REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 448. The Truth About Motivation

00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies

00:00:21.020 the thickness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today

00:00:24.680 we have a real talk i'm gonna get right into it i got a question the other day um

00:00:29.860 which i think is relevant to most of you especially going into the new years

00:00:34.960 and uh you know everybody's got big goals and big dreams and they want to accomplish some shit 0.58

00:00:40.300 unlike all the other years in the past where they didn't accomplish shit and they made promises 0.62

00:00:44.560 themselves that they failed on and i know for sure that all of you are going to accomplish

00:00:49.960 what it is you've set out to do so i wanted to give you something to think about and something

00:00:54.680 chew on this question that i got was andy what keeps you motivated whenever you aren't motivated

00:01:03.320 like what hack do you use to get motivated and i want to make it real clear to you guys

00:01:07.760 winners champions do not value motivation at all i never think do i feel like doing this

00:01:15.600 david goggins doesn't think do i feel like doing this the motherfuckers that you look up to that 0.88

00:01:21.280 you want to be like that you think like man dude i wish i was that person those people do not think

00:01:27.160 man do i feel like doing this they fucking do the shit regardless they do the things that they have 0.98

00:01:33.460 to get done no matter how they feel no matter what's going on no matter what it is that's distracting

00:01:38.600 them and in fact when they're distracted they take relief in the fact that the shit that they need 0.75

00:01:44.380 to do gets done okay we live in this world where we value the idea of motivation everywhere we look

00:01:53.060 we look online we look on instagram we look on tiktok we look on youtube we are inundated with these

00:01:59.280 massively cool feel good sound bites and in fact a lot of them use my fucking audio okay let's be real 0.84

00:02:07.160 but however you have to understand that while that thing might get you somewhere in the moment it might

00:02:15.920 make you feel better about what it is you have to do that it's actually irrelevant to the result that

00:02:21.440 you produce and so what i want you guys to really think about as this year gets kicked off is how do i

00:02:28.900 get shit done regardless of how i feel because that's where the champions live the peasants live over 0.97

00:02:36.320 here with motivation if you only fucking execute when you feel like it or the stars are aligned or 0.91

00:02:44.420 the weather's right or you have a great relationship right now where it's been turbulent for a while

00:02:49.820 or whatever insert any single thing that you want to insert if you can only execute when you feel like

00:02:57.800 executing you will fucking lose 100 times out of 100 so what's the solution well the solution 0.94

00:03:06.160 is to change your perspective and to understand that motivation comes and goes it's good to feel

00:03:12.560 motivated is it easier to execute when you're motivated yeah of course it is however it's an

00:03:18.060 unrealistic expectation to believe that we are always going to feel like doing what it is we know

00:03:23.940 is required to do okay so you need to flip your mindset you need to flip your perspective to understanding

00:03:31.160 that discipline is what you are after what you are really after is the skill of discipline you want

00:03:40.620 to be able to execute when that person asked me that question how do i do this when i don't feel like

00:03:46.420 doing it what they are really asking me is how do i have enough discipline to execute when i don't

00:03:53.800 feel like doing it and the reality is you have to develop it how do you develop discipline by doing

00:04:00.520 things that require discipline aka doing hard shit also keeping promises to yourself this is why the 0.70

00:04:09.740 live hard program 75 hard and everything we talk about in terms of that program works so well because

00:04:16.700 what it does is it forces you through a regimen that is going to be very uncomfortable for a long

00:04:23.460 enough period of time that you start to understand how to execute when things are not ideal you start

00:04:30.940 to understand how to execute when you don't fucking feel like it you start to understand how to execute 0.91

00:04:36.600 when it's highly inconvenient because the reality is there will be times on that program where you are

00:04:42.820 out at midnight getting your cardio done there will be times on that program where you have to chug half a

00:04:49.900 gallon of water at 10 o'clock at night because you forgot and you know what you're going to learn you're going

00:04:55.340 to learn that you don't like doing that because you're going to spend the whole night up in the fucking 0.98

00:04:58.720 bathroom okay so there's there's consequences to lack of discipline which is one of the biggest things that

00:05:05.580 that program teaches you okay but fundamentally you must understand that motivation is for average people

00:05:15.440 motivation is for people that lose more than they win discipline is where everybody who's ever achieved

00:05:23.140 anything great that you admire that is what they value that's what they strive for that's the skill that

00:05:29.520 they make investments in and that's why their lives look so great that you want something like that for

00:05:35.160 yourself so moving into this year stop asking why i'm not motivated stop asking what do i need to do

00:05:45.140 to get motivated and start asking how can i become more disciplined because discipline is the ultimate

00:05:50.620 superpower guys if you can learn to execute against the tasks that will get you to where you want to go

00:05:57.280 regardless of what's happening in your life regardless of the pain you're feeling in the moment regardless

00:06:02.700 of what the weather is regardless of what your relationship is regardless of what your boss said

00:06:07.760 regardless of what your wife or your husband said regardless of any outside circumstances how

00:06:14.000 and i want you to really think about this how can you ever fucking lose you can't so you need to look at 0.96

00:06:24.240 the things that you lack when it comes to discipline and you need to start understanding this too

00:06:29.120 discipline is a skill grit is a skill fortitude is a skill these are things that you can develop and i

00:06:38.560 understand as well as anybody how frustrating it is to be the person who is watching other people

00:06:46.800 accomplish all of their dreams and i don't have that power i know what it's like to watch someone

00:06:55.160 who is ripped who's making great money who's got their whole life seemingly in order you go to their

00:07:00.740 house their house is clean you go watch them eat they eat perfectly all the time i understand what it's

00:07:06.720 like to be on the outside of that i understand what it's like to be 350 fucking pounds and be literally 0.91

00:07:13.160 mystified as to how some people can go through life seemingly making all the right decisions that help

00:07:21.500 them out with what it seems to be very little effort and the reason that it seems to be very little

00:07:26.960 effort from the outside is because these people possess the skills that you do not and the likely reason

00:07:33.940 that you do not possess these skills is because you think of them as traits you think of them as something

00:07:39.960 that people either have or don't have by the grace of god and that is just not true when it comes to grit

00:07:46.400 discipline fortitude and a lot of these other things that you will learn with the 75 hard live hard program

00:07:51.260 so my recommendation for you would be to start out the year on live hard go listen to it as episode 208

00:07:58.380 do the program exactly as it's specified let me tell you something if you do it any other way if

00:08:06.620 you do it where you substitute if you do it where you make changes not only will it not work it will

00:08:11.960 actually make you less competent at discipline it will make you have less confidence it will make you

00:08:18.180 have less self-esteem the program has to be executed perfectly for it to work because the whole premise of

00:08:25.320 the program is you keeping the promise to yourself to do hard things and then doing them and then

00:08:31.840 looking back and being fuck dude i could fucking do that and whenever you can work yourself through 0.95

00:08:36.900 this hard ass program now you're in a situation to understand all the things that go into creating

00:08:42.380 these skills and by the way the skill of discipline is perishable the skill of grit is perishable the skill

00:08:49.280 of fortitude is perishable confidence is perishable nobody is confident all the time

00:08:55.220 nobody has high level of confidence all the time nobody has high levels of self-esteem all the time

00:09:01.080 the reason that they have high levels of confidence and the reason they have high levels of self-esteem

00:09:06.500 is because they are putting work into developing those qualities and those skills and raising them up

00:09:14.220 and the more work they do the higher that they go so when you're feeling like shit about yourself the

00:09:19.400 reason that you feel like shit is likely because you do nothing that you tell yourself you're going to

00:09:25.000 do and this will help you fix that so really make this year the year that's different don't go through

00:09:32.820 the year telling yourself all this bullshit looking for this motivation that's never going to get done 0.66

00:09:39.020 what it is you need done okay and start valuing building the skill set inside yourself the reason people

00:09:45.780 like motivation so much is because it makes them feel good right now for doing fucking nothing 0.90

00:09:50.180 all right stop being that person start being the person that understands what it really fucking takes 0.97

00:09:56.740 to live a championship level life because i can promise you as someone who is probably a little

00:10:02.880 further down the road than you it will be the best fucking thing that you ever did and by the way 0.96

00:10:07.500 i didn't figure this shit out until i was 35 36 years old i'm 43 right now had i figured this out 0.67

00:10:14.480 when i was 20 i would be motherfucking elon musk by now okay start now stop trying to just make it 0.82

00:10:23.800 about feeling good now start realizing that if you truly want to get shit done you do not give a fuck 0.83

00:10:30.980 whether you feel like it or not you just do it

00:10:34.940 went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a pole fuck a stove counted millions in the 1.00

00:10:41.640 cold bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case closed 1.00

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - December 29, 2022

448. The Truth About Motivation

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