back？


Episode Stats

Length

8 minutes

Words per Minute

167.88293

Word Count

1,480

Sentence Count

114

Misogynist Sentences

1

Hate Speech Sentences

5


Summary

In this episode, I give my perspective on how to deal with people who don't believe in you and your dreams. I talk about my own experience with this and how I dealt with it growing up and how you should deal with it.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realist sake,
00:00:20.240 goodbye to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society.
00:00:23.160 Welcome to motherfucking reality.
00:00:24.320 Guys, today we have a real talk.
00:00:26.580 I'm going to get right into it like I usually do on real talks.
00:00:29.080 Uh, hey, why the fuck are you listening to your loser friends?
00:00:33.860 Real talk.
00:00:35.180 Why?
00:00:36.400 I know there's so many people out there that reach out to me on a consistent basis
00:00:41.280 that talk about how their friends don't believe in them.
00:00:44.540 They talk about how their friends don't pump them up or gas them up.
00:00:49.080 Talking about how their friends make smirks and make jokes and laugh at their dreams.
00:00:53.860 Hey, those aren't your fucking friends.
00:00:57.120 And let me tell you about it in my experience.
00:00:59.780 When I first started my business in 1999, we had $12,000.
00:01:05.520 All right.
00:01:06.320 We fucking looked like clowns.
00:01:09.980 Everybody made fun of us.
00:01:12.120 Everybody fucking laughed at us.
00:01:14.400 Everybody thought that we were fucking insane.
00:01:17.520 Everybody thought we were going to fail.
00:01:19.560 Now, not at first.
00:01:20.640 When we first opened our doors, a lot of people clapped and they celebrated.
00:01:24.100 But as time went on, you know, the first day we sold $7.
00:01:28.640 The second day we sold zero.
00:01:30.440 Third day we sold 23 bucks.
00:01:32.440 Took us eight months to have a day over $800.
00:01:34.680 For the first three years, I didn't make a zero, a zero fucking pennies.
00:01:38.560 Okay.
00:01:39.180 Uh, for the next, uh, seven years, I made $695 a month for a grand total of 58 fucking thousand
00:01:46.440 dollars over the course of my first 10 years in business.
00:01:49.100 And most everybody that I knew told me I was fucking insane.
00:01:57.180 They would make smart ass remarks.
00:01:59.020 When I showed up at fucking a function, it was, Hey, Hey man, uh, like you still got that
00:02:04.660 little vitamin shop.
00:02:05.740 Hey man, uh, you know, like I know you're chasing your dreams, but like, you know, we're getting,
00:02:10.760 we're getting older.
00:02:11.440 We're, you know, we're, we're in our later twenties.
00:02:13.240 And like, are you, when are you going to like grow up and get a real job?
00:02:16.240 And all this shit, I listened to it for fucking ever.
00:02:18.780 Okay.
00:02:19.760 And you don't have the perspective that I have, but I do have a valuable perspective
00:02:25.400 here that I want to share with you.
00:02:26.840 And this is going to piss some people off and I don't give a fuck.
00:02:29.940 Every single one of those fucking people that told me that shit, every single one with zero
00:02:35.500 exceptions, they went on to accomplish nothing, to build nothing, to become nothing.
00:02:42.720 They are doing the exact same thing that they were doing 20 fucking years ago today, exactly
00:02:50.480 the same.
00:02:51.100 They're hanging out with the same friends.
00:02:52.880 They're going to the same bars.
00:02:54.460 They're living the same life and they're fucking struggling.
00:02:57.740 And here you are.
00:02:59.460 And the only difference between me and you is I've got 20 plus years in the game and you're
00:03:03.960 just getting started.
00:03:04.980 So it's confusing to you.
00:03:06.680 You're letting these people who are your homies from back in the day, maybe you went to high
00:03:12.720 school with them, maybe you went to college, I don't fucking know, but you feel some sort
00:03:17.140 of way and you have some sort of relationship with them.
00:03:19.920 And a lot of this has to do with being young.
00:03:22.340 You believe that everybody's your friend.
00:03:24.400 You believe that everybody has your best interests in mind.
00:03:27.180 You believe that everybody's cool.
00:03:28.900 And the truth of the matter is that's our own naivete as young adults.
00:03:33.040 OK, these people are not your fucking friends.
00:03:36.760 Your real friends would build you up.
00:03:39.140 Your real friends will pull you along.
00:03:41.800 Your real friends will push you to do something exceptional with your life, even if they don't
00:03:47.940 understand it at the time.
00:03:49.860 OK, so let me explain to you what's actually happening right now.
00:03:53.820 What's happening right now is you've not done anything ever yet.
00:03:58.880 And you are expecting people who cannot see what it is that you see in your mind to believe
00:04:06.040 in you when you have not done anything to garner their belief.
00:04:09.900 That's the first thing that's happening.
00:04:11.380 So you're offended that these people don't believe in you when you have never done anything
00:04:15.780 to make people believe in you.
00:04:17.660 That's the first thing.
00:04:19.020 The second thing that's happening is you are allowing people who are going to go their entire
00:04:24.820 lives, never becoming anything more than what they are.
00:04:29.560 Yes, they might grow up.
00:04:31.100 Yes, they will have a family.
00:04:32.780 Yes, they will do some things, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera.
00:04:36.200 They are on a different path than you.
00:04:39.100 OK, you're on a path for fucking greatness.
00:04:42.760 They are on the path that everybody else is on.
00:04:45.440 And those people who are telling you these things that put these seeds of doubt into
00:04:50.700 your mind are the same people you will look back on in 20 years and see them at the same
00:04:57.200 fucking places doing the same fucking things just like they were 20 fucking years ago.
00:05:04.820 OK, and you're letting them talk you out of your life and your dreams.
00:05:10.060 Why?
00:05:10.660 Why would you do that?
00:05:13.780 OK, now I understand it's hard and I understand it's difficult and I understand that it's fucking
00:05:20.840 lonely.
00:05:21.440 But here's also what I understand that it's fucking worth it because there's not a better
00:05:26.260 thing in the fucking world than going out doing everything that everybody said you couldn't
00:05:32.780 do, shouldn't do, wouldn't do.
00:05:35.060 And then having those same motherfuckers ask you for a job 20 years fucking later.
00:05:39.220 All right.
00:05:40.360 So take it from me.
00:05:41.720 I'm the future version of you.
00:05:44.640 It's worth it.
00:05:46.060 Don't listen to them.
00:05:47.460 They don't know what they're talking about.
00:05:49.400 They've never built anything.
00:05:50.840 They've never been around winning.
00:05:52.600 They've never won anything.
00:05:54.140 These people are on a different path and you cannot allow people that are on a different
00:05:59.560 path than you to talk you out of going down the path that you are on because the path
00:06:04.820 that you are on is going to be a path that inspires people to be fucking great.
00:06:11.520 People are going to see you win.
00:06:13.540 They're going to see you struggle.
00:06:15.220 They're going to see you build.
00:06:16.720 They're going to see you overcome.
00:06:18.100 And then they are going to say, holy shit, I can do that too.
00:06:23.280 Maybe, maybe if I fucking work hard, maybe if I put in the time, maybe if I sacrifice,
00:06:29.580 I can also build something of significance.
00:06:33.100 I can also accomplish my dreams, whatever your dreams are.
00:06:37.220 I don't, it's not even about money.
00:06:38.520 This is about living your fucking purpose.
00:06:41.240 Your story is needed.
00:06:44.080 Your story is important.
00:06:45.520 Your story is, it's a necessity of the fabric of this entire fucking country because without
00:06:54.720 the story of your wins, there will be less people that win and there will be more people
00:06:59.960 that become mediocre.
00:07:01.800 And this is an obligation that you have.
00:07:05.620 There's not many of us.
00:07:07.220 There's not many of us out there.
00:07:08.840 There's not many people out there that are willing to go against the grain.
00:07:12.940 There's not many people out there that are willing to take all the criticism.
00:07:16.900 There's not many people out there that are willing to get their ass beat for years and
00:07:22.200 years and years on end to create something that is abnormally special.
00:07:27.840 Those stories are required for our country to be great.
00:07:33.540 For our country to be great, you have to be great.
00:07:37.100 You have to be the example.
00:07:40.060 Your kids, their fucking friends, their parents, your neighbors, all of these people are going
00:07:46.040 to watch you do this.
00:07:48.160 They're going to see you start.
00:07:49.780 They're going to see you struggle.
00:07:51.360 They're going to see you overcome.
00:07:53.100 And when they see you overcome and finally start to become one of us, the people who actually
00:07:59.620 build things, the people who actually win at things, they are going to be inspired to improve
00:08:06.440 their own lives.
00:08:07.780 They are going to be inspired to raise their standard.
00:08:11.720 And they are going to be the next one that decides to go on this path to greatness.
00:08:16.860 So pay those people no mind and understand that they do not understand what they are even
00:08:22.680 saying to you.
00:08:23.680 And they won't understand it until you are so fucking great and they are exactly the
00:08:29.840 same.
00:08:30.660 They will not understand it.
00:08:32.820 So stop wasting your time expecting people to believe in you.
00:08:36.720 Stop wasting your time seeking validation from people who aren't going on the same path
00:08:41.400 as you and stop wasting your time doubting yourself because a bunch of dumb motherfuckers
00:08:47.520 are telling you you should.