REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 486. Q&AF： Building Momentum After A Loss, Supporting Entrepreneur Spouse & Rebuilding Education System

00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy frisella and this is the show for the real let's say goodbye to the

00:00:20.820 lies the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today

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00:00:57.020 multiple versions of the show you're going to hear q and af today other times you're going to hear a cti

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00:01:08.840 uh we put the headlines up on the screen we talk about what may be true what may not be true

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00:01:27.300 uh you know listen to the last episode with alex ramosi it's just basically a room full of some

00:01:32.900 people we have a conversation very simple the basis of the show is entrepreneurship business success

00:01:39.660 and kicking ass okay personal development it's been that way for a long long time uh now you might ask

00:01:47.320 why do we talk about current events well we talk about current events because if we don't

00:01:51.560 understand the environment that we are working in we can't succeed okay so you doesn't matter how

00:01:56.580 good you get doesn't matter how good your personal development skills are if we don't have freedom

00:02:01.040 if we don't understand what it takes to preserve freedom or understand if we have freedom or how it

00:02:05.860 works what's going on in the world our environment can change which allows us not to be effective over

00:02:10.320 here which is what we all want to do so we have to be interested in both it's the nature of the beast

00:02:15.540 uh for those of you that don't know who the fuck i am i'm an entrepreneur i've been very successful

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00:03:01.320 quick at the beginning of the show uh we will sell out of those within the next couple days

00:03:05.200 i think we're three quarters of the way sold out already uh without even running a single ad or a

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00:03:21.320 st louis missouri all right so what's up what's going on man oh not much yeah are you do you have any uh

00:03:27.960 what is actually do you have for the listeners do you have any uh like special projects anything

00:03:32.180 like that you work on on the side you've been focusing on what's what's on the the what's on

00:03:38.080 the the agenda well i mean me not participating in social media is probably on the near agenda

00:03:44.580 i'm really fucking tired of that i think it's a fucking joke i think it can't it's become gossip

00:03:49.620 and drama and it's become negativity and toxic uh yeah it has benefits for building a business

00:03:55.160 connecting with people but the benefits don't seem to outweigh the negatives at least for me at this

00:04:00.420 point in my life so what i've been doing is uh focusing on redoing the mfceo project which i'm

00:04:05.780 going to put most of my time into uh that show this show and i'm going to let that be my content and

00:04:11.600 that's what it's going to be so that's a big project i've been working on uh building two massive

00:04:15.660 buildings across the street that's a big fucking project i've been working on um building you know

00:04:22.120 fucking three other companies at the same time as trying to build this one out that's another

00:04:26.100 project i mean like i don't know there's a lot trying to get my fucking ass back in shape that's

00:04:30.400 a project you know it's been there's a lot of shit going on so because i mean dude i see your daily

00:04:37.820 schedules i see your daily life right like and most people would like if they looked at that they'd

00:04:42.880 like fuck man how do you like how do you not stretch yourself thin right like how how like

00:04:48.800 so i mean how just the way it is it's not that i don't like you know that's required that's what's

00:04:56.060 required like the requirement is to stretch yourself thin uh you know like everybody has has and is

00:05:01.820 fascinated with this idea of healthy balance and all this shit and you know they want all the fucking

00:05:07.360 good things that come with the relentless pursuit of you know these things that we want in life but

00:05:14.740 they don't want to do those things because it disrupts their fucking balance and then they get

00:05:20.200 pissed off that they can't create these things yeah and it's this vicious circle like maximum i want the

00:05:25.360 maximum output with the minimal effort yeah that's not how the fuck it works to get the maximal output it

00:05:30.180 takes maximal effort and you're competing against other people that's the reality a lot of people try to

00:05:34.960 deny the fact that oh i'm only competing with myself i'm not competing against anyone else well

00:05:39.400 it's nice to tell yourself that but that's not reality the reality is there's a whole bunch of

00:05:43.220 smart motherfuckers that are all in saying fuck this i'll do whatever the fuck i gotta do to get

00:05:47.100 where i gotta go and uh they're doing it and so if you're one of those people that wants to do

00:05:51.120 that you that's what that's the cost of of the journey that's what you're going to pay for the

00:05:55.820 ticket to go on that ride um i think the more important question is is why do you think that this

00:06:01.380 is for you why do you think that you need to have all of this because clearly you don't really think

00:06:06.940 that otherwise your actions would align with that you know what i'm saying there's a lot of people

00:06:10.940 reflection there's a lot of people out there that say certain things are their goals but you come to

00:06:17.040 find out you pay attention to their actions those goals aren't really actually their goals at all

00:06:21.080 their goals are reflected by the actions that they take so like you know thinking of that

00:06:26.460 ultimate life that you want and saying oh that would be nice um and then not backing it up when

00:06:32.640 any of the actions that doesn't mean those things are your goals that means it's a fleeting thought

00:06:35.940 of dream you know that you think would be nice yeah you're still sleeping yeah there's a massive

00:06:40.800 and like bro it's not for everybody i'm not here i'm not here to shame you like if you don't want

00:06:44.860 to fucking if that's not what you want you don't want to do that work totally cool but you're

00:06:48.580 probably listening to the wrong show you know i'm saying like you better off listen one of these shows

00:06:52.200 and make you feel good for fucking breathing that's that's not what we do here yeah you know

00:06:56.020 we're for people that actually want to create and we talk about the principles necessary to create

00:07:01.020 and one of the principles is you got to do whatever the fuck you got to do and sometimes you're going

00:07:04.960 to be stretched thin sometimes it's going to be hard uh in fact i think it's going to be hard more

00:07:08.900 than it's not going to be hard and you know that's unfortunate because a lot of people are shocked by that

00:07:14.680 because of the nature of the information that's given out on the internet today where it seems like

00:07:18.920 everybody's you know got the hack or the solution or buy my course and i'll teach you the fast way

00:07:24.540 there is no fucking fast way the fast way is you dig the fuck in you got to do the shit other

00:07:28.840 people won't do and you got to do that for a long fucking time while they're out having a great

00:07:32.300 fucking time then one day you're going to get to a point where you're going to look around and you're

00:07:36.000 like fuck i can do whatever the fuck i want now and those people can't yeah and that's the reality

00:07:40.400 dude like it's it's it's not for everybody but for those people that want it you have to realize

00:07:44.820 the price that you got to pay up front you know what i mean a lot of people waste their whole lives

00:07:48.860 in my opinion trying to be something that they're not really that interested in being because if they

00:07:55.960 were their actions would back that up right you know what i'm saying like a lot of people talk

00:08:00.780 about they want a better career they want a better job but what the fuck are you doing to create that

00:08:04.580 you know what what are you doing in your time away from your job to increase your skill set

00:08:08.820 what are you learning who are you surrounding yourself with what kind of friends do you hang out

00:08:12.840 with what are you eating what are you putting in your brain what are you how are you moving

00:08:17.160 if you don't have a solid answer for all those things that are all directed towards going where

00:08:22.200 you want to go you ain't gonna fucking get there yeah and like it's like dude there's this misconception

00:08:26.900 that it's just like gonna happen for you it's not gonna fucking happen for you like a lot of young

00:08:31.720 people in their 20s that think oh once i get to be 30 i'll get serious and take my shit and you know

00:08:36.560 i'll get it together right right what you don't understand is those motherfuckers are gonna have

00:08:39.820 their shit together they are already doing it they're doing it now you just can't see them they're the

00:08:44.520 same age as you they're 20 years old they're 22 they're 25 they're 27 they're they're doing the

00:08:49.620 shit that's going to produce the result that you want at 30 or 35 right now and you think that

00:08:54.580 you're going to get to 30 or 35 and turn it the fuck on it's just going to be there right that's

00:08:58.460 not how the fuck it works right and uh you know we got all these knuckleheads on the internet with

00:09:03.380 their fucking you know exotic cars and shit and like bro i love cars i got a great car collection

00:09:08.900 probably one of the best in the fucking world for being completely honest um and you got these

00:09:15.860 knuckleheads out there with their fuck like using these things as bait and tackle for people to

00:09:19.860 believe that they know what the fuck they're talking about and these people have these things leased out

00:09:24.240 and they're fucking you know they're no they're no more wealthy than the paycheck to paycheck guy

00:09:28.780 they're just spending all their paycheck to look this image so that they do the video yeah so they

00:09:33.260 can seem credible so they can sell you some shit and get some more money real fucking people that know

00:09:38.000 real shit have real businesses bro you could buy their shit you can go to their headquarters you

00:09:42.220 can fucking go to their office you can see their employees you can talk to them that's real shit

00:09:46.140 yeah you know how many of these motherfuckers online actually have that yeah something to ask

00:09:51.040 yourself when you think about who the fuck you're listening to i'm just being real yeah i love that

00:09:54.780 point too though because it's like you know like i was trying to think of like an easy metaphor for it

00:09:58.880 you know but it's like you know a lot you you hear a lot of people say like i even me like you know man i

00:10:03.140 want to be a millionaire but the truth is is if you were if somebody deposited for

00:10:07.860 higher than that well yeah i mean for sure right being a millionaire was cool in the 70s and 80s

00:10:12.240 bro right right for sure i'm just saying like i'm speaking in layman's terms right but like

00:10:16.480 the truth is if somebody was to come by and just magically deposit one million dollars in your

00:10:23.660 fucking account you don't even have the tools in place to even know what to fucking do with it

00:10:28.600 let alone keep it let alone you know i'm saying so it's like of course you got to build those skills

00:10:32.280 first and then the shit comes and now you can handle it yeah of course dude this is uh

00:10:36.620 this is very apparent look at all the pro athletes that get big fucking contracts then you see them

00:10:41.180 on 30 for 30 two years later broke as fuck yeah bankrupt or yeah look at the lottery winners who

00:10:46.940 win fucking you know a billion dollars and they're fucking you know five years later they're broke

00:10:51.520 if you if you don't understand the game of earning and you don't understand the game of keeping you

00:10:56.920 don't understand the gain of gaining you don't you don't understand all those games how the fuck do

00:11:01.080 you think you're going to be able to manage money you know what i'm saying like dude it's it's a

00:11:05.540 huge thing and and you know that's a whole nother thing like like a lot of people think that they

00:11:11.160 can get that certain amount like i'm gonna get that money i'm gonna get this job or i'm gonna get to

00:11:14.600 that place and everything's gonna fix everything and like bro what you're really missing is the

00:11:18.520 fucking skills that's what you're missing yeah you're putting your value on the fucking result

00:11:22.280 as opposed to the here's the thing about skills bro you could fucking take anything from you can

00:11:26.780 take everything from someone with skills you take fucking everything you burn their fucking house

00:11:30.220 down burn their company now blah blah blah they're gonna know in fucking three years how to have

00:11:34.320 all the shit back right back there not only that they're gonna have the connections because they've

00:11:37.760 been doing it so like you don't get there and then develop the skills yeah and it's a dude listen

00:11:43.880 here's the reality there's just a bunch of tire kicking motherfuckers on the internet that's the

00:11:48.360 truth i'm just saying for where i'm at my life you ask me what i'm gonna do what i'm working on

00:11:54.380 i'm gonna pour myself in like continue into this show um i'm gonna continue to you know i'm probably

00:12:00.540 we're gonna do a couple things on youtube we got a couple little shows on youtube uh that we're

00:12:04.760 gonna be putting out that are one's the lifestyle show and the other one is a car a little car show

00:12:09.460 that we're gonna do uh one episode of each per month that's gonna be cool that's a project we're

00:12:14.060 working on then we got the mfceo platform which is gonna be a private platform plus community um

00:12:19.180 i'm just gonna pour myself into that shit dude you know that makes me feel good like like we're

00:12:23.340 talking about with alex the other day like i love seeing people win and i love seeing people you

00:12:28.200 know and i get i get that through the fitness aspect with with being involved with with you

00:12:33.100 know first form and s2 and 75 hard live hard and all these things um and i get it from the

00:12:38.700 financial aspect from from mfceo real af arate and like dude that fills my cup man i fucking love that

00:12:44.020 shit like i love seeing you motherfuckers win like you guys listening right now the only reason i

00:12:48.300 fucking do this is because i fucking love seeing you win i love going on the hashtag of 75 hard and

00:12:53.960 seeing people change their lives i love going on the hashtag of i am first form and seeing people

00:12:58.180 change their lives i love going on the internet and and talking to my friends from arate who have

00:13:03.080 been in three four years now who have gone from fucking somebody just looking to build a business

00:13:08.140 to multi multi-millionaires who are buying fucking mclarens and shit you know what i'm saying

00:13:12.700 having 150 employees from zero three years ago that kind of shit i fucking love you know i'm saying

00:13:19.680 here's what i don't love uh you y'all arguing about dumb fucking shit all fucking day long like what

00:13:25.080 the fuck is wrong with y'all yeah but anyway that's neither here nor there yeah that's another

00:13:29.440 episode guys yeah it's a real shit though man it's real shit well yeah let's make some of these people

00:13:34.460 better in real life let's uh you know what i think is cool i think the little community that we're

00:13:38.480 starting to build on youtube is cool youtube has a good community yeah i think the comment you know

00:13:42.400 the people who comment on the youtube show i really appreciate those people because they're posting

00:13:46.720 productive comments and they're sitting through our show for the for the hour or two hours or in some

00:13:51.380 case longer than that and having constructive feedback and say asking questions and getting

00:13:56.140 involved on how to really get better i love that shit yeah that's the part of the internet i fucking

00:14:00.340 love you know what i'm saying yeah um and and and you know i just appreciate you guys for being that

00:14:07.800 way and not being douchebags yeah yeah real talk it's real shit you know and i know a lot of you guys

00:14:11.960 are still on audio only but uh if you get a chance to check it out on youtube you guys should you know

00:14:16.500 click it on one night throw it on your tv or whatever because uh from the people who used to

00:14:21.180 listen to audio they're now listening to or watching on youtube they i'm getting really good feedback so

00:14:26.400 yeah i guess i like seeing our pretty mugs yeah like seeing something yeah i love it man well yeah let's

00:14:34.320 get let's knock these questions out man yeah um andy question number one uh andy i'm 23 years old

00:14:39.780 running my own marketing business and i like to set attainable daily goals for the team whenever it

00:14:44.620 comes to the sales but sometimes we don't hit those goals and the guys say it's just one of

00:14:49.720 those days and i can tell that they just wasn't they weren't locked in even though i leave from

00:14:54.160 the front they don't seem to follow suit how do i communicate to the team about building momentum

00:14:58.640 after taking a loss or a bad day and getting them back uh to being intense and being urgent with their

00:15:05.260 action well look man i mean dude you first of all you gotta have real expectations not every single

00:15:11.880 day is gonna be this fucking killer day not for you personally not for your company not for your

00:15:16.940 team not for anybody yeah or or any organization that's not that's not a realistic expectation

00:15:22.840 is it a goal yeah it's great it's a great goal to have but it's not real and it's it's not real just

00:15:28.080 the same way as every single day that you wake up you don't have an amazing day or you don't feel

00:15:32.880 like having an amazing day you know for me it's fucking hit or miss sometimes i wake up

00:15:37.320 and i feel great sometimes i wake up and i'm like fuck everybody i want to burn this motherfucker

00:15:42.500 to the ground and i'll fuck kill you all like that's where the fuck i'm at you know so but here's

00:15:48.180 the difference when i feel like that on the second day which by the way today was one of those days

00:15:52.920 i wake up and you know what i do the same shit i would do on the days that i feel fucking great

00:15:58.400 and that's where you have to fucking understand it as a leadership and running a company is the same

00:16:02.820 thing yes you're going to have days where the vibes off yes you're going to have times and stretches

00:16:07.700 where things aren't good and the best thing that you can do is to retrace the steps of where they

00:16:12.380 slightly got off track because dude the reality is is if you're operating let's just say on a linear

00:16:18.360 scale and uh if you're watching on youtube you can see what i'm doing my hands but on audio you know

00:16:23.560 just picture you have a point in time to in your left hand and you're trying to get to the point in

00:16:28.420 time in your right hand and it's a straight line right here's the deal if you just get off one

00:16:33.660 degree over here you know whereas you would normally just move straight to here to here

00:16:38.600 right but if you just get off one degree and you go over here you end up over here it's a massive

00:16:43.140 difference yeah so like you have to retrace the steps of what where where your team got off track

00:16:47.780 where the fundamentals were missing this is also so real man well dude this is also why you have to

00:16:52.440 have a good grip on what your systematic situation is because if you don't understand your own systems

00:16:58.700 in your business and you don't understand how you're getting from a to b which the shortest

00:17:03.160 distance from a to b is a straight line if you don't have your if you don't have a systemized to do

00:17:08.340 that it's very hard to go back and retrace steps it becomes a game of luck or you know how most people

00:17:14.560 call momentum they're like oh i fucking magically got momentum momentum is not magic it's very simple

00:17:20.100 you force your way through one day at a time day one just this is the same thing for live hard bro

00:17:26.860 75 hard like when people start it the first fucking day you get through it the second day you get through

00:17:32.540 it the third day you get through it by day 15 you want to fucking die but like by day 22 you got

00:17:38.660 momentum and the reason that you were able to get momentum is not because it was magical it's because

00:17:44.040 you forced your way step by step by step by step until momentum just kicked in

00:17:49.900 and so momentum is not some magical fairy dust that we get sprinkled on our heads or some

00:17:54.980 uh thing that happens randomly it's it's something we create and once you dude once you understand that

00:18:02.180 you can create momentum and not only can you create momentum you should create momentum because and then

00:18:08.000 when you have momentum you have to do as much as you can to keep it going for as long as possible

00:18:11.500 because an object in motion tends to stay in motion it's no different with you it's no different

00:18:15.800 with your business it's no different all that and when you stall out you have to get behind it

00:18:19.280 start pushing that big ass rock up the hill again until you get to the point where it starts rolling

00:18:22.660 down that takes more conscious effort but the reality is is that's how it works man you know

00:18:28.300 you have to manufacture it but you you set a point there man and like dude it hit me really deep

00:18:34.060 because it's such i feel like it's so valuable and it makes sense like hit you in the guts it did

00:18:37.860 yeah but like when you all the way up there in the guts huh because when you look at you know when

00:18:41.820 you look at your companies right and you have guts out it did yeah but but when you look at like

00:18:47.080 when you know when i look at your companies that you have right companies that have been built and

00:18:50.920 the standards they did and the standards the standards that you have and how it's always like

00:18:58.400 you you mentioned the one degree one degree off and you end up somewhere completely different yeah

00:19:02.340 it's the standards and typically when people fuck that up it's because they miss those small little

00:19:07.560 fucking things well yeah you know i just think that was a massive point that like i mean i don't

00:19:11.580 want it to get missed man like that's super fucking it's super important well look dude it's this is not

00:19:17.400 magic it's it's just not it's practical shit yeah you know and like once you understand that you're

00:19:23.140 fully in control of creating momentum then why the fuck would you not create it yeah you know what i mean

00:19:27.720 like dude you guys right now that you're sitting you're sitting here listening to this and you're

00:19:31.100 like fuck it's monday i gotta get my shit together i'm fat i'm fucking this i'm fucking that blah blah

00:19:36.040 blah blah blah bro start with today start with today make today the day that you look back and you say

00:19:41.620 fuck man that's when my life fucking changed yeah okay start with today force yourself through it and

00:19:46.680 guess what tomorrow force yourself through that and force yourself through wednesday you can't force

00:19:51.700 yourself through the next fucking 20 fucking days to catch some momentum it might not even take 20 days

00:19:56.780 it might take five it might take seven it might take 11 i don't know but i can tell you dude if you

00:20:02.920 do it for enough time which isn't that much time i'm not talking about 100 days i'm talking less than

00:20:07.580 fucking 20 days you're gonna start to catch the momentum and you're gonna feel it and it's gonna

00:20:11.720 start to become automatic and dude it's a lot easier to row your boat when you got some wind in

00:20:16.300 your sails you know what i'm saying absolutely so like once you understand this the whole game changes

00:20:22.680 like once you understand that you're not at the mercy of the fucking magical world

00:20:26.580 which a lot of people like to believe a lot of people like to believe oh man it's just not going

00:20:31.780 well right now well the reason ain't going well right now is because you're not fucking executing

00:20:35.320 on the shit you know you know you're supposed to do it's real talk now are there life circumstances

00:20:40.580 that make our lives fucking hard yeah dude people die you fucking bad shit happens blow your shoulder

00:20:46.980 out bro yeah dude exactly like there's all kinds of things that happen which is even more the reason

00:20:53.340 why you want to understand how to create momentum because dude if you're not in control and something

00:20:57.600 bad happens then you're really out of control and sometimes shit bad shit happens and it's all you

00:21:03.820 can do to keep from just fucking melting the fuck down by just handling your business on a day-by-day

00:21:09.000 basis so it's very very important it's not just important to success it's important to

00:21:14.120 enduring the nature of life yeah that we understand how much we're actually in control of because dude

00:21:19.940 if we don't understand how much we're actually in control of and we don't have the discipline to

00:21:24.100 control those things then we're fucking we're a plastic bag floating in the fucking wind bro and

00:21:29.320 and that's no way to live yeah that's a highly anxious highly frustrating uh massively depressing

00:21:35.420 confusing way to live yeah and ends and you know and you don't have to live like that it's real

00:21:41.560 simple to change it yeah so setting realistic expectations for the team understanding that good

00:21:47.300 days and bad days you still have to execute yeah um what's what's something else that can get this

00:21:53.200 team back into their action well go like i said you go back and retrace their steps right uh figure

00:21:58.280 out where they got off course fix that and then explain it to them okay look here i've identified where

00:22:03.760 we got off course i know you guys are frustrated right now uh but here's where we got off all right

00:22:08.660 so all we got to do is fix this one little thing this one degree and we're gonna be back on track

00:22:13.040 and usually when people understand what the problem is and that it's been addressed they start to find a

00:22:19.120 little bit of enthusiasm about moving down the right path and then you just build on that man yeah

00:22:23.040 yeah love it uh guys uh andy question number two andy what is the best way to support an

00:22:31.740 entrepreneurial spouse i know that there are a lot of things that are helpful for example handing all

00:22:37.320 handling all the non-biz life things but it just never feels enough what's the best way to support

00:22:43.060 them especially in the first few years when they are working seemingly 26 hours a day

00:22:48.380 any insight on that you you gotta be patient you know um i i think

00:22:56.280 i i know this to be true um if you don't have someone that's willing to row the boat with you

00:23:04.060 you can't really get very far if you have like there's three stages of this right let's just say

00:23:09.480 you got a boat and you're in the boat and you're in the boat with your spouse and there's three ways

00:23:14.980 they can be they can either ride in the boat and be neutral right but that's not actually neutral

00:23:19.620 because the boat's hard to row right wait okay or they can row the boat with you which helps right

00:23:27.600 or they can throw anchors in the water behind the boat and slow you to fuck down and those are the

00:23:34.020 three stages of what relationship what kind of relationship you have you have one of those three

00:23:38.320 things yeah and um i can tell you this for sure that you you cannot achieve high levels of success

00:23:45.320 without someone who's helping row the boat you just can't do it it cannot be neutral it cannot

00:23:51.000 be throwing anchors in the water so that's the first thing to understand and unfortunately

00:23:54.680 that's uncomfortable for people because people realize like fuck i'm with this person who you

00:24:01.540 know i i like for certain reasons right like maybe you're super attracted to them maybe maybe you've

00:24:07.540 just been with them for a long time yeah uh you know but you you look at them and you realize that

00:24:13.820 they are actually throwing anchors in the boat and you start you try to tolerate it but dude i'm telling

00:24:18.520 you you can't get where you want to go and so it's you know what do you do in that situation what the

00:24:23.440 fuck do you think i would save to do right you know what i'm saying you got to make some fucking

00:24:26.820 changes or you got to evaluate what you actually want do you actually want this or do you actually

00:24:32.140 want this but here's the thing i will tell you young bucks about this is if you have someone who

00:24:36.580 nags you and throws anchors in the boat when you're trying hard when you stop trying they're

00:24:40.380 gonna bitch about the boat not moving oh man okay so like now that well dude it's true so they're

00:24:45.640 gonna fucking come at you either way it's a character flaw people that nag nag for positive

00:24:50.340 or negative reasons so like you have to fucking understand that like the likelihood of and so

00:24:55.980 here's the here's the danger in that right a lot of young bucks a lot of people will give up on their

00:25:00.480 dreams for this person and then this person turns like they stop moving towards where they want to go

00:25:05.460 and then this person ends up like ruining their fucking lives and then they end up bitter because

00:25:11.220 they gave up on where they were trying to go and this person never really did anything

00:25:14.640 and that it ends up fucking real bad so like being aligned with someone is super super important

00:25:21.260 that's the first part uh how to support them dude that's a unique situation in every single case

00:25:26.280 you know and also it's a unique situation in different phases of business yeah you know in

00:25:31.100 the beginning phases of business being patient and being tolerant and understanding that investments

00:25:35.540 are being made and that might mean you know you don't get to go to on vacation or you don't go to

00:25:40.020 dinners or you don't get you know the new car um or you don't get you know the jewelry or the

00:25:45.040 fucking you know whatever it is or you know uh if you're if you're if it's your wife working you

00:25:50.220 don't get the fucking home-cooked meals you gotta you gotta fuck you might have to start cook that's

00:25:54.080 right like dude there's it's you get what i'm saying absolutely like and uh it's just it's just

00:26:01.000 working as a team you know like it's understanding that you're a fucking team and you know i think a lot

00:26:07.800 of people fuck this up because they tit for tat their relationship i do this so you got to do that

00:26:13.260 and they keep this score but the reality is is dude this the only score that matters is where the fuck

00:26:18.580 you're going to end up and so you know there can't be like this this tit for tat situation either so

00:26:26.040 like there's a lot to be said for this man um but like dude i'm no relationship expert like i don't i

00:26:31.300 don't like to talk about relationships because i think they're hard and i don't think anybody has it

00:26:35.880 figured out and it seems to me that everybody that pretends like they haven't figured out

00:26:39.160 ends up being embarrassed publicly when their shit falls apart because dude that's what happens

00:26:43.660 sometimes relationships fall apart yeah and um i really don't listen to anybody who thinks like

00:26:49.480 these people out there that try to promote themselves as the perfect couple or the marriage

00:26:53.140 or perfect this or that because like dude i've been around long enough to see these same

00:26:56.860 motherfuckers lose all their shit so like i think it's it's a case-by-case basis you have to decide

00:27:02.480 what's right for you and uh no two relationships uh are ever the same and it's about finding

00:27:08.800 something that works for the goals that you both mutually have but but like i said the first thing

00:27:13.160 that has to happen is that you have to have a situation where you're in a relationship with someone

00:27:17.560 who wants to row the boat to the same place that you want to row it to yeah absolutely man i love it

00:27:22.280 yeah um andy our third and final question switching gears here just a little bit uh andy you've

00:27:27.840 talked a lot about how the formal education system needs to be burned to the ground and redone

00:27:32.620 what needs to be done and how would you do it man president andy yeah what would i actually do um

00:27:44.480 i would ban all okay first of all i i would raise the salary of all teachers to like 250 grand and we

00:27:54.840 would subsidize it through tax dollars across the board as a minimum okay okay and the reason i

00:27:59.620 would do that is not to reward the level of teachers that we have now but to attract actual

00:28:04.660 good people that want to care about these kids but also have to pay for their fucking livelihood

00:28:09.360 because personally i believe that the part of the reason that we have a lot of not all we have a lot

00:28:17.420 of good teachers out there okay and and i get caught up in like generalizing just like a lot of you

00:28:22.360 guys do and a lot of other people do but we have to acknowledge there's a lot of great fucking

00:28:26.500 teachers out there to give a lot of fucks okay those people shouldn't in my opinion shouldn't

00:28:31.860 struggle to pay their bills when they're spending their entire lives pouring into other people's

00:28:36.560 children all right so if we could up the pay scale which we could easily do okay you know we send

00:28:43.520 fucking how much money to ukraine this year right uh you know all these wasteful things like dude look

00:28:49.140 i'll clean this bitch up real quick all right we could pay these teachers to you know 250 grand

00:28:55.580 let's say understanding that's a premium pay position and what that will do is that will

00:29:00.340 attract better talent and better skill level into the teaching profession which will allow us to move

00:29:05.540 out some of these crazy fuckers that just it'll create a level of competition to where those crazy

00:29:11.420 people we can fucking weed them the fuck out we don't need them because right now the only reason

00:29:15.280 those people exist is because they can't find people to fucking teach right all right can't find

00:29:19.820 people to teach because they ain't ain't no money in it that's right yeah that's right makes sense

00:29:23.220 okay here we go getting it yeah all right so so so we start pay so we start subsidizing with tax

00:29:30.280 dollars instead of sending them to fucking ukraine or fucking africa or fucking wherever to south

00:29:34.860 america gender studies yeah whatever the fuck we're sending them to uh across the board and then we

00:29:39.920 you know like dude i could go on and on with this question we would we would make it illegal for for

00:29:45.000 them to fucking you know get political kickbacks from our tax dollars etc etc etc but we'll keep it

00:29:51.600 on education right now so you up the pay you weed out the fucking the the people who are teaching this

00:29:56.940 crazy shit like uh you know the the sexualization of children when they're in fucking kindergarten

00:30:02.540 and uh you know the the political views and and all the indoctrination that's happening we're going

00:30:08.740 to remove that from the t from schools and we are going to go back to teaching schools skill sets all

00:30:16.000 right and not only we're going to go back we're going to improve because what we're actually going

00:30:19.600 to teach our kids is how to actually fucking win and produce results in reality not an idealistic

00:30:26.140 because what they're doing now is they're trying to indoctrinate generations of kids

00:30:29.920 into creating this idealistic world that actually doesn't work in reality it's not going to work

00:30:35.640 it's not going to work because it defies the laws of natural order yeah so we teach our kids the truth

00:30:42.560 we teach them that competition matters we go back to the way that i was raised which was if you want

00:30:47.240 to win you got to be fucking good okay that's a helpful thing for kids to understand we teach them

00:30:51.960 actual history we teach them true shit uh we're not politicizing and um get back to you know

00:30:59.000 integrating the schools together so that our culture can learn to communicate and work together

00:31:03.280 one of the best things that i loved about growing up and going to public school growing up was that

00:31:08.740 we were we were desegregation program all right so like and i didn't value this until i actually went

00:31:14.500 to high school where it wasn't like that yeah so when i went to grade school it was it was like half

00:31:19.640 black half white okay and what happened was you didn't really learn to see color because everybody

00:31:26.020 was there and you learned how to communicate and you you learned each other's culture and you became

00:31:30.420 cool and it was cool you know what i'm saying like hey what'd you bring to lunch today yeah

00:31:35.500 potato salad with raisins yeah fuck off i bought that cream soda too bitch

00:31:40.460 so so so so dude but it's important man it is important yeah and um you know that's i don't

00:31:50.000 know there's lots of things you could do but i think i think upping the standards of pay upping

00:31:55.420 the standards of qualifications recruiting new talent recruiting new people into the education system

00:32:01.960 uh and then making it based upon you know meritocracy not on uh diversity inclusion so it's not like

00:32:09.500 you know oh we have this many female teachers or this many minority teachers or this or this this

00:32:14.340 it's a hey who's the fucking best right right and we get back to that right and um that would fix a

00:32:20.800 lot of shit yeah that would fix a lot of shit i love it you know you could fix a lot of things with

00:32:25.380 our own tax money dude while the simon this is the this is the math nobody wants to look at

00:32:30.120 you could actually lower our all-in tax rate to 10 to 15 percent and do this with the education

00:32:36.380 system and the policing system and the military and still fucking make it worth math reagan did it

00:32:42.280 dude it can be done yeah and people don't because people don't understand the math they don't understand

00:32:47.060 you know but the math it works so i don't know man i think there's a lot of things that can be done but

00:32:54.340 uh you know critical race theory needs to be fucking gone that's fucking bullshit you cannot teach

00:33:01.900 little black children that they're going to have uh impossible time being successful because the

00:33:07.720 entire system is rigged against them that's the exact opposite of what children need children need

00:33:13.340 to be told they can be anything they need to be shown they can be anything and they need to be shown

00:33:17.000 that they can be anything by actually putting in the work not because they were born a certain way

00:33:21.140 all right you can't tell little white kids that because they were white and there's nothing they can

00:33:25.900 do about it that they're fucking racist whatever you earn needs to go to other dude listen we're totally

00:33:30.700 we're fucking so far off track of reality in our education system it's absurd yeah um so let me so

00:33:38.000 i mean because we talk about the overreach of government just quickly on this so do you think

00:33:41.680 that that's something that would fall like should that some be something that falls in the hands of the

00:33:46.560 federal government to oversee or would you still allow that to be up to the state level

00:33:52.160 i think the more power that resides in the state the better the union yeah for sure yeah my that's my

00:34:00.620 but if they're gonna get some federal dollars these are some things they gotta i think i think the

00:34:04.140 size of the federal government should go way down states you can have most of the power and that way

00:34:09.360 there's there's there's a reality to you know you can choose where you want to live under what kind

00:34:15.160 of leadership what kind of people but even if you did that even if that was the case that we had

00:34:19.440 right now which is not are you moving to california right now fuck oh i'm being real i'm asking you

00:34:26.220 guys out here like you it's a statistical fact more people are leaving california than have ever

00:34:30.920 left before they are the ones that have the most implementation of all these progressive policies

00:34:36.940 yeah and we can see how it's working in real time it's destroying the most probably the most beautiful

00:34:42.460 state in this fucking country yeah and the reverse of that if you if you do want those ideals and you

00:34:47.500 do want go move to california huh like yeah that's right nobody wants to move there because it's a

00:34:53.500 shithole okay so and it's not only that it's expensive shithole that's the biggest fucking

00:34:58.240 scam ever yeah but like the point is is that we're in a situation now where um there's gonna have to be

00:35:06.040 some real conversations that happen about what we want our future to look like and you know some of

00:35:11.760 these fixes that you see like dude if the if the if the laws were enforced properly we wouldn't really

00:35:19.620 have any issues people like oh we got to burn the whole system now i don't know man

00:35:23.280 like if we would just enforce them like the way they're supposed to be the way they're written

00:35:26.940 without the loopholes yeah uh it would work yeah you know what i'm saying yeah that's real man but

00:35:32.420 the teaching thing you know like i think reality is is we have a lot of teachers listening to the show

00:35:36.880 dude in fact a lot of teachers actually let their kids listen to my show which is debatable

00:35:40.760 if i approve of that or not but the reality is is uh um that's one thing about the the new mfceo

00:35:48.660 there's far less there's far less cursing than there was um just because i i think i curse less

00:35:55.740 generally but uh the point is is like dude we could fix a lot of these things really easily but

00:36:01.500 like the problem is is we have so much corruption at the top that they're they're not allowing us to

00:36:07.280 fix it because it's intentionally fucked up you know like people ask well why are they teaching our

00:36:12.620 kids to not compete why are they teaching our kids to not love this country why are they teaching

00:36:18.840 our kids that you know it's not a meritocracy but it depends on who you are and how you were born and

00:36:25.460 what gender you are what race you are to regards to what sort of treatment you get why aren't we

00:36:30.800 teaching uh you know to win you have to be good why are we teaching to judge people on the content of

00:36:36.900 their character not on the color of their skin why aren't we teaching things like personal finance

00:36:41.520 and how to actually operate a household in school why aren't we teaching how to manage credit why

00:36:47.700 aren't we teaching all of these things well the answer is very simple it's because it's intentional

00:36:51.840 and it's intentional because they want you they want you and your kids and your kids kids to be

00:36:58.040 dependent on their systems and the way they keep you dependent on their systems by keeping you in the

00:37:02.320 dark on the reality of the skills that you need to operate in real life and this is the fucking

00:37:06.640 problem that we have in this country right now we have an intentional set of rules that has been

00:37:13.120 placed into our education system to make people believe certain things and this is not new this has

00:37:18.240 been going on for 20 years to make people believe certain things that make them a slave to the

00:37:23.360 system by default okay and when you ask yourself why well why do you think because the more people that

00:37:31.740 are dependent on them the more their fascist system which is fascist by the way the government works

00:37:38.080 with the big business works with big tech and they all collude on this fucking narrative it's a

00:37:43.340 communist narrative too you'll wake up to this whether you one day you guys may think i'm crazy you'll

00:37:48.480 wake up to this this is a communist fucking insurgency across the board the reason they want to do that is

00:37:54.280 because they want you fat they want you sick they want you lazy they want you at home consuming data

00:38:00.960 consuming food consuming medicine and they that's their business plan their business plan is not

00:38:07.000 freedom their business plan is not healthy happy uh real life uh you know fit wealthy like successful

00:38:16.840 like dude do you know how successful people could really be dude if we changed the situation in our

00:38:22.620 government regarding the tax code right like if we just made some simple changes to the tax code

00:38:28.100 you would the bit like unless you've owned a business and you understand how taxes work you do

00:38:33.740 not know what the fuck you're talking about when it comes to businesses paying their fair share you

00:38:39.280 don't fucking get it okay you all are told this lie you know they say oh well business owners if they if

00:38:46.680 they we had less taxes they would just take more money home that's not true because greed actually

00:38:52.160 creates more jobs because for them to make if they had less tax and they realized they could make

00:38:57.840 more money when they may realize they have to make more money they're going to fucking hire more

00:39:02.420 people create more careers you understand what i'm saying but they make it seem like oh these people

00:39:07.620 like dude these motherfuckers that you're talking about are smart they're going to get their money

00:39:11.760 anyway the shit rolls downhill listen they're going to get their money anyway

00:39:15.820 people think like oh if we cut taxes on these businesses then that's going to mean that they're

00:39:22.940 just going to take it home buy another fucking bugatti no motherfucker they're going to realize

00:39:27.240 that if they reinvest that money into their company which creates more careers more opportunities

00:39:32.100 that they're going to make fucking 10 times the amount of money they're making now

00:39:35.740 okay and the ethical ones which you know that's arguable a lot of people think oh well these guys are all

00:39:41.540 fucking dicks not all of them okay because the ethical ones will share a lot of that profit with

00:39:47.200 the people that build the company this happens every day but those stories are never told right

00:39:51.660 the only story that's told is the story of the greedy entrepreneur that fucks everybody because that

00:39:56.900 serves their narrative you know we don't talk we don't talk about the answer i'm saying they don't

00:40:01.900 even name those people where are those people at who are those people then dude they don't talk about

00:40:06.500 who are those businesses that's what i'm saying and those are the ones that we should be supporting

00:40:09.940 right they don't talk about you know the houses that these certain companies certain companies

00:40:15.740 pay to build in their own city they don't talk about the generation or the uh the how they help with

00:40:22.560 all the fucking causes that are going on in their own town they don't people don't talk about those

00:40:27.300 things amazon ain't fucking doing that fucking big tech ain't doing that they're spending 400 million

00:40:34.020 dollars to fucking squeeze out a bullshit election in georgia exactly they're not built they're not

00:40:38.600 taking that 400 million dollars and reinvesting in the community but i know tons of small business

00:40:43.280 and medium business operators that do it every fucking day but those are the people that are told

00:40:48.240 that you're told through the news that there's greedy fucks and they don't do their shit and they

00:40:52.900 blah blah blah and then you know you come to work you look full fucking hate this fucking job and i

00:40:58.440 fucking hate my boss and hate this and hey bro you're buying their shit hook line and sinker you're part of

00:41:03.700 the problem as you scroll on amazon and yeah right bro as as you as you get pissed off at your local

00:41:11.840 small business and then still go buy from amazon and don't dude that's what i'm saying and so there's

00:41:18.620 just there's a lot of things wrong right now but the good news is is that if you got the right people

00:41:23.400 in office you could fix it real quick oh that's real man you know i think people have to have a

00:41:28.500 really really deep discussion and thought process over what you want this country to look like long

00:41:33.200 term and what you're willing to do to contribute to that you know because it starts with our own

00:41:37.660 example it starts with us it starts with our own standards it starts with how we live it starts with

00:41:41.540 the standards that we hold and other people will pay attention to that that's why i always say dude

00:41:45.280 personal excellence is ultimate rebellion if you if we all removed ourselves from being customers of

00:41:50.500 their fucking machine they won't have a machine no see what i'm saying ain't no gas in it that's it

00:41:56.960 that's it it's real so shit man love it well guys andy that was three that's three go pay the fee

00:42:04.800 went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a pole fuck a stole counted millions in

00:42:12.020 the code bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case close

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - March 13, 2023

486. Q&AF： Building Momentum After A Loss, Supporting Entrepreneur Spouse & Rebuilding Education System

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