53. The Ultimate Happiness Hack
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Summary
In this episode, I talk about the importance of having a good day at your will and how to get back into the habit of having good days. I also talk about how you can become more comfortable with having a "good day" at your Will and how the 75 Hard Program can help you do just that.
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what's up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies
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the fakeness and delusions of modern society and man are there a fucking ton of those right now
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and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today has been a very good day for me okay it's monday
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you're going to probably be hearing this on a tuesday uh but we're going to go ahead and roll
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with a real talk to start the week off because i feel like people need something to help them
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get back in the habit of having good days we're surrounded by so many uh outside influences
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and circumstances that we can't control right now and it's inescapable okay we look everywhere
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and what do we see you know we see the negativity we see people arguing we see you know people
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hating each other and the internet is just a very toxic place right now and i wanted to
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recommit to having you guys start to become more comfortable having good days and a long time ago
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many many years ago i did a podcast of basically five or six things that could help you create
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happiness at your will so how to have a great day every day all right and that's how you have to look
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at it life is hard life is stressful life is frustrating life is long all right uh but it's also short
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and so we need to learn how to produce a good day at will i don't think anybody could argue that right
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like we can't continue to float through life expecting for a happy life just to happen to us
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we have to snap out of our days and start to uh become conscious and aware of how to create a great
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life and i'm going to do that today in today's podcast i'm going to give you some actionable steps
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for you to create a great day at will but before i do that i wanted to talk to you a little bit and
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just really express my gratitude for all of you that bought the 75 hard book and the app we did a
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couple very amazing things uh with no help all right a lot of times when people create a new book or a new
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item they send it out to everybody on social media and they want everybody to help post and
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you know they run ads and they do all these things we didn't do that with this book we simply asked
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for those of you who were interested in the program who have done the program who know the value of the
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program to buy the book and i just wanted to say thank you because we sold so many books uh in literally
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87 minutes i was blown away the books that we ordered were to last for six months and we sold them
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out in an hour and a half guys i just want to say thank you for that um and i want to be real with
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you you know there's a lot of times doing this podcast that i feel pretty lonely um i say a lot
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of things that other people won't say uh i say a lot of things that i believe are true um i try to side
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with the factual information as much as possible that's a whole nother podcast i want to talk to you
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guys about i'm making one up right now uh for maybe later in the week that talks about how to make
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decisions and how to critically think things through so that you know you can find the truth
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but even the best of us those of us who uh you know work very hard and and obviously you know
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the the external evidence of people caring about what i have to say uh is there you know but that
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doesn't stop those negative thoughts or those questionable thoughts or those doubts from my
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head and this was the first book that was ever a uh you know grown-up book we've done very well with
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the children's books and you guys you know have done a great job um you know sharing those around and
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it's highly appreciated but this is the first book that was of content made for someone who was you know
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older and i just wanted to say uh it was a very cool feeling to sell those books out like that and it
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made me realize like hey maybe uh you're you're being an idiot you know to myself i was thinking
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that made me realize you know hey man maybe you're selling yourself a little short on what people want
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to hear it from you and uh it was a very good feeling and i just want to say thank you guys for
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that um i i did the book two different ways uh i did it as singles for 19.99 and i did it as packs of
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five for 30 bucks and a lot of people were like why are you doing that well the reason i did that is
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because it's it's been a consistent theme that people who contribute are people who complete 75
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hard want to contribute to the program and if that's you if it's if 75 hard has been something
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that's helped you redefine your mentality uh create the confidence the grit the self-esteem
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the fortitude all the amazing qualities that you get from that program and you were wondering like
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how can you pay me back um that's how buy the five pack and spread it around give it to people
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that you care about explain the program to them um and and i just you know i thought that'd be a cool
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way to try to see how much of what i say actually works in real life right i tell you guys word of mouth
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is everything and i'm willing to ride on it you know what i'm saying so that's what that's for i i stand
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by what i teach you guys i believe that when you give good things people do good and they
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reciprocate and so i just want to say thank you guys for doing that and uh it it's just an
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unbelievably overwhelmingly humble feeling uh and cool feeling knowing that you guys care about what
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i have to say and i know that might sound stupid right like a lot of you guys are like dude at this
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point in time i can't believe you're thinking that because i said a little bit like this on my story the
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other day and people like literally laughed at me but you have to realize dude i'm a human too
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i'm a normal dude when i say regular dude in my instagram profile i'm a regular dude and um i have
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doubts sometimes too and you guys came through on this and it really was a time where i needed that
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boost and i and really that means more to me than than anything of like selling anything so um i just
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really appreciate you guys and love you guys and uh i look forward to what we're going to do together
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over the course of time now with that being said guys i do have a podcast for you and like i said
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we're going to talk about creating happiness and the reason i wanted to really bring this
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up right now like i said is because we're having a tough time in society you know everybody has
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bad days and some people they have them more than others and for some reason no matter what you do
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you just can't seem to shake it i think we can all feel that way right but i'm going to share with
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you guys five steps that will help you get back on the right path now these things don't require
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a bad day or a bad week or a bad month to put into effect in fact i'd encourage all of you to
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practice these steps on a daily basis to see just how profound the effect will be on your general mood
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and outlook on life so i want to start off talking about that by sharing a story all right back in the
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early 80s there was a coach by the name of jim valvano now if you're above 30 you probably know who
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this is if you're below 30 you may not uh jim valvano was the head coach of north carolina state
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basketball team all right in 1983 his team went to the national championship as a heavily unfavored
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underdog and against nearly impossible odds i'm talking about a team that was chock full of future
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hall of famers valvano and his team were able to secure the title it was and continues to be one of
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the greatest sports upsets of all time and while his victory and celebration went down in history
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it was his espy speech 10 years later that proved to be his legacy now a lot of you guys have seen
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this but what most people don't realize when they look at this speech is that valvano was terminally
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ill with cancer and he'd only lived two more months after the speech was delivered and at the very end of
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his speech after being told he only had 30 seconds left he said a very iconic line that is you know
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rightfully repeated over and over and over again and i happen to agree with he said if you laugh
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you think and you cry that's a full day that's a heck of a day you do that seven days a week you're
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going to have something special and that that line stuck with america and i want you to think about
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that he was at the end of his life following an incredibly hard struggle and was still able to
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impart that incredible message on to society can you imagine what his life was leading up to this
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moment up to this speech he's he's battling a terminal illness he knows he's going to die you know
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he had plenty of bad days but despite all that he managed to give the rest of the world a truly amazing
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framework for happiness words like that get you thinking and that's what happened to me i had one
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of those days where nothing seems to be going to plan and i thought about what process i should be
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going through to get me into more of a you know pleasant state of mind so i want to get into that
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and what those steps would be so the first step is just this be productive okay there's an old proverb
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that goes an idle mind is the devil's workshop and that's exactly right i don't care if you aren't
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religious the concept still applies basically if you aren't keeping your mind sharp and keeping
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yourself busy it's going to affect your thought process if you're already having a bad day this is
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certainly going to be true the mind has an uncanny ability to go to dark places when you're not
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providing it with some sort of distraction okay a lot of us automatically go there if you're giving
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yourself time to dwell on the bad things you're going to spiral into negativity it's a negativity
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cycle you have a bad day then you keep thinking about each detail that pissed you off and instead
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of moving on you just keep going through this system of thinking and become more and more and more angry
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thinking about it over and over and over again i know that sounds familiar because it sounds familiar
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to me too but this is where you need to get up and do something about it i've talked about my
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powerless concept plenty of times but it's the perfect tool in this scenario write out five
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critical tasks for the day and don't sleep until you've checked each one of them off the act of
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writing this list itself is going to take your mind off the day's negative aspects it's going to get you
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refocused on what you need to do the list is meant to help you build and create momentum self-esteem
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and confidence both in yourself and in your ability to accomplish difficult tasks and goals that you
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otherwise think you might not be able to accomplish all of those things are going to put you in a
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better frame of mind when you're productive and you inevitably start to cross these things off the
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list your mood has nowhere to go but up and if you want to find out about the power list it's episode
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107 for the mf ceo project or episode 16 of the real af all right so if you go back to episode 16
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real af feed or episode 107 way further back in the feed you're going to hear what the power list is
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all about so that's step number one right be productive step number two learn something new
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that same proverb i mentioned earlier works to this point as well don't sit on your couch and
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veg out eating doritos and bologna sandwiches all right the kardashians aren't going to help you
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right now in fact they're probably just going to piss you off more instead grab a book listen to a
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podcast i'm not going to tell you how to set your guidelines but you have to understand that you need
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to do something something that actively engages your mind and forces you to pick up some new knowledge
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sure you might be having a bad day now but it is eventually going to get better just like
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every other bad day you've ever had in your life so when you look back at that time wouldn't it be
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better about yourself if you knew that you were using this time to actually become productive instead
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of laying on the couch and feeling sorry for yourself think about that think about what that
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does for your confidence what does it do for your confidence to know that every time you're having a bad
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day you're able to flip it over into something productive how valuable would that tool be how valuable
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would that tool be so that you every single time you were negative instead of whining and crying and
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pouting and eating all the fucking baloney all right you actually went out and did something productive
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that's powerful man now i'm not asking you to go read all you know crime and punishment i'm saying
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sit down for 20 30 minutes and read something that's going to help you improve in the area that you need
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to improve upon it's not going to take you very long until you realize hey that shit i was mad about
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a minute ago it really doesn't matter in the long run you're going to be more intelligent and you're
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going to have a leg up on those around you when you learn how to do this so the third thing is be
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thankful all right when you're in a moment of your life where nothing seems to be going right take a
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moment to look around and be thankful for all that you do have it's a quick easy exercise that's going to
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change your perspective immediately sure you might have had a small fender bender earlier today but
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shouldn't you be thankful that you left from a home you called your own you drove a car you also own
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and you went to work because you're fortunate enough to be employed entrepreneurs and other successful
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people guys they're always looking into the future and that's great but if you don't take the time to
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appreciate what you do have you're going to end up in a situation where you're always feeling like you
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don't have anything if you spend each day cultivating a state of gratitude and appreciation
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you create a scenario where you set yourself up to foster positive mindset and a fulfilled existence
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because you realize what you do have around you and you're grateful for it be grateful for everything
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you have not just your physical assets be thankful for your family your friends your employees your
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co-workers anything that you can find to be thankful for use it because it creates an environment
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of growth so what do we got so far we got be productive we got learn something new we got be
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thankful and point number four is this be generous i'm not saying you have to write a check all right
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everybody here is generous and they think oh you got to write a check or you got to give away money
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that's not what we're saying here give something of value most of you value your time people
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appreciate time a lot more than money too i'm going to tell you that right now okay the feeling that
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you get from donating your time not only is it going to occupy your mind but the feeling that you're going
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to get of contributing and being part of something helps wash away these negative feelings all right
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and how do you do this on a daily basis it's real simple do things that you otherwise wouldn't normally
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do with your time call a friend you haven't talked to in years call your grandparents call your parents
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they probably provided you with more than you could ever repay anyway the least you could do is take
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half an hour out of your day and let them know that you're thinking about them all right there's many
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many many ways to be generous stop thinking that generous equates to money it doesn't offer to help
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a friend or a neighbor with some yard work you know look guys the truth is shoveling dirt or helping
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build a deck for half a day is going to relieve your anxiety because you're going to be too fucking
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tired and too sore and too sweaty to even worry about it being generous helps you be happy okay so
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what we got now we got be productive we got learn something new we got be thankful and we got be
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generous all right so the fifth thing is this enjoy something that money can't buy look guys
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everyone is always hustling especially you guys man you guys who listen to this show you're always
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hustling you're always pushing to be able to afford that next big purchase i love that all right but
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you got to get money off your mind for a minute and chill all right there's plenty of things that you
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can do if you choose to look around that will you know make your life much better and they don't cost
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anything all right one thing i do here guys i do this every single day i take 20 minutes man and i
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play with my dogs and i can tell you my anger goes completely away in about 30 seconds of that and
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those of you with kids you probably can relate to that as well all right i don't have kids i got dogs
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some of you don't think it's the same it is to me motherfuckers so chill the fuck out all right but
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what i'm getting at here is spend some time with your family go on a run go on a hike head to the park
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and hang out if you don't have time to leave your house go outside and hit the yard work man
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we always got stuff to do grab a hammock get a lawn chair chill read you can combine these things but
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do it outside don't sit in front of the tv because it distracts you from the moment and this has to be
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a purposeful thing that you do enjoy something that money cannot buy all right and for all of you
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it's going to be different but keeping that in mind we always turn to these material toys and items
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and look i know that sounds weird because i got all the motherfucking toys and i love them but you
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know what i love more i love enjoying things that money can't buy those things are what make us truly
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happy and it's just the truth all right so let's review real quick what do we have here we got be
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productive all right get shit done it always makes you happy we've got learn something new learning
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something new is always going to relieve your anxiety it's going to make you feel more in control
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it's going to make you feel better about the direction you're heading be thankful we can't
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grow unless we have gratitude for what we currently have we spend our whole time and our whole day
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being frustrated about we don't have how can we ever feel good ever okay number four be generous not
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just with money money is a great way to be generous but if you don't have a lot of money right now which
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a lot of you don't instead make a time all right that half an hour that you give to someone that
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you wouldn't normally is going to make you feel just as good as it makes them feel all right and
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and the last thing number five enjoy something that money can't buy now each one of these points alone
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is definitely going to make you feel better okay it's going to help you out but when you combine them
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all together in a purposeful action on a day-by-day basis now you're on a path of total success and
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fulfillment that most people will never even be aware of much less reach all right so think about
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this list go back and listen to this a couple times get this list in your head take notes and see how
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good you do on a day-by-day basis practicing these things in your day-to-day life and I know you might
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be sitting there thinking dude I am already stressed for time I'm doing 75 hard I got the power list
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I'm doing all this shit how am I supposed to add this all in I can't afford to do that no you can't
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afford not to do that because having peace of mind and having happiness creates an environment where
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you're able to attract all other good things into your life so if you've been paying attention you
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could you've probably drawn the conclusion by now that you could add these things in very simply all
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right read while you're in the hammock play with your dogs and realize how grateful you are to have
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them around be present in the moment of those things helping a friend move some furniture
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that's being productive okay you don't have to like go so far out of your way I'm saying these are good
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guidelines for having a great day on a day-by-day basis test yourself write these things down see
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how well you do I promise you when you execute on all these things at the end of the day you're gonna
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say that was a great fucking day all right guys that's it all right I love you guys don't forget pay
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the fee if you thought this was a great show talk about it send it to a friend tell them to give it
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a listen every time the conversation comes up of what do you listen to what are you consuming dude
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pay the fee man we're up here doing our job we're trying to contribute some positivity and some good
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thoughts into the world help us spread the show I love you guys I'll talk to you later
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tell my teacher dumb bitch I'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living down spoke it till