REAL AF with Andy Frisella - January 06, 2023


453. Q&AF： Doubt In Starting A Business, Skills You Need To Develop & Day 76 Of #75Hard


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In this episode of Q&A, Andy talks about his recent illness and how he s been dealing with it. He also talks about what s been going through his head the last couple of days and how it s been affecting his productivity.

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00:00:00.000 What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realists, say goodbye
00:00:20.920 to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking
00:00:24.600 reality guys.
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00:00:41.320 listen on audio, but we are on YouTube for a watch.
00:00:44.340 If you want to drop your question in the comment box on the Q and AF episodes on YouTube, we'll
00:00:49.680 pick some out of there as well.
00:00:51.280 This is your first time watching, listening.
00:00:54.160 We have multiple formats of the show within the show.
00:00:57.200 Today you're going to get a Q and A show.
00:00:58.720 So it's based off my 24 years of fairly successful business experience, okay?
00:01:06.540 Other times you tune in, we're going to have CTI.
00:01:08.800 Now I know we haven't hit CTI this week, but to be completely honest, man, I haven't had
00:01:12.680 it in me this week.
00:01:14.260 Sometimes it gets a little too heavy for me.
00:01:16.720 Sometimes it wears me out emotionally.
00:01:18.340 Sometimes I just get fucking tired of it.
00:01:20.360 So we haven't done a CTI in a minute, but we're going to get back to it.
00:01:23.320 But CTI has cruised the internet.
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00:01:35.040 And we make fun of all these idiots.
00:01:37.540 That's CTI.
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00:01:43.460 think needs to be said and what I think needs to be heard.
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00:02:49.100 With that being said, Q and AF.
00:02:52.220 Yes, sir.
00:02:52.900 What's going on, man?
00:02:53.540 What's going on, Andy?
00:02:54.160 How are you?
00:02:55.340 Good.
00:02:56.460 Good.
00:02:56.940 Working on anything, anything lately?
00:02:59.460 What you got?
00:03:00.060 I'm trying to survive.
00:03:01.400 Yeah.
00:03:01.880 Yeah.
00:03:02.140 I've been sick as fuck the last two days.
00:03:04.460 Yeah.
00:03:05.420 Um, yeah.
00:03:07.020 I got some sort of infection, like a blood infection or something, uh, where I had to
00:03:11.500 go get IV antibiotics and a bunch of fluid and, uh, it's been hard.
00:03:18.680 Uh, the last two days of 75 hard, I've been probably the hardest two days I've had over
00:03:24.700 the last four years in terms of getting all my shit done. 0.67
00:03:27.900 Um, and this is not telling you that if you're sick to get your shit done, I just choose to
00:03:33.940 get my shit done. 0.98
00:03:34.740 Um, so no, I'm not promoting unhealthy shit.
00:03:37.960 I'm promoting not being a fucking pussy and I'm not.
00:03:41.940 If the shoe fits, you know what I'm saying?
00:03:43.380 That's what I'm saying.
00:03:44.720 So I've been sick.
00:03:46.080 I've been getting IV antibiotics.
00:03:47.440 Uh, maybe like the haters will say, I'll probably run myself in fucking croak over dead.
00:03:54.060 And if that happens, uh, you got a bunch of episodes to listen to.
00:03:57.300 I ain't going nowhere.
00:03:58.140 All right.
00:03:59.180 Uh, but it's been hard, man.
00:04:00.820 I mean, you saw it today.
00:04:01.740 It was really fucking hard for me.
00:04:03.060 Like that, that outdoor cardio this morning was, uh, it was literally step by step.
00:04:08.820 I think I said, fuck, probably.
00:04:11.960 Yeah.
00:04:12.280 I'm like, yeah, it was, yeah.
00:04:15.120 Um, it was slow.
00:04:16.520 It wasn't pretty, but it got done.
00:04:18.140 And so I'm proud of that.
00:04:19.440 I already feel good about that.
00:04:20.980 And that's the best thing about it though.
00:04:22.560 Like no matter how shitty of a day, you know, that if you got your shit done, that's still
00:04:25.700 a win.
00:04:25.920 Bro, you know what I was thinking about the whole time?
00:04:27.740 Real talk.
00:04:28.240 I was like any single other motherfucker I know without, with the exception of maybe
00:04:32.640 Goggins or Cam Haynes would fucking quit right now.
00:04:35.780 Real talk.
00:04:36.680 Yeah.
00:04:37.000 They would fucking quit.
00:04:37.840 They say, fuck it.
00:04:38.960 I need, I need, I need to rest.
00:04:40.460 I needed this.
00:04:41.120 I needed that.
00:04:42.160 You know what?
00:04:42.700 That's why they're them.
00:04:43.620 And that's why I'm me.
00:04:44.560 And if people don't like that, then it is what the fuck it is.
00:04:47.300 Yeah.
00:04:47.740 But, um, I take a lot of pride in having my mental acts as sharp as possible.
00:04:55.180 Um, and I felt good about getting that done, even though I felt like fucking
00:04:58.200 death doing it.
00:04:58.900 Do you think the, I mean, where was like, what's the, is the fear of like fucking up
00:05:05.500 and coming off a program?
00:05:06.540 Cause you have a shit ton of momentum going right now.
00:05:08.780 Right.
00:05:09.620 Like what, what was like, did you have any other thoughts like this?
00:05:12.320 Like, fuck, I just, I got to keep going.
00:05:13.660 There's no choice.
00:05:14.860 No, man.
00:05:15.560 Really what I think is, well, are you really who you claim to be?
00:05:19.100 Or are you not who you claim to be?
00:05:21.140 That's what I think about.
00:05:22.360 Yeah.
00:05:23.360 You know, am I really who I say I am or am I a fucking fraud?
00:05:27.100 That's how I fucking think about, you know, and I found out right now.
00:05:31.180 Yeah.
00:05:31.540 No, we're, we're, we're going to find out that I am who the fuck I say I am.
00:05:34.720 And I don't look at it as failure in front of people, bro.
00:05:37.180 I'm not scared to fail in front of people.
00:05:39.020 I'd be like saying, I'm afraid to fucking get laughed at by a bunch of motherfuckers
00:05:43.460 that don't know what a good joke is.
00:05:45.040 Right.
00:05:45.480 You get what I'm saying?
00:05:46.060 I don't give a fuck.
00:05:46.940 I know exactly how that feels.
00:05:48.420 Yeah.
00:05:48.800 I know you do.
00:05:49.260 But my point is, is like, I don't, it's not, it's nothing external.
00:05:54.360 Like you're going to, anytime you attempt to be great, you're going to fail.
00:05:58.160 Anytime you attempt to do something, uh, hard, you're going to fall on your face sometimes.
00:06:03.820 And so like, it's not, it has nothing to do with what other people will see.
00:06:06.900 I would have no problem going on my Instagram saying, Hey, I fucking failed 75 hard last
00:06:11.640 year.
00:06:11.800 I failed three fucking times.
00:06:13.000 Um, but I'm not failing, bro.
00:06:16.320 That's it.
00:06:17.160 And, uh, when I started this, I was at a point where I was at a mental low because of what
00:06:25.340 had gone on the previous year with my shoulder and all these things and not being able to
00:06:29.600 train and the depression issue and all these fucking things. 0.95
00:06:33.500 And I mean, I, dude, I made a decision.
00:06:36.780 I'm fucking finishing it.
00:06:37.720 And that's fucking it.
00:06:38.580 And like, I don't give a fuck if I got to crawl the whole fucking way.
00:06:41.260 Yeah.
00:06:41.500 So that's, but it has nothing to do with proving it to other people, bro.
00:06:45.060 Right.
00:06:45.380 Like, I don't really, like, I don't like, I'm not somebody who cares.
00:06:48.080 Like, I don't value my own value based on what other people think of me.
00:06:52.700 Like the people who judge me in real life, um, they don't have the right to judge me.
00:07:00.600 Like these people that talk shit sometimes and say this shit, like, I just look at their
00:07:04.780 lives and I'm like, what gives you the fucking platform to think that you can judge me?
00:07:09.860 Like you're you and I'm me.
00:07:12.380 And I know that sounds arrogant as fuck, but it's not.
00:07:14.900 It's matter of fact.
00:07:16.220 I've built this.
00:07:17.260 I've done this.
00:07:18.200 I do this.
00:07:19.500 You don't do shit.
00:07:20.460 You sit in your basement and eat fucking hot pockets and talk shit on people. 0.76
00:07:24.680 Like I give a single fuck what you fucking think.
00:07:27.760 And it's to me, the absurdity in society really has a lot to do with how people believe that
00:07:34.780 they're going to laugh at you.
00:07:36.980 Like you're in high school and like, you're going to give a fuck.
00:07:39.140 Right.
00:07:39.680 You know what I'm saying?
00:07:40.240 Like, bro, who the fuck are you?
00:07:42.000 Like, have you looked at yourself?
00:07:43.280 Because what you must think that your life is, it looks a whole lot different from me
00:07:47.040 looking over there.
00:07:47.840 Right.
00:07:48.400 You know what I mean?
00:07:49.180 Right.
00:07:49.440 So like, you know, you don't ever see, you don't ever see a fucking winner hating on another
00:07:54.320 winner.
00:07:54.800 It don't happen.
00:07:56.140 It don't happen.
00:07:57.120 You never see winners hating on losers.
00:07:59.320 You only see losers hating on winners.
00:08:01.540 That's it.
00:08:02.540 And so I don't worry about what other people think.
00:08:04.340 So like when I say, am I really who I say I am?
00:08:07.080 That's not, that's not, uh, that's not something that I worry about.
00:08:13.280 That's not a question for someone else to answer.
00:08:15.500 It's for me to answer.
00:08:16.900 You know?
00:08:17.700 Yeah.
00:08:18.160 That's real shit, man.
00:08:19.020 Yeah.
00:08:20.140 That's real shit.
00:08:20.660 Well, I mean, this actually kind of, I mean, it kind of goes right into our first question,
00:08:24.280 man.
00:08:24.420 We can get these knocked out.
00:08:25.860 Uh, any question number one, um, I'm planning on starting a moving company next year when
00:08:31.480 I graduate from college.
00:08:32.840 I'm really nervous, uh, because I keep hearing stats about the number of businesses that fail.
00:08:38.320 Um, and I hear from entrepreneurs that they wouldn't wish this path on most people.
00:08:42.240 Uh, they talk about how businesses they created that failed before one finally gained traction.
00:08:46.960 I believe in my abilities, but I've never done that.
00:08:49.020 I've never done anything like this before.
00:08:50.540 And I was just curious what you would have told yourself at my age, knowing what you know
00:08:54.800 now.
00:08:55.080 I would have told myself that those people don't know what the fuck they're talking about.
00:08:59.340 Cause they don't know me.
00:09:00.080 They don't know what I'm willing to do.
00:09:02.140 They don't know the shit I'm willing to eat to win.
00:09:04.000 They have no fucking idea what I'm willing to do to win.
00:09:06.960 And they don't.
00:09:08.920 Now, whether or not you actually have that or not, that's up to you.
00:09:12.240 But what do I tell myself when I was 19 years old and everybody made fun of me, I told myself
00:09:18.220 one day, motherfucker, you're going to fucking see. 0.99
00:09:21.120 And guess what happened?
00:09:22.540 They saw.
00:09:23.900 Okay.
00:09:24.420 So I think it's important for you to ignore what other people who weren't able to do the
00:09:31.520 things that they set out to do have to say about what it is that you're trying to do.
00:09:36.840 Now, there are statistical facts.
00:09:39.160 There are data.
00:09:40.520 There are all these things.
00:09:41.940 And we can point to all those things.
00:09:43.260 But at the same time, there are always anomalies.
00:09:47.120 And whether or not you become a statistical fact data point that someone says nine out
00:09:52.360 of 10 businesses fail, or whether or not you're in the fucking one that makes it, and then 0.94
00:09:56.620 you're in the one out of those 10, you know, the 10% of those that actually makes money.
00:10:00.560 That all has to do with the actions that you take and the consistency, which you perform
00:10:04.980 the proper actions to move you along.
00:10:06.540 See, once people understand that there is no magic to this and that everything in your life
00:10:10.640 is a reaction to an action.
00:10:13.720 It's math.
00:10:14.780 It's one plus one equals two.
00:10:17.420 There is no magic to it.
00:10:19.120 So if you put in the inputs, the outputs will be there.
00:10:21.640 And that's all you have to understand.
00:10:23.280 That's the reality.
00:10:24.260 If you learn how to make a great moving business and you execute on that plan, you will have a
00:10:33.280 great moving business.
00:10:34.940 If you understand how to adapt when you make mistakes, you will learn new skills.
00:10:40.640 When you understand that you can never fucking quit, no matter how many losers tell you,
00:10:46.720 you should get a real job, or you should grow up, or you should take shit more seriously, 0.70
00:10:51.980 or, you know, do you still have that little vitamin shop?
00:10:55.100 Like they used to say to me, you have to have the mental fortitude to push through and be like,
00:10:59.800 bitch, you don't have any idea what the fuck I'm going to do. 1.00
00:11:02.400 Okay.
00:11:02.840 And that's the attitude I always had.
00:11:04.700 And by the way, I still have it.
00:11:06.300 Right.
00:11:06.700 So, um, you have to have that in this idea of the touchy feely, really nice guy entrepreneur,
00:11:13.320 bro.
00:11:13.960 It's not reality because the amount of resistance that you fucking face, you have to have a chip
00:11:19.340 on your shoulder.
00:11:19.940 You have to have a whole bunch of fuck you inside of you because people will have no problem 0.98
00:11:25.200 demoralizing you, hurting you, causing you doubt.
00:11:29.580 They have no problem with that.
00:11:30.920 And really what they're doing is they're unloading their own doubt about their own beliefs onto
00:11:35.740 you, hoping that you won't go out and succeed.
00:11:38.180 So they don't have to watch another person that they know firsthand go out and do shit
00:11:42.760 that they were never able to do.
00:11:44.480 That's what we're dealing with.
00:11:46.060 So get a big old hope heaping dose of fuck you, put it up here on your shoulder and don't
00:11:51.280 listen to any of those motherfuckers say, and go out and learn the tactics, learn from
00:11:55.440 your mistakes, never quit.
00:11:57.460 Don't make the same mistakes twice.
00:11:58.920 And bro, you could become the best moving company that ever exists in the face of the
00:12:02.080 fucking earth.
00:12:02.700 That's what I would recommend to do.
00:12:05.180 Damn.
00:12:05.520 It's almost like just being able to fucking give them back that fuck you sandwich is worth
00:12:11.180 it on its own.
00:12:12.600 Well, it ain't bad.
00:12:13.860 Yeah, it ain't bad.
00:12:15.360 Like it ain't bad.
00:12:16.720 Yeah.
00:12:17.040 You know?
00:12:17.440 And the thing is, it never stops, you know, because as you grow that moving company, like
00:12:22.180 I grew my little vitamin shop into a bigger operation and into a bigger operation.
00:12:27.440 Eventually you're going to be like, well, you know, I'm going to be the biggest fucking
00:12:31.480 moving company on the face of the earth, bro.
00:12:33.160 I'm bigger Mayflower.
00:12:34.600 Right.
00:12:35.180 And fucking people are going to laugh at you.
00:12:37.380 And this could be when you're at a hundred million dollar business and they're going
00:12:39.880 to laugh at you, bro.
00:12:40.940 And you're going to be like, yeah, you fucking see.
00:12:43.120 See, like when I tell people I'm building the next fucking Nike, Red Bull and Gatorade all
00:12:46.720 combined into one, they laugh.
00:12:48.580 They think I'm full of shit.
00:12:49.700 They think, oh yeah, Andy's just like, you know, but that's what they said 10 years ago.
00:12:54.100 Exactly.
00:12:54.480 Yeah.
00:12:54.600 Well, you see, that's what they said 10 years ago when I told them we were going to do what
00:12:58.980 we're doing now.
00:12:59.760 Right.
00:13:00.480 They never become believers, bro.
00:13:02.200 There's a lag time.
00:13:03.260 They don't believe until you've already created it.
00:13:05.500 And then when you created it, you get to remember how they didn't believe.
00:13:08.560 And then they lie to your face and tell you how they believed in you.
00:13:11.440 I was with you the whole time.
00:13:12.680 Yes.
00:13:13.080 So it's just like, people are fucking clowns, bro.
00:13:17.640 And they clown themselves.
00:13:19.200 So you don't fucking listen to those people.
00:13:21.060 I don't give a fuck what the data says.
00:13:22.820 I don't care what the statistics are.
00:13:24.780 If you have it in your heart to not be fucking denied, there will be no denying of your success.
00:13:31.960 Period.
00:13:32.600 Fucking man.
00:13:33.360 Jeez.
00:13:35.600 Andy, question number two.
00:13:38.740 Let's bid on that, right?
00:13:39.840 Like, you know, you talk about this tool built, right?
00:13:42.660 Like, having these skills in your tool belt.
00:13:44.660 In the personal life, personal, you know, development, success tool belt, right?
00:13:50.460 What skill would you say or you believe has the biggest return on investment?
00:13:56.640 Like, if you had to rate, like, you know, the most important skill for somebody to develop
00:14:00.660 that's going to give you the biggest rate of return or return on your investment, what skill would that be?
00:14:07.340 Well, there's a few.
00:14:08.740 Okay.
00:14:09.080 And I think they're all necessary.
00:14:10.540 I don't think there's one that supersedes the other because they're synergistic in nature.
00:14:15.360 But I think discipline is the number one.
00:14:17.580 Okay.
00:14:17.960 Because with discipline, you can execute against things that need to get done regardless of how
00:14:24.360 you feel, which puts you in the 0.0001% of operators.
00:14:31.180 Most people are highly emotional.
00:14:33.040 Most people are easily swayed.
00:14:34.640 Most people behave based on how they feel at the time.
00:14:39.260 And if you could create yourself into someone who operates on the path of the shit that needs
00:14:45.600 to be done to get where you're trying to go, and it's not affected by your emotions or your
00:14:50.100 circumstances or the weather or any of this other shit, you're automatically at a massive
00:14:54.600 advantage.
00:14:55.080 And I think the other thing that is equally as important is awareness.
00:14:59.900 Okay.
00:15:00.160 And I think we talked about this yesterday on the show a little bit, but being able to be
00:15:04.820 self-aware, to understand the nature of you, to understand the nature of your internal dialogue
00:15:11.420 is extremely important.
00:15:12.960 You know, when I talk about the bitch voice and the boss voice, some people don't have that. 1.00
00:15:17.440 Some people don't have these two voices in their head.
00:15:19.940 They have to like, they don't, they like look at me funny and they're like, what do you mean?
00:15:23.840 They're not aware of that.
00:15:25.160 Yes.
00:15:25.580 They're not aware of the conversation that happens.
00:15:28.360 So like, so like when they are trying to lose weight, for example, and they sit down at the
00:15:34.100 end of the day and they get home and where for me, I would hear this justification come
00:15:40.560 in my brain, right?
00:15:41.360 Where my bitch voice would say, Andy, dude, you worked really hard today, bro. 0.95
00:15:47.340 You know, you deserve to chill a little bit.
00:15:49.660 You know, let's just order pizza.
00:15:51.080 We'll fucking get back on it tomorrow.
00:15:52.460 Well, and we will.
00:15:54.340 Okay.
00:15:54.900 But tonight we're going to eat that pizza.
00:15:57.420 They're not aware of that conversation.
00:15:59.820 And so what happens to them is they just start thinking about pizza and they fucking order.
00:16:03.920 There's no even justification.
00:16:05.040 Yeah.
00:16:05.260 So, so because they're not aware of it, they can't stop and pivot the conversation.
00:16:10.540 All right.
00:16:11.240 So, and this goes on to other and bigger, wider perspective concepts too.
00:16:17.240 For example, like you have to become self-aware enough to where you understand how you are
00:16:22.740 actually perceived, not how you believe that you are perceived because how most people believe
00:16:28.720 they are perceived is actually quite different than how they're actually perceived.
00:16:32.880 And so just things like that give you a tremendous advantage because most people don't have it.
00:16:38.820 All right.
00:16:39.520 So those are the two skills I think that will, I would say in your tool belt are the most important.
00:16:45.940 Now there's a million other ones that are important.
00:16:48.240 And the way that you get most of these skills is very simple.
00:16:50.820 You just go, just go and make mistakes.
00:16:54.120 And when you make mistakes, fucking learn a lesson and don't make the mistake twice.
00:16:58.600 And that automatically puts a new skill in your belt because that same situation will
00:17:03.800 have, uh, will come around again and it will arise again.
00:17:07.320 And you will, you will recognize it, which goes to awareness, right?
00:17:11.180 I'm recognize, oh, this is that same thing that happened two years ago.
00:17:14.300 Right.
00:17:14.900 What did I do here?
00:17:15.760 Oh, I did this.
00:17:16.460 That was wrong.
00:17:17.140 I should have done this.
00:17:18.280 And now this time you do that and now you're moving in the right direction.
00:17:21.940 So discipline, uh, the ability to make the proper choice, regardless of how you're feeling.
00:17:27.400 I think that's like, that's, I think you can, if you could figure that the fuck out, there's
00:17:31.900 really nothing you can't do.
00:17:33.340 Uh, but if you have awareness with it, you're fucking, you're a fucking monster.
00:17:37.340 Let me ask you this to follow up on that.
00:17:39.160 Would you, would you say then that the skill of discipline and the skill of awareness would
00:17:45.200 also be the most underrated skill by society?
00:17:49.980 Well, I don't know.
00:17:50.740 What's the skills do you think society values?
00:17:54.600 Hmm.
00:17:56.360 You know, I don't, I don't know that most of society is even valued upon skills.
00:18:00.300 I think people concentrate so much on their emotions that they don't even think about
00:18:04.540 the skill sets.
00:18:05.480 I mean, like, look at what people type on Twitter and look at what they talk about.
00:18:09.020 Like, look at the shit most people care about.
00:18:10.640 Like they care about fucking Kim Kardashian's fucking ass. 0.94
00:18:13.840 Right.
00:18:14.220 Like who gives a fuck?
00:18:16.480 You know what I'm saying?
00:18:17.100 Like the, the level of shit that the average person thinks about, like you guys that listen
00:18:22.260 to the show, just by the nature of you listening to this show, you have to understand that you
00:18:25.880 are not, you are already on the outskirts by even listening to the show.
00:18:30.180 Those people would never listen to this show.
00:18:32.600 You see what I'm saying?
00:18:33.560 Yeah.
00:18:33.720 So I think it, I don't know what society values cause I'm, I'm not a part of society in that
00:18:39.740 way.
00:18:40.020 Like I don't, I don't relate to those people.
00:18:42.400 I don't, I don't have anything in common with those people.
00:18:44.620 And to be quite honest, I don't want to have anything in common with those people.
00:18:47.980 So, uh, I'm not sure.
00:18:51.100 I mean, you know, I think, I think society values, uh, distraction way more than they value
00:18:58.900 skill.
00:18:59.240 I think only high achiever winner types of value value skill and you know, that's what
00:19:04.640 I am and that's what you guys are.
00:19:06.040 And I think the biggest skills that we can work to develop are discipline and awareness.
00:19:09.900 Yeah.
00:19:10.260 I love it.
00:19:11.460 And, and I think another skill too is the elimination of distraction, the elimination
00:19:16.100 of distraction, you know, cause a lot of what we deal with in life is intentional
00:19:21.820 distraction.
00:19:22.640 So much noise.
00:19:23.360 Yeah, bro.
00:19:23.920 And like people think I'm getting in conspiracy shit, but I'm not like when you look at like
00:19:27.980 how alcohol is ingrained into our culture where it's like Thursday night, happy hour,
00:19:32.780 Friday night, Saturday night, Sunday, NFL that is designed to keep you guys fucking weak. 0.80
00:19:39.080 That's designed to keep us broke.
00:19:41.140 That's designed to keep us depressed.
00:19:43.400 Alcohol is a depressant.
00:19:45.160 Everybody fucking knows that.
00:19:46.880 And it's woven into our culture as it's a socially acceptable, normal thing.
00:19:51.000 So much so that if you don't live that life, there's something fucking wrong with you.
00:19:55.520 Oh, it's happy hour.
00:19:57.280 Dude, I know.
00:19:58.300 I used to live that way, man.
00:19:59.700 The reason I recognize is because I used to live in it and I couldn't escape it.
00:20:03.380 It's not until you escape it that you actually recognize what the fuck is actually going
00:20:06.680 on.
00:20:06.920 And that's just one of many examples.
00:20:08.120 So I think, you know, a great skill to have in addition to those other two is to have
00:20:13.240 the skill of being able to recognize what distractions are, what things are bad for you
00:20:18.940 and being able to use the discipline, right?
00:20:21.320 See how I said synergistic to fucking push them out of the, out of the spectrum for you.
00:20:26.320 With the awareness, no one is a distraction.
00:20:27.940 Yeah.
00:20:28.060 It's all, it all fucking goes together.
00:20:29.700 Yeah.
00:20:29.940 That's yeah.
00:20:31.500 Love it.
00:20:32.940 Guys, our third and final question, question number three, Andy.
00:20:37.300 Uh, Andy, I see a lot of people on social media that as soon as they complete their, uh,
00:20:43.040 complete 75 hard, they have a day of indulgence.
00:20:46.620 Sometimes it's often overindulgent.
00:20:49.460 Um, some seem to get back on track within a day or two, but some don't.
00:20:53.500 What does your day 76 look like?
00:20:56.080 And what do you recommend to the people, uh, that they do after they complete 75 hard?
00:21:01.920 Well, I think what you choose to do on day 76 is sort of reflective of how serious you
00:21:07.040 took the program in the first place.
00:21:08.520 Cause I can tell you for me, when I do the program, I do not fucking compromise.
00:21:12.820 Meaning I do not eat a motherfucking morsel of food that is not on my program.
00:21:18.000 I do not miss an ounce of water.
00:21:19.880 I do not miss a minute of workout.
00:21:22.020 I do not miss a page of reading.
00:21:24.320 I do not miss a picture.
00:21:25.840 I do not miss shit.
00:21:27.060 I don't pretend.
00:21:28.580 And to be honest, uh, from my experience that with myself and other people who I think
00:21:35.120 who have done it properly, uh, you're afraid to go back to the other life on day 76.
00:21:40.160 So usually when I see people do these things where they get like a 75 hard cake and all
00:21:44.940 this bullshit, I know they compromise their shit all the way through the fucking program,
00:21:49.120 bro.
00:21:49.260 They half-assed it.
00:21:50.300 They didn't do it with the proper intent.
00:21:52.140 They did half-ass workouts.
00:21:53.960 They fucking probably, you know, put zero fucking intensity in any of their training and they
00:21:58.820 missed the point of the entire program.
00:22:00.420 That's my opinion.
00:22:01.600 Now, are there people that probably go celebrate and still did the program, right?
00:22:05.660 I'm sure there are, but be as someone who's done the program for four years.
00:22:10.780 Um, I don't know how many times I've successfully completed it now.
00:22:14.860 It's like eight or nine.
00:22:16.200 All right.
00:22:16.840 Uh, the thing is, is that every single time it's the same feeling.
00:22:21.340 I've got so much good momentum that I actually usually roll right into phase one on day 76
00:22:27.100 because I don't want to fuck up my momentum.
00:22:29.380 If you're truly winning and you truly made the change and you truly understand how much
00:22:34.360 life, uh, your life is better than it was 75 days ago.
00:22:37.360 Why the fuck would you go back to that?
00:22:38.880 Right.
00:22:39.060 That's the point, you know, and that's the thing like people say, Oh, well, it's not
00:22:43.020 sustainable.
00:22:44.020 Well, it actually does.
00:22:45.540 It changes your fucking whole entire habits.
00:22:47.520 If you do it right, it's only not sustainable for lazy pussies that want to go back being 1.00
00:22:51.400 a fat fuck. 0.55
00:22:52.680 Okay.
00:22:53.120 Our baseline of what we think is normal is not normal nor healthy going out to fucking
00:23:02.300 McDonald's and Taco Bell and eating bullshit that everybody else eats.
00:23:06.680 That's not normal functioning human behavior.
00:23:10.640 Normal functioning human behavior is having the discipline to do the right things for ourselves.
00:23:16.780 Self-love is not a chocolate cake with a 75 hard on that fucking outside of it for
00:23:21.480 your 76th day.
00:23:23.020 Self-love is saying, fuck, bro, I changed my whole life, dude.
00:23:26.520 I'm never going back and continuing to move down the process.
00:23:29.380 And that's usually there's, there's, it's two kinds of people, right?
00:23:33.240 Um, but I can tell you this.
00:23:36.680 The live hard program, the way it's set up where you have 75 days, then three 30 day
00:23:41.780 fucking cycles throughout the year will absolutely 100% change your life forever.
00:23:47.440 It will change your habits forever if you do it right.
00:23:50.600 And it is sustainable because what happens when you come off of it is you actually end
00:23:54.660 up living most of the program all the time.
00:23:57.520 Okay.
00:23:57.960 So even when I'm not on 75 hard, I'm not on an official run of 75 hard.
00:24:03.580 What do I do?
00:24:04.480 We're still working.
00:24:06.440 What do I do?
00:24:07.780 Do, do, do you see, do you see me miss anything?
00:24:10.580 I might, I might one time, maybe once, uh, maybe occasionally I'll have a fucking burger
00:24:19.860 or something when I go out to eat.
00:24:21.660 Right.
00:24:22.360 Like, but the, the fundamental baseline of it never changes.
00:24:26.080 I'm still working out twice.
00:24:27.320 One of them is outdoors.
00:24:28.620 I'm still drinking a gallon of water.
00:24:30.340 No matter what, I'm still reading my 10 pages.
00:24:32.380 Cause I want to fucking get better.
00:24:34.140 These things stick with me and people who say, Oh, well, it's not sustainable.
00:24:38.100 That's because you ain't fucking done it, dude.
00:24:41.140 And not only have you not done it, you haven't done it right.
00:24:44.160 Well, it's almost like asking like fucking time.
00:24:46.180 Like you asking Tom Brady, what he does after he wins the fucking super bowl.
00:24:49.980 Uh, they go back to work.
00:24:51.700 And dude, it's look, bro, there's winners and there's fucking losers.
00:24:57.240 That's it.
00:24:58.780 Okay.
00:24:59.200 I'm a winner.
00:25:00.340 I think people, I think that when people take 75 fucking days and they recognize how
00:25:07.280 much progress they made and cause here's the thing, if you do the program properly, you're
00:25:12.080 going to look back and you're going to say, Holy shit, dude, I changed my whole life in
00:25:15.880 75 fucking days.
00:25:17.340 Not only have I lost X amount of pounds or fucking gained X amount, depending on what
00:25:22.420 your goal is, I've read this many books.
00:25:24.720 I haven't read a book since high school.
00:25:26.020 You know, 90 something percent of people never read a single book past high school.
00:25:29.820 Okay.
00:25:30.280 They talk about how their relationships improved, how their fucking self-esteem has improved,
00:25:34.800 how their confidence improved, how they don't feel depressed anymore, et cetera, et cetera,
00:25:38.560 et cetera.
00:25:39.020 If you really feel those things, why the fuck would you want to go back to it?
00:25:42.840 Right.
00:25:43.200 So, and people think they're fooling you.
00:25:45.000 They think they're fooling you.
00:25:46.380 Right.
00:25:46.740 Like, Oh, I got this big 75 hard celebration, bro.
00:25:50.780 If you did the program, right.
00:25:52.260 And anybody who's done the program, right.
00:25:54.760 Completely 100% can understand that you did not by the way you reacted on the day after
00:25:59.880 the program.
00:26:01.860 That's why I don't fucking get into arguments about it.
00:26:04.120 This is why, you know, when people talk shit or say whatever they want, like I saw this
00:26:08.100 one chick one time who was supposedly a fucking trainer talking about, you know, how 75 hard 1.00
00:26:14.200 was something like fucked up for people while she's eating, literally eating a fucking chip. 1.00
00:26:19.920 And she thinks she's being cute.
00:26:21.760 But the funny thing is, is that to anybody who's ever done the program, they look at
00:26:25.460 that woman and they say, God, you're a fucking loser. 1.00
00:26:28.200 Like you're a fucking loser and you're a fucking trainer.
00:26:31.940 You know, we've gotten soft, dude.
00:26:33.980 We've gotten soft.
00:26:35.100 We've gotten, we've gotten to the point where people have to subsid.
00:26:37.540 And here's the other thing.
00:26:39.040 These motherfuckers that changed the program to suit their needs, how you're a special 0.99
00:26:43.620 kind of fucking stupid.
00:26:45.360 Okay.
00:26:45.640 Let me explain this to you.
00:26:46.880 The whole reason that your life looks the way it does is because every fucking thing that
00:26:52.200 comes your way, you try to twist and turn and accommodate yourself to make it okay and
00:26:58.960 less painful for you.
00:27:00.540 And then you take the mental toughness program that has changed more lives than any fucking program
00:27:05.960 in the history of the fucking world.
00:27:07.980 All right.
00:27:08.900 And you think that you're going to change it and it's still going to give you the same
00:27:12.420 benefits that you were going to get out of it.
00:27:14.000 You are a special kind of human.
00:27:16.740 You should wear a fucking helmet in public all fucking day long.
00:27:20.700 Okay.
00:27:21.900 Please do not do this program.
00:27:24.060 Do not even talk about the program.
00:27:25.860 Do not listen to the program.
00:27:27.280 Don't follow my shit.
00:27:28.480 Don't listen to my shit.
00:27:29.860 Fuck Andy for seller all day long.
00:27:31.820 That's what I want from you because that's what I expect from you.
00:27:34.720 You see what I'm saying?
00:27:36.260 Like, bro, there's people that are with it and there's people that aren't.
00:27:39.080 There's people because it's become so popular.
00:27:41.160 There's a lot of people that want to go through the program just to clap and say, I did the,
00:27:45.900 I did 75 hard, but here's the thing.
00:27:48.980 Motherfuckers who really did it. 0.85
00:27:50.280 No, they know.
00:27:52.300 And that's why you don't get the respect from those people.
00:27:54.900 Like these people want to get in the club, even though they've done 75 hard, but they,
00:27:59.900 there's no difference in their physique.
00:28:02.040 There's no difference in their mindset.
00:28:03.600 They go right back to eating shit on day 76, bro.
00:28:07.380 This ain't fucking like some sort of diet program.
00:28:10.060 This is not a fucking challenge.
00:28:11.580 This is a fucking life changing mental toughness program.
00:28:16.200 It's not a challenge.
00:28:19.720 Dude, look, I don't talk about it that much because like it irritates me so bad.
00:28:24.540 And this is also why I don't get into it with people on the fucking internet about it because
00:28:28.600 dude, these motherfuckers, they never going to get it. 1.00
00:28:30.600 They're going to continue to be mediocre.
00:28:32.520 They're going to continue to, to take and twist and, and, you know, mold everything to
00:28:39.040 fit their circumstances.
00:28:40.240 So it's painless and easy and convenient and fucking no effort required.
00:28:45.060 And then they're going to look around and they're going to say, well, I don't know why
00:28:48.600 I don't feel any better.
00:28:49.940 I don't know why this did, this did all these other people are saying this.
00:28:53.680 Like, I don't know why.
00:28:54.840 Well, the reason why is because you didn't fucking do it.
00:28:57.280 Right.
00:28:57.780 You fucking pretended to do it.
00:28:59.140 And there was a huge difference between doing it and pretending to do it.
00:29:02.540 And everybody who's actually done it, they are literally afraid to go back to their old
00:29:07.780 selves.
00:29:08.220 Like, bro, think about, think about this.
00:29:10.480 Like fundamentally, you started this program to change.
00:29:15.620 You started this program to not be the person that you have been in the past.
00:29:21.740 So now you put all this work in for 75 days.
00:29:24.840 And then your first reaction after apparently doing it perfectly is to go right back to
00:29:31.800 the person that you were on day fucking zero. 0.99
00:29:35.480 That's not reality.
00:29:36.540 It doesn't happen if someone does it right.
00:29:38.780 So just so you know, you motherfuckers ain't fooling nobody, especially not me.
00:29:43.080 And I don't give a fuck what you think of it.
00:29:46.560 Most people that do it right.
00:29:48.140 What did you tell me on day 75?
00:29:50.080 I was terrified.
00:29:51.220 What'd you tell me?
00:29:51.920 We were doing cardio.
00:29:52.780 You said tomorrow's day 76, bro.
00:29:55.600 I don't really know what to do.
00:29:57.240 I said, bro, I'm terrified of fucking like stopping.
00:30:01.160 Like I was literally almost in tears.
00:30:02.920 Like every time I think about it, like it gets me because like, bro, I was fucking terrified.
00:30:06.540 And so I didn't.
00:30:07.880 You weren't terrified of stopping.
00:30:09.200 You were terrified of going back to who you were on day zero.
00:30:13.680 Now, if you hadn't done the program properly, you wouldn't have gave a fuck.
00:30:18.940 Yeah.
00:30:19.460 So do you understand what I'm talking about?
00:30:21.120 I get it.
00:30:21.640 I absolutely get it, bro.
00:30:23.220 Well, that's why I'm talking about now.
00:30:24.260 Unfortunately, the program's gotten so popular.
00:30:26.640 Well, fortunately and unfortunately.
00:30:28.640 The program's gotten so popular that people want to complete it to brag to their friends.
00:30:34.140 But like, bro, you don't get to throw an Iron Man sticker on your fucking car without running a real fucking Iron Man.
00:30:39.780 You know what I'm saying?
00:30:40.920 Like saying your special forces.
00:30:42.180 Yeah.
00:30:42.380 You're insulting everybody, dude.
00:30:44.040 And if you're one of those people who's done this and you're already, you're hearing this and you're like, fuck, that was me.
00:30:48.760 That's me, yeah.
00:30:49.420 Then do it over and do it right.
00:30:52.160 Fucking call yourself out.
00:30:53.940 Say, hey, I didn't fucking do it right.
00:30:55.700 You know what?
00:30:56.300 I didn't give the proper intensity.
00:30:57.920 Here's the other thing.
00:30:59.220 This is the other thing about 7500.
00:31:00.780 If you've done it right, you will always feel like you could have done more.
00:31:05.820 Yeah.
00:31:06.740 You will always feel like you could have done more because you understand that your potential and your effort before the program was so underutilized that you start to question your effort and your progression through the program.
00:31:20.420 So there's a whole new baseline.
00:31:22.000 Yes.
00:31:22.400 It sets an entire new baseline.
00:31:24.720 So it's very easy for people who have done the program properly to be able to see who hasn't by the way that they react when the program's over.
00:31:33.720 Yeah.
00:31:34.040 Absolutely, man.
00:31:35.180 I want to add one quick little thing that I just thought of.
00:31:39.100 If somebody listening is 30 years old right now, the average life expectancy in America is 75.
00:31:46.560 So you have like 45 years of your life remaining.
00:31:49.560 If you take 75 days over the remaining 45 years of your life, you know how much percent is that?
00:31:58.600 It's 0.45% of your remaining life.
00:32:02.240 See, if somebody really wants to change and improve and they cannot put 1% of their remaining life into that, I don't know what they have to do.
00:32:13.200 Bro, they don't think of it like that.
00:32:15.000 See, you're a smart motherfucker.
00:32:16.780 Most people aren't.
00:32:18.120 I don't even see a calculator.
00:32:19.500 Remember how I said a minute ago, most people are distraction people.
00:32:25.100 You're an achiever person.
00:32:26.640 You're somebody who wants more.
00:32:27.940 You're someone who wants to extract all the juice out of the squeeze.
00:32:32.240 Most people don't even think about it.
00:32:33.800 It's not that they're lazy.
00:32:35.220 It's that they fucking don't even think about it.
00:32:37.720 Okay?
00:32:38.320 So when you break it down like that because you're a smart dude and you say, fuck, less than one.
00:32:44.900 Less than 1%.
00:32:45.600 Less than half.
00:32:46.380 Less than one half of 1% I'm going to put in for the entire rest of my life.
00:32:55.760 That's a no-brainer for anybody that thinks like that.
00:32:58.080 But like, dude, most people can't think of it because what they're thinking about is the Thursday night happy hour or the fucking Sunday football with their buddies getting wasted all day.
00:33:08.420 They're thinking about this coming weekend.
00:33:10.740 They're not thinking about that.
00:33:11.920 And dude, what's crazy is, is that if you really go all in and you look at like how you can live at an extremely high, because that's what live hard is about, bro.
00:33:22.180 Live hard is about living at an extremely high level.
00:33:25.080 It's not about living at an average level at all.
00:33:27.940 So you're dedicating 75 days plus another 90 days throughout the year, which is still less than half of the year.
00:33:34.240 So you're giving half of the year to live all of the year at a fucking peak state level.
00:33:43.880 And if you do, you're 30 years old right now and you do that for even the next 10 years, do you know where the fuck you're going to be at 40?
00:33:52.420 Incomprehensible.
00:33:53.080 Bro, that's what I'm saying.
00:33:54.400 It's like you guys said, and everybody in this room has done 75 hard, so we can attest to it.
00:33:59.680 If you do it properly, like you said, it's an absolute line in the stone irreversible change.
00:34:06.160 If you do it properly with good intent.
00:34:08.360 Bro, if you do it properly with good intent, like it's almost like you're fucking crying when you're done.
00:34:13.960 Like real talk.
00:34:15.120 Like it's a huge fucking accomplishment.
00:34:18.220 It's whatever, dude.
00:34:18.940 But like, that's why I can't listen.
00:34:20.780 Anything that's set, like, bro, there's famous people in the history.
00:34:25.460 Like there's this one situation in the Boston Marathon where somebody hopped in three quarters of the way through and ended up like, you know, finishing at the top of the box.
00:34:35.500 Like, bro, fuck those people.
00:34:38.560 And like, I'm not arguing with people about it.
00:34:40.780 Like, I don't fucking give a shit, bro.
00:34:42.280 Your life tells the story.
00:34:44.820 What you go on to do and how you go on to live tells the story.
00:34:50.000 That's it.
00:34:50.920 So like the argument and the fucking, it's pointless shit.
00:34:55.880 That's why I don't engage with it.
00:34:58.140 True.
00:34:59.420 But if you do it right, the point is you should be terrified of losing the momentum.
00:35:03.580 And honestly, like when I, you know, anytime I've ever finished it, I think almost every single time I've rolled into an extra 30 days just to finish it out.
00:35:12.500 And do a phase one.
00:35:14.960 So.
00:35:16.200 Anyway.
00:35:17.360 Well, guys, Andy, that was three.
00:35:19.420 Yeah.
00:35:20.600 Won't be a hoe. 1.00
00:35:21.600 Share the show.
00:35:22.060 Went from sleeping on the floor.
00:35:24.080 Now my jewelry box froze.
00:35:25.800 Fuck a bowl.
00:35:26.580 Fuck a stove. 0.96
00:35:27.440 Counted millions in the cold.
00:35:29.120 Bad bitch. 1.00
00:35:29.940 Booted swole.
00:35:30.780 Got her on bankroll.
00:35:32.420 Can't fold.
00:35:33.300 Doesn't know.
00:35:34.100 Headshot.
00:35:34.940 Case closed.
00:35:35.740 Closed.