REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 495. Q&AF： Constantly Seeking Validation, Competitive Edge Retention & Dissecting Obstacles

00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies 0.98

00:00:21.060 the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today we 0.61

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00:03:17.520 show um and so let's get into some q and af yeah what's up how's it going going good man yeah i'm good

00:03:25.060 so with you oh you know nothing nothing at all i was thinking though right because one thing i've been

00:03:33.220 with been with you for three years now um and your approach to the personal development right like you

00:03:40.440 you you explain about focusing on skills building these skills building these these tools on that

00:03:46.980 tool belt right can we dispel can can you for a second just dispel the the theory or the myths i guess

00:03:54.540 about skills versus gifts and why people get those two confused and why do they believe that certain

00:04:01.020 people are just gifted when in reality that their skills are developed like what's what's actually

00:04:06.440 the difference lebron james being 6 8 is a gift his ability to shoot and dribble and pass and dunk

00:04:20.340 and run an offense those are skills okay so gifts are things that accentuate our skill set

00:04:27.020 but our skill set if our skill set doesn't exist the gifts don't matter all right so this is what

00:04:32.800 we have to realize is that we all have natural propensities to do certain things we are all good

00:04:38.380 at certain things sort of naturally for me one of the things i've always been good at is i've always

00:04:43.640 been able to really see what's coming down the road i have good vision for the for what's happening

00:04:48.900 in front of me which has let it's lent itself to becoming successful in business because as i've

00:04:56.540 acquired actual skills through business a company with a gift of being able to kind of see around

00:05:01.920 corners where other people don't even realize there's a corner that makes that makes the total

00:05:06.660 package work right you see what i'm saying right so we all have gifts but most people look at gifts

00:05:12.600 the wrong way most people will either a try to ride their gifts their entire life and think that that

00:05:18.940 will get them through and it won't because there's plenty of people that have great gifts that also invest

00:05:24.000 their time and energy into being better with their skill set all right those people will beat the

00:05:28.200 shit out of anybody with just gifts all right uh and likewise someone who has very little gifts who

00:05:34.660 puts the money into the money or the money time and energy into building skill sets those people will 0.87

00:05:39.680 beat people with gifts all day long as well so we have to really think about how people look at it and

00:05:44.840 how most people look at it and not people that listen to this show but the the npcs right of the world

00:05:50.560 the unaware people most people look at gifts as they see other people's gifts that are actually

00:05:57.840 skills that those people have and they that's their story they tell as to why they don't have to get

00:06:02.840 any better you see what i'm saying oh look how and i learned this um i actually learned this from my

00:06:10.940 guitar instructor we talked about it we talk about him quite often actually because he's a smart dude

00:06:16.420 i've learned a lot from him but one of the things he taught me uh you know we were sitting down to

00:06:21.320 he was teaching me some songs he said andy pick some songs said i want to learn this song this song 0.97

00:06:26.120 this song he didn't know any of the songs so we got on itunes we played the song he plays the fucker 0.65

00:06:31.480 back like note for note nearly perfect like sound just like what he just heard i personally had never 0.82

00:06:39.180 seen anybody do that before i mean this man was in his 50s at the time

00:06:42.640 i fucking remember saying to him specifically i'm like matthew you are so talented and dude he got 0.94

00:06:49.980 offended he got offended he's like dude i've been playing guitar for 40 years that's not talent that's 0.96

00:06:56.140 skill that's work that i put in and i dude that stuck with me forever like don't ever tell someone

00:07:02.640 who's been doing something for very long how lucky they are how gifted they are how uh you know

00:07:09.720 talented they are when in reality they've been doing it for 20 something 30 something 40 years

00:07:15.620 bro those are skills you see what i'm saying so there's there's there's a way that it really is

00:07:21.720 and then there's a way most people see it and the way it really is is that we all have some we all

00:07:26.980 have things that we're naturally better at than other people and you may be sitting there right now

00:07:31.520 thinking well i have nothing no there's something there you're just not recognizing or giving it the

00:07:37.460 proper attention that it's actually uh you know that actually warrants and that the cool thing

00:07:43.320 about your gift that you have is as you learn the complementary skills over the course of time

00:07:48.980 the gift actually becomes bigger and more powerful all right so that's how it really is but how most

00:07:55.400 people just see it dude is they see anybody with skills or talent or gifts or any anybody that's good

00:08:00.920 at anything they see it as gift they see it as luck they see it as uh they were born that way

00:08:06.460 god give it bro like they they think you know people who are good at business come out of the womb 0.99

00:08:11.420 knowing everything about business they think lebron james comes out because he's 6'8 he's better 0.98

00:08:16.360 than everybody that motherfucker and i'm not even a big lebron james fan you guys all know that 0.99

00:08:20.640 the guy but you can't deny the guy's fucking how good of a basketball player is he's a fucking one of 0.99

00:08:25.340 the best that ever fucking played that guy works his ass off to fucking be that kobe bryant worked 0.99

00:08:30.140 his ass off michael jordan worked his ass off there's a common theme amongst people that you 0.99

00:08:35.480 guys think are just born that way and it's the theme is they work the fucking ass off and most people 0.99

00:08:41.460 just aren't willing to do that so they see everything as talent or gift or luck and so that's 0.96

00:08:46.180 the story they tell so they feel more comfortable with themselves right because there's plenty of people

00:08:50.340 that are 6'8 that can't play basketball right yeah right right so that that's the part of like

00:08:55.680 making sure you're in an environment that allows that gift to flourish yeah and then and then trying

00:09:01.040 to give yourself an honest assessment of where your gifts are and then kind of filling in the

00:09:08.280 complimentary skill set that you need to really make those gifts work for you does that make sense

00:09:12.480 yeah it does well i mean that's a that's kind of another follow-up right like did you you know when

00:09:17.880 you were 19 did you were you always aware of your your gifts at that time or did you just start

00:09:24.280 developing the skills and then realize that there's an internal innate gift no i i actually didn't think

00:09:29.700 i had anything special i know here here's what i really thought i thought here's really all i thought 0.98

00:09:36.160 at 19 i don't want to be poor i don't i don't believe in the school system i don't think the shit they 0.99

00:09:42.980 teach you teach you is useful it's not real i want to be rich as fuck and i'll do whatever the fuck 0.99

00:09:47.660 it takes and that's what i thought at 19 i didn't think i had anything and i also thought that the 0.98

00:09:54.780 way for me to get something was going to be through good fortune or through a lucky break i thought like

00:10:01.240 the people i'm just explaining i looked at other people who were killing it and i always believed that

00:10:07.700 they had something that i didn't have like my heroes that i looked up to during that time i have

00:10:14.260 surpassed i have surpassed all of them in net worth and business success business size amount of people

00:10:21.240 impacted all the heroes i had outside of tony robbins tony robbins is doing very well but all

00:10:28.300 the other ones i've i'm past those guys at this point at 43 which is pretty fucking young to pass a 0.95

00:10:33.660 whole man's life's work so what happened for me was i didn't think i had shit and i looked at all 0.96

00:10:40.980 these dudes who i've now surpassed as having all these gifts that i didn't have and so i accepted 0.93

00:10:46.060 that for me to ever become that um and i'm not saying that to brag by the way i'm saying that as

00:10:52.460 a matter of fact i'm saying that to serve the purpose of the story it's just true i knew because 0.67

00:10:59.800 i didn't have the skills and talent that they had that i was going to have to fucking work i was going 0.99

00:11:04.660 to have to fucking work really fucking hard and so that actually served me all right but most people 0.99

00:11:10.660 it doesn't serve because they don't accept the reality that they'll just say fuck it i will do 1.00

00:11:15.500 whatever i have to do to get there they don't accept that path they just say well fuck that guy's that 1.00

00:11:20.780 guy got lucky or that guy was born there he he was in this right place at the right time or this or 0.98

00:11:25.800 that or this and by the way there are cases of that but it's not the norm the norm is you start with

00:11:32.260 a little gift you add experience you learn skills and you work to complementary keep building those

00:11:37.380 things inside yourself so i think most people you know i i didn't i think most people never give

00:11:46.040 themselves enough credit for their own gifts because they look at the result of their life that 0.97

00:11:51.060 they're in right now and they say well fuck dude i must not have any gifts because i'm living in a 0.99

00:11:55.800 700 a month apartment i'm driving a shitty car i don't have any money in a bank account 0.99

00:12:01.320 like i must not have any gifts and that's just not the truth bro you're young you haven't really

00:12:06.600 tried anything yet and i don't say that to be mean i just tell him as a matter of fact like what was

00:12:11.340 the last time you did something for five years every single day without any lapse ever yeah most

00:12:20.440 people can't name anything five months dude i know but it takes the five years right right so like

00:12:25.820 at a minimum it took me fucking 10 you guys have different technology so it's different for you guys 0.94

00:12:30.560 but my point is is that most people when you challenge them on you know are they really in a 0.91

00:12:37.060 bad spot were they really uh unjustly uh you know by the circumstances of life you know dealt a bad

00:12:43.820 card when you really dig into and you say hey bro okay give me an example of something you've done

00:12:48.220 for five years every fucking day no matter what no matter what they can't give you anything and 0.98

00:12:53.280 that's what it takes to actually build success it takes that so most people have never tried because 0.97

00:12:59.280 most people don't know what's appropriate they don't understand the amount of work they greatly

00:13:03.360 underestimate the amount of work that they need to do because you see all the gurus on the internet

00:13:07.800 telling them that can be done in a week right for 997 and then they don't go out and do it and they

00:13:13.520 think there's something wrong with them so they believe they have no gifts and that's just not the

00:13:17.180 case the case is you probably have some gifts that you haven't even learned you have yet because you

00:13:21.920 aren't going down the path and what happens is if you go down the path and keep going down the path

00:13:26.200 year after year after year after year you start to realize like i did i got to a point about 10 years

00:13:31.460 12 years into my business where i started realizing oh shit i'm actually better at this one thing than 0.59

00:13:37.920 most of the other people i know and i was better at it than most of the people i know that were even

00:13:42.260 more successful than me at that time and so at first i was like am i really better at that or or am i

00:13:49.680 like being too cocky am i too full of myself right and what ended up happening is i started questioning

00:13:55.820 you know okay i've got this thing that i that i think i'm better at than these other guys and i

00:13:59.640 started paying attention to it and i realized okay yes i have the ability to perceive things faster

00:14:05.120 and in terms of a timeline that to see trends or see what's happening or where the direction is going

00:14:11.500 in terms of like psychological you know consumer bases and i realized just from keeping going that i did

00:14:19.480 actually have that and then as i learned skills it got stronger it got stronger got stronger and that's

00:14:23.620 what has been one of my main strengths in my life in all areas so you know i think most of us have

00:14:30.780 gifts i think most of us believe we don't because we're not producing anything right now and i think

00:14:34.820 the reason we're not producing anything right now has a lot more to do with the fact that you haven't

00:14:38.580 done anything consistently long enough to actually produce the result and so therefore we believe that 0.88

00:14:43.120 we don't have any gifts and we end up living our whole lives thinking we don't have shit and we got 0.97

00:14:46.980 fucked and it's just not the truth it's not that you're not capable you just ain't did it that's it 0.97

00:14:52.500 yeah i love that man i love it well it is q a so let's uh give the people what they're asking for 0.99

00:14:58.500 yeah uh andy question number one uh andy i have recently become aware that i am constantly seeking

00:15:05.000 validation or approval from others when it comes to certain decisions or sometimes even my own feelings

00:15:11.220 in different situations i know that this has to do somewhat with a lack of self-confidence or trust in

00:15:17.540 who i am but i'm wondering where would you start in learning to overcome uh this need of seeking

00:15:23.780 validation or approval man you know i i'm being real i think most people struggle with that i think no

00:15:32.200 matter how confident you are you're still going to struggle with that and i think getting to the

00:15:36.520 ultimate place of confidence is basically um you know not giving a fuck what other people have to think 0.90

00:15:42.140 about what it is that you feel or do or say but the reality is is that some some people go to i don't 0.99

00:15:48.060 give a fuck and they become toxic pieces of shit so i think it's important to like still care what 0.99

00:15:53.780 certain people perceive your decision making or your decisions to be because you have people that you care 1.00

00:16:01.020 about and that care about you and i think the biggest problem that we have in society when it comes to

00:16:05.380 this is that it's not that we need to to not have validation from anybody it's that we seek validation

00:16:13.000 from the wrong people and i think that the internet has created that mentality we have a situation now where

00:16:18.900 we are literally seeking validation in the terms of likes shares and comments from people that we've never

00:16:23.920 met will likely never meet and we have no idea what kind of people they are we don't know if they're actually

00:16:28.840 who they are on the internet we don't know if they're pretending to be somebody we don't know if they're the 0.97

00:16:33.300 you know if they're good if they're bad if they're a piece of shit or if they're excellent we have no 0.99

00:16:38.000 idea so like we're out there competing for validation from people that we don't even know 0.99

00:16:44.620 and we stop worrying about the validation that we actually need from the people that we care about

00:16:50.100 and that can get us all fucked up and i think the internet like you know has done that to people i 0.97

00:16:55.380 think the internet has has created a situation where most people look for validation from complete

00:16:59.860 strangers over their own family members which is not good it's not a good thing to be and so i would

00:17:05.400 say that first off and foremost uh really think about who it is that you are seeking validation

00:17:10.860 from because if it's someone in your family or a friend who you look up to maybe is doing a little

00:17:15.440 better than you maybe they can help you confirm that you feel in the right way or look in the right

00:17:19.660 way or move in the right way or doing the right actions and those things can be important to your

00:17:23.940 success uh but worrying about what the average joe on the internet thinks that's something that you need

00:17:28.680 to get over because dude those people most of them real talk like most of those people that you're

00:17:33.560 seeking validation from you'll never meet you'll never know they're not your friend they'll turn

00:17:37.740 on you in a second like they're they're with the wind you know whatever whichever way the wind's 1.00

00:17:42.420 blowing bro they're gonna feel about you so like you have to kind of put that shit out of your mind 0.99

00:17:46.360 completely and just say i am who the fuck i am and then you know sometimes if you're in doubt you seek 0.99

00:17:52.740 counsel from people who you trust and know that care about your best interests and you know you make a 0.96

00:17:58.320 decision based upon that let's let's talk about the elephant there because i keep hearing and correct

00:18:04.060 me if i'm wrong how much of this need for validation and confirmation from others how much of that would

00:18:10.040 go away if you actually had the confidence in knowing that the decisions that you make actually

00:18:15.660 produce a good outcome most of it is that where it comes from yes most of it because most people don't

00:18:21.120 even believe in themselves because they constantly lie to themselves about what they're going to do and

00:18:25.480 then they don't follow through and do it so until you've built a base level of self-confidence self-esteem

00:18:30.520 uh and self-respect by following the commitments that you make to yourself meaning like i'm gonna get

00:18:36.020 in shape you get in shape i'm gonna fucking make a million dollars you make a million dollars right 0.95

00:18:40.500 okay like you have to follow through on this shit i'm gonna get up at six o'clock in the morning 0.99

00:18:44.660 you gotta get up at six o'clock in the morning be small and large right and when we think about 0.99

00:18:51.060 how much of it how much of the validation seeking it removes most of it because the reason most people

00:18:57.520 seek validation is because they don't believe that they're actually doing the right thing in the first

00:19:01.620 place so if we can become confident in the fact that we know we're doing everything that we can do

00:19:07.140 on a daily basis to move us towards where we're trying to go and we can actually physically look at

00:19:12.120 that and say okay i did this i did this i did this i did this i did this now we're in a situation where 0.99

00:19:17.220 it's like bro i'm doing shit no other motherfuckers doing why the fuck am i gonna ask them what what 0.99

00:19:21.900 i'm gonna make do about me when i know i'm out here doing all the work you see what i'm saying 0.99

00:19:26.200 so i mean this is you know i plug this all the time but this is why you should go listen to episode

00:19:31.800 208 75 hard live hard episode and do the fucking program because it establishes a baseline of self 0.97

00:19:38.400 confidence where it removes your your uh your propensity to seek validation for people that aren't 0.86

00:19:44.180 doing shit like you will get done with that 75 first days and hopefully continue on with live 0.99

00:19:49.380 hard and at least at the end of the first 75 days you will look around you like these motherfuckers 1.00

00:19:54.180 why am i asking this guy for advice why am i asking this lady for advice she doesn't do shit like you 1.00

00:19:59.240 start realizing that these people that you're seeking validation from are actually fucking not 0.99

00:20:05.060 worthy of your ask for validation you see what i'm saying oh yeah yeah so like dude a lot of it comes 0.93

00:20:10.980 from that most people though like i said in the intro to the show most people do not do anything

00:20:18.000 or long enough to prove to themselves that they are capable of doing anything so like this is a big

00:20:24.420 problem because if you don't stick to something long enough to see it bear fruit how can you ever

00:20:29.300 believe in yourself that you can do things so you have to do things to know that you can do things yeah

00:20:34.600 you see what i'm saying so like we have to get to a point in society where we have a baseline level of

00:20:40.000 self-confidence we understand and if we put in the actions the results will come you know inputs

00:20:45.340 outputs and these things equate to an understanding that allows us to dismiss most of the validation

00:20:52.040 seeking that we would have before that you see what i'm saying man absolutely so like you have to grow

00:20:56.960 past it and the way you grow past it is by making sure that you've got a baseline level of self-confidence 0.96

00:21:03.100 self-esteem self-belief discipline grit fortitude these are things that other people do not fucking have 0.91

00:21:08.440 how confident are you going to be in yourself when you can look around and you can say 0.99

00:21:11.960 no what none of these motherfuckers are doing any of this shit i'm doing right like dude this is how 0.99

00:21:18.220 i look at the world right like dude i got people that's got shit to say about me right that's fine 0.99

00:21:23.420 i love everybody bro i'm out here trying what i do i do for the interest of people i'm trying to help 0.92

00:21:27.820 you fucking win you may not realize it right now you may not agree with my politics you may not see 0.95

00:21:32.460 the things the way i see them that's fine that's what fucking america is about but i promise you 1.00

00:21:36.340 i want you to win and there are still people out there who i want to win that will take shots at me 1.00

00:21:41.220 and i look at them and i look at their fucking shitty job i look at their shitty fucking life 1.00

00:21:46.280 and i assume that they have a pretty shitty bank account and they're probably pretty fucking 1.00

00:21:49.920 miserable and so i understand and i look at it and i say well fuck yeah i bet if i were him i'd 0.99

00:21:54.200 probably hate me too right but here's the reality you see what i'm saying here's the reality dude 0.99

00:21:58.940 when you have a baseline level of self-confidence you can look at that shit and see it for what it is 0.99

00:22:05.720 like i can look at that shit and see like well yeah i mean this dude yeah like if i were him and 1.00

00:22:11.760 he were me i'd fucking hate me too and you don't give a fuck can you think just quickly what what is 0.99

00:22:19.440 a situation for you in your position right now right 24 years in when when is a time that you or when's 0.99

00:22:25.820 the last time i guess that you actually did seek validation from an actual like validated source right

00:22:31.960 nobody like i went when are some situations i do it all time okay but i do it from people that i

00:22:37.780 respect that i know are fucking my kind of people that i want to be like right or or they're that are 0.98

00:22:43.340 strong people maybe maybe and by the way these aren't people who are seeking counsel on your 0.90

00:22:49.840 decision making is a lot different than seeking validation okay seeking counsel from smart people who

00:22:55.980 um who have done things who may and dude like this doesn't have to be people that have more money

00:23:02.840 than you like this doesn't have to be people that are richer than you this has to be people that you

00:23:07.260 respect for what they have done and who they are and how they operate their lives the confidence that

00:23:12.960 they have so like dude who who do i seek counsel from i seek counsel from people who i think represent

00:23:21.100 the kind of people that that i am right like i i talk to ed my lead a lot like ed's somebody i talk

00:23:27.340 to a lot about like hey what do you think of this what do you think of that or what do you think of 0.99

00:23:30.340 this talk to my dad my dad fucking is a pretty smart motherfucker i talk to my brother you see what 0.99

00:23:35.940 i'm saying like these things like um allow me to to because i understand them and respect them and i 0.99

00:23:43.980 understand who they are and what they think and how they think uh and then sometimes i'll ask people that

00:23:48.640 just i know don't see the world the same way but i respect how they do things and i say hey what's

00:23:54.100 this feel like to you or how's this look to you you see what i'm saying so like dude it's important

00:23:58.700 to like if you're really at the end of the day what's really important is that you're true to what

00:24:03.840 you actually believe but if you do have to seek counsel seek counsel don't seek validation you know

00:24:10.480 what i'm saying seeking validation is is like seeking permission almost permission and you know

00:24:16.700 approval and you know this is where a lot of ceos and managers get into surrounding themselves with

00:24:22.380 yes people um these things can be very harmful to you because these people are telling you what you

00:24:28.580 want to hear that's kind of like seeking validation right you want counsel seeking counsel means i'm

00:24:34.400 going to seek the truth even if it's not how i see what is actually going on and because that what

00:24:41.000 that does is that allows you to see holes that you may not see so i intentionally try to ask people

00:24:46.440 who are outside my day-to-day like actual being sometimes to figure out how this appears to look

00:24:54.240 over here or this or that and i think having a variety of of of worldviews to make a decision is a

00:25:01.580 good thing if you are still capable to make the decision autonomously on your own where a lot of

00:25:08.180 people get fucked up is they listen to everybody and then try to appease everybody like if we were 0.95

00:25:12.800 if there's there's what uh six people in this room okay if i went around the room and i said hey uh 0.99

00:25:19.760 say yeah what do you think hey fucking dj what do you think hey joe hey hey key hey madat what do you 0.98

00:25:25.480 think and i said okay and you guys all think different shit what most people will do and the 0.99

00:25:30.100 reason they fuck up their lives is they try to like appease all of those things and create this 0.95

00:25:35.440 like compromise of all of those things and that's that doesn't work so like as a leader which you 0.51

00:25:41.240 are the leader of yourself you have to take the council and then you have to make a decision and

00:25:47.440 you have to say okay i can appreciate all those views but this is what i'm doing and then you have

00:25:53.340 to stand on that and do it you see what i'm saying so like it there's difference like it's a different

00:25:58.360 thing you know people can't figure out especially in a business environment like in a meeting

00:26:03.820 environment what most the reason most people suck at meetings is because it becomes this big

00:26:08.320 clusterfuck of compromised ideas and the ideas get so watered down and the brand gets so watered down

00:26:13.960 and the direction gets so watered down that it can't appeal to anybody because it has too many 0.95

00:26:17.620 fucking ingredients and worldviews mixed into it so my job in a business environment would be to listen 0.93

00:26:25.140 to every single one of you guys how you see it hey what do you think what do you think what do you 0.98

00:26:29.120 think what do you think what do you think listen and then i take all of that information

00:26:33.240 and i analyze what's going on and i make the decision i think is going to be best for all of us

00:26:37.820 and it may not have anything to do with it with anything most of you said it may not have anything

00:26:44.180 to do with any what any of you said or it may be exactly what joe said it may like i might say joe's

00:26:50.500 idea is the best one i'm fucking doing that so like you have there's a there's a there's a line 0.92

00:26:56.260 that you have to understand and walk on there that is very very difficult to walk for some people 0.89

00:27:02.160 because some people are so worried about pleasing everybody instead of producing the best result

00:27:08.480 for everybody and that really fucks them up especially in management leadership absolutely

00:27:12.640 man a lot of good nuggets there bro uh question number two andy uh andy i am a young woman 25 years

00:27:20.780 old and business owner less than four years in the game growing up poor i was raised to be very

00:27:26.040 competitive and that has played a big role in me being a high achiever i often find myself anxious

00:27:32.020 hyper fixated and overworked on growing my business for fear that if i'm not the best that i can be i'll

00:27:38.320 lose everything while i'm in the beginning of this journey to become undeniable in my niche i continue

00:27:43.880 to be brutally hard on myself to the point that it's hard for me to even enjoy the wins have you

00:27:49.860 experienced this and what tactics could you give me to feel more at peace with my journey

00:27:54.140 while still retaining a competitive edge well first of all i think everything you're saying

00:27:58.820 is pretty normal for a high achieving person so that should give you a little boost you're not in

00:28:03.180 the wrong place i don't think i think you're seeing it exactly the way you should see it business is

00:28:07.340 highly competitive you will lose everything if you do not show up every single day with high urgency 0.61

00:28:12.460 to fucking get better that it's the most competitive atmosphere it's more competitive than any sport 0.98

00:28:18.200 it's more competitive than any fucking anything it's the most competitive thing you could do 1.00

00:28:22.080 is to own and operate and run a business because people will cut your fucking throat to get ahead 0.99

00:28:28.060 okay so you have to come up with that you have to show up every day with urgency you have to show up 0.99

00:28:34.360 every day with intent you have to show up every day with intensity you have to do it it's required

00:28:40.060 okay that's that's a requirement it's not it's not optional and and i would say that you actually

00:28:46.900 for where you are in business are looking at it exactly how you should look at it and i know 0.70

00:28:52.620 exactly what that's like because i grew up in business doing the same shit and i didn't celebrate 0.97

00:28:58.200 wins and i didn't fucking because dude the win i had today was still even a little bitty piece of 0.98

00:29:03.040 what i'm trying to do i didn't give a fuck okay that's what i expect i expected to win and get those 0.98

00:29:08.220 things done and so when we really think about how we should think we're our minds are sort of poisoned 0.87

00:29:15.480 by this happy-go-lucky happiness culture where people think that happiness is the ultimate outcome

00:29:23.200 of their entire life or their entire day or their entire existence and they should do nothing inside

00:29:29.960 their day that doesn't create happiness and that's just an unrealistic way to view the world because

00:29:35.860 if you're constantly going to do the same thing over and over and over it makes you happy you're

00:29:40.720 not doing any of the uncomfortable things that force you to grow all right and this is a big problem

00:29:45.120 because while you may be happy at 20 25 30 35 living a free happy-go-lucky life minimalist life 0.97

00:29:52.960 when you get to fucking 55 and you're still having to work that shitty job because you have to eat 0.96

00:29:57.580 you're not going to be very happy so we have to be realist in how we look at the process of happiness 0.98

00:30:02.880 so for someone who is so young someone who is wanting to build a business i think it's very

00:30:08.200 appropriate that you come to work every day with urgency that you are highly competitive that you 0.79

00:30:13.200 want to win and that you don't over celebrate your wins because those wins don't mean shit because 0.92

00:30:18.640 they're only a little bitty bump in the fucking you know in the big scheme of things so i the whole 0.94

00:30:23.740 reason i've gotten to where i'm at in life is because of that mentality now here's what i will say 0.98

00:30:28.600 to the contrary of that there are as a 43 year old dude who's been in business for 24 fucking years 0.95

00:30:35.880 okay i've been in business longer than i haven't okay that's crazy to think about like we just pause 0.87

00:30:44.020 on that i'm just saying i've been doing this longer than i haven't all right at 43 here's something i do

00:30:50.460 regret a little bit i do regret a little bit not appreciating the wins as they came because i i could

00:30:58.220 have easily appreciated those wins and still gotten here had i got to work the next day all right

00:31:04.320 meaning it's okay to celebrate and in fact go celebrate hard but do it for 24 hours after that

00:31:11.060 24 hours is over get right back to it all right that's how i would have lived

00:31:15.860 had i had the perspective that i have now i didn't always do that and that's something that i wish i would

00:31:23.360 have done i wish i would have had a little more fun with my team along the way i wish i would have

00:31:28.100 celebrated a little more when we did some big shit along the way but at the end of the day you know

00:31:33.180 it's all perspective i have the perspective now i enjoy those wins now uh we have much bigger wins 0.64

00:31:38.640 because i had the attitude that this person had um back in the day and i think that's a productive

00:31:44.340 attitude yeah and anybody who says it isn't is probably you know looking at the internet and seeing 0.88

00:31:50.380 all these people travel around on their fucking self-love fucking discovery journey journeys you know 0.99

00:31:56.440 and everybody's you know look dude you guys see these motherfuckers posting these pictures traveling 1.00

00:32:01.340 around doing all this shit you don't see their bank account you don't fucking see their bank account you 1.00

00:32:05.760 don't see what's going in there you don't you don't you have no fucking idea you don't hear the 1.00

00:32:09.720 conversations when the camera's not rolling yeah you're you're buying an ideal idealistic look at 0.99

00:32:15.520 life that isn't accurate and will get you in big deep ass trouble longer down the road because dude do you 0.99

00:32:21.320 really want to be 55 working at fucking starbucks do you really want to be 55 working fucking anywhere 0.99

00:32:26.200 well that means you're gonna have to fucking work now that means you're gonna have to take it serious 0.99

00:32:30.440 now that means you're gonna have to show up just like this young woman is every fucking day with 0.99

00:32:34.840 the attitude that i'm gonna kick some fucking ass today with high urgency and that goes for 1.00

00:32:38.540 entrepreneurs it goes if you have a job it goes for fucking entrepreneurs it goes for everybody that 1.00

00:32:42.420 wants to win and this bullshit idea that we could fucking balance out perfect happiness 1.00

00:32:47.520 with fucking progress is is a lie it's a lie it's a fucking lie told by the internet that's 1.00

00:32:53.520 handicapping lots of people and there's lots of people who are in their 20s right now and early 1.00

00:32:57.760 30s who when they're in their 50s they're gonna fucking regret that they did what they're doing 0.73

00:33:01.260 right now and that's what i'm trying to save you from that's what i'm trying to get you to understand 0.99

00:33:05.120 so to this young woman who wrote this question do not fucking buy that shit understand there's nothing 0.98

00:33:11.420 wrong with you you're doing what's required to win and that's important for your phase in life right 1.00

00:33:16.160 now and anybody who says different likely hasn't built a motherfucking thing 0.99

00:33:19.720 ask and answer well i'm just saying no i fucking love it yeah i'm just saying dude it's true shit 0.98

00:33:27.660 like i do like your point though because like bro this is not an idealistic fucking fair this is not 0.97

00:33:33.540 fair right it's not fucking fair it's not fucking easy it's not it's not it's not smooth it's not 0.95

00:33:41.720 happy it's not any of those things it's a high level competition where anything fucking goes and 0.98

00:33:48.740 people will literally sabotage you hurt you hurt your fucking family however they have to they'll 0.99

00:33:54.480 do anything they can to keep you from winning at the highest level that is a fucking reality and if 1.00

00:33:59.580 you can't get tough enough to go through it you shouldn't be in business because that's the reality 0.82

00:34:03.880 of business we have a lot of people trying to paint this rosy picture of business there's nothing 0.99

00:34:09.300 rosy about it bro it's a fucking brutal ass way to live like you got this is why i get so pissed 0.99

00:34:14.480 off how why entrepreneurship has been so like um glorified and like like they put rose colored 0.99

00:34:21.340 glasses on entrepreneurship right like it's this fucking amazing thing and blah blah blah 0.91

00:34:25.900 blow sweat and tears over dude yes yes that's the reality of it and people think because you have 0.98

00:34:32.540 all these knuckleheads on the internet making it sound like it's easy when it's hard for them 0.98

00:34:37.500 they feel like fuck i must be doing something wrong and you're not doing anything wrong they're 0.99

00:34:41.600 just lying and they created a fake expectation and it's a very dangerous thing in entrepreneurship 0.99

00:34:46.200 right now it's it's we have we have a lot of people who think it's fun and games and think it's 0.99

00:34:51.980 you know lamborghinis and fucking all this crazy shit when in reality bro it's very lonely it's very 0.99

00:34:58.020 hard it takes a long time uh it's going to take way more of your energy than anybody of your friends 1.00

00:35:03.380 or anybody else they're not going to get it they're going to fucking talk shit to you it's 0.99

00:35:07.180 like one of the hardest paths you could pick in life in fact i can't think of one that's harder 0.99

00:35:11.660 i can't think of a i think can't think of a career path that you could pick that would be actually

00:35:16.440 harder than being a an entrepreneur that's starting from day one i can't think of anything and so like 0.95

00:35:22.640 dude you're literally picking the hardest fucking way to go in life and then you're surprised that it's 0.90

00:35:28.480 hard like it's hard it's hard and these glory stories that are told on the internet for likes 0.98

00:35:35.120 and shares and clicks and fucking views and shit they're just not the truth man they've never been 1.00

00:35:39.540 the truth it's never been the truth it's a it's a fucking scam to get you to buy their shit or 1.00

00:35:44.320 whatever they're buying whatever program or course or hack that they're teaching that's what they tell 0.98

00:35:48.940 you because dude they can't tell you the truth hey guess what it's going to be the hardest thing you 0.96

00:35:54.100 ever did it's going to take fucking a long ass time it's probably gonna take three or four 0.98

00:35:58.100 times as long as you think it's going to take uh along the way you're going to lose all your 0.99

00:36:01.820 fucking friends you're probably going to lose some significant others too along that way uh you're 0.98

00:36:06.980 going to get made fun of you're going to get bullied you're going to get harassed you're going 1.00

00:36:09.660 to get attacked on the internet daily all right you're going to struggle you're going to make 0.97

00:36:14.100 mistakes you're going to owe people money you're going to fuck up your bank account there's going to 0.98

00:36:18.700 be multiple fucking days where you don't think that you're going to make it and and those days 0.97

00:36:23.480 sometimes last for months there's going to be nobody's going to relate to you no one's going 0.95

00:36:28.700 to understand why you're doing it everybody's going to question it you're going to have to

00:36:32.400 answer it every single time and it's going to piss you off and bro this is the life that you're 0.89

00:36:37.420 choosing like you're choosing it and then you can then so you can't be surprised that it's hard 1.00

00:36:42.200 that's this is what the fuck you're signing up for and anybody out there that says any of that shit 0.98

00:36:46.540 ain't true i can promise you they ain't built anything they haven't built anything show me somebody 0.99

00:36:51.160 that says that and i'll fucking show you they ain't built shit that's a beautiful thing though 0.96

00:36:55.340 it's like yes it's going to be all those things there's people who have built businesses around 0.99

00:36:59.300 saying those things it's not the same but they ain't shipping motherfucking products that aren't 1.00

00:37:04.780 courses or information or some bullshit there's a lot of motherfuckers out there lying it's bottom 1.00

00:37:09.920 line yeah it's real let's get one of those motherfuckers on the show how about that how about let's 1.00

00:37:15.660 get one of these fucking motherfuckers on the show that says it's all easy it's all this it's all that 1.00

00:37:19.540 who stands in front of their fucking hurricane on the internet let's do that let's fucking get that 1.00

00:37:23.900 it'll take me like 10 seconds to find you one yeah i'll find one real quick we'll have a conversation 0.99

00:37:28.640 about how fucking let's i mean bro look this is the reality man and like people it's funny because 0.96

00:37:34.720 like people make fun of it too like i i you know like they're like oh yeah hustle grind this that 0.98

00:37:40.640 bro come get some because you don't get it you can laugh at it all you want bro and i'm gonna tell you 0.98

00:37:47.400 this uh they might laugh at you now everybody laughed at me back in the day fucking everybody 0.99

00:37:52.920 guess who's laughing now not them motherfucker me okay so it depends do you want to be the 1.00

00:38:00.400 motherfucker that laughs last or do you want to be the motherfucker that laughs first because the 1.00

00:38:04.700 person that laughs first they don't build shit they don't become shit they don't create shit they 1.00

00:38:09.620 ain't shit but the the person who gets to laugh last they ain't got to worry about their bills 0.99

00:38:14.720 they ain't got to worry about their house payment they ain't got to worry about what car they want 0.99

00:38:18.180 to drive you ain't got to worry about shit and all those people that laughed in the beginning 1.00

00:38:21.280 those people are looking at you now and they're saying uh fucking andy thinks he's the shit now 1.00

00:38:25.960 no bitch i know i'm the shit because i fucking built it day by day while you were out fucking off 1.00

00:38:30.780 so like dude we have to be real about the conversation oh i love it man love it there's nothing wrong with 1.00

00:38:39.120 that attitude i fucking love it i wish i had a million more people that had that same attitude 0.91

00:38:42.800 change the fucking world with that 0.95

00:38:44.860 guys andy our third and final question andy question number three uh andy i'm a big fan of 0.95

00:38:52.160 the show and i've learned so much from you through real af and 75 heart now you talk a lot about the

00:38:57.540 universe and karma and i've worked to raise my energy and attract the things that i desire

00:39:02.420 things are finally coming into fruition and of course there are still some obstacles to overcome

00:39:07.240 my question is when do you consider the obstacles as part of the path and then when do you consider

00:39:13.840 them as a sign to walk away yeah so if you're looking at it if you are looking at it from the

00:39:20.980 realist viewpoint and you're assessing it right and you look at it and say okay well this is something

00:39:28.000 that can be overcome um it might be very difficult for me to overcome it might take a lot of energy it

00:39:33.840 might take some time might take some resources it might not be what i want to do but i can still 0.71

00:39:38.080 overcome it that's a fucking obstacle okay something where you would walk away from something would be 0.98

00:39:45.440 an insurmountable obstacle that has no actual solution to it right there are things like that there are 0.95

00:39:51.540 things that happen in reality that make us change course and so most people look at the first type

00:40:01.420 the bump in the road as a permanent obstacle that they cannot overcome which is what causes them to

00:40:07.600 ultimately fail in life and so i think having a realist viewpoint which is why we call the show real af

00:40:13.880 um because having a realist viewpoint is the foundation of success in all areas of life you have to tell

00:40:20.380 yourself the truth you have to assess things for what they are you have to look at the facts and the data

00:40:25.340 you can't wish things into reality it's not how the fuck it works okay so if you look at something

00:40:31.780 and and you and by the way if you got you guys who aren't succeeding right now i guarantee you a big part 0.79

00:40:37.820 of the reason you're not succeeding it's because you're looking at things that are speed bumps as

00:40:42.440 permanent obstacles that cannot be overcome and there's a drastic difference in my 24 years of doing

00:40:48.680 this business obviously because i'm still doing it there is actually never single one time been an

00:40:54.640 obstacle that i couldn't overcome all right so they're very very very very very rare very rare

00:41:01.820 all right an obstacle that i couldn't overcome would be the fda banning nutritional supplements 0.95

00:41:09.040 exactly couldn't fuck couldn't fucking sell them tend to know with that okay well got to change the 0.98

00:41:14.660 plan right all right that's an obstacle that cannot be overcome 0.99

00:41:19.040 almost everything else almost everything that you guys think is an obstacle that can't be overcome

00:41:26.680 or a reason as to why you can't is actually just a small part of the journey that is more difficult

00:41:33.640 than the rest of the journey and you should value those parts of the journey because those parts of

00:41:38.580 the journey are the ones that actually teach you the skills okay so if we look at things correctly

00:41:43.480 the truth of the matter is that most things that you think are insurmountable roadblocks are actually 0.71

00:41:52.780 just little bitty hard parts on the long journey that teach you the most shit and so if we reframe our 0.94

00:41:59.000 perspective to see it that way it becomes a lot more tolerable so could i run a marathon um yeah i 0.99

00:42:07.040 actually probably could would it be hard as fuck yeah would i have to train yeah would i have to probably 0.89

00:42:13.120 pull a bunch of weight off yeah but could i actually do it i think so i see 40 year old 0.89

00:42:19.340 mothers that are 100 pounds overweight completing marathons pretty sure i could fucking do it so it's 1.00

00:42:25.020 it's not a it's not a it's a hard thing in the journey right that would be a hard thing for me 0.51

00:42:31.140 because i'm not a runner yeah you see what i'm saying and by the way respect to those women that do 0.97

00:42:34.940 that shit it's fucking incredibly difficult shit my point is it's possible if one man can do another 0.98

00:42:42.520 can do all right so if you can look at something that has actually been done and someone else has 1.00

00:42:47.960 done it and you think that you can't do it the reality is that you probably can but you're probably

00:42:54.500 looking at things that are actual speed bumps as obstacles that cannot be overcome and our

00:43:00.780 perspective you know inaccuracy on this particular topic costs a lot of people their entire fulfillment

00:43:06.420 existence success and dreams yeah so it ties right back into the first the first question man it's like

00:43:11.740 people that look at gifts and skills yeah it goes right back to that same thing and they're just

00:43:16.280 looking for the excuse of the way out yeah look dude look most people and this is why they get so 0.99

00:43:20.960 triggered by it this is why they get so mad when you say this shit because they know it's true think 0.99

00:43:26.360 about the shit that you actually get mad about like do you get like if someone walked up to me bro 0.99

00:43:31.120 now i realize i may not be the fittest human on earth i am 43 years old 260 pounds i can see my abs when i look in 0.99

00:43:39.100 the mirror all right there might be fitter people to me my age but there ain't fucking many 0.99

00:43:45.180 all right that's a fact so if someone were to walk up to me and say hey you fat piece of shit 1.00

00:43:52.920 fucking broke fuck i would laugh at them i'd laugh in their fucking face right right we laugh at things 1.00

00:43:59.620 that we know aren't true we know they're not true but the reason people get so triggered around this 1.00

00:44:04.160 conversation is because they know it's fucking true and they know it's cost them a lot and instead 0.97

00:44:10.060 of admitting fuck it's true and fuck it cost me a lot and now i can change it and go do something 1.00

00:44:16.300 they continue to keep the blinders on and the worldview and just say fuck i see andy for sell is 1.00

00:44:21.960 full of shit for saying that or he's got privilege or he has this or he has that or he was lucky 1.00

00:44:28.100 motherfucker i'm waiting to get lucky i would love to get lucky but i can promise you everything that's 1.00

00:44:33.080 happened to me in my life none of it was attributed to luck i'm still waiting for my lucky shit to come 1.00

00:44:38.180 around you know i'm saying like give me some lucky charms or whatever the fuck we got to do because 0.97

00:44:43.960 i'm like waiting on it go slide down the right yeah like like okay okay because i know people are

00:44:49.540 gonna say you never got lucky no there's been a couple times but i ain't ever had like a big lucky

00:44:52.920 thing you know what i'm saying um but that's the reality dude we just look at things this thing was

00:44:58.280 it was it luck or was it just the hard work that created the opportunity we don't know

00:45:01.540 but it produces the result just the same right like dude when you work hard day in and day out

00:45:06.660 when you take your skill set development seriously when you pour into yourself and you make yourself

00:45:10.920 a priority and you make your outcome a priority um you don't need luck right so there's there's there's

00:45:17.780 maybe and then there's for sure and i'm gonna take the for sure this is why i teach the for sure

00:45:22.660 i don't teach the hack i don't teach the maybe i don't teach the got lucky i don't teach the high risk

00:45:28.520 uh you know high return i teach the for sure and the for sure is long hard lonely and will take most

00:45:36.360 of your life and that's for sure but you can for sure get there that way and so like when we look

00:45:41.760 at things and we evaluate what we can and can't do we have to stop looking at the we have to stop

00:45:48.320 looking at the things that are that are stories that we lie to ourselves about as the roadblock 0.99

00:45:54.120 see what i'm saying absolutely man absolutely like wrong give a fuck how old you are i don't 0.99

00:45:58.060 care if you're fucking 40 i don't care if you're fucking 50 i don't care if you're fucking 60 and 1.00

00:46:02.800 bro you guys who think oh i'm 27 and i'm old you're a fucking idiot just tell you that right now 1.00

00:46:07.720 just tell you that right now you have no idea how young you are 1.00

00:46:10.800 i don't care if you're 60 years old bro i don't even care if you're 70 because if you take control and

00:46:19.440 start to understand this whatever time you have left is going to be so rewarding because you start

00:46:25.000 to believe in yourself and see yourself as someone who's powerful and bro that's the way to live like

00:46:31.040 the way to live is not to live like this weak little poor me through life the way to live is to be a bad 1.00

00:46:35.400 motherfucker that believes in themselves and the reason they believe in themselves is because they 0.99

00:46:39.280 earn that belief and i don't care if you're 70 years old bro and you live to be 75 these five 1.00

00:46:44.580 fucking years be the best years you ever had and that's what it's about so don't be one of 1.00

00:46:49.300 these people who hears what i say and get triggered and say oh fuck him blah blah blah blah blah bro 1.00

00:46:54.180 that's bitch shit real man shit real adult shit would be saying real they shit would be saying 1.00

00:47:01.900 i had to would be saying you know what fuck i fucked up and that's part of taking responsibility shit i saw 1.00

00:47:10.940 it that i saw it the wrong way and here's where you're going to get really mad where you're going to 0.99

00:47:14.900 get really mad is when you start to live that way and then you start to look around you start to 0.97

00:47:18.800 realize their entire fucking environment was created for you to think that way that kept you 0.95

00:47:24.280 in that cage for a big part of your life that you cannot get back that's when you're going to get 0.99

00:47:28.600 pissed and then i'll see you at the fucking patriot rallies right okay we'll be right there next to each 0.99

00:47:33.560 other you just a lot of people the reason you guys don't get so pissed off when i get pissed off is 1.00

00:47:37.720 because you don't understand what the fuck's going on yet because you ain't lived through it 0.97

00:47:40.520 i've watched it i dude i've just seen it i've seen it happen too many times i've seen people start 0.99

00:47:45.640 believe in the shit of idealism about fun easy quick all these things and then go out and get 1.00

00:47:52.060 their fucking dick smashed in and then think fuck i obviously it's me it's not you bro you bought into 1.00

00:47:59.100 a false belief system that isn't the reality the reality is not sellable i'm a guru bro i can't sell 1.00

00:48:05.760 you how am i fucking gonna sell you on this idea hey guess what this is gonna be the hardest shit you 0.99

00:48:12.260 ever did in your fucking life bro and by the way you're gonna fucking lose everything just like i 1.00

00:48:17.160 said earlier in the show you're gonna lose everything you're gonna lose your friends you're 0.99

00:48:19.900 gonna lose your family you're gonna fucking be alone for a long time many times over the course 0.98

00:48:23.820 of your life you're gonna go through depression you're gonna have anxiety every motherfucking day 0.99

00:48:27.820 like dude how can you sell that yeah i don't want that can't sell it can't sell it just like in the 0.97

00:48:34.160 diet culture you can't sell well i mean you can because we sell it but most people up until this

00:48:41.420 point in time in society you haven't been able to sell hard work as the solution you haven't been

00:48:47.620 able to sell that you haven't been able to sell you know discipline as the solution but we have a

00:48:52.880 situation now where culture has shifted so broadly that people are awake to the truth right they

00:49:00.020 understand that they cannot take a pill and lose a hundred pounds they understand that if they're going

00:49:06.100 to make a change it's going to require uncomfortable things and i love this because this is a true

00:49:11.920 cultural this is the beginnings of a true cultural revolution they want people to believe that they

00:49:17.640 have no control and what's actually happening is people are fucking sick of what they're offering us 0.70

00:49:22.660 and they're realizing and embracing that they actually do have control which pushes them into a life 0.67

00:49:27.900 of true accountability because now they understand that their actions create an output and this is a 0.97

00:49:33.260 beautiful thing going on in the world i know we talk about all the bad shit going on in the world 1.00

00:49:37.120 one of the best things going on in the world right now is you motherfuckers that listen to this show 1.00

00:49:41.580 right now living that fucking disciplined life and spreading it to your fucking friends and family 1.00

00:49:46.680 and them waking up to the indoctrination that we've all had about living in this fucking port this 1.00

00:49:51.520 little box that all of us peasants belong in while everybody else fucking eats steak and lobster and flies 1.00

00:49:57.380 around on private airplanes you can have that same shit man there's plenty of room for everybody to have it 1.00

00:50:02.620 so start thinking a little different start looking at a little different and you'll feel a little 0.99

00:50:07.940 different and when you start to understand that and like i said i don't care if you're 70 you'll 1.00

00:50:11.740 become fucking powerful bro and those fucking next 5 10 years or 20 years whatever the fuck you 0.99

00:50:16.180 are blessed to have left will be the fucking best parts of your life real talk because most people 1.00

00:50:22.160 live their whole life bro thinking that they have no power no control think about how demoralizing that 0.90

00:50:27.280 is to live like that like think about how hard it is to live as someone who accepts the fact that 0.99

00:50:33.940 whatever happens happens whatever whatever card i'm dealt is the one that i get and that's fucking 1.00

00:50:39.220 it bro that is the weakest shit fucking ever you cannot live that way it's not fulfilling you won't 0.99

00:50:44.900 make any success and you won't be proud when your life is coming to an end which is the ultimate goal 1.00

00:50:50.060 right people say oh i want happiness i actually don't really give a fuck about happiness right now 0.98

00:50:54.260 here's what i give a fuck about when my fucking when my my ticket gets punched bro people are 0.99

00:50:59.640 going to say that motherfucker did his best i'm proud of that and i know that's going to be the 1.00

00:51:03.860 outcome because i'll never fucking quit and that that to me feels much better than living a comfortable 0.99

00:51:09.620 happy existence and it's not for everybody it's not for everybody and if it's not for you i get it

00:51:15.200 but that's how i live and that's how i think um anybody who's high achieving that i know they live in a

00:51:21.460 cert they live along that framework at a very you know even if it's a little different it's kind

00:51:27.180 of the same yeah absolutely man love it well guys andy that was three all i got yep go pay the fee 0.99

00:51:34.780 went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a bowl fuck a stole counted millions in the 1.00

00:51:41.820 cold bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case close 1.00

00:51:48.780 we didn't know headshot case close 0.99

00:51:50.060 we didn't know headshot case close

00:51:50.300 we didn't know headshot case close

00:51:51.040 we didn't know headshots close

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - April 03, 2023

495. Q&AF： Constantly Seeking Validation, Competitive Edge Retention & Dissecting Obstacles

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - April 03, 2023

495. Q&#x26;AF： Constantly Seeking Validation, Competitive Edge Retention &#x26; Dissecting Obstacles

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495. Q&AF： Constantly Seeking Validation, Competitive Edge Retention & Dissecting Obstacles