REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 489. Q&AF： Being The Best Intrapreneur, Tough Coaching On Kids & Building Personal Brand Vs. Building Business

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00:03:24.600 that means all right that's the housekeeping i think when's the show air monday okay all right that's

00:03:34.460 housekeeping all right what's up handy how do you take showers the fucking loofah bro you use loofah

00:03:41.340 fuck yeah because i like a fucking brand new loofah and a pink one too okay well i mean no but

00:03:47.980 you're over here trying to make fun of loofahs i heard you no i use a loofah oh you did yeah i use

00:03:52.200 i use one of these dudes see i'm over here doing my thing and you guys don't think i hear you

00:03:55.780 fucking heard you no no because there was this thing that like no well we talked about how the

00:04:00.840 the pantries are racist right um but i saw this article and it made me think of it because they

00:04:06.060 were talking about things that like i guess like black people only black people do and apparently

00:04:10.440 it's a black person's thing to wash up with a washcloth we used to use washcloths yeah i like i

00:04:15.940 used them growing up but like i've stopped well i used one to like that's because they came out

00:04:19.960 with loofahs that's what i'm saying like i use the loofah i feel like it gets in there a little bit

00:04:23.780 more would you drive a flintstone car if they had a regular car no okay yeah well then that's why you

00:04:29.540 don't use a washcloth you should use a loop yeah everybody knows that loofah is good for you

00:04:33.720 exfoliates the skin that's what i'm saying clean it gets in there yeah it's good stuff yeah what

00:04:40.140 color is your your loofah blue nice blue and black blue and black yeah i got the dove uh loofah thing

00:04:47.540 because i i do i got sensitive skin yeah like it's a big deal i'm actually kind of insecure about it a

00:04:52.040 little bit but like it's a big deal so i gotta be careful with what i put on my skin yeah you know

00:04:56.220 with lotions and shit but yeah so i use dove so i know what you use i know what you use i know

00:05:02.160 other dudes jizz yeah no you use that that's why your skin looks so fucking nice no no no i we know

00:05:10.740 we are we know what you use what that that extra large black that's right i gotta get my soul from

00:05:16.460 somewhere it's 50 bigger that's right that's right what it says no man what's cool everything else is

00:05:24.320 good though man yeah man going good what you sipping on over there that's a change up yeah

00:05:30.000 this is my post workout here uh got it from the smoothie bar it happens to be the mfceo smoothie

00:05:35.100 oh what's he taste like it's uh it's like a chocolate cherry uh cherry chocolate that's a good one yeah

00:05:40.880 it's good it's my favorite one it's a good it's my favorite one because it's got the right macros

00:05:44.020 yeah you get a shit ton of protein it's got 51 grams of protein yeah 20 something grams of carbs

00:05:49.260 low fat it's good yeah i like it i just got done training legs so getting swole yeah fuck yeah

00:05:55.180 yeah training is going good everything's good all three of them what excuse me

00:05:59.100 but yeah training is going good

00:06:04.280 sorry i was enjoying this amazing non-add yeah chocolate cherry right um now it's not out

00:06:14.120 i think i'm on day four again you know i started 75 hard over um with my one buddy

00:06:18.840 and um yeah i'm i'm excited dude because like it's kind of weird because it's not really day

00:06:23.680 four it's like day whatever day you're 100 no it's like day 20 uh 24 or yeah um but i feel good

00:06:33.220 yeah everything's going good man just moving right along man yeah with it's important right now for

00:06:39.580 you know i think it's important right now for people to really take

00:06:43.400 it's seriously like what what they're controlling because uh yeah you know i've heard from so many

00:06:49.480 of you over the last couple weeks just uh through the socials that are struggling right now because

00:06:54.800 of all the panic and the shit going on in society and you know like guys this is the reason i've spent

00:07:01.260 the last three years and dj spent the last three years and other people as well have spent the last

00:07:06.460 three years trying to warn you what the fuck was coming and here we are and now everybody seems to be

00:07:12.460 losing their fucking mind like i'm just kind of like yeah i fucking told you you know but like

00:07:19.140 in these chaotic times guys you have to realize that it's extra important to control what you can

00:07:24.820 control because if you don't control what you can control because of the nature of society you're

00:07:29.060 going to naturally feel anxious you're going to naturally feel depressed you're going to naturally

00:07:32.460 feel like things are spinning out of control and so if you don't make the effort to really

00:07:37.100 make a conscious effort to control what you can which is how you move which is what you drink

00:07:44.480 which is what you eat which is the information you consume who you spend your time around what

00:07:49.080 execution you take these things matter especially uh in times of chaos because in times of chaos most

00:07:57.620 everybody else kind of stops they're like fuck what do i do and they pull in this happened to me in

00:08:03.220 2008 in 2008 in business that all the shit happened bro and all my competitors stopped trying they

00:08:13.580 completely stopped and they went into like survival mode and usually well the reason they went into

00:08:19.460 survival mode is because most of them are way overextended they were they were they were they were

00:08:24.360 not running a business responsibly so they had to fucking pull all their all their offense in they had

00:08:31.040 to go into their shell but what they don't realize and what you guys got to realize is that if you go

00:08:35.200 in your shell during times like this you never come back out it doesn't happen so it's very important

00:08:41.120 for you to recognize that whoever you are whatever you do whatever it is you're trying to do whatever

00:08:46.180 business you're trying to grow whatever career you're trying to grow when these chaotic times happen

00:08:51.540 it's actually our biggest opportunity to jump ahead because everybody else stops yeah so these are the

00:08:56.740 times when the gaps are created over your course of your life big gap between me and all my peers

00:09:01.820 the first one happened in 2008 everybody else stopped i kept going that created a gap right uh another one

00:09:08.900 in 2020 everybody else kind of stopped we kept going so like my my message to you is this whether it's just

00:09:16.120 your person whether it's your business whether whatever it is get hyper focused get hyper intentional on

00:09:22.860 exactly what you control and make a solid effort to control those things because if you do not you're going

00:09:29.880 to fall the way of everybody else which is panic chaos and paralyzation and lack of progress for maybe

00:09:37.580 forever because a lot of these people like i said when they go in their shell they never come back out and

00:09:42.060 remember this is the tortoise and the hare analogy that we've all heard doesn't matter how fast you're moving

00:09:48.000 what matters is that you keep moving and so that's the message that i think really everybody needs to

00:09:53.820 take at this point in time you know i i have put in my effort and my my i put in my dues trying to

00:10:00.000 warn everybody what's going on um i think a lot of people are aware of what's going on uh and they're

00:10:06.660 panicking now and the people who aren't aware they're these are the people the people who aren't aware of

00:10:12.360 what's going on and they're just like holy shit all this shit's happening they're having the same kind of

00:10:16.480 anxiety and panic that people like you and me dj yeah that we had in march of 2020 yeah you know

00:10:21.580 what i'm saying i was just about to say like that that's probably i mean that's the other side of

00:10:24.740 that coin man are the people who are realizing how much shit they have not been having in control

00:10:28.780 and now they're scrambling trying to put everything in control you know i'm saying like

00:10:33.140 there's definitely a population of that too well look dude it's a uh it's a it's a scary time

00:10:40.680 people are fucking scared and a lot of people who are overextended over leveraged on their bank stuff

00:10:46.480 they're gonna get fucking smashed that's reality and this could slide all the way down to where

00:10:51.800 everybody gets smashed but even if everybody gets smashed what can you still control you can still

00:10:56.720 control what you put in your body you can still control your movement you can still control the

00:11:00.720 information you put in you can still control all the things i just mentioned a minute ago

00:11:04.420 so control those things and you'll feel a much a much more uh

00:11:11.240 a much better sense of peace instead of feeling so anxious and so so crazy right now so that's just my

00:11:19.240 my little two cents at the beginning of the show for sure what you can control this is why the fuck

00:11:23.920 i developed this program dude the live heart program if you don't know what it is it's episode 208

00:11:28.900 i give it away for free it'll change your fucking life it'll change your fucking life

00:11:32.960 drastically um and that's why i give it away for free so if you want to learn about that it's episode

00:11:38.520 208 it's audio only on that not on that's not on uh youtube so anyway but i think that's the importance

00:11:44.460 of like this specific uh type of episode the q a's is because we're taking the people's frustration

00:11:50.420 and panic and scramble and trying to give some clarity of how to actually move forward during these

00:11:54.760 times so sure that's the symbiotic relationship well look dude i wish y'all would have listened

00:11:59.900 to me in 2020 just being honest no you know the best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago

00:12:05.020 the second best time is now so if you thought i was full of shit and all these things i said

00:12:10.640 when i said hey don't put that shit on don't take that thing don't wear don't comply with that

00:12:16.680 because that's going to lead to this and this and this and this and this well here we are

00:12:20.380 we got banks failing we got economy fucking tanking in my opinion it's going to get a lot worse before

00:12:27.500 it gets better so i think all of us everybody listening would do ourselves a big service by

00:12:34.120 really locking down and focusing on what we can control and moving forward from there and then

00:12:38.880 addressing these issues as they come now because right now at this point in time uh i don't think

00:12:45.160 it's gonna i don't think it's something that we can stop from happening yeah it's real man

00:12:50.220 unless some major changes take place yeah and those major changes we talk about on cti yeah for

00:12:58.160 sure well let's get into these questions man let's make some people better uh and starting off with

00:13:03.400 question number one this is a great intro to it andy uh you have talked about how being a great

00:13:08.080 entrepreneur is a route to financial and career success that is often overlooked as opposed to the

00:13:14.300 glorification of being an entrepreneur what advice would you give a recent university graduate

00:13:19.860 who is on their first day of full-time work in the real world so that they can be the best

00:13:24.880 entrepreneur as possible especially if the company they are joining is remote friendly and opportunities

00:13:30.000 for in-person connection with other team members and managers are limited how do you become the best

00:13:35.280 entrepreneur all right well first of all becoming the best entrepreneur is that's the same method that

00:13:42.700 we talk about becoming the best in anything okay so that this is i'm gonna give you a real practical

00:13:48.160 tip here but becoming the best is becoming the best in anything if you want to become the best

00:13:52.980 popsicle salesman it's the same fucking route as becoming the best entrepreneur as becoming the best

00:13:58.860 athlete as becoming the best musician as becoming the best becoming the best is becoming the best it's

00:14:03.860 all the shit y'all heard you've heard me talk about it for 10 fucking years here's the tip though

00:14:09.440 when you're new in an organization this is this is extremely extremely important all right when you

00:14:17.240 are new in an organization a lot of people come into an organization and they they try to like feel

00:14:24.420 it out and they try to like get comfortable and i understand this right because it's scary to go to a

00:14:29.340 new thing it's like going to a new school right i learned 400 different names totally get one it's

00:14:33.800 intimidating it's scary yeah get that and but where people fuck this up is they come in they try they

00:14:42.900 get too comfortable okay so they find the friendly people they find the they find their little group

00:14:48.520 inside the group right and they they sort of get comfortable and then they they start to like work the

00:14:56.400 same way that all these other people work and they start to kind of follow their lead and what happens

00:15:01.520 because of that well in most companies and this is not my companies but in most companies

00:15:06.740 what ends up happening is you end up falling in line with people who really aren't that great of

00:15:11.280 employees and you follow their path okay so it's kind of like joining the cool kids in high school

00:15:16.580 like the cool kids don't really ever amount to much everybody knows that all right so let me offer you

00:15:23.080 a very practical very real tip from someone who's ran companies big ones for a long time and employed

00:15:29.820 thousands of people you have a very unique opportunity when you first join an organization

00:15:35.620 to stand the fuck out and you should utilize that all right and what i mean by that it doesn't mean

00:15:40.260 come in dressed up like fucking superman to stand out but what i mean is do not let yourself get caught

00:15:46.920 in the churn all right as soon as you get comfortable as soon as you recognize what needs to be done

00:15:52.200 as soon as you understand what you're supposed to do go do it and do it so fucking hard and so

00:15:58.500 fucking good that the people who just hired you were like they're convinced that they just hired

00:16:03.480 michael jordan of entrepreneurs okay you only have one chance to fucking make that impression

00:16:08.660 and a lot of people they don't do that because it's uncomfortable to do but understand that the

00:16:14.000 uncomfortable things are the things that lead to the biggest rewards okay so if you're new in an

00:16:19.200 organization utilize the opportunity to stand out by doing an undeniably great job and at the very

00:16:26.760 least show undeniably great initiative and drive and skill set even and willingness to learn is a big

00:16:35.200 thing too and just do what you can where can you help what can you do and by the way this is all on top

00:16:41.640 of you doing your little job perfectly all right and if you can do that dude your chances of moving out

00:16:48.280 of the churn quickly are drastically improved and that's the goal as an entrepreneur because like

00:16:54.580 dude entry-level positions are churn all right there's people that come there's people that go

00:16:59.440 there's people that come there's people that go you do not want it you want to spend as little

00:17:03.480 amount of time in those roles as fucking possible and you want to display skills that are valuable as

00:17:12.800 quickly as possible and you want to display initiative as quickly as possible so that you

00:17:18.020 stand the fuck out because if you can do that right away you could skip a major long step that most

00:17:25.040 people have to like go through because what most people do like i said in the beginning of the

00:17:28.180 question is they they get comfortable they start hanging out with the people and a lot of people

00:17:34.220 don't even get planted into their company because they fall in with the wrong people and they end up

00:17:37.900 getting cut out now you're marked for the rest of your tenure so dude it's very very important for

00:17:43.240 you to understand this no matter what organization you're joining you have a tremendous opportunity

00:17:47.880 at the beginning to make a ridiculous impression in the first four to six months okay and then you

00:17:55.220 also have to be realistic about the timeline yeah four to six months of that kind of effort can set

00:18:00.160 you 10 years ahead real talk because dude like just using my place as an example there's people that

00:18:07.360 come here that that start off in the gym or start off uh you know maybe back in the warehouse and

00:18:15.720 they do such a great job that i notice them or one of the senior leadership notices them and we're like

00:18:21.320 okay that motherfucker right there that's a winner let's earmark that person to move through here and

00:18:26.140 let's let's move them up yeah quickly yeah all right and so while it doesn't always work that way

00:18:32.180 sometimes you move people through and then they fucking suck because they quit trying right away

00:18:36.460 so that's the second part of the lesson is once you get past that churn keep going i must say you

00:18:41.140 got to maintain that standard but dude the amount of success that you could have quickly is drastically

00:18:46.140 underestimated because people think because your grandma and your grandpa and your mom and your dad

00:18:50.920 all said oh i got to be there for 10 years and then you get rewarded there is no reward for sticking

00:18:55.780 around a place for x amount of time anymore that's not how the fuck it works yeah people got to win

00:19:01.140 especially in a challenging economy like we're entering now they have to win they're looking for people

00:19:06.200 that want to win they're looking for killers and if you could come in and be a killer right away

00:19:10.040 you're you can fast track your own career tremendously by jumping through the churn as fast as possible

00:19:15.800 that's what i would recommend yeah i love that and the importance on maintaining that standard once

00:19:20.720 you get there right because like i mean how many it's not maintaining it's not maintaining bro

00:19:24.500 it's not maintaining it's continuing to accelerate the standard yeah just like i talked back on the

00:19:30.120 last q and af where i talked about standards and meeting high standards and then people expecting

00:19:36.580 those high standards it's the same just like i explained the last one for companies yeah it's the

00:19:41.160 same for employees once you've branded yourself in my mind as a high standard individual that's the

00:19:47.340 expectation so so now instead of you know as from an entrepreneur i'm the customer because i'm the

00:19:54.120 fucking guy making decisions about your career path okay so you're the one you have to fucking make

00:19:58.920 me believe that you are who the fuck you're pretending to be and the way that you do that

00:20:03.180 is by continuing to level up and level up and level up and level up and level up the minute you go into

00:20:08.600 maintenance mode you stop because if you really think about how careers progress like really fucking

00:20:15.740 stop and think about this usually what people do is they progress through they get one job they get

00:20:21.580 the next job they get the next job and the reason they stop progressing isn't because they stop

00:20:27.080 progressing it's because they get to a job that they just don't really perform that well at

00:20:31.000 and and they stay there so really it's like accelerate through the prop the hierarchy of jobs

00:20:37.500 until you get to one that you suck at and you stay there forever and that that's not what you want to

00:20:41.740 do bro yeah you know what i'm saying so you have to continue to up that standard and get better and

00:20:47.120 better and better and better and it's a lifelong journey it's not something you can do in six months

00:20:51.040 yeah so don't think about it and maintaining you know uh companies get in this in this conundrum

00:20:57.860 as well like sure like like companies oftentimes will look back at the good times and they'll say

00:21:03.860 fuck dude back in 2018 we were kicking ass we were doing all this shit we got to get ourselves back to

00:21:10.640 that that's a losing mentality okay because really what you should be doing and the way you should be

00:21:16.540 attacking it is we're going to become so fucking good that that version of us in 2018 looks like a

00:21:21.880 fucking frog took like shit on a fucking log right we're going to embarrass that version of ourselves

00:21:26.900 and that goes for ourselves it goes for our companies it's an attitude and it's an outlook that we all need

00:21:31.600 to have it's not me it's not maintenance it's not get back to your best it's make your best look like

00:21:36.920 it ain't shit if you think about it like that yeah then you can get aggressive and that's when it gets

00:21:41.820 fun it gets fun to win when you when you have the right attitude when you when you create this

00:21:46.740 attitude about yourself personally for example oh when i was 30 years old i was the best i ever was

00:21:52.160 i just want to get back to where i was 30 bro that's a desperation that's not living in the past yeah

00:21:57.300 that's not an attack yeah right you have to make it an attack like dude i'm going to make that version

00:22:02.420 of me like dude this is real talk i'll say right now that version of me when i was fucking 255 pounds

00:22:07.220 a year and a half ago i'm going to make that dude look like a fucking pussy guaranteed write that

00:22:12.260 shit down and look check where i'm at in six months because i guarantee you that's what's going to

00:22:15.820 happen that's the attitude i have that's the attitude winners have that's the attitude that we

00:22:19.980 all need to have when we think about you know maybe we did something great back then but you know

00:22:25.180 oh dude i was mvp of the fucking high school football game all right well let's make that the

00:22:28.780 smallest accomplishment you ever fucking had in your entire life you see what i'm saying yeah it's

00:22:32.780 different in perspective that's a massive different perspective i want to touch on too because you know

00:22:36.500 often you say you know for business owners you know being good in the business right now

00:22:42.920 it's the easiest quote unquote that it's ever been because the opportunities are there right would you

00:22:49.980 say that the same exists for entrepreneurs like becoming a really great fucking entrepreneur is the

00:22:55.680 easiest ever been because of you know the the weird social dynamics we have people oh yeah like would

00:23:02.600 you would you say there's also an advantage totally agree what you're saying is how i always say it's

00:23:08.680 the it's the best time to be an entrepreneur if you're starting out because nobody's trying right

00:23:12.560 and the people who are trying are pretty weak right they have they have they have very very very

00:23:19.060 rounded edges to them and in terms of what they need on their tools when really you need a fucking

00:23:24.220 razor edge right right they think everything's supposed to be about feelings and ever all this

00:23:28.560 fucking bullshit when in reality bro this is a fucking life or death game it's real shit all

00:23:32.900 right there's a lot of killers out there in the entrepreneur that's the biggest disservice that's

00:23:36.540 been in entrepreneurship is all these fucking gurus out there that make everybody think that they're

00:23:42.100 supposed to be an entrepreneur let me tell you something bro you're going to trade your life for

00:23:45.980 being an entrepreneur you trade your entire life for it it's not a fucking job a job is is a job

00:23:52.460 being an entrepreneur is a life and not everybody wants to give that and that's okay it's not for

00:23:59.040 everybody it's hard as fuck dude there's a lot of days when i'm like fuck why do i why do i do this

00:24:03.660 like i have all i have all these you know like anyway the point is not everybody's built for it

00:24:10.660 okay and it's the same when you're an entrepreneur we have all this crazy ass shit going on in the world

00:24:16.480 we have all these entitled fucks around like they think that they should be fucking ceo in six months

00:24:21.020 they're posting graphics saying you know oh you know uh i i work the hardest here and i get paid

00:24:27.720 the least motherfucker that's how the fuck it works that's the system we live in you have to work through

00:24:33.660 that first hurdle of the mass the churn the churn and you have to fucking over jump that you have to

00:24:40.400 get everybody goes through that everybody whether it's a business whether it's a person whether it's

00:24:44.580 a fucking however you you know whether it's a they them like it doesn't fucking matter bro you're

00:24:49.440 going through the fucking churn yeah that's it that's reality and so like because there's so

00:24:54.220 many people out there that don't want to go through that or think that you know this isn't for me or you

00:25:00.860 know i don't really like how this is so i just go try something new every fucking year right every two

00:25:06.560 years bro to be a valuable key part of a of a great organization has never been easier because

00:25:13.200 everybody's so fucking lazy yeah there's a there's a massive shift and look there's a massive shift in

00:25:21.780 perception from what it actually takes to what people think it takes and they've shifted the

00:25:28.060 perception over the last 10 years or 12 years from everybody knowing back then that this was hard

00:25:34.200 as fuck and now you've got the because people are predatory right and that you got all these gurus

00:25:40.040 saying oh it doesn't matter this is easy 22 months you'll be a millionaire fucking i went from my mom's

00:25:45.820 basement to the penthouse in six weeks all this bullshit these people believe they now this has

00:25:52.200 been branded so hard that people now believe that anybody can do this and it's fucking isn't true

00:25:56.880 yeah okay it's just not true you have terrible on a macro level but you have to be a badass hard

00:26:01.840 motherfucker to withstand the fucking long game of being an entrepreneur that's reality it's not for

00:26:08.040 everybody it's not that fun either dude is it rewarding yeah but dude most of being an entrepreneur

00:26:13.400 is solving other people's fucking problems all day long that's what the fuck it is and when you look

00:26:20.440 at it from a lifestyle perspective a valuable entrepreneur can still make fucking seven figures

00:26:27.780 dude depending on what organization they're in at least six right so they can live a pretty good

00:26:33.520 fucking life and not have to like not bear the responsibility yeah bro like dude you're not taking

00:26:41.260 any of the risk you're not carrying any of the fucking notes you're not carrying any of the real weight

00:26:46.160 you get to go home and live a fucking life whereas the entrepreneur does not it is their life

00:26:51.720 motherfucker i'm 24 years into this i am on the phone every fucking day this is real shit i'm on

00:26:58.140 the phone every fucking day till 11 or 12 o'clock at night every day every day no matter what like i

00:27:03.980 know when i go home today when you when we go home and you leave i got fucking seven more hours of work

00:27:08.800 to do every day it's been that way since you've known me every day there is no now i might smoke some

00:27:14.780 fucking weed and do my fucking calls and have a good time doing it yeah and you know but the truth of the

00:27:20.020 matter is it's still fucking the word never stops yeah and that's the reality dude and anybody who

00:27:25.040 tells you different ain't running real shit i challenge any fucking person tell me different

00:27:29.820 and let me see what the fuck you built because it ain't true yeah i love it man people that say that

00:27:36.600 shit that easy quick fast blah blah blah bro run run run away run and and if it comes to fitness

00:27:45.000 same thing easy quick fast fucking run it ain't true it's hard as fuck but the rewards are worth

00:27:52.800 the work that's what i'm about that's what we're about here that's why it's called real af it's not

00:27:57.860 fantasy af it's not everybody wins af it's not pussy pie af it's fucking real as fuck and this is i'm just

00:28:06.880 telling you it's hard now some of you may be a lot smarter than me and you might be a lot more skilled

00:28:11.360 than me maybe it's easy for you but i don't know anybody like that no i don't know one single

00:28:16.080 person i love that man yeah so new entrepreneurs get out the fucking churn as soon as you can

00:28:20.760 absolutely i love it jump the churn dude love it let's uh let's move to question number two andy

00:28:25.760 question number two um you've played sports all you know growing up all your life little league right

00:28:30.720 um and you've had your fair share of great coaches i'm assuming right um or coaches that you

00:28:36.620 didn't like in the beginning loved after right in hindsight i had some good coaches i had some

00:28:41.000 really bad coaches too yeah so uh that's what this is uh this question is kind of pertaining to

00:28:46.340 uh the question is andy how should one handle when a trusted adult such as a coach publicly humiliates

00:28:53.480 your child on several occasions i am all for the old school tough coaching mentality but belittling them

00:28:59.640 and defaming them in front of their peers to the point where they are no longer wanting to play

00:29:03.620 their favorite sport or face their team ever again um for some of some examples uh the coach

00:29:09.840 would say is quote you're fucking weak you haven't gotten any better since sixth grade and you're

00:29:15.560 incapable of dribbling a fucking ball do i step in and address this kind of discouragement or is it

00:29:20.960 better to not intervene accepting that it is a tough coaching that the kids need to go through

00:29:25.960 people aren't gonna like my answer they're not gonna like my answer your kids should be fucking

00:29:32.520 tougher dude okay you're gonna deal with shit bags i don't agree with that coach i don't agree that that

00:29:39.520 coach should be that hard if we're talking about sixth graders okay there's a way to deliver that

00:29:44.800 message that doesn't fucking beat people down for sure okay however however your kid should be

00:29:52.360 built in a way that you prepare them to handle people like that because people like that are real

00:29:58.480 and it happens in real life every fucking day okay to get where i am and i'm not dude i'm just starting

00:30:05.060 i am just fucking starting i've had to deal with so many of those fucks that like dude i've had coaches

00:30:11.360 like that to this day i still wish i fucking see them in the street because i beat their fucking ass

00:30:16.280 yeah real talk yeah that's real shit real talk okay but the point is is even as bad as fucked up as

00:30:23.420 they were at the times i appreciate what they did because it it conditioned me for reality and so

00:30:31.780 i personally think that that's the discussion that's the discussion you have it's with you and

00:30:39.840 your kid and you get your kid mentally prepared to deal with reality that not everybody's fucking nice

00:30:45.620 not everybody says things in a nice way and real talk if you're going to be anything in real life

00:30:51.660 you're going to have to deal with a lot of that shit okay so that's my answer on it you have to

00:30:56.360 make your kid tougher yeah that's reality now i will say i've had a number of coaches that that have

00:31:03.300 been ridiculously fucking hard on me dude and i fucking love those people now i had a coach in high

00:31:10.420 school my sophomore year baseball his name was mike villa and mike villa was a championship soccer

00:31:17.180 coach all right i i haven't seen him in 20 something i don't even know if he's still around

00:31:22.120 that motherfucker called me every fucking name fucking ever bro yeah and this is sophomore year

00:31:29.000 baseball i was fucking fat i was fucking lazy three pubic hairs you don't want to know what

00:31:34.580 yeah you want to know the truth he's telling me the truth well that yeah he's telling me the truth

00:31:39.120 yeah and one day he was throwing batting practice and i hit a line drive so fucking hard knocked him on

00:31:44.520 his ass because he had to deflect it off his glove yeah he's batted me forth every single fucking game

00:31:49.920 for the rest of the season because i hit that ball so fucking hard at him and i earned his respect

00:31:54.600 yeah you know i was dropping bombs out of the fucking off the field you're still falling yeah

00:31:59.180 well back in 82 and here's the thing as hard as that dude was on me it taught me a valuable lesson

00:32:06.360 and i like when i look back on the men who who have impacted me who have helped me who have really

00:32:12.720 molded me into who i am he's one of those guys yeah and if you would have watched the if you would

00:32:16.600 have watched the interactions at the time you would have thought this guy was a fucking asshole yeah

00:32:21.220 lock him up yeah like he wouldn't dude he wouldn't make it these days there's no fucking way

00:32:25.320 there's no fucking way their people are too soft now but my point is is a lot of times

00:32:30.160 you look back on those people who were hard on you and you're like fuck he brought the best out of me

00:32:34.800 he taught me a dude you know how much he actually cared he dude totally and i'm very thankful for

00:32:40.080 having being being able to play just even one year with him as a coach because i learned i think i

00:32:45.520 learned more about competing that one year than i learned with all my other coaching combined yeah so i'm

00:32:49.880 very very thankful uh for that experience so maybe think about that as well when you think about

00:32:54.720 like a coach being too hard you know what i mean absolutely it's all it's too hard today but and you

00:33:00.340 might hate him today i hated that motherfucker back then but now like i love that dude yeah you see

00:33:07.420 what i'm saying and i would i you know personally that's kind of the philosophy i carry too like

00:33:11.900 i understand that some people don't like me right away today today but in five or six years when

00:33:19.020 you've listened to what i said or at least you've gone out and seen that what i said was true you

00:33:23.080 start to understand that i was actually giving a fuck about you absolutely so you know i'm very

00:33:27.960 thankful for that man but the point is is that if you're if you this kid is in sixth grade maybe right

00:33:34.340 but by the time he's in high school he might deal with another coach like that and maybe he earns

00:33:38.620 the respect by shoving it up that motherfucker's ass because that's the reality dude sometimes you

00:33:43.560 have to fucking really punch people in the face to get them to respect you and you can't become one of

00:33:48.000 these people who cowers when somebody says something out of line because people say out of

00:33:53.900 line shit all day long what are we going to do look at the internet dude look how harsh the internet is

00:33:59.160 the internet has no fucking mercy on fucking anybody bro no okay it's a terrible place your kid in sixth

00:34:06.900 grade is going to be introduced to that eventually we have to make their skin tougher we have to toughen

00:34:12.560 them up and so it might not hurt to give the coach feedback fine i doubt that someone like that's

00:34:19.940 really going to hear it because they're probably very comfortable with how they're doing things

00:34:23.180 um but i think the main focus here is to make your your kid understand that this is a part of life

00:34:30.760 you're going to deal with fucking assholes and just because someone's an asshole doesn't give you an

00:34:35.400 excuse to fucking go into your shell and cower and cower down you know what i would do i'd fucking

00:34:41.180 practice with your kid until he's so fucking good at the coach is like holy shit what happened yeah

00:34:45.460 yeah you know what i'm saying like me looking at it's like that would be the first step well shit

00:34:50.780 is what he's saying is there any validity to anything that the coach has said have like have i been like

00:34:56.740 ass in sixth grade like i mean like you know what i'm saying like you gotta like i mean is there any

00:35:01.800 truth to that i think that's the i think that's a big problem in society right now yeah people don't

00:35:07.360 ask themselves if criticism is actually true they automatically call it hate or they automatically

00:35:13.420 put it on the other person they say that person's fucked up xenophobia maybe that dude is fucked up

00:35:17.760 maybe he is an asshole but if he's if what he's saying is true that's actually an opportunity to

00:35:22.920 improve yeah for sure so you know either way it's about how you're responding i think so yeah yeah but

00:35:28.240 like dude like you know i think it's really important for you to realize like you're you can't

00:35:33.620 shelter your fucking kids from this shit this is reality dude this is reality and and the goal

00:35:39.920 should be to get your kid to a point in life where when someone does fucking do that shit it doesn't

00:35:46.340 matter like to me dude like it doesn't matter when someone's an asshole to me it makes no fucking

00:35:50.720 difference you have to understand it yeah we we fucking live in a society that is mean as fuck and

00:35:58.380 if you're not prepared to handle it and you're not prepared to stand up for yourself and you're not

00:36:01.940 prepared for any of that shit bro you're gonna get crushed yeah that's reality and that's not some

00:36:06.240 hard-ass shit i'm saying the truth no absolutely man i love it uh andy guys our third and final

00:36:13.160 question question number three andy how important is it to build your personal brand when starting a

00:36:18.640 new business versus focusing on building the business exclusively for example uh spending time

00:36:24.340 posting recording content versus focusing on building teams and systems i understand both are

00:36:29.380 important as a personal brand helps the business in the beginning especially when there's no sales

00:36:34.540 but in your eyes how should a new entrepreneur allocate their time within these two categories

00:36:39.440 well having a strong personal brand doesn't hurt ever it never hurts it only helps okay if you're

00:36:47.640 doing some people argue this they will say well i do business b2b sales you know i don't do b to

00:36:54.600 i don't do business to consumer i do business to business um you know so i don't really need a

00:36:59.920 personal brand and so they don't they don't build one right but then somebody like i don't know me

00:37:04.440 comes along who has a fucking massive personal brand and wants to do the same business that you're

00:37:10.040 trying to do with the same person who are they going to do business with right who's going to sell

00:37:15.820 more product who's going to buy more product and why is that okay so a strong personal brand is free game

00:37:23.760 you get people to know who you are you get attention you build a reputation and that will

00:37:29.060 never hurt you that will only help you there's there's a flip side

00:37:33.860 having a personal brand if you get it big enough becomes its own fucking monster okay and you don't

00:37:43.140 have very much privacy people are always fucking with you people are always in your business

00:37:47.080 it's annoying it's fucking you're like what the fuck right like dude i and by the way don't do this

00:37:53.600 i'm going to say this real quick do not show up here to first form to fucking meet with me

00:37:57.700 unannounced we have this problem with with y'all doing that yeah um don't do that it's very unsafe

00:38:03.800 to do that we handle that very seriously yeah we do we do and

00:38:07.640 it seems to always be the same kind of person it's um they're having it's almost like some people

00:38:15.360 are having like a manic episode where they've been up for three days i drove 17 hours to come see

00:38:20.020 you bro i ain't doing that so don't waste your fucking time don't do it i just want to say that

00:38:25.680 no that's important um so those are some of the things that building a personal brand you know

00:38:30.740 there's there's some fucking negatives to it too yeah but in terms of business dollars and cents

00:38:35.880 doing business it's a massive fucking advantage to have how much time should you spend between one

00:38:42.240 or the other they really should be integrated correct like you're building a company and you're

00:38:46.360 building yourself how are you going to build a company you're going to build a company by showing

00:38:50.240 it to the people that you're building yourself around right all right so it's it's related it's

00:38:55.580 the same thing when you build your personal brand you're building your business when you build your

00:39:00.240 business you're building your personal brand it's the same thing yeah all right unless you choose

00:39:04.820 just to run a business page but like dude here's the reality people don't want to do business with

00:39:09.900 global corp dude they don't want to do business with faceless fucking organizations anymore

00:39:14.340 yeah you guys look at like the companies that are getting slaughtered over the last three years

00:39:20.060 it's all the biggest companies in the world and the reason is is because they are using their their

00:39:24.760 business acumen and or i'm sorry business uh traction and and and throwing their weight around

00:39:31.660 to push socio-political issues on people and do business in a way because they think they're too big

00:39:36.860 and they that we don't have a choice well we do have a fucking choice and people choose every

00:39:41.340 fucking day to shop at places that are owned by real people that align with the same values that

00:39:46.800 they align with and i'm going to give you a hack here do you want to know what the next biggest trend

00:39:50.840 is the next biggest trend which is already happening is american-owned american jobs and american companies

00:39:56.640 here in america okay not not fucking walmart's not fucking amazon's fucking uh joe stevenson down the

00:40:05.460 street who owns this company and you know uh mary jane over here who owns this right and employees

00:40:12.840 becky down that's right that's where people are going right now they're going to independently own

00:40:17.360 pro america pro freedom companies because they are sick of the fucking bullshit being shoved down

00:40:22.280 through the fortune 500 companies so it's a tremendous opportunity it's a tremendous opportunity and for

00:40:28.480 you to have a personal brand and build your business plays right into that but that's the hack

00:40:33.080 do you want to know where to stand stand on that side of the fence because that's where everybody's

00:40:37.100 going for sure i can see it happening i i predicted this for the last three three and a half years

00:40:42.900 i told you this was where you know where three years ago we were in politically correct company

00:40:47.400 like if you didn't say this if you didn't post a black square we're fucking not shopping with you

00:40:51.880 we've gone to the opposite side of that now right we are over here now where people fucking they

00:40:57.580 understand what that all that shit is they understand the woke shit they understand the the

00:41:02.300 the weaponization of of politics they understand the weaponization of socio issues and they're going

00:41:09.040 towards people who represent what the idea of america is supposed to be meaning people can have

00:41:15.160 their own thoughts we we shop with our own communities we take care of our own employees

00:41:20.200 we're from here etc etc etc our products are from here you see what i'm saying right people are looking

00:41:26.340 for that option all right like dude moat if you're a company right now and you're not transitioning

00:41:31.240 your goods to be made in america like for us right now we we don't have everything made in the usa but

00:41:37.780 everything from here on out we're moving to source to that like it's a massive operation for a company

00:41:43.640 this size huge investment yeah i know it's fucking massive but it's way more expensive to do but it's

00:41:49.820 super important to the world and when you start to do that people start to see that they recognize that

00:41:54.440 they start buying from those companies you know so that's where it's going that's the trend i don't give a

00:41:59.320 fuck what anybody says i don't care what anybody's other fucking gurus say they're fucking wrong and

00:42:03.480 i'm fucking right and i can see the numbers now and i've been saying it for three years and in three

00:42:07.140 more years i'll be saying guess what motherfuckers i fucking told you yeah let me ask you this though

00:42:11.780 so have you seen i mean how like how because okay so so building a personal brand and your business

00:42:18.140 brand they're integrated they're both valuable extremely important but what what what what's a what's

00:42:25.080 some words of caution i guess that you would put out to people who are focusing too heavily on that

00:42:29.420 personal brand and not enough on the business brand right like okay cool that's a big problem that's a

00:42:36.000 great that's a great follow-up question there um because a lot of people do get caught up in appearing

00:42:41.280 to be instead of actually being and that's a big fucking problem yeah we see this every day in the

00:42:48.160 entrepreneur space we see people who own a business that sells widgets and you know they they they come

00:42:57.340 on the scene trying to sell widgets and then in fucking a year now all of a sudden they're an

00:43:03.160 entrepreneur coach and they've got a group and they're trying to and like dude listen motherfucker

00:43:07.940 you need to worry about your own business before you try to be some sort of superstar on the internet

00:43:12.900 and that's just a that's a product of people not understanding and that people people recognize

00:43:19.820 results they recognize credibility and by you even trying to put yourself out there as like some sort

00:43:25.960 of superstar guru entrepreneur fucking dude uh when you haven't really built anything bro people see

00:43:32.700 through that and that's why you have trouble fucking getting people to follow bro i don't i don't post

00:43:37.660 for arte how many posts do i make about arte yeah very few very little yeah right by the way we do

00:43:44.260 have tickets for sale right now just saying yeah but that's not a post yeah that's not a post i just

00:43:48.480 gotta while we're talking about it we do have tickets for arte live on april 22nd a few few left

00:43:52.880 you guys are interested in that come see us live tremendous lineup cool but that's the extent of it

00:43:59.360 like like you motherfuckers out there that try to do this shit where you're a quote-unquote coach when

00:44:04.380 you ain't really built a real business the reason you have to post 7 000 fucking times is because no

00:44:09.620 one fucking recognizes you as an expert and i know that hurts to hear that hurts to hear but what you

00:44:14.740 should hear is this i'm going to go out and build a tremendous business and then i'm going to talk about

00:44:20.540 how i did it and because people get consumed with the gamification of the internet which is followers

00:44:26.300 like shares right they want more followers they want more likes they want more shares they want more

00:44:31.400 views and they become they start to get into it it becomes a game and they're like fuck i gotta get

00:44:36.480 more followers i gotta get more shit i gotta get more this i gotta get more that and they think

00:44:39.660 that those things will automatically grow their business which they will grow your business because

00:44:44.640 they bring attention but if you have a shitty business that people only come to one time and

00:44:48.900 then leave you're not really growing anything over here so i i personally i'm glad you asked that

00:44:54.040 question because i think most of i think most people that are coming on to the entrepreneur

00:45:00.540 social scene right now spend far too much time trying to act as if they already are and far too

00:45:08.900 little time actually becoming who it is they're they're trying to represent themselves to be yeah i

00:45:14.120 can understand someone you know when you're young you're you know like look dude everybody when they're

00:45:18.780 young is a little full of shit right you're kind of like you know you're trying to posture because

00:45:22.920 you really know that you're weak i totally get all that and everybody's gone through that every

00:45:27.260 every grown man who who has grown up into a real business they went through that shit i fucking get

00:45:32.780 it but you can't let that take your eye off the focus of building your real business that's the

00:45:37.920 biggest fucking thing you have to have because if you actually want to be recognized which is why

00:45:42.060 people get sucked into that you actually want to get the recognition you want to get the likes you

00:45:45.920 want to get the shares you want to get the views if you actually want to get that you have to

00:45:49.840 have something real that people can fucking see i love that yeah it's just it's just you have to put

00:45:54.560 the fucking cart where the cart belongs and the horse where the horse belongs you know and and if

00:45:59.340 you get them backwards you don't go anywhere and so i i personally you know there's a lot of young

00:46:04.180 guys listening they hear what i say and they think oh andy's hating on us i'm not hating on you bro

00:46:08.080 i'm teaching you how to actually do this so that by the time you actually do know what the fuck you're

00:46:13.340 actually talking about because let's be honest you don't okay when you actually do know what

00:46:18.300 you're talking about you'll have this massive fucking credibility that people can't fuck with

00:46:22.760 it's undeniable yeah and like dude you'll probably you know like i do have multiple things like that

00:46:28.780 like you're gonna have this company you're gonna have this company you're gonna have this company

00:46:32.580 that services this company and you're gonna build something so impressive over the next 15 years

00:46:37.180 that you become a legitimate fucking source of knowledge and that and that's everlasting like

00:46:42.440 that's not something you have to hustle for like people come to you for it right and so

00:46:46.340 it's it's important for you young guys and young girls to really walk that balance properly you

00:46:54.120 know i'm not hating on anybody's hustle bro like i get it um but if you don't do it the right way

00:47:00.040 you end up having to chase your tail the entire game for for the rest of your life you stay in that

00:47:05.460 churn that that's correct and that is a churn all right you're in the churn of hustling people to

00:47:09.700 believe that you're credible when you're not really credible instead of just taking time to build the

00:47:13.480 credibility and then those people come to you without the hustle see what i'm saying that's

00:47:17.860 sustainable doing it doing it the other way around that's not sustainable it's just not and here's the

00:47:23.400 problem with that when you do it like that oh i've met i've met a lot of young really really good

00:47:30.180 entrepreneurs who come out and they do what i just said not to do and then they end up ruining all

00:47:37.920 all their credibility for a long time like people are like yeah well that guy's full of shit

00:47:41.760 and you're staying especially with the people above the ladder yeah bro it's that's exactly right

00:47:47.380 that you're that's exactly it's not the people on the internet that matter bro no it's not the

00:47:51.720 random fucking hater or troll it's the people above you that now look at you and say fuck

00:47:56.760 this person's kind of full of shit i don't want to do anything with it it's the people in the rooms

00:48:00.940 you're trying to get into that's right yeah that's real so it's a delicate line to walk and you have

00:48:06.280 to be mindful to not get sucked into the social media i mean dude look um

00:48:10.660 it's far more fun when people come to you because they recognize you to truly be what it is

00:48:20.480 you are right then it is trying to convince them that you're that it's a lot more fun dude i love

00:48:27.020 so put in the time don't don't be in a hurry like put in the time to build that business build that

00:48:31.180 thing make it kick ass and eventually people are going to recognize it and they're gonna be like

00:48:35.420 fuck and you're going to be glad you did it because now you're going to have this real asset over here

00:48:38.960 yeah that's the other thing this part of it the coaching thing that's cash flow that you get

00:48:45.020 okay this over here you build a fucking cash flow and an asset it's a big fucking deal yeah all right

00:48:51.880 you can do it right you don't even need the the coaching that's correct yeah man that's correct

00:48:56.180 makes sense you know and it's hard it's a hard discussion to have because a lot of the young

00:49:02.320 people or they're in such a hurry and i get it because i was in a hurry too they don't understand

00:49:09.140 that if you just put that first 10 years into really just fucking building your business you

00:49:13.260 won't have to worry about the other part because the other part comes with it you see what i'm saying

00:49:16.820 absolutely man i love it do the work first and then talk about how you did it that's it don't

00:49:21.440 talk about how you're doing it there you go or what you're gonna do yeah like dude i mean how many

00:49:26.160 posts are we see a day of well you ain't seen nothing yet i'm just i might have been knocked

00:49:31.080 down 400 the last seven years in a row but i'm fucking getting dude listen people get tired of

00:49:36.260 hearing that they get tired of hearing it and we all know like we know you mean it but at a certain

00:49:41.940 time for your own credibility you have to follow through or fucking people won't listen to you yeah

00:49:46.320 so stop talking shit start doing shit that's really the bottom line i love it man guys andy that was

00:49:51.820 three go pay the fee went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a bowl fuck a

00:49:59.780 stove counted millions in the cold bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know

00:50:06.780 headshot case closed

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - March 20, 2023

489. Q&AF： Being The Best Intrapreneur, Tough Coaching On Kids & Building Personal Brand Vs. Building Business

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