483. Q&AF： Setting Bigger Goals, Starting From Scratch & Overcoming Victim Mentality
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Summary
In this episode of the show, we have a guest on the show this week, and it's a guest who has a lot of experience in the business world. He's been in business for a long time, and has 24+ years of entrepreneurial experience. He has been in the realist business world for a very long time and has been involved in a wide variety of realist topics. In this episode, we talk about how to win in business, and how to live a life of freedom.
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what is up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realists say goodbye the lies
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the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today we
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have q a f two q a f's in a row i know it's uh i know it's unusual but we have a big guest coming
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in this week and uh some abnormal recording schedules so we're gonna be a little flipped
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around this week but next week we'll be back to normal um so we're gonna get better today instead
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of talking shit so you gotta get better i know you all wanted to talk shit but uh for those of you
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that just started listening uh this is q a f and this is a q a show you could submit your questions
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that we answer on the show that's where we get the questions for the show you could submit them
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to us a few different ways the first way is guys email those questions and to ask andy at andy
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for seller.com and if you don't know that's dj hello children and uh the second way that you
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could submit these questions is if you go on youtube and you go to the andy for seller youtube channel
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uh we do post the full-length shows on youtube we just started that recently um if you guys have
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questions that you'd like us to answer on q a f you could drop those in the comments on q a f and
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we'll pick some from there as well um other times when you tune in uh we have cti that's cruise the
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internet that's the show that would normally air today that you guys uh are losing out on today but
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don't worry we're gonna get you this week um that's a society culture what's going on in the world
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show and i know you're wondering like well why is this a business show but we're talking about all
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this shit going on in the world well here's the deal bro without freedom we can't go out and be
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ballers and make money and kick ass and build awesome shit all right so we have to pay attention
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we have to keep one eye on the society to make sure that we're not losing our freedoms and make sure
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that we can still operate in a free way uh in a capitalist way in a responsible way uh to help
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better ourselves our communities and the people around us we have to know what's going on in the world
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and then we have to know the techniques so this show q a f is more about the practical techniques
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of how to win uh and then cti is the environment of how to win and we need to understand both
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so that's cti uh then we have real talk real talk is uh five to 20 minutes of just real talk that i
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think needs to be heard and then we have full length full lengths where we have a guest come in
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we have a conversation like most other podcasts that you see and uh this is a value-driven show meaning
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i share with you 24 years of entrepreneurial experience uh business experience life experience
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performance experience um in exchange for that i just ask very simply that you share the show if we
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do a good job if uh you learn something if it change your perspective just ask that you share the show
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that's it man so uh when i say pay to fee that's what that means and share the show so that's i think
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that's it yeah that's housekeeping i don't think i got into cti too much see i mean we talk a lot of
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shit on cti yeah well i think so i was thinking about it there's an argument there that the lack
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of understanding and lack of focus on the real world issues uh and too much focus on winning and
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balling is kind of why we're in this predicament we're in no question is that a fair argument i see
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it that way yeah i've observed it that way over the last decade yeah i feel like all the high
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performing individuals that you know which is great like winning is great yeah when i say high
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performing individuals i mean people who aspire to more people who are out building shit people
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who are doing things people who you know you may not be a multi-millionaire you may just be starting
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out but you're still a high performance person you're you're working to be i feel like we've grown
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in such an environment over the last decade uh really about the last 15 years uh for entrepreneurship
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and people say wow what about 2008 2008 was one of the best times for building a business that there
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ever was sure a lot of people lost their shit but there was tremendous opportunity in it just like
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there's tremendous opportunity to build things right now yeah um when everybody else stops and you
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keep going you get to gap out against those people automatically by just continuing to move
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so there's tremendous opportunity then and now and i feel like over the last between 2008 and now
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i don't think a lot of people had really woken up to a lot of the of the truly tyrannical shit
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that has been going on in our government i think up until the last couple years they did a pretty
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good job of hiding it to where where i'm not saying it didn't exist um it's just that like all of us
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who were out here building creating wanting to do awesome stuff we stopped paying attention to what
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was going on in the world right we kind of just figured well fuck it is what it is it's pretty good
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politics i don't like politics yeah right exactly i you know i don't really want to mess with that
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and dude that's true right we should dedicate all of our energy because the truth of the matter is
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is that you know where you put your energy and your focus is where you're going to see fruit grow
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and you know when we when we obsess over politics and we obsess over the environment and we obsess over
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the socio-political goings-ons of the day um we we don't have the energy to put in over here so
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there's a fine line you have to just know what's going on and then like act the proper way but then
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also execute with most of your energy over here and that's how we actually facilitate change because
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when we act with most a lot of people say well put all your energy and you're trying to fix this well
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that's true but that doesn't require a full-time fucking job that's as simple as like just adjusting
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some basic things like having higher standards don't allow yourself to be sucked into the fucking
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matrix become an uh a non-customer of theirs meaning you're not a mega consumer you're not
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super overweight you're not fucking lazy you're not fucking broke you're not perpetually sick
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you're working to not be any of these things that they want us to be so that we become dependent on
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their structure and system those are simple decisions that we make throughout our day that
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can align right in with building whatever it is we're building right for sure that's really what
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we're talking about we're talking about and then you know things like going to your local school
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board meetings or going to your local civic meetings we're not talking about taking all of
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your focus from over here to over here run for office go yeah yeah we're talking about being aware
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of this and then making adjustments accordingly you know like maybe stop spending your money with the
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people who propagate this fucking crazy ass far fucking fetch bullshit the woke shit that you know
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everybody's rejecting at this point you know take your money and put it with small business
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stop spending it with the global corps spend it with fucking businesses uh that are small and medium
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size that are owned by actual human beings that provide jobs that take care of people in their
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communities and uh those those adjustments can make a big difference a massive yeah it's everything
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that's all we can do right now unless we want to pick up fucking weapons and go fight which some of
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you guys say that but like bro real talk you ain't ready for that you know what i'm saying like
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there's a lot of people that talk that shit but like dude you know if that were if that were the
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case i mean when we are to be doing that right you know i'm saying the only way for us reasonable
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humans to actually have an effect on what's going on uh is to to adjust these things be aware of them
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and adjust them and put our energy over here because over here when we build a business we build our
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careers we build ourselves we build everything we're we're raising the tide we're setting the bar
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we're setting an example for other people to follow whether it be our co-workers our fucking
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neighbors our family our friends people in our community when they all see you know you steve
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when they see steve kicking ass right they're like fuck i wonder how steve's kicking ass they
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start paying a little bit closer attention they start doing a little bit better and so dude really
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the key here and this is why i always say personal excellence is the ultimate rebellion the key
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here is elevating all of our standards to the point where we're bringing people with us
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so that the whole standard elevates and if the whole standard elevates and we all look at like
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people who just depend on the government for fucking everything and who are what you know
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people call npcs non-playable characters if you look at them and they're the minority eventually
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those people stop being that way too you know they're trying to make this shit socially acceptable
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there's a study that came out uh fucking over the weekend i saw you know too much exercise kills
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people and then there's another study coke and diet coke improve the size of people's testicles
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like bro they're so bought in like they got 400 pound fucking women on the cover of healthy living
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magazines saying this is healthy when every motherfucker on the planet knows this ain't
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fucking healthy we all fucking know that every single one of you knows that's not healthy every
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fucking single one so it goes deeper than just making them people feel good about themselves and
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that's what people have to understand it dude no it's it goes deeper than than even making those
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people feel good good about themselves in a way where it's propaganda to convince you that it's okay to be
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lazy overweight unhealthy poor and they're they're trying to weed out all the things that make it
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impossible for people or make it impossible for them to control people well so your job if you don't
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want to be a fucking slave to these people is to fucking be the opposite of that that's what this
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show is all about dude this show is about winning it's about fucking how to kick ass it's based in
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entrepreneurship but the reality is what it's ultimately about is us having a fucking rebellion
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without a shot being fired through our culture it's about us all raising together you know stop
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attacking each other and start attacking the people that actually doing this fucked up shit
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yeah 100% man 100% i think i think that was also an important message too like you know because
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you can't get too caught up on the other side either you know so it's a it's a perfect healthy
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relationship we have here at real af so yeah i guess so help uh yeah something really dysfunctional
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yeah right right well i could i want to say something too dude before we even get into the show
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so i didn't post all weekend because my instagram has been instagram totally fucks with me all the
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fucking time they they take my fucking views and they give me all my fucking unbridled views and the
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next day it's fucking no views the next day it's unfiltered views again it's back and forth back and
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forth then sometimes i can't upload my shit for days at a time like it'll do that circle thing
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where it like almost uploads yeah won't upload like bro i'm so sick of these motherfuckers fucking
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with me i'm so fucking sick of it but here's and by the way just so you know most of my content if
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not all of it is going to be on my podcast and then on this little private platform that i built for
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for you guys that we're going to launch soon where the mfceo project will be hosted i'm probably done
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with fucking instagram just so you guys are aware so if you don't see me post on there that much
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the reason is is because they fuck with me so hard i can't even fucking post even if i post
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personal development shit they fucking fuck with it and like i'm just so fucking tired of it like
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if these social media platforms would just run an open algorithm they'd fucking make 10 times the
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amount of money but the reason they won't do it is because they've already lied to people so much
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that if they do it they'll be exposed anyway which is the same thing that's happening on twitter
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you know i saw someone on the left say oh twitter's not protecting people from trolls anymore
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yeah because you're the fucking trolls you always have twitter never protected anybody from trolls
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no bro no they protect the left from that's what i'm saying right and now they got an open format and
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all these people are freaking out because the real numbers of society are showing and they can't post
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anything without getting abused when for the last 10 years they were the abusers everybody else had to
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step in line you they could death threat you they could they got you whatever they fucking dude i've
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been canceled so many fucking times they've called here like thousands of times in a day before right
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you know what i'm saying like these motherfuckers don't give a fuck but the minute it gets turned
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back on them they fucking panic and throw a fucking fit anyway the point is that's why they won't allow
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the shit but dude they're gonna ruin their business because i can tell you this i know more and more
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and more people are saying fuck instagram and fuck meta completely yeah more people are becoming
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disenfranchised with influencer culture and fucking all this fucking shit on the internet and these
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perfect lives and that's what i wanted to actually get to i made a post after my weekend of not being
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able to post and basically the post was hey look this shit's hard but if you don't go through it you're
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not going to get better and you have to understand that anybody who's ever gotten better anybody who's
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ever created anybody who's ever built anybody who's ever been something that you've looked up to
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has gone through these hard times without quitting and i got all these fucking messages from people
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dude and they're like i needed that today i really needed to hear that you know i really love that you
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say that because you're so real and this and that listen dude i don't know who the fuck is telling y'all
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this shit's supposed to be easy and i don't know who the fuck is telling y'all that it's easy for them
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but i'm gonna tell you right now they're fucking full of shit they're full of fucking shit this shit is
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hard being a high achieving person is hard trying to win is hard and when i say being a high achieving
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person even if you're not yet and that's what you want to be it's hard and if you commit to that
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path it's hard and it doesn't matter if your name is joe fucking blow or andy frisella or fucking
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anybody else bro it's hard as fuck so like when you guys you guys see these fuckers out here saying
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like oh you know like they make it sound easy or look easy and it makes you think that you're way less
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than my whole fucking point of doing any of this content and it always has been this always has
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been this is to make you understand that i am no fucking different than you bro if you guys knew
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how fucking hard it is for me to get through a day sometimes like if you fucking really knew you would
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feel a lot better about your own abilities like i struggle like a motherfucker dude like there's
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fucking days where i don't want to get out of bed there's weeks at a time where i don't want to get
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out of bed probably months at a time where i don't want to get out of bed and i fucking do it
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because i have to like dude just because you guys don't see me doing my rucks or doing my workouts
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and shit doesn't mean i ain't doing i'm still fucking doing and like dude to live to a high
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standard is is a struggle for anyone it's a dude i wrote the fucking book on it i wrote the book 75 hard
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bro it's still hard as fuck every fucking day so like dude you guys have to give yourself some
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fucking credit like just because you're struggling doesn't mean that there's something wrong with you
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you're doing it wrong no yeah that dude that's the hard part that's the part that like dude this
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whole fucking idealistic nonsense influencer fucking bullshit on the internet is ruining people's
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fucking image of themselves and what it takes to actually win and it fucking pisses me off dude
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like when i see people who i know are perfectly capable and like smart successful badass people
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dming me and i'm not gonna say their names because i i don't do that shit but saying like bro i'm really
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struggling and like fucking you know nobody can i got nobody bro fucking talk to people dude
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like everybody it's hard for everybody every motherfucker out there that's trying to do
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fucking anything whether it's fucking you know build a company or just be better in general it's trying
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to get through life and not fucking drown yeah everybody's struggling dude this shit this shit
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is fucking like look man it's it's choose your heart it's the same shit i've been saying forever
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and ever and ever this shit is gonna be hard either way you are either gonna struggle from lack or you're
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gonna struggle from the problems that come with abundance and i can tell you from someone who
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struggled with both sets of problems that you want the problems of abundance not the problems of lack
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okay that's the truth and i don't know how to say it in your clear you could you could fucking justify
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your poverty all you want and you could say oh i don't need that shit and you could say this that
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the other fine i respect that but here's the truth i've had both sets of problems and the set of
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problems with abundance of money is much better than the problems with no fucking money okay so judge me
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however the fuck you want on that i don't give a fuck i'm just telling you the fuck that's real and
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everybody knows that though yeah but bro but people there's this there's people that think that
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because you know you get they think because i'm gonna get something i'm gonna get somewhere i'm
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gonna fucking meet someone or i'm gonna get this job or i'm gonna make this amount of money or i'm
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gonna get this car i'm gonna get this girl or i'm gonna get this thing and everything's gonna be
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cool and everything's gonna be happy bro all you're doing is is introducing an entire new environment
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that's gonna have its own set of fucking issues to deal with and so like you guys running from the hard
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shit who think you're gonna find this place of fucking inner peace and serenity you're fucking
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kidding yourselves dude it's not real it's not real shit real shit is going through the process
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understanding that there's always going to be problems that have that happen understanding that
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the struggle is real and it's a real thing having empathy for other people that are on the path but
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also understanding that the reason you're struggling is to get to a point where the problems that you have
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aren't as fucking you know deadly as some of these problems right like the problem dude i got a lot
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of fucking problems bro like i have to deal with all kinds of fucking people all kinds of personalities
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all kinds of moods all kinds of emotions all kinds of fucking bullshit if i'm being quite honest
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all kinds of it okay i'm trying to live my life there's not a single fucking time that i walk through
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my fucking life at this point in my life where the problem that fucking comes to me is something that
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i actually did it's dealing with everybody else's fucking problems okay now in exchange for that
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i don't have to worry about where the fuck i go to eat right i don't have to worry about what car i
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drive i don't have to worry about what fucking you know where where i live right i don't worry about
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that shit but i gotta worry about so much other shit that most people never fucking consider right
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now before i had those problems when nobody gave a fuck i didn't have any people i didn't have any
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i i was trying to solve the problems of how to eat that's what i'm saying that's the trade-off yeah
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so like dude you don't have to have those problems but yeah but like my point is is like you guys got
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to quit overestimating all these fucking people out there like there's fucking superheroes like that and
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you ain't it ain't fucking true and anybody that presents themselves like that i can't fucking stand
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either oh i'm built for the game i'm built for bro i'll eat your fucking shit for breakfast bro
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i'll fucking dominate you a thousand times out of a thousand you couldn't fucking hold my fucking
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jockstrap and i'm and it's hard for me so i know you're lying right you see what i'm saying right so
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i know you're lying like dude and that's where i'm coming from with this shit i'm so tired of fucking
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hearing all these perfection these perfect lives these fuck this fucking fake shit when it comes to
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business success building building a life and i'm just so fucking tired of it because dude when i
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post a post that says hey dude i struggle just like you motherfuckers every day it's like it's
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like they're surprised bro don't be surprised man like i listen when i tell you i fucking struggle i
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fucking struggle i understand what the fuck you're going through i've been through it i've been through
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all stages of it from fucking where you are to fucking where you're going i've i've traveled that
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journey maybe you'll go a lot further than me i hope you fucking do i really do but i'm telling
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you man and this is real shit i'm good at what i do i have fucking i have 24 years of fucking skills
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in my tool belt or i know what the fuck i'm doing when it comes to really much anything at business at
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this point in time it's still hard as fuck every fucking day and that's not some bullshit feel good
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have sympathy for me shit i'm telling you this because you need to quit beating yourself up thinking
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you don't have what the fuck it takes you do have what the fuck it takes you do have the ability
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to learn you do have the ability to persevere you just got to do it and you got to quit putting people
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on pedestals thinking andy for seller doesn't struggle you fucking serious bro like if you
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follow me around for a week you'd be like fuck dude this guy's kind of a bitch but the only thing
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that makes me not a bitch is that even though as hard as i struggle i still fucking get it done
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and that's all you got to do to a high standard that's all you got to do it doesn't matter it doesn't
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matter how good you look doing it it doesn't matter you know that your friends think you're
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fucking superstar the internet thinks you're it doesn't matter what matters is that you do it and
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you do it to a high standard like you just said and like dude it breaks my heart for people when i
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see them talking about you know they're fucking like surprised like oh bro it's so cool it's so
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refreshing to see someone say that they struggle what the fuck are you talking about dude i thought i made
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myself clear over the last eight fucking years real talk yeah like have you ever heard have you ever
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have you ever heard me come in on a show ever any of you anybody listening ever come in and say yeah
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this shit's easy bro i'm so skilled this fucking shit's easy have you ever told me have you ever
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heard me tell you that it was going to fucking take a short time did i ever tell you it was going to be
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easy i ever tell you any of this shit from day one i've come on the fucking internet from day one i
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started my podcast i've been telling you motherfuckers the truth it takes a long time it takes a lot
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longer than you think or want it's hard as fuck you're gonna fucking lose a lot of friends you're
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gonna lose contact with a lot of people that aren't aligned with you you're gonna make new friends
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okay but if you keep going you're gonna find out what it is that you were meant to do and you're
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gonna fucking be on a different level than everybody else that you know and i've been telling you this
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is the real story for years and years and years and years and years and had you started listening
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in 2015 like a lot of you did uh you probably have a successful business now like a lot of people
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do that listen to the show you know how many people i get letters from and i mean you see the fan
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i get fucking dude i get fucking 50 60 pieces of mail a day from people who have been listening
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and they're like tell me their story about how they built this and that and this bro the proof
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is in the pudding i got a q a from a guy that just got a promotion because we'll hit on that in a second
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bro you you got i'm talking to you guys listening right now you are far more fucking capable than you
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think you are stop putting people on a fucking pedestal thinking that they're better than you they're not
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better than you they might be doing it longer than you they might they might have this they might
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be able to fake that it's easy for them okay but it ain't and i'm here to tell you dude and i say this
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from a place of humility because i have a lot to learn but i'm pretty fucking good at what i do
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and it's still hard as fuck it's still hard as fuck so take that for what it is i'm just i'm so tired
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of the internet making people feel like they're incapable because so many people put on this perfect
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fucking persona yeah i fucking hate it dude what do you think about how many people like are afraid
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of even just fucking going simply because of that bro that you combine that with the cancel culture
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aspect and the troll aspect of the internet and you have a situation where because of uh and this is
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why i do this is why i think people should fucking start living in real life and building shit in real
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life not only do the numbers and the data say so i believe people in general in mass are starting to
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realize that this technology is not fucking how we're supposed to spend our lives i believe people
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are starting to realize that no i see it in the numbers in the data of the companies i'm involved
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with people are switching to fucking in person they want in person product they want in person
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fucking shopping experience they want community in person they're tired of this shit and i see the
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internet so yeah and they're tired of being made to feel like they're a fucking loser by some
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fucking faker on the internet who really hasn't done a goddamn thing you know what i'm saying
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absolutely man like bro you know how hard it is for me to watch the internet and watch all these
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people pretend how fucking how fucking badass they are knowing where i know exactly where they are and
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i know they're fucking lying and i know they're full of shit and i know other people are watching them
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and saying fuck dude it's easy for this guy but it's hard for me or it's easy for this girl but it's hard
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for me just not meant to be bro these people are full of shit it's fucking hard
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anybody who tells you any different dude i wouldn't listen to another fucking word they say
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coming out of their fucking mouth period yeah real shit man anyway no that's real shit man
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that's important it's necessary yeah it's necessary man and that's not and it's not even like it's not
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even meant to deter anybody from like no but it's just it's an honest disclaimer okay look i'm glad
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you said that bro because that can come off as deterrent yeah i'm not deterring you i am asking
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you to have a realistic understanding of what you're doing who you're watching who you're listening to
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what you're believing and what you're not believing because the internet has this way of making us all feel
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alone which by the way is intentional if you go read the fucking chaos machine explains this
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it makes us all feel alone it makes us all feel inadequate it makes us all addicted to attention
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which is what fucking keeps us on the platform you ever get that feeling like oh dude i haven't posted
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in a while so i don't know if people still like me right right well i stopped posting three fucking
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years ago bro i pulled the experiment on myself i'm doing better now than i was doing then so if
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you think all your shit is dependent on that you're fucking insane and i've i'm a case study for it i've
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put we've grown every year since then quite a bit or i haven't posted in three years so remember that
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when you think oh no blah blah blah people are so consumed with their own shit they don't notice when
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you're not there and that's not a thing on you but a lot of you guys do this shit because you feel
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like you have to and the only reason you feel like you have to is because they've engineered this
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system to make you feel alone and to make you feel addicted to this fake fucking game it's a game
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okay and then while we're playing this game we're ignoring all of our real life shit spend more time
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in reality bro spend less time fucking listening to dumb fucks on here because i can tell you right now
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most of these motherfuckers don't know what they're talking about that's a fact man and you you
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shouldn't be burying your own self-esteem because you see someone who's putting on this perfect
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persona i'm fucking over it dude this is dude i really think i'm close to being done with instagram
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forever like once i get that other platform launched i am fucking done with it yeah i'm done
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i'm done it's fucking so toxic dude the more and more i watch it the more like the more the more i have
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this mentality the the more i look at it and realize this the more i'm like fuck well and you
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like you know the the the the negative consequences of it you know i'm saying it's like well it's like
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it's like it's like i don't know i'm trying to find a good metaphor for it but it's like once you know
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like drinking for example like once you realize like okay like it's not there for me it has no power
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over you anymore so like there's no need for it there's no cravings for it like it just goes away man
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and i think we're the society as a whole will be doing the same thing with social media and i feel
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like so too i feel like i feel like it's going to be continued to use as a tool but i i mean like dude
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like most of my customers for my businesses are not on fucking instagram or youtube they're not on
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there and that's the thing it's not to say that that's going to be completely eradicated you know
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i'm saying like there'll still be its uses and they'll still be it'll still be there yeah you know
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but i think we'll look at social media how you know cigarettes are looked at now you know i agree
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with that it used to be the thing to do doctors were fucking bro i agree with that
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i i think now it's like oh you smoke cigarettes i think social media will be our generation
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cigarettes yeah that's real shit i really believe that it's real shit you know we'll have our own
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you want to get on twitter i go to the fucking little social media section over there in the
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restaurant you know i'm saying bro i really i really i really think that's i'll tell you what
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dude like when i go to dinner with someone and they're on social the whole time i won't go to
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dinner with them ever again yeah oh ever again like if i go to dinner with you like this is fair
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warning like if you and i sit down for dinner and you're checking your social media and your
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shit on your phone when you're sitting with me i won't go out with you ever again not only that i
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probably won't pick up the phone when you fucking call it i don't do it i'm so over it dude it's a
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real struggle man because those interpersonal skills are just lost bro i really believe that everything's
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going to go back into it yeah i truly believe it yeah i'm probably the only motherfucker out there
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saying it too but i truly believe that's going to happen no i mean even i don't think it's going
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to go full all the way back and that's what i'm saying there's still be a use there technology will
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be i'm not saying that social media is going to fucking fail i'm saying until they get their shit
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fixed and until it's fucking a healthy place people are going to go back this other way that's real man
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that's real and dude uh by the way we we had a bunch of comments on this because we talked about
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this i think on cti or something oh yeah young and old didn't we young and old then we have a
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bunch of comments of people being like yeah dude i agree with that yeah absolutely young and old
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all over the place man because like i said people are realizing it man and like that's we are hardwired
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as humans to crave this interpersonal connection where social media these phones they try to hack that
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by tapping into dopamine responses and things like that but at the end of the day this in part like
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this is still going to be required at a primitive level you can't go around dude you know dude and
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they're trying to remove it all so they can control all of us it ain't gonna happen i i don't i don't
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think it is either i think there's a cultural revolt against technology no i think when people truly
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wake up to technology and they understand how fucking unregulated it has been abused meaning like
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how they listen to us you know you motherfuckers like like people like to laugh they're like oh dude we
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were just talking about that they showed me that yeah right right right that's not funny no no they
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listen everything you fucking say bro these people have gained access to every conversation between
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human beings on the fucking planet without any regulation and there's not a person listening
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to this show that thinks that's okay or not a violation of privacy we deserve our own fucking
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lives these people do not allow us to have it that's the thing it's like you know if you ever feel
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like you know you're alone just remember your fbi agents always listen that's right
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sometimes i talk to those people how many times has there been text messages when i've been texting
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being you've been texting i'd be like hey you fbi guys yeah blah blah we're cool we're good like i
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know you're fucking watching the good news is is most of the people in the fbi are good people that's
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the truth and you know the it's the top fucking ranked people that are okay with doing all this
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fucked up shit the people who actually join that are pure of heart and pure of character
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that to serve they fucking hate this shit anyway that's we're talking ct that's another episode you
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guys catch that later this week let's get going let's make some people better man andy uh question
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number one andy i've been doing a powerless daily since that episode uh since you first released it
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released it and as a result um i've switched careers from an hourly mechanic to a project manager at
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the same company because of it it took four years of using the powerless consistently to make it
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happen i finally reached the major milestone from my vision board but i feel like i have a mental
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hangover because everything is so new and i don't know what to shoot for next my question to you is
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when you finally achieve something you've dreamed and worked towards for years is this hangover feeling
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normal and then how do you find the next step of the journey well i think usually people get to a
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point so if you get if you achieve a goal without another goal behind it okay you're gonna have that
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hangover part all right because what what you're feeling now is like you've just worked and worked
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and worked and worked and worked achieved and now you're you're here it's like now what well yeah and
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you're already in this habit of all these things so don't quit that habit bro pick a new spot to be
00:31:52.580
and start doing the work over again this is the process of lifetime fulfillment and success is you
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raise the bar before you hit the bar oh you see what i'm saying like when you're going to raise the
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bar and like when i set a goal for myself bro like i actually never really achieve my goals and here's why
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now i know that sounds weird but here's why i don't achieve them because i set a goal then when i get
00:32:17.660
within reach of the goal i'm already setting a new goal past that goal because i know i'm going to
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achieve this one okay and so it's not about achieving the goal it's about raising the bar
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when you recognize that it can be raised and champions people who fucking win over the course
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of their life those people are raising the bar before they ever get over the fucking first bar that
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they set they're already looking at it and say oh well okay i got this first win like like like our guy
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here i got this first win took me a long time now your goal should be something past that and you
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should be understanding that you just learned four years worth of skills that'll help you achieve this
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next goal in a much quicker time of of uh reference yeah it might be two years now it might be a year
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who knows but the point you might have to change companies and go somewhere else where your skills
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are valued where you can escalate that but the answer to your question is the reason that you feel
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off it's because you haven't picked something new to go after and dude like this is a big thing people
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think that you know you hit these goals or you hit these milestones and you know you're there but
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like dude it's a long race like we always have to be moving and upping and the whole point of the
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power list is to consistently evolve you it's not to hit goals it's to build your skills over the
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course of time do you understand absolutely so so you're creating momentum you're creating
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momentum you're creating momentum okay cool you hit this goal that doesn't really matter anymore
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you continue to create create create create create create and the achievements come does that make
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sense absolutely in my experience and would you agree with this man because like you know there's
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been a couple of like goals that i've milestones i'll call them that i've hit like for me it's weird
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because like i don't even feel like satisfied with them almost it's like well look man i'm probably
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the wrong person to talk to about that aspect of it because i one of my personal faults that i struggle
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with is i don't celebrate at all all right which isn't good either and i've said this before like
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i've told you guys winners don't celebrate and that was five six years ago and i thought i knew my shit
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well i was a little bit wrong on that because here's something i've learned is that when when i don't
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celebrate or at least acknowledge what i've done i i have a self-belief inside of me that i haven't done
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shit right and so like recently you know because this last year and a half has been so fucking hard
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for me mentally with that injury and then getting off my antidepressants and you know then i got that
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fucking blood infection like it's been thing after thing after thing you know i haven't been able to
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get back to my whole self in that time frame yet yeah which i'm working on now and uh you know one
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of the things i've had to be consistently reminded especially in dude ed my let does this very well for
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me and this is one of the things i love about ed so much as a friend is that like he'll remind me
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because like i know you guys think you hear the brash you know andy that says whatever the fuck he
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wants um but like bro i'm a human being and so like when i start you know struggling like i do get down
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and i do think like fuck dude you ain't shit like you haven't done shit and like ed has to remind me
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he's like bro um have you looked around no the fuck are you talking about yeah but like dude that's what
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but even me right like all of you guys are probably laughing at me right now being like what the fuck
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are you talking about dude but like if that affects me think how it affects everybody else
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you see what i'm saying so it's normal for us to get down and we have to remind ourselves
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of the shit that we did so when i say you know don't celebrate what i really mean is don't get hung
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up on your fucking old shit to where you don't keep moving forward don't stay so yeah because that
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shit will stop you in your tracks and you know everybody grows everybody changes you know who i
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was three four even two years ago i'm not that person anymore i'm a different person i've learned
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a lot that's why i don't have any shame in telling you guys like hey i was fucking wrong on that
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but um i still believe that not celebrating for more than 24 hours is a good thing but i do think
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celebrating is important because when you don't celebrate then it never really locks it in that you
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actually achieved anything and you always feel like you're just spinning your wheels with no
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fucking progress and that's where i get into because i don't celebrate like i you know i was
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talking to ed about this like a couple months ago and he's like bro he's like you're you're telling
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yourself like fake stories like this isn't real like like have you looked around like do you look at
00:36:37.100
look at the people that like your company changes look at all the people who've changed with 75 hard
00:36:42.060
and live hard look at all the people your podcast has helped grow businesses look what you've done
00:36:46.020
with arate syndicate look what you've done with fucking like and he goes down the list over and over you
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know look at all the transformations that happen because of first form or s2 or you know what i'm
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saying like look at the companies you've created that now employ people and he's laying all this
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shit out and i'm hearing him but because i never celebrated any of it it doesn't feel real does that
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make sense yeah he's like bro you got one of the best car collections on the fucking planet i know
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but like i like it still doesn't feel real it's feel because i never celebrated you see what i'm saying
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so like if i have a regret one of my regrets is that i i didn't ever celebrate because i was so
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fucking hungry to get away from where i was that i just said fuck it i'm still going i'm still going
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and by the way i still have that mentality it's ingrained in me it's who i am yeah but it's one
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of my faults one of my faults is i have to remind myself the truth the truth is that i have done some
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pretty incredible shit especially for someone my age so far in life yeah and i don't say that to brag
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because on the on the on the side of you know feeling high on myself or low dude i feel low
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on myself probably more than i feel high on myself that's dude that insecurity that fucking
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that feeling of inadequacy is is a main driver for all fucking very successful people yeah they never
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feel like they're good okay and i'm no different we're feeling like there's gonna be more to be done
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yeah so when you guys think like oh dude this guy's fucking cocky or this is that bro you're you're
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reading it wrong you're reading it wrong because i have to constantly be reminded of all the great
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shit that i've done from other people for me to even believe it and so i'm working on trying
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to acknowledge that through learning how to celebrate and uh become a more you know well
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rounded uh person in that regard yeah but both things to those two things can be true at the
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same time you it's it's true that you have done a lot but it's also true that you still got a long
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way to go absolutely and just maintaining their focus but i think it's important for us
00:38:40.860
to have real talks with ourselves occasionally about what the truth is of what we have done
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and i think of most of you like you have two kinds of people you have the kind of people who
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over inflate the shit that they've done yeah which i actually feel like is a lot of people
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and then you have people who under inflate the shit that they've done and i feel like that's a lot
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of people too and when you compare who does more in the real world it's always the people that think
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less of themselves than it is the people that think more of themselves so i think it's important
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for people to really give an honest assessment about where your ego is right like you don't want
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you don't want to be beating yourself up but you also don't want to be blowing yourself up either
00:39:19.800
right we got to be realistic with it and so like celebrating is a good anchor for achievement where we
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realize okay i did that but now i'm going to move to the next thing and so i don't have any of those
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memories bro i never celebrated like like all those pictures that you see with people getting a car
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you know doing these amazing things with their business and shit or whatever their person i
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don't have that and i know that for a fucking fact bro like you've had a few cars get delivered that
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are like you know ridiculous people don't even know i have them all right cool put it in the garage
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and you fucking you go to work yeah i'm like what bro what are we doing you never want to hit the
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back road very quick you know what i'm saying it's just dude it's it's unhealthy in the in the
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other way that most you know i'm saying so you gotta find that balance dude so like you know for this
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gentleman acknowledge that you that's great dude four years fucking got your got your thing
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that's awesome celebrate it bro make it a big moment in your life but now let's set something
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new and let's go after that that's real andy i love it uh question number two okay andy you are set
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back uh 24 years zero dollars you have no contacts no resources no business no social media no email
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list no dedicated employees nothing to fall back on all you have is the knowledge that you have
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in your brain currently what's your first move and how do you go from there
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well i would obviously probably take care of or take advantage of the free technology that we have
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to promote ourselves first that's what i would do i have a pretty good way of speaking certain things
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people seem to like it been popular for a long time so i would probably pick up my phone and i would
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start talking some shit that's what i would do to get some people to pay attention i would also
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probably start working on a real business plan of what i thought could be done how i would utilize
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technology what i could do for the least amount of money you know one of the things that makes
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uh an effective entrepreneur is doing a lot for a little and one of the best reasons that i feel like
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i've been able to do some things in real life is because for the first 10 12 years we were so fucking
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broke that i had to get creative and i understood um guerrilla marketing techniques i understood how to how to
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how to create buzz when there was no buzz i understood how to meet customers when there were
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no customers and those are skills that you can't replace you know i don't really think i would do
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too much different in terms of what i did in reality yeah except for i would implement technology into it
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um because it's available yeah because it's available and it speed things up like dude
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i did like i did social media the first fucking 10 years guys it just wasn't on social media it was in
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real life but i walked like like you guys you know you think sending a dm to introduce yourself
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while i walked into stores and i shook hands introduced myself yeah see what i'm saying yeah
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and that's how i did it and i did that way for years and years and years and that allowed me to learn
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the compounding effect of like actually giving a fuck about meeting people and doing that work
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and dude like a lot of people you know they want they want the fast track okay like they want all
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the customers and they want all the attention let's say you just create some viral personality
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that gets all this attention well that's fine you probably sell some stuff for a while but now you're
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going to have to learn all the hard shit in front of a whole bunch of people right like you're going
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to fuck up all their orders you're going to fuck up all your marketing you're going to make all the
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fucking mistakes in front of the whole world and you know that's that's dangerous because the reality
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is is just like when i was coming up you know if i didn't have a uh so what the way i describe it is
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this if you have a bucket right you're gonna pour water into it customers you don't want any holes in
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the bucket okay so you're going to do everything you can to make sure that the bucket's not leaking
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before you start pouring extra water in does that make sense yeah all right most companies don't do
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that most companies are in such a hurry to get the customers that they don't think about the holes
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in the bottom of their boat they don't think about um their shipping uh systems they don't think about
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their customer interaction systems they don't think about uh their fulfillment systems they don't think
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about the experience of what a customer is going to experience they don't think about none of this
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shit all they think about is the money and because all they think about this money they go out in a
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hurry to get all the marketing attention to pour it in their bucket that has a bunch of holes in it
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it flows right through this is what most people do with their businesses so my what i would do
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is i would work just i would actually do the same thing i did like we never advertised until i felt
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like we were confident that we could at least provide a a high level experience for for the
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majority of our customers meaning 99 of them with the occasional fuck up well because that's a lot
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it's going to be a lot of new eyes on it right yeah of course and the first impression is
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everything and if you fucking well if you pour all the attention onto your widget even with
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technology and you ain't ready to fucking service it you're gonna fuck your whole shit up if you got
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a bag of shit all you're doing is just showing a bag of shit that's right and every and all the
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people can talk now like all the people can talk in uh instantly yeah so they're gonna say like hey
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did you buy from dj's fucking you know widget factory yeah they're gonna be like yeah i brought
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well i bought one of dj's widget it fucking sucked it took me fucking three months to get it it fucking
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didn't fit right fucking blah blah blah the people were rude see like that those things all those
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things that the hospitality element the experience element of your business are often overlooked and
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the reason the reason they're so rare and the reason they're so valuable is because most people
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overlook them so if you're a small business and you're looking for an edge bro look at the customer
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experience that you can provide and make that the best that you can because that's going to give you
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an excellent advantage over everybody else that's also selling widgets yeah and most people don't
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even think about it once someone it's not even hard especially right now it is hard it takes effort
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you got to fucking pay attention you got to care you got to build relationships it takes a lot more
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effort to do business that way but the reality is when you do business that way a couple good things
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happen one people become advocates of your brand and they talk for you okay like a lot of the guys
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that listen to this show like a lot of you guys you guys you guys talk for us we don't advertise this
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show you guys you it's a it's a perfect example actually we give out free game you guys decide
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if it's good enough to share or not and it's shown over eight years that you guys care enough and think
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it's good enough that you share it consistently which is reflected by the rankings that we have on
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audio platforms right yeah so business is no different you you you're looking for a competitive
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advantage and often you're looking in your product you're looking at whatever your widget is you're
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like my widget's got to be lighter faster more powerful yes it does have to be and you should
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always innovate those things but if you're overlooking the experience bro you're gonna get
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crushed by someone who fucking does that you're gonna get crushed by them so like for and this is
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where it's cheap it doesn't cost a lot of money it's just hard and it takes a lot to be effective
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but like bro what happens if you can build that from day one where you are like 24 years ago
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no because i didn't start even understanding that until i was 11 12 years into the business
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so where would i have been had i understood that then knew that in the beginning yeah fuck yeah you
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see what i'm saying yeah like bro you guys i think anyone who's starting a business i would switch
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places like this is no bullshit that question for every single motherfucker listening to the show
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every single fucking one of you i would switch places with you in that scenario if i could start
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over today with everything i know and give everything up i would start over in a fucking
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second because i know exactly how i would do it i know exactly how it would work i know exactly how i
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could save the first 10 years and i'm telling you how to do that for fucking free here that's it so
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you know a lot of you guys think that's bullshit but like it ain't if i could have the time back and
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the knowledge bro come on it wouldn't even be fair no but that's a testament to how fucking
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that's a testament just like the last question where like you guys feel like that might be a
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knock or discouragement no it's a testament to your actual potential and what you're capable of doing
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right now in this environment which is amazing like you you guys have more opportunity and more
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potential right now than any generation that's ever fucking exists in entrepreneurship ever ever ever
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it's never been easier so in one aspect you're saying it's it's still fucking tough but it's
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never been easier to do it's tough to understand the fundamentals the proper way and execute them
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yeah it's never been easier to get people's attention and get them as customers that's what
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i'm trying to say now you have to exercise some discipline to what i just said like do you want
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everybody do you like now on your widget company that you just started you want everybody looking at
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your bullshit widgets no or would you like your widgets to be fuck quality before you show them
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to be fucking undeniable do you want people when they order your widgets to get the widget three
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months from now or do you want them to get it tomorrow tomorrow yeah it'd probably be a good idea a good
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idea to fix those two items and create a great experience before you start asking for the digital
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attention that we can get so easily now yeah that's real that's the point i'm trying to make
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love it man uh guys andy our third and final question now now dude also that's something i
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didn't have to worry about then i didn't have to worry about that you mean the spotlight understand
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how fucking powerful what i just gave you is i didn't have to worry about that because there was
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no social there was no way for me to get mass attention back then didn't exist we're talking 1999
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2000 2001 didn't exist it was unaffordable to us i could have ran ads we couldn't do it yeah
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now i was forced i was forced to learn what i just explained meaning build good products do the
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best you can with service relate to your customers create amazing experience etc etc etc right i was
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forced to learn that over time nowadays people can start a fucking instagram and get with a good
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digital marketer and get hundreds of thousands of people looking at them not understand and i see this
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allow a personal brands how many personal brands do we see of these young kids that are 22 years old
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life coaching they then get blown up for being full of shit and their name is ruined forever yeah okay so
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they don't understand the lesson that i just gave they don't understand the power of negative attention
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when you're not ready to get the attention you see what i'm saying so like dude it's important for
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you to realize how valuable what i just explained to you is build your shit
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build good systems be confident in them test them make sure there's no holes in the bucket
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then start pouring some in and see if there's any holes then when there's no holes there start pouring
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a little more in when i say pouring i'm talking about digital attention that we can buy very cheaply
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does it make sense yes sir all right absolutely it's important shit
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well i mean but you also go pretty deep into those concepts and systems and rt though too right
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yeah of course yeah yeah like dude listen i'm giving you the fucking tip here all right this is just a
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fucking tip you want the girl that's the game we're playing yeah you want me to fuck the shit out of
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you you come into fucking rt it's the truth it's a fucking truth i don't know how to say it any better
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that's first base that's it yeah yeah and then that's not even the value of rt the value of rt
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is that you're fucking surrounded by fucking thousands of other people that have the same
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fucking goal as you that actually want to help not only do they actually want to help they actually
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want to be a good a good uh influence on the world yeah but like bro the point is you know
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you can align with people who fucking are on the same journey as you how much help
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like i can just tell you you don't know because you haven't been on the journey but i can tell you
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this the few key people that i was aligned with along the way of my journey are the reason i'm
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successful like that's it like i had a fucking three or four key people in our industry that guided me
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down the path and like without them i wouldn't have been anywhere i i would have fucked it all up
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you know so i got lucky to have and meet a couple of those people that were friendly to me and
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treating me good but you could accelerate that by you know a group you know
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a group scenario with a network like that yeah absolutely guys andy our third and final
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question uh question number three andy after listening to the q a f uh episode on visualization
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i realized that i am a victim of why does this shit always happen to me all the time my brain
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constantly goes straight to the negative outcome multiple times a day i keep thinking of the worst
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scenarios and if anything goes wrong my brain says see see i knew that uh i knew this bad
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shit would happen i feel like i'm always constantly trying to fight the feeling of a victim mentality
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what's the best way to overcome the constant influx of negative thoughts man you're in a negative
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feedback loop so you're you're in a negative thought feedback loop so what's happening for you
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is that you have identified these negative things that you were looking at and when the negative when
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the thing happens you're saying see i fucking told you right which sets an expectation
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you get what you expect this is how the universe works when i talk about law of attraction visualization
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oftentimes i also talk about expecting the result okay so what happens is we develop this perspective of
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looking at things and saying well this always happened to me fuck this fucked up and then
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the next day something minor happens like something not big no it's not a huge deal something else happens
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and we look at it and we say fuck see this always happens to me and eventually what happens is you
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train your fucking brain to look for anything that can fit in that fucking square hole that you're
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fitting the injustices into does that make sense okay so when you when you create this negative feedback
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loop it is very difficult to move out of now what you have to do to move out of it the first thing i would
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recommend bro is that you do 75 hard the reason that i recommend that you do it is because you're
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going to be fucking sore and you're going to be fucking tired and you're not going to have a whole
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lot of time to dwell on all the bad shit all right so a lot of times we just need distractions from
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shit to remind us that this shit is the volume is actually way down on this okay so when you make
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your life a little bit fucking more difficult the things that seem hard or bad actually get the volume
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turned down on them yeah does that make sense absolutely all right so and the key is to
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eventually replace this with a positive feedback loop and so while you're doing 75 hard i would
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ask you to visualize the whole time about all the shit you're wanting to become who is you're becoming
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and then taking inventory and knowing every single day that you wake up i did that yesterday i'm better
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than i was yesterday that's a big aspect of the program i am better than i was yesterday and i'm speaking
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about me today i am better than i was yesterday because yesterday i fucking did my work and i'm
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much better than i was two days ago or three days ago because i did my work all three of those days
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so now i get to look back and say well i may not be where i want to be but i am absolutely 100%
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moving in the right direction that helps us break that negative feedback loop does that make sense
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absolutely okay and then also understanding realistic expectations of life okay so many people go through life
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i naturally suffer from pretty high anxiety levels because i'm high strung
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when i start when anxiety starts to become a problem for me i start to look for ways to eliminate anxiety
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but that's the wrong way to look at it because dude anxiety is a is a natural part of every single
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fucking human being's actual day there's not a single person that goes through the day without some
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sort of fucking anxiety it's just normal okay so when you start looking to go through a day with
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no anxiety and then you get a little bit it gets amplified to be the end of the world and you start
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saying see these fucking god hates me dude he made me anxious today look at this shit always and it
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becomes this so we have to have realistic expectations that we are going to experience struggle we are going
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to experience hard things regardless of how much we're trying or how much good we're doing it's it's
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the nature of the fucking beast so my answer is you know first you know be aware that you're doing this
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to yourself second get yourself uh nice and tired and sore and fucking focus on something else
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third part of uh live hard 75 hard which that it's for free it's episode 208 is reading reading is a big
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reading is a big help to help you break these negative feedback loops because you're putting
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positive shit in your fucking brain all right how can you be negative when you got positive shit
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coming in well you can be but if you put enough positive shit in your brain you actually allow
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yourself to be absorbed in the book it helps tremendously yeah all right uh fourth pay attention
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and give yourself credit for the progress that you are making and understand that you could feel
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pretty good when you know i'm absolutely better than i was yesterday like i'm absolutely a better
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humor like right now i'm speaking for me because i'm on 75 hard i'm day 15 and i'm doing it with
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a lot of intent uh high high intent and i'm much better person than i was a week ago it's it's a
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fucking undeniable fact i just am i've learned more i've done more work i'm i got better body comp
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like i'm healthier like you see what i'm saying yeah like it's undeniable i cannot fucking argue
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with it it's real shit all right and when we're in that place it's kind of hard to fuck with people
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like that all right so just be aware and then work to break through it i wish there was an easy
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uh thing to say hey you know just snap your fingers you're thinking about stuff stupid but i've been in
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these things too so is everybody else listening we all know how hard it is to reframe our mind but one of
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the things that you need to really do and what's helped me is is it's it's little bites at a time
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this is why the power list is so important too if you follow a power list um you could actually look
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back over the course of your last week because as someone who wants to achieve more be more do more
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become more we naturally have this this drive that we're not good enough because that's what makes us
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want to be more all right so if we always have this piece of us that says we're not good enough
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that's driving us to be more that means that that piece of us is not good enough oftentimes
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convinces us that we're really pieces of shit so we have to remind ourselves of the work that we
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actually do to say no i'm actually not a piece of shit i might have been way back then but i'm doing
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what the fuck i can do right now and you need to feel good about it and that can help break a feedback
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loop um sometimes it naturally fades out and i think all the things i recommend if you did that for
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just two weeks bro you're gonna find yourself in a complete different mental state yeah that's real
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man i love it man well guys andy that was three yeah that's three go pay the fee
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went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a pole fuck a stole counted millions in
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the cold bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case close
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