REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 565. #75HARD Vs. Andy Frisella Ft. Emily Frisella

00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies

00:00:21.040 the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome the motherfucking reality guys today

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00:00:40.400 breaking news you like to throw in your racism anywhere i mean bro you ain't gonna do it i gotta

00:00:50.040 do it how you know i'm not gonna do it no i'm saying like but that's my strong suit your racism

00:00:55.280 just enough anyway guys welcome to real af uh this is your first time listening you're going to hear

00:01:04.380 uh 75 hard verses episode which we'll get to here in just a second um

00:01:09.940 but when you tune in on a normal basis uh this is a personal development entrepreneurship society

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00:01:43.620 if you're lucky answer some from there as well other times we have cti that stands for cruise the

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00:01:52.480 speculate on what's true what's not true and then we talk about how we the people can be the solution

00:01:57.800 to the problems going on in the world other times we have real talk real talk is five to 20 minutes

00:02:03.680 of me just giving you some real talk and then we have 75 hard verses which you're going to hear today

00:02:08.600 uh and today's 75 hard verses is actually 75 hard verses me and we have as a special guest to help

00:02:19.440 communicate the 75 hard verses story none other than the person who lives with me and shares my house

00:02:28.120 with me and basically knows everything about me so she could tell you all the shit that it's done for

00:02:33.840 me uh and then ask me some questions my amazing wife emily frisella thank you yeah i was gonna say

00:02:41.400 what else are you gonna intro like believe it cooks meals or what i mean i'm just saying like

00:02:47.180 who better to know what the fuck's going on than you no but that's why i'm excited about this doing

00:02:51.580 this and we have talked about this like wanting to do the show for a while because people don't

00:02:54.920 realize what you tell them but they don't understand like the nitty-gritty like you give the macro

00:02:59.740 perspective of like what changed this or that they don't actually understand like i'm sorry you

00:03:03.760 give the macro i want to give like the micro of like all the little things that i noticed

00:03:07.240 as your wife but then also i know like dj as well you guys you know we're doing the program together

00:03:12.840 and you finished phase one getting ready to start phase two all of that so i just thought we'd be

00:03:17.680 able to like cover a lot for people kind of an all-encompassing show because you've never been

00:03:21.620 the feature of any of these sunny hard verses shows so um well we thought it was two options it was

00:03:27.880 either me pretend and wear a different outfit and interview myself which we thought was a great

00:03:33.460 idea so yeah it's still yeah we still might do that um or get emily who knows the most about me

00:03:40.280 of any human on the planet to uh interview me yeah so so i think first though because if anybody

00:03:45.720 hasn't ever listened to the show 75 hard kind of how it came about you've mentioned it before in like

00:03:50.980 one or two shows but tell everybody kind of how 75 hard came to flourish in like in that january

00:03:57.420 whenever you made that bet and how much this was well when it first started it was

00:04:02.720 you know for me i've struggled with understanding my whole life like understanding why certain people

00:04:13.920 had this ability to do things and make it look easy like stick to a diet or stick to a workout program

00:04:23.640 or follow through and i was always confused on why people were able to do that i didn't understand

00:04:30.700 that i thought people just had that or didn't have that and so i've always been obsessed to a point

00:04:37.600 with mental toughness and mental um you know discipline and things like this like i read all the books

00:04:46.400 i i i i understand what they were saying but it never really clicked with me and it still always felt

00:04:51.840 like you know certain people had it and certain people didn't have it and at that point and the

00:04:57.240 point in my life where 75 hard came around um i had just went from one of the hardest times of my life

00:05:05.260 where i had gotten myself up to 350 pounds and i had pulled a bunch of the weight off of uh myself

00:05:12.680 through just pushing myself through a hard program but i hadn't really fixed the problem i never fixed

00:05:19.480 the problem and i noticed that it was still hard for me to diet and it was still hard for me to eat

00:05:24.800 right it was still hard for me to get my workouts in and um i wanted to put together a a program

00:05:32.520 for myself that would help me fix that problem and and so i thought about i thought about i thought

00:05:40.180 about it and i made a bet with uh the people in my arte group um we had an arte meetup that was 75

00:05:48.520 days from the time when i started and i was going to stick to the program for 75 days uh with no no

00:05:56.460 compromise no fail and a whole bunch of people decided to do with me i just announced it on the

00:06:01.260 podcast and the next day i was starting and a bunch of people started too and uh that's kind of how it

00:06:06.460 started and what i did to come up with the program was i picked the things the the items that you know

00:06:13.700 is 75 hard now you know eat eat a clean diet uh train twice a day one of them being outside drink

00:06:21.160 a gallon of water uh read 10 pages of personal development and take a progress picture and the

00:06:27.120 reason that i picked these five things is because these five things were all things that i had found

00:06:33.480 over the course of my life when i had made the most progress that i was doing most of these things

00:06:38.300 all right consistently and so i thought and thought and thought and was a student of you know

00:06:45.000 what makes and what's develops mental toughness and discipline and really 75 hard was just me

00:06:51.220 running the play that i thought was going to fix the issue in myself and it just so happened that i

00:06:58.160 said it in public a whole bunch of people started with me yeah so that's kind of where it started

00:07:01.720 but something that you just said you said like the doing the things that you were consistent on that

00:07:06.140 you knew were going to provide a result and a lot of people may not know you know we've been together

00:07:10.520 15 years and i've seen your weight when we started dating you were 330 yeah you were 330 pounds and then

00:07:17.660 you lost a bunch of weight when we went on vacation and then you had gained the weight back to about

00:07:23.780 where were you at three where were you at the second time when you gained weight because you went up

00:07:28.960 and down about i think i got up to like 300 okay and then i worked back down again then you went down

00:07:34.020 and then i went back up to like 350 exactly and then and i stayed there for quite a while right so

00:07:39.060 from what i see that's like you were taking those little lessons like okay well i know this worked

00:07:43.840 the first time i lost weight and then the second time i did i was actually adding this in because i

00:07:48.100 added cardio and it wasn't just weights anymore so that was a component so like you going having those

00:07:53.380 three large scale up and downs the time that i've known you it's like you took pieces and components

00:07:59.300 from each of those lessons that you learned to kind of formulate this program because since you

00:08:05.040 started this in 2019 your weight has not fluctuated at all you know i've continued to get better

00:08:09.640 continue to get better continue to build more muscle get leaner so it's like i just think that's

00:08:14.480 a important point to point out because so many people go up and down and yo-yo dieting and this

00:08:19.300 the way i see it it's like this is what actually got you to stop doing that well yeah 100 because i fixed

00:08:25.220 the problem the problem is not it's not that people don't know what to do it's that people

00:08:29.900 can't do what they know how to do right and that's the problem the problem is you do not have the

00:08:34.200 discipline uh the grit the fortitude the mental perseverance to push through uncomfortable things

00:08:41.600 for a long enough period of time and i i recognize that because here's what would happen like i'd go to

00:08:47.280 dinner with people like let's say mike kunahan right or somebody who's walks around for the most part

00:08:53.480 in pretty fucking good shape all the time and we'd be having dinner and and you know i'd look at the

00:08:59.840 menu and i'd i'd have without any control i'd have to order whatever looked the best for me right and i

00:09:07.700 would go to dinner with these people who were my friends who walked around at a high level and they

00:09:12.560 had discipline they could order a decent meal that was clean and yeah they could have a few drinks but

00:09:18.140 that was never how i was i had to eat exactly what i wanted and then i would drink as much as i

00:09:23.460 wanted because i was telling myself i'm gonna start monday anyway so it doesn't matter so i'm

00:09:29.280 gonna try to get this in now um and then on monday i'll fix it and i that's how i got to be 350 well

00:09:36.360 no and you didn't just tell yourself that you told me that i told you it would be out you know i mean

00:09:39.620 like oh hey let's just eat this and we're gonna start we'll hit it hard tomorrow and we were like

00:09:44.280 okay so then because you and i like people don't like we would go out and drink like three nights a

00:09:48.680 week we would eat our world so when we were quote dieting we would have a cheat day and it would be

00:09:53.360 as much as we could fucking eat till our stomachs hurt yeah we feel like shit until wednesday get

00:09:57.820 our shit together thursday friday saturday then eat like shit again on sunday yeah it was a cyclical

00:10:02.000 thing yeah i don't you know that's it i think that's i just recognized that certain people had

00:10:07.500 the power to make the choice which i lacked yeah i did not have the ability to say no to someone

00:10:14.180 setting a beer in front of my face i did not have the ability to look at a restaurant menu

00:10:19.120 and order what i knew i should be eating because of the commitment i made to myself i lacked that power

00:10:26.920 and i recognized that and and so that's where i i honed in on what the problem actually was and this

00:10:35.000 is the problem with all of you too listening your problem isn't that you don't know what to do

00:10:39.320 okay your problem is is that you can't fucking do it which is what the point of the program is

00:10:44.580 and what this program does is it takes all the components that are basically in every single

00:10:50.220 fucking diet program ever and it forces you to do them over the course of time without fail for a long

00:10:57.560 enough time that it actually changes what's going on in your mind so that you are now aware because

00:11:02.960 that's what really happens on 75 hard it's not it's not that it like rewires your brain it's that

00:11:10.980 it creates awareness to when you're negotiating with yourself and you start to recognize that that

00:11:18.280 negotiation is what's costing you all these things that you actually want in your life and when you

00:11:23.000 can become aware of when you're negotiating and aware of when you're you know compromising and aware

00:11:29.680 of when the bitch voice is winning the battle which for most people that's almost all the time

00:11:34.040 when you could become aware of that now you're a step closer to actually being in charge of your own

00:11:38.780 mental dialogue and making the proper decision and so like i was just where everybody else is i just

00:11:44.440 wasn't aware enough of the mental conversation that was happening in my brain the justification of

00:11:49.960 the bitch voice nobody can tell you know you the shit you need to hear that's going to make you

00:11:56.820 compromise your long-term goals better than you like i know exactly what to tell myself like dude

00:12:02.320 and we all do it we all do it present in those conversations bro we we all do it and this is what

00:12:08.560 the program is designed to fix it's a year-long program people don't understand that you know 75

00:12:13.540 hard is the first phase and then there's three phases after that and you're you're supposed to do

00:12:19.920 this every year you know so in every year that i've done i've gotten better which i'm sure we'll talk

00:12:24.180 about but the point is um i recognize what the real problem is and the reason there's been millions

00:12:30.480 of people who have had success with this is because this actually addresses the real problem the real

00:12:34.700 problem isn't that you don't know that you're supposed to drink water or you don't know that

00:12:38.940 you're supposed to eat less calories uh than you know than what you're burning right you don't know

00:12:44.820 that you're supposed to lift weights you don't know that you're supposed to move your body like we all

00:12:49.580 know those things that's common knowledge but what you don't really understand is that knowing

00:12:54.100 what to do and doing what you know to do are two different skill sets and the skill set that this

00:12:59.760 program targets and the problem that it solves is the ability to adhere to whatever plan that you

00:13:05.600 decide to put in front of you which makes you infinitely powerful yeah so you touched on you know the

00:13:11.580 the old andy let's say the pre-75 hard andy so your mindset from like 2010 to 2016 you know you

00:13:19.860 that's the up and down in weight it's the you know emotion regulation drinking cheat meals i'll start

00:13:26.320 tomorrow mindset so was it just you know a lot of people like the picture that you know showing now

00:13:30.980 if you're watching on youtube so was there like a certain picture or a moment where you're like

00:13:35.360 fuck this i'm done with that or what what made you get to that point of like no it wasn't like that

00:13:42.200 for me i knew i was fuck first of all i was strong all right so i was always the i was always an athlete

00:13:49.100 and i was always very very strong um so i built my my justification upon me being a fat slob uh who had

00:13:58.940 no discipline upon the idea of being strong all right so when you can lay down on a bench and you can

00:14:05.180 rep out 405 pounds for fucking 20 all right you're stronger than most people on the planet

00:14:10.760 all right now all you fucking strong men and power lifters i understand you're strong too

00:14:16.960 there's a lot of strong people okay we don't need to whip out our dicks but i was strong as fuck

00:14:21.560 okay and the the

00:14:25.820 where i had built my identity was on that so i understood that i was fat but i also understood

00:14:32.940 that i was strong so i justified it as okay you know like yeah you own a supplement company you're

00:14:38.580 fat i'm like yeah bitch but i'll fucking lift your house yeah you know you're in a piece of

00:14:42.180 that's what i'm saying so like you know that's how i always justified it which was a weak lie that i

00:14:48.300 was telling myself that that kept me in this place where i was unhappy because dude nobody knows how

00:14:53.300 unhappy i was more than you like how many times like dude remember remember the fucking outfit

00:14:59.400 that i used to wear that what yeah you'd wear your your t-shirt or your big hoodie and then you'd

00:15:05.040 wear your baggy long cargo shorts what and do you tell the people about the shorts so he had these

00:15:12.180 shorts that he would only wear that there was the only pair that he had because he couldn't and i

00:15:16.660 didn't know this when we started dating it's the only pair you could fit in that's right and that's

00:15:20.240 why you would wear those and i would tease because one day when he when we first met i said oh i like

00:15:25.180 your shorts and then you wore them every fucking time i saw you and i was like okay i told you i

00:15:28.940 liked them i didn't mean like you had to wear them every time i thought he was like man like i really

00:15:32.560 i'm glad she likes these i'm gonna keep wearing them i didn't realize they're the only fucking

00:15:35.240 clothes he had to fit in yeah and so as the the shorts would start to tear or get worn out i would

00:15:41.140 i patched them i patched those motherfuckers for like two years and so finally we had to have like a

00:15:45.900 proper burial and move on to a new one pair of shorts that he had which were then camp because

00:15:50.080 those were plaid yeah and then the new ones were camouflage yeah and finally yeah they were getting

00:15:55.440 so thin and worn down the plaid ones that he switched to camo ones and he wore those and i

00:16:00.740 patched those several times and then finally they got to be where you tore them somehow and they could

00:16:06.680 not be mended and then you had to then you started wearing your mfco short or you know your regular

00:16:11.580 workout shorts all the time and that's really all you wore and then we would go out it would be

00:16:16.160 one pair of jeans and your shirt and i remember i would only wear a first form polo because first

00:16:21.820 form made the polos and back then we actually put them on under armor clothes and it was the only

00:16:26.460 thing that like i felt like didn't make me look like fucking fat as shit but i still did yeah but

00:16:31.620 and something that is a little side note or caveat to this is like that i've noticed in your body

00:16:37.100 language over the years i know i've said this a long time ago pulling on the shirt yes so what he

00:16:41.480 would always do is he would wear if he had to wear a t-shirt or even the polos he would consistently

00:16:46.560 pull on them at the bottom and so when you would he would take them off they'd almost be stretched

00:16:51.020 like out a little bit because he kept pulling at it because he felt uncomfortable in them even

00:16:55.700 though they weren't too short or anything like that but do you remember that time we were at my dad's

00:16:59.520 house and we had he had a barbecue and we left early because of how uncomfortable i was yeah we did

00:17:04.940 that we did that more than once yeah that you would be it's just be so uncomfortable and like not

00:17:09.260 feeling good in your skin at all that we would leave places and we wouldn't go on places wouldn't

00:17:12.880 go on vacation you know it's like you said on the show like we went on our first vacation since our

00:17:17.380 honeymoon that was back in february so that was like we've been married almost 11 years now but it's

00:17:21.640 like that was 10 and a half years gone by because just the ups and downs obviously we're just not like

00:17:25.760 super vacationing people either but it's because well that contributed to it yeah yeah but it's just you

00:17:30.540 know him feeling so uncomfortable so when you stop when i've seen you stop pulling on your shirts

00:17:35.320 like because that's like something that you almost did it like habitually where you didn't even know you were

00:17:38.420 doing it i could start to tell that you your emotional state was also improving then because

00:17:43.360 you started feeling more comfortable and actually who you were you know what i mean what you were like

00:17:46.620 presenting outward yeah dude but it wasn't a it wasn't like a picture though it was i was tired of

00:17:52.760 feeling like that yeah i was tired of because remember when i started with 75 hard i had already lost

00:17:58.420 100 pounds okay because i lost i gritted out 100 pound loss just like i had before in my life

00:18:04.000 right you know i i did it the way that we used to always do it where i'd eat clean and then i binge

00:18:09.540 you know and then i'd eat clean and i was just stretching out the eat cleans long enough to where

00:18:14.720 the binge wasn't eating it up right and that first year that i started dieting in 2016 for real where i

00:18:21.080 haven't gone back you know i lost 110 pounds that year right and so then but it was still hard like i still

00:18:28.360 wasn't like cured like it wasn't i was still struggling like i was like i would still go to

00:18:34.440 a restaurant and yeah i could win the battle right i could order the healthy food but it didn't like

00:18:39.400 feel natural um it was forced does that make sense like it was a very difficult decision and that's

00:18:46.800 actually what led me to understanding that this is a mental problem this is not a physical fucking

00:18:52.460 problem right this is a problem that people have to fix in their minds not in their body because i had

00:18:57.640 already kind of fixed it in my body but my mind wasn't fixed yeah you see what i'm saying yeah so

00:19:02.640 so what that's that's sort of what created the motivation for me to take it past the level of

00:19:10.760 just physical to the to the mental and and this is why a lot of people have so much uh difficulty

00:19:17.120 understanding the mental that this is a mental toughness program and not a diet right uh or a

00:19:23.380 challenge it's a program it's a program that you put yourself through to make yourself think about

00:19:29.040 things in a different way than you've thought about them previously in your life and this is also why

00:19:33.840 people who do the program the right way see drastic change and people who don't on day 76 they're going

00:19:41.000 right back to their old habits because they compromise through the whole thing all right and

00:19:45.700 they're pretending because it's a trend that they actually did it and the reality is is if you actually did it

00:19:51.240 you are terrified at the end to make changes because you just recognize how much progress you

00:19:57.040 made so the crazy thing is like it's 75 days but there's like 10 000 battles mental battles bro it's

00:20:04.680 every day in the like yeah multiple a day yeah multiple a day dude that's a super important point

00:20:10.300 man yeah and i think what you said about the mental mental and physical connection that's a big thing

00:20:14.600 people because when people want to lose weight they think just physical i just need to just like we

00:20:18.820 you saw a thing well yeah we're going on vacation let's get in shape we were never got a wedding

00:20:22.580 let's get in shape exactly and yeah it was always dieting for a occasion right instead of like hey

00:20:27.900 i just want to feel like a fucking great and tying in that mental aspect of it i think that changes

00:20:32.860 everything because again it's like you're not x you know you're not just it's like let's say you

00:20:37.360 have a house you put it's fallen down it's like the foundation's crumbling you can't just put

00:20:43.100 fresh paint on it and new siding and call it new the inside the actual the you know literal the

00:20:48.580 foundation is crumbling that's like the mental state of it like you're not fixing what really

00:20:52.840 needs to be fixed first because if you fix the inside the outside will happen as well and i think

00:20:57.540 that's the that's the biggest thing why i love it the program as well because it's all like a mental

00:21:01.100 thing because you know when with sloan's accident i started setting up hard right after it because it's

00:21:05.600 a fucking very hard time and i knew i needed that to snap myself out of it i had i could care less

00:21:10.880 about any sort of results that i would get it was just i needed that mental you know that mental

00:21:15.680 focus and it's so powerful for that yeah dude i think i think the main thing that most people need

00:21:21.980 to recognize is that you're the state of your life on the x on the outside legitimately reflects the

00:21:33.080 state of your mental state and we can fake it like we can we can diet and lose weight for a wedding or

00:21:39.640 an event or or we can be productive uh in business like i was already very successful in business at

00:21:46.900 this time it wasn't the craziest part about it right we're doing great yeah but where would i have been

00:21:50.680 if i figured this out earlier yeah that's where you're gonna touch on that next so so so we can fake

00:21:57.080 it we we can push and we can go through phases and we can like get results but until you really

00:22:03.200 recognize that this is a true mental issue and that the skills and the reason i call them skills

00:22:08.800 is because they are skills they are not traits the skills of discipline the skills of fortitude

00:22:14.340 the skill of mental perseverance the skill of physical perseverance these are things that you

00:22:20.100 must develop and the way you develop things is by pushing through hard things and so when you start

00:22:27.180 to look at it like that and you start to realize that that's the actual problem and that once you fix

00:22:32.720 that problem now you're able to do all of these other things with literal with literal ease right

00:22:39.020 like without you're you now become the person that you always looked at and you thought why do they

00:22:45.580 have these things that i don't why is it easy for them and it's not easy for me oh they have better

00:22:50.260 genetics no they fucking don't they got better habits and they built better skill sets in their own

00:22:55.160 brain all right now if we're going to split the hair on genetics sure some people have better

00:22:59.860 genetics than other people but you motherfuckers tell it yourself that everybody has better

00:23:04.280 genetics than you and it's not fucking true and you know how i know you do that because that's what i

00:23:08.840 used to do yeah so let's talk about the professional aspect of it so 2019 you're building this headquarters

00:23:17.620 here so we're moving headquarters we were moving into our new house we rt syndicate was a year old and

00:23:23.940 we were having um we moved into our house on may 1st and we had 250 people at our house on may 20th

00:23:29.360 for a big party so we were going through all of that um you're running us to doing the podcast um

00:23:34.760 all the other businesses and brands that you work with and consult in so you had a million reasons like

00:23:39.180 to not do this so how did you prioritize that time or how did you move forward with all of these

00:23:44.960 projects interesting that people say 75 hearts a fad and it's been going for five fucking years i know and

00:23:50.640 getting bigger and bigger and bigger i know what other fad has done that a fad is 195 days

00:23:56.200 i think i read yeah i read an article several months ago and it said i said what is the what is the gauge

00:24:02.060 of a fad and i think it was like 195 days and i was like we're kind of stretching that quote fad out

00:24:06.840 then so like how because that's the thing is like when you when people hear this sometimes they're like

00:24:11.640 well i don't that picture bothered me there yeah yeah that was a picture that bothered me yeah so this is

00:24:17.060 that was actually when you met mike kunahan when he uh when we met him in new york for the first time

00:24:21.240 no i met mike before that well that's when i was with you yeah yeah and he yeah came back to st

00:24:26.520 yeah that was i remember that because that was your infamous polo and i had to keep that thing washed

00:24:31.300 every day i think that we had two of them revolving at quality meats in new york so when people are

00:24:37.800 always like well i've got this going on i've got this going on the thing is is that i know you say on

00:24:42.720 the podcast like oh you know you're busy but people don't actually understand what the fuck

00:24:47.100 your days look like because every single morning you get up and you rock for an hour then you cold

00:24:52.340 plunge then you take calls at the house and get some work done before you come in here you come in here

00:24:57.300 you work with all the teams you have meetings you know then you have to get your second workout in

00:25:02.060 and then you record the show then you're recording the show for hours and hours then i'm taking calls

00:25:06.940 again until 10 11 o'clock and that's what people don't get is like you know they don't understand

00:25:10.600 they don't hear it's 6 30 or 7 at night you come home you eat you go in the garage you take calls

00:25:15.420 you have people over for whiteboard sessions to help them or teach them or you have our teams over

00:25:19.560 at night until 10 o'clock at night people don't see that because obviously like no what they think

00:25:24.320 what they think is a lot is way out of line in reality of what it takes exactly they don't understand

00:25:29.160 how much like when you say you're fucking busting your balls that's like you're you're not busting

00:25:34.520 them you're fucking mashing them because you were like yeah go crazy every single day and people

00:25:38.240 don't realize that for years yes years and years decades now yes yeah so like if people can say i

00:25:44.340 don't have time and i get personally offended by that i'm like are you kidding my motherfucking

00:25:48.000 husband works his fucking dick off dude they don't think like that you gotta understand that's not how

00:25:52.740 people think people don't think that way they think they look at people like me for the most part

00:25:58.020 and they say that guy got fucking lucky or that guy had rich parents or that guy fucking hit a trend

00:26:03.240 or he fucked they tell just like you tell yourself why that beer matters or why that food is okay right

00:26:09.660 now or why it's okay to walk around 350 pounds they tell themselves stories about other people's

00:26:15.040 success the same way and so when when i try to tell like the reason i don't talk about this shit is

00:26:21.420 because nobody would believe it anyway like if i told him that you know what people would say

00:26:25.340 look at frisella promoting hustle hustle culture well guess what motherfucker if you want to build a

00:26:31.420 fucking massive motherfucking company in fact a whole bunch of them uh you're gonna have to hustle

00:26:36.040 and it's gonna take all your fucking time and that's that and not everybody wants that i get that not

00:26:41.200 everybody can even do that even if they wanted it but the reality is what people expect

00:26:46.680 success to take and what it actually takes are is the difference between

00:26:53.100 fucking that puddle that you had to step over and the pacific ocean yeah it's totally

00:27:01.400 that's how big the difference is of what it takes versus what people think it takes and this goes

00:27:06.280 for people that have careers this goes for people that are on sports teams this goes for people that

00:27:10.840 own companies and this goes for actually putting work into yourself as well so how do you think that

00:27:16.620 the program has helped you you know parlay that into the business aspect of or actually all aspects

00:27:21.980 of your life you know what i mean because again you're building you know you built this facility

00:27:26.500 moved in here now you've got two massive buildings going and across the street that are almost done

00:27:31.600 and then growing all the other companies so you know how do you feel like you've bettered yourself

00:27:38.380 through the program to give in to like your employees and your teams well first of all i'm going to say

00:27:43.660 this and this is just reality like where we're at now the level that we're playing at now

00:27:49.760 would not it would not be possible for me to play at if i hadn't worked on developing that skill set

00:27:56.720 of mental toughness fortitude grit perseverance self-esteem self-confidence understanding that i

00:28:02.820 build my own confidence understanding that i build my own self-esteem without that understanding that

00:28:07.800 execution what i'm doing at this level is impossible all the people that i compete against at the level

00:28:14.420 that i'm at they're all no they're they might not do the same things i do but these are high performing

00:28:20.560 individuals these are people that are savage as fuck okay they're not pussies they're not talking

00:28:26.640 about balance they're not talking about their fucking journaling and their affirmations and their

00:28:32.120 morning routine and all this shit they're fucking people who wake the fuck up and go in and crush

00:28:38.020 every single day at a high level and that's who i'm competing against and so for me to even be

00:28:42.920 on that level because i dude i'm not so none of these people by the way are some gifted people

00:28:49.100 these are people who earned these skill sets and this this is the problem people tell themselves when

00:28:54.580 they look at people like that that oh they were born with that or they just have that or they just

00:28:59.140 no they built that and that's what people have to accept as truth it's reality and so when we think

00:29:08.220 about you know um the skill sets that we need like to even compete at a high level you have to

00:29:17.860 understand that you could get pretty far being how you are okay just by doing some stuff because most

00:29:25.040 people do nothing but for me to even operate on this level i have to have those skills so now it's not

00:29:31.240 an option i'm sorry it makes me think though because i remember this was probably even a couple of months

00:29:35.480 ago um the race team was going to lamon and you again my point is i'm gonna come back to my point

00:29:40.920 but you you were like man i want to go but do they have a cold tub like they ain't got one i can't go

00:29:46.000 because you got to get your shit done and i think me looking at you being with you every single day i

00:29:50.980 see you what i get is you're you're prioritizing yourself always and like it's you have to be

00:29:56.660 selfish to be selfless you can't you can't accomplish any other stuff you can't make those calls and like

00:30:00.700 i've seen it and we talk about it because you know we go through your schedules like bro i gotta get

00:30:04.360 my workouts done i gotta get this done and then anything else is extra that's yeah you know and i

00:30:09.160 think that's a really important part uh and i think that's something that people misunderstand when it

00:30:13.640 comes to like prioritizing yeah they look at it as an addition to their day instead of the day being

00:30:18.880 the addition to their personal development yeah and that's a different kind of thing and that's

00:30:22.900 accurate too bro i take my ruck everywhere i fucking operate on 75 hard when i travel anywhere ask

00:30:28.660 anybody who's around me i'll there'll be a party going on i'll be like peace i gotta do my outdoor

00:30:33.740 workout it is what it is um and that's a mass that's a massive point you know you have to put it

00:30:40.100 at the front but how has it changed my business has fucking changed everything it's taken it's taken

00:30:45.120 you know we went from a fucking you know good size small company to knocking on the door of one of

00:30:52.820 the you know bigger most more popular brands out right now yeah at any level so that's that's where

00:31:00.840 it takes you at level it didn't level me up one level it didn't level me up two levels it level

00:31:05.000 me up fucking thousand levels yeah so those you guys watching on youtube there's um or i'm sorry

00:31:10.220 if you listen to audio there's a picture showing right now and it's andy at uh first form summer

00:31:14.860 smash first one yeah first one and it's just crazy to see this picture compared to like to see you

00:31:20.580 now because you're on stage with the with the shorts on with the polo on and you got a whole

00:31:26.640 beer in your hand holding it up and it's just it's crazy to think about that because like you know when

00:31:31.320 you're around someone all the time you kind of forget those things like sometimes andy and i will

00:31:34.440 text pictures back and forth each other like from the old days and we're like damn we looked bad

00:31:38.440 because like we were drinking you could tell we had like that drinking face like that bloated face

00:31:41.920 dude that's embarrassing to look at like yeah like those people are

00:31:46.300 i don't know that's that's just embarrassing yeah well and i think you know you're talking about

00:31:53.900 performing better here but i think almost nearly everybody under this roof has completed 75 hard

00:31:59.100 at least one time and i know there's a lot of people in the uh sunny of hard the official like

00:32:04.160 facebook community that we have that and people that i i know as well they get actually their whole

00:32:08.600 teams on board like they make it a whole team culture building exercise it should be a prerequisite

00:32:13.740 for fucking hiring anybody it is because that's the thing is the the people that i know that have

00:32:18.340 done that that have you know had their team sign up and they'll put some like prize on it or something

00:32:23.260 like that or you know everybody that completes it or whatever they just say like they cannot believe

00:32:28.240 the level of productivity that their companies have now because everybody now raised their standards

00:32:32.760 and them doing it together that struggle helped you know build their culture stronger the people

00:32:37.640 are performing better the employee the employer is happier which makes the employees happier so it's

00:32:43.300 just people don't realize like the trickle down effect is like you say you know you have to be

00:32:46.300 selfish before you're selfish or selfless but that's exactly what it boils down to it's like when you

00:32:50.960 take care of yourself you're going to be way better for everybody else and that's like the you know

00:32:54.480 that's a wonderful obviously byproduct of that i couldn't do this without that yeah we wouldn't exist

00:32:59.900 how many times i know you've you've lived this lifestyle since 2019 consistently you've done

00:33:06.480 75 hard countless times you've done the live hard program every year so i i've only completed it

00:33:13.460 two out of the out of the five years there was i mean live hard programs hard to complete yeah i i oh

00:33:19.820 that's right yeah yeah so you've lived this so that's the thing is people don't realize because

00:33:23.820 i had surgery one year yes um we had something else now you say that this is the fifth year

00:33:29.760 so two two of the four years i did it in two of the four years i didn't do it yeah but that's the

00:33:35.580 thing and then this year i'm going to do it people don't realize like you said in the beginning of

00:33:38.500 the show it's like this is like meant to be done every year because it's not like one thing where

00:33:42.500 you don't change your oil in your car one time and it's good to go for the rest of the lifetime of

00:33:46.560 that car yeah it's something you do every 3 000 miles or whatever to maintain it and that's what

00:33:51.800 that's why it's a program exactly so dive into those phases a little bit that's the quote

00:33:55.960 maintenance on the car if you will so kind of explain those just a little bit more kind of i

00:34:00.640 know you said as far as the live hard program but the phases those are kind of like you're fine

00:34:04.960 tuning and tweaking yeah so so people have to understand like it's set up and structured

00:34:11.060 intentionally for intentional reasons and i have the new book coming out um the book on mental

00:34:17.820 toughness that comes out i think this year um you would know better than me yeah uh but

00:34:25.060 that book explains the phases and the psychology of the phases in detail as well as you know i think

00:34:33.460 a bunch of you know it's a shit ton of other content like it's an actual book it's not just

00:34:38.980 the book of the program it's amazing yeah it's so good so it breaks down all the different aspects

00:34:43.880 of mental toughness um why it's necessary how you develop it and then it gives you the full

00:34:49.200 psychology of the program in the second part of the book but uh basically it works like this 75 hard

00:34:55.800 is the first 75 days this is the this is where you're going to do 75 hard um it's going to be

00:35:02.140 extremely difficult you're going to be extremely sore uh but if you do it it's going to change a lot

00:35:07.640 in your life and then you have to realize like emily just said that these skill sets the skill

00:35:14.240 sets that encompass what we call mental toughness uh discipline grit fortitude perseverance self-esteem

00:35:21.080 self-confidence etc these are skill sets that you are either adding to or subtracting from every single

00:35:29.620 day by your actions all right so these are perishable skills if you want to think of them like that

00:35:35.460 like for example if you shoot pistols and you don't shoot regularly you start to shoot like shit

00:35:42.140 uh those of you that play golf if you play golf and you hit balls every single day your swing and

00:35:47.880 everything stays in balance and you can hit the golf ball pretty good but take a year off take 30 days

00:35:52.780 off take 60 days off and then see what happens your skill sets when it comes to mental toughness are no

00:35:58.620 different all right and that's why we have extra phases within the year and this is why they're

00:36:04.820 spaced out as well which i'll get to in a second so after 75 hard which i call the boot camp of the

00:36:10.700 program and this is where most people know it right there's three phases there's phase one phase two and

00:36:17.720 phase three all right got real creative on the names here phase one is 75 hard plus some additional tasks

00:36:27.160 okay um and these additional tasks are designed to make you more uncomfortable and add more to the

00:36:33.900 program and a lot of people me included i like to do phase one immediately on day 76 and so i end up

00:36:41.140 running uh you know what is that 105 days straight on the program and what you're doing is once you

00:36:47.260 complete 75 hard now you're adding in these other tasks that make it even harder and it's a 30 day

00:36:53.180 it's 30 days all right so that's phase one phase two is the exact same tasks that are in the original

00:37:02.060 75 hard without the extra tasks of phase one phase two there must be a 30 day break at minimum between

00:37:10.380 the end of phase one and the beginning of phase two and a lot of people are like why can't you just run

00:37:15.560 them consecutively a couple reasons number one i make the motherfucking rules of my own program

00:37:19.920 all right number two you have to remember what it's like to not be on the program because a program

00:37:26.300 actually isn't any good if it's actually just the program making you strong and making you make the

00:37:31.400 decisions you have to be able to operate outside the guidelines of the program and that 30 day break

00:37:38.280 shows you where you are do you go right back to your old habits do you start back with your laziness

00:37:44.300 do you start back with your justifying and what most people find is that phase two is the hardest

00:37:50.260 phase of the program even though it's 30 days even though it's something that they did for 75 days

00:37:55.760 already because it follows this break of you be going back to reality all right so a 30 day break

00:38:02.580 and a lot of people don't do 30 days they do 60 days 90 days which makes phase two exponentially harder

00:38:07.600 if you have to do it the more you wait the harder it is all right and so then phase two basically is a

00:38:15.660 big slap in the face of you showing you how off track you actually are and how much work you still

00:38:22.260 have to do and uh and then we have phase three and phase three is uh is the hardest phase um when i

00:38:29.260 fail live hard the two years i failed it i failed it on phase three because it's a lot of work and

00:38:34.000 basically for 30 days you're dedicating your entire life to the fucking program because of the amount

00:38:39.020 of shit that it takes uh you have to be really fucking fine-tuned to finish that part of it but

00:38:43.640 phase three is to be done uh the 30 days prior to the initial start date of 75 hard the year before

00:38:51.800 all right so you begin the year with 75 hard you end the year with phase three and then in between

00:38:58.180 there's two phases that you can do at any point in time and the reason this is all spread out over a

00:39:02.920 year and it's less than half of your year that you're doing this um is because these are perishable

00:39:08.720 skills and just like you know hitting a golf ball or taking a shower every day it's necessary to

00:39:15.540 become aware that your discipline your grit your fortitude your perseverance your mental toughness

00:39:20.900 your your confidence your self-esteem are all constantly moving up and down in the amounts that

00:39:27.380 you have them they don't just go to the top and fucking stay there when you go back to being a

00:39:33.360 fat lazy fuck that's not what what it happens what happens is um your what actually happens is is that

00:39:40.140 your discipline lowers and then you get fat right so when we're talking about how this is all laid out

00:39:46.840 um you know it's a very effective program which is why it's not a challenge and it's not a fad and

00:39:53.000 it's not a fucking trend it actually has been growing and uh for five years now so yeah so i

00:39:59.620 want to get into some real my favorite topics with 75 hard is let's start with 2021 you had full

00:40:06.760 shoulder surgery like it wasn't just like a little tweak you had basically not tore everything every

00:40:11.740 single thing like the worst surgery where i remember texting your surgeon about you know what was going on

00:40:17.940 he said he goes he goes it is the worst surgery you can have and i he he purposely told us that it

00:40:24.160 was not as bad as it's going to be because he knew you would not want to have the surgery because

00:40:27.360 it was such a fucking brutal terrible it's like as everybody didn't he said it was like as bad as

00:40:32.160 having a hip replacement or worse i can't remember exactly i don't know i don't have never had a hip

00:40:36.360 replacement but i'll tell you this it was fucking horrible yeah so let's talk about where you're

00:40:41.460 talking about the second day when i was home yes i had you call him and i said bro you definitely

00:40:45.680 fucked up my shoulder well because the nerve block went off bro it was so fucking it was like pain

00:40:50.860 pills yeah so i don't take pain pills right so like so like he and and my surgeon he told me he's

00:40:57.540 like hey man you know uh you need you need to take these pain pills i know you don't want to take

00:41:01.240 them fucking take them and of course you know i'm like i'm not fucking taking those and the nerve

00:41:06.420 block vagina the shit the shit fucking wore off bro i thought i was gonna die you were here and then

00:41:11.640 it wore off no we went home came home i got i went home it was 11 o'clock in the morning yeah

00:41:16.660 because you got you got done with the surgery you came back up here we did cardio yeah that's what

00:41:20.520 i remember the next day the next day is when i went home early because the nerve block wears off for

00:41:25.180 like 24 hours i think yeah yeah that's gonna say so like during this recovery you and i spoke so many

00:41:30.140 times about how you know pivotal 75 hard was in your recovery because i remember saying you know like

00:41:36.200 because again i picked you up from the surgery center like brought you home and we stopped here

00:41:41.240 so you could get an outdoor workout in because you were like i'm not gonna i'm gonna still do this

00:41:45.120 i gotta get my shit done so you literally woke up from anesthesia 30 minutes later out doing your walk

00:41:51.140 yeah and during you know your recovery you were always active as much as you could be

00:41:57.320 and i remember us both saying and i remember telling you like it was just seeing your change of

00:42:04.180 if that were 2014 andy having shoulder surgery we talked about how you would have just been on the

00:42:11.520 couch like i'm recovering i would have been back to 350 let's do this because like yeah i'm just

00:42:15.300 recovering this was a completely different andy that i did not know but it's because center of hard

00:42:22.060 you had like instilled that discipline within yourself and had strengthened it so long already

00:42:26.140 through those few years of the program had already been um in existence so like how do you

00:42:30.840 attribute center of hard to the recovery process because do you think it helped like i know it

00:42:35.000 helped your mental state to you know because it was a fucking long road to recovery it's worse than

00:42:39.840 that yeah first of all people the the day i tore my shoulder i was in the best physical shape i'd ever

00:42:48.260 been in my entire life by a lot i was i was at i was exactly where i was wanted to be all those times

00:42:55.800 all those years all that time i was fat and felt uncomfortable and you know was miserable and wearing

00:43:03.460 the same clothes and turning down parties and turning down beach vacations and being embarrassed

00:43:09.520 of how i looked i was finally at that point where i was like dude this is exactly where i wanted to be

00:43:17.020 and if you remember i had just finished 75 hard like three days prior um because we had an eight

00:43:23.320 week challenge going on at first form and i did 75 hard uh and it happened to end like right at the

00:43:30.260 same day and then we went to that trip i'll never forget it yeah like i like i was i just told emily

00:43:36.000 yesterday i'm like dude i because i was there when you when it fucking happened yeah like i i still have

00:43:41.660 the like a video recurring in my fucking head when like the the fucking second it popped yeah i can't

00:43:47.560 get it out of my brain yeah well that's because it sounded like fucking i don't know what the

00:43:52.380 fuck that was sound was but i don't want to hear it again no it was horrible but anyhow so there was

00:43:57.860 that right so i fucking was at the best place i'd ever been in my life and then i blast i tore my

00:44:04.940 shoulder to the point where i couldn't lift my arm over my head um and at that time there was masking

00:44:13.220 going on and you guys all know how i feel about my masks and i'm not doing it that's the other

00:44:20.560 episode yes yeah so so none of the places would do an mri or get me going on surgery unless i was

00:44:29.260 doing the mask and wouldn't do it so i finally found a guy who i happen to know my whole life

00:44:35.740 who's a tremendous surgeon who's like yeah i'll do it you know fuck these people and i'm like all right

00:44:41.120 cool but that took till december it was so there was three months here okay so now remember during

00:44:46.620 that three months by the way i'm watching my physique deteriorate and there's nothing i can do

00:44:52.880 about it i'm eating clean i'm working out i'm i'm i'm training one half my body i'm training legs

00:44:59.900 you know i'm doing all the things i can do but dude like where i was at that level physically

00:45:05.680 cannot be i was at pinnacle p it would be like saying a a guy who plays nfl and he's an all pro

00:45:14.440 player you know you can maintain most of that by just you know fucking training your leg like dude

00:45:20.420 it was a complete mental fuck job watching myself deteriorate after all that work i put in bro and all

00:45:30.280 that time i spent trying to fix this and um in hindsight you know i'm i mean i'm through it now

00:45:39.300 i i say in the last it took it took me 18 19 months to truly get through the pain and recover

00:45:46.900 so that's almost two years of not training and i'm still not all the way back physically to where

00:45:52.660 i was before like still see i think that's a mental fuck and we talk about this though i think i think

00:45:57.180 that's still just mental bro because i'd say i know you i mean i'm close listen i'm close but i'm

00:46:02.300 not i'm not there you're very very i mean yeah i think you're there i know no i'm not i honey says

00:46:07.480 i'm not too so um he thinks i'm about 10 off and i agree with that assessment but the point is is that

00:46:15.300 like dude that's a big mental fuck job and had that been me before back in 2011 or 8 or 10 or whatever

00:46:24.540 i would have i would have for sure i would have sat on the couch i would have ate shitty i would

00:46:30.940 order pizzas i would have drank and i would have been 350 in fucking three months and i would have

00:46:35.720 said i'll get this off i will get this all off when i heal when i can start training again and instead

00:46:40.600 of saying oh i'll start monday it would have been i'll start in six months when i'm healthy right and

00:46:45.380 and it would have created a mountain that in my age might have been insurmountable yeah right because

00:46:50.660 it's not like i'm like super young anymore right like my body i'm physically young but i mean dude

00:46:55.040 i'm 44 years old like this shit is not as the same as it was when i was 24 right you know so like

00:47:00.560 that that truly i believe me doing that work ahead of that injury i think it saved my whole fucking

00:47:09.660 life i think it did too like dj go back to that picture that was on before this one so this picture

00:47:14.180 if you guys are uh on youtube so this was when you were getting out of surgery you had done your

00:47:20.360 eight-week challenge you had the best shape of your life and this is when you started after you

00:47:24.400 were pretty well healed but i remember us taking this picture and we were still like happy because

00:47:30.580 you still you could still see some abs and everything so this is just you doing literally

00:47:34.360 just that's just me doing two outdoor or you know i did two cardios a day so i did on the days on

00:47:40.560 i would do my legs every three days and then i would do like one arm uh the shit i could do with

00:47:47.160 one arm yeah and then i did on most of the days i did two cardios so and at that time i wasn't

00:47:53.360 rucking i was just doing you yeah but it's still it's like you look at i i look at that as where

00:47:58.640 you're at when you ended the eight-week challenge in 75 hard and then to this one when you started

00:48:02.860 again it's like yes there's a difference or the thing is is that i know it's a massive difference yes

00:48:07.000 but it's like we got to throw the picture in there of what we've got it yeah because you guys

00:48:10.840 didn't put it up but what we but the thing is that i think of this to be your starting point

00:48:15.800 whereas if it were years ago prior to study of hard this it would be an after photo of a contest

00:48:21.440 instead of actually like or you know or a challenge or for the eight-week thing so um okay so more recent

00:48:28.100 events is which you spoke about so much about which i know everybody is so happy to do because i even

00:48:34.820 get dms from people about you sharing your experience of getting yourself off alexa pro

00:48:39.860 after being on it for 11 years because people don't realize the damage that it does they don't

00:48:45.240 realize it while they're in it it's when they get off of it is when it's bad so there were tons of

00:48:51.800 you know ups and downs through that that was a insanely hard year dude listen i'm gonna be real

00:48:58.060 this is just real talk and people don't realize this because they see the financial wins

00:49:02.580 those financial wins that were work that i did 10 years ago five years ago okay but i'm gonna be

00:49:09.140 real september 15th to 2021 till maybe june 1st of this year was probably the hardest fucking time

00:49:19.020 i've ever had in my life for a whole bunch of reasons because a whole bunch of shit hit me all at

00:49:24.780 once it started with that motherfucking injury and it went into you know the the scaling of the company

00:49:31.160 it went into uh me getting off lexapro um and there was a number of other things that happened

00:49:37.940 during that time that were like mentally very fucking destructive and hard to get through

00:49:44.840 and the reason i i decided to to end lexapro literally was because i was at a point with dj and

00:49:53.640 i doing cti so much i was starting to realize how predatory the pharmaceutical industry was because

00:49:59.920 before that i never really thought about it i never really thought about how predatory our entire system

00:50:06.980 is towards personal excellence i just thought you know okay most people are just you know regular

00:50:14.140 people and then there's higher people than that that are above average then there's great people and

00:50:18.980 i wanted to be a great person i wanted to be great in everything that i do i'm a competitive person

00:50:23.980 you guys don't realize this and i don't give a fuck what you spiritual guides have to say on the

00:50:28.440 internet i'm a competitive motherfucker if you're friends with me i'm competing with you i want to do

00:50:33.140 better than you i want to be more ripped than you i want to make more money than you i want to

00:50:36.960 fucking look more handsome than you i want to kick more ass than you but that doesn't mean i don't

00:50:40.860 want that for you yeah i want you to win i want you to win too because when you fucking win

00:50:44.540 it drives me to win right okay this is this is actually why my friends are such good friends

00:50:49.460 like my friends that i talk to on a regular basis honey ed hermosi like these dudes are hustlers they

00:50:55.060 go out and fucking crush they my brother you know the people i surround myself with it's not that i

00:51:01.340 want them to lose but i still want to beat them right okay and this is how i'm fucking wired and so

00:51:05.860 for me having to sit on the sidelines and watch all this shit deteriorate away and watch my physical

00:51:12.080 which i had never been physically in that kind of shape before bro like i'm i'm a fat like my body

00:51:19.040 is a natural endomorphic type physique like i'm a fat dude by by nature i'm strong and i'm athletic but

00:51:25.020 i'm chubby and you know when they say husky jeans motherfucker i wore all the husky jeans okay like

00:51:30.980 i'm a husky dude and you know the thing is is i had gotten myself to this point where i i i was like

00:51:39.360 dude i'm i'm i'm unfuck with a bull okay like i'm killing it in all these areas and then that injury

00:51:45.420 happened i think the injury happened to fucking humble me um because in hindsight and i'll explain

00:51:50.460 this in a minute this whole time which how many months was that what was that fucking september 21

00:51:58.200 all the way till june of 23 that no oh yeah june of 23 it's longer than that it's a it's a year and

00:52:05.080 it's almost two years um that whole time was that was a fucking test just like i talk about test days

00:52:13.520 on ms ceo project just that was a life test that i fucking passed okay and the reason i decided to

00:52:20.440 get off and i'm happy about that like it's a big fucking win for me the reason it's probably the

00:52:26.060 biggest win i've ever had in my life real talk was getting off like no just getting through that

00:52:30.320 period of time like dude it almost killed me a hundred times like you have no even you don't

00:52:34.180 know it was bad like you don't even know so i decided at that point in july to stop taking

00:52:42.760 lexapro which was july of 22 because i had become aware of all the things that we were talking about

00:52:48.780 on the show and i'm like fuck these motherfuckers are fucking poisoning my brain you know and man i

00:52:54.400 didn't even know how bad they were poisoning it until i stopped taking that shit yeah and i started

00:52:57.840 having like real withdrawals like i had someone message me the other day they're like i've been off

00:53:01.700 for seven days i'm like and she's like i can't take it and i'm like well you don't know what

00:53:07.520 you're in for because it fucking gets way worse and that's just real shit like you better be

00:53:11.600 fucking prepared and this is why i don't recommend people just stop taking it in the first 70 80 days

00:53:17.420 i was suicidal legitimately by the hour like i was fighting the withdrawals were so fucking bad

00:53:25.600 when i say anxiety when i say paranoia when i say depression you guys and you think of like

00:53:35.200 the worst you've ever felt in your life that's how i felt for 80 days straight and the only way i got

00:53:43.200 through that was by having the structure of the program real shit because i did 75 hard those first

00:53:48.920 75 days um of when i stopped and i think that's the only way i made it through it well and i remember

00:53:54.600 there are days that your tasks would be the only thing you could you would yeah that was it because

00:53:58.880 i got them done bro and i i'm getting like kind of tears i'm like thinking about that time because

00:54:03.100 it was so so bad yeah and and it was you know people don't understand there's physical symptoms that come

00:54:09.460 from the removal of these drugs and this is why you unless you're mentally prepared to deal with it

00:54:15.400 you should not just quit okay you need to build your mental fortitude ahead of time and understand what

00:54:21.420 the fuck you're going to do and have a plan to push through it have a support system i was just

00:54:26.000 gonna say like if you live alone you should be doing you should be tuning your mental your fucking

00:54:30.700 brain up for a year before you decide to fucking just quit it okay because you're gonna go through

00:54:36.540 some of the worst shit that you're ever gonna go through and there's gonna be nothing you can do

00:54:39.820 about it i lost my balance i had brain zaps i had brain fog i had suicidal fucking fantasies and

00:54:47.080 anybody who suffered with depression you know what i'm talking about where you get a suicidal thought

00:54:51.200 in your brain and it's obsessive you cannot stop thinking about it and these things were at the

00:54:57.260 highest possible level that i've ever experienced during this time and then after the first 80 days

00:55:05.320 it did get better it got better but it got better slow and and i think i think up until

00:55:12.540 about a year of being off of it which was just recently i was still having withdrawals because

00:55:20.660 i would still have these ups and downs and these ups and downs and i think within the last 30 to 60

00:55:25.500 days is really when i started feeling like myself again where i wasn't having this crazy anxiety and

00:55:31.180 that's also why that's also a big reason why i sort of withdrew from from my content and a lot of shit

00:55:37.260 and like i just didn't feel good dude you know i didn't feel like the bad motherfucker that i had

00:55:42.280 been in the past and the thing that i recognized about being on lexapro like this is something that

00:55:47.040 like people like you don't realize this till you come off of it but it actually makes you immune

00:55:55.300 to the good things in life too so it numbs you from the bad shit but it also makes you not care about

00:56:01.360 the good shit so you don't really ever have any real emotions and one of the hardest things was like

00:56:06.200 getting used to having emotions again like i didn't i hadn't had them for 11 years yeah so

00:56:11.060 like i noticed that at summer smash i think that was the first example because i've been with you

00:56:14.480 for four years yeah that was the first time where i was seeing like genuine raw emotion come through

00:56:20.480 that yeah i have not seen in situations yeah well that's because they i was taking their bullshit yeah

00:56:25.180 right and like their bullshit's real good at making people not give a fuck about anything so you

00:56:29.780 don't really care that they're taking all your money or propagating you to be a fat lazy piece of

00:56:34.580 shit or you know uh you know dividing everybody all the stuff we talk about on ctis every day right

00:56:40.580 um you don't notice it because you don't fucking care so you know i i personally my personal opinion

00:56:47.100 you know obviously there's no scientific evidence to this and that i'm aware of there probably is but

00:56:53.160 i don't know it um is that they give i think they give people i think the reason they're so quick to

00:56:59.260 put people on that shit is explicitly for control of society i think it's a mind control drug i think

00:57:05.880 they put you on the drug and i think they understand that you're not going to have the lows but you're

00:57:10.120 also not going to have the highs so you care a lot less about everything and you're willing to accept

00:57:14.500 what they do to the population which is make you struggle financially make you struggle physically

00:57:20.460 with your health intentionally poison you with chemicals and things and water in the air

00:57:24.760 like in plastic like all these things that they do to people you don't give a fuck about when you

00:57:30.500 don't have any emotion right so like you know and dude the other thing that like how i was prescribed

00:57:36.900 this was so flippant and so like it was this i was in the office and my doctor was like he's like how

00:57:46.960 are you feeling and i'm like well i'm i don't know i'm fucking feel like shit and he's like well it's

00:57:52.260 because you got that business and i and i'm like well yeah he's like you should sell that business i'm

00:57:56.540 like well i'm not selling the business and he's like well you should just let me put you on this

00:58:02.120 pill dude it'll make you feel better and like i was like all right i fucking started taking it

00:58:07.000 and that's how i got where there was no because that back then you you would be able to trust a

00:58:11.300 physician well look dude i don't think that i don't think that i don't blame him i just think

00:58:16.120 that's the way it is no because you that's what i'm saying that's the medical system yeah these

00:58:21.320 doctors don't even know what the fuck they're doing they don't even realize they're they're

00:58:24.560 taught they're taught in an education system that is funded by fucking big pharma right they don't

00:58:29.820 know what the fuck they're doing that's just what you do when you're a doctor the studies they read

00:58:33.040 right exactly well that's what i'm saying but 11 years ago we didn't you know there's been so much

00:58:36.980 that came out since covid and everything where we're all more of like we're like let me look

00:58:41.720 yeah we're maybe we're skeptical of that back then 11 years ago if your doctor you would naturally

00:58:46.960 assume that they knew why they were doing this they had your best interest at heart not that hey

00:58:52.100 take this pill and i know for sure listen this is not shit talking because my doctor at that time

00:58:57.760 he's not my doctor anymore was one of my best friend's dads right and he's still a fucking great

00:59:02.100 friend of mine and i still know that he would like if i called this dude i said hey man i need

00:59:06.100 bury a fucking body motherfucker would show up right he didn't do it to hurt me right it's just

00:59:10.540 what they do you know but back to your emotions i think that's one thing that i noticed the most too

00:59:16.160 is like i remember you even saying we were out the farm right in the side by side and you looked at me

00:59:21.020 and you're like i don't know why i feel like this because you weren't used to having like emotions and

00:59:25.180 you were showing emotion again but as your wife what was what was cool for me to see is that you

00:59:31.020 were way more engaged in what was happening around you it wasn't just like you know not that you were

00:59:37.220 like zoned out before but like you actually could tell you were like really listening to every single

00:59:40.520 person that was around and you were way more engaged at events that was that was hard though yeah like

00:59:45.520 that shit's hard like when you don't have any emotions for fucking a decade and all of a sudden

00:59:50.400 you're like listening to people like dude like for real this is this just this is real shit okay

00:59:55.640 um people come up to me all the time and and like i'm somewhat well known like i get when i go in

01:00:02.940 public people recognize me and it's not like a athlete recognize like when you see an athlete

01:00:09.480 people want to get a picture with the athlete right or you see like the rock you're like oh i saw the

01:00:13.300 rock i took a picture with him with me it's different because of the nature of my content all right so

01:00:17.960 with me because i put out personal development so long at a high level that there's lots of people

01:00:24.980 out here who have actually benefited from that content and when they see me they want to tell

01:00:29.580 me their story when they tell me their story it's always a good story but to get to the good part they

01:00:34.640 got to tell you the worst part all right and the worst part is you know i had a fucking gun in my mouth

01:00:39.860 or my fucking wife you know uh died of cancer or my husband you know it's always these severe

01:00:49.800 like hardship stories and they're telling you these stories but they're telling you these stories

01:00:55.940 so that they can tell you how they overcame these stories and which i appreciate right but like dude

01:01:01.180 let me tell you something like when you stand in a meet and greet line for nine fucking hours

01:01:05.920 and you hear a thousand fucking stories like that bro it will crush your soul people don't understand

01:01:12.340 that and so when i was on the fucking medicine when i was on the pills i was able to meet these

01:01:18.260 people and hear their story and it didn't really fuck with me too bad because like i didn't want

01:01:21.760 feeling nothing i was like no it wasn't like i was detached but i was detached like i was like

01:01:27.340 i was like man that's really that's that's horrible like like that i didn't feel it okay

01:01:32.880 but what i've noticed now and this is also why i can't do a lot of these meet and greet type things

01:01:38.820 anymore is that like dude the shit really affects me so like when someone is fucking standing in

01:01:43.560 front of me or telling me one of these stories now it like fucks me up right and that's one of the

01:01:47.840 biggest things that that i realized and a lot of people say oh that's a great thing yeah it is

01:01:52.740 except for when you have to do it a thousand times in a row yeah it was just two or three yeah it's

01:01:57.060 carrying a heavy no dude listen dude people don't understand and this is not disrespectful because

01:02:02.540 i'm very appreciative of of the fan base and the following i fucking dude this is not disrespect

01:02:09.340 but what's happening to me in those times is i'm getting every single person's worth worst

01:02:16.380 fucking story emotionally dumped on me and and in a you know in a you know

01:02:21.900 in a you know an action of gratitude right and so like but that shit still fucks you up and so

01:02:32.560 you know and that happens to me every day it happens to me in my dms it happens to me in my

01:02:38.760 conversations with people like phone calls i can't escape it right like and it's really

01:02:42.760 fucking difficult to manage and people think you know because i kind of withdraw myself from a lot

01:02:47.940 of situations dude i'm just protecting my fucking energy yeah like i can't fucking be dumped on like

01:02:53.280 that and operate my life like i'm not a fucking professional dumpster you know what i'm saying

01:02:57.720 i'm sorry you're having a problem i've dedicated a big part of my life to giving free content to help

01:03:02.960 you help yourself right that's what it comes down to yeah and so um i don't know where i was going

01:03:09.820 with that but the point is is that like i started feeling those things and feeling things that i

01:03:16.320 hadn't felt in so many years made me realize how bad that shit was for me you know what i'm saying

01:03:20.860 yeah because i i know people personally that are on they are on the quarter of the amount of dose

01:03:26.120 that you were on and they try they've tried to get off several times like i can't deal with the

01:03:30.400 withdrawals like and they said like i don't know how that how the fuck you did this and i was like

01:03:33.700 and i tell them like it's through the discipline you've got to have a structure to it and i think

01:03:37.060 i just decided i was fucking done yeah exactly done yeah and i know there's people that you and

01:03:41.960 i both know mutually that have followed your lead on that to get off of that and they feel they say

01:03:46.640 the same thing it's like even though they were on a very very low dose they're like i wanted to kill

01:03:51.580 myself every day like even just the the smallest amount you can get it's what this drug is doing

01:03:56.500 people don't understand that dude yeah like because victimization has become popular in society

01:04:03.100 and when people you know now and unfortunately you know people talking about killing themselves

01:04:08.220 in public has become almost like a virtue signal all right um

01:04:12.960 people i think a lot of people are desensitized to the real feelings of that like what we're really

01:04:22.380 talking about like when you're talking about suicidal thoughts you're not you're not there yet bro until

01:04:29.240 you're planning it and you're like how do i do this with nobody finding out or how do i do this

01:04:33.880 with minimal disruption or how do i do this so emily doesn't have to clean up my brains on the

01:04:38.380 fucking floor like that's when you start to fucking that's when you're in that place okay when you when

01:04:44.380 you're having when when your pistol is in your nightstand and all you can think about is pulling

01:04:49.620 it out of your nightstand and fucking blowing your brains out every single fucking other minute

01:04:54.080 you're starting to have and it doesn't sound bad like it doesn't sound like oh i'm scared of this

01:04:59.340 it sounds like damn dude i just kind of want to do this like it's a it's a different thing and like

01:05:05.160 because society has become so soft and i'm not sitting here saying you're valid or not valid or i don't

01:05:11.180 give a fuck what i'm saying is victim culture has become this thing on social media where everybody

01:05:16.540 who's having a hard time talks about wanting to end their life or i i almost wanted to kill myself

01:05:24.280 one time dude people shouldn't say those things unless it's actually true because it waters down

01:05:31.040 and you can't identify who's actually struggling anymore yeah and so there's levels to like

01:05:37.260 life and sometimes life is just fucking hard but when i explain suicidal fantasies and tendencies

01:05:45.300 that's what i'm talking about but what about the glamorization of pharmaceuticals because that's

01:05:50.740 kind of i feel like that's also a huge crutch in society it's not just the victimhood but it's the

01:05:56.000 glamorization of the wine mom brunchers and hey let's pop a xanax and go to this and it's like it's

01:06:01.820 you know and i've seen designers come out with you know um like adderall like fancy rhinestone adderall

01:06:08.940 yeah it becomes a part of their identity yeah and like these you know wine i was like oh i gotta i'm

01:06:12.760 taking kids are out of summer you know and be taking a xanax bar every day it's like they make

01:06:17.240 it they try to make it trendy well other drugs are like that too i mean other people you know they do

01:06:22.440 that with weed you know they make a part of their identity you do it with alcohol you do it right i

01:06:26.980 know but i'm i've done those pharmaceutical aspect of it though that's what i think about you know what i

01:06:30.980 mean it's like it's just it's just it's tribe behavior yeah it's just i don't know i just it's

01:06:35.660 dangerous it is yeah yeah yeah so okay so let's talk about you being you say you're chubby you're

01:06:42.860 naturally husky fat so let's talk about that big bone uh well i mean that's that's no big bone i

01:06:50.860 mean that's that was like an old that was like when we were young like that was like what people said

01:06:54.520 big bone you're not fat you're just big bone right right yeah and i like when they do the x-rays

01:06:58.660 and everybody's bones are like the same size okay so what i want to talk about though is that i love

01:07:03.900 so i have my little documentation here so your cardiologist is fucking fantastic he's absolutely

01:07:10.780 amazing just love him yes and so you had you know you we we both regularly get our labs done get our

01:07:17.080 blood work done and i'm not going to do but i have a 13 page analysis here from your labs but the cool

01:07:23.300 thing about this is this happened um very beginning of the year when we had our last labs done that we

01:07:29.000 discovered this is that you know and you've always joked around like oh i got the fat gene i got

01:07:33.880 the fat gene you know just like what people say like the husky the big bone but i actually had

01:07:38.780 it you actually no you did not i had all of them you did not have a fat gene you actually tested to

01:07:44.460 have every fat gene yeah so him saying that for all these years we found out he actually has every

01:07:49.820 single one which is very rare for someone to have every single fat gene and so that's the problem

01:07:54.840 bro that's what i got yeah is it i got the same yeah you have the unfunny gene so the uh but you guys

01:08:02.060 can battle over who has the least trophies i'm just saying i got two of them me and dad will

01:08:05.100 keep them to ourselves i got two of them right there i don't see emily's out there no those are

01:08:08.960 those are trophies how many episodes you've been on motherfucker those are trophies you used to have

01:08:13.000 you're on probation they're getting they're getting recycled to me now i don't know about that either

01:08:18.020 you want to have dinner tonight what you got going on for dinner

01:08:22.900 hey i'm making lasagna motherfucker i can go i can go to a restaurant eat whatever i want now

01:08:30.800 yeah that's true okay so this page it's 13 pages long of the fat genes okay and all your your things

01:08:39.120 so i was texting him and i said what are like tell me what these fat genes are and he said the two

01:08:44.700 the main ones that just extracted from this uh lab report now i always thought this was bullshit i

01:08:50.180 didn't realize fat gene was a real thing i thought it was bullshit show the fat gene show the restaurant

01:08:55.420 again so that's the infamous under armor polo as well yeah too so it's just but see that's the thing

01:09:01.620 bro you look like i wouldn't want to fuck with that guy like he just looks no i was just beefy i yeah

01:09:06.440 but i was fucking fat yeah you know that's what i'm saying i was strong but i was fat i was obese

01:09:11.120 like my shit dude i was wearing a 44 pants there bro it's crazy you know i'm saying that's 10 inches

01:09:16.520 of fucking pants bigger than what i wear now it's crazy so the two main fat genes are fto and mc4r

01:09:23.360 so the polygenic means more than one gene is affecting the phenotype and that higher you know

01:09:29.380 higher the risk score and the more likely the person is to have that condition so with a risk

01:09:34.020 score of like 79 the person is way more likely to be obese and epigenics is how your lifestyle

01:09:39.940 interacts with your genes and turns them on or off so changing to a higher protein diet with more

01:09:45.420 physical activity was enough for you to turn these genes off this is like a text directly from

01:09:50.260 your doctor saying hey guess what if you fucking work out and you eat good and have a high protein

01:09:54.440 diet you can defeat your genetics yes and what is well you know what he also verified that too

01:09:59.220 because i said oh that's awesome thank you so much you know blah blah and then he texts this

01:10:04.600 it says no worries 75 hard versus genes guess who wins because he knows the program and how well it

01:10:13.440 works and so with us like joking about you having the fat gene i remember you coming home and telling

01:10:19.460 me that because he's awesome he came here to give you your all your results and everything and you're

01:10:23.560 like you're not gonna fucking believe this and i was like what you're like i don't have a fat gene

01:10:27.900 i fucking have all of them it's like no way and it just goes to show you like how well the program

01:10:33.880 works and just just getting your fucking shit on track you know i mean taking responsibility for

01:10:37.400 your own life because so many people like you said it's like they don't have time or they don't

01:10:40.320 have the discipline those genes i mean in all fairness let's be real it's not the program didn't

01:10:45.260 defeat those genes my physical health defeated those genes okay and the way i got the physical

01:10:50.720 health was by using the program to fix my brain yeah okay so that that the that the actions that i

01:10:57.020 was taking have been consistent enough over the course of time to actually switch those genes

01:11:02.880 into the off position right so like just doing the program one time is not going to yeah fix your

01:11:08.800 genetic makeup but if you fix your brain which allows you to fix your lifestyle that allows you

01:11:15.060 to fix your health then you end up with you know some of these kind of changes that we're talking about

01:11:19.920 that are that are real yeah and i think and if you really think about that in the scope of this

01:11:24.920 suddenly have hard being around for you know five years now and you having these results from doing

01:11:31.180 the program at the time that the you know so it was you know four years you had done the program

01:11:36.100 and live that lifestyle consistently by fixing your mindset to get your body right and everything else

01:11:41.040 that you know came along with that is that if you really think about i mean four years that's not a

01:11:46.800 lot of investment at all to literally fix yourself in that regard you know to continue that yeah but see

01:11:52.660 here's the thing that you got to remember when most people diet dude when you're like when you're

01:11:58.720 like overweight or like obese or fat or however you want to say it um all you want like you would

01:12:06.180 like you would give every fucking thing that you own to be physically where you wanted to be at that

01:12:12.740 time like there's not a person right now who's like super overweight who if i said bro i'll give me

01:12:19.280 everything you fucking have give me all your money give me your house give me a fucking give me your

01:12:23.280 cat and your dog and i'll snap my fingers and fucking right now you will go to your ideal physical

01:12:29.240 self all your clothes will fit all your clothes will look good you will look amazing every single person

01:12:35.140 will take that deal if you could fucking snap your fingers and make it happen that's how bad of a desire

01:12:40.620 that these people want to change and where they fail to realize the change actually happens is in your

01:12:49.320 mind first you have to condition your mind to be able to adhere so that you can then change your health

01:12:57.360 and these things do not compute to people because of the way the weight loss industry and

01:13:04.420 uh the pharma industry and everybody markets weight loss like let's look at the marketing of most weight

01:13:13.180 loss for the course of history most of it is take this pill and you'll lose weight take this drug and

01:13:20.780 you'll lose weight take this and you'll get there nobody's out there except me and maybe you know i think

01:13:26.120 the fitness culture has definitely shifted to this now but it started with first form saying hey we do the

01:13:31.080 work okay that started in 2014 that was a major initiative of our brand was to change the

01:13:36.880 mentality around the marketing of weight loss and the reason that we wanted to change the marketing

01:13:42.580 around the mentality of weight loss is because it's a fucking lie and it was a lie for years and years

01:13:47.720 and years and years and years the idea of taking a pill or taking a product or getting a shot and you

01:13:54.360 just becoming this version of yourself is bullshit all right and it's no different than someone who wins

01:14:00.140 the powerball lottery and is broken two years because you don't have the financial skill set

01:14:05.140 to maintain responsibly that amount of wealth and so that wealth leaves you and so even if you were

01:14:11.940 able to take a pill even if you were able to take ozembic all right and get loose 15 of your body weight

01:14:18.820 the minute you stop the habits that you have are going to take you right back where you where you

01:14:24.060 were it's going to make you unhappy so when we look at like four years you say okay that's not a lot of

01:14:30.320 investment for four years well what if what if in 75 days you could do enough work to get most of the way

01:14:40.260 there physically and create the awareness mentally of what actually the problem is now you're in a much

01:14:47.680 better position now not only have you gotten in pretty good physical shape because most people can make

01:14:52.700 tremendous improvements in 75 days uh maybe it takes you a hundred maybe it takes you two cycles

01:14:57.960 but very few people are outside the realm of 150 day transformation unless you're 600 pounds okay so

01:15:05.160 we're talking about a very short amount of investment to create most of the physical results that you're

01:15:12.260 trying to achieve that you would sell your fucking dog to achieve all right if someone could snap your

01:15:17.440 fingers you can do that in 75 days and now you're in a position where not only are you most of the way

01:15:23.980 there physically but you actually understand the game mentally and you may not be fixed mentally and

01:15:30.100 because no one's fixed mentally but you understand these are perishable skills i have to work on them

01:15:36.040 i have to go hit my mental golf balls every day if i want to golf well right so i have to exercise

01:15:41.840 discipline i have to exercise grit i have to push through these hard times because by pushing

01:15:47.380 through these hard times it equips me to push through hard times okay and i had a guitar teacher

01:15:53.480 one time tell me he says andy you're the least patient uh person i've ever met and i said well

01:16:00.500 what do you want me to do he goes well i want you to practice patience i said how do you practice patience

01:16:05.660 he says by doing things that require patience all right and discipline's no different grit's no different

01:16:10.840 perseverance is no different okay you have to put the time into these hard things so that you

01:16:17.660 understand that you have the ability to do hard things and then the next time the hard things show

01:16:22.580 up you have the confidence which builds your confidence builds your self-esteem to actually

01:16:27.720 push through the hard times to continue on the path of what you told yourself you were going to do

01:16:34.060 and when you can do what you tell yourself you're going to do your confidence goes up your self-esteem

01:16:40.100 goes up your self-worth goes up and you understand that you are actually in control of your life when

01:16:46.600 before you thought that you weren't you were looking at everybody else who is successful you're looking

01:16:51.600 at everybody else who's fit you're looking at everybody else and you're telling yourself a story

01:16:56.040 you're saying that guy's fit because he has better genetics that person's successful because they got

01:17:02.900 lucky not because they work from the time they wake up till the time they go to bed right like we tell

01:17:09.600 ourselves all these stories and once you remove those stories because you are aware now you're

01:17:14.840 starting to aware that holy shit this is actually it actually becomes a whole new game now your life

01:17:20.980 opens up to you you become aware that whatever plan you set forth in front of you you can achieve

01:17:29.080 because you have the ability to adhere and you have you know what to do when the hard times come

01:17:35.060 and here's the thing about life guess what it's yin and yang and if yin represents the good times and

01:17:42.940 yang represents the bad times how much percentage does that represent of the bad times the hard times

01:17:49.340 50 fucking percent and if you fucking flake out on 50 percent of your life because it's fucking hard

01:17:56.080 you're going to lose that's reality you're going to live a life in a body you hate you're going to live a

01:18:01.420 life with the income you hate you're going to live a life with relationships that you hate you're going

01:18:05.640 to live a life that you fucking hate because you lack the skill set which as we talked about are

01:18:13.240 perishable to actually adhere to the plan in front of you so you have two choices your choice is either

01:18:19.020 you can become all powerful and fucking have the ability to adhere no matter what the plan is or

01:18:26.280 you can float through life like a trash bag in the wind and you can take the good times when they

01:18:34.320 come and you could take the bad times when you come personally i want to be in control of most of

01:18:40.000 the shit that i have going on i think that's where the jam is if you're one of these granola people and

01:18:45.900 you want to float through life and live in a fucking van and think this is all great post on social media

01:18:50.540 all the time and have zero discipline and all this shit and then pretend like you're cool with it

01:18:55.380 and then in 10 years when your life sucks that's cool too i don't give a shit because it ain't me

01:19:00.400 all right but i'm just telling you right now if you're struggling right now with you getting your

01:19:04.540 life on track and you're struggling with becoming that version of yourself that you know exists inside

01:19:10.560 your mind and your heart and you're not understanding that things that other people have are actually

01:19:15.740 skill sets that you just haven't developed understand that first and then go develop them because once

01:19:20.920 you develop them once you go through this process of self-development and awareness

01:19:24.820 now you're in a position to adhere to whatever you put in front of you and if you could follow

01:19:29.000 any plan that you put in front of you what are the limits on your life there are none

01:19:34.960 so what i want to touch on and go back to is you said you said awareness and i had that i wanted to

01:19:41.480 touch on that so the self-awareness and you know you're removing these stories from your life i think

01:19:46.620 one massive component that is overlooked as far as you know propelling your life and excelling and

01:19:52.740 enriching yourself and all aspects of it it's not just you're getting your mentality but i feel like

01:19:58.100 your self-awareness is so heightened that now you realize all the bullshit stories people are telling

01:20:03.460 themselves and you also are starting to like extract people from your life that you're like i don't want

01:20:10.260 that anymore because now i am at a heightened awareness i've got my you know i'm working on getting

01:20:15.120 my shit together i'm gonna continue to work on getting my shit together they're not and it's it's a

01:20:19.220 turnoff for you to be like almost associated or friends with them anymore because you're like

01:20:22.580 what was i doing i was living in a fog you know i hear that a lot of people and i know dude as well

01:20:27.580 two things that are going to happen over the course of this development that you should probably be

01:20:32.420 prepared for number one you're going to realize that you're a fucking liar you lie to yourself all

01:20:37.800 the time especially about the amount of time that you have you're going to say oh i don't have time

01:20:42.080 to do this and then you're going to start doing this and you're going to be like

01:20:44.360 dude i was totally lying like i have all this time and now i actually have more time because

01:20:49.320 i'm organized i'm executing okay so that's the first thing you're going to realize that you're

01:20:53.340 full of shit and that's a good thing that's not a bad thing i don't say that in a bad way you

01:20:57.140 everybody here needs to realize that you're full of shit okay because once you realize you're full

01:21:01.520 of shit you can work on not being full of shit all right so but the second thing that's going to

01:21:05.780 happen is that your ability to tolerate excuses and your ability to tolerate mediocrity and your

01:21:12.100 ability to be around people who are just like the normal type person where it's like

01:21:17.980 fuck it come on man what difference does it make just have one beer and hang out with bro i cannot

01:21:23.260 have those people around me i fucking cannot stay because i don't hear anything other than you're

01:21:29.080 just the weakest fucking bitch that i've ever met in my entire life that's all i hear coming out of

01:21:33.480 your mouth yep like i don't hear oh these guys love me and they want to have a good time i hear my

01:21:38.840 friend who i thought was fucking one way is actually a fucking pussy that's what i hear and i can't be

01:21:44.740 around it what i tell you last night what my biggest fucking source of unhappiness in my life is

01:21:50.180 it's people that are complacent not driven i cannot surround myself i cannot be around anyone whether it

01:21:56.820 be on this team whether it be on my point of contacts on on the board of first form whatever i'm

01:22:03.300 doing whatever i'm involved in if i am around people who are complacent if i am around people

01:22:08.440 who are not driven at a high level it makes me angry and miserable because that's how i run i run

01:22:15.340 at a high level i love whether you think it's right or wrong that's me okay i don't give a shit what you

01:22:20.640 want i don't give a shit what you think i am unhappy being around anything less than that has to be

01:22:26.960 that otherwise i can't be around you yeah i just can't do it and you know people say well that sounds

01:22:32.760 pretty fucked up well i'm sure it does because you think that it's okay to drink beer fucking

01:22:37.340 10 o'clock till fucking eight o'clock at night every saturday and sunday and fuck off your life

01:22:42.260 away i'm sure it sounds fucked up to you but here's the thing though it's like the those people want to

01:22:47.100 do that with you and they say oh dude just relax blah blah it's like but then they compliment you on

01:22:50.920 the shit that you have achieved so it's like which way is it gonna you know what i mean like which

01:22:54.800 way is it gonna be and it's no bro i can't even talk to people it's no but it's no coincidence

01:22:58.480 where um you know life was back in 2009 to where it is now and how your mental development and you

01:23:10.360 know developing that mental toughness has been able to get you you know to the point where you

01:23:14.140 are today and a lot of people just be quick to discount that again like the lucky or oh you know

01:23:18.200 he's had this which you've never had any fucking funding you had to build everything yourself

01:23:21.920 so i think with when people like that your friends are like always dogging on you or trying to

01:23:27.200 like hey man just come out with us you never go out but the thing is it's that's i think what

01:23:30.860 sunny of heart has done for me too it's raising that awareness of realizing like you know and i i

01:23:34.580 do not want to say like this is gonna sound bad it's like i i kind of feel better like hey you know

01:23:40.120 what i'm doing shit that you're not you know what i mean like i'm doing the stuff that you're you're

01:23:43.480 gonna go out and drink and post on your story i'll say that i take pride in that shit that's just no

01:23:47.640 different than when fucking i saw uh one of somebody that you all know i'm not gonna say his name

01:23:52.700 because i'm not gonna embarrass people but you know some dude fucking posted on my

01:23:56.840 uh i i do my cold plunge at 35 degrees okay oh yeah there's no physical benefit to 35 degrees

01:24:04.140 all right um you're gonna get the same physical benefit at 50 degrees that you get at 35 degrees

01:24:09.620 all right so i unplug the heating element on my cold plunge and then i plug the chiller directly

01:24:16.120 into its own outlet and i can get the fucking thing to go to 35 all right and it's highly not

01:24:20.780 recommended by the factory because it'll burn your chiller out but guess what i'm rich and i can buy

01:24:25.320 another chiller if it burns out all right that's reality no because he was literally like how do i

01:24:29.220 get this thing colder so i don't give a fuck so when it burns out i'll fucking buy another one in

01:24:33.820 fact i'm pretty sure they'll give me one because i've sold more cold plunges for him than any of

01:24:37.180 their influence that's true okay so the reality is i do it at 35 and i posted it one day and i get

01:24:45.220 this message from somebody that you all know who's like you know the physical benefits are only blah

01:24:49.580 blah blah blah blah blah blah blah and you know what i fucking thought in my head that's why i'm

01:24:54.020 me and you're you bitch yep yep that's why you're that's why you're watching my shit and i'm not

01:24:59.440 watching your shit that's why you're learning from me and i'm not learning from you because i do shit

01:25:04.460 and take pride in shit that other motherfuckers will not do or refuse to do or can't do and i love

01:25:09.820 it and it makes me feel great and if that makes you offended i don't give a shit because it makes me

01:25:14.860 feel awesome yeah i take pride in it everybody's like that it's just about putting yourself in

01:25:19.560 those situations to to develop that right like i'm proud of that we're gonna walk out in the

01:25:24.060 fucking snow in two feet of snow no one's doing that you know but bro when we're out there in two

01:25:27.980 feet of snow like that dude that's pretty fucking dj and i did a cardio session a year two years ago

01:25:32.820 we had 18 inches of snow and it was fucking i don't know how many minus it was minus degrees it was

01:25:40.240 i think it was minus 10 or 15 or something the wind was blowing it was cold it was cold as

01:25:44.580 fuck and it was 18 inches of snow and we had to do our norm we we got we got 45 minutes in

01:25:52.100 and we were halfway on our normal route which means we we were we were our same route that would take

01:25:58.200 us 45 minutes was now going to take us an hour and a half yeah and we realized that about 25 uh

01:26:04.020 percent in so we were like okay and we had a conversation remember and we said just turn around

01:26:09.520 we said we said should we just turn around here because we turn around here it'll be 45 minutes and

01:26:13.300 then we were both like no fuck it we're doing the whole route and so we did an hour and a half

01:26:17.500 in a fucking 18 inches of snow in minus degrees and you know what when i open my phone you know

01:26:23.440 what my friends are doing playing fucking golf yep hot chocolate you know what my friends are doing

01:26:28.000 they're on fucking vacation in fucking italy you know you know what you know what i thought this is

01:26:33.140 why i'm fucking winning bitch well and here's the thing though because even at events that you go to

01:26:36.880 they ask me like dude is he always like that they try to they try to like probe me for info about

01:26:41.640 him and i'm like no that's fucking how he is all the time there might be some people that do more

01:26:46.600 extreme shit like goggins running 245 miles and i'm not doing that kind of shit you know yeah i'm just

01:26:52.780 saying the consistency in which you operate is unmatched and i do always have i've always kind of

01:26:59.340 found that kind of comical when the get these guys would be like oh yeah so because they may not

01:27:03.260 know me because we don't like post ourselves and they're no they're trying to see what what he's

01:27:06.680 like dude so what's he really really everybody says that the most fuck what's what's he really

01:27:11.420 like so fucking annoying and people in my dms are asking me it's like so what's it like to live with

01:27:16.560 handy like is he really like that i'm like yes he operates at that level all the fucking time and

01:27:22.620 it's just they're they're like i can't even believe that you know or they think like here's what i

01:27:27.000 don't understand i have to i don't have a choice you're doing it's it's i don't have a choice you

01:27:32.760 can't do what i'm doing and not be that way that's what they don't get yeah like it's a it's not me

01:27:38.920 trying to like be a hard ass maybe there's other people out here who can run at that level

01:27:44.520 and fuck off there is there's lots of people that have bigger companies than me that are higher

01:27:50.680 skilled than me that are smarter than me that have done way more than me and they don't work as

01:27:55.560 hard as i do okay those people i'm not one of those people i'm saying for me i'm a regular

01:28:02.380 person that comes from regular life i have to do that shit that's why i do it i don't have a choice

01:28:07.500 i have to do it well plus i think one differentiating factor is people may not realize you're not you

01:28:13.480 know you don't own this company and own it from your house meaning you're active here every fucking

01:28:19.800 day you're in the office seven days a week people don't realize that you know what i mean so that's i

01:28:23.380 think where that that all comes in because people that may you know be more quote successful or

01:28:29.560 whatever it is or you know further along or whatever it might be they are not actually active

01:28:34.780 in their companies anymore no and then not only that they try to like they try to like it's funny

01:28:38.900 because they try to justify their shit to me they're like you know i'm just in a different season

01:28:43.740 of life you know no i'm being for real it's called being on the couch no listen this is what

01:28:48.720 people say the people above me that that or at my level that don't want to work that hard they say

01:28:55.140 well i'm just in a different season that's what they say the people below me what they say is well

01:29:00.860 i want more balance in my life i want a different life and so yeah that's right and that's okay but

01:29:06.360 it's only okay when it's true it's not okay when you're just justifying your lack of ability to

01:29:13.600 actually pour into yourself develop yourself and become that version of yourself that you actually

01:29:19.080 truly want you want to know how you fuck up your whole life you take that version of yourself that

01:29:24.220 you imagine in your heart and your mind that ultimate version of yourself and then when it gets

01:29:28.800 hard you you throw that dream away and you say i never wanted that dream in the first place and you

01:29:34.280 settle with some bullshit life okay that you didn't really want and then pretend you wanted it that's

01:29:39.720 how you fuck up your whole life and that's what a lot of people do and i'm not judging anybody i'm not

01:29:44.940 saying you because listen this ain't for everybody this is why it said ain't for not for everybody in

01:29:50.320 my instagram bio since 2012 i'm not for everybody my goals aren't for everybody my dreams aren't for

01:29:56.260 everybody my personality is not for everybody my work ethic's not for everybody and i'm okay with

01:30:00.200 that i understand that but when you throw your own shit away because you don't want to fucking

01:30:06.780 become who it is you have to become to achieve that and you instead adopt this other life because

01:30:12.620 you see people on instagram or you see people live in this carefree life or this more fun life

01:30:18.460 and you throw away those dreams and then you put this new thing in there you're going to hate yourself

01:30:23.980 your entire life you're going to have fun for a few weeks maybe a few months maybe even a year but

01:30:29.880 after a while that version of yourself that you know you're supposed to become is going to creep back

01:30:35.160 into your mind and into your heart and you're going to have tons of regret about not willing

01:30:39.900 not being willing to put in what it took to actually create that yeah it's gonna it's gonna

01:30:43.940 fuck you up that's how people ruin their lives well one thing i like about with balance you know

01:30:47.800 because i've never believed in balance i never really saw that growing up because you know my dad

01:30:51.940 was an entrepreneur as well he's still the hardest working dude i know yeah he's what is he almost 70

01:30:56.520 yeah but one thing a quote that i like that tim grover says is like when you have balance

01:31:01.480 it the scales at zero nothing's happening when actually bolt the scales balanced it's zero so

01:31:07.240 these people that want balance in their life i always ask them well what have you done to make

01:31:12.680 you want to have that balance because so many people just think balance is almost like it's a

01:31:16.600 trend like oh i need to have 50 of my time with my family and 50 at work but how how have you gone

01:31:21.980 like run through the finish line to see that it's extreme to our weight i need to i need to kind of

01:31:26.300 pull back the reins a little bit to have that balance i think a lot of people have this idea of balance

01:31:29.720 instead of actually like testing what is my balance going to be you know what i think what i think people

01:31:34.200 need to stop judging people on how the fuck they live yeah that's what i think i think if you want

01:31:38.900 a certain outcome it's going to take a certain amount of effort and that's reality if you want

01:31:43.420 to travel the world in a van and go camping and that's all you want to do that's not going to take

01:31:47.780 a whole lot all right if you want to build a multi-billion dollar operation uh that changes people's

01:31:53.440 lives that's going to go down in history as one of the fucking great iconic american companies that's

01:31:58.480 going to take a little bit more than living in your fucking van okay and and then there's levels

01:32:03.180 in between the ultimate lesson here is this everybody's on their own path and i don't want

01:32:08.420 to judge someone for wanting to be free and easy i just want you to understand that there's a cost to

01:32:13.140 that and the cost that you're going to have that isn't going to come until later all right so really

01:32:18.400 the truth is most people need to shut the fuck up and focus on that version of themselves they want

01:32:23.380 to become and actually be willing to become it and that's what's ultimately going to create the

01:32:27.560 fulfillment that you're looking for it's not going to be your cold plunge it's not going to be your

01:32:31.740 morning routine it's not going to be your journaling it's not going to be your grounding it's not going

01:32:37.240 to be your granola lunch it's not going to be you living in the fucking van it's not going to be your

01:32:42.180 therapy it's going to be the work that you fucking do to become that version of yourself that is the

01:32:48.140 exact version that you know you're supposed to become and then being proud of it that's what's going

01:32:53.200 to create the fulfillment that you're searching for and all of this other shit is just band-aid

01:32:58.100 shit to try and fix something that you know is a real problem in yourself yeah so for those that

01:33:05.860 have not done 75 hard and we talked about day 76 you know you go right into phase one on day 76

01:33:12.380 usually yeah yeah so what do you wish because i this is a lot that i see in the facebook group

01:33:16.900 is that everybody's always like day 76 and they want to go right into phase one because they're

01:33:21.160 like i and a lot what if it is it's like some people like as they get to their program first

01:33:25.580 they might you know start to complete the program because they want a physical transformation or

01:33:29.860 something or a lot of them you know it's i think it's like 50 50 they want that mental that mental

01:33:34.180 uh you know element to it but what i see a lot on is when people get close to 76 they don't want it

01:33:40.540 to end because they love the way they feel so much and they love the structure because again what we

01:33:45.600 touched on earlier is they realize how much time they've actually been wasting and people i love

01:33:49.880 the group because i go in there like every day and read this stuff but they call themselves out

01:33:53.640 like i was full of shit like i can't believe that i got this you know where they're at like by being

01:33:59.140 so full of shit and then i love when they share like their wins like you had talked about um people

01:34:03.720 losing a lot of weight like after you know a majority of their weight like in the first 75 days

01:34:08.240 or maybe it takes two rounds there's a gentleman yesterday or that i shared in here with the team

01:34:13.240 that he had done two rounds of 75 hard in a year and he lost 130 pounds it's completely

01:34:18.200 fucking different person yeah like he's got a picture of the kids and you can just they see it

01:34:21.820 on their face and their eyes like how proud of themselves because they realized they've been

01:34:25.040 telling themselves bullshit lies for a really really long time yeah and they finally have their head

01:34:29.860 above water and realizing like i can do a whole lot fucking more that's the awareness i'm talking

01:34:34.160 absolutely yeah so um dj you got anything else to wrap this up before i share the next aspect of this

01:34:40.980 with andy and i no okay so let's tell people like because i'm starting 75 hard on monday and

01:34:48.740 you are going to be starting phase two i'm starting phase two i have phase two of my program

01:34:52.440 that starts monday emily starting 75 hard dj starting 75 hard and a whole bunch of our friends

01:34:57.680 are starting 75 hard as well um i'll probably usually every year i usually do 75 hard twice and

01:35:06.180 what i normally do is when i finish phase two i just keep going all the way through 75 which is

01:35:10.860 what my plan is this time so you're starting 75 dj starting 75 uh that group that we know is starting

01:35:17.040 75 yeah um and then i'm starting phase two which i'll probably complete a 75 yeah yeah and so we want

01:35:24.200 you guys to join us on this i think it's gonna be fun to see because we always like to see everybody

01:35:28.600 posting and sharing so we're gonna start um august 28th which is monday and then 75 days will take

01:35:35.220 us to november 11th and so what we want you guys to do is like document this because you and i love

01:35:40.060 seeing people post that and share it and we search the hashtags and stuff like that so share with us

01:35:44.820 on like instagram tiktok wherever on social media platform and make sure you use hashtag 75 hard

01:35:50.240 um tag us in this and so then after november 11th when 75 days is over you're gonna have one week

01:35:56.860 to send us email in your uh transformation and then also like a 2000 word little blurb about like

01:36:04.740 how you're feeling what it's done for you uh the most through the program 2000 max word yes 2000 max

01:36:10.480 word so we can um read everybody's stories and you're going to be emailing that to 75 hard at

01:36:15.940 andy frisella.com after you submit your submissions in to 75 hard at andy frisella.com we're going to

01:36:22.760 have a panel of judges not andy or i go through and choose one guy and one girl that best documented

01:36:28.620 their 75 hard journey and what they're going to win is a all expense paid trip to st louis

01:36:34.940 to first form headquarters you're going to be on the podcast with andy to talk about your experience

01:36:41.580 doing 75 hard you're going to get a 75 hard workout done with andy here um you're going to get andy's

01:36:48.300 75 hard first form uh supplement stack that he always uses and then you're going to go to dinner

01:36:53.060 with us so make sure you guys uh let us know if you're starting in the comments below again we're

01:36:58.620 starting august 28th we'll wrap up november 11th then you guys will have one week to submit everything

01:37:03.240 and then we'll bring you out here in december i should just be like look at that just doing good

01:37:07.740 get down in the comments you guys and uh give us some tell me how much more you like me than dj

01:37:14.200 who's the bigger dork is it dj or emily let me know in the comments

01:37:19.440 hey i don't care i don't care i left my own joke so i'm funny i'll give myself

01:37:26.240 i'm on amazon buying me some right now but yeah guys so join us on this with 75 hard uh let us see

01:37:33.340 what you got and make sure if you are uh doing this with us if you're live hard 75 hard whatever

01:37:39.040 make sure you join the facebook group too because i love to see you guys in there too to connect and

01:37:42.900 there's a ton of help and support in that uh network as well so and fuck off for you nodding

01:37:48.200 that at me about being a dork so where's i put that in the video i know what an asshole

01:37:55.200 he's fired oh no he's not don't want to point

01:37:59.540 this is hate speech

01:38:04.120 all right guys um that's the show no don't be a hoe don't be an emily and

01:38:12.380 share the show

01:38:13.280 you're gonna last some more of your own joke yeah there's no trophy

01:38:18.580 wow this got really bad no it's really great we're just getting going keep going

01:38:23.900 guys if you want to know what the program is go to episode 208 it's available for free it'll give

01:38:29.820 you all the breakdown of the whole live hard program explain 75 hard um there is a book available

01:38:35.780 it's not necessary for you to buy it's on my website andyfricella.com it'll give you the whole

01:38:40.160 rundown of 75 hard it does not have the live hard phases in it uh the live hard phases are available

01:38:45.360 exclusively on the episode 208 for free that's audio feed only by the way we weren't on youtube

01:38:49.560 back then so yeah go check that out get it for free and uh join us yeah and i also think if you

01:38:54.520 guys are doing this definitely i highly recommend getting the 70 have hard app it's on android and uh

01:39:00.440 itunes because you can actually set timers in that and like alerts so like if it's you go to bed

01:39:05.340 usually at 10 o'clock you could set an alert at 10 o'clock to make sure you took your picture you

01:39:08.660 finished your water or whatever because it eliminates you guys from forgetting anything

01:39:11.860 you take your pictures in there it'll do like a slideshow for you it's fucking great i've used it

01:39:15.680 every time i've done it since we came out with the app so definitely check out the app for sure it's

01:39:20.380 just 75 hard so all right why

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565. #75HARD Vs. Andy Frisella Ft. Emily Frisella

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