448. The Truth About Motivation
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Summary
What keeps you motivated when you don t feel like it? What hacks do you use to stay motivated? What tools do you have to keep you motivated in order to achieve your goals? How do you stay motivated when the shit you need to get done doesn t get done?
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what is up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies
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the thickness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today
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we have a real talk i'm gonna get right into it i got a question the other day um
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which i think is relevant to most of you especially going into the new years
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and uh you know everybody's got big goals and big dreams and they want to accomplish some shit
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unlike all the other years in the past where they didn't accomplish shit and they made promises
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themselves that they failed on and i know for sure that all of you are going to accomplish
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what it is you've set out to do so i wanted to give you something to think about and something
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chew on this question that i got was andy what keeps you motivated whenever you aren't motivated
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like what hack do you use to get motivated and i want to make it real clear to you guys
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winners champions do not value motivation at all i never think do i feel like doing this
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david goggins doesn't think do i feel like doing this the motherfuckers that you look up to that
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you want to be like that you think like man dude i wish i was that person those people do not think
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man do i feel like doing this they fucking do the shit regardless they do the things that they have
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to get done no matter how they feel no matter what's going on no matter what it is that's distracting
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them and in fact when they're distracted they take relief in the fact that the shit that they need
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to do gets done okay we live in this world where we value the idea of motivation everywhere we look
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we look online we look on instagram we look on tiktok we look on youtube we are inundated with these
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massively cool feel good sound bites and in fact a lot of them use my fucking audio okay let's be real
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but however you have to understand that while that thing might get you somewhere in the moment it might
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make you feel better about what it is you have to do that it's actually irrelevant to the result that
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you produce and so what i want you guys to really think about as this year gets kicked off is how do i
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get shit done regardless of how i feel because that's where the champions live the peasants live over
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here with motivation if you only fucking execute when you feel like it or the stars are aligned or
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the weather's right or you have a great relationship right now where it's been turbulent for a while
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or whatever insert any single thing that you want to insert if you can only execute when you feel like
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executing you will fucking lose 100 times out of 100 so what's the solution well the solution
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is to change your perspective and to understand that motivation comes and goes it's good to feel
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motivated is it easier to execute when you're motivated yeah of course it is however it's an
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unrealistic expectation to believe that we are always going to feel like doing what it is we know
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is required to do okay so you need to flip your mindset you need to flip your perspective to understanding
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that discipline is what you are after what you are really after is the skill of discipline you want
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to be able to execute when that person asked me that question how do i do this when i don't feel like
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doing it what they are really asking me is how do i have enough discipline to execute when i don't
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feel like doing it and the reality is you have to develop it how do you develop discipline by doing
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things that require discipline aka doing hard shit also keeping promises to yourself this is why the
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live hard program 75 hard and everything we talk about in terms of that program works so well because
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what it does is it forces you through a regimen that is going to be very uncomfortable for a long
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enough period of time that you start to understand how to execute when things are not ideal you start
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to understand how to execute when you don't fucking feel like it you start to understand how to execute
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when it's highly inconvenient because the reality is there will be times on that program where you are
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out at midnight getting your cardio done there will be times on that program where you have to chug half a
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gallon of water at 10 o'clock at night because you forgot and you know what you're going to learn you're going
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to learn that you don't like doing that because you're going to spend the whole night up in the fucking
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bathroom okay so there's there's consequences to lack of discipline which is one of the biggest things that
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that program teaches you okay but fundamentally you must understand that motivation is for average people
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motivation is for people that lose more than they win discipline is where everybody who's ever achieved
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anything great that you admire that is what they value that's what they strive for that's the skill that
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they make investments in and that's why their lives look so great that you want something like that for
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yourself so moving into this year stop asking why i'm not motivated stop asking what do i need to do
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to get motivated and start asking how can i become more disciplined because discipline is the ultimate
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superpower guys if you can learn to execute against the tasks that will get you to where you want to go
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regardless of what's happening in your life regardless of the pain you're feeling in the moment regardless
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of what the weather is regardless of what your relationship is regardless of what your boss said
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regardless of what your wife or your husband said regardless of any outside circumstances how
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and i want you to really think about this how can you ever fucking lose you can't so you need to look at
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the things that you lack when it comes to discipline and you need to start understanding this too
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discipline is a skill grit is a skill fortitude is a skill these are things that you can develop and i
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understand as well as anybody how frustrating it is to be the person who is watching other people
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accomplish all of their dreams and i don't have that power i know what it's like to watch someone
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who is ripped who's making great money who's got their whole life seemingly in order you go to their
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house their house is clean you go watch them eat they eat perfectly all the time i understand what it's
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like to be on the outside of that i understand what it's like to be 350 fucking pounds and be literally
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mystified as to how some people can go through life seemingly making all the right decisions that help
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them out with what it seems to be very little effort and the reason that it seems to be very little
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effort from the outside is because these people possess the skills that you do not and the likely reason
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that you do not possess these skills is because you think of them as traits you think of them as something
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that people either have or don't have by the grace of god and that is just not true when it comes to grit
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discipline fortitude and a lot of these other things that you will learn with the 75 hard live hard program
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so my recommendation for you would be to start out the year on live hard go listen to it as episode 208
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do the program exactly as it's specified let me tell you something if you do it any other way if
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you do it where you substitute if you do it where you make changes not only will it not work it will
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actually make you less competent at discipline it will make you have less confidence it will make you
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have less self-esteem the program has to be executed perfectly for it to work because the whole premise of
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the program is you keeping the promise to yourself to do hard things and then doing them and then
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looking back and being fuck dude i could fucking do that and whenever you can work yourself through
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this hard ass program now you're in a situation to understand all the things that go into creating
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these skills and by the way the skill of discipline is perishable the skill of grit is perishable the skill
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of fortitude is perishable confidence is perishable nobody is confident all the time
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nobody has high level of confidence all the time nobody has high levels of self-esteem all the time
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the reason that they have high levels of confidence and the reason they have high levels of self-esteem
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is because they are putting work into developing those qualities and those skills and raising them up
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and the more work they do the higher that they go so when you're feeling like shit about yourself the
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reason that you feel like shit is likely because you do nothing that you tell yourself you're going to
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do and this will help you fix that so really make this year the year that's different don't go through
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the year telling yourself all this bullshit looking for this motivation that's never going to get done
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what it is you need done okay and start valuing building the skill set inside yourself the reason people
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like motivation so much is because it makes them feel good right now for doing fucking nothing
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all right stop being that person start being the person that understands what it really fucking takes
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to live a championship level life because i can promise you as someone who is probably a little
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further down the road than you it will be the best fucking thing that you ever did and by the way
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i didn't figure this shit out until i was 35 36 years old i'm 43 right now had i figured this out
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when i was 20 i would be motherfucking elon musk by now okay start now stop trying to just make it
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about feeling good now start realizing that if you truly want to get shit done you do not give a fuck
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went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a pole fuck a stove counted millions in the
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cold bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case closed